#as an irl bisexual…………. I’m tired

[musclesandhammering]

Actually still seeing people say stuff like “maybe the adlockers & sherlollies were right about sherlock being hetero-“

BOY. When did we say that? Who the hell is saying that?? Cause from where this adlocker’s sitting, sherlock is the most bisexual character on the show. He’s queer as hell. Man’s straight as a slinky. As bi as a bicycle.

…….Oh but I forgot that doesn’t actually count, because the only queer identities that are queer enough to count in their minds are gay men they can ship with other men without female interference. Right. My bad. Silly me thinking women had any place in the equation.

#going on bbc sherlock Twitter was a mistake now I’m pissed #these j*hnlockers assume a whole hell of a lot don’t they #anti tjlc #anti johnlock #Adlock #sherlolly #fandom wank #fandom discourse #sherlock discourse #bbc sherlock #bisexual erasure #once again #as an irl bisexual…………. I’m tired

[urfun]

me today

#i’m so tired of the way i’m treated and my irls banned me from talking to them about SI #but at least dennis is bisexual

[10piecechickenmcnugget]

all the fiancés are genderfluid btw

why? cause I said so

#they told me themselves #sapnap comes from the nether and has no concept of gender #Karl is an interdimensional being and also has no concept of gender #and quackity just gives off those vibes #and they’re all bisexual so it’s all good #karl jacobs #c!karl jacobs #sapnap #c!sapnap #quackity #c!quackity #karlnapity #dsmp #dream smp #mcyt #genderfluid #if someone stumbles across my post because of the lgbtq tag and doesn’t want to see it I’m tired of being nice jsyk #that’s what blocking tags is for <3 and why I make sure to actually properly tag my posts #people keep seeing my content about karl and going on rants about all of the dream shit going on both online and irl and I am tired of it #obviously what’s going on serious but I am literally just shitposting over here leave me be I’m not even talking about Dream #I have made like 1 dream post ever and it was that one about the sapnap bee farm video #sorry for the tag rant enjoy my silly little headcanons

[cungader0]

the internal struggle of wanting to be quiet about my identity bc a) it’s no one’s business b) it usually requires a lengthy explanation c) i automatically get treated as lesser than bc my identity isn’t as common as being gay or bi or trans vs. the urge to correct people when they always assume i’m bi and the want to be able to mention it in passing and have it not mean anything to people and not have to explain every little detail and have a level of implicit understanding from others even if it is not their lived experience

#ugh why is it so hard. i don’t even wanna say the identity here yk? like it doesn’t matter!! it shouldn’t matter!! #but i’m sick and tired of having people always assume that i’m bisexual!! why do they always assume that!! and think it’s okay to just… #announce that without asking me if i’m even bi!! wtf!! i’m sick of making off handed comments about thinking people are hot and having to… #explain myself every time!! gah !!!!!!! #anyway. #andy says shit #found out one of my irls is back into rpf. el em ay oh. thought we were all past that as a society. #y’all are STILL out here shipping real people?? bffr #cringe ass nae nae baby behavior

[bakersfield-row]

[ID: shijima tsukishima, the protagonist from the manga shimeji simulation, stands in front of her school and looks up blankly. a thought bubble positioned to her right depicts her thinking of a rotating fish. "freaks" by surf curse plays while the fish spins. during the start of the song's chorus, the text "dont cry; I am just a FISH" appears in front of the fish.]

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call me mju or mjus; pronounce it however you like. i write, i do photography, i watch films every now and then, im trying to get into more games, and i use linux mint. i will blow up your ford f150.

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you are, but you’re bisexual

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[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

I know when you have suffered it can be hard to hear judgment on a group you belong to. Because it can often feel like a massive attack. Even if it’s not something you have done.

But I’m actually so tired of both irl and online wlw spaces. So unbelievably tired. It’s getting very clique like and hostile.

Bisexual women NEED to listen to lesbians when we talk about our experiences without shutting us down or trying to throw in a tidbit about bisexuality, even if what we are talking about is in relation to bisexuality.

Lesbians NEED to listen to bisexual women when they talk about their experiences without shutting them down or trying to through in a tidbit about lesbianism, even if it’s in relation to our sexuality.

We need to stop having a blanket state of vilification towards one another.

Yes, some bisexual women have caused some lesbians lots of pain. Yes, some lesbians have caused some bisexual women a lot of pain. Yes, we both deserve our own groups sometimes to talk about issues that uniquely pertain to us. Yes, we can still have collective spaces as well. Both statements can be true.

