#it’s the parental issues isn’t it

[ibenology]

it never ceases to amaze me how completely random the selection of characters my brain decides to be autistic about is.

Out of all the characters in Legend of Korra (some of whom I was quite prepared to obsess over) all my thoughts are currently related to this motherfucker??

#HOW does that make sense #I’ve even watched some of season 1 before!!! #but this time my brain went #tenzin #him #I want him #HE JUST MEANS SO MUCH TO ME I CAN’T EXPLAIN IT #HE IS JUST SO ANDHALXHKSBFKWBF #it’s the parental issues isn’t it #sigh #legend of korra #lok #tenzin lok

[cock-holliday]

“If republicans REALLY cared about children they—“ stop. Shut up. They don’t. It’s not about protecting children. It never is. It’s about exercising control over their children. Stop humoring their arguments, liberals. You can’t defeat fascism with a witty gotcha, this isn’t a marvel movie.

#‘republicans are waisting their time with drag shows when they could be lobbying for’ #they’re not doing anything contradictory #being against drag shows and against lgbt people #and banning books #and limiting what people can teach and say #is so the PARENTS can maintain a monopoly of control over their children #it isn’t protecting anything #but their own interests #and these issues aren’t contradictory—they rely on each other

[whatlovelybones-if]

concept trailer (?) for the deep dive into MC’s past without giving much away 🤭

#gimme that delicious delicious trauma #yes MC has daddy and mommy issues #will i ever make an MC with parents who aren’t horrible/dead? #maybe one day but this isn’t one of those times #what lovely bones #concept trailer #trailer #interactive fiction #interactive story

[motherfuckingbrad]

say what you will about community s4 but the thanksgiving episode where jeff tells his father how fucked up he is and how he literally harmed himself because he just wanted to feel like someone cared about him will never not make me cry

like we see jeff struggle with isolating himself and caring so much what others think and feeling like he needs to put up walls for most of the show, so for him to have improved so much that he can stand up to the first person that ever made him feel unwanted and admit how much distress it caused him is so good and makes me so happy

#i love u jeff winger #as someone who also has parental issues i think this ep just means a lot to me in general #i get all teary eyed #and the other plot line in that episode is so good too! i love the shawshank ref #also like i know everyone hates on s4 but tbh i don’t even mind it #some of the episodes in that season are so good #and dan harmon is not my fav person esp after what he did to get kicked off community in the first place so :/ #like yeah s4 isn’t as good as the first 3 but it’s not the worst (and personally i think they have worse episodes in s5 and 6) #but that’s just my opinion #community #jeff winger

[robbed-ghost]

Jon silently making contingencies about every doomsday he can imagine. Jon using all he knows about investigative journalism to make sure none of the evil universes he keeps encountering are permanent problems. Jon knowing every persons weakness because he’s paranoid making sure there’s not an injustice-like event in his world. Jon making friends but making sure he can take them down if the worst comes, too.

#jon kent #jonathan kent #LISTENNNN #jon having some trauma and finding this as a way to feel safe>>>> #Damian and Lois would get along like a house on fire they’re both passionate and stubborn but methodical and intelligent #but Bruce and Jon have a wavelength. they got trauma that would manifest the same #imagine Jon introducing the legion to help with a crisis and he knows that Batman isn’t gonna just let them help without prior knowledge #he’s heard every story from Damian dick and his parents about Batman’s trust issues and as a kid thought nothing of it #but now that he’s been exposed to so many universes and how things can go awry from a single thing #all this to say Damian would swoon when Jon brings out a huge file of his teammates weaknesses and Jon refuses to talk about it #unless they’re in private cause he wants his teams trust #but he knows now that Bruce has a point and they should have contingencies #so he makes a file for Batman to read about how to take them down. #he forwards shit to oracle too after dick gives her number to him after patrol #jondami #damijon #dc #:3 #angst #super sons #supersons

[verieriberries]

while utonium was okay with bruce being batman, they definitely had a long talk about bruce allowing his sons in the vigilante life.

