#you can't tell me this isn't trans

[skyekurisu]

#josou shite off kai ni sanka shite mita #you can't tell me this isn't trans #transgender #manga #crossdressing #josou off kai #elpsykongroo #scanlation #I Cross-Dressed for the IRL Meetup

[mildlyanxiousverge]

I think the reason I kin Reg is more prominent now. I want to be Sirius. I want to be–but I can't. Maybe I will be Siri someday, but right now I can't. I'm a coward. I want to run away like Sirius. I want to scream in anger like Sirius. I want to rebel like Sirius. I want to shout at my parents like Sirius. I want someone to run to, like Sirius. I want to find a real family like Sirius. I want to be brave like Sirius. Sirius. Sirius. Sirius. I want to be free. I just want to be free. Please let me be free.

#Another one from my notes #You can't tell me this isn't how regulus think on a daily basis #regulus black #hp marauders #marauders #regulus headcanon #sirius and regulus #regulus kinnie #slytherin skittles #the pantheon #jegulus #hp #regulus being regulus #me being regulus #trans regulus #regulus arcturus black #the most ancient and noble house of black #regulus angst #regulus feels #regulus black kinnie #mauraders era

[gender-euphowrya]

spell of explode all transphobes Activate

#god i'm tired fkfhdj #i just want some kind of like #Worldwide Rule where you're not allowed to talk about shit you know nothing about #like. oh you have an opinion on trans people ? how much do you know about the effects of hrt ? #can you cite an accurate statistic about the rate of detransition ? have you researched what puberty blockers are ? #have you met and talked to a transgender person before ? a psychologist who has worked with trans patients ? #can you give a broad definition of the word ''non-binary'' ? do you know what a pronoun is ? have you heard of stonewall ? #can you name even one trans man ? #fail any of those and Sorry you gotta shut up now you're not qualified for this conversation #apply to any topic. racism. the climate. palestine. fatphobia. etc #too many damn people are comfortable parading around their Terribly Uninformed takes for other dipshits to parrot and spread #like i'm sorry but if you can't even tell me what tucking is why should i listen ? why should anyone #like this isn't even in-depth understanding i'm demanding it's literally the fucking basics #at they very least. if you don't know shit. then fucking say so. #''i think __ but i'm not an expert and i could be wrong'' something like that #rather than ''I THINK __ FOR NO GOOD REASON JUST GUT FEELING AND I'LL NEVER CHANGE MY MIND'' #just being louder than the people correcting your blatant misinformation doesn't fucking cut it. it shouldn't.

[thediktatortot]

It sucks how a fairly large demographic of Gen Z that makes up the online community they have are REALLY just falling into the same emotional patterns as Boomers usually do in every day life.

Asking for help isn't a childish thing. It's okay to ask for help, it's GOOD to ask for help if you need it. Not asking for help isn't an 'adult' thing to do, that's just plain ol setting yourself up for failure.

Let's do away with the Boot Strap theory and start accepting help and helping each other in our communities.

#I just saw a post where a trans man in the comments was going off about how 'he never asks for help because he isn't a child' #and he doesn't like to associate with other trans/queer people because he hates the fact that he's trans and he hates that everyone else #has a different experience than him that he can't relate too and thusly never wants to ask for help because all it will do is make him feel #bad about himself for not being the right kind of trans man #MY DUDE #THIS IS WHY YOU NEED COMMUNITY #THIS IS WHY WE ALL NEED COMMUNITY #WE ARE OSTRACIZING OURSELVES BY INFIGHTING AND MAKING QUEER HAVE CHECKMARKS WE HAVE TO HAVE BEFORE WE ARE DOING IT RIGHT #Jesus fuck #Like don't get me wrong that guy has some things he needs to work through because I feel really bad that he wont even associate with other #trans people for the fear of 'getting advice' #but this is why we need to stop telling people how to be queer #Queer just is #You are either Queer or you are not #and there is no right or wrong way to be Queer

[zukkaoru]

how do i tell my mom she accidentally queercoded this character by switching their gender bc she didn't have enough boys to fill all the male roles for this play

