#me of all people is transphobic and homophobic?

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for refusing to ask my partner for permission before talking about my bottom surgery plans/bottom dysphoria?

I am genuinely at a loss on if my reaction was wrong or not. I can see why I may be TA, but I tend to be very adamant about my moral beliefs, and my partner tends to suppress his needs and people-please, so I need some second opinions.

I (23 FTX/FTM) identify as a genderfluid nonbinary man. I am pre-surgery of any kind. i enjoy penetration and don't mind having a vagina, but feel dysphoria because of the lack of a phallic appendage. I plan on eventually getting a metoidioplasty with a urethoplasty, but without a vaginectomy/scrotoplasty. i consider my ideal genital configuration to be what some call "salmacian."

as of VERY recently, i was unaware of anything aside from a complete phalloplasty being possible- due mostly to the way transmasculine bottom surgery is widely regarded as disgusting and mutilation, and rarely discussed openly without shame. learning about the existence of these procedures has given me an incredible amount of hope and joy, knowing i can achieve a GNC body i love.

my partner (24M) is, for the most part, extremely supportive of my transition goals and identity. we have been dating for about 2 years- when we first met, i told him i did not plan on getting any bottom surgery because i would be satisfied with bottom growth, and do not want a full phalloplasty. since learning about meta, my plans have changed.

when discussing the possibility of getting bottom surgery, he told me that he thinks phallo looks gross, and would not be okay having sex with me if i decided to get a phalloplasty. i found that upsetting, but told him that i still do not want a cis-confirming body, and explained the difference between phallo and meta. he said he would be fine with that, but im still upset at his reaction to even mentioning bottom surgery at all.

since that discussion, i have been talking often and excitedly about my newfound bottom surgery plans. like i said, it has given me so much joy to learn that there is an alternative to phallo, and i want to express that joy around my partner. however, he has asked me to ask him if it's okay to talk about anything regarding genitals before bringing it up.

i asked him why he needs me to ask for permission, and he told me that he finds all genitalia disgusting when not in the context of sex, and that it makes him uncomfortable when i bring it up unprompted. i find this upsetting as well. i strongly believe in the destigmatization of ALL body parts, especially transgender bodies. i believe that genitalia is just as neutral of a body part as an arm or a leg, and that any discomfort with body parts is the responsibility of the person uncomfortable to cope with and work through, and not something that should be censored. i find having to ask permission to talk about my transgender body to be censorship and transphobic. i refused to ask for permission first, and told him that he should work through his discomfort with the human body instead.

I may be TA because- i am refusing to respect a boundary.

He may be TA because- not all "boundaries" are equal. just like asking two gay people to not kiss in public without asking permission because it makes you uncomfortable would be a homophobic boundary, i find that asking your transgender partner to not talk about his bottom dysphoria/surgery plans without permission is a transphobic boundary.

#aita #am i the asshole

[hidingoutbackstage]

Like it actually pisses me off when people try to claim that horror is “always” going to be leftist or fucking “punk” and that if it isn’t, then it isn’t real or good horror. That’s just fucking untrue. The genre has a history of being fucking racist and homophobic and misogynistic and transphobic etc. etc. etc. I can name multiple examples off the top of my head for each. You do not get to pretend these problems don’t exist and never have existed, or that if they existed, they weren’t “real” horror. The fact is that they were, and you need to accept that fact before you make a nearly three hour long video talking about how conservative horror is all terrible and the only “real” horror is leftist and groundbreaking

#sid rants #sid bitches #i’m choosing not to finish the video. all of his preaching is too fucking much

[yautjalover]

Sucks that you support homophobia and transphobia, have to unfollow.

According to all known laws of aviation, there is no way a bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground. The bee, of course, flies anyway because bees don't care what humans think is impossible.

Yellow, black. Yellow, black.

Yellow, black. Yellow, black.

Ooh, black and yellow!

Let's shake it up a little.

Barry! Breakfast is ready!

Ooming!

Hang on a second.

Hello?

- Barry?

- Adam?

- Oan you believe this is happening?

- I can't. I'll pick you up.

Looking sharp.Use the stairs. Your father paid good money for those.

Sorry. I'm excited.

Here's the graduate.

We're very proud of you, son.

A perfect report card, all B's.

Very proud.

Ma! I got a thing going here.

- You got lint on your fuzz.

- Ow! That's me!

- Wave to us! We'll be in row 118,000.

