#book: how sex works

[memoriae-lectoris]

It turns out that even if hymens do tear, they can heal. And many women do not even have hymens—so if you don’t have an intact hymen to start with, intercourse isn’t going to tear it. It’s also pretty darn easy to tear a hymen through nonsexual activity. Some women who are virgins will have already torn their hymens through some type of physical activity, or even tampon use. And, on top of all that, an intact hymen really isn’t proof that you’re a virgin. The hymen becomes very elastic at puberty, so much so that it can remain intact in many women even after intercourse. A study from the Archives of Pediatric Adolescent Medicine in 2004 found that half of the young women who admitted to having sexual intercourse actually still had intact hymens; in some cases, as hymens elasticize at puberty, they can stretch during intercourse without tearing. Some women have even become pregnant with intact hymens. The bottom line is simple—a hymen might tear the first time, it might tear long before that, and, barring delivering a baby vaginally, it might not tear at all.

#book: how sex works #virginity myth #hymen #biology #science #sexuality

[batcavescolony]

just saw someone say Rick Riordan making a TV show is just as bad as anything JKR has done. BFFR you're comparing Rick Riordan trying to make his world more inclusive, changing some parts because of money/time constraints, or just making changes cus he thinks they're needed, to JKR being a terrible person!

#and not to say Ricks work is perfect. ill be the firat to tell you his mistakes. his aspec rep is shit. his minorities rep has problems #he has general time line problems. im not says hes perfect but he tried from a good place #jkr named a character ChoChang. her Scottish character blow stuff up and tried to make alcohol. named a black character Shackelbolt #like damn get over yourself. #percy jackson #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson and the olympians #percy series #pjo series #pjo #pjo tv show #pjo tv series #pjo tv adaptation #if you wanna say shit about Rick ok. but be correct about it #how is he just as bad as jkr for not using the book he made in the early 2000s an exact script for the TV show being released in 2024? #and they yall had the audacity to be pissed when he didn't put a song about sex thats literally says `fuck her face° in the background of #LITERAL 12 YEAR OLDS in a place with memory altering properties..... thats whats you wanted. children getting high to a song about sex. #°oH bUt iN tHe mOvIe tHaT i WaTcHeD wHeN i waS tWeLvE' where the actors where like what 18? and weren't 12? that one? 🙄 #some of you are getting on my nerves. yes the show's pacing is eh really thats a reason to curisfy Rick Riordan? thats what you're deciding #this is the line? a tv show thats on its first season and is more accurate then the movies that came out? #good to know

[gxlden-angels]

I think it's so funny when Christian flat out reject the concept of being intersex like oh so me and about 2% of the population aren't real but you expect me to believe homeboy's gonna come back after (holy) ghosting us for over 2000 years?

#I plan on coming out to my dad as trans this weekend #And thought about the time I explained what intersex is to my uncle #and how he flat out refused to except it as a real thing #which is fuckin wild #male and female should be used as adjectives not nouns #cause there's so many factors that contribute to biological sex that it'd be easier to say every person is their own sex #but yea i'm medically considered intersex cause of my flavor of PCOS #and other issues #it's just so wild cause you'd think that would be a great 'miracle' for them to brag about #'Look at science say there's female and male but Jesus says in Galatians there is no male and female because we are all one in Christ.' #Like the opportunity was literally right there #oh well #florida gov ronald desantis if ur reading this you know what would be so fuckin funny for you to say right now? #also I'll be back on the book soon I've been Working. got 38.5 hours the past 2 weeks tho let's gooo (limit is 40 as a pt student) #[pt working and full time student not pt student] #bro fundie christians' obsession with sex/genitalia in general is fuckin wild #ex christian #religious trauma

[crimeronan]

Princess AU Eda is so funny because she’s the only one who will point blank ask Luz if she and Hunter are together and if not “then what the fuck is happening in and around my house”

HAHAHA. GOD.

eda at first is like "so your guard out there -- relic from belos?? does he give you a hard time??" and luz is like "oh!! no, that's hunter, he's my, uh...." and then is like do i -- do i say cousin, or best friend, or -- i mean he IS those things but are they even an accurate shape of our relationship. wow we really need some kind of word for this that's more equal than 'captain guard eternal servant guy'

eda: oHO. ahahaha. boyfriend? please tell me he's your boy toy. that would be So Funny

luz: oh uh, no, no, i. i don't. i don't....... think.... so....?

eda: ....you're not SURE??

luz, starting to flap: I - I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT DATING, HE JUST SLEEPS IN MY BED, HOW WOULD I-

eda, already planning a call to raine: oh, for Fuck's-

#cue eda like wait do you know what sex is. wait do i know how human sex works. do i have any human books around here #this is very silly. but i am charmed. #replies #toh #princess luz au #horrible mindscape trauma pals #eda clawthorne #luz noceda #hunter toh

[winepresswrath]

Did you know that Lestat predicted don't want to be evil i want to be loved/evil again.

