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alicanta77 · 3 years

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NCT Dream love languages

Mark:

his favourite way to show love is through quality time. he is so busy that nothing means more to him than this. after a long day he’ll still make sure to find time to go and see you, sometimes he doesn’t speak, or doesn’t speak much. but you know that him taking the time to come and see you shows his love. he’ll travel for days and miles and give up nights of sleep just to spend time with you. his favourite way to receive love is also through quality time. any time that he’s not working he wants to be with you, whatever state he’s in, you can easily make him feel better and whenever you go out of your way to see him, his heart just sings. somehow, when he falls into your embrace, all thoughts of work and stresses of the day just melt off him and he finally feels relaxed. mark claims that your presence is magic, warming his whole soul and reminding him how loved he is. all he needs to do is see you, and he’s okay. you show him that someone is always on his side, no matter what

Renjun:

his favourite way to show love is through acts of service. although he may complain about you being lazy when you ask him to get you a glass of water, he will always get up and make sure to get you a glass of water with a few ice cubes in it cause he knows you like it cold. he does what you ask, and makes it even better, because he thinks you deserve the best and so that is what he will do his best to give you. sometimes he does the small things without thinking about it, like taking off your makeup when you’re too tired to do it yourself, or making sure that his cupboard is always stocked with your favourite snack. renjun appreciates nothing more than you telling him how much you love him. bonus points if you hold his face as you do. words of affirmation can reach his soul better than anything else. he loves to watch you when you speak, your eyes sparkling as you talk about something you’re passionate about, and when your eyes sparkle when talking about him, renjun knows he’s in love. renjun always likes to listen to you talk, and even though he‘ll never admit it, listing reasons you love him always makes his heart skip a few beats

Jeno:

unless it’s in a song, jeno isn’t too good with words, and having any big romantic gestures just always make him feel a bit awkward. that’s why he loves it when love is shown in simple everyday ways. and acts of service is both his favourite way to show and receive love. between a busy job, and constantly being watched by management, it’s not like you have a lot of time together, but the simple things like bringing some food to the practice rooms, or making him breakfast in the mornings so that you could be up and spend time before he leaves just remind him of how much he loves you. and he brings you your favourite drink in the mornings, writes you notes to tell you where he’s gone. a lot of these are done without thinking because it’s become instinct for him to love you. and seeing how loving him has become instinct for you as well just makes him feel like the luckiest person alive. your lives don’t revolve around the other person, but they are the foundation of it, as if, without them, you wouldn’t be able to remember how to survive. though jeno may not be great at saying it, he will always show you how much he treasures you

Hyuck:

physical touch is a huge form of comfort for hyuck and shows perfectly just how much he loves you. it is, and always will be, his favourite way to show love. if you’ve had a bad day, he’ll simply open up his arms and just let you fall into them. he always strokes your cheek with his thumb when he holds your face, he plays with your hair whenever you’re cuddling, and he likes to surprise you with random hugs and kisses at any given time. it’s a reminder that he’s there, not just emotionally, but literally right there beside you for as long as you’ll let him. physical touch is also his favourite way to receive love. the same way he comforts you is the way he caves to be comforted. melts whenever you play with his hair, or surprise him with hugs or randomly come and sit on him. and just hums in contentment whenever he’s in your arms. hyuck doesn’t like to just be close to you, he has to be touching you in some way to feel better. holding onto you, or being held reminds him that you’re his, and he has something so absolutely amazing in his life. hyuck needs that reminder because he often can’t quite believe he’s that lucky