- Bye!

Barry, I told you,

stop flying in the house!

- Hey, Adam.

- Hey, Barry.

- Is that fuzz gel?

- A little. Special day, graduation.

Never thought I'd make it. Three days grade school, three days high school. Those were awkward. Three days college. I'm glad I took a day and hitchhiked around the hive. You did come back different.

- Hi, Barry.

- Artie, growing a mustache? Looks good.

- Hear about Frankie?

- Yeah.

- You going to the funeral?

- No, I'm not going.

Everybody knows, sting someone, you die. Don't waste it on a squirrel. Such a hothead. I guess he could have just gotten out of the way.

I love this incorporating an amusement park into our day. That's why we don't need vacations.

Boy, quite a bit of pomp...under the circumstances.

- Well, Adam, today we are men.

- We are!

- Bee-men.

- Amen!

Hallelujah!

Students, faculty, distinguished bees, please welcome Dean Buzzwell. Welcome, New Hive Oity graduating class of......9:15.

That concludes our ceremonies. And begins your career at Honex Industries!

Will we pick ourjob today?

I heard it's just orientation.

Heads up! Here we go.

Keep your hands and antennas inside the tram at all times.

- Wonder what it'll be like?

- A little scary.

Welcome to Honex, a division of Honesco and a part of the Hexagon Group.

#really? #me of all people is transphobic and homophobic? #some people just can’t let go #did y’all know that bees just buzz instead of talk? #feeding the troll #please grow up 😂 #I’m not here for follow counts so I honestly don’t care #I’m grateful that so many people followed or keep me on notifications #y’all are the best #I love y’all platonically

[strongintherealgay]

the "male brain" and "female brain" thing is just pop psych that isn't even worth bringing up, even when it's in trans affirming arguments. there are no significant changes in the brains of men and women, be they cis or trans. this is good!

#how does 'you can find out who is trans based on a brain scan' sound good to some people? #did we all forget that part of the interest around the human genome project was if there was a gay gene? #so homophobes could prevent future gays? #and how there is no 'gay gene' and how that is good? #anything homophobes or transphobes could use as a form of eugenics is not the argument you think it is tbh #transgender #trans #feminism #pop psychology #is that dangerous to tag? is that going to make a certain crowd come at me bc obviously their made up 'facts' are real #oh well idc

[cock-holliday]

I get what people mean when they say things like “you should care about x whether it has to do with you or not, that’s just being a decent person” but sympathy only gets you so far! Coalition building REQUIRES people seeing their struggle in the struggle for others. It’s lovely for short-term work to say “oh I care for others so I’m doing this” but inevitably, actual engaged solidarity will come with a cost! And when that toll becomes too heavy, no matter how well-intentioned you begin, if you can think, “it’s not about me” you will cave!

No, every issue does not have to directly relate to you but if you cannot see where the systems overlap you will always be at the mercy of seeing yourself as separate from the struggle you support, and a wedge will be driven either through repeated “us vs them” conditioning (even seemingly polite allyship like ‘cis people don’t come to this trans rally’) OR when it becomes so costly to support as an ally, you will stop “sticking your neck out” for something that “doesn’t concern” you.

Movements die when people outside the affected group stop caring, but one group’s injury is an injury to your movement too. We are not all facing unique enemies but the many-headed monster that attacks us all. And focusing on revealing where our fights meet is infinitely more important to me, and to genuine solidarity, than separating out who is supporting a cause for “””selfish””” reasons.

#LJsm #the short term guilt trip shit is how you get people burning out so bad #cause they are overwhelmed caring about 62 ‘unrelated’ fights #and feeling like without giving time to all of them they are ‘bad allies’ #‘that guy only shows up to anti-cop rallies cause he hates cops for classism reasons and not xyz reasons’ #1. do we know that? can it not be both? #2. who do you think is gonna buy us time to escape a cop riot—that guy #or the liberal here terrified of looking racist/transphobic/homophobic/classist/ableist if he DIDNT come? #one of them says this is their fight (whether it’s for the ‘right’ reasons) #the other says ‘this has nothing to do with me—I’m just here to support (until it’s too risky)’

[sonknuxadow]

Eggman would respect your pronouns but still throw grenades at you from his stupid little hover pod

“I’m going to destroy that hedgehog when I get my hands on him!”

“Actually boss, I think sonic uses ‘they’ now.”

