#anger as a coping mechanism

[whumpshaped]

whumpee whos prickly and confrontational. they pick fights and yell. they act aggressive. .. but they see that trauma has made others timid and flinchy. pacificts. avoidant of conflict at all costs.

it makes them question whether they were hurt at all, or hurt badly enough to deserve sympathy, or maybe theyre just a horrible bad person. their trauma response looks so different, its the complete opposite in fact. they couldnt even get traumatised the right way.

#whump #whump prompt #anger as a coping mechanism #anger as a trauma response

[madame-mongoose]

Hi if you're here looking at the original post, know this is about her not your dream smp minecraft white boys or whatever it's about HER

#this is about zekira tbh #she is soooo fucked up #im in love with her 💖 #pinning all my anger issues on my ocs as a coping mechanism lmao #monnie rambles

[roseofhybrids]

Only thing Uzi got from Khan was the engineering skills?

False

she also inherited WRATH

#murder drones #shitpost #ANGER and STEM #also bad coping mechanisms #doors and guns > therapy

[tomurakii]

I kind of hate all the comparisons between kipperlily and like. Those fuckass "affirmative action fucks me over I wish I was [minority] so it would be easier" people because none of that. Is what she said. She said the bad kids already had more experience with adventuring before they got to augefort and it meant they had an advantage. Which is true. Yeah Riz was lower-class but his mum was a COP. Riz, Kristen and Fig had parents who were heroes (Sandra-Lynn is an active ranger, Kristen's parents are paladins, Sklonda is a rogue), Adaine's family was super rich and politically influential, Fabian had both. Gorgug's the only one who wasn't actively at an advantage [IN THE CONTEXT OF HAVING PRIOR KNOWLEDGE ABOUT HEROISM] and she didn't have shit to say about him. Kipperlily was the first person in her family to try heroism, the bad kids are largely legacy admissions.

Additionally to the people comparing it to the "anti-affirmative action" crowd: do you know what affirmative action is. The bad kids didn't receive special consideration on their admissions to aguefort or scholarships or additional financial support or extended assessment times or anything. How could she be mad about affirmative action if none of these people received affirmative action. What they DID have was knowledge about their classes that started much earlier than high school, which is what Kipperlily said in her file that she thought grading should be adjusted for because she did not have that.

To me it's less like affirmative action and more like augefort is like an IQ test. They pretend that it's fair and objective, but you can be taught how to do those things from a younger age, and if your parents took the time to teach you pattern recognition and shit then you'll do better on an IQ test than someone who wasn't trained for it and everyone will act like that makes you innately smarter when it doesn't. It just means someone taught you how to do that earlier.

Barring Gorgug, every one of the bad kids had access to information about heroism and their class at a younger age than Kipperlily did, which primed them for success in their classes. Every one of them got additional information about mysteries from their families (and even direct battle-tactics training from Bill), Riz especially with getting classified info out of his mum. Kipperlily does not have hero relatives. She's the first in her family line to attend a hero school. She knew nothing about it before her first day, meanwhile Kristen was already the chosen of Helio, Adaine had already been attending the best wizard school in the country, Fabian had already spent his whole life training with his father, and Riz was already involved in solving mysteries using info and tactics he got from his parents.

They aren't necessarily "privileged" (except Fabian and Adaine), but Kipperlily didn't say they were, she said that in the specific context of attending a hero school they had a prior-knowledge advantage. Saying they didn't is like comparing the grades of a kid who's academic career started with preschool with a kid who didn't attend until middle school and acting like one of them wasn't better prepared.

