#They mean consequences to their actions

[etherealsign282]

They always cry to people about how you left them

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But they'll never explain why you left

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(Because it doesn't give them the sympathy they want)

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(Once people find out it was their fault, that you were driven away.)

#trauma #trauma dump #mentally tired #emotional #toxic people #toxic friends #toxic relationship #toxic #my relationships #My shitty ex #emotional abandonment #emotional neglect #Neglect #abandonment trauma #manipulative #Emo #Demon #They don't mean abandonment issues #They mean consequences to their actions

[stankworth]

Soft spot

#simon blackquill #sebastian debeste #miles edgeworth #ace attorney #my HC is that edgeworth got simon special dispensation to prosecute in Dual destinies so after his badge is in limbo #also i dont want to paint smokng w too broad a brush. but i think simon started assuming he wouldnt live to see long-term effects. #surviving means he actually has to live with the consequences of his actions and the person he's become #my art

[ilynpilled]

it frankly pisses me off that what is essentially “rapists and abusers should be depicted as monstrous caricatures because humanizing them is inappropriate” is considered a very moral and enlightened position to have on art by so many people. a rapist can feel pain, have moments of vulnerability, be amiable and charming, express remorse and compassion at times, be a victim themselves, and so on in real life. they are even capable of doing good things. they can have different sides to them and have individuals in their lives that they are kind to or have a decent relationship with. they will be a human being, and that fact encompasses a lot. conflating that with the claim that they deserve forgiveness or absolution is an issue. nurturing a mindset that believes they need to be one note and uncomplicated to be a correct and tasteful depiction of a rapist inadvertently falls in line with the logic of “how could they have possibly raped you? they are so normal and kind to me. they did all these good things here and there.” ok that doesn’t change that they are a rapist.

#and its always said by fiction affects reality warriors ok this affects victims bc they will have doubts about their abuse and #about their own abuser because they are not the boogeyman #there was this pretty heartbreaking post by an abuse survivor who put this into words #its one of those things where it feels like the intention is good but it does more harm to victims than the perpetrators really #im not saying its impossible to have a tasteless depiction of a rapist but u guys just project that idea onto shit where it doesnt apply #if something explores the reality and consequences of their actions and the impact on the victims without downplaying it or ignoring it #then this critique just holds no water to me #idgaf if they r humanized ive seen their actions and just because they have a solitary other dimension doesnt mean i feel pressured #to forgive or absolve them lmao? #(as in the piece of art in question is not advocating for that) #cw rape

[galgali]

stories where the main character is a hopeful, optimistic pacifist in a bleak world usually takes one of two routes: one, everything works out for them. the world shifts to their kindness and they’re allowed easy routes on account of their morality. two, they’re torn apart by the story for being naive. their hope is something to mock and beat out of them and they can only grow once they abandon it.

then there is trigun.

trigun says that hope will hurt you. you will let people into your life that you shouldn’t have and they will leave you with scars. your obsession with trying to minimize the necessary conflict right in front of you will cause more damage than if you had just fought that battle. you can’t run from your past and all the times you’ve tried to be kind and failed. you can’t avoid hurting other people and you will have to live with that for the rest of your life.

but—

trigun says that there is so much kindness in all of us, and we are more likely to act on love than hate. no matter how many dark nights you’ve cried through, there are brighter tomorrows worth living for. if you want to be good, you can be good. love is what connects us and connection is how we save ourselves. we have to believe in each other. you are made of love. love is all we have.

#trigun means so much to me man. #it's about the very real consequences of pacifism in a way that i've seen other series ever tackle before #despite the fact that the audience can sympathize with his morality things...don't usually work out for vash. #by not taking action things often become worse and his guilt compounds further #but. but! #it is very telling that the villain of the series is the one who's made up his mind that an entire group of beings are inherently cruel #while it is the hero of the series who has seen that species' cruelty but fights for its kindness that he has seen too #vash's love is what makes him who he is. it's what makes him good #it's all that keeps him alive #and trigun invites you to share that with him #trigun #vash the stampede #millions knives #wolfwood #man.