“Noted. Change the pronouns in my hedgehog destruction plans, AND GET THE DEATH EGG ROBOT WARMED UP, NOW!”

literally what im saying

#asks #dont get me wrong im not one of those people who thinks eggman is actually a decent guy other than the wanting to take over the world stuff #i dont really agree with that take at all. but i do agree that even eggman wouldnt be homophobic/transphobic/etc

[nosleep83]

‼️REALLY LONG VENT IN THE TAGS PLS SCROLL PAST IF YOU DONT WANNA SEE THAT OR ANYTHING IM OK JUST FRUSTRATED (Ik I also say this in the tags but just in case)‼️

Maybe I do need to see a therapist 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

#GONNA VENT IN THE TAGS U CAN IGNORE THESE I JUST GOTTA GET MY THOUGHTS OUT AND STUFF #ALSO DW ABT ME OR ANYTHING LIKE IM MOSTLY FINE BUT #collecting problems like fucking Pokémon cards #my extended family sucks ass for one #homophobic/transphobic assholes #that fucking hate my parents for no good reason and keep trying to talk to me as if they don’t actually despise my parents #you hate my fucking parents I’m not saying shit to you #I cant fucking trust anyone in this family #there is no one I could ever tell anything and I’m sick of people lying to me and telling me I could #even my mom I couldn’t tell everything cause she’ll start losing her FUCKING SHIT #second of all I feel like I don’t fit in with kids my age #besides a couple of my friends #oh speaking of friends I can never fucking tell what to think abt my best friend since like 3rd grade #I’m too tired to get into that but I’m just so FUCKING CONFUSED #I just wanna scream so fucking bad #vent tw #sleep vents

[act-more-like-a-dog-sirius]

I swear to god it is impossible to exist for more than 3 consecutive minutes in this fandom these days without wanting to murder someone

#Where the actual gaddamn motherfuck is the reading comprehension #Where do y’all even come up with All these bad takes?!?? #Did people even read the books?!? #Do people even know how to read period?!?!! #Jesus fucking christ #no #I can’t even get into it there are too many instances that make me want to commit violence #but for fucks goddamn fucking sake #Holy shit this fandom is so so so so so unbelievably disgustingly pathetically WRONG #Please people please I am begging you to reread canon and to develop some reading comprehension #And for the love of god please #Please stop trying to say that just because you don’t like something in canon it’s toxic or homophobic or the author being a shitbag terf #I’m not defending jkr #but for fucks sake just because you personally don’t like a portion of canon does not make it intrinsically homophobic or transphobic #Honestly #Don’t come at me looking for a fight you will be blocked #I hate this fandom so fucking much

[moonsidesong]

is there just something about serilly x arle puyo that prompts homophobic men to leave backhanded compliments on my posts or.

#like its one thing to just get regular homophobic comments. right #like i used to get those with eighthato all the time back in the day #but like theres been two or three separate instances where some dude just like #comments smth to the effect of 'this is so cute! i dont like gay people though' #like??? okay??? thanks for telling me??????? #it just happened on twitter but the other instance that sticks out to me was this dude a couple years back #but the thing about it was This dude was a regular commission client back in the day #like i didnt have a job back then so he basically paid for most of my ipad costs bc he would give me like. big expensive 4-character comms #and then he just. Randomly comments that one day #like did you. did you think we were buddy-buddy enough to just say things like this now. like. excuse me #the funniest part was he came from 14crush too like. Did he know #i really dont think i was that subtle about eight and ahato but. like. did he know #the funniest part was that shortly after that happened i didnt even block him out of fear he'd try and chargeback his comms #but i quietly added smth to the effect of 'i will not work with homophobes/transphobes/etc' to the banner of my commission info #and then he just straight up never contacted me ever again. #insane #anyway hope you enjoyed this story of mine

[ohmybitna]

what kind of disgusting men does gmmtv hire????? i feel sick lately listening to some of them talk and since everyone is friends with each other i doubt most of them have different views by the way they laugh at those sick comments their coworkers/friends make. makes it REALLY difficult to enjoy the shows gmm puts out