Jaemin:

jaemin shows his love both through physical touch and quality time. he loves to cuddle you and hugs and kisses are always a must, but sometimes he’s just having one of those days and all he wants to do is sit in silence and just know that you’re there. he’s not always going to smother you in kisses and attention, but he is always going to be right by your side if you need him. he’ll never leave you feeling like you’re alone. he’ll make time for you no matter what, and makes sure to give you his undivided attention whenever he can. you are, and always will be, a priority for him. jaemin is a surprisingly insecure person, his biggest fear is about how his idol persona is different from who he is in real life, especially when he was younger. he gets nervous that you deserve someone better than him and your words of affirmation reassure him like nothing else can. you can completely put him at ease, saying how you love him for him and listing reasons as to why he’s perfect for you. whenever he’s having a bad day the boys know just to call you, you always seem to know the right thing to say to him. you bring comfort, security and love all in just a few words and jaemin is forever grateful that he has someone who understands him as well as you do

Chenle:

chenle loves to spoil you within an inch of your life, so his favourite way to show love is through gifts he just sees something and if it reminds him of you, then he buys it. you’re always on his mind somehow and this shows through the amount of things he gets you. sometimes they’re large and expensive, but more often than not, it’s something small but incredibly personal, like that cactus by your bedside table cause he noticed it was your favourite shade of green, or the flower hair clip that you use because he thought the rose on it reminded him of you. he sees you everywhere and doesn’t even realise it himself. although he would never admit it, his favourite way to receive love is physical touch. just the simple things like the fact that you never forget to give him a goodbye kiss, even if you’re annoyed at him. the way that you stroke his hair when he’s stressed calms him down to the point where he often falls asleep in your lap. chenle had never thought of himself as a touchy person, but theres something so intoxicating about your touch that makes him never want to leave your arms. if he could, he would just curl up around you like a koala and never let go

Jisung:

quality time is and always will be jisung’s favourite way to show and receive love. no matter where he is, he wants you there. if he’s in the dance studio, he wants to be teaching the dance to you, or just making fools out of yourselves, or just letting music play in the background as you sit and chat. if he’s in the dorm, he wishes that you were sat next to him, watching this movie too, or playing the same game. he tried to find time with you whenever he can, and whenever you do the same he just feels special. when you take time out of your day, or push things back so that you can see him he almost doesn’t know how to react. you prioritising him shows to him how much you care because he’s important. it’s simple to love each other, you just need to make time to see the other person and that time together will be special no matter what because you’re together. being around you puts always puts jisung in a good mood, and he doesn’t really know how. he wants to be around you all the time, and will do anything for that feeling that you give him to be all that he feels forever

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tricewithaz · 3 years

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yes zoyalai at the beach please!!

love the enthusiasm

(gonna mesh the last one too cause i think it applies)

So listen zoya has never been to an actual beach. shes been at harbors and ports and ships, a couple of cliffs, but never.... a beach. and Nikolai just cant accept this fact so he takes her to a beach in kerch while theyre there. its weirdly tranquil considering how hectic ketterdam is.

its not even that hot but nikolai just kinda takes half of his clothes off and zoya is kind of like ????????????

But its sweet really, when he takes off his boots and vest and pulls the hem of his pants up and just kind of gets into the water??? Zoya canr help but watch in silence cause he truly seems to be at home. He rubs water onto his hair and neck and just walks around, its lowkey calming.

She follows his example, puts her hair up and gets rid of her stockings and boots and gets into the water too. her skirt gets wet and she hates it.

and all she does its exclaim "ITS COLD" and nikolai cant do anything but laugh. He isnt used to this zoya and ots endearing, cause shes shrinking into her self and trying to walk in the water and just by the expression on her face he can tell that she hates the texture of sand.

She picks up her dress to walk on the water, and lowkey looks like a little duck

She touches seaweed. She screams. He cackles.

Its a bit chilly but zoya thinks the breeze is nice. plus it messes up nikolais hair and shirt so thats a plus.

and he looks almost boyish, like this is the best day in the life of small nikolai lantsov. theres a huge smile on his face and his cheeks and nose get a bit sunburn. Its not the first time shes seen him like that, its standard for him whenever hes in a ship, but she admires it regardless.