utonium doesn’t have a lot of bearing on the decision. all of bruce’s children except for one are already adults and have been doing the vigilante thing for years, some for over a decade. the professor is kind of privy to the information that damian was raised in a difficult environment that made him grow up too quickly, gave him no choice but to be a soldier at such a young age, and that he dons the title of robin with pride. but it doesn’t stop the uneasiness he feels about it.

the professor didn’t decide to transer to wayne enterprises and move to gotham just for the pay raise and the great opportunity it would be for his academic career. no, there was another reason for it.

he’s a well adjusted man who undestands that townsville needed the powerpuff girls on some degree. it was actually a statistic that crime rates significantly dropped on the time period that his daughters were active as townsville’s protectors. but he was just one man and no matter how superpowered his kids may be, they were still children. the worry that festered deep in his heart grew with every villain that they faced and every petty crime that they stopped. there were a few times where it became life-threatening for the girls to even be attempting to save the day.

he was just one man and he was the father to three beautiful girls that, although accidental and a marvel of science, were the additional pieces of a puzzle that made his life feel complete. no field of science or divine miracle would fix his heart if he were ever to lose his girls because he couldn’t get past the ‘obligation’ he felt to his hometown.

townsville was home for the first 46 years of his life but his daughters were his life until his death. it didn’t take much convincing for him to pack his bags.

he told all of this to bruce and held him in his arms when he aired his concerns in return. his fear of being a first-time parent to a kid that had just lost his parents like he did. the unimaginable grief he drowned in when jason died and came back angrier at him and at the world. the ironic worry he felt whenever tim would go on an unhealthy amount of days without sleep. all the fear and anxiety and uncertainty that he went through as a father of how many children he currently has under his wing.

but with as much of the negatives, there was just as much, slowly becoming more, of the positives. bruce and utonium spent the rest of the night talking and laughing about the antics their children had put them through. the firsts, the tantrums, the achievements, everything. every single thing that made them the fathers that they were.

not only was the love between them slowly growing, there was also the love that they had for their own kids and the other’s that made then think that they would be okay in the end.

#DADS #batonium #professor bats #can you guys tell i have daddy issues yet? #this was just supposed to be about the utoniums #and why they moved #but it became more about them as parents #bruce isn’t perfect #but he’s trying so much #fuck dc and fuck the people who think bruce is a bad dad #i deliberately ignore the canon that bruce is a bad dad #dc comics #dcu #dc #powerpuff girls #bruce wayne #professor utonium #batman

[completeoveranalysis]

[7]

Yuuko is the role model we all need in our lives. 

The true top priority of all time - when is nice food arriving

I FOR ONE WOULD LIKE TO TOUCH THE JUST-BATHED SOFT MOKONA

WATANUKI CAN WE REVISIT THAT

LET’S GO BACK A STEP IT MIGHT BE IMPORTANT

Oop! And then unprompted Mokona brings up Body Memory.

It's an idea that we’ve seen several times in Tsubasa. At first it was just a Sakura thing but look how many people are missing memories now. Look how many people this idea is relevant too. Much more than we ever realised.

Either way it’s constantly darling of Mokona to just know what Watanuki is feeling, and guess what he’s been thinking about, and just offer him some solace in the fact that even if he doesn’t really remember everything some part of him will never actually forget it. 

Mokona MVP as always.

#Especially like #Watanuki may not know what his parents look like #Or ever remember if they hugged him #But they did and his body will never forget that #He will always have the impression of their love on him no matter what he forgets #Even memory-less the Love Was There #Not liveblogging the reservoir chronicle #Xxxholic #Xxxholic 83 #Watanuki #Mokona #And isn’t it fun that Watanuki Sakura and Syaoran all have #Missing memory issues #Something something family trait something something

[crazy-god-bunker-jughead]

I don’t really GET Joplittle most of the time because those guys only spoke to one another like twice. But their dynamic from their few interactions in episode 5 is SO interesting to me. They’re joined in their knowledge of Crozier’s alcoholism and are dealing with the repressions of that. But their responses to it are parallel.

