more and more i become of the opinion my dogs are not reactive to strange dogs but in fact it is unreasonable to expect them to NOT be reactive when the dogs we pass are unwalked, understimulated rural hellions that thrash at the windows of their houses, bark at us and follow us for entire lengths of properties, snarl at us, run at us with tense body language etc.
is this because a neighbor (who does skijor!) moved in half mile down the road from us a half a year ago with the most polite, unreactive dog that my dogs glance calmly at as they walk by? as it is unrestrained (no underground fence) on the property? absolutely is.
is this because a few years ago a neighbor's very nice pitbull mix got out and when it walked up to us with polite calm body language my dogs reacted just as calm and we were able to walk this dog home? absolutely is.
like i am a human woman and have lived in areas with much larger populations than i do now. i remember being followed by strangers, yelled at by strangers in aggressive ways. it made me tense and yes...reactive in those moments to ensure my own safety and needs were met. but was it my fault for having to react that way? To call friends and family and be on the phone any time that i walked alone? to check in when i got to where i was going? to bring pepper spray and iron knuckles to walk less than 10 minutes away from home? I don't think it is. Rather it's the failure that allows that behavior towards me which is at fault. i should not have had to carry those things with me. or call a single soul.
same with my dogs. my dogs aren't reactive, i'm just the only person who walks my damn dogs in my rural neighborhood. even though we can walk for 4+ miles either way on safe dirt roads out of our driveway before we reach pavement. nobody else. walks. their. fucking. dogs. yes i manage my dogs behaviors, it can be embarrassing when they get riled up, but know what? it is not their fault so many other dogs fucking SUCK. and it is not those dogs' fault that they suck either. i encountered more politely behaved dogs when i lived in the suburbs and city than i do now because those dogs at least had some sort of experience with being around other dogs (passing them on the sidewalk even) out of necessity. Rural people truly just throw their dogs outside and expect that to be enough. if you're lucky they install a little underground fence that will maybe keep fido in the yard (like uwu WE don't want to have a look at a fence and we're going to make all our neighbors GUESS if our dog might run into the road at them uwu).
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Hey can we stop being assholes please
TW: implied slurs, suicidal thoughts, SA (sort of?)
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you aren't cool when you use racial slurs or homophobic slurs or any other slurs and you aren't cool when you make fun of people who have mental health problems or disabilities (physical or mental)
"Did you see the (Yes, the n-word im sorry) over there?" Go back to the, like, 1800s please. Racism is not cool. Don't say that word.
"Nobody likes you, you (f-slur, sorry again)." Do you realize how much it hurts when us queer folk hear that? And we hear it a lot. So please don't. We don't need the whole world to hate us. It isn't hard to just be kind.
"Oh, your name is Austin? More like autistic" Okay NOT AN OKAY INSULT. Literally stfu. Autism is not something you should be repulsed by. It's not something you should use as an insult. Autistic people are people just like you.
"People who have anxiety/depression are such weirdos." Yeah thanks, I heard you, now I want to die even more thanks so much. I will gladly off myself so you dont have to deal with such a "weirdo."You've confirmed that nobody wants me here and that people think badly of me. I really appreciate it.
"We should dress up as special Ed kids for halloween cuz then we can pretend to be stupid freaks!" Do you even realize you're talking about another human being. Actually, do you? I'm not sure you do. Be nicer.
All of the above is things I've heard, occasionally they're directed at me. I haven't heard anything much on the next example so bear with me.
Don't do the thing where you call the girl a whore and slut shame her and then pat the guy on the back cuz he got laid. Just, no. Don't make the girl feel like she's done something wrong, then tell the guy good job. STAWP.
Next thing, recent experience, sorry if you're the ppl who have already heard me be pissed about it.
Respect privacy. Respect boundaries. When the person in front of you in line for lunch keeps moving away from you, you're too close, back up. Don't touch their ass. Don't stand so close that you can feel them shaking with fear. And don't try to pull the same thing twice. (btw, i told him off yesterday and it felt very nice).
