#accept it and make peace with it okay?

[charmac]

just wanna say I agree wholeheartedly with your tags on that fandom post. I have been following sunny on here since 2015 and there is a constant cycle of sensitive, and frankly delusional people, who claim the show, make crazy headcanons and justifications to make it tolerable and acceptable to them before they eventually shun and condemn the show altogether. it was very bad in 2018 and made me withdraw from the fandom lmao. I remember being most annoyed with the endless woobifying of charlie and the absolute condemnation of dee above everyone else. like, they're all bad. that's the point of the show. I just don't understand how they could stomach it in the first place

You are a warrior, dude.

The reason it took me so long to join Sunnyblr in the first place was the fact that ~early 2020 I was rarely seeing anything here that was based in canon, mostly weird headcanons that made no sense to me, and Reddit genuinely seemed like a more based place to exist for this show.

I literally needed a friend to give me specific accounts to follow because the tag was (and, sorry, lowkey still is) a nightmare. (Though to be fair I’ve been in fandoms on Tumblr for over a decade and literally never liked scrolling tags.)

I got into Sunny and I fell in love with Sunny because of canon. Because it’s so fucking weird and fucked up but it’s FUNNY, and there’s genuinely nothing like it. The characters are horrible stupid terrible people but they’re actually deeply complex and rich to study, so much so that you feel extremely compelled in a multitude of ways to dedicate yourself to some part of them, or all parts of them. But.. if you strip them of those core identities, of what the characters stand for, that compulsion is gone, void, irrelevant.

Because it’s the extremely raw, almost purely acting on basic instinct, unfiltered humanity, worst parts of the self, inability to recognise or follow societal norms aspects of these characters that are relatable. It’s relatable in a way that *should* make you uncomfortable, feel unsettled, and maybe a little relieved that these parts of people can be acknowledged... That’s a unique and interesting feeling, something people engage with media like this to explore and expand upon, and it’s often something that genuinely helps or supports people who wrestle with a lot of the heavy concepts Sunny satirises (and sometimes just, shoves at you head on).

When people start to disregard all of this, for whatever reason they do, that’s when you end up with the Fandom using Sunny Characters as an “ability to project” or (much worse) a “near blank canvas to play with” (because, yeah, if you strip them of their literal reason for being created and continued existence, ofc you lose their whole identity!?)

The problem seems to be that either 1) they just don’t understand the show well enough to get that they’re disregarding this aspect of the plots and characters, and so they genuinely don’t recognise that the fandom for Sunny exists because of these terrible compulsions and insane trauma exploration and that’s why we enjoy discussing and playing with these characters or 2) they do understand this but they can’t engage with it without some kind of personal moral conundrum or extreme discomfort, so they have to sanitise or completely alter the characters to enjoy them.

The thing is, if you fall into category 2, you just don’t belong in the depths of it all, and it’s an unfortunate truth you have to face. If you cannot enjoy canon, if the actual show makes you extremely uncomfortable and you’re only here for a gay ship or to project your gender and sexuality onto one character, you need to go stan something else. I say that with the greatest intentions for you. As Anon here has stated, it’s an insane cycle in this fandom over and over, you’re just going to upset yourself and resent the show and the people here, because we like the canon and the fuckery because that’s what the show is for. That is the literal point of the show at the end of the day.

Now if you’re in category 1, I heavily encourage you to actually *talk to people about the show and the characters*, read analysis, watch the episodes with different frames of reference and in alternate states of mind. Do your own analysis or character work, try and just write out the plot of your favourite episode and put to words *why* you like it. Hell, try and write a fanfic or a spec script from the mind of one of the characters, even if you think you can’t write.

Honestly, honestly, honestly, if you genuinely like this show at face value but you’re only engaging with fanon because you feel like you ‘shouldn’t’ openly enjoy the canon because it’s seen as ‘bad,’ the best thing you can do is have a conversation with someone, or multiple people, who get the show.

That being said, I do wanna open this shell Discord I’ve made to people. For people who *enjoy* the canon, who want to discuss actual Sunny (and also have fun with it, of course!) you’re welcome to join.