She uses her powers to hit him in the butt with water. he acts offended. she acts clueless. Ofc he takes his revenge and splshes her up to her waist. and then she just.... provokes a wave and soaks him whole and yes she looks at his soaked shirt for a bit too long

at some point she gives up and lets her skirt fall and it floats and she looks like a flower ✨

she walks into the water a lot and trips when she reaches that ome dip that gets deeper than before, her heart gets to her throat for a moment there. Nikolai picks her up and prevents her from falling keeping her close to his chest but not without laughing at her "it has to get deeper at some point zoya the entire ocean is like that and it just gers deeper and deeper and deeper" and hes nonchalant about it but all hes doing is freaking the both of them out more and more

textures at the beach are 🤢 and zoya is constantly screaming WHAT THE HELL WAS THAT specially when the things touching her feet are alive and sentient

They fight and wrestle Nikolai just picks zoya up and throws her into the water. she makes him dive in too. clothes and all

underwater her hair looks like a halo ✨✨✨

But they just laugh a lot while splashing each other to the point their stomachs hurt and all.

They need to get out of water at some point but they stay at the shore, sOAKED, they get full of sand and zoya hATES it so MUCH she complains a LOT and frowns and Nikolai all but looks at her with the biggest smile on his face.

they sit at the shore and build sand castles with shells and all

in fact they just kind of build the entire os alta palace and discuss everhthing like Real Architects™

When the tides come in and destroy a bit they get all fussy about it, like little kids

btw zoyas hair gets super frizzy and a lot of curls fall on her face despite her trying to keep her hair up with a hairstick. she kinda hates it cause its difficult to manage and it tangles but nikolai thinks she looks gorgeous.

while building castles he talks to her about his childhood summers at the beach. For once she doesnt comment on how he talks too much or anything, and for once he isnt snarky. He talks about his fond memories with a soft voice and sparkly eyes and she just listens in silence, with a small smile cause shell store this memory forever, as well as the other thousands of good memories she gets in her twenties. Suddenly she kind lf loves the beach.

He thinks hell talk about this afternoon too, to his children and his other friends and hell talk about how zoya much zoya complained and hated the sea. Hell keep how her curls framed her face and how she stared into the sea for himself tho.

Oh, as evening approaches she isnt frowning, in fact her expression seems quite tranquil and she smiles. Nikolai thinks that she doesnt do it often cause if she did everyone around them would faint at the sight

when the sun starts setting it reflects into his eyes and makes his hair more golden than usual and he looks so warm.

But when the setting sun frames her neck and her cheekboke nikolai understands for a minute the concept of saints.

They leave the sand palace there and the next day when other families come into the beach theyre so impressed ejejrbje

they get waffles and eat them at the wall that separates the streets from the beach observing the sunset and the sea at night. And the breeze is so nice, zoya thinks she could stay here forever. they both wish they could just live there, together

They walk the shore together hand in hand, chat a bit in the night. the reflection of the moon in the sea, in her eyes, will always be slmething he links to zoya. Her hand is cold and soft, and his is firm and warm, a big contrast to the water at her feet but its a contrast she likes.

They return a lot after the first time the go together to the beach, and zoya just kind of.... naps in the sand

Back at the embassy Nikolai brushes zoyas hair cause she just fucking hates it and she just cant deal with this rn

And her hair smells like seawater and he just kinf of combusts

The next day her skin looks a bit darker and glowier and her hair is a bit frizzy.... well you know how he feels about it.

its just a very nice experience for both of them

#ask #ask box #answered #zoyalai #nikolai lantsov #zoya nazyalensky #hc

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kacchaneatsass · 5 years

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AaaaAAAAAAGGHHH I saw some headcanons of poly shinsou and tamaki and now I just,,,,,,, my bois w a second year boyf who is cocky and will stab a bitch if they insult his loves????? Headcanons or scenario I ain’t picky - Crackhead gay (I’m ur new anon now lol hi)