Yes, homophobia and its individual impact on us and how it’s impacts us in the way our sexualities are seen throughout society is going to make things difficult at times. Some things might be said that make you feel prickly, or misunderstood or angry. Those aren’t inherently bad emotions. It’s just how we handle them that matters.

A lesbian woman who has been too scared to accept her sexuality is going to have a different experience to a lesbian who hasn’t struggled with that as much. A bisexual woman who came out as a teenager is going to have a different experience to a bisexual woman who accepted herself as a middle aged woman. A woman who is dating a woman is going to have a different experience to one who isn’t. And that’s all going to change too based on culture and age and country and interests.

It’s hard. It’s isolating. It’s frustrating. That’s okay. If we move in good faith, if we apologise when we misstep , and take the time and space to just LISTEN , I really think these spaces could be a lot more helpful and less hostile.

[michellezagenda]

i need a groupchat with bisexual rad leaning/radfem girlies.. i’m so tired of my friends irl ….

#bisexual females #radblr

[olderthannetfic]

https://www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/728886929370857472/httpswwwtumblrcomolderthannetfic728767139305

Agree with this. I mean I’m an academic who in grad school was often in discussions with people who were Terminally Online, but the dumb ways they applied tumblr discourse in class were usually the least of their problems (as in they were often awful people in their ACTIONS outside of class. That said I’ll never forget the person, who was not a gay or bisexual man himself but was a straight trans man who acted like that identity meant he could speak for the entire LGBTQ community based on stuff he read on Tumblr and never doing the actual class reading, claiming that the way Wayne Koestenbaum described gay man’s attachment to female opera divas in The Queen’s Throat had “consent issues.” This was a guy who later got investigated by Title IX for graphically discussing his sex life with other grad students, including female TAs when he was a student instructor).

But I think where I saw the most obnoxious and insidious ways that Tumblr discourse shit infected irl academic discourse was you’d have some older academic who wasn’t super online but cared a lot about social justice and wanting to do the right thing, and would hear about some concept third hand and think it sounded good and not have the broader context a regular Tumblr, Twitter, etc. person would have to know why it wasn’t, or that the person behind it was abusive or didn’t really know their stuff (I’m thinking about stuff like Medieval POC being promoted by academics who just liked the idea of highlighting more instances of POC in pre-modern European history, didn’t know that the person behind it was a racefaker with a history of deeply racist statements, and weren’t specifically art historians or really digging all that deep into her posts to know that she was getting some basic stuff wrong). My frustration a lot as a grad student who is familiar with Tumblr, and with the feminist blogosphere of the late 00s/early 10s before it where a lot of “Tumblr social justice” first developed, was trying to explain that there were people within that culture who were pro-SJ and feminist and antiracist and so on, and from marginalized groups themselves, who had legitimate objections to these concepts being applied to academia that didn’t come from unfamiliarity or “college students just need to grow up” style thinking that you saw in Jonathan Chait style thinkpieces.

For instance, I objected to and continue to object to “mandatory trigger warnings” because I’ve read about and seen in action how they’re often used by students to box in female and POC faculty — already disproportionately hurt by student evaluations — for not running their class or discussing issues of race, gender, etc. in a way that perfectly fits their ideas from Online Discourse. They’re harder on us for this than similar white male faculty, especially older ones, and older white male allies need to be more aware of this when they extrapolate from their own experiences. (Also students IME will get way angrier if a film by or about marginalized people is “triggering” even though it’s impossible to show some aspects of systemic misogyny or racism on screen without doing that — think movies like Do the Right Thing — than they will a similarly “triggering” film by and about white dudes that has no larger Social Point to Make with its triggering content. And I say this as someone who always gives students a heads up beforehand, but some really think that those movies shouldn’t be shown AT ALL and I’m increasingly getting students asking me to accommodate trigger warning requests for vague Tumblr stuff like “unreality” and I’m so tired.)

Thanks for letting me rant about “Tumblr SJ” and academia in your inbox lol

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[doriandrifting]

I don't understand why Gay Mike truthers are called biphobic. It's not that we don't want Mike to be bi or for there to be more bi rep on shows. There just isn't any evidence Mike is bi, and a lot to suggest that he's gay.