A lot of you get it. I’ve made some amazing friends in this fandom and regularly have extremely stimulating and insanely throught provoking convos with the people I’ve met here. I love it, it drives my insane passion for this show and I am eternally grateful to have found people who love this show for what it is. I hope, if you’re struggling to figure out why you like this show or struggling to accept that you like media like Sunny, you reach out or join a conversation and learn to love it too. And if you don’t, if you genuinely hate the canon of this show and only like the version of Macdennis you saw in a dozen different Tiktok edits to Taylor Swift songs, I really hope you move on for your own sake.

#iasip #main tag fuck it #ask #and i’ll say in the tags here #macdennis would be ‘proship’ in literally any other fandom #accept it and make peace with it okay? #all of their canon moments are non con or dubcon at best #and that’s FUCKING FINE THATS WHY ITS APPEALING. #this is not the fluffy gay ship you want #and you’re just gonna get hurt when canon continues to canon #sorry for formatting i’m at the office so i had to notes app this #also im at the office so bare with me if you’re joining the discord rn lol #but i wanted to respond to this #and also i have nothing to do at work rn lol

[s0fter-sin]

storm saying “connection is a fragile treasure, one we sacrifice so much to maintain” as morph is trying to comfort wolverine only for wolverine to let them when they shift into sabretooth, starting a trend of wolverine only accepting morph’s care and affection when they look like someone else, sacrificing their autonomy in order to express their feelings are you fucking kidding me

#morph is in love with wolverine thats actually canon #and bc marvel only likes one flavour of wolverine hes too blinded by his love for jean that cant see it #like doing that once with morph turning into sabretooth is one thing #thats giving wolverine comfort in a way hes willing to accept #but turning into jean to work through his issues? #okay fine his issues are rooted in jean i guess that makes sense #THEN TURNING INTO JEAN TO TELL HIM THEY LOVE HIM??? #thats an actual queer love confession from a non binary person to the most masc guy in comics #theres no reading into it #this is explicitly canon #holy fuck #coming out of my cage and ive been doing just fine.txt #peace was never an option #wolverine #morph #x men 97 #x men morph #wolverine x morph #morphine

[phoenixcatch7]

Everyone keeps pairing Danny up with the bat kids and I'm not even a shipper, but.

Pair him up with Steph,

Cowards.

#i am being 100% serious #Everyone says they don't care about the gender just the vibes #Okay well hear the vibes!! Steph and Danny would be THE MOST sarcastic chaos gremlins EVER #You KNOW that #They would be Literally unstoppable. They would enable and ride or die support each other NO questions asked #The shenanigans would be off the charts!! #B narrowly avoids them as they speed cackling past and then again as Jason sprints after them howling murder #'what have you two even done?' #*thermos rattles* 'oh we stole his pit rage!! Steph said it'd be best if we did it early morning cause no ones actually awake then lol' #*sound of heavy footsteps crashing into the kitchen and immediately getting soundly scolded by Alfred* #'that'll be him! I asked Alfie to have his fave cookies ready to help calm him down but I think Damien got there first...' #'popcorn?' 'POPCORN' *Steph holds up a peace sign as Danny phases her invisible and through the floor. Making eye contact the whole time #The MEMES. The IRREVERENCE. The unrelenting sarcastic optimism. The only thing would be getting cass' approval #She would so thrash Danny in a fight and while sitting on him hum in acceptance and then he wakes up next day with a new telescope on him #danny phantom #danny fenton #dp x dc #dc x dp #batman #batfam #steph brown #dc spoiler #black bat #cassandra cain #bruce wayne #Again I'm not a shipper I just spy SHENANIGANS #dc comics #What would you even call dead Spoiler? Red herring? Ghost writer? Death of the author? ASDFGHJKL MAJOR CHARACTER DEATH

[peniscat]

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#it's actually rly fucked up how seeing one bad picture of myself can ruin my entire evening #i've spent so much time and energy to reach a level of understanding and acceptance of how i look and it has been working #and it's like. i know i am fat. and it's okay. it is just a fact. i've mostly made my peace with it. #then i see a pic taken of me from an unflattering angle and all the unhealthy thinking patterns i've tried to unlearn come back #i will forever be bitter about growing up basically hating myself and i am SO MAD that it is still affecting me!!!! #it's like. so what if i look big in the picture or if i have a double chin in it. that is literally just how i look and that's it #the level of neutrality has been hard to achieve and it annoys me how precarious it still is :( #not to even mention that maybe neutrality isn't the best goal anyways. but like. the concept of being hot seems so foreign to me #like. other people? sure. me? never #sometimes i simply hate the society for making me feel unworthy of everything because i'm fat. #and how people talk about fat people and how they treat fat people has given me trust issues for life #so i'm just sad it's like this. i want to love myself and all that but sometimes it is just so hard #idk thank u for witnessing my rant if u read this far here have a flower 🌸 #body image tw #personal