#/nonserious question. i am NOT actually telling her #she wants me to look over the edited part of this scene to make sure it reads alright #and like yeah it's fine but MOM. YOU MADE HER QUEER. AND I CAN'T TELL YOU THAT #like okay i get that queercoding isn't obvious to people who aren't queer (and even people who Are. sometimes 😐) #so probably none of the homophobic parents who come to watch this show are going to realize #the character is a young girl characterized as a tomboy so like. basic character trope. that's fine that's normal #but as someone who is queer and took a queer lit class in college and defaults to reading things through a queer lens #i'm.... i'm not so sure you really made this character a girl. i think you accidentally just made him trans #anyway. i'm just gonna hope and assume the queer reading of this that is very obvious to me is not obvious to anyone who isn't queer 👍 #hello grace here

[northern-passage]

one of the reasons why TNP is one of my favorite IFs is because the cast is trans AND Hunter can be trans too and it will be acknowledged. when it was revealed in the story that Lea and Marry are trans too I was so happy!! there are barely any trans characters in IFs and VNs, even less of them are genderlocked/always trans no matter the chosen gender.

thank you! i always found it very transparent when a game only allows the mc to be nb (very few of them have actual options for binary trans people - it's too hard to do more than just code "they/them" pronouns and be vague i guess) and in my opinion that's way more immersion breaking, because that's not how the real world works. you will see trans people, every day, at like.. target or whatever. and this isn't even just about trans people but also diversity in general.

obviously when it comes to trans characters, this is an attitude that has changed a lot very fast over the past few years, so looking back at older games i don't necessarily expect there to be trans options, nor do i expect everyone to be out here writing complex "transgender" narratives, either. most people that accuse us of that are just bad faith actors. in my experience, people are just looking for basic acknowledgement; they want to see people like them existing and going on fun adventures, too. that's what i want, and that's why me, a trans author, likes to write about trans people being trans in the genre that i like - but rarely get to see myself in.

i also think when it comes to fantasy or scifi, how boring do you have to be to allow for fantastical world-building but draw the line at societal expectations? and if you want to really be specific about world-building, then why would a gender binary exist in a world where there was never a colonial power enforcing it? why do you want sexism, racism, and homophobia to exist so bad? why does it upset you so much when it doesn't?

#obviously there are stories where those things are an important part of the narrative and im not saying it's automatically bad #to write abt societal bigotry #(i have to say that or people will misinterpret me) #but i do think it says a lot when ppl insist that those things HAVE to exist #or else it's not 'accurate' #or else it's 'breaking your immersion' #like idk how to tell you this but trans people ARE real. like for real in real life #if you can't comprehend that... i think that's a you problem #and you should go read something else lmfao #also this isn't even about representation (a word i am really starting to dislike) #it's literally just... how can you not comprehend or empathize with people that may not be exactly like you? #why does it upset you so much to see other stories being told? #i should share a writing advice video i watched recently where a writer talks abt how empathy is a huge part of writing #she's right!! and it's a huge part of reading too #ask #anonymous

[bylertruther]

crazy how people will see you bring up literal scenes from the show, quotes by the duffers, actors, casting director, and costume dept, as well as the stranger things bible/first pitch, and be like "you're so dumb and offensive, that's NOT will, i'm so sick of will being babied and 'fEmiNizEd' blah blah blah" like girl maybe you just don't like women or will byers. have you ever considered that?

maybe YOU'RE the one failing to watch this show with your eyes and ears open if you're out here straight up denying scenes from the show itself. maybe YOU'RE the one failing to see that will has always been brave not despite his fear but because of it, and it's LITERALLY his bravery that inspires mike to start a search party and kickstarts the show. maybe YOU'RE the one that has super regressive, small-minded, and one-dimensional views on what bravery looks like, what strength looks like, and all the different ways there are to be not only a man, but a person in general.

like i just don't know how you can think you possibly know more than the actual people that make this show and dedicate literal years of their lives to making it the best it can possibly be and most accurate to their creative vision LOL like. sometimes you're just wrong!!! suck it up and go find another character that you'd actually like more instead of taking one that's impressively complex and cared for in ways that we seldom see in media!! much less media as globally popular and impactful as this one is, and esp not when it comes to gay male characters!!

will is complex and layered and beloved by many precisely because of that very complexity and capacity to be many things at once that you are so bafflingly intent on erasing!! if you find yourself disagreeing with canon & the creators to the point where you have to completely remove his most important traits and reject the literal show itself, then the fact of the matter is that you just don't like him!! AND THAT'S OKAY! but at least be honest with yourself instead of digging yourself deeper and deeper into a pit of denial and trying to make it seem like the duffers are the crazy ones here and not the fucking stranger things equivalent to flat earthers like 🤦‍♂️