BASICALLY MORAL OF THE STORY STOP BEING ASSHATS AND THE WORLD MIGHT BE A BETTER PLACE
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alright. hot take time
as someone who both loves Cayde-6, loves Forsaken, loves the ongoing Destiny plotline(s) and the themes therein, and absolutely Does Not Expect Nor Want Cayde to come back to life, i think the way a lot of this fandom treats Cayde-6 is. uh. incredibly fucking unfair.
as a disclaimer, again: i do not want Cayde to come back to life. i know it is not going to happen. i know the ongoing story of Destiny 2 is MUCH more impactful without him here, and i plan on making an in-depth post about it later.
now. that said. please for the love of god stop dragging his character through the mud to prove your point.
"Cayde had no reason to be in TTK" "Cayde was a weak character" "Cayde is a Nathan Fillion stand in" just say you have no grasp on this character and go!! Cayde was an INCREDIBLY well-written character, with an insane amount of depth and lore and emotion hidden behind a careless, aloof mask and it's so obvious if you look at him for longer than two goddamn seconds??
Cayde wasn't a bothersome idiot, and he wasn't incompetent, and "disruptive" wasn't his main quality. he was the optimist. that was literally his role in the story. the comic relief and the optimism. the entire reason that he had to die before we got into the darker storylines like Shadowkeep/Beyond Light/Witch Queen etc. is because, by the nature of being the optimist, he wouldn't fit into the darker narrative that Destiny 2 was about to steer into.
just. say that you don't like him and go. you don't have to like him. stop SAYING that you like him and then dragging his character through the dirt. he has an incredibly interesting story (and backstory) and boiling him down to nothing more than a disruptive asshole is a huge disservice to his character and to Bungie, who made a point of giving him a well-developed backstory, motivation, goals, lore, and a spectacular DLC that they clearly put a lot of time and care into!
(not to mention that whenever anyone tries to point out flaws in Zavala or Ikora to talk about Cayde, at least 2 dozen people will go up in arms about how disrespectful it is to put down another character to talk about the one you like, then will turn around and say Cayde had no narrative purpose or impact when they're trying to garner sympathy for Eris or defend Uldren.)
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A small collection
I do still intend to keep writing the other more detailed How to spot guides for each MBTI type individually, but in the meantime, I collected some interviews with several people of each type that you can click through and maybe it helps you see the similarities not just of the people of the same type, but also based on the high functions that they share. I also tried to not exclusively use native English speakers because I’m personally a bit fed up with the anglocentrism of this site and the internet in general (though of course I’m also constrained in my choices here that I can only use people that I know of, which are mostly European), but if I could find some, I included interviews of them speaking both English and their native language. Even if you don’t understand that language, I still recommend looking into those interviews. Not understanding what someone is saying can sometimes actually help focussing on their body language itself.
INTJ:
Margaret Atwood (writer)
Joyce Carol Oates (writer)
David Fincher (director)
Michael Emerson (actor)
Tom Rachman (writer & journalist)
Patrick Salmen (writer, interview is in German)
Martin Sonneborn (satirist, journalist & politician, interview is in German)
ENTJ:
Katie McGrath (actress)
Keira Knightley (actress)
Nicholas Hoult (actor)
Anthony Head (actor)
Elijah Wood (actor)
Daniel Radcliffe (actor)
Tamsin Greig (actress)
Markus Zusak (writer)
Zach Woods (actor, comedian & director)
Malala Yousafzai (education activist)
INTP:
Harald Lesch (physicist, astronomer & science journalist, interview is in German)
Axel Milberg (actor & writer, interview is in German)
Peter Capaldi (actor)
Jane Goodall (primatologist & anthropologist)
Neil Gaiman (writer)
R.H. Thomson (actor)
Rooney Mara (actress)
Matthias Brandt (actor & writer, interview is in German)