YES PLEASE BE MY NEW ANON I STAN THE CRACKHEAD GAY AND WILL BOW TO THE FEET OF POWER also these ended up being a hell of a lot longer then I intended them to be??? So theres that. Also, NSFW near the bottom so be warned, sluts

Hitoshi x Male!Reader x Tamaki

You and Tamaki were dating during your first year

He fell in love with the way you constantly stood up for him and sheilded him when he was having an anxiety attack and just sort of stuck to you ever since

You never complained, loving the backwards and oftentimes shy attention and affection you received from him

When you both moved up a year, and witnessed the mess that was the first years coming into UA, you both came to each other at the same time to talk about the purple haired boy in the support course

Oof both of you fell in love at first sight, and band together to try and win him over

Since you're hella outgoing, you do most of the chatting him up and let Tama do his shy thing while you both win him over together

You two have to ask him out since Shinsou doesn't want to get in the way of your pre-existing relationship

You three make the absolute perfect relationship

Tama's the one who makes sure you two are all prepared for everything and are always at the top of your games, makes sure everyone took their meds and drank their water and ate breakfast and has all their work done

Shinsou makes sure you and Tama take the time to calm down and relax, will force the three of you to dogpile and take a nap. Will force the three of you to take every other weekend off of work or school and just be together, since one of you is always running somewhere or another. He thinks its important for you three to take the time to appreciate each other and be around the others

And you? You're the protector of the group

Shinsou had a rough childhood and its hard for him to stand up for himself, while Tama has severe anxiety

So you're the one to roughhouse and beat up on anyone who even thinks of saying one wrong word about the loves of your life

They both admire you for it, even though they wont outright say it

Tamaki loves how your rough and tumble personality brings your trio closer

Thinks its hilarious when he wakes up at one in the morning on a Saturday to see you and Shinsou rough housing and wrestling on the floor because Shin couldn't sleep again and you were trying to wear him out

Shinsou almost started crying when someone said he had a 'Villian Quirk' at UA and you immediately punched them in the face, knocking out two of their teeth and breaking four of your knuckles in the process

He and Tama weren't at all happy that you got in a fight, as well as recieved detention for it, but they were both so proud of you and so happy that you stood up for the baby in your relationship

They don't know where the cocky attitude you practically ooze in school goes when you three get home, but they aren't complaining when they get to see the sappy soft side of you

Speaking of the relationship baby, you and Tama absolutely smother Shinsou

He's just so smol and innocent and both of you have gone through hell and back both inside and outside of school, that you both feel the compulsive need to protecc and love this tired bean

Hes three years younger then Tama, and two younger then you since he's one of the youngest in his class, but that's never stopped him

They love having nights in with you

When all of your schedules align and Tamaki makes dinner while Shinsou makes a blanket fort and you go back and forth between them while trying to decide on what disney movie you want to watch this week

Its just so wholesome

Mirio and Nejire always say that when you three adopt or decide whose knocking some random lady up, they want to babysit

Oof I kinda wanna do NSFW

OKAY NSFW BELOW (AGED UP)

Surprisingly, you and Tama didn't do anything sexual together besides light kissing before Shinsou

You always thought Tama was ace and he never wanted to make you do something you didnt want to

So when Shinsou came into the picture, and wormed his way into your sexual relationship as well, he was the one to absolutely smash the sexual tension you two had into pieces

Light petting but heavy makeouts soon follow, but none of you go any further then that till Shinsou's past 18

So imagine the surprise when you and Tama come home after work to your trio's shared apartment the week after Shinsou's 18th birthday to see said boy sprawled on the bed jerking himself off

Little bitch just keeps going and casually invites you two to join him

And thats the story of how you and Tamaki found out that Shinsou's a massive bottom and had been using a butt plug and various dildos to stretch himself for weeks prior

Little cocksucker had planned this

You can just give him the Look™️ and he's on his knees with his mouth open

Don't get me wrong, baby boy has a strong ass dom streak in him, but he's so quick to just melt under both of your gazes that it never really presents itself in the bedroom