Me either. I feel like it’s gotten better lately-ish. Like a year ago it felt like I had to make a disclaimer that I was bi everytime I tried to justify why I think Mike is gay lmao I’m not hating if you think Mike is bi, I just don’t think a lot of things line up with that and I’m tired of the biphobic accusations against people who point it out!! (not talking about every bi Mike truther just to be clear, just the ones who sling weird accusations)

One example I’ve talked about is how a lot of the the bi Mike proof is undone when we look at S2 and see the parallel narrative they created for Dustin and Dart:

Then we’ve got things like “Our son with a girl?”, “She doesn’t even look like a girl!”, “With different hair, do you think [El] could’ve been Lonnie’s boy?”, “I’ve got an idea—boys only, “one way” (as opposed to the common expression “going both ways”), “It’s not my fault you don’t like girls” (which is weird IMO bc it implies some sort of bisexual supremacy if Mike isn’t gay—like atleast I can still like girls unlike you!!—which could obviously happen irl but doesn’t make sense narratively, like underlying the surface level meaning of Will struggling with the girls being added to the party—namely El—it’s also about Mike’s projection of his own insecurity onto Will, and we know that because Mike brings up the idea of never getting girlfriends in the next breath), and the fact that during his “love” confession Mike could not actually pin point a moment where at the very least he realized that he had a crush on El—instead he quite literally just lied about being in love with her the moment he met her (which some bisexual truthers have tried to deny was a lie, but it’s quite literally canon that Mike was going to send El to Pennhurst the next morning sooo??), and basically none of it makes sense to me as bisexual coding. To me, it makes sense in the context of viewers rewatching the show and being able to be like “omg haha boys only!! we should’ve known he was gay!!”

#didn’t mean to rant like this HSJSMSKS #but yeah I couldn’t agree more anon #gay mike wheeler

[28ratsinatrenchcoat]

figured I should finally create a pinned post, it’s been long enough

Hey everyone, I’m @28ratsinatrenchcoat I use they/them or he/they pronouns and I’m transmasc. (I’m also bisexual)

Interests:

Sweeney Todd

Supernatural

The Muppets

The Crane Wives

Everybody’s Worried About Owen

The U.S. government in the 60s-70s

D&D

Theatre in general

The gays

Many other things that I can’t think of rn, I’ll update this later

I am a writer! I write poetry and I’m trying to write fanfiction right now (writers block is kicking my ass) so don’t be suprised if you see some of that pop up on here

DNI if you are: homophobic, transphobic, pro Israel, xenophobic, in support of the current US police force, (I’ll update this later I can’t think of more things I’m too tired)

Tags:

# The rats say something- posting in general # The rats love music - anything music related

#the rats are being gay- feels a bit self explanatory

# The rats are being artsy- art stuff! Drawings, poetry, writing, etc.

Other stuff:

using tone indicators would be very helpful! (I’m so shit at determining tone irl and its 100x worse on the internet)

im trying to teach myself how to sew! Please leave any tips in my ask box… I kinda suck rn, but that’s how it goes when ur new at a skill

(Shit I can’t think of anything else I’ll update this later)

#pinned post #pinned intro #new pinned #please read

[genderoutlaws]

as a bi person, i feel like a lot of bi people on this site are hypersensitive to people making incorrect generalizations about what bisexuality means (or rather, what it can mean, since every bisexual is going to have a different relationship with their identity), so after they’ve encountering *some* definitions of pansexuality that imply bisexuality is transphobic/binary/less progressive, a lot of us have made pansexuals into a scapegoat to take out our frustrations on over the biphobia we encounter in online spaces (because, let’s be real, in real life most people don’t really know what pansexuality even is & after you explain it to them, most people go “okay, so kind of like bi, but maybe a little different” & personally i know people irl that use the two labels interchangeably since the reality is that both labels describe the same/similar experience of being attracted to all genders/experiencing attraction regardless of gender, depending on how people personally conceive of each identity, which is always going to vary based on personal experience). the fact of the matter is that a large chunk of modern-day biphobia harkens back to the AIDS Crisis, waaay before pansexuality was even a thing. harmful stereotypes about us & tensions between us & lesbians & gays were not caused by “pansexuality” entering the queer lexicon. there are self-identified battleaxe bisexuals on tumblr that do call out biphobia, promote bi resources, and share bi history in addition to provoking pansexuals, but there are a good amount of blogs i have seen that seem to reflect the idea that hating on pansexuals is bi activism praxis. bisexuals have every right to push back against those that reduce our identity & all that comes with it down to an ahistorically narrow definition or paint us as shallow or only caring about our partners appearance/body/sex, but telling pansexuals that they are inherently transphobic, that they’re wrong about their identity, that all bisexuals define themselves as experiencing attraction regardless of gender is just limiting how bi+ people are allowed to conceive of their own sexuality, including people that actually identify as bi. at this point, i feel like the two labels are pretty much interchangeable & the problem comes in when people try to force a clear distinction by trying to define bisexuality & pansexuality in opposition to each other. i wish more people that identify with one label more than the other or with one exclusively would say something along the lines of, “both identities describe attraction to multiple/all genders, but the label i chose is the one i’m personally comfortable with” & leave it at that. i am tired

im so tired too lol but Thank you, this was also really well said. (my only addendum if you don’t mind, is that pansexuality was emerging as an identity term pre and mid AIDS crisis! though at the time it was still mostly within BDSM/kink communities and San Francisco play parties used to describe like “i’ll top/bottom/dom/sub whoever”)