[handgiven]

Where does fear reside in your body?

somewhere else;; what is known is what is safe. your fear is never inside you, always somewhere else. your home is the best place in the world; all other places are scary. the people you already know are better than anyone else. so you go on, playing with broken toys, wearing dead people's clothes. you can be torn down to shreds, abused, tortured and miserable. but at least you know where it comes from, which gives you a sense of comfort and even control. the unknown hides dangers you don't understand, so it scares you. but alongside the dangers, you miss the wonder, adventures and opportunities that you could've otherwise had. my guess is that you've dealt with grief and loss.

tagged by: @spookyagentfmulder tagging: @talentforlying @void-foxy @jefuiitor && anyone else who sees this and feels inclined to take this uquiz (tag me! i'll love to see your results !!)

#not me having a 3am cry about emmanuel carving out a safe space each time he gets a new flat around the world #and it's just universally understood as this sacred place where anyone may come who needs help or even just wants to see him #but everyone who comes needs to respect others that may already be there. #enemies meet in that aura of peace and have tea together. o r at the very least exist in that space together in spite of their differences #and it's all done thru emmanuel's.. aura alone. there's no good omens embassy laws or anything. there's just emmanuel. #because once you meet him. once you get to know him. you want to be as good as the way he sees you. #that's how he makes people better. that overwhelming kindness that doesn't Change them but that seeks the best version of them #he's not afraid. not really. fear is not a physical thing to him. (anxiety is.) #hnnnng perhaps because emmanuel as a sentiment is the opposite of fear. he is acceptance. he is love. he is community. #of course the fear lives outside of emmanuel. where emmanuel is not. out of his reach. out of his control. #yet he tries to expand his sphere at all times. like with the little acts of kindness to change the world for the better. ahvjdmvskd #rant OVER. im just !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #'the people you already know are better than anyone else' is supposed to be an expression of being scared to meet the new ones #BUT HE DOES MAKE THE PEOPLE HE KNOWS BETTER. avdajskdvsakjdvnaskdvn #okay okay okay really over now omg #▻ 𝐺𝐸𝑁𝐸𝑅𝐴𝐿 、dashboard games ⁽ ᵖᵃˢˢ ᶦᵗ ᵒⁿ ⁾

[king0fcrows]

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#my spouse is going through a really rough patch #they’re spurning any attempt I make to comfort them #they’re not angry at my but they’re depressed and angry over life shit #but the sullen muttering and radiating aura of anger #is triggering really bad anxiety for me #it’s been days of this #they’re like a volcano #rarely upset but when upset they stay that way for long periods #I don’t even really want to be near them right now #I’ve got my own stressors (I’m starting a new job Monday and has to say goodbye to all my coworkers yesterday) #I just want a peaceful home for the next day or so #but when I try to comfort or reassure them they just INSIST I’m wrong #that everything is terrible and will never be okay #they’re clinging to their negativity and anger #I guess it feels better to be angry than accept that life sucks sometimes

[evilyurifan]

something is just like wrong with me and i deserve to be put down i think

#cant even fucking bike up a hill without panting and crying #and im stuck on campus and i have to bike back #i wish i was skinny i wish i wish i wish. if i was skinny it would be acceptable for me to not be able to bike #physical weakness would be okay #but im horrible and disgusting and i just keep making it worse #i cant enjoy anything and i dont even want to go home #because my sister keeps pushing me to exercise and i cant without feeling like this #every time she says ‘hey come biking come rock climbing can you at least come for a walk’ #its like. reminder! you need to do something to fix your fucking body! #gonna end up missing a weeks worth of my favourite class cause im stuck crying in the fucking bathroom #and i have so much fucking work to do and i dont do any of it #i just want to lay in a ditch and decompose #i cant even fucking cry in peace cause some bitch is in this bathroom brushing her teeth

[heartshapedbisexual]

