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variousqueerthings · 2 years

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was at an exhibition about top surgery where the artist had very simply shown lots of different bits that go into this part of transition (also included a section about cutting hair and trying out different hairstyles)

(describing in non-detail what was in that exhibit + non-descriptive discussion about surgeries)

-- included things like images of post-op + the tissue itself + a recreation of the surgery + plasters made of his chest before and after + more abstract sculptures

and I got to talk with the artist about how ecstatic it felt to see all of this, to share in this experience, to feel the reclamation of talking about it as well as the process of the surgery itself and all the feelings it brought up for him and for the audience

and he said that apparently lots of cis people kept saying it seemed really traumatic/gory/graphic and were disturbed by the presentation, and you know, glad they were there and engaging, but so interesting that other people who want/have had top surgery (+ I assume trans and nb people generally, but didn’t ask about that) were sharing in it as something joyful -- difficult yes, but ultimately a process towards joy, and also just happy to see it through our lens and presented so simply and honestly

and cis people (some) were scared or disgusted or horrified, as a natural instinct -- not bigoted necessarily, but completely shut off to what the purpose of this presentation was, that it wasn’t for them to feel comforted or for it to be simplified for them or for them to idk, see it and go “ahhh yes this process exactly relates to me now, therefore I can understand it exactly as it feels for others,” (if it did, then maybe you want top surgery...)

it was to tell a truth that isn’t commonly presented in so public a space, and certainly not by and for trans people

and it’s interesting, because a large proportion of people are going to have surgery at some point in their lives (presumably... most people?) and probably a major one. so there’s some questions there about:

1. what horrifies you about surgeries generally that you project that fear onto something that trans people (and any cis person who wants it) describes over and over again as a necessary, wanted process, the aim of which is to bring joy

2. what horrifies you specifically about the idea that someone might have surgery on their chest, and what do you need to do to unlearn that -- and this including cis women where there’s a non-zero chance that they’ll be getting a very similar surgery

3. what do you need to do to unlearn projecting horror images onto trans bodies/bodies that have scars/bodies that have had major surgeries?

4. what do cis people/what does cisnormative society have to do to unlearn the fears about bodies that undergo change, stop glorifying stagnation/stasis as the point of human existence -- because a non-zero part of that instinct towards fear isn’t just the scars, I think it’s the process itself, the showing of what is considered imperfection in a society that is meant to try to present as unchanging/unblemished/youthful (and thin, white, able-bodied, and of course: binary) as possible. If that goal is revealed to be undesirable, if an alternative is shown as simply as this exhibition did, your average cisgender person who’s taken in that messaging even if they’ve considered themselves to be allies (and probably still do) is suddenly faced with questions about what this means to them? It is no longer theoretical, they are looking at an imperfect body!

and to them this is meant to be a horror scenario, so even if it’s abundantly clear to us that it’s not, they just aren’t taking that information in. This process was desired, it was pursued, it was fought for, and their instinctive takeaway is “traumatic” (horror horror horror)

5. how come we don’t have a bunch of cool trans and disability oriented horror movies celebrating scars??? (and a bunch of horror movies centred on the violence of stasis)

-- also the thing that terrified me the most was seeing the bill, because this person was waiting so long on the NHS list that he eventually started scraping together the money to go private, as is incredibly common here..... maybe that’s where the horror should also be? @ the audience

#queer stuff #trans stuff #top surgery #transmasculine stuff #transmasculinity #(what are the odds that a non-zero % of cis people in there had to especially uncouple ideas about ideal femininity #from the images they were being presented with?)#this exhibit has helped give me a lot of perspective about going on t as well #i too have internalised fears about process -- i too need to unlearn glorification of stasis #i too most definitely have more work to do in loving the imperfect changing body #(and of course -- stasis is violence -- it's frog in boiling water violence -- it's easier to accept violence than the fear of change)#and now i go to bed

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androgynealienfemme · 1 year

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"I know what butch is. Butches are not beginner FTMs, except that sometimes they are, but it's not a continuum except when it is. Butch is not a trans identity unless the butch in question says it is, in which case it is, unless the tranny in question says it isn't, in which case it's not. There is no such thing as butch flight, no matter what the femmes or elders say, unless saying that invalidates the opinions of femmes in a sexist fashion or the opinions of elders in an ageist fashion. Or if they're right. But they are not, because butch and transgender are the same thing with different names, except that butch is not a trans identity, unless it is; see above."