#and in the book Bi Any Other Name- lani mentions pansexuals being involved in the bi community as early as the 70s #all very interesting tho n makes me eager to dig into more bi history! #long post

[peronasghosts]

TOH or Haikyu(?) for the show ask game, take your pick :)

i’ll do the owl house bc you know it too.

Favourite character:

hmmm i think i have to say luz. she’s one of the best main characters ever and i love her and her arc.

Funniest character:

eda. i enjoy her middle aged bisexual swag. she manages to be really funny and also a genuinely incredible character and i appreciate that.

Best-looking character:

amity. i think that she is very pretty and i understand luz a lot esp in season one.

3 favourite ships:

lumity: one of THE ships for me. weird girls overcoming their differences to be very cute together <3

raeda: this is the angsty one. it makes me sad and i enjoy that. also hot take (?) idc that they didn’t kiss during the show. i think that their friendship that we see is really cool and i kinda like the idea of them being friends for a while before potentially getting back together

amischa: i enjoy the exes. their friendship was definitely homoerotic but they didn’t actually date so the breakup was confusing on both sides.

Least favourite character:

hooty. my irl friends who watch the owl house with me love hooty but i just don’t get the appeal. his voice is fucking annoying + he never really gets any character development.

Least favourite ship: 

huntlow. it’s every other basic m/f ship: angsty loner guy who has trouble talking about his feelings but tries when it’s the girl x sweet anxious girl who helps the guy. what’s the point anymore? i’m tired.

Reason why I watch it:

it’s sweet and cute and i love the world and characters. very good comfort show

Why I started watching it:

so so so many people were talking about it both online and irl and it sounded like my kinda thing

#toh #anti huntlow #<just in case #lumity #raeda #luz noceda #amity blight #leon gets asks #lilmerh

[bizzy-bee1]

Okay, so I have no idea how to do intro posts, but I’m Bee. No, that’s not my real name, it’s actually my oc’s name, but she’s basically me so it’s fine. If you know me irl don’t use my actual name in here, I’ll hurl myself out the nearest window.

Also I’m 16.. so don’t be weird. Like just be a normal human being. Impossible internet challenge. Honestly posting on stuff like this can be tiring so really I’m only making this post so people who know me know why I’m chillin here, but also in case any randos stray from their natural habitats.

I ammm bisexual.. soo.. if that don’t put you off then we chill, we chill, y’know <3 I use she/they pronouns but call me whatever you want it doesn’t faze me, live your life and do what you please. Biologically female if you’re so concerned about that.

I have made blogs before, but they’re just cringy art posts about video games, so I’m moving forward from that.. also I’ve just kind of lost interest in that.

Yeah I probably won’t post much of anything. Maybe like, a meme or two. A post of a nice landscape photo I take throughout my daily life. If I’m feeling confident I might post art but I wouldn’t bet on that. Maybe writing stuff too. Maybe.

I really just made this account to follow folks I know without them seeing the cringy art of my past, also to de log their stuff so people see how awesome they are. So that’s my motivation. Uh, if ya wanna be friends thats cool with me, if not, cool as well. I’m just. Chillin. Y’know ?

Have a lil chinchilla. I’ve got two, such cuties.

#not adding tags cuz I don’t need anyone to find this

[mnikhowozu]

it’s an interesting place to stand where like. in real life, interacting with other humans, im for all intents and purposes a lesbian, or at least i tend to be attracted to women/woman-adjacent people & butches like 85% of the time, and the rest is attraction to other trans queer men

in terms of fiction, i tend to be more attracted to male characters for a variety of reasons. but also in a way it feels “safer”, since i’ve had some very uncomfortable and negative experiences with cis (almost always het) men being attracted to me irl. i can explore attraction to cis men on my own terms.

but i don’t really know what sort of label to put myself under. because i do identify with bisexuality, but i also identify with lesbianism and i honestly don’t want to fight with random people on the internet about my identity being “incorrect” or whatever (i miss when lesbian just meant “woman attracted to other women”, and inherently included bisexuals! this was long before i was born of course, but. anyways. saying wlw or sapphic irl feels goofy for me personally to say. and people understand lesbian far better.)