#the twist is that he's evil again because he wants to be loved and sexy villain gets him the most attention #which is basically being loved #ok i'm now having lestat thoughts because the thing about louis is #he's attractive to lestat precisely because he feeds into all of lestat's abandonment issues #and lestat made him like that! not deliberately or consciously but still. yearning for your deepest fears #your mother was withholding and your first love was depressed? have i got a banger for you #press reads iwtv #this book is really opening my third eye #do i like what i'm seeing? no. #however i've gotta say there's a huge difference between how rice handles the sex ick (deliberate provocative gross but like #it's art. she's doing it on purpose for her work take it or leave it ) #and the racism ick which is. anne u are too confident. anne. anne please stop. anne this isn't working

[cuckyfuck]

oh no u got it on ur skirt oh nooo

#ok fine i drew her with clothes on but they’re also putting somethign up their butt #i think that’s how compromise works right #sit on it and TWIRL #no sit on it and READ #she’s reading a book about how trauma effects ur sex life #cuckylol #their ass hair is censor enough r right

[coffeeandcalligraphy]

NOT TO BE DRAMATIC BUT FIRST 1K OF SUNLESS GROUND WRITTEN!!! a little bit:

She and Darren have been at the cabin for eight months. It belongs to a college friend of his—an arcing property flanked by evergreens and nothing more. She could lie to herself. Say she’s gotten used to waking every morning at yolky dawn in the bedroom she occupies alone. She’s gotten used to the scalding silence at midnight and gotten used to lighting the candlestick on the nightstand even in the middle of the day. The same instant peach oatmeal Darren keeps buying every time he treks out to the city because she said she liked it once. She can’t bring herself to tell him she can’t handle the flavour anymore, the way she’s gotten used to it and the way she’s gotten used to her hair getting longer, nearly touching her shoulders, the way she’s gotten used to her waxen face in the bathroom's uncovered mirror. She could lie. But nothing changes the truth even when she stays up all night, rocking back and forth, hoping something will. She made it out—no more running, no more hiding. It’s a good thing, and yet the prospect is so lonely, so frightening, that she sometimes considers walking into the woods until she makes it out the other side a woman who did not survive alone.

#REEVE POV!!!!!!! #holyyyy i thought I forgot to write with her and then it all came back #I love how beautiful and literary reeve's pov is just wait till we get to harrison's he's gonna be making sex jokes #ALSO I WROTE VIRTUALLY ALL OF THIS TONIGHT LMAOOO #i realize that i can just work on this concurrently with my other stuff because the writing is so dumb that i can handle that #tho actually i don't mean THIS writing is dumb this prose is fantastic LOL #that's more relevant for harrison's pov but in general the SV/SG brain is so different that it's not a hassle to write this and #multiple other things #also weird that this book is sunless ground because i've been used to seeing my sideblog username for like a year as that LOL #BUT I LOVE THE TITLE!! #also yolky is stolen from my changing states description <3 #i'm considering doing a 10k day for SG just to get the plot rolling a little bit LOL just like I did with SV! #maybe not that high but maybe at least 5k?? we'll see! #I AM NOT ABLE BODIED ANYMORE LIKE WHEN I DID THAT THE LAST TIME SOOO LOLLLL #sunless ground

[aro-with-bad-aim]

people will call Holden from the catcher in the rye a “manipulative misogynist” but praise 1984 in the same breath

#mentions of sa in tags #mentions of sa #I can’t stand 1984 #The world building was good #I liked the newspeak element of it #but oh my fucking god #the main guy was REVOLTING #and not in a “btw guys he’s a bad person” way #In a “hey guys #this is your hero” kinda way #I’m convinced Orwell had never interacted with a woman #“Oh yes random man from my work who fantasises about sa-ing me id love to have sex with you” #no woman thinks like this #Holden shows so much more respect for women #And he’s also written to be a flawed guy #The book focuses on his inter troubles and how he’s not a great person #but he tries #and he shows WAY more respect to women than winston does #catcher in the rye #1984