#i just. girl this is not a matter of opinion canon is what canon is like ??? hello. lmao #are you gonna tell me will isn't gay next. are you gonna tell me he's a jock or something. where does it end lol #when it comes to headcanons you can think whatever you want but headcanons are NOT canon #you can't look at the literal TEXT of the show and go 'hm. no actually this isn't real.' #that's just not how reality works? we need education reform immediately this is tewwwwwww much #gatekeeping will and mike forever until the end of time idc thts my toxic trait we been knew this #keep ur headcanons and enjoy them but don't try to say that they're canon #i love my trans will hc i love it and hold it to my chest so near n dear but i don't say that it's canon..... i believe many things abt #mike's character and his actions etc but i still am always open to the idea that i could be wildly wrong bc s5 isn't here yet #like. i just. can we not equate headcanons and canon . can we not look at literal scenes from the show and be like Mmmm No. #nd make it into a moral issue when it really fucking isn't. will is the way that he is like SUCK IT UPPPPPPPP GO AWAYYYYYYYY THERE #ARE OTHER CHARACTERS FOR U TO PICK FROM!!! CHOOSE ANY ONE OF THEM!!! LEAVE WILL'S ASS ALONEEEEEEE

[sherlock-is-ace]

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#not having a great time today after my mom commented on my interests #i'm a person that is interested in shit i don't know this is why i'm very likely to follow disabled youtubers #in my time i have watched molly burke. multiplicityandme and a collection of autistic youtubers (guess why lol) #and my mom made a quite patronizing comment about how i ''take on causes'' by learning about stuff #and/or supporting fun and interesting youtube channels #but anyways it sucks even more because on her comment she made it clear (once again) that she doesn't believe me when i say #i might be autistic. and it fucking sucks! #because when i first talked to her about it even I didn't know much about it. i was just starting to do my research #and i was trying to make sense of things still but she dismissed it #but now that i do know more and things do make more sense #i can't even bring it up because the fact that i have been watching a lot of youtubers talk about autism will make her think #i'm just trying to be like them... which is stupid #but it's also the reason i didn't tell her that my best friend in my teens was trans. because i was trying to figure shit out myself #and telling her he was trans and then a bit later that i am as well was going to make her go ''everyone's trans now blah blah'' #and dismiss that as well... but now i'm trapped in the same thing about autism lol #and her stupid loophole of a dismissal isn't just by saying ''no you're not autistic'' it's saying this like ''well MAAAAYBE you COULD be #but that doesn't mean anything and it doesn't matter and why would you want a diagnosis if it's not gonna change anything'' #same thing as her whole ''sure you're a man but why do you have to look and act differently? YOU know who YOU are #who cares what others think?'' in a don't transition way #like that's so stupid! #dkfjhkdfhkdfg #i'm angry and i feel trapped #i have figured out a little bit ago that i don't stim near as enough as i need to BECAUSE i live in the same house as her #and the idea of ear defenders and other stuff like that is very appealing but i can't do that while she's around to judge #and IN PUBLIC?! that's unthinkable!! #i still remember the time she threatened with not going out with me (to the supermarket) because I commited the huge crime of #buttoning the top button of my button up shirt.... #that's it. that was the whole reason.. she thought i looked ridiculous and she didn't want to be seen with me... #imagine if i wear ear defenders out... #not gonna risk it lol

[123countwithme]

I think I found a father for my OC Molly. I don't have a name for him just yet, but he is based on this character I saw in Elmo's Mindfulness Spectacular (on YouTube).

#I know it's bad but I like how I drew them cuddling #when I tell you I was so happy I giggled myself silly. I am not joking. #I feel like I did have a name for him but I can't remember #I debated about giving Molly only a mum but it felt a bit too personal. So I went for the dad and daughter duo instead. #Single parents are amazing I'll tell you that for free #Okay what if Molly was his adopted daughter?? hear me out. I have had that rolling around in my head #I though of him as possibly trans? and him having top surgery scars? I have a drawing... #I HAVE A WHOLE LITTLE COMIC ON THIS MAN FEELING LIKE HE ISN'T A GOOD PARENT AND/OR HE'S DOING SOMETHING WRONG #sesame street oc #sesame street #molly might have autism