In the cabin scene at the beginning of the episode, Little is so visibly pissed off at Crozier, but does his best to shove it down and follows orders. He’s forced to (try and) hide what’s going on from Fitzjames and now is being made to participate in this by getting Crozier whiskey. A man just DIED, and Crozier is back to speaking about drinking a moment later.

Meanwhile, Jopson has been dealing with Crozier’s alcoholism the longest and knows this is the worst it’s ever been. But he’s not angry like Little, he’s mostly concerned for Crozier’s well-being. (That little pause before “two bottles, sir,”…) He’s a good steward first and foremost, though, so he doesn’t comment and gets the whiskey. Crozier noticeably has a much nicer tone with Jopson.

It’s almost like an eldest child v favorite child dynamic. Edward the angry oldest now shouldering the burdens and Jopson the concerned-yet-empathetic favorite child who mom asked to get another beer.

It's so so so juicy. It’s only really a thing in episode five, but it’s fun to extrapolate on that. You could create such an interesting, fucked up bond for them.

#I finished this draft while high 👍 #Little eldest son voice isn’t this FUCKED UP that she’s doing this and forcing us to deal with it?? Aren’t you mad?? #Jopson favorite son voice well it’s fine she’s just been really sad lately #and then idk #fuck nasty with each other because you can’t with the captain #crozier cannot be a father to me if he’s any parental figure it’s a MOTHER #Jopson has MOMMY ISSUES #the terror #joplittle #POST

[thekidthesuperkid]

Okay, listen guys. I get what you’re all saying with insisting that Bruce shouldn’t be written as an abusive parent. I get that you don’t want him to be abusive. I don’t want him to be either. But I keep seeing people argue that he can’t be abusive because he’s such an empathetic person. And I don’t necessarily disagree that he’s empathetic! But please understand that empathy and abuse are not mutually exclusive. A person can be perfectly capable of being kind sometimes and being abusive other times, and the kindness can even be completely genuine. A lot of people with abusive parents also have good memories with their parents. An abusive parent is rarely some sort of completely evil person. Most abusive parents do love their children to some extent. They might believe that what they’re doing is for the child’s benefit, or might not even realize that they are being abusive. Anyone can be abusive. And the idea that abusive parents only have the most horrible motivations for their actions tends to indirectly hurt the children of abusive parents, because their experiences get dismissed or ignored on the basis that “this person can’t be abusive, they’re so nice!” Bruce is perfectly capable of believing in redemption for the villains he faces, of treating victims with kindness and understanding, of fighting for Gotham citizens getting help and support to avoid a criminal lifestyle, and hurting his children. Please understand that “this person shows empathy” is not an argument against the possibility of abuse.

#and ​bruce’s parenting had toxic elements long before he ever started hitting his kids but that’s a whole other issue #i do believe that bruce cares very deeply about his children and everyone in gotham #but does he have a healthy and functional parenting style? ehhhh #it’s worrying but also kind of interesting to me that the fandom’s reasonings for why bruce isn’t a bad parent often mirror the #justifications applied to real-world situations #batman #bruce wayne #batfamily #batfam #dc comics #robin #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #damian wayne #stephanie brown #cassandra cain #duke thomas #tw child abuse #my posts

[simcardiac-arrested]

what’s up lately with all these snobbish posts about how found family isnt This it’s That and found families don’t have dads or siblings or anyrhing Stop Pushing Your Nuclear Agenda

#? Like ? okay..? #it’s really weird to me because no one seemed to have a problem with it Ever and now for the past week or two it’s just post after post #about how EVERYONE on earth has gotten found family wrong #Which like sure i agree. sometimes people misinterpret found family and try to shove characters into boxes they shouldnmt be in #and sure found family isn’t just parent children siblings whatever #but like .? It can be. and it often is with characters #there’s no …. actual issue with that #sure people shouldn’t try to force a nuclear family structure onto characters that obviously don’t fit it #but like idk it’s not the endof the world. Tho i agree there should be more found family which is less defined and s just about strong bonds #crammerposting #like i’ve said before people should just be put in jail for being annoying online #i hate when i can agree with the sentiment of a post but it’s worded in such a snobbish condescended way that it’s like Eww ptooey #stop acting strange about fictional found family There are actual problems worth caring about on this green earth