[memoriae-lectoris]

It’s long been known that the more promiscuous females of a given species tend to be, the larger the males’ testicles relative to body size. For example, female gorillas are somewhat monogamous, and male gorillas have especially small testicles relative to their body size. Chimpanzees, on the other hand, are seriously promiscuous—and their testicles are ten times the size of those of gorillas on a relative basis. And humans? We’re comfortably—or uncomfortably?—in between. Why the difference in testicle size? It’s all about the competition. Sperm competition, that is. If a female mates with multiple males, the odds that any one of her partners is going to be the one who successfully gets her pregnant drop significantly because the sperm from all those other males are competing to fertilize her egg. How does the male increase his odds of passing his genes on? One way is to overwhelm the competition with numbers.

Besides overwhelming the competition with both sheer numbers and speed, there’s another weapon in the biological arsenal used to fight promiscuity. Some primates have evolved stickier semen. Having sticky semen can work as a physiological stopper; in fact, chimpanzee semen is so thick and firm that it can actually form a plug. This is thought to come in handy when trying to block sperm from subsequent ejaculates of rival chimps.

#book: how sex works #animal #chimpanzee #gorilla #sexuality #reproduction #sperm

[ghoooooooooooooooost]

i owe whoever is running that neocities site my life i was trying so hard to find official art of baroque yesterday n they just have all these images for downloading

the pic i posted in the other post was from "Baroque World Guidance" which i had to get it off. a hentai site

#you'd be surprised how many normal concept/ art books i've gotten from sites meant for anime sex but it doesn't always work 😔 #personal finds

[dorkicon]

bitching abt my job again

tags contain frank mentions of transphobia and homophobia

#this happened like. i dont know. a month ago or something but i still keep playing it in my mind #for those unawares: theres been a fucking community outrage over the pride display at the library i work at #and have been working/volunteering at for 5 years #only it never went up. it never went up. bc the mayor came in as a quote unquote private citizen and demanded it taken down #despite the fact that patrons are required to fill out complaint sheets and even then it isnt ensured a display will be taken down #so obviously its a misuse of power that hes spinning into him being a concerned citizen #and i made a whole post bitching abt it and im doing so again (hi) bc i didnt like how our director responded to it #and yeah. so there was a board meeting after that right. well i set up for them as i usually do and let me tell you. that was the first #--time more than like 6 people came to spectate. it was insane. #and i guarantee that this months meeting wont have half as many people that fucking crammed themselves in there to complain abt gay ppl #bc of course they dont give a shit about the library #they just care about how scary the queers are #and yeah it was a shit show. i learned we have a far right organization in our town #and i was sat right in front of her husband the whole time #(standing actually. i was standing between him and my moms chair and he was sighing and grumbling the whole time bc he couldnt muster the #--balls to ask the 5 foot 2 fag in front of him to please move lol. small victories right) #when i say her i mean the leader of the freaks. idk. chairman? anyway she had a whole speech about how like queers are bad and cutting #the penises off little babies or whatever and she pulled up this passage from a book that was part of the display #its some book by the youtuber rowan ellis-- here and queer i think was the title. it was cataloged in our ya section and contained passages #talking about like having safe sex and what dildoes are and all that kind of shit. just really clinical descriptions imo. im not familiar w #--the youtuber really but im assuming they wrote it as informational bc shocker: teens be having sex. unsafe sex. especially queer teens #sourse: i was one of tgose #and...think for a moment. remember when you were a teen. youd rather fucking DIE than listen to your parents give you the sex talk #and chances are if youre gay your parents arent even going to know WHAT gay sex is (hugging without shirts on) so youre going to look #--elsewhere #bc if youre a hormonal fucking teen youre going to figure it out one way or another! especially if youre from (cough) a podunk shitwater #--town like mine that ran on abstinence by way of sex education #i think teens deserve to have access to that sort of information through trusted means. and i do mean het teens too #but no these fucking morons put on airs like everyones waiting till marriage--no! not my becky sue! as if they werent fucking around in #--holy shit i reached taglimit. i didnt ecen know there was one. hold on