[starwikia]

suicide cw

look i have been in this area before mentally. it sucks and i wouldn’t wish this on anyone. but, and this is going to sound callous, but i don’t feel any sympathy for james somerton. even if i hope he’s like. not dead. But thats all the amount of goodwill im willing to give him. The more i think about this really, the more angry i am. 

ngl this entire situation is another example of how white people weaponize their mental illness to avoid consequences. Im seeing it in real time.

this man has a continuous habit of using self-harm as a get-out-of-jail-for-free card. in both of his apologies, he has worded his supposed attempts in ways that were clearly meant to guilt people who displayed his plagiarism and overall horrendous history of racism and misogyny. i say supposed because, while i’m not saying those are lies and this would he such a fucked up thing to lie about that i don’t want to think he has, unfortunately, it’s been proven again and again that his word can’t be trusted, as he’s known to lie to try get out of consequences. Hes a proven liar. him lying about this is actually the best case scenario, because no one should go through this entire situation, wouldnt wish this on anyone, but you can only do this so often before people stop sympathizing with you. is this callous? Yeah, but like. I’m actually fucking angry he cant straight up take no as an answer. that this is how he reacts realizing he cant be one of the Cool Kidz™️ on youtube anymore. he acts like he DESERVES a career, like its not a privilege hes lost due to his own actions.

He lied about apologizing and forgiving people, he lied about giving the money to hbomberguy to give to ppl he ripped off (yknow, instead of doing it himself), he lied about the jessie gender situation and rewrote the narrative to make it so he isnt the bad guy, and hes the victim all along actually!

you can’t tell me that supposed last message of his isn’t meant to be a 13 reasons why esq attempt to deflect the blame “look i’m going to kill myself and it’s all YOUR PEOPLES FAULT for not letting me achieve my DREAM of being filmmaker IN PEACE!!! I just wanted Nick’s (the guy who I have thrown under the bus again and again) portfolio up!! Im just being a good friend dont you all FEEL BAD” he refuses to take ANY ACCOUNTABILITY of any of his actions and he IS STILL trying to shove the blame over to other people again.

it’s also pretty ironic people are like “uhhh well hbomber’s fans harassed him!!!” like hbomber outright told people NOT to HARASS JAMES!!! ALSO acting as if james doesn’t have a very real documented history of STRAIGHT UP sending his fans to harass and threaten smaller creators, more notably women, trans, and bipoc creators. especially after he’s stolen typically very personal anecdotes so he could profit from them. so why can he do it but the second people are like “hey this guys an actual piece of shit.” and he can’t handle it suddenly people are trying to white knight his shit? like no he doesn’t get that. he doesn’t get that at all just because he couldn’t handle the consequences of his actions. 

what? were supposed to stay quiet about a man profiting off of other minorities because he wanted to be the spokesman for all gay people? people tried to solve this on a smaller, more private scales for YEARS and he kept doing it. it was clear that the giant public video was the ONLY way to get people to notice. HE WOULDVE GOTTEN AWAY WITH STEALING 87 FUCKING THOUSANDS WORTH OF DOLLARS. HE CANT HANDLE THE FACT HE CANT GET AWAY WITH IT. 

am i supposed to feel bad for the guy who basically threatened a trans woman with the police? i don’t care what anyone says, it’s so fucking obvious that he threatened jessie by implying he was getting the police involved in their conflict. what am i supposed to act like that didn’t happen? are we supposed to pretend like he didn’t glorify nazi’s and outright said that gay people made up a good chunk of the nazis? That he didnt say america joined ww2 bc they were jealous of the NAZIS. WHAT WOULD POSSESS YOU TO FUCKING SAY THAT. but then? He gives women (not even women most of the time, he misgenders nonbinary ppl constantly) shit for writing mlm. are we supposed to act like he doesn’t straight-up sees himself superior and better than people of color and steals their works to put himself on a pedestal? Are we supposed to act like he didnt spit on our elders by saying “only the boring gays survived aids” like man! Fuck you! He BLANTANTLY MAKES UP HISTORY TO PUT HIMSELF ON A PEDESTAL!! HE ACTIVELY TRIED TO REWRITE LGBT HISTORY TO SUIT HIS FUCKED UP NARRATIVES!

yes this sucks ! no one deserves this but no one should be making him a martyr. Thats what he fucking WANTS! He wants to be immortalized as a victim!! (again, supposedly, it was reported hes alive but its not confirmed).