#like cmon people. you already hated her so you're reaching to justify it more #is it reason to be as hateful as she is? no. but she was 14 when she said the shit about riz's dad and. CRUCIALLY. kids from healthy homes #dont wish death on their parents lol. like objectively #shes not poor but neither is fabian. neither was season 1 adaine. and yet we wouldn't say their home lives were GREAT now would we #or that they had nothing to complain about just because they were economically advantaged #she thinks its unfair because she came into augefort blind meanwhile riz had been doing investigator shit for years already #and she has not learned healthy coping mechanisms. like brennan calls her anger childish and its because shes a CHILD #and she only became this cruel because she's possessed by literally the god of rage. because it was that or death #ive even seen people waxing tragic about every other rat grinder's “deal” with ankarna but acting like kipperlily was just fine with that #because she was angry already. she DIED. and having anger issues/emotional regulation issues doesnt mean you WANT TO DESTROY THE WORLD #she probably wanted to live just as much as any of the others did. and this was the sacrifice. she was 16 #d20 #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #fantasy high #kipperlily copperkettle

[bu-blegh-ost]

Okay, but like. The spy. The mole. For me immediately only one person comes to mind. Here is the way I think.

It is absolutely not Marshall John. He was clearly not in the spy division granted he had a crew and literally lazed around in Cannella long enough to abuse authority there. And after that there is absolutely NO WAY Navy's plan was to fucking execute him in the BLOCK and have Riptide Pirates go for him, on a downright suicidal mission so he joins ANOTHER crew. They could not predict nor plan for this. John is absolutely clean in my book.

Caspian. Ooof, it would be so tragic, cause he's always been there for Lizzie. They knew each other for YEARS, literal years, they were raised together. And that's exactly why he's not the mole. After leaving his tribe, which we know must be true since he mentioned his sister leaving to the capital and I'm pretty sure she is one of the Elders now, he went above water and spent most of his late childhood/teenage years with Lizzie on the Shadowbeard's ship. In no point in time were they split, and so Caspian would have absolutely no way to be trained as an undercover solider. Caspian is not a mole.

But who then, you may wonder? These are the main two closest to Lizzie, right? We don't know anyone else, right? Wrong. There is a new addition to her crew, quite recent actually and it's no one other than Rudith. The fucking healer from Joaldo island, one who had connections with Grandberry Pirates, letting them hang out under his fucking pharmacy. Rudith from Joaldo island which weirdly got attacked the same time a large amount of pirates were gathered there for a tournament. Rudith, who kept saying that life at sea is not really a life for him, and yet when they dropped the fucking sick at Edison Kingdom he surprisingly CHOSE to stay with Lizzie instead and had an absolute honour to listen to them all talking abt thier goddamn plans when they were in a tavern in Allport.

Quiet little, forgettable Rudith. A healer of the crew who just happened to be here. One that interacted with Riptide Pirates so little they don't even remeber he was there.

A perfect fucking mole.

#jrwi riptide #just roll with it #jrwi #jrwi spoilers #ep 115 spoilers #theory #also it is 4 am #i just finished the episode and my brain cannot process emotional devastation of the events that transpired #so i use theories as a coping mechanism #and also to find the right person i should direct the anger towards cause this fucking mole singlehandedly just ruined everyone's life #rudi if it's you i'm gonna kill you

[nashvillethotchicken]

Thinking about Lestat seeing Louis’s eating patterns as a waste of his gift/himself while Armand gives Louis food that he literally can not enjoy or digest just so he has something on his stomach

#if i had to give each of louis relationship a theme loustat would be shame and loumand would be enabling #which are both really bad ways of “helping” a partner with an ed #lestats shame and anger tactics only make louis more resentful and less likely to eat #while armand having the little drinks and exotic animals and the human food dont actually deal with louis problem head on- #cus at the end of the day louis is still not eating enough #and i think they really exemplifies both of their trauma and abandonment issues #both of them came up chronically food insecure #lestat was put into the role of provider at a very early age and stayed in that role until he died/was turned #so for him rejecting what lestat gives is like rejecting lestat cus he doesnt have anything else to make him “useful” #and lestats reaction to rejection is anger and control so he tries to shame and control louis into eating more/human #while armand has been abandoned by literally everyone he loves up till this point so for him its like #ok i can make people dtay if i give them what they want and what louis wants is to not feel bad about eating and so armand does that #but it still doesnt get to the root of the issue which is louis having poor coping mechanisms for his grief and other emotions #like either way you slice it. louis is not meeting his nutritional needs. he eats drinks from one guy eats a fox or some other small animal #when he should be having like two dudes at least #and then he has human food which according to anne rice makes vampires vomit up their whole stomach content so... #louis imma send you to my therapist shes great #interview with the vampire #iwtv #louis de pointe du lac #amc iwtv #lestat de lioncourt #ldpdl #iwtv 2022 #armand iwtv #armand #loumand #loustat #like armand gives louis food he cant eat just so he knows theres something in louis stomach even for a short while