[1000punks]

i hope women don't think i'm a man when they see me out and about

nuance in the tags

#.txt #obligatory there isn't something inherently wrong with being a trans man/transmasc obviously- i just want women to know i'm Gay For Them #i see a lot of queer women stopping in at work and all of the butch “what if they think i'm a cis dude” and #“i certainly hope the deep voice doesn't make them think i'm flirting (predatorily)” feelings come up #gender shit #raaaaaaaahhfhjf #as i get older i ID more and more with butch and less and less with transmasc but like i was on hrt for seven years of my life #i don't regret it but god forbid someone clocks me in as a Man™️ #oh and obligatory if you think butches can't be bi i can tell you where to stuff it

[giantkillerjack]

My sister-in-law frustrates me to no end even though we barely ever interact because she keeps inviting my partner to parties with her Christian Republican friends, even though my partner told her not to send an invite to us if those friends will be there. And even though my sister-in-law is bisexual!!

And then she turns around and complains about not knowing how to deal with her friends saying, like, horrible sexist stuff as though that is just some natural unavoidable quirk of having friends!

Like, these Christian Republicans she has befriended don't seem to be kind - they're not even nice a lot of the time! They don't make for good friends, and she doesn't seem happy or supported in relation to them. In fact, she basically only ever talks about how her friends and/or current boyfriend are making her unhappy!

Because here's the thing: The effect of prioritizing 'including your Trump-supporter friends at your parties' over 'being invested in creating a safe space for marginalized people in your home', is that people who DO care about creating those safe spaces... won't wanna hang out with you! Because if you invite both cats and mice to your table equally, only the cats will show!

She's so afraid of losing the shitty friends she has now that she allows them to act as barriers to accessing friends who are invested in her wellbeing in a capitalistic hellscape!

It makes me sad because she's basically trapped herself, and there's nothing I can do to offer help without either compromising my morals or making my partner's life way harder by starting shit with her family.

Like, I consider myself a good friend, yeah? I try really really hard to be one, and it matters to me immensely. I am ride-or-die for the folks I love, and I am invested in being open and vulnerable and radically safe to be around when it comes to building strong friendships that are mutually fulfilling. I have a unique talent for validating people that I have honed for years because I genuinely want to make sure people feel safe and loved and seen.

And if my sister-in-law and I were friends, I could give all of that to her. I would strive to be an example of what it looks like when someone decides to care about you and treat you right on purpose, without expecting anything in return but your mutual respect. She would be family. She would be [Queer] Family. I would see to it that she knew she could call on me when she needed a friend.

But like.

This asshole has invited me to hang out with Trump supporters on multiple occasions.

We ain't gonna be friends.

#original #diary #family shit #I'll just continue to act friendly at family events #my friends help make me a better person. i don't think she could say the same for hers. makes me mad and sad #reminds me of the time i had to end a friendship bc a woman i had been inviting to group events revealed to me that she was #literally friends with Kelly Ann Conway. yes the aid to the president. that Kelly Ann. and when i tell you this friend of mine did NOT #understand why her defending Kelly Ann Conway made me feel unsafe. it was WILD #that's how my sister-in-law reacted when my wife was like 'hey stop inviting my non-cis ass to parties with transphobes' #both made arguments similar to 'i already don't have many friends why do you want me to lose more??' #like girlies you can't invite me and a bunch of homophobic Christians to the same party what is fucking wrong with you?? #you can goddamn bet if you came to one of my parties there wouldn't be anyone there who'd try to defend the Trump administration #loneliness is frightening and painful and no joke but cowardice is no joke either #and this attitude meant that my wife and i could not safely rely on her when we went through several crisis situations #and this is something i find difficult to forgive bc shit was touch and go over here for a couple years #my wife isn't even as salty as i am about it but she never is when the primary person harmed is herself #maybe if sister-in-law recognized the flawed behavior and changed but she probably won't tbh and i have shit to do #have fun with your fascist friends girlie i wonder if sometimes it feels more lonely than if you were alone #have fun practicing the white silence our parents got so good at; you're really carrying on the family business your dad must be so proud < #i haven't had to deal with friends saying sexist shit for literal years sorry you've made yourself unsafe to trans people i guess #making friends is hard i know that all too well. but i also know that the more friends i make who make me feel sad and small #then the less time i have for friends that make me feel loved and motivate me to be a better person. time=limited. people=over 6 billion. #school was harder because the amount of folks was more limited. same with small towns. but we are all ADULTS LIVING IN CHICAGO #capitalism makes finding friends harder too but like it has GOT to matter to you that Trans people and POC feel safe #we each have control over whether oppressed people feel safe around us. don't fucking waste that.