Tama's really really shy at first

Will barely even touch you two

But when he sees the heavy petting happening between you and Hitoshi then he's all in

Anxiety? Whose she? We don't know her

When it comes to you two he's so much more confident

Has subby tendancies though

So you're the dom

Good fucking luck taking care of your two subby babies

They both want you on them at the same time

Hhhhhhhhhh

You end up having to compromise a lot

You'll have your dick in Hitoshi's ass while you use a bullet vibrator on Tama

Poor babies will be crying by the time you're done with them

Tama can't get off without physical contact, so be mindful of that and take the time to suck him off

Hitoshi has (and probably will again) cum a second time just to you licking his cum off his chest after he shoots his load

Poor baby gets overstimulated wayyyyy too fast, but loves being overstimulated, so you and Tama definitely take advantage of that

Tamaki's literally only considered a switch because of how much he LOVES seeing Hitoshi cry from overstimulation

Both of you will sit over him and coo dotingly as he shoots load after load after load until he's run himself dry

Tama will run the bath while you wrap the baby boi up in a blanket and carry him to the bathroom

Will 100% fall asleep while you two clean each other and him up after your practically marathon session

Sleepy boi will only wake up long enough for you two to stand him up and dry him off, and then he's out again

None of you sleep with clothes on anymore, its just more comfortable

Shinsou sleeps in the middle, while Tamaki spoons him and you wrap your arms around both of them

Relationship Goals 101

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maximuswolf · 4 years

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Is there anything I can do on my side to help with this? via /r/BPD

Is there anything I can do on my side to help with this?

First attempt at committed relationship need advice

I’m a 28m I’ve been with my partner 36f for around a year and a half It’s been full of short lived highs followed by many lows My background: I don’t have great relationship experience myself I never actually wanted a committed relationship until me and my ex broke ( we started as fwb ended up getting on amazingly well and had a very strong team like relationship going on , eventually it dawned on me that things were getting very serious and she has two of her own kids , I wasn’t ready for that lifestyle so we agreed to part ways) after that I felt I was truly ready to go for a committed relationship in line with my life goals (plans to travel) , before this I actively didn’t want a relationship I was more into fwb arrangements , I’d had a couple of relationships in my late teens/early twenties which i pretty much just ended up in knowing I was ready for it yet , none of them were bad relationships I’d ended them due to me knowing it’s not what I wanted (I’m aware I’m an asshole for entering them in the first place)

Her background: In her teens she started a 10 year relationship which was nothing other than abusive , constant cheating on both sides it was constant hurt and abuse according to her , she then had a few relationships which haven’t really been spoken about in between and then she met her ex at work who she’d been with for 10 years , she said she new from the off she didn’t love him or what they had and he didn’t have the lifestyle she wanted (they’d work together , come home and sit infront of the tv all evening on repeat) she said it was just easy , other things to note she doesn’t get on with her parents

Fast forward: She started working at my place and we got on like a house on fire , she didn’t tell me she had a boyfriend but I’d heard it from someone else and found it on her Facebook (she wasn’t aware I knew) so I ended up backing off abit , she then started getting really friendly with another guy at work who’s the same age , same shape ,same hair/beard style , similar interests as me and would actively flirt heavily with him infront of me , I didn’t react.. she then went out with him to a festival/met his mom and at work that week she told the guys I work with about it knowing they’d tell me (she eventually admitted this) once I found out I reacted by giving up on the idea of me and her , later that week she turns up at my house saying she did it to see if I get jealous so she knows if I like her , I told her I do and that’s when she confessed she has a bf and needs to leave him , after this she started to tel me how much the other lad at work fancies her/is in love with her (she’d constantly becoming to me saying all the things he’d said and playing the love songs to me that he’d sent her all with a massive grin trying to get a reaction but I knew what she was doing so never reacted) that just got worse and she started meeting him more , I confronted her on it after the 3rd or 4th time and said if this happens again I’m done it’s so disrespectful towards me and I will not tolerate it , she agreed and said she can see how wrong it is and how sorry she is for it and that’s it’s bad what she was doing to him as this lad really really liked her , a week later she’s back saying she’s met him again and I said were done , I managed to keep out her way for abit but she kept trying and trying with me until I gave In, on top of that everytime I was around her at work around another male she’d be talking heavy sexual stuff and I could see she was going extra knowing I was there , I called her out on this

