#it's called codependence actually

[gefallene-quengel]

Franz: This date is boring.

Ivo: This isn't a date. I told you I was getting groceries.

Franz: Then why did you invite me?

Ivo: I didn't. I specifically said "do not come with me" and you said "don't tell me what to do" and followed me here.

#tatort münchen #franz leitmayr #ivo batic #tatort incorrect quotes #it's called codependence actually #this is the plot of Viktualienmarkt

[devondespresso]

Robin, searching kitchen drawers and cabinets furiously: Steve have you seen my pills?

Eddie, with ibuprofen and other things on hand: what pills?

Robin, smiling: my Pussy Pills™

Eddie:

Steve, sighing: birth control. she means birth control. upstairs, bathroom sink.

#robin buckley #stranger things #codependent stobin #platonic stobin #platonic soulmates stobin #qpr stobin #headcanon robin hates the idea of pregnancy so she'll call everything related to it by any other name possible #robin: aCtUAlLy its to regulate my pERIOD so its my pussy pills #idk if they prescribed birth control like they do today but considering my mom thought it was normal im assuming im not too far off #robin deserves to be weird. she's earned it 💕 #stobin #stobin headcanons

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is not understanding why couples who claim to love each other hurt each more than anyone else, especially in fiction. Like seriously, almost every couple in fiction (ESPECIALLY YA) is unhealthy or straight up abusive, yet the characters claim to love each other.

I still love people, just not romantically. I love my friends and my family, and I can't imagine being so cruel as some of the IRL romantic couples I've seen.

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #to be fair i think that has to do more with the closeness in general? like someone you're closer to / more trusting in #is generally a situation you bear a lot to lose #but yeah some romo couples absolutely use codependency and emotional manipulation in the name of 'love' #though i think calling it what it is is VERY important

[beneathsilverstars]

i've been going through my entire spotify liked songs list one by one to pick out which songs are about siffrin and i'm SO MAD bc i keep finding SLOOP SONGS!!! this is not what i'm looking for here!!!!!!! i made a list for them ofc but why does it have more songs than the isafrin list. probably bc songs about fucked up disasters go harder than sweet lovey songs sorry isa

#isat #silverstarschat #i actually just opened up spotify for WORK REASONS #and the first thing it did was recommend i check out a song called “you're so ugly when you cry” #USUALLY I DONT CLICK ON THE RECS BUT THEY GOT ME!!! #onto the sloop list it goes #idk what the fanon conception of sloop is like but i just think it would be neat if it was a destructive codependent mess #:3 #i wouldn't say i ship it but i do think it's interesting to rotate the two of them in my mind

[bmpmp3]

i do think its kinda funny when i see someone in the year of our lord 2024 talk about vocal synth music like its all gone downhill since like 2010 because like dont get me wrong i love a good niconicodouga-ass 2008 ass vocaloid joint BUT also like. the past couple years have had the most fascinatingly creative and expressive uses of vocal synthesizers ive ever heard in my life DJFSKHJDFS dont write it all off just yet!!