🫶

#slowly accepting + figuring out that w all the disability stuff #i not only need but i Want some sort of help #like . i want to be on disability benefits instead of having a job because that would help #i want some sort of aid for my legs because i cant reliably walk nowadays and it would help #i want accommodation for the things that i cant do + i want to take up space + ask for the things that will make life easier + less painful #n not only do i need + want them but i deserve them also . i deserve to live my life in a way that will ease whatever pain can be eased #anyway . I’m coming to terms with all this stuff still but making peace with the idea that it’s not shameful to want help + to ask for it #it’s hard + scary but it will be okay + I’m practicing being brave

[biillys]

Don't think about Billy shaking Max awake when the house is filled with snores not muffled whines. Bruises hidden in the dark but wincing as he lifts his arm, Max rolling away until she stills in realization. They leave together, breath held as the window frame in a bedroom slides up. The Camaro starts - if Billy has the key. maybe they walk the few miles to the pool, Hawkins is small and it's dark and the demodogs aren't coming back. They're making themselves safe, just by leaving for the night.

The pool beckons, familiar shadows in the poolhouse and stacked chairs higher than Max is tall. Billy pulls one down for her, a screech of metal legs over poured concrete. He doesn't wince at the sound as Max raids the lost & found for towels. Or maybe they just keep a stash of towels, a spare set of clothes in Billy's lifeguard locker. No blankets or pillows, nothing that can't be explained away even if they're always gone with the dim rays of dawn peeking through the forest. The pool glitters in those brief moments, almost peaceful even if it's not the sea that Billy misses so badly it aches.

It's not meant to be more than an occasional thing, but Billy can't bear leaving her alone in the house on Cherry Lane. It won't be permanent, he just needs a little more in his rainy day fund. A bank account that Neil can't touch, one that has his name and maybe Susan's on it.

He thinks he'll have enough money for an apartment, maybe a trailer on the other side of town with scraggly weeds and his dealer, by the end of July.

losing my mind losing my mind losing my mind please this is exactly what i wanted to hear about after writing those tags on that post i love you 🥺

#its billy sneaking into her room anc silently shaking her awake in the dead of the night!!! #its them driving to the pool!!! the camaro probably the only car on the road at that time of night #probably a rare trip with no music blasting! just the silence! #or! them walking! probably not even really saying a word to each other! just slowly making their way to their end destination! #no need to explain or fill the quiet! #'they're making themselves safe; just by leaving for the night.' luc!!!!! #its them having a familiar routine once they get to the pool! max on the chair! billy on the pools edge! #towels laid out! #'the pool glitters in those moments; almost peaceful even if its not the sea billy misses so badly it aches.' LUC!!!!!!! #i know we bang on about billy and the ocean and max and surfing and the pool and everything that there is About That #but like. genuinely fucking HEARTBREAKING that they got ripped away from the literal sea and now #have to make do with some cheap piss poor chemicalised imitation of the great big body of water that was the ocean herself #and just. be okay with that. like they just have to live with that and accept that theyre just. never gonna see the ocean again anytime soon #not gonna see it unless they make it happen themselves. #'but billy cant bear leaving her alone in the house on cherry lane' luc 🥺🥺🥺 #he just!!! needs a little more time!!!! and a little more money!!! for his rainy day fund!!! #so they can start Step One of their Get The Fuck Outta Here journey!!! #and if step one isn't california herself but instead a cheap trailer on the bad side of town #thats a start!!! thats the first step baby! #thats close to work for billy! thats close enough to hawkins high for max! thats close to (eddie! chrissy! uncle wayne!) supportive people! #god luc u fucking Get it #also u gave me permission to post this so i am 🥺💞 #luc tag <3 #billy x max fic #eddie munson #msgs <3

[theultracharmingladynoire]