After that things became seriously intense between us , she’d told me all about her traumas in life , literally everything about her expecting me to do the same , I found it strange but thought due to the intensity of the love I’ll do the same , there was a lot of strange deep questions from the off , but everything felt like a true love story during this period and almost felt unreal , after about 4 months things took a major turn , constant off and on behaviour at any moment I could change between one or the other , it almost seems as if it comes in cycles I’ll get a few weeks of her been okayish followed by a month of heavy off and on heavy short intense moments of love followed by complete offness until I finally explode (I stopped reacting/pointing out what she was doing and tried to accept her for who she is until it would become to much) I was then been told I was manipulating, gaslighting , controlling , when I’d ask how there be zero response just complete silence when I’d ask how I’m doing any of this , she’d always say these things to me just after she’d been doing them and I’d give her straight examples of how she was being manipulative, gaslighting controlling ect (I learnt the terms from her), another example she was convinced she is a physcopath , eventually she started to say she thinks I’m one and it would make me burst out laughing each time she said I was one , from that each time I’d laugh she’d start crying and saying don’t take the mick out of me so I stopped laughing and eventually started to believe that I’m a physcopath, after a short bit of research this is exactly we’re I learnt what projection was , since her going to therapy she finally has realised she’s not a physcopath and hasn’t said I’m one either , again when I’d ask how am I one there’s be no examples or explanation for it The cycles started going her been off with me for days on end , completely denying being off when I ask her what’s up (one word answers for everything , not talking to me touching me or even looking at me) she’d always say ‘why what’s up with you’, she’d then be praying on my every move waiting for me to mess up , as soon as I would it would explode and all sorts of random accusations would be thrown at me , when I say mess up it’s normal something as simple as me turning the bedroom light off before she’s got into bed , some of the accusations were complete ludacris and as usual I’d ask for examples or where she’s got it from and she’d just go completely silent , anytime I’d stand up to her accusations and ask for how she’s got there that would be me ‘telling her she’s wrong all the time’ , ‘not validating her feelings’ ect. Examples She’d say I’m destroying her , I’d ask how or what am I doing to destroy her then thered be silence and I’d get the old ‘not validating her feelings’ or ‘I’m telling her Shes wrong all the time’ This has been a very common thing , her throwing something similar to that at me , me simply saying ok how have you got to that conclusion what am I doing , no answer , conversation steered to how I’m not validating her feelings ect

Ontop of this when I’ve stated boundaries or my own feelings , like I went through a period were my sex drive dipped , I made it clear it was not related to her it was me going through a rough patch in lockdown , she piled on intense sexual pressure and new sexual needs from that moment onwards

When I’m having a bad day I’ll straight up tell her why ‘I slept crap last night so I’m feeling pretty anxious and low today so I’m not myself it’s not related to anything with us’ that would always cause her to go off with me no matter how much I reassure her I’m not feeling like this due to the relationship, it’s cause I’ve not slept well , I’ve had a stressful day at work ect

These cycles are still continuously happening sometimes I feel like we’re past them other times they seem to be more frequent and more intense

We just had a months break and I explained my problems in this are the constant on/off behaviour, setting me up to ‘slip up’ so there was a reason for her on/off behaviour, not letting me go through my own shit and having bad days , there the main ones I’ve highlighted and have brought up on numerous occasions

