#using humor as a deflection

[ingravinoveritas]

Okay but is it a good thing for people to look at your family Christmas photo and say that it looks photoshopped and edited? Just wondering since so many people have that same thought over on twitter who believe that Georgia and Anna were edited in

It's been so overwhelming to see the response to these new pics. I am sure probably everyone has seen them by now, but I will put up the visual just in case:

I think I would agree with you that, in the most general sense, saying that someone's family Christmas photo looks Photoshopped/edited is probably not a positive thing. In the interest of fairness, looking at the pictures of the other people who were photographed at the event, it does seem like it was a problem with the lighting or editing overall that is affecting every photo, not just these pictures.

One thing I want to be clear on is that I think it's absolutely precious that Michael and David did this outing together, and are spending so much time together overall while Michael is in London. We had an inkling of that up until this point, but we literally went from a blurry photo to Michael and David gazing at each other across a crowded room on press night for Macbeth, to...this...in the span of less than a month. And I am glad that their kids are getting to spend time together and enjoy all of these holiday festivities as well. It's all very sweet and lovely, and in no way is it my intention to diminish that.

Thinking about the matching sweaters (jumpers), this is where I start to feel slightly less enthusiastic. It seems that the jumpers were Georgia's idea, which makes sense, as she previously had everyone wearing matching sweaters for a viewing party for "The Star Beast" (the first DW 60th anniversary episode). But having sweaters for Michael, AL, Lyra, and Mabli isn't an accident, or something that happens on the fly--it has to be planned. So for me, that makes it seem less like "spontaneous family outing" and more like "planned photo op meant to garner publicity."

What particularly gets me is that the both the matching sweaters for DW and the matching sweaters here feels like a gimmick...but Michael and David have never needed a "gimmick." Because Michael and David just being themselves has always been enough to be memorable. I'm not sure if Georgia thought she needed a gimmick to make herself and Anna stand out or what, but to me it almost feels like the sweaters are a diversion. As if Georgia perhaps knew the four them in a photo together would look awkward, so what better way to deflect than to give everyone something else to talk about. (Perhaps the same could also be said for Michael's hat, which...why, Michael? Haha.)

But it seems that Georgia's idea worked, because right after these pictures came out, an article was published about them in the Daily Mail. So all of this put together does give that feeling of being planned, especially because the four of them were so much the focal point of the DM article, more than any of the other celebrities at the event.

This brings me back to the aforementioned photos. Again, what seemed notable to me wasn't just what we did see, but what we didn't: No photo of Michael and Anna together, nor of David and Georgia, and not one of Georgia and AL, either. Instead, we have this group photo (where no one is actually touching and Georgia and AL's arms are awkwardly hanging side by side), and a photo of Michael and David where they are, with their arms around each other and Michael leaning into David, in contrast to his much stiffer posture in the group photo.

Looking at the Getty Images page, all of the other twosome photos are of couples, and none of them have the same unusual energy as Michael/David/Georgia/AL's group photo. So I do wonder if the fans pointing out the "Photoshopped" nature of the picture (and specifically that Georgia and AL appear to be edited in) have ever considered that maybe that is just how Georgia and AL look together. Because we're not talking about Staged, or social media posts. This is them, face to face, in real life, and the difference between Georgia and AL vs. Michael and David just seems pretty striking.

(I am also aware that there was another family photo that Georgia posted in an Insta story, and it is an incredibly cute picture, but I will say that what struck me is how Georgia and AL are pressed close together, but there is a very noticeable amount of space between Anna and David, and he seems to be giving off a lot of 'closed' body language (one hand in his lap, one folded behind him). Make of that what you will...)

So yes, those are my thoughts on the new pictures. I would love to hear any observations that anyone else has, of course, so feel free to share your thoughts in the comments. Thanks for writing in! x

#phantomstars24 #unforgivablengk #reply post #michael sheen #welsh seduction machine #david tennant #soft scottish hipster gigolo #georgia tennant #i just think it speaks volumes that their 'family outing' ends with an article in the DM #especially because i'm not sure an article like that would be written on the fly #also Michael wearing the hat reminds me of when he dressed as Olaf when AL and the girls were in Frozen costumes for Lyra's birthday #instead of as the prince #using humor as a deflection #i could be completely wrong about all of this of course #but i will leave it to my followers to make up their own minds #anna lundberg #relationships #ineffable lovers #discourse

[stop-breaking-my-heart-telltale]

What can I say? They're my favorite.