#do they not get media training #like i'm glad they're exposing themselves so i know to not support them #but damn some of the sh*t they say is vile #sexism ped*philia homophobia transphobia racism colorism bullying cheating etc like there's someone new every week #you name it they got it #and it's not just men but most of it are #don't even get me started on the r*pe jokes i feel sick #gmmtv #and i barely see it talked about on tumblr #not a SINGLE post about prom's p*do comments or the r*pe jokes towards first #i've seen maybe 1 or 2 posts about ohm's bully past and him being a homophobe #same with nanon being proud of cheating #the disgusting transphobic comments towards jennie and godji from multiple gmm actors and actresses #like i gotta say except for 2 or 3 people in this company they all disgust me #and i really don't wanna support any of the actors in this company anymore #because they're ALL vlose and friends with each other #and if they talk and giggle about these things on camera #i don't wanna know what they're laughing about when the camera is off #anyway those are my 2 cents on all of this #i don't think i can watch gmm shows anymore

[sonknuxadow]

its sooo funny to me when people get mad over lgbt headcanons for sonic characters and say stuff like "you cant do that theyre canonically STRAIGHT!!!!".. even though 99 percent of sonic characters dont have canon sexualities and the few that do are Not straight. and when it comes to characters genders we just know their gender not whether theyre cis or trans. plus just because a character isnt canonically gay and/or trans doesnt make them canonically cishet by default.. get over yourselves

#''you cant say shadow is gay hes straight :/'' are you kidding me.. #that hedgehog has shown zero romantic interest in ANYONE throughout the entire sonic franchise #any close relationships he has with girls are outright confirmed to not be romantic in nature at all #what do you MEAN hes straight where is the evidence that hes straight. you literally only think that bc straight = default to you #you can think hes straight if you want to. but he doesnt have a canon sexuality people can headcanon him as whatever they want. die mad #''sonic is straight he has a girlfriend'' he only had girflfriends in pre reboot archie sonic. which isnt canon to the games #or to anything other than itself. plus he still doesnt have a canon sexuality #bi people exist and you can date people of a specific gender only to later realize youre not actually attracted to that gender #i could go on listing every single character ive seen people pull this stuff with and why theyre wrong lmao #just admit that youre homophobic and transphobic and think cishet is the default #instead of getting mad at people over harmless headcanons

[ijustneedtoshout]

lgbt people who exclude other lgbt people because they’re “cringe” or an “embarrassment/mockery” need to look in the mirror

I swear to god

#I hate YouTube shorts…again #it showed me how f-cking disgusting people are #as if Pinterest doesn’t show me that enough #like y’all are so f-cking embarrassing comin in here like #oh I’m lgbt and I think using(cute pronouns)is cringe and all of em should die #like do y’all realize how homophobic/transphobic #that is #cause I don’t think you do #you’re hating against people who have and are still being repressed jsut like you #and you have the gall to exclude them #you are no better then any of the ones who want us dead #and until you realize that imma call you what you are #a homophobe and a transphobe #and maybe just a f-cking idiot #myrants❤️‍🔥 #I hate YouTube shorts #and I hate people #humanity hate #f-ck lgbt exclusionists #they can all rot for all I care

[healingheartdogs]

Boy howdy, some cis men who call themselves gay and cis women who call themselves lesbians sure do love to say things that are blatantly transphobic, tell you that you're being homophobic when you call them out on it, and then justify that "homophobia" accusation by saying something else wildly and blatantly transphobic huh?

#if youre a cis queer and you ever find yourself saying something along the lines of #'no youre homophobic for trying to force me to date people with the wrong genitals for my sexuality' just know you are 100% in the wrong #and you are indeed a transphobe like you are being accused of #the trans tribunal met and we all agreed you are a transphobe so you can stop being so loudly wrong now pls and thank you #i know y'all like to plug your ears though and tell yourselves we arent talking about you #so im going to specify here that if you have ever said you have a 'genitalia preference' #especially if you have justified that 'preference' by mentioning your are a lesbian woman or gay man #**you are #that i am talking about you right now #if you identify as lesbian or gay and say your sexuality is based on genitalia you are not only transphobic but also actually homophobic #cuz those are gender based sexualities and you are trying to appropriate their label and change it for your own bigoted reasons #to make it exclusive of actual lesbians and gays who are more marginalized than you #y'all don't even have a clue what trans genitalia are like but are so confident that you arent attracted to any version of them #stop assuming that trans men have the same genitals as cis women and use them the same way regardless of where they are in their transition #stop assuming that trans women have the same genitals as cis men and use them the same way regardless of where they are in their transition #your assumptions are informed by cisheteronormative bias and are wrong #even pre-op it's different #ndr #not dog related #and im not back either i just wanted to shout this into the void that is tumblr #today has had a rough start for me #as always with my posts #if the shoe doesnt fit? dont make yourself wear it #only hit dogs holler