#usually i only see that from people who havent actually listened to any vsynth music from the past 15 years so i understand why they got to #that conclusion. and also usually theyre people who didnt listen to much vsynth music in the first place LOL they just dont know #but it is still a little funny. brother there are things beyond your wildest dreams if u just look #like some personal highlights: the stuff by rinri - particularly their use of the meika girlies #dont carry our memories away is LIFECHANGING the whispers. the spoken parts. the BELTS #plus the haunting and unrelenting instrumentation. fantastic song #and naisho no pierced's propose + birthday + gift sort of trilogy of songs. gift especially has been unreal #again the dynamics of soft intimate whispers to belts but also those fuller high notes with edges of growlyness. #plus the songs just generally rock. and those LYRICS. absolutely intense like physically painful and frightening like #yearning and codependency and possession. and the tuning and production just amps it up more #OH and slave.v.v.r has been doing crazy things for even longer but i only started getting into his stuff recently and holy shit #love eater is like. the scariest vocaloid song ive ever heard not because of the lyrics. but because of the tuning #im like. scared. i cant stop listening to it. the heavy synthesized breathy main vocals and whispered harmonies plus the VOCAL FRY #i didnt realized vocaloid5? i think? has a vocal fry option built in i heard? thats crazy #but specifically in love eater the fry and growl is amped up so deep and loud and clear compared to everything else it like #emphasizes the artificiality of the voice while also amping up the expressiveness #its awesome. and on the older slave.v.v.r songs i heard i will hit you 8759632145 times with this piano. also so fucking cool #addicted to that song. 1) its a great jazzy rocky piano tune with this piano flourish at the end of each phrase that sounds fantastic #but also 2) the lyrics are insane. using kanji to write english?????? #people are doing wild ass things with vocal synths rn you guys #this isnt even getting into some of the really unique synths themselves too. adachi rei is awesome i love that shes just like #the perfect inbetween of sample based and reconstruction based vocals. shes a sample based synth #but her samples were drawn by hand LOL shes like dectalks granddaughter to me..... #a really good use of adachi rei is iyowa's heat abnormal/heat anomaly/whatever its called ITS AWESOME thats what it is hjrkfdgfd #i think the fact that vocal synths can be so realistic and clean and noiseless out the gate now has made people really stop worrying #about like. realism all together and looking more into expressiveness. omg vocal synth modernist movement

[mumblesplash]

see the thing is i do understand where it’s coming from, but sometimes characters in fics will start swearing their undying and unconditional devotion to each other a little too hard and i’m like

#mumbling #I GET SO ANTSY WHEN CHARACTERS PROMISE NEVER TO LEAVE #it’s not Bad it’s just self indulgent in a direction that is Not For Me #it’s the worst bc i actually love fucked up codependent fictional relationships but sometimes it hits just the wrong way #and i’m like noooo don’t swear to be by their side forever and ever what if they want to like. spend a year alone at sea #would you deny them this?? and you call this love??? despicable

[linagram]

[𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚘 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚊𝚒𝚖𝚒'𝚜 𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚊𝚕 𝟸 𝚒𝚗𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚛𝚘𝚐𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗]

the first t2 interrogation is here! hopefully, it will help you understand their murders and backstories and what kind of people akio and aimi are better because.. this interrogation reveals a lot :)

as always, a reminder that you can send questions for interrogations and some of these questions were also sent by some of you, so thank you so much!

Q.001. What can you tell us about your parents?

Akio: They're very caring and patient with me. They deserve only the best for everything they have done for me.

Aimi: They're very nice, I love them a lot! They can be just a little bit.. What's the right word.. Basically, sometimes it felt like they didn't care about my feelings that much. But it was most likely just them being unintentionally insensitive.. I think.

Q.002. Did you hate your victim?

Akio: How many times I have to repeat it for you? I hated him. I hated him so much.

Aimi: Are we talking about the person that was killed only by me without any help? If so.. I think I started to hate him only a moment before I had murdered him. Saying that I hate him feels so weird, but I think it's time for me to finally be honest with myself.

Q.003. What is your biggest fear?

Akio: Not being good enough.

Aimi: Being left all alone.

Q.004. Would you commit the same crime again?

Akio: .. I don't know.

Aimi: I just couldn't let that person live. So yes, I think I'd still kill him even if I wasn't bullied.

Q.005. Tell us about your accomplice.

Akio: He was weird. But surprisingly charismatic. I think I got to know his true self only when I saw his reaction to seeing Chise's corpse.

Aimi: He was very kind and very caring, I loved spending time with him, he always tried to make every single day of my life as fun as possible! He was.. very overprotective though. That freak wouldn't let me live a normal life.

Q.006. Have you ever had a significant other?

Akio: Fine, if I say yes, will you finally leave me alone?

Aimi: Nope! I was always more interested in making friends, but I'd love to go on a date with someone.

Q.007. Is there anyone you hold in high esteem?

Akio: .. It used to be myself.

Aimi: I don't think so? Ah, I respect Akio-kun a lot, does that count?

Q.008. When do you wake up/go to bed?

Akio: Before Milgram, I woke up at 7 am and went to sleep at 1 or 2 am because of how much schoolwork I had. Now I can't fall asleep at all, so all of that doesn't matter anymore.