[signanothername]

Yes boy, fule that rage using that suffocating fear that’s clouding your senses

#Josuke’s rage is so fascinating to me #like on one hand there’s that rage rage like when someone insults his hair #but then there’s that fear rage that he puts on as a facade to keep the overwhelming fear at bay #almost gaslighting himself that he’s angry and not scared #he uses anger almost as ​a coping mechanism if you will #ugh i have so many thoughts about this subject and how it’s linked to both his life in general and how it contrasts with his kindness #i wanna ramble about it so bad but idk dhdhhdhd #anothers art #diamond is unbreakable #josuke higashikata #jjba #jjba fanart #jjba josuke #jojo #jojo fanart #jojo josuke #jjba part 4 #jojo part 4 #jojo’s bizarre adventure #jjba diamond is unbreakable #blood #blood cw #blood tw

[lunearobservatory]

I want to talk more abt Massachusetts being rly fucking smart. Like. He certainly has multiple degrees. Mathematics from Harvard??? Compsci from MIT??? And more, probably. I like to think every 30 or so odd years he gets antsy and considers going again

#NERRRRRRDDDDDDDDDD 🤓 DWEEBACHUSETTS #he's SURE everyone else around him is dumb asf and he's the smartest one there but like. instead of whining high and mighty like #erm. california <3 my drenched cat #he just gets frustrated at perceived incompetence #plus anger issues leads to a lot of needless confrontation but hey. that's our boy <333 thats mass #the northeast really... definitely... have healthy coping mechanisms dont they !!! (false) #mass....huge boobs...huge brains...woah #I've figured it out yall #lune talks #wttt #wttsh #ben brainard #welcome to the statehouse #welcome to the table #wttt massachusetts

[thirstyvampyr]

There was a day off so more people came in the building to enjoy their time, u know, normal behavior. It’s a bunch of small studio apartments with tile floors, windows are opened because it’s hot, you can hear people walking and talking, normal again. My boyfriend doesn't like this, so the past few days he’s been having the longest toddler tantrum about it. Walking hard on his heels, blasting tv he doesn't watch at 2am, vacuuming loudly and throwing the vacuum around for extra noise, slamming the chairs randomly, yelling random rap lyrics etc

you’re in your 50s for crying out loud either go talk to them or shut the fuck up

#i just 🧍 #getting startled through the day is really bad for the soul as it turns out #he doesnt like being told no #and usually yelling gets him what he wants #so he never had to develop normal coping mechanisms for his anger #and i aint tryna come in between him and whatever is making him angry for the day #his unemployment benefits havent even kicked in yet he’s already over not having a job it’s amazing some people really do love slaving away #killing me would be better than whatever this is tbh

[chynandri]

Maybe Leon’s design makes me mad because I’m just jealous of him. Maybe he’s gotta be put on the gender envy list

#resident evil #sorry I’m like. still obsessed/confounded by Leon #also the other characters on this list are geralt and Adam Jensen so. idk what that even says #but also Keith v*ltron #got the whole range of masculine expression here #so like after realizing how pure and honourable and ignorant of the horrors re2 Leon was #his design is STARTING to make sense to me #but why did he REMAIN that pretty looking even after experiencing the horrors and trauma. #so I’m still mad/confounded #is it to say that despite the horrors and trauma he holds fast to his ideals? probably… #is his awful sense of humour a coping mechanism? probably… #also another point of jealousy/anger is that he’s like if a woman and a man had a baby (gender meme) #if you remember how last year I was like. Leon’s a she/her #it’s so insane how I’m reading so much into a pretty basic video game man protagonist #but why does this guy HAVE IT ALL and also have the worst time of his life!