The shit he got isnt near the amount of fucking callous behavior hes done again and again. Again, to drill this point, EVEN IF HE DIDNT CALL THE POLICE HE THREATENED A TRANS WOMAN INTO THINKING HE DID!!! The fact he tried to use a head injury to justify years of the outright ghoulish shit fucking astounds me. Why the fuck did anyone in his life thought it was a good idea to let him TRY to come back. in the end, he had options. he didn’t need to try to make a comeback. HE DIDNT NEED TO FUCKING LIE OR IGNORE THE SHIT HE WAS CALLED OUT ON the reality is, he wanted to come back thinking he could shove it under the rug, was told that no dude, you’re not allowed to be a youtuber anymore. you’re done. you need to move on and went full nuclear. it’s not on anyone’s hands but his own. HES BEEN DOING THIS TO HIMSELF!! But nah man we cant call his shit out bc hell may or may not kill himself. Fuck the other minorities who have the same issues but worse and sometimes BECAUSE of him. This is going to SUCKKKK so bad when other ppl, specifically white gays, are going to weaponize this shit to get away with their stuff.

#warning: do not read this post if you want me to be nice to james somerton. i am extremely mean in this post. #before anyone accuses me of shit i legit never contacted him myself or anyone involved. i am someone who witnessed this behavior repeatedly #again. i hope hes alive and well. the fact is him lying about this WOULD BE THE IDEAL SITUATION. BC NO ONE SHOULD GO THROUGH THAT. but. #he HAS to forever be the victim in his eyes. attempting doesnt automatically mean youre free of sin. #its just terrible to see that regardless whether or not he did do it #its very clear his attempts to run away from his consequences are working on some people #we need to acknowledge that if your shitty ex friend can weaponize a threat to kill themselves #so can this internet person after being called out for horrendous shit #like what was the alterative? what were people supposed to fucking do? be nice about it? #yeah as if poc and trans women arent historically given shit for being 'too mean' about wanting justice. #this isnt just the plagiarism this is the fact a white dude has been parading himself as THE speaker for the gays(tm) but has been using hi #gayness to shield himself from his misogyny racism transphobia and antisemitism #its very clear regardless this means that ppl r going to side with him and then give him benefit of doubt #if you cant handle the heat stay out of the fucking kitchen dude. this is the consequences of your fucking actions. #hes a disgusting person who cant handle being told no so hes going to drag everyone down with him #like. idk this entire situation is frustrating to me. #its also frustrating ppl trying to be moral abt it like 'see! i knew this was bad all along!' no you didnt. shut it. #for the record im like mainly talking abt twit watching those spineless uwu cutesy ppl basically saying hes done noting wrong #oh and also alt righters who are clearly weaponinizing this where u know they wouldnt give a shit if a right ytber did this. #james somerton #idk might delete this later its just. ugh...

[beanghostprincess]

I think Doffy loves Christmas. Fucking loves it. Adores it. It's a holiday focused on families. And he'd try to make everything perfect for the Donquixote family but somehow, after Cora's death, everything always goes wrong and it's so overwhelming and stressful that he cancels the whole thing. And in the end, he just spends Christmas drinking and crying, missing his brother and hating himself.

#merry christmas or something #i mean it's not christmas anymore but holiday season #at least in spain it's still christmas until like the 7th #anyway look at doffy being all pathetic and realizing his actions have consequences #aka ending up all alone and depressed #i love him your honor he's the worst person in the whole world #but have you considered that he's really sad and the only reason why he's obsessed with found families is bc of trauma #but he's also an awful person and would kick kids' presents for fun on the street #he'd also tell them santa isn't real #one piece #donquixote doflamingo #donquixote rosinante #donquixote family #donquixote brothers

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i f. i fucking forgot a pencil so i cant scribble out this Thought i had while on a lil road trip today - basically i was thinkin about Wally, as ya do, and i asked myself why does Wally eat with his eyes? its such a Fascinating yet somewhat Out Of Place choice for him. how did Clown come up with that? its so unique. it stands tf out.

and then i remembered Frank & Poppy's convo for their 'bug' audio, and how he says "you eat with your eyes first" and like... thats a real phrase. ive heard it in my life. & it set off lil alarm bells in my head the first time i listened to the clip, i just hadnt connected the dots yet. so its feasible that thats why Wally eats the way that he does - and an in-universe explanation could be that Wally heard the phrase before he could learn how to eat 'properly', and took it literally

essentially:

Frank: you eat with your eyes!