Aimi: I try to wake up as early as I can now, so that I can take care of Akio-kun. He barely gets any sleep now.. You will forgive him, right? And I usually go to bed at 10 or 11 pm.

Q.009. How do you feel about your classmates?

Akio: They were always anxious and stressed and under a lot of pressure because we all went to an elite school, so almost all my classmates were obsessed with their grades and being the best students in class. Arata and Chise were the only exceptions and maybe that's why my relationship with them was different from what I had with others.

Aimi: .. When I remember everything they said about me, I start feeling not so good, haha..

Q.010. What kind of person would you want your best friend to be?

Akio: Someone who can make me feel like a god even when I'm not doing well.

Aimi: Someone who never makes fun of me and never tries to take advantage of my weakness.

Q.011. Any complaints about being imprisoned?

Akio: .. Are you kidding me?

Aimi: I think you should do something about Maruyama-san. I don't feel safe with someone like her around.

Q.012. What do you hate the most?

Akio: Being underestimated.

Aimi: People who don't appreciate my kindness. I'm trying so hard to help you, so why do you keep pushing me away?

Q.013. Do you miss your family?

Akio: .. Yes.

Aimi: To be honest, I miss my dogs more, haha.. That's a bad thing to say, right? Like, I told you that I love all of them the last time we did this.

Q.014. What do you want from the guards?

Akio: Don't take Aimi away from me.

Aimi: Please take care of Akio-kun.

Q.015. How did you feel after you have committed your crime?

Akio: I ran away. I couldn't look my accomplice in the eyes after we were done.

Aimi: I felt like I've finally become free, even though I had to pay a high price for my freedom.

#HHHHHHH i can't wait to reveal more about akio and arata's relationship in s3 since akio's t3 mv is actually supposed to be more about that #also. yes akio calls everyone by their last names except people he likes or trusts like arata or aimi #but he still calls chise by his first name and guess what #it's not a mistake. he really is supposed to call him that and i've made it like that on purpose :) #aimi's backstory scares me. so much. #i'm not sure what kind of verdict she will get this time but tbh #i feel like s3 kinda guarantees her an innocent verdict? like she would most likely get voted guilty not bc of her crime- #but bc of her personality and behavior #aimi is against yurika innosweep 😔 #also i got literal chills when i wrote their answers to the 14th question. they are so codependent maybe even more than 0104 #✍️interrogations! ✍️ #👑prisoner 001: miyagawa akio👑 #🌸prisoner 002: hanasaki aimi🌸 #milgram #milgram oc #milgram project #ocgram

[boyczar]

please remember that it is a compliment to be disliked by people. most people don’t even like themselves. think about why you even want to be liked by somebody. why do YOU like YOURSELF?? why give a fuck about whether or not somebody with so much work to do on themselves doesn’t like you? they literally do not even like themselves. they can’t genuinely “like” you.

#mine #so tired of people who literally only know to people please #‘people pleaser’ is such a joke of a phrase bc they’re literally the most disappointing people i know #they don’t respect themselves #they live in such a way that is so repulsive to me it literally gives me euphoria to know they dislike me #call me names lie about me tell me you never wanna see me again #it’s literally bliss #like what do they expect? #for me to cry on the floor and beg them to love me?? i am not a fucking codependent like everyone else you know #i’m not gonna fucking fawn over you after you mistreat me #and of course no one else will defend me bc they’re all cowards too #afraid to not be on the narcissist’s team #bc the only other team has literally one player and that’s the scapegoat / truth teller #literally who tf wants to go against the narc?? nobody!! that’s why they think i’m stupid #it’s a blessing to be hated by cowards #it’s a sign you’re doing at least one thing right #acoa #family systems #codependency #narcissitic abuse #sick & tired of people living in these beat-around-the-bush type relationships where they are never direct and they are never happy #they don’t actually CARE about each other #they just want to be comfortable!!! #well it’s not COMFORTABLE to grow #‘you’re not the same person you used to be’ yeah well you’re EXACTLY THE SAME!!! #i love when people think that’s an insult #go ahead and tell on yourself #you have never changed or grown or confronted the ways that you treat people #i’m over it #it’s such a joke when these people try to talk to you