[chaos-in-one]

No one:

Me at random to confuse people:

Me: I'm on my girlboss arc *isn't a girl*

Me: They call me the wife haver *doesn't like women like that*

#-⛔/hyperion #queer #shitpost #technically I fit under gay but I don't like being called that I prefer queer #exclusionists dni #transphobes dni #radfems dni #tehms dni #homophobes dni #I'm a cis man btw before assumptions are made #but I don't want people against the existence of peoole I care about near me either #or bigots in general they all suck and are toxic shitheads #conservatives dni #alt-right dni #lgb alliance supporters dni #for extra measure yk #I don't really know if all that's necessary this is my first time making a post here

[illputdownmyrootswhenimdead]

transphobic gays when the conservatives they allied with to harm trans people move from transphobia to homophobia:

#transphobia // #homophobia // #misogyny // #incest // #rape // #warnings are mostly for the tags #alternative caption: transphobic cis women when the conservatives they allied with to harm trans people move from transphobia to misogyny: #‘surely these people with bioessentialist ideals about sex and gender and sexuality and what men and women are will treat me well #as a gay person/woman/both’ #or #‘​i never thought they would eat MY face’ sobs woman who voted for the leopards eating human faces party #anyway conversatives will not stop at just getting rid of trans people. they don’t want gay people either. they want women to basically be #property and objects for men again. #they aren’t going to see you as an exception. they are not your allies. #this is why i can’t stand terfs who agree with fuckers like matt walsh #he’s a huge fucking misogynist who is pro life and talks about how fertile teenage girls are and how child rape victims should have to give #birth to their rapists child because it’s ‘evidence’ of their assault #and he’s incredibly fucking homophobic too. he thinks gay people are groomers. #but he’s transphobic too so terfs just eat it all up and agree with him based on that. #‘he knows what a woman is uwu so he’s a feminist ally’ he doesn’t think that children should be taught about consent and that victims of #incest and rape should carry their rapists baby to term because it’s evidence and that teenage girls are more fertile and all kinds of #other disgusting shit #he is not your ally. if you align yourself with him you are not a feminist #you’re an idiot at best and just as much of a fascist predator as him at worst #i hope you drive your car off a bridge <3 #(drafted this back in january and its even more relevant now lmao)

[hecksupremechips]

Girl help I keep thinking about freaking persona 4

#i have banned myself from engaging with any persona 4 related content (except for memes my sister sends me) #because yeah its genuinely deeply upsetting for me and i always feel like absolute shit #but aghhh for some reason my brain has been fixated on it this week thinking about all the offensive garbage it is #and i keep thinking of all the evidence i can gather definitively proving that the writing is sooooo homophobic/transphobic #which is a very easy thing to gather up and prove since its all over the damn place lol #but like im just so fixated on how awful the game is and how the fans are even worse and i have this urge to argue forever #something im sure a lot of yall can relate to #cuz god it hurts to be screaming at people that theyre hurting you and for them to just say no to you as if its up for debate #if this sounds dramatic cuz its Juat A Game liiiike no its not Just A Game this is about #my daily life requires me to argue my existence constantly and its the same for every other damn marginalized person out there #and idk if youre still gonna either ignore or deny that persona 4 isnt batshit insanely offensive then youre stupid #i dont have the patience to argue shit like this anymore because theres no way someone with a brain can deny shit like that #and quite frankly even well intentioned queer fans who try to make headcanons that either say fuck you to the game #or hcs that do nothing at all to challenge the bigotry in p4 are kinda annoying to me #cuz it hurts too much to play along like yeah id LOVE to just slap a rainbow on kanji and a trans guy badge on naoto #and call it a day and enjoy the game outside of it all but thats kinda impossible #when these two characters entire existence revolves around the bigotry and its done in a way that hurts like hell to see #its too real for me to enjoy even if i make positive ‘fuck you atlus’ fan art #yeah ughhhh whatever its just annoying cuz I’ve been doing a good job at blocking this game away from my life #cuz it brought nothing but anger to me but its just been something thats been stuck on me lately #and im really not sure what triggered this or why its been lingering so long like please stoppp #its really embarrassing to be having bad mental illness over a shitty bibleo game 🙄