#twdg #twdg clouis #clouis #twdg clementine #twdg louis #sometimes they creep back into my mind and i'm like 'ah yes' like a crow admiring a pretty stone they found years ago and kept #also thank you pi for the screenshots. i used to have a whole folder full of them but that was when i was doing themed nights #the source for these is me i just have a random document full of dynamics and ship things i enjoy because.....i dunno i like keeping track #and so many of them apply to clouis but there's also an overlap of with clouis and rose/alistair [my warden from origins and alistair] like #alistair's romance route is like an evolved matured and extended version of clouis sksksks gee i wonder if i have a type #look you present me with a character who deflects with humor and isn't taken seriously by the rest of the group and the longer you know the #the more you realize how high they've built a wall around themselves and how *unwell* they really are and how they're not as sunshine #as they present themselves and also they avoid leadership and responsibility until they grow closer with someone who pushes them #and they end stronger and more balanced as a person while finding the affection they've craved #and also there's the daddy issues #present me with that character as a romantic option and i'm in no questions asked okay i don't want the mean broody one that's meh to me #i want the one that has every reason to be broody but chooses not to be because they have a completely different defense mechanism #and a warped sense of themselves and self-esteem issues they leave unaddressed until forced to face them #i'm just saying i'm aware that i have a type i'm always going to gravitate toward clouis nearly checks all the boxes #also the lack of clouis these days? my crops are thirsty and i have too many ongoing projects to do anything about it other than this sksks #so until i make time to finish my long ass louis/clouis analysis this is the best i can provide for now

[lorcandidlucienwill]

Lucien, Fenrys, and Dorian need to meet and start a sad boys' club.

#my poor sad boys #lucien vanserra #pro lucien vanserra #fenrys moonbeam #dorian havilliard #sad boys #they also all use humor to deflect their trauma #ugh so sad

[babymagi]

#judar using humor to deflect mental illness is so real like actually #love him so much #magi #magi labyrinth of magic #magi kingdom of magic #magi textposts #textposts #anime text post #magi memes #anime memes #memes #judar #judar magi

[eternallovers65]

The whole jaiden and roier dealing with grief is so interesting to me because I believe neither of them have actually dealt with it. And what's even more interesting (and somehow ironic) is that they are opposite in this situation.

Like roier is always around people, whether it's cellbit, richas or even quackity. There's always someone there, and he uses humor to deflect the actual seriousness of the situation. So he's always surrounded by people who help him forget about the life he used to have. While jaiden is always alone, she does have friends who love and support her, but she doesn't know how to reach out. So she shuts herself off, all alone inside Bobby's shrine filled with memories that remind her of the life she used to have.

The point is that roier is always with someone (which isn't that bad), but he also needs some alone time to just think about what happened. Meanwhile, jaiden has had too much time alone, and it's important to stay with as many friends as she can

#idk their whole dynamics is so interesting to me #especially roier because we never actually saw him talking about this #jaiden we've seen it but roier is always using humor to deflect #idk if this makes sense but its ironic how the one is always surrounded by people needs some alone time #and the one who is always alone needs to be surrounded by friends now #qsmp #qroier #qjaiden #bobby the egg

[marc--chilton]

(mgv) house making jokes at the start of his pregnancy but wilson is sweating bullets. he's not even thinking of himself when he's terrified of house losing this one. all he can think of is the mournful wailing of an omega who lost so much. if it happens again, well. he can't imagine it would be pleasant.

#house md #hilson #house using humor to deflect from how scared he is no matter the outcome #especially since he decides the best course of action is to terminate - he's almost fifty/they didn't plan this/etc - but he can't go thru #with it as the idea alone makes his hackles raise #and wilson would be sad if this one didn't make it sure. but he's not the one with this sort of trauma #the closest thing to it he does have is the secondhand from taking care of house during all of it #for once both parties are scared to hope for happiness #mgv

[theradicalace]

god gives his biggest titties to his most transmasc soldiers

#ace rambles #transgender #transmasculine #this post is in jest but really why am i built like an anime girl #(<- using humor to deflect from the fact that he just cried about another new binder barely doing anything)

[thatonesquintern13]

wait. they KNOW EACH OTHER???

#idk in my head this was funny #(using humor to deflect my sadness and other thoughts) #hannah waddingham #jason sudeikis #ted lasso #bits and pieces

[delicate-little-honeysuckle]

I am so obsessed with House MD and I haven't even hit episode 10 yet. It's just incredible!