-"I KNOW WHAT BUTCH IS", Butch is a Noun, Essays by S. Bear Bergman (2006)

#butch is a noun #s. bear bergman #lesbian #lesbianism #transgender #trans man #butch #butch lesbian #trans butch #transmasculine #gender stuff #trans lit #lesbian lit #this essay fucking rocks #lgbtq+ writing #lgbt writing

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punkwasp · 7 months

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Last night I was feeling kind of shitty out of the blue, and for no reason in particular, I decided to put on my chest binder.

Very quickly felt a sense of relief come over me, and same thing happened when I put it on today.

So here's a little reminder in case anyone else is like me and tends to minimize their dysphoria: sometimes dysphoria isn't always obvious. Sometimes it's just this sort of unexplained bad feeling. So if you're dealing with unexplained bad feelings and you've tried other things (making sure you're fed, staying hydrated, getting enough sleep, taking a shower, all those basic things) to deal with the bad feelings with no luck, maybe check if doing things that give you gender euphoria or at least lessen your gender dysphoria help.

#transgender #trans #gender euphoria #gender dysphoria #trans support #trans stuff #nonbinary #enby #transmasc #ftm #transmasculine #transfem #transfeminine #gender stuff #genderqueer #genderfluid #agender #mtf

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envythemoons · 3 months

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everytime someone tells me i cant shift around gender presentations as a trans masc, i find it so funny.

im a primordial being. a cheeky fey creature. a shapeless entity. the embodiment of magic. whatever i want to be. you gonna seperate water from ice? from steam? it's all the same molecules babygirl we're just playing dress up.

#transgender #transmasc #transmasculine #queer stuff #queer #nonbinary #gender nonconforming #trans #lgbtqia #lgbtq community #vibes

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transmascissues · 1 year

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let trans men&mascs romanticize testosterone.

keep your “you’re not going to look like an anime boy or whatever, you’re just going to look like your dad” to yourself.

keep your “but what about the balding and the acne and the anger problems and the gross hair everywhere and the horrible painful bottom growth and and and” to yourself.

keep your “once you look like a man you will scare people and you can never stop thinking about that” to yourself.

keep your “testosterone is poison and don’t you dare even suggest that saying that might hurt you” to yourself.

we are not obligated to take on your fears and traumas around testosterone as our own, nor are we obligated to let them influence our relationship with it.

we are not obligated to sit here in a world that heavily restricts and constantly threatens our access to it and listen silently as you contribute to stigma around it.

we’re already tired of watching cis society as a whole try to rip it away from us; we don’t need fellow trans people and supposed allies giving credence to their cause.

for many of us testosterone is life-saving medicine, it’s liquid gold, it’s the nectar and ambrosia of the fucking gods.

is it so hard to just let us have that? to let us believe that and say it and celebrate it without being given a million reasons to question it? is that really too much to ask?

if you can find it in your heart to let other trans people romanticize their transitions, i promise you can let us do it to.

testosterone is a beautiful thing. it makes people hotter and even more importantly it makes them happier and anyone who wants it should be able to have it because it’s so life-changing and magical and wonderful and incredibly important to so many people who deserve the happiness it offers.

#got some screenshots from a post talking about the whole ‘testosterone is poison’ thing #and it just 100% confirmed to me that it’s so much more than the ‘just venting’ people try to play it off as #and im just thinking a lot about how all these things are tied together now #how so many people including people in our own community are committed to making us feel bad about wanting/needing t #i’ll probably post those screenshots at some point but for now here’s this #posts about t always seem to get people Passionate so uh. wish me luck #love when the stuff i need to live a happy life is also like. one of the most controversial and hated substances ever apparently #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #trans men #transmascs

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incognitopolls · 3 months

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

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my-castles-crumbling · 30 days

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SOS my uterus is trying to kill me. Someone tell her I’m just a little guy.