Wally: *rdj meme format* you eat with your eyes

#also dont have wifi so i cant type out my musings on my laptop #and typing on my phone kinda Hurts #so! this is a note to myself to Talk About This and Scribble a silly thing Later! #in a couple of days! #no wonder he only eats when no one is looking.... #they all eat Normally but hes over there like 'oh shit oh fuck i dont know how to do that. uhhhhhhh' #i imagine he heard it and immediately internalized it forever #core memory. this action will have consequences. new skill unlocked. this cannot be undone. #wally just casually fucking with the laws of reality.... good for him! good for him #i mean why not! #its not like he knows what reality is! or the laws of physics! he doesnt have to obey what he doesnt understand! #someone says You Can Do This and hey. look at that. he can! #and wow this beef jerky im eating tastes like chemicals. #absolutely unprompted #homebogging #welcome home speculation #wh speculation #I HAVE BEEN SITTING ON THIS. FOR HOURS. DYING TO WRITE IT OUT AND POST #BUT I WAS IN THE CAR AND I GET CARSICK SO EASILY #so i couldnt.... #but now! now i am in this motel! relaxing! not moving! AND I CAN POST!!!! #anyhow i really need to get on posting more Thoughts bc i have so many #on wally's behavior on other characters & dialogue choices and just!!! Agh!!!! #speculation galore!!!! #ill have to wait though! sadly! #damn. i cant draw i cant Post. whats a bitch supposed to do #good thing i brought my crochet project smh #and a book <3

[treasure-goblin]

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#i could just delete everything #make it all go away #tell like two people my alt we can keep in touch but thats about it #although theres 4 people I'd miss #i wanna be done #i want to take control of this situation and the only way to do that is extremes #“you cant be in control all the time” i fucking know that no one knows that better than me my entire life has been someone elses #ever since this shitshow began #and now i have a way to take control right in front of me #but it means cutting off everyone and starting anew #and as tempting as that is #my actions hold consequences #not just for me #so im stuck #like i always am #actually... #only 10 people would really notice...

[mal3vol3nt]

something i never thought i’d see is the yr fandom deciding that august is now a good person. y’know, the same man who recorded and uploaded a non-consentual sex tape…. of two underaged boys…. as revenge…. on his 16 year old cousin….

#is he complex and interesting and extremely well written? yes 100% #but his trauma isn’t an excuse or justification??? #like i’m sorry but your trauma is not a good enough reason to be a sex offender #is it likely the reason? yes but that doesn’t mean you’re excused and your actions don’t deserve consequences #you can be sympathetic to his experiences without labeling him a good person #it’s called being nuanced #young royals #august horn #yr s3 spoilers #wilmon #prince wilhelm #simon eriksson

[gnometa233]

"Trans men and lesbians can date!!" "Trans men and straight men can date!!" "Lesbian includes attraction to men!!!" "Labels mean nothing just use what you want!!!" what if I threw a rock at you.

#lgbt discourse #queer discourse #queer #yes ive seen all of those things being said unironically #y'all wanna include men in lesbianism so bad #y'all wanna invalidate trans men so bad #just say you're a mysoginist and go #just say you don't see trans men as real men and go #and for people who think it doesn't invalidate their label? #why even bother? why do y'all refuse to identify as bisexual? #why do you continue to disrespect lesbians and trans men #we can be different communities and still respect and uplift each other #identify as you want but one day you'll learn that actions have consequences #and get called a transphobe #and i will LAUGH #lgbt+ #anti bi lesbians #also labels mean things and if you don't agree with it don't participate in society! #because everything and everyone has labels whether you like it or not

[wazzappp]

…help

#girl I am afraid of facing the consequences of my actions #I mean #not scared enough to stop #but STILL #uh. on the off chance you see this hi Mr smith. I think Robbie is the coolest ever <3

[simplywarriors]

reading warrior cats (especially male pov’s) is genuinely the hardest thing ever simply because all of them follow this loner plot line that put them in a mental position that no one understands them or everyone it out for them when the books then only present people being kind to them. like w/ brambleclaw his obsession w/ thinking everyone sees him as his dad is proved by nothing but his own thoughts. lionblaze’s power (before it’s revealed) is seen as an awesome and cool thing and lionblaze has always been complimented for his fighting skills but thinks of himself as an outcast when he never is. jayfeather is increasingly mean to anyone and everyone and yet chatacters always just roll their eyes playfully and i can name several characters who are all close with him. our newest example, flamepaw/nightheart, fits perfectly when he has constant turmoil over how everyone treats him when everyone around him treats him exceptionally well. the only male characters i can think of who actually fits the “everyone is out to get me which affects my personality and judgements” that actually make sense are onestar and shadowsight.