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#okay. I've been giving this so much of thought and it's bugging me too much and I am just. Really conflicted about this #I've been lowkey whining about the same thing again and again and sorry for that djshdjdhhdhd #But like. yoi ep 12 has been really bugging me. A Lot. And I've talked about it earlier #And atp I have achieved peace with Victor's return (But even that's a bit shaky) #But Yuuri not winning gold....yeah that's definitely the elephant in the room to me #And the problem to me is just that. #I was and am not even bugged about it when I am WATCHING the show!! Or the episode It just...flowed (and I really need to rewatch) #But I've read a Lot of analyses of people laying out why it wasn't a good writing decision and they do have good points #But I just. CAN'T see it as entirely 'bad/flimsy' writing if that makes sense #Like. All of those posts were saying that it made the ending bad/underwhelming and was thematically a bit off #But I just can't bring myself to agree entirely with them?? #And it's so frustrating because I just. #I just want to have a clear cut opinion on it. Like I wish I found it easier to accept that it was a narrative misstep #but I CAN'T because. The rest of the show is just SO good so it is just. Really hard to buy that they would mess up on something so vital - #The ending #(I know they can! and it's okay but still.) #And I don't feel like I'd be able to enjoy the show as much if I concluded that the ending was entirely bad #Because I don't necessarily think that's the case - there's definitely some nuance there #And I do understand what the writers were going for from the interviews and stuff #And though that wasn't exactly a valid enough reason to not give him the gold it is understandable #So then usually. I'd leave that and stop thinking about it and just go back to thinking about the rest of the show #But I CAN'T and it's just So. Ugh #Like I know everything doesn't have to be perfect for me to like or something - the show is also flawed but still very much lovable #But I simply can't agree with all the meta talking about how Yuuri not winning gold was plainly and truly #wrong and dumb and stupid #Because there's definitely just a middle ground there - saying it is good/bad just seems very...idk it just rubs off wrong on me #But I've also seen some takes justifying the gold win and I can't bring myself to agree with them entirely either. #and on one hand him not winning gold doesn't bothe me too much because that gpf isn't his last at all. And he's definitely going to #become a five time world champion just like Victor says #(and also I want him to compete and win against Victor directly soo)

[lecliss]

Xillia au where Milla lets Ivar go to Leronde with them and when he meets Leia there its love at first sight but he makes a fool of himself over it the whole time hes there

#i'll forever and always be upset ivar isnt a playable character. HR SHOULDVE BEEN ALLOWED TO JOIN THEM IN LERONDE #i'd be okay with him peacing out when everyone reunites after that. i's still be sad he wouldnt be a perma member. but any time with ivar #is a good time to me. i would just make a new save so i could have ivar forever #also its a one man party over here on the ivar/leia boat abd i have accepted that 🙃 #also if he could see how shit jude's parents are maybe he could hate jude a little less #personal

[quatregats]

Glad we are over the month where everyone was actually interested in my PhD applications and have moved into the more realistic phase where I flop all my interviews and they realize I'm not special

#like fully unironically and un-self-deprecatingly it is good for me to not be the smartest person in the room and accept that fact #i have gotten into a school that i like and that i think will be good for me #i can bomb a couple of interviews it's okay #though if [redacted] does actually accept me that'll potentially be interesting #have a feeling i'm on a waiting list there bc i interviewed a couple weeks ago and they have not gotten back to me #there's like one professor there who really seemed interested in my research #(which is kind of insane because he's like one of the foremost scholars in the field but anyways) #i don't think any of the others were particularly impressed though #and i kind of botched the interview #so we're like 50-50 there #anyways sorry many thoughts to process this has been a roller coaster ride but i am at peace with the current options #little bit heartbroken not to be going back home to new england but we'll make do #perce rambles

[theghostofashton]

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#sometimes i feel like it is valuable to recognize how much thought was likely put into something from a creator standpoint #like if it's clear something was definitely not meticulously planned or well thought out by the creators/writers #i think it's valuable as a fan to simply accept that and take it for what it is #and ik everyone enjoys media differently obv do whatever makes you happiest #but the thing that's helped me most is recognizing i don't have to care that much when the creators clearly didn't lol #it is okay to turn your brain off and simply vibe and not take everything super seriously #and this is coming from someone who lives to analyze shit honestly that is fun and i do think it contributes positively a lot of the time #but i think ultimately there's a point where you just have to take what's been given to you and not try to make sense of it or rationalize i #to some nth degree #that can suck the joy out of things and it just doesn't feel necessary all the time #idk this is how i enjoy shows w questionable writing lol i am in it for pure vibes #i've made peace w things being shitty and not making sense sometimes and that's that

[cicada-dyke]