[aroacehanzawa]

lore drop

#that poll just now reminded me of my Toxic Homoerotic Codependent Female Friendship in high school #there was something obsessive going on between us because 1) i wasn't even in her friend group 2) everything she said or did was annoying #there was some stockholm syndrome situation going on. also a very succession tomgreg dynamic #you know how you invite a friend somewhere and they're like 'we're on our way' and you're like who's 'we' #and it's because they're a package deal with their partner apparently. yeah that was us but platonically. if you could even call it that #anyway her sense of humour was like that of a mean girl ie backhanded compliments and jokes at other people's expenses #always saying something that would subtly put others down. i got fed up with that at the beginning of our final year #and called her out on everything that Wasn't Good. which ultimately culminated in the Divorce #well there's more to it too but i could be here the whole day #i was so obsessed with her i misstook it for romantic feelings too and confessed to her in the middle of an argument LMAO #and then proceeded to ignore all her follow up questions. but in hindsight it clearly wasn't romantic anyway #except about a year after the Divorce she retrospectively confessed to me AND THEN REFUSED TO ELABORATE WHEN. as revenge i guess #actually the downfall started when we went to another city for an event and on the last day before the train back we were supposed to go #explore the city in what was essentially a (platonic) date except she ditched me for Some Guy she just met and claimed she had to go back #home early for a family situation and that he was giving her a ride because the train would arrive too late #that wasn't the only time she would just. abandon me like that. but it was the final straw for me #anyway. defining high school experience 👍 #the only good thing to come out of it was that she thoroughly insulted a classmate of ours that i stood up for and so i gained a new friend #who is still my best friend to this day

[slocumjoe]

augustijn uses lots of Dutch terms as endearment for danse but his favorite one to use is spekkoek, which is a layered cake that originated from India, because "danse has layers but calling him ui (onion) would be weird," but doesn't think twice about calling his husband pork belly

#spekkoek literally means pork belly/bacon cake #gus also calls him snoepje #snoepje means candy/sweet in the noun form #but its also slang for ecstacy or any other pill-based drug. #im sure you can imagine why gus would use that in particular. comparing danse —someone he does a lot of dumb/questionable things for— #to a hallucinogenic. #yeah their relationship starts off really uuuhhhh codependent. but once theyre actually together theyve worked through their own shit #and are. actually stable people #ss; alter

[doctorguilty]

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this tag SO REAL sobs

same genre as me posting this thing from twitter on my vent blog the other day

like! DEVOTION the word you're looking for is devotion !!!!!

#seth speaks #if you saw what an actually toxic/codependent relationship looked like you'd hurl!! #im trying to be like Whatever about it but I've started actually muting/unfollowing accounts that post too much of that stuff cause it kind #sets me off in bad ways like the abuse I've endured from being a participant of codependency .. and from being in the middle of people who #are codependent and what that's done to me... #like idk it's one of those things that like im not saying you cant actually enjoy codependency in fiction my issue is throwing around words #like that to describe like completely normal and mundane conflicts in relationship #it almost like.. messes with my head? i start to fret about my experiences and wonder if i'm overreacting and it was all normal etc #and i also just dont wanna see characters i like/relate to being called 'toxic' every 5 seconds Shrug emoji

[magpigment]

i find it rlly funny when i make a character and i’m just like. tumblr would love them. tumblr would be all over this character. why isn’t tumblr obsessed w them already. and then remember they exist only in my mind :(

#my character birthday i love birthday he’s one of my favorite characters i’ve ever made and i know he would be a hit on tumblr lmao #his name is birthday and he’s the birthday boy and it’s his birthday! #and also he’s devastatingly lonely. and lowkey got theseus’ shipped. whoops. #and also lilith. tumblr would adore lilith. #called the ghost of the wasteland and her existence is largely only rumored. was a genetic experiment to create something that #could survive the nuclear wastelands that cover the majority of her world. they succeeded but she escaped and now lives in those same #wastelands. is incredibly codependent w a very morally grey dude who was a black market test subject for poisons who escaped around the #same time as her and they ended up relying entirely on each other for survival for years and know each other better than anyone #but struggle to connect in any way that isn’t solely to keep each other alive when they’re older. #he never talks about his past and she is almost entirely nonverbal and doesn’t rlly want to find a way to tell him about hers. #she also realized after she escaped that she prefers to be referred to w she/her pronouns after her existence being viewed as #something instead of a someone and choosing that for herself is one of the first choices she ever made for herself and who she is. #and she’s only a side character in the story and mostly just haunts the narrative but yknow i should incorporate her more because #wow i love her actually. she’s dope as hell XD #dandy talks #my ocs #can’t talk more about birthday even tho i love him just as much because one of my friends has my tumblr and i’m using birthday #in a story i’m writing w my friends for fun and i don’t wanna spoil anything more than i have lmao. but yeah birthday is so cool lmao