[galactichelium]

<- Wants to draw things that cater towards him specifically

#Hear me out. Transmasc Latula and transfem Mituna #I personally feel like their characters are inherently improved by doing this and no I am not kidding #These are bland trope characters that are made less trope-y by transing their gender. And in a very realistic way too #Like. The gamer girl who hides behind a 90s-style ''radical'' attitude of which is canonically a facade #Who also struggles w her femininity. Feeling the need to assert how ''girls can play games too'' being the biggest example of this #(Of which I feel like is definitely her using her 90s ''radical'' facade to express some real feelings regarding insecurity in her gender) #You... can't tell me this isn't transmasc as fuck #(AIso obligated to mention how she's a knight and how both other knights are transmasc as fuck as well) #I have less to put into words for Mituna it's mostly vibes but. #While it's less essential to his character he still does have lots of themes of being a ''game bro'' seemingly to contrast Latula #And I just feel like he would make a perfect gamer trans girl Redditor. At least after he stops using 4chan lmfao #Iron text

[theotherseapancakes]

I can’t decide which of these two i want to do as a redraw more and I am deeply torn

#text; #they are my model for all chrobin content #look me in the eyes and tell me it isn't perfect you can't #im very trans. #salem's art woes; #ig i could just do both eventually but rn i am eating dinner so

[arthallea]

i recognize this is an unpopular opinion but trans/gnc people with mullets are cute and i will stand by this

#skylar talks #i think there's a right way and a wrong way to have a mullet #and i think a person who is trans and/or gnc has probably put a LOT of consideration into their appearance #so their mullet isn't some wild untamed beast #or is but in a cool way #like you can't tell me a lesbian with a mullet isn't hot. you can't. #or you can but i'd disagree

[pneapple]

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#personal #it really bothers me how a lot of t*r/f/s talk about womanhood like it's the worst thing ever #like it's nothing but being a baby maker and victim #and they ask 'how are we going to free ourselves if we can't define ourselves like this anymore?' #'women are so dainty and fragile and always at risk' #as if trans people aren't also vulnerable? as if women can't victimize each other? as if maybe womanhood isn't only about misery? #believing that womanhood is only about what men will do to you means that you've already given up #violence and misogyny are real but throwing trans people under the bus won't stop either of those things #in fact it reinforces both #it's hard to enjoy womanhood when all these adult women are telling me (a younger girl) that pain & violence are all that there is #oh and childbirth! great. thanks.

[hayleykiyopioids]

thinking about the family party I went to this weekend and the way that my Aunt S kept bringing up a bunch of female celebrities she believes were born male (why does it matter??) and how that whole side of the family believes so much out of pocket conservative bs and how homophobic and transphobic they are and how for some reason when I refer to myself as a uterus haver instead of a Girl my Aunt K thinks it's just a fun and quirky bit I'm doing but when people they believe to be trans or queer call themselves that then they're evil and poisoning the minds of children and how for some reason when it's their Cute Niece wearing target pride merch and men's clothing to the family function it's so normal and they're happy to see me but if they knew anything about my life or my friends or even saw me on the street and didn't know it was me they'd call me a satan worshipper and tell me I'm what's wrong with America these days

#pretty sure i remember Fox News did some segment about why can't we just call women women bc only women have uteruses WoKeNeSs aAahHH!! #but when i say it my aunt k acts like it's the funniest thing she's ever heard #and even goes to tell my aunt s about it like “isn't she so funny she'd always saying the funniest things i'm going to steal that one!” #and the whole thing about the celebrities is so wild to me too bc like who even cares if Jamie Lee Curtis was born as a boy she's an icon?? #i don't think she is trans but even if she was who cares????? #Aunt S also brought up Cher and a few others i don't really remember and Elliot Page???? #she specifically brought up Elliot Page and claimed he was born as a boy. transitioned to a girl. and then transitioned BACK????? #tbh i have no idea how you become so transphobic that you circle around to being supportive (?) of Elliot Page's transition #anyway I'm having feelings about being Misgendered! At The Family Function and being hyper aware of how they'd take it if i ever came out