#is that too parasocial

[pilotduty]

art block is hitting me over the head with cartoon hammer right now so heres a little study thing of my wife idk

#its been over a month since i saw him i miss him #is that too parasocial #idc you guys already know im insane xoxo #my stuff #waterparks #awsten knight #waterparks art #parx

[acorviart]

not to sound like a boomer, but I need some people to learn how to write emails in a semi-professional (at the very least) format so you're not cold emailing a business/potential employer/any other stranger about formal matters in the exact same way you'd DM a close friend on instagram

the formality/language can loosen up in the email chain once you've established a rapport and you match the other person if they're being less formal, but please don't have the very first email you send a stranger be written in all lowercase ultra-casual sms slang with no greeting or signature and a billion emojis

#this sounds like a 'argh kids these days doing [insert exaggerated story they don't actually do in reality]' kind of thing #except that I've gotten soooo many emails like this #there's a reason that I don't have my DMs open on any socmed and it's bc they attract people getting way too casual/parasocial immediately #and forcing people to write out an email both filters out 90% of weird impulse messages and also throws them out of that casual headspace #except that I can actively tell when this fails and someone is treating emails as if they're the same thing as DMs

[khruschevshoe]

You know, it's rather interesting to me that Taylor Swift's parasocial relationship with her fans is honestly more akin to a YouTuber than a writer's. When I scroll through her tag on tumblr/Twitter, it's far more regarding the connection to her personal life/relationship developments than the actual metaphors/fictional story she might be telling. Everything comes back to how her songs reflect back on her relationships with Joe/Matty/Travis/Jake/insert ex-boyfriend here. And what fascinates me about it is that even though she complains about it, she leans into that very perception because it strengthens the parasocial bond.

The marketing for TTPD so clearly being about Joe Alwyn and the songs to Matty Healy. The marketing/video for Red TV so CLEARLY being about Jake Gyllenhaal, with so many of the new lines in All Too Well specifically being digs at him (I'll get older but your lovers stay my age, casting an actor that looks like him for the video, specific lines in I Bet You Think About Me). The fact that songs like Getaway Car and Bejeweled and Gorgeous and London Boy and Lavender Haze being picked apart at time of release and long after for signs of relationships crumbling. The way she uses surprise songs in relation to her relationship development with Joe/Matty/Travis. The damn TTPD "stages of grief" playlists where she deliberately undid/changed the meanings of old songs just to keep her audience speculating on her love life.

It's not sexist to point out that her wielding her love life is a marketing tool and that the strongest connection to her audience isn't the strength of her writing/the composition of her music- it's her deliberate crafting of a connection between her music and her personal life, leaving the audience invested in her music as an extension of Taylor the Person/Girlfriend rather than Taylor the Artist.

#taylor swift #anti taylor swift #to an extent #i honestly just view this as an analysis of her marketing strategy #like hates off to her for being the best possible microcosm of parasocial capitalism #girlie really knew how to harness the teen girl market and good for her billionaire self #she knows how to exploit the very tabloid culture that once strangled her #how to become the tabloid itself #and wield that against ex-boyfriends too but you didn’t hear that from me #joe alwyn #matty healy #travis kelce #taylor swift critical #ttpd #red tv #i bet you think about me #getaway car #bejeweled #gorgeous #london boy #lavender haze

[bluedawnflower]

i unsubbed from Watcher today but the people acting like steven lim is the devil and is singularly to blame for Watcher shifting to paywalled streaming are weirdos.

#is he out of touch and seem like he sympathizes way too much with the super rich and powerful? sure. but he's not The Only One To Blame. #you don't have to like steven but saying shit like “we're only here for shane and ryan anyway” is. pretty shitty? #like shayne and ryan had to have agreed to that. if they didn't they could have left. #your parasocial relationship with 2 'goofy ghost boys' is blinding you from seeing they are part of the problem here... #watcher

[measuringbliss]

People are acting so weird and possessive of Markiplier for the whole OnlyFans situation. He's an adult. He's an adult who's been a celebrity for years. He knows people thirst on him. That's why he had this idea in the first place. He's not some naive kid you must protect. He's not some innocent soul that the evil sluts of Tumblr and Twitter will corrupt. He knows the Internet, he knows his fans and he knows his job.

He's an adult and he can make his own choices.