Kai Meyer (writer, interview is in German)
ENTP:
David Tennant & Matt Smith (actors)
Hugh Grant (actor)
Tilda Swinton (actress)
Saoirse Ronan (actress)
Eddie Redmayne (actor)
David Mitchell (writer)
Bill Nighy (actor)
Florence Welch (musician)
Louisa Harland (actress)
Richard Ayoade (comedian, writer, director & actor)
INFJ:
Colin Morgan (actor)
Freddie Highmore (actor)
Barkhad Abdi (actor)
James Phelps (actor, since he’s with his twin: he’s the one on the right)
Ewen Bremner (actor)
Amy Acker (actress)
Rohinton Mistry (writer)
Audrey Magee (writer)
Jenny Erpenbeck (writer, interview is in German)
ENFJ:
Emma Thompson (actress & screenwriter)
Wes Anderson (director & writer)
Ulrich Wickert (journalist & writer, interview is in German)
Marshall Curry (director)
Eleanor Catton (writer)
Alissa York (writer)
INFP:
Kristen Stewart (actress)
Hozier (musician)
Rupert Grint (actor)
Asa Butterfield (actor)
Eddie Marsan (actor)
Helen Oyeyemi (writer)
Christopher Annen (musician, interview is in German)
ENFP:
Andrew Garfield (actor)
Dev Patel (actor)
Katherine Parkinson (actress, plus her being a prime example of intuitives barely knowing how to survive)
Michael Sheen (actor)
Jan Philipp Zymny (writer & comedian, interview is in German)
Chris Columbus (director)
Maggie Stiefvater (writer)
Lisa McGee (screenwriter & playwright)
Lars Eidinger (actor, interview is in German)
Hannah Herzsprung (actress, interview is in German)
ISTJ:
Felicity Jones (actress)
Lindsay Duncan (actress)
Famke Janssen (actress, plus an interview in her native Dutch)
Maggie Smith (actress)
Britt Robertson (actress)
Elizabeth Nunez (writer & professor)
Ken Follett (writer)
Vicky Krieps (actress, plus an interview in her native Luxembourgish with subtitles available, and in German and in French)
ESTJ:
Eliza Taylor (actress)
Letitia Wright (actress)
Charles Dance (actor)
Matt Damon (actor & screenwriter)
Sandra Bullock (actress)
Henry Cavill (actor)
Alba August (actress & musician, plus an interview in her native Swedish and Danish)
Alicia Vikander (actress, plus an interview in her native Swedish with subtitles available)
ISFJ:
Gemma Chan (actress & model)
Laura Dern (actress)
Crystal Reed (actress)
Natalia Dyer (actress)
Arthur Darvill (actor)
Jordan Rodrigues (actor & dancer)
ESFJ:
Olivia Colman & Helena Bonham Carter (actresses)
Lupita Nyong’o (actress)
Bradley James (actor)
Scott Moir (figure skater)
John Krasinski (actor, director & screenwriter)
Carey Mulligan (actress)
Emilia Clarke (actress)
Tom Hopper (actor)
Tomi Adeyemi (writer)
Hugh Jackman (actor)
ISTP:
Christoph Waltz (actor & director, plus an interview in his native German)
Harrison Ford & Ryan Gosling (actors)
Ruth Wilson (actress)
Björk (musician, plus an interview in her native Icelandic)
Devon Bostick (actor)
Mikkel Boe Følsgaard (actor, plus an interview in his native Danish)
Evan Peters (actor)
Christopher Lloyd (actor)
Christian Bale (actor)
Peter Maffay (musician, interview is in German)
ESTP:
Zendaya (actress & musician)
Oscar Isaac (actor)
James Acaster (comedian)
Jodie Comer (actress)
Jördis Triebel (actress, plus an interview in her native German with subtitles available)
Stromae (musician, plus an interview in his native French with subtitles available)
Sabaa Tahir (writer)
Tatiana Maslany (actress)
Emilio Sakraya (actor & musician, interview is in German)
Anya Taylor-Joy (actress, plus an interview in her native Spanish)
ISFP:
Santiago Cabrera (actor, plus an interview in his native Spanish)
Ben Howard (musician)
Tessa Virtue (figure skater)
Karen Gillan (actress)
Rachel McAdams (actress)
Gael García Bernal (actor, plus an interview in his native Spanish)
Audrey Tautou (actress, plus an interview in her native French)
Henning May (musician, interview is in German with subtitles available)
Jannis Niewöhner (actor, plus an interview in his native German)
Évelyne Brochu (actress, plus an interview in her native French)
ESFP:
Tom Holland (actor)
Maisie Williams (actress)
Billie Piper (actress)
Robert Sheehan (actor)
Margot Robbie (actress)
Jim Carrey (actor & comedian)
Omar Sy (actor, plus an interview in his native French)
Taika Waititi (director, actor, comedian & screenwriter)
Alexander Rybak (musician, plus an interview in his native Norwegian and Russian with subtitles available for both)
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