#house md #so artistically shot and made #the writing feels like natural dialogue. the acting is great #and as a cripple with chronic pain in their right leg who uses a cane and uses humor to deflect the seriousness around them #i enjoy house's character #also im obsessed with wilson. i want to study him under a microscope and i also wish to look like season 1 him hes so beautiful omh #this is the first show ive been able to binge in literal years i cant wait to watch all of it and probably rewatch it soon after

[pasteldnp]

Drop your favorite dnp head cannons that you have no proof of other than the fact that you just really want it to be true

Phil proposed in Japan 2.0 on the day they went to the red gates. But they had some kind of life commitment before then and probably wont get any kind of traditionally married.

There have been detailed research plans to get a dog for as long as they have been working on the house.

They dont say I love you a lot and say and do other things that they understand mean the same thing.

(Honestly i think most intimate communication they do is probably in their stupid made up language and is about 7 inside jokes deep and you’d need the fucking golden compass to actually understand the truth of their relationship, are you happy dan.)

I think they both have artistic or personal hobbies/endeavors they don’t share on the internet or want to try and incorporate into their careers.

Phil has more sensory issues than just the cheese stuff.

Dan is incredibly protective and dotting over Phil’s health and it scares him when he’s unwell and thats why he was so yappy in the superglue video because he was defensive (and i definitely think Phil’s health stuff is worse than he lets on and i wish that wasn’t true).

Phil actually did his best and tried not to kill those houseplants (and Dan’s jabs are a defense over how much he missed Phil and not over the plants that he knew would be dead because he wanted Phil to be with friends and family)

They don’t actually spend that much time around each other during the day and utilize their own private offices or general house zones to be productive and to have a healthy relationship, and lockdown while moving and downsizing into the one smaller filming flat at the end before the house was complete did put a strain on their relationship.

Those rich bitches built a big nice shower in their place so they can actually shower together.

Dan loves being an uncle but he wont talk about it and we will rarely if ever see him with Freja.

#dnp #i have a fic about the first one that just needs written #that video of phil walking backwards under the gates #it changed my brain chemistry #basically that whole day he was in that striped sweater #ive never looked harder for ring proof in my life #also the sensory thing may be a projection lol cause same #cheese hating twinsies #dans straight up says he uses humor to cope and deflect #it became part of their relationship because of how necessary it was #hence how fucking weird they are #also cause dans commitment issues #i would die for my dnp and freja content pls cornelia feed me #love being included as you can see I have thoughts

[maddiesnowflake]

i have come to the conclusion that keefe sencen is literally just a blonde percy jackson, and in this essay i will-

#percy jackson #keefe sencen #kotlc #walker scobell is that u? #it really comes down to the using humor to deflect trauma #also the daddy issues

[thelaughingmerman]

Look at my silly boy

#i didnt bring my other wip to work so im working on some of the little comic scenarios #thatce bsen rattlinf around in me noggin #hes just messing when he says that he knows eugene uses humor to deflect so if he feels like a situation can handle hit #hes started trying to do it too to lighten the mood in some situations

[justice4sasuke]

Character Roundups Round 2: Naruto Uzumaki

Naruto's relationship with Sasuke as written and framed by Kishimoto: Naruto and Sasuke are the quintessential rival/best friend relationship (with all the problems inherent therein). Naruto's the loser, Sasuke is the cool one, Naruto wants to beat Sasuke, Sasuke gets an inferiority complex when Naruto starts getting actually good ("good"), etc. etc. When Sasuke starts to turn to "the dark side" and fights with Naruto, Naruto never gets a talking to like Sasuke does despite also wanting to fight Sasuke (or at least not one on screen) which says to me Naruto's behavior is considered okay by the narrative.

When it come to the first Valley of the End fight, Naruto's goal of getting Sasuke back is seen as noble and being a good friend (threatening to break someone's arms and legs is classic good friend behavior), but something is still missing considering Naruto fails. What Kishimoto thought Naruto was missing, strength or something ideological or a mix of both I'm not sure.