#Markiplier #I've seen quite a few comments expressing discomfort and like. You can just. Not subscribe to his OF???? #That's a possibility. You can block people too. #I think some of you really need to learn about parasocial relationships and reflect on it #He's not your dad #He's not your friend #He's just a dude #A dude who has a job and it just so happens that his job revolves around appearing personable #Don't forget that you don't truly know him and MORE IMPORTANTLY he doesn't know YOU #He probably has various ideas on xho his fans are as subgroups but he doesn't know you personally #Actually it reminds me of Maisee Williams in GoT s8 #People had seen her (the character and the actress) grow up over the years and when she decided she wanted to do a nude scene #A lot of people said they were uncomfortable #In both cases. They're adults. They can do whatever they want. #I guess that was a rant but sometimes I find the fandom really off-putting #Deactivated reblogs because the RBs were getting boring and a pain

[lesbiangiratina]

Theyre so cute wtf.

#parasocial relationship with this old gg manga artist and their autism beast ass testament #from ggx dna media comics… artist is ​人参so. #they did some 4koma stuff too… consistently cute testaments #not scans btw. filtered phone images lol #the kat goes meow #gg #testament tag

[isawjamfirst]

heard about vash’s earlier design and decided to take matters into my own hands 😤🫣

#yes yes its a blend of trimax and tristamp coat #pinterest is my best friend too #vash…my beloved #*grits teeth in parasocial manner* #trigun stampede #vash the stampede #humanoid typhoon #tristamp #vash savarem #trigun #procreate art #isawjamesfirst #fanart #digital art #trigun fanart #love and peace #trimax #trigun maximum

[raytorosaurus]

the way ray took some time away from guitar following the breakup to explore other instruments and techniques and different sides of production/mixing, and then 'rediscovered' guitar and clearly focussed on fingerstyle playing and bluesy techniques for a while, and now he's honing in on precision picking jazz-style and has been working away at learning cliffs of dover for months and is considering taking lessons...and just a few months ago he was on stage four nights a week playing all the solos he wrote in his twenties bigger and better (and better again!) than ever before just for the joy of it, all the while chatting to other career musicians backstage about how mastery of your instrument matters so much less than playing it with feeling and making other people feel something...this guy is completely offline, any work he's put out has been self-released and the definition of a passion project, he's constantly writing music and learning more and more about what he can do with guitar with no intention of getting money or public praise from it - no intention of anything besides doing it. we're so lucky when we get to experience his playing but there's something so admirable and comforting about the knowledge that even if we don't see it for ourselves, he's still doing that shit! he's writing music with his kids and mixing songs and experimenting with new sounds and techniques and instruments just because! like...ray is one of the most incredible rock musicians out there but the most inspiring thing about him is how much he just genuinely truly loves his craft!! fuck!

#like frank's commitment to performance and musical community and connecting with crowds is deeply admirable to me #but sometimes i forget that ray's quiet passion that doesn't really expect any return is too!!! #SORRY FOR BEING SAPPY AND PARASOCIAL I AM LITERALLY HAVING A MOMENT. #ray toro #mcr talk #* #guitar

[starhwaz]

😎🤪😎🤪

(+bonus)

#atzsource #seonghwa #ateez #my parasocial best friend <3333 #spent way too long trying to think of a funny caption and got nowhere so ://// #*

[nevarroes]

Sorry if its rude to ask but could you do a lil POV doodle of Casim fat shaming his audience? If no thats fine, im just rlly down bad lmaoo

yeah sure but I got a little sidetracked🙏

#art tag #blakemail #i dont know. i just dont know #there is too much to be said about this so i jsut wont say anything i hope that is alright #😭😭😭 #sexy emo boy is in a parasocial relationship w cas my condolences #gortcas #fatshaming

[jmdbjk]

. . .

Just like Jimin rubbing his own head and being shook instantly, we will have many instances where we will be reminded of them... see a photo or a video, hear their voices or a song and instantly be shook that we won't be seeing Jimin and Jungkook much in the next 18 months.

Not gonna lie, it is rough for me to watch Jimin’s live. The level of vulnerability is just too much for me to handle. His uncertainty, his dismay, his level of discomfort and self-consciousness... humiliation(?) over the loss of his beautiful hair, I can't watch it yet. His own disbelief at looking at his own shaved head...