BABYS FIRST PRIDE PARADE BRO IT WAS INCREDIBLE-

#we had so much fucking fun #we were all marching #while simultaneously trying to dodge the cameras #just in case our parents were watching tv #shout out to my friend Adam the Ally #his twin ( who’s bi and non-binary)couldn’t make it but he #but he still showed up #and when i lost the group he kept me company and tried to help 😭 #then we got to the speech thing in the park #we just all went from low key sobbing at that #directly into shaking ass when the music started playing #also pretty sure we awakened something in adam #cuz homie went completely cold and unmoving #staring at this gay couple dance and make out/ #when we asked if he was okay #he just smiled and said this place feels so accepting and peaceful and he loved it #power to you adam #we also essentially got adopted right when we got out of the train #i am in a whatsapp group and we’re already making plans #i have a paper trans flag hidden under my mattress #we witnessed this drag queen #dressed up as a dead bride - with a dark red dress and bloody make up #having a dance battle with this one dude #we went to get pizza with some of the people after #my friend threw up on the way there #then we spoke about first kisses - which neither me nor my friend had had #reached out my hand to fist bump her #ace was quicker to lean in for a kiss #after throwing up my homie proceded to enjoy 3 first kisses #shut up uno

[anaalnathrakhs]

turns out actions have consequences and i can't just act mentally ill around people five days a week and expect them not to be miffed with me at least a little bit :)

#principal teacher HATES ME holy fuck #they got reprimanded by the school hierarchy bc i didnt clean the puke as well as i thought i did #and now i've destroyed every good sentiment they've ever had towards me #it's cool it's cool to remember that no matter how much effort i put into it i'm literally unable to act normal for extended periods #and im just. actively toxic to be around. #im gonna make the effort to go to the ER again i think #bc it's not just a ''get better'' deal i have to have medical professionals in contact w the shcool #but eh. i don't much believe in that. #is it stupid to just drop out now #i feel like it is #i don't want to ''get better'' it still sucks!! holy shit does it still suck!! #i feel okay sometimes and i tell my friends about it i'm like yeah it's bad but i don't FEEL too sad about it #and they're like. baby you're in denial. #which. i mean. i do never follow through on the improvements i thought of when i feel pretty good. #so ahem. if i accept that those brief moments of enthusiasm are flukes. uh. i'm probably never going to be happy? comfortable? at peace? #what's the fucking point then? #broadcasting my misery #vent #ed tw

[dxsertrot]

Actually everything has been too complicated and now that the sun is out I've decided that everything is actually easier than I thought and nothing has to hurt me unless I let it

#drinking coffee and smoking in the sun after a decent day of work #i got to work ot this weekend and do a tough job and the day after i hiked w my mom and ran along the beach w the dog #the longer i keep myself away from the narrative the more further removed and at peace i feel #although sometimes its somewhat distrupted when i see them but i reel it back in real quick #it just feels good to know that i dont have to let anyone in and that i have my people and thats all i need #im goung to carry myself the rest of the way through like i always have #and i dont need anyone elses validation #things will come to me when im ready and its right #if i dont want someone to hurt me then i simply dont have to allow them to hurt me #and if i hurt them then oh well. i need to protect my peace and my self esteem #i have things that i would like to work out but i need to accept that everything i want to have happen i cant make happen #ive been through too much and worked too hard and loved too hard and learned too much to let things like this touch me anymore #my self perception cannot hinge on anyone anymore because only i know what ive done and seen and felt and thought in every momemt of my lif #and how i look is not a solid descripter of all the aspects of me #it is not the bulk of my humanity it is hardly a grain of sand #im not angry or sad im just indifferent and ready for something better and healthier and more secure #and the things and people that i can have by relying on my looks do not hold much value anyways #besides. i am pretty. and im healthy and im good w my money and i laugh w my belly and i know a fuck of a lot more than i ever thought #and ive done more than i ever anticipated #i have a lot of things to be so okay with that i shouldnt even have to think about it #and the fact that i ever do is a luxary not given to the bulk of humanity #ive had the privledge to love many times and learn the lessons that accompany losing #and the privilege to make my own decisions and have my own priorities #i have the time and money to worry about frivolous things just like ive had the same to experience some really cool things #i am full of energy and opportunity and love and i get to decide when and where i want to direct that #if i direct it in a place that leave me feeling sad and empty and confused i can put my focus elsewhere unless i deem it worthy enough to #work at #and when ive poured too much in and got too little back ill know to reframe things #its not that complicated and its not that messy #it just is whatever i make it out to be and im tired of making everything out to be more and allow it to define me