#its easier to say im asexual and/or les rather than explaining those identities

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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

Bestie gender itself is a performance, don't know why you're asking specifically about gay men tho when it's quiiiite clear I'm a lesbo lol. But there are clearly people who preform masculinely and feminally and of course those who don't preform either or switch it up. And of course it's not all based on gender presentation but also sexual preference, I would not like to have sex with anyone with a dick regardless of gender for example. So like yeah everything is performative and built on culture and society because that's just how humans work. There are many factors that influence the people we're attracted to and labels are just there to be labels. A gay man can say he likes men but that doesn't mean he likes all men yknow, labels just make shit easier to get across.

Anyway this was a random ass ask but kinda fun to think about for someone who is currently doing a queer theology course lol.

#rav speaks #ask #queer theology #sexuality #gay #lgbtqia+ #im not like the best with words specially when its late #but uh yeah #humans in general are pretty performative and are all heavily influenced by everything around us #really i belive that we shouldnt need all these little labels to define everything and just be #but i do also understand that having labels does creat some ease #its easier to say im asexual and/or les rather than explaining those identities #i do think we tend to go a biiiiiit too far with microlabels but hey they make others happy so who am i to judge #i dont know if ive actually answered your uh questions right #but like idk its a tough topic aha #im not a biologist or psychologist in anyway shape or form i cant tell you how human brains actually work #but yeah methinks its probs actually a mix of inborn and performative #like your gonna be born with a preference but the specifics will shape as you grow and labels are still jsut labels #i can tell ya that i have never been interested in dating anyone male presenting tho #but when i was young i also wasnt interested in dating anyone so who knows lol