[dii-dead]

inside job swap au but like only their personalities are swapped🤔

#inside job #brett hand #reagan ridley #i did it guys #i like this #adulthood is harsh for both of them #this brett would make puppets as a passion at first only to act them out as a coping mechanism to let out his anger and frustration

[lightninja38]

Not a Shen Jiu hater, not a Yue Qi hater, but a secret third thing.

#person who recognised that theyre both big bundles of trauma responses dressed up in fancy robes #and realises that their trauma has manifested in different ways #and as a result of that they are unable to communicate effectively #and while they have shared trauma that they both know about #both of them have misconceptions about what the other thinks about it #and that they also have different traumas #which have re-enforced bad coping mechanisms that they both have #eg. shen jiu's anger and yue qi's people pleasing #and shen jiu is angry to push people away because hes scared of conflict that he cant control #and yue qi is a people pleaser because hes scared of conflict #and they both now work in a very high stress environment #where there is lots of conflict #and it is also a location which is heavily conected to yue qi's trauma #and shen jiu is heavily disliked #and due to that- and the fact that they arent communicating #they are unable to heal and are stuck in self destructive habits #but if they werent like this #their story wouldnt be a very good tradgedy now would it #in case you cant tell i have a lot of feelings about them #svsss #mxtx #the scum villain's self saving system #original shen qingqiu #yue qingyuan #shen jiu

[starryvomit]

my yoga instructor said rage is a blessing if used wisely.

it is our inner wood-burning fire that cracks and lights us from our core.

i couldn’t agree more.

where will you channel it?

#female rage #rage #feminine rage #girl rage #ragecore #yoga #yoga inspiration #yoga motivation #yoga daily #yoga aesthetic #yogalife #yogagirl #anger #anger issues #angercore #female anger #repressed anger #female writers #women writers #female poets #women poets #spilled ink #romanticize your life #yogi #anger management #healing era #healing #coping mechanism #coping skills #coping strategies

[miraofhearts2point0]

i dont trust people who think Usagi is boring like just say you dont understand her and move along. bye now!!!

#shes either a buddhist or a goth in her regards to life death and survival #she helps others bc others refused to help her #life treated her so poorly but she refused to let that change her perception #rven after her father's death she refused to take out her anger on others #(despite having the right to feel that way based on her own experiences) #((her dad killed himself bc of how horrible other people were to him)) #she actively chooses good bc she wants to be that light for others who may have been in her shoes #say “manga Usagi wasnt as active” all you want but just know youre wrong #just bc she wasnt always physically active doesnt mean she wasnt actively doing other things #(like taking care of Arisu as a coping mechanism) #she chooses love light and life ALWAYS bc she knows part of life is to suffer. thats kinda the whole point #but being that good in a sea of darkness is what makes living worthwhile #the only rzn that wasnt the message right off the bat was bc it takes place from Arisu's POV not Usagi's #anyways I LOVE USAGI YUZUHA!!!!! #alice in borderland #ima wa no kuni no alice #usagi yuzuha #yuzuha usagi

[doodle-do-wop]

More Keeper Reread thoughts: Lodestar

Extremely unpopular opinion but: why the heck do we still trust Keefe????

Yes everything worked out in some cases but if we look at the consequences, they don't balance each other out. Not even a little

I know Keefe is the fandom's little soggy meow meow funny boy but Fitz should've been allowed to hit him like Captain America's punching bag.

#the only reason things worked out was because the author made them work out #otherwise Keefe would have a body count and yall wouldnt be too happy with him #Sophie should've had pages upon pages of anger towards Keefe #not just 'im angry at him but now i forgive and forget because the shippers want me to' #keefe sencen #kotlc keefe #kotlc sophie #kotlc thoughts #kotlc discourse #keeper of the lost cities #Tam is who Keefe wishes he was #humor as a coping mechanism stops being cute when its no longer 'humor'

[lying-on-floors]

Yes, I have a calm and slightly strange demeanor but in my headphones, I'm blasting violent and aggressive music because I have aggression issues and I may or may not snap.

:D

#lesbian #aromantic #asexual #actually audhd #actually autistic #actually adhd #mental health #anger issues #coping mechanism #silly little guy #my cousin compared me to wednsday addams #slay 💅🏻