[ravenrroth]

collecting these like infinity stones….miles’ parents provide him with strength and support and love and gwen’s do too kinda but they also give her so many issues™️

#spiderverse #gwen stacy #jessica drew #george stacy #i don’t mean to say miles’ situation w his parents isn’t Complicated #but this girl is abt to have turbo mommy issues #and her dad pulled a gun on her

[trekkele]

yeah I agree Dick wasn't the angry robin, but he was angry. Of course he was. His parents got caught up in an argument between their boss and a gang and died not even knowing thats why they died. He watched his parents die. He got thrown into Juvie. He knew who did it and no one believed him. At the age of 9-10-12, depending on the iteration he believed his best chance at justice was finding Zucco himself and getting a confession from him. Dick was angry. He was allowed to be.

He was also happy and joyful and good. He was lonely and scared and drowning in grief. He was also angry. Stop projecting some kind of moral weight onto anger and start viewing children as being capable of multiple emotions at once.

#i keep seeing posts about how dick wasn't angry he was a uwu happy bean #wnd like sure. you are correct. he was hwppy! #he was also a child who chose to hunt down his parents killer that isn’t exactly well adjusted #i stopped thinkinh about robins in single emotions because i think its part of a broader issue wuth how we ralk about children in media #dick was angry. so was jason. so was tim and steph and probably damian. #you have to be angry in some way to look at injustice and decide to fight it personally and up close. #because children are capable of more then one emotion at a time they arent fucking tinkerbell!!!!

[blue-eli]

Ink October day twenty-nine: Wilder

To bewilder; to perplex.

Comparative form of wild: more wild.

#tears of the kingdom #loz totk #totk #the legend of zelda #legend of zelda #legend of zelda tears of the kingdom #totk link #blue boi draws #ink october 2023 #ink October 2023 day 29 #I have extremely conflicted feelings about this game that I think boil down to: I don’t dislike it but it did disappoint me #like there are a lot of things about it but the things I dislike are loud in a way that makes them hard to ignore #there are also a lot of tiny nitpicking things I dislike about it that I feel bad about because they are probably insignificant or cases of #people having different taste in things. like the bombs I miss my remote destination bombs :( but also the mechanics that replace them are #really fun. I actually think most of the mechanics and puzzles are really good (I probably have more fun in Zonai shrines then sheikah #on average) I also think expanding to the sky and underground was really smart and good. I think most of my issues are with the story #they did Zelda so dirty. sooooooo dirty. the three good things they did with her are 1 gave her good parental figures 2 cut her hair #3 tURNED HER INTO A FUCKING DRAGON. A WYRM. A CREATURE. #that’s probably my favourite main story thing besides maybe the companions and also Tulin #I love Teba the fact that his son is featured heavily and is done so good in this game is amazing. #also revali being basically never mentioned was really good. fuck you revali #love the Zonai HATE them founding Hyrule (or well rauru) #love the designs dragon goat people love good dad to Zelda the king can go fuck himself #the thing about me is I hate ​colonial the divine right of kings and monarchies so much. the kingdom of Hyrule stinks of these things #botw to me was in part a story of a monarchy failing. the king and the system failed Zelda failed Link and failed their kingdom. #I knew that more then likely they would be rebuilding the kingdom in the sequel but oh my gods does the addition of the politics of Hyrules #founding make it worse. there are so many people who have explained in detail this but right now my brain is just… GAH #*banging my head against the wall* can we PLEASE acknowledge the flaws of the Hylian royalty I’m not even asking for them to be discrowned #at this point I just want anything that isn’t this glorifying shit. and it sucks because I like Sonia!!! I like Minaru!!! #ran out of tags but I need you to know I am fucking vibrating about this

[makkie-is-screaming]

saw something saying your internet history can be accessed through your Wi-Fi and let me say if my parents ever see mine I will kill myself