Naruto at the start of Shippuden is fully obsessed with Sasuke and determined to bring him back. I get the sense that Naruto is still supposed to be considered noble and a good friend for this, but somewhat misguided considering he fails to "rescue" Sasuke during their first meeting after two years. What Naruto is supposed to have learned I'm not sure, but Jiraiya dying and Konoha getting destroyed did it probably. Sure, he has a full panic attack because everyone wants to kill Sasuke, but that's just to show how nice and caring Naruto is (Sasuke is also having a full mental breakdown but he's evil for that). Also Naruto is once again told that he needs to make a decision and he refuses to do so and instead decides he and Sasuke are going to die together because that's normal friend behavior in this world.

Now Naruto barely had an arc to begin with, but after controlling the nine tails thing I really feel like we are supposed to think Naruto has it all figured out and he just has to win the war and get everyone to think like he does. And this includes caring about Sasuke so hard (and beating each other up) that Sasuke realizes he cared about Naruto too all along and they should stop fighting and bring the ninja world together and be friends forever. And as always Naruto was a noble and good friend to Sasuke this whole time, Sasuke just needed to see that.

How it should have gone: Well, first and foremost, before we even mention Sasuke, Naruto needed an arc. He was primed to have his own arc by the end of the Wave arc with him wanting to become a ninja on his own terms rather than being a tool for the village. Ironically it seems his own terms were being inflexible, refusing to make decision, yelling about his ninja way, and refusing to examine the problems and history of his village that he supposedly didn't want to be a tool of. Not only that, but Naruto understandably never learned how to interact with others and rather than that also being part of his journey, he only cares about others when he relates to them, he projects himself onto Sasuke rather than being a friend to him, and he refuses to respect Sasuke's very clear boundaries. And of course it would have helped if Naruto and Sasuke came off as actual friends instead of Kishimoto saying they are friends while they give off the vibe of "teammates, begrudgingly" and "way too into each other considering the amount of animosity between them".

Make Naruto and Sasuke actually friends and have Naruto learn how to act like a human are pretty straight forward so let's move on to the big one: giving Naruto an actual arc that incorporates Sasuke since Kishimoto wants his NS shit so bad. It's kinda funny actually how an arc for Naruto is just kind of sitting there as soon as Naruto says he wants to be a ninja his own way and Kishimoto ignores it in favor of not making Konoha look bad like this fucking village is worth preserving more than your main character.

I feel like the best way to go about a Naruto character arc would be his desire to have his own ninja way clashing with his desire to have the adulation and attention of the village. I'm fine with everything before shippuden, the only thing I would feel the need to change is once again Naruto and Sasuke being more convincing as friends and Naruto isn't framed as completely in the right and not also getting a talking to during their first and second fights. When shippuden hits though, especially after the Pain fight when Naruto gets the attention of the village like he always desired, I would start showing Naruto straying from his dream of not just being a tool of the village. We could add some stuff during that first Gaara arc that maybe hints at Naruto having problems with his role of being a ninja and a jinchuuriki and maybe some dissatisfaction with the village not being super committed to what's going on with Sasuke (since let's be real, those elders especially should be sweating with him gone) just to bring home the point that Naruto doesn't always agree with the workings of a ninja village, but he still wants their approval. Then dun dun! Naruto still basking in the love from the village hears that Sasuke kidnapped Killer Bee and the Cloud Village is on the warpath and Konoha (Danzo) was like go the fuck ahead (you know Danzo was like yes, please, god the last one) and Naruto is like well I don't want them to kill my friend I'll just go reason with the raikage and then I'll get Konoha to agree not to do anything to Sasuke. Shock and awe, the raikage is like nah and not only that some asshole shows up and says Konoha killed Sasuke's clan. This Naruto simply can't believe, but even if they did...wasn't it for the best? Surely, Konoha wouldn't do something that was objectively abhorrent. Thinking this when Naruto runs into Sasuke again who is fully having a breakdown Naruto tells him he will fight him for the village, betraying his own promise to himself to "save" Sasuke and becoming a tool of the village.