[transalfredpennyworth]

kindof funny to imagine my pre-existing ocs being in wbg... fucking dean pryor playing wbg. what a thought. WOULD HIS MOTHER BE HIS PRIZE? OR HIS DAD? oh if it was his dad he wouldnt even need the fourth challenge he'd kill that man on his own. no actually probably someone from his time working for blu....... interesting thought. oh no do NOT give pryor free access to time travel he'd immediately try to monopolize it. and also get fucking rich. oh my god he could fuck over so many people from his past... MAN. dont give the worst guy ever access to time travel its going to go disastrously. MAN.

#MANN. well he would play it for his wife. if he even knew about the prizes i mean. #OH HE WOULD SO ROPE DAEMOR INTO IT. GODDDDD. codependent dae & pryor arc WHEN. #no thats so funny actually. pryor his wife and the weird guy they keep around for some fucking reason #why is she third wheeling in her own marriage. stop this. #SHE DOESNT HAVE A NAME YET SORRY. but she is the kindest most patient soul #oh my god her and pryor have the most opposite responses to trauma. she became kind to others and pryor- #-became the worst fucking guy on earth. man. they were literally in the same situation. or similar situations? i guess? #dae is motivated by two things: spite and love. #dae why are you in love with not only your boss but the shittest man on earth. get help. #pryor flirting with dae to get him to do what he wants and his wife is like. i do not see. girl. GIRL. #man. the worst fucking polycule in the world. they arent even officially a polycule AND YET. #ALL OF THESE PEOPLE SUCK... yes even his wife shes an enabler. PLEASE get therapy literally any of you omg #... actually no pryor would just lie to his therapist. and dae would blatantly refuse to go. his wife would also lie to her therapist- #-because she doesnt want to 'burden' them. GIRLLLLL. you literally have soso many issues and one of them is called dean pryor #no sorry theyre so funny. theyre so funny to me. what a fucking mess.

[stregoniconiconii]

to be fair i’m still not sure people are using codependent correctly if the amount of people i’ve seen who who call them that only to get weirded out anytime stobin is anything more than a little clingy is anything to go by ghfhfndf

lmaooooo yeah they definitely aren't <3 that's fine just a little frustrating if ur interested in exploring the possibility and everything tagged with codependency is just clinginess and cuddling. like im actually kind of interested in the potential manipulation and controlling behaviour that could crop up...I guess it's uncomfortable to think about, which I understand, especially since there's usually an unbalanced power dynamic at play in codependent relationships (there's someone who needs to be needed...doing whatever they can to make sure that theyre still needed by their particular someone)

anyway it would put one of them into more of a bad light than the other most likely and nobody wants to think of their fav as the bad guy lol I feel like with stobin both could have these tendencies you know..codependency can look like a lot of different things so I think it depends on how you choose to write it..anyway it's interesting!

#codependent stobin #im not always thinking stobin are codependent like theyre definitely more normal in canon than in my fanon #but since it's become popular to call them codependent ive become interested in their friendship Actually being codependent

[belanova]

Idk Man I love fucking neurona duo (c!rubius & k!Quackity) so much they're those duos where it's obviously toxic and there Is no doubt about one of them on the Verge of stabbing the other, but they're so fucking petty that its actually hilarious

Like Quackity Will break a random thing in rubius' house and Rubius kills him only to turn around and suddenly aware that Quackity killed all of his pets accidentally

Like hell even in the stream where Quackity got his memory erased he couldn't do his monologue properly cause he was stuck under Rubius' basement, why? Because he had a thing from Rubius inventory so he kept him so he Couldn't break out when he was offline and keep him there forever until he got the ítem