He is facing something unknown and unfamiliar. He's learned a lot over the past year diving into the appearances he had to do alone for his ambassadorships for Dior and Tiffany. I say "alone" but he wasn't alone, he had his manager and staff by his side.

He won't have them when he enters the military base.

I already said in a previous post that Jimin is disappointed that he must, once again, stop doing what he loves and do this instead. He’s just hitting his stride and he has a lot he wants to accomplish. All that, in addition to his habit of self-criticism and his anxiety issues, it is HUGE that he will have someone there who knows this about him and can help him redirect and calm down. He will beat himself up, put himself down and not allow himself to give himself credit for doing as well as he thinks he should. Jungkook will remind him that he's amazing and help him overcome all that noise in his head.

And keep in mind that Jungkook is a level of introvert that requires some amount of "alone time". This "alone time" is when this type of introvert “recharges” or “decompresses” in order to settle or center one’s self. We all see how different he is during group lives versus when he is alone. His introvert thrives by himself. The situation of being with strangers for such long periods is CHALLENGING! Without his fidget spinner lip rings, and again, staff and manager beside him facing something new by himself, he'll be ADHDing all over the place. Knowing that Jungkook has someone he is comfortable with, who understands this about him, is HUGE. He has a habit of tuning out, zoning out and withdrawing and Jimin can help him stay put in the moment.

Besides genuinely missing performing and his fans, it is no wonder that his frame of mind during his last live with us was downhearted.

This is not a situation where one needs the other more... it is a situation where they will both mutually benefit from having the other present.

These guys are not like us. These two have lived the past ten years in a world that is NOTHING like ours. They've grown up and matured living a life that we can't possibly know and understand. Jungkook has several $1000 bottles of whiskey chilling in his refrigerator that he mixes with Cloop soda water and drinks like its kool-aid through a straw. THEY ARE NOT LIKE US.

They've succeeded beyond all expectations, even their own, and had to deal with all the extreme ups and downs of all of that... and now they must put everything they know aside to step into a completely different world with the eyes of the world focused on them. The pressure to not fuck up has to be enormous. Everything they do is amplified. Its not fair, really.

Physically, they will have advantages over their younger fellow soldiers in that strenuous work is not unfamiliar to them, they are accustomed to pushing themselves and they know what it takes to master something that requires a lot of physicality. They are strong and athletic.

And now, emotionally and mentally, they will be fine because they will have each other.

I will miss all of them and be so very excited to count down the days to Jin's discharge... but I will be the most bereft waiting for Jimin and Jungkook.

#jimin #jungkook #bts military service #i understand parasocial relationships now #except its not all that one-sided #they will miss us too

[thekidsarentalright]

hearing about fob from ppl that they work with always makes me feel The Fob Emotion so so strongly because it's not like i ever doubted this abt any of them but it’s like. oh they really are just that nice and down to earth and humble and good to work with huh? and they really truly are just best friends and brothers who love each other a lot huh? they really are just these guys who got lucky doing the thing they love more than anything with people they love more than anything who still only care about those people and the music above anything else .

#the person who worked w patrick on that batman christmas thing talking abt him like this and then the people at the photoshoot talking abt #them like this too its like. it literally is not parasocial or crazy to think of them as nice and sweet and humble they just ARE #theyre just REAL and i love them SOOOOO fucking much. no other artist or celebrity could EVERRRR #txt #p: 100

[elenaferrante]

Today I’m thinking of…

How Joe’s relationship with fame (or lack of thereof) influenced his relationship with Taylor (in a negative way.)

It feels very much like a “the fox and the grapes” situation, where the fox tried to get to the grapes, couldn’t, and judged it “too sour”.

In the same way, Joe tried to reach that status/success/level of fame, and for a minute it did seem that that’s where he was headed, and at the time he seemed to be cool with Taylor’s own fame (and reputation and so on). Then, when the pandemic changed the trajectory of his career, whilst the opposite had happened to Taylor’s who was soaring after the success of folklore, his attitude towards it (and towards her) allegedly changed, too.

All of a sudden, fame and celebrity were something to deride and avoid, and it seems like he extended this approach to his relationship with Taylor, so then she became “too big to hang out”. From what we know so far, it seems like he started looking down on her somehow, tolerating her instead of celebrating her, not realising she was indeed the best thing at the party.