Throughout the relationship when she’s exploded I’ve constantly asked what am I doing wrong in this? To which she can’t come up with anything , I study my own behaviour deeply and struggle to pinpoint it to cause there must be something I’m aware that I must be playing some part In this but can’t figure it out, after each explosion/cycle there’s always new and obsurd reasons for her behaviour it’s always got a different reason behind it , she even recently told me it was normal woman behaviour all of them are like this

We met yesterday to signal the end of the break and to talk , I asked what her thoughts were on us and she said she hasn’t really thought cause she knows she’ll just get told she’s wrong , I’d turned up with the intention of ending things but I just ended up in awe of her as she seemed really different and we got on really well

I ended the chat by asking her to state her problems in this and cause her to treat me like this they were all new ones.. 1.she gives more , when I asked the whys and how’s she got to this there was to answers which I said fair enough to Sexually she gives more , I admitted to this and explained again about my sex drives and certain things she’d said to me in the past like ‘don’t worry about me I really like just giving to you’ and the other was that when we go away for a drive I don’t put half the petrol in which she’s never ever stated , we’ve been away about 15 times and on 3 of those occasions when she’s gone to get petrol I’ve got out the car filled the tank and paid for it (she normally tried to stop me doing it) but this would cover 6 of those trips She’s cooked for me a few times and cleaned my house and then complains that I do nothing for her , it turned out that I’ve helped with what I can , I can barely cook but started to learn to when she said I don’t cook for her , other than that she’s completely renovating her House and I’ve offered and helped every step of the way , I’ve spent numerous times helping or asking if I can help , she’s currently out of work and I’ve offered to pay her bills and mortgage until she’s sorted

She doesn’t like how I point out her behaviour (I do this pretty much at the end of each cycle when I’ve finally had enough of the silent treatment) or that I used the word behaviour , she doesn’t like how I don’t validate her feelings ( this is when she’ll throw a statement at me and ask her how she’s got there and she has no answer , for some things she will have an answer and I’ll then give it to her and say fair enough I can see that now and I’ll do something about it which I do , but I’f I don’t agree or she has no explanation for her statements it’s me telling her she’s wrong)

And the third is that she never knows where she stands with me , note on that every single argument we’ve had right from the beginning right up to this moment she’s asked if I’m leaving her , I left her once and that was after the whole psychopath incident, when she said she doesn’t know where she stands I asked how and she said she feels like I’m just going to break up with her at any moment

My points to her were: 1. The same I’ve been saying for atleast a year about being off with me for days on end ect. I’ve explained I’ve got no problem with her having problems and it’s never really the outcome of her explosions that bother me , it’s more the constant off and on treatment I get that bothers me , I’ve said that when she’s off (she’ll deny it but knows it) that it’s perfectly ok for her to say to me that she needs abit of space to herself to sort out wether it’s something in herself or something she needs to raise to me , or if it’s just a bad day for her to state that she’s just having a bad day it’s not to do with us

2.she needs to communicate her issues , like if me not putting exactly half the fuel in is an issue I need to know

That she needs to listen to me and let me have bad days in myself without her being off with me about it

That I never know where I stand because of the constant off/onness it comes out of literally know where and can change at any moment

TD;LR , first time trying in a committed relationship, do I just not understand woman or how they work or is this not right?

Submitted September 18, 2020 at 07:15AM by Fai_Kirby via reddit https://ift.tt/3iJC4OG

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maximuswolf · 4 years

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Is it likely my partner has BPD? via /r/BPD

Is it likely my partner has BPD?

These cycles are still continuously happening sometimes I feel like we’re past them other times they seem to be more frequent and more intense

And the third is that she never knows where she stands with me

2.she needs to communicate her issues , like if me not putting exactly half the fuel in is an issue I need to know

That she needs to listen to me and let me have bad days in myself without her being off with me about it

That I never know where I stand because of the constant off/onness it comes out of literally know where and can change at any moment

TD;LR , first time trying in a committed relationship, do I just not understand woman or how they work or is this not right?

Submitted September 18, 2020 at 06:52AM by Fai_Kirby via reddit https://ift.tt/32E2knY

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