They don't even trust each other in the revolution where they need to team to beat luzu Quackity wants to keep him obeyed by taking titi hostage and his picture until the mission Is over and if he doesn't keep the promise Rubius is allowed to kill him

AND THEY STILL STICK TO EACH OTHER, despite burning rubius' store and kidnapping his pets, despite rubius constantly killing and sending Quackity to jail for whatever inconvenience, or their constant backstabbing of each other they STILL go back to each other

Its the most ironic part that at this point of the series the only people these two trust are each other after Rubius making him the most hated of all and Quackity only person to be able to remember Is him, they tell each other more than each respective's love interest

in quackity's mind when you feel like the person Is terrible or worse than you then why feel bother to act better? So It makes Quackity comfortable not presenting a fake versión and hell even doing terrible things together with Rubius cause who else Is he going to tell him? (vice versa with Rubius he likes Quackity for his codependency and viewing him as Easy to manipulate)

Because they both need things from each other Rubius Is the only one usually awake when Quackity wants to be online and such they talk to each other, so fufilling Quackity's need for companionship and smooches off of his stuff while for Rubius its also companionship because EVERYONE hates him even sapo peta doesn't like him for his constant so despite how much brags about Quackity being under his thumb he needs him as well due to being his only friend on the server, so they both feel safe to act terrible in each other's presence when they can't in with their love interests (Luzu & Vegetta)

They hated each other completely at the beginning! All k!Quackity wanted to do is get revenge on C!rubius for exploding him with a mine and taking advantage of him not knowing anything, so he then his first thing Is explode him with a mine as well AND THAT'S WHAT STARTED THE DYNAMIC! Completely trying to get revenge in each other and trying to show up the other in minor ways like dressing up better than other or just plain ol who can kill this one person better than the other

ultimately they both need to get away from each other cause even tho i see Rubius as the more manipulative of the two in the friendship due k!quackity's actions against him either being on accident or in self defense K!Quackity knows he's terrible for him, he searches the Bear for that reason because he likes that Rubius will abuse his power as a cop so i don't know if Quackity can be entirely removed of the responsibility in the dynamic due to him encouraging It for his sake so that's why i phrase It as both instead of just rubius

after 6 months of doing this they've felt completely comfortable in each other's toxicity and somehow found It to Fit in each other perfectly that way, that its probably the strongest relationship in karmaland due to nobody being able to break them up only themselves due to their constant rivalry companionship and mutual feeling of having nobody else so they might as well be terrible together so they make this weird system now with the horn that makes i when Quackity is seriously in trouble Rubius will drop all of his usual acts and be Quackitys personal bodyguard so despite anyone's Best efforts these guys are never going to leave each other anytime soon

I realize this sounds extremely horrible to Outsiders (Or people not that good to spanish) and yeah that's kinda the point, i want to clarify this all of this plays out tonally like if Tom and Jerry were humans LOL

Tldr: i'm a k!Quackity apologist first Quiero ese rata noruega alejos de el 🤬 funny duo

#k!quackity #rubius #neurona duo #karmaland 5 #karmaland #dumbasssaysthings #tw codependency #tw manipulation #tw toxic friendship #actually shit now thinking about it the tom and jerry comparision is probably the best way to describe them #especially considering how Quacks calls Rubius a Rata Noruega 😂 #sorry if i sound like a crazy person doing this rant they've completely gotten in my brain #Btw i don't clarify this type of friendship i hope thats obvious if you're in a friendship w/ somebody like this LEAVE THEM 😭 #i should've called them petty duo augh that just occured to me #whatever neurona duo sounds coolee

[snowberriesromanoff]

I am so close to filtering Wayne family adventures posting tbh

#everytime somebody calls wfa Bruce a good dad I realize ppl genuinely don't know what emotional abuse is like #there's an entire issue of that fucking webtoon where he pits cass against the rest of them as a test #the kids have an actual physical fight over food in an early issue #to me it's a very accurate depiction of what the sorta fostered codependency and unhealthy relationship look like #in between angry blowups like in mainline continuity #always nice to see oracle babs tho she can stay #wfa critical #ryder rambles