Honestly, after that I personally would have Naruto go train or whatever on the World Turtle but skip the dark Naruto and Kurama shit. Just make the tailed beasts chakra demons like we've been pretending they are, honestly I would have cut out any reference to them talking or having thoughts and kept it as an evil energy. We just got enough going on as is, maybe pay more attention to some side characters. Anyway, it's war time and Obito is being his usual worst self and Kabuto brought Madara back to be his queen self. Sasuke can show up with the "cavalry" after having his moment with Itachi and listening to Hashirama recount Romeo & Juliet, sure. But this time he's actually clear and says to Naruto "I'm not letting these fucks do whatever, but make no mistake when this is over it's revolution time even if I have to burn this shit to the ground." And wouldn't you know it they fight Obito and Madara and no goddess and her male-voiced will show up at the end. What would instead happen is through the fighting we (plus Naruto and Sasuke) see the clash of Madara's (and Obito's I guess, still fuck him though) trauma, Hashirama's dedication to his idea of the village leading to willful blindness to its problems, and Tobirama's deep-seated prejudice mixed with a militant dedication to the concept of The Village (that the Uchiha's aren't totally apart of oops how did that happen). This leads sorta Sasuke but mostly Naruto to be like wait Hashirama's idea for the Village was fundamentally flawed, it did nothing to stop generations long grudges from continuing nor did it do anything about the inherent trauma involved in being a ninja. I could practically see it now, Madara defeated and about to die and he's monologuing about how they are just tools for the village and it's just going to create more pain like he told Hashirama that first time and Sasuke's making a good Sasuke face filled with pathos and shit and Naruto's like "You're right" and everyone's like 😮 and Naruto can have a monologue like "what happened to you was wrong, what happened to Sasuke was wrong, and some of those things are from people being shitty and some are just short-sightedness, but either way we can burn it all down or we can confront the past and try to make something that will make the future better" and all the dead people that were brought back disappear finally and we either kill or arrest Obito idk once again fuck him.

Then we can have some jabber from the villages about "you hear those two elders got arrested?" and "I heard the Uchiha massacre was actually on orders from high up." or something while we take a look at what the characters are doing. And our final scene can be another one outside the village with Naruto and Sasuke and Naruto's like "I'm not going to say you should stay, I won't even ask. This isn't your problem to fix, it's this Village's and well mine if I'm going to be hokage like I've been saying I am, but even if you never come here again I hope I can still call you my friend." And Sasuke is like "I think I'm going to travel for a bit, see the world, see what the other villages are doing, but when I'm done I might still stop by. Just to make sure you're keeping your promise." "You mean the Uchiha monument?" "That of course, and that you've actually become hokage like you keep yammering on about." And Naruto is surprised at first but he smiles and Sasuke smirks and he's not going to say out loud that Naruto is his friend (at least not now) but things are looking bright and holy god this was cheesy but I already wrote it and I've spent two days on this so fuck it. Post.

#character roundups #i lot of i feel and i think in this one bc idk what kishimoto was fucking going for #i regret this character roundup thing so much #i hate using my brain #and being thoughful #i just want to use pop culture references and humor to deflect from the fact that i think i'm a dumb bitch #anyway if there's some problems in my plot summary there just ignore it its the second draft of my and my brothers first idea #what more do you want from me #and yet its still better than what kishimoto wrote hmmm

[public-trans-it]

Your Trademark™️ is being a super good person with correct opinions and great game ideas

ABSOLUTELY correct, I'm so fucking glad someone noticed, but you also forgot extremely humble. Maybe even the MOST humble person ever.

#im totally not just using humor to deflect from me tearing up over this #thank you friend ilu

[hoperays-song]

Ryan’s Deflecting Skills

Johnny, standing in front of the tv with his arms crossed: Darling, I love you but I know you’re deflecting from talking about your trauma by making jokes about how hot you are.

Ryan, sitting in bed with a tub of ice cream: It’s not a joke.

Ryan: *sniffles*

Ryan, voice cracking: I’m a legit snack.

Johnny, sighing: Ryan, I think it’s more important to talk how you were crying in the bathroom for two hours earlier.

Ryan, burying himself under the the blankets: Noooooooooo.

#sing #sing 2 #sing ryan #sing johnny #rynny if you squint and turn your screen upside down #Johnny says this and then procceds to do the same thing himself #communication is key #they both use humor to deflect from their trauma #it annoys everyone else to no end #mainly because of how terrible the jokes are

[southerntchiorny]

So I got new wifi this weekend (I finally have functional internet service 🙌🏻) and my mom and aunt came with me because we were out do a smidge of shopping. Apparently while I was setting it up they saw/heard my email address which shares my username here…

So we get back in the car and my mom asks “Sooo, why is your email Southern Horny???”

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So I’ve had to explain that it’s TCHIORNY (Chor-nee) and that it’s another name for BRTs.

#and then I used my patented embarrassment deflection technique: humor #‘oh yeah; don’t want it unless it’s wearing nothing but boots and a cowboy hat