#uterus #trans masc #gender fluid #period cramps #trans things #lgbtq+#lgbt #lgbtqiia+#trans stuff #transmasculine #trans #transmasc #help plz

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gamblegun · 3 months

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I honestly hope a lot of these people look back on all the things they've said through the anti-transandrophobia discourse and the TME/TMA discourse, and feel embarrassed. Not only for being transphobic, but for how righteous and sure they were about it. Most probably won't, but I can hope.

#transandrophobia #anti transmasculinity #and intersexist with the tme stuff

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0p0ssumprince · 6 months

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I've decided that if you can't take the things trans men say seriously, about our own oppression and shit, then you're not allowed to call yourself a fag. Nope. I'm taking it away from you. You're not allowed to use fag unless you respect all gay men, trans included.

Some of yall are just parroting terf talking points and then calling yourselves fags and its embarrassing. Just blocked over 300 people from one post cause they were all being super weird and embarrassing about trans men literally existing. Most of them had fag in their name!!!!

Dude ur not a fag unless you can respect the other fags in your vicinity. Fuck off with that shit man.

#opossumspeaks #transmasc #trans stuff #transmasculine #transandrophobia #ftm #f slur reclaimed

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gender0bender · 2 years

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Hello! Thought I’d let people know that Original Plumbing, a quarterly magazine that ran in the 2000s and was about trans men’s culture and identities, has a website selling some of their issues and they’re currently having a sale! Some of their issues (like the ones pictured) are going from 9-10 dollars when they’re normally 15-30. So if you’re interested in getting one for yourself I reccommend doing that. You can buy the issues here - https://originalplumbing.bigcartel.com/products

#undescribed #transgender #transmasculine #transman #transmen #transmasc #transmasc history #lgbt #trans pride #trans publications #I have ordered the health and safer sex issue and will be sharing stuff from it #my uploads #ftm

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bizarreaizen · 1 year

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"yeah i get it your trans, why do you have to make it your whole personality ??"

because i finally accepted who i am and had the courage to come out so yes i am gonna make it my whole personality, suck it. /gen

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queerslovehorror · 1 year

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To be transgender is to be both creator and created; to strive for the power to surpass your biologically assigned limitations, to claim that which society deems impossible, while simultaneously being treated like a monstrous patchwork of parts, maligned by an unfounded essentialism and chased out by those who might, under other circumstances, have been your family. That which genders the Creature as visually Other is the scarring across his forehead and ‘prosthetics’ in the form of bolts through his neck; visual suturing. Halberstam’s Skin Shows extensively discusses the concept of suture. In film, suturing is intended to be invisible, the cuts between shots intended to mimic reality. Foregrounding this suturing can act as a visual representation of incompleteness or monstrosity – it attempts to make complete that which is not and in doing so acts as a marker drawing attention to this incompleteness. Suture also marks a space of liminality, of a boundary which has been crossed and thus threatens to cross that boundary again. It is interesting, here, to consider the way in which prosthesis use and visible suturing has, particularly recently, become a signifier of many transgender people’s (primarily but not exclusively transgender men’s) own ‘completeness’; instead of marking something absent or ‘incorrect’, suture and scarring are reclaimed as a mark of pride in the self-construction of a transgender body, and in the embracing of such a liminal position.

Transsexual Transylvania – An Exploration of Male-Bodied Births in Horror ( Aidan James)

#frankenstein #sutures #scars #the transgender body #the creature #trans theory #queer theory #monster theory #horror theory #this whole text is very sexy #aidan james #text #trans stuff #transmasculinity

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simonmaclean · 1 month

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Trans men/trans boys/afab people who identify masculinely, what are some basic needs in a relationship with a cis guy that you want to see talked about more? Asks are open as well as dms