#warriors #warrior cats #there’s no originality w/ them at all #like… no reason to repeat brambleclaw’s very boring arc several times over just in slightly different ways #also onestar and shadowsight actually fit this bc #onestar’s own clan mates tried to KO him so.. yeah him becoming mean makes sense #and shadowsight spends each book in TBC facing consequences for his actions and being treated poorly #lollll

[weirdlizard26]

Image ID:

Five close-up screenshots from TMNT: Mutant Mayhem teaser trailer showing the handles of Leonardo's katana.

The first screenshot shows the letters "RUL" engraved into the handle on the right.

The second screenshot shows the letters "CONSEQUE" engraved into the handle on the left.

The third and fourth screenshots show what appears to be the word "RULES" on the handle on the right.

The fifth screenshot shows both handles with the words "CONSEQUENCES" and "RULES" mostly fully visible on the handles, except for a few letters in the middle obscured by the blades.

End ID.

consequences and rules you say...

#wl26 #tmnt #mutant mayhem #turtleposting #mutant mayhem spoilers #tmnt 2023 #leonardo #tmnt leo #anyways my working theory is that leo engraved this onto his katana as a reminder for himself #to 1) follow the rules of splinter's teachings and 2) always think abt the consequences of his actions #bc weapons mean danger means responsibility #so whenever he has to fight he'll look down at the handles and make sure he remembers and fights thoughtfully #and maybe somewhere in the movie theres a joke about it like #(@ a villain) you have to follow the rules! *attacks with one katana* and think of the consequences! *attacks with another katana* #i mean its all just speculation akndnd i just thought it would be fun to think abt this

[grammarpedant]

sometimes you'll see a post about autistic-allistic social thinking mismatch and you'll be like, this would be such a scintillating observation of how human society works, if it weren't for the fact that I have to add an asterisk and a note that the poster's background is probably most letters of W.E.I.R.D. (White, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic) to the whole thing

as an American poc, I am always and forever shaking hands with my non-American acquaintances here on tunglr.hell and embodying that one gif of the Asian man going "your experiences are not universal"

#verso talks #vent post #the w.e.i.r.d. acronym is a shorthand for all sorts of other intersectional factors that affect a person's experience of allistic society #not just race and socioeconomic background but also. quite simply. what generation you grew up in #in general I think that both autistic and allistic people are stupid to think of social behavioral expectations in terms of rules #it's not rules it's principles and consequences. #every social behavior is a communication of Some Meaning (such as principles) to an allistic. arguably that's just how society works #and a behavior that will get you punished in one situation will get a pass or even praise if you gain certain kinds of power or privilege #figuring out which is which in what situation is a goddamn pain because if you aren't already allistic #then you need to build the framework in which these social principles exist and can become actionable consciously and from scratch #or else just memorize a list of a million rules and their caveats I guess. whatever works

[lunar-years]

Jamie and Keeley "subtly" hinting to roy that he should "change up his look" "try something new" "maybe...you could switch up your hair...?" (they are campaigning for him to bring back the curls/grow out his beard) (Roy knows exactly what they are doing) so Roy goes to the barber and gets his hair trimmed shorter and then shaves his face clean

#jamie and keeley are horrified by the consequences of their actions. roy is snickering in the corner. #lmao #what do mean am i going to make brett's new look about roy? of course i am #royjamiekeeley #ted lasso

[purgetrooperfox]

not to be dramatic but I think y'all forget sometimes that there are people behind the blogs you follow and the posts you interact with and the art and stories you flame.

there's a PERSON who can see your tags about "wow I hate this character so much why would anyone post/draw/write them".

there's a PERSON affected when their stats or whatever reflect that their fandom friends only care about them when they fulfill their "role". be it "you're The smut writer" or "you're The fox blog" or "you're The assigned gif maker" or literally whatever shtick they get saddled with.

or how about the PERSON who gets dumped by mutuals and followers because they aren't hitting some imaginary quota of transactional interaction. for whatever reason. the reason doesn't matter. that's a shit way to treat each other.

there is, get this, a PERSON running blogs of every size and sometimes those people won't align with your interests on all levels at all times. if you need to unfollow, fine. do that. cultivate your experience. but you can do it without sending anon hate or harassing them.

the anonymity of a tumblr account is a good thing but we can't use it to dehumanize each other. what the fuck.

#obligatory you don't owe your friendship or time to people but jesus #there's so much cruelty on this site #this post is NOT about everyone who blocks or unfollows blogs. it's about the trend of treating blog runners like businesses or machines #all i'm saying. all i mean. is that actions have consequences #leo.txt