[stupid-lemon-eater]

i read fantine's descent for the first time last night - i had fallen behind on les mis by 10 days so i read it all in one go when i was meant to be going to sleep, and at several points i just had to Stop and stare across my dark bedroom at the mirror and the faint outline of my face lit up by my ipad and just Breathe for a second.

the thing i found most interesting while reading it was just how horrifying it was. as mentioned in the post i just reblogged, fantine had to choose every single time to carve herself away, to give up more and more of herself until she was unrecognisable, and she did it all out of hope and love for her daughter who she doesn't even know was being mistreated, that all her sacrifice was doing was lining thernardier's pockets while cosette still suffered.

and that would be interesting enough as is, but the thing that struck me the most while reading is how all of the actual horror of fantine's fate is stripped from her in adaptations (or at least in the musical/movie) in favour of the lurid idea of her having to go into sex work. the book itself treats fantine going into sex work as another tragic loss on effectively the same level as cutting off her hair, learning how to live in winter with no heat nor light, losing her modest lodgings for an uncomfortable attic with no bedding, her persistent illness or removing her front teeth — it's, "Let us sell what is left!" — what's one more loss on top of everything else, right?

(one could even make an argument that the tooth removal was treated as the most horrifying part of fantine's descent - it certainly was for me, as someone who had two wisdom teeth removed recently! the imagery of her bloody smile with the hole where her front teeth should be lit up by candlelight is definitely one that's going to haunt me.)

but in adaptations, we don't see that slow chipping away of personhood, of identity, of belongings and comfort. it's kicked out of the workhouse - hair cut off - prostitute - dead. bamatabois is changed from an arrogant, wealthy asshole with nothing better to do with his time than torment those less fortunate than him for the crime of merely existing to a potential customer who gets angry when fantine turns him down. by adding that dynamic to their interaction it softens bamatabois' cruelty, makes it less about an act of completely unprovoked dehumanisation and, well, cruelty against someone vulnerable that was answered by that person snapping and lashing out.

bamatabois in the book did not just target fantine because she was a sex worker, but also because her hair was cut, because she had no front teeth, because of how she dressed, how she behaved - in short, she was an acceptable target.

it feels as though the people adapting the novel don't understand that the tragedy and horror of fantine's fate was not the fact that she had to sell sex for money, but the fact that she had to give up everything of herself to the point where she was an unrecognisable wretch drinking brandy to keep the misery at bay with the only thing keeping her alive being her love for cosette. even the tooth removal, when it is adapted, is changed to her back teeth, making fantine's loss less visible and more palatable, and is oft ignored in favour of focusing on fantine's work as a sex worker in a way the book never does, not realising that the sex work was a symptom, not the disease.

#les mis #meta #les mis letters #trying to word the bits about bamatabois without making it sound like i think fantine in any way deserved it was so hard #my brain ain't 100% online so i really hope i worded it properly #anyone should be able to say no to sex regardless of who they are or what their job is #but the dynamic as an observer changes when there is no interaction beforehand to an active conversation before the precipitating event #and that dynamic change is one that reduces the cruelty of bamatabois' actions #anyway petition for filmmakers/musical makers to learn how to write about someone being driven to sex work #WITHOUT the sex work being the focus of the tragedy of their circumstances #lovely ladies is a banger but it misses the point of fantine imo #and i get part of it is shortcuts need to be made in favour of fitting things into the time given #but ehhh #could be done better in future #andie reads books

[arctic-hands]

Uggggh someone on one of the book reddits just recommended someone else a horror novel I absolutely despise and I'm being so brave about not going on a tirade about how boring and pointless the whole book was and the only things that are notable enough to even remember are the basic scientific factual inaccuracies that would have been remedied by a three minute Wikipedia lookup

#the deep by nick cutter #i will shout from the heavens about how pathetic that book is #craig davison #millipedes don't work like that #bee sex does not work like that

[barebevil]

finally cracked 30k on book 2. can i get a wahoo up in this bitch

#i wrote the first draft of book on in my the trilogy im working on so hilariously fast that writing book 2 has felt like #like. snail writing. skjfngkjsfngjd book 1 i wrote twice as much in half the time. but i was also writing my masters diss at the same time #so that explains it #i always do less when i have less to do. u know how it is #anyway #in the immortal words of my friend mayrav. sex death and horses