So basically he became disparaging of fame (and of her) because he couldn’t get to her level 🤷🏼‍♀️

#is this reaching? #is this too parasocial? #Im not sure but anyway #had to write this down lol #😂 #also full disclaimer: #I do not believe this is the only reason why they broke apart #and things did not work out #and also there is his mental health factor to consider #etc etc #but these were some considerations I wanted to write #j says

[starredsmile]

sorry but when dream fell asleep on that one twitter space and started mumbling and making sleep noises the world changed for me i knew i loved this guy more than i could comprehend

#is this too parasocial #i still get such an overwhelming feeling of love when i remember it #like yea this is the person i respect and admire and love so much that i tear up at the sight of him

[softpine]

can i just word vomit for a min...

there was a point in late 2023 where i felt like i overstayed my welcome on simblr and i planned on just wrapping frozen pines up as quickly as possible and moving on. continuing to write when it's clear that the audience for it is dwindling felt so embarrassing that i almost didn't even want to put effort into it anymore, because i was afraid it just looked pathetic (obligatory disclaimer: no one made me feel this way, you're all so lovely, it's just the nature of seeing a community change over 7 years). writing already feels very personal to me and it's becoming increasingly harder for me to put my work out there (again, for reasons unrelated to simblr and entirely related to mental illness 🤙🏻). i know my story is so long that it deters new readers, and so sporadic that it makes old readers drop off with time. this has really been bothering me lately because i don't know what i can do to fix it. i don't think there IS anything i can do.

but. okay. don't make fun of me for saying this. dan and phil returning to youtube kinda changed my mindset? they may be pulling a fraction of the views they got in their peak, but they're happier than they've ever been and they're working on things they actually want to do, not things they think will be particularly popular. seeing that has made me realize that it is possible to keep finding joy in a community that has largely moved on without you. obviously my little blog is nowhere near the same scale, so this feels kind of silly, but i've been thinking about all the things i used to do on simblr that were never fun for me, i mainly did them because i knew they would get notes or because i felt like i had to do it. making cc, lookbooks, sim requests, reshade help (oh my god the reshade help), lot downloads, etc. they DID get notes, but i can't imagine spending my time doing any of that stuff ever again tbh.

on top of that, it makes me sad to scroll through my dash and realize that i don't recognize most of the people i see anymore. i still talk to some wonderful people here who i consider friends and that's invaluable to me (💖), but the broader community aspect is something i no longer feel a part of. and believe me, i know i'm at fault here because it's not like i'm going out of my way to talk to new people or participate in trends like i used to. i don't blame anyone except the passage of time!!

frozen pines, and simblr by extension, played such a gigantic part in my life when i needed it the most. and that's not to say that i don't still care about it, because i absolutely do, but it's a different kind of feeling. i've always promised that i would give frozen pines a satisfying conclusion rather than silently abandoning it someday, and though i do intend to keep that promise, i know it's possible that i might never get there. but i don't want to let my own insecurities get in the way of something i really enjoy doing. writing is an intrinsic piece of me that i'll never quit doing, but sharing my writing on tumblr is something that can't (and shouldn't) last forever. i know that. but i'm going to enjoy it to the fullest while we're all still here together 💞

to anyone who's still reading my silly story after all these years (especially those of you who still check in on my blog even though you're not on simblr anymore): thank you thank you thank you THANK YOUUU. you don't have to change a single thing about what you're doing. this is not me fishing for compliments or putting down an ultimatum, this is just me trying to make sense of my feelings.

but with all this being said, i've decided to quit simblr and start my own exclusive streaming service for $60 a year, i hope you'll all support me as i increase my production value 😌

(just kidding. ily. okay that's all)

#to be 100% clear this is not a goodbye - i'm literally halfway done with the next story post #just sort of an update on the state of my brain #👍🏻 #btw...... sorry to Watcher fans lmaoo you guys really got the short end of the parasocial relationship stick..... </3 #that's not relevant to anything i've said here i've just spent way too much time thinking about how youtube has changed in the past 20 year #because i'm a loser that got really into youtube when i was 11 and never looked back #and then the watcher thing happened. and i was like ohhh if dan and phil did that to me i would have to die about it.

[alwyswnadie]

feel so sick rn

#oh my god #i cant #this is making me feel so parasocial #so fucking delusional too #god #i just #AHHSHDHJS #matty healy #the 1975