this is to say nothing of where i stand on the aro/ace spectrum, i’m certainly there too. honestly as a veteran of the internet asexuality wars or whatever the fuck, fighting about labels is so tiring. which is probably why i just go for “queer” over anything else

#misc: personal text #happy pride month! i’m a disaster

[piqued-curiosity]

So when a group of lesbians does something bad, it's lesbophobic to talk about the pattern of indifference and cruelty that many at large have towards the abuse of bisexuals, and it should be handled interpersonally if at all because some bi being raped and mocked is beneath worthy notice. Even if it happens over and over, even if it happens IRL like it did to me immediately after my assault. It's fine if it keeps happening because there's more pressing issues.

But when a literal hetero man posts disgusting conversion rape fantasies, it's okay to blame bi women because "even if it's a man doing it, bi women wouldn't take the criticism". And it's something bi women in general deserve to be shamed for and treated like rape-enablers.

Okay.

I don't even disagree the second is an issue bi women ought to be aware of. And I certainly don't disagree that divinedionne person is super lesbophobic. Just tired of how literally everyone has a justification on why even acknowledging biphobic abuse or the cruelty of the reactions towards it is "more than we deserve". Y'all immediately jump to express compassion to people sexually harrassing bi women because you assume the morally superior lesbians were in the right and the stupid bi deserved it... and that it we have an issue with any part of any of that its because we're champing at the bit to be lesbophobic. Actually, we're just tired about our abuse being a joke or beneath notice to literally everyone. You're very mistaken if you think it doesn't have IRL consequences.

It’s lesbophobic to start going after random lesbians for it as if it’s our fault that what a literal handful of lesbians display this pattern of cruelty. And by that I mean it’s a manifestation of lesbophobia, as it’s not lesbophobia in itself…but it tells me people are very excited for the opportunity to start punching at lesbians and accusing us of being a super misogynistic evil community that’s out to hurt OSA women…because OSA women have always believed that about us with no basis and are projecting that belief onto lesbians like myself because they found a couple lesbians who “prove them right”. Why aren’t you dealing with this directly? I’m not jumping in random bi women’s inboxes like this. Maybe I’m making posts talking about homophobia in the bi community in general, but I’m not picking out singular women to jump on. If I am, it’s because they themselves were the ones to say homophobic shit, to which I will reply directly to the post, and not anonymously.

Your example of the rape fantasy thing happened one singular time, so clearly you’re still holding a grudge against me for agreeing with the woman who made the “bi women do better” comment. I changed my stance on that after thinking through it and agree that it’s wrong to blame bi women for that.

I never said that having an issue with the cruelty displayed is lesbophobic. I said that chomping at the bit to start crying about the mean misogynistic lesbians as if it’s some huge group (it’s what, 5? 10? Tiny minority within a minority) tells me that you’ve been just waiting to justify your already engrained belief that lesbians are mean and misogynistic and out to get OSA women. Again, go deal with this directly instead of trying to make a random lesbian beg for forgiveness or whatever it is you’re looking for.

#asks #anon #I’m sorry but it really sounds like you have some sort of deep issues with lesbians that you’ve decided I’m an outlet for

[phoenix-angel-suyari]

So my therapist keeps telling me I need to get back out there and start trusting people again because not everyone means you harm and I’ll never find a partner if I’m so closed off in protective layers. 

In the past 6 months, I have had someone try to entice me into sex work, someone try to actually sex traffic me, someone who tried to steal my identity, someone who lied to me and turned out to be married and going through a rough patch but that was totally okay you see because I’m a polyamorous bisexual not at all interested in being anyone’s unicorn let alone a patch for their marriage so I should completely understand, someone who tried to steal from me, someone who tried to scam me, someone who tried to pressure me into sex, someone who tried to sexually assault me and someone who gaslit me so badly it took me a bit to really see it despite my enormous amounts of experience with it and several years of therapy under my belt now. 

This is why I want to vet people by having old fashioned set ups through people I do trust. But, for some inexplicable reason, no one I know irl wants anything to do with helping me find someone no matter how much I beg for help. I don’t know what it is about me that no one I know wants me to try dating anyone they know. I don’t know what it is about me that just attracts the worst of society. But, I’d really like it to end. 

We won’t even get into the nearly 15 years of dating app nonsense only to have people continually tell me I should try dating apps. I am so fucking tired y’all. 

#my life