#Either that or flee and go no contact #They’d be my only 2 options #like my tumblr with all my mental issues is enough alone I cannot imagine my parents seeing this blog #but add in my ao3 and yeah I’d have to kill myself #Love ao3 but my history is embarrassing there isn’t a soul I’d let see my full history #anyways ummmm if someone knows if this is true or not lmk #screaming

[tomwambsmilk]

Gonna write briefly about “The Rehearsal” on my succ blog bc why not. But I think it truly is brilliant, in hindsight of the finale, that the show turned out to actually be an effective criticism of itself, of reality tv as a genre (even and maybe especially the shows that are framed as being helpful for their participants), the use of child actors, and even, to a certain extent, Nathan Fielder’s own brand of comedy. All of that is 100% intentional - they could’ve shown anything they wanted and deliberately showed things that would make us deeply uncomfortable for ethical reasons, and deliberately highlighted the ways in which participants may have felt pressured into participating and how the presence of cameras impacts behaviour.

I’ve already seen the claim that the finale’s big twist is that it’s a “scripted narrative” and I don’t think that’s true at all. It’s pretty clear that Nathan and the team had an idea of where they wanted the show to go, but all the people they featured were real people. They didn’t script so much as… well, manipulate what happened by introducing certain elements, as all reality shows do. While they might have had a general sense of where they wanted the show’s “arc” to go, they were reliant on the participants behaving in certain ways or raising certain issues to dictate just how they went about achieving that arc. The brilliance here is making it fairly obvious to the audience what they’re doing, whereas most reality shows will try to hide it.

(And this premise is built into the pitch! We all expected to get a show about Nathan running these little rehearsals, and that idea is built on the premise that human behaviour is predictable and manipulable, if you control enough variables. And then we watched this exact premise play out entirely differently - and in a way that was much darker - from how we expected.)

There are so many more things to unpack about the show, obviously, but personally I just keep coming back to the fact that they made a reality tv show to say “hey, maybe even ‘helpful’ reality tv is somewhat unethical because these people are being helped for our own voyeuristic benefit, and those motivations will determine how producers approach the participants and the arcs they deliberately try to set up, even if we don’t see that on our screens.” It’s a bold move but I think they pulled it off well

#I keep thinking about this episode of queer eye I watched with a friend #long story short the guy they were helping had dropped out of school and hadn’t told his parents and they encouraged him to and had him #do it on camera #and my friend was horrified. they were from very similar immigrant communities with similar cultural norms #and she said ‘that’s so awful of them. this is going to make his life miserable for a while’ #‘the only reason his mom isn’t beating his ass right now is that the cameras aren’t there’ #and you could tell she was right. everyone except the queer eye guys was so uncomfortable with this #but they wanted their ‘happy ending’ arc so they pushed it #but even aside from that. isn’t there something inherently exploitative about ‘we’ll help you fix this problem but only if you let us #showcase it on national tv’? #and I think the rehearsal critiques that so well by showing Nathan derailing the rehearsals for his own purposes #the only difference is that he’s motivated by his own issues rather than being motivated by audience response #the rehearsal #nathan fielder #not succession #anyways. I think everyone has realized by now that the point of the show is that it was unethical. but I don’t think the takeaway is meant #to be just that the rehearsal was unethical but that a lot #of other reality tv is similarly unethical. we just don’t usually see those parts

[asteria-argo]

New record: I’ve been up for 20 minutes and I’ve already cried once! Do we think I’ll break the record for amount of times I’ve cried in a single birthday today as well?

#this is going to make me sound like a spoiled brat #I’m aware #but it’s an ongoing issue and also it’s my 20th birthday #I did everything in my power to make the gift giving process as easy as fucking possible for my parents #I sent them a lift with purchase links a month in advance #not a single thing on that list exceeded $60 #did I get anything on that list? nope #I got a box full of truly useless dollar store trinkets #literally the only thing that would’ve cost more than $7 in that box was a notebook which I know for a fact is $50 #and you might think oh that’s nice of them to get you such an expensive notebook! #nope! I had a notebook I wanted on my list #the exact notebook #and it was $30 #the one I got isn’t even kind of an approximation is more expensive and is very ugly