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[amyskirara]

Today I got a first and final nnotice that said we would be evicted if these problems weren't fixed by Friday. The thing is, 4/5 complaints were from the land lord and not brought to our attention because when we talked to her she acted like it was fine she was just scared of dogs in general but especially big dogs. She has made several potty times into him being a vicious dog who "snarls, growls, bares his teeth" when she was around, he did none of those things. The only time she was noticeably scared was when she was checking the paint outside but she was at a different building and she said hello, so my dog tried going to her but I pulled him back. Then she ran in even after I already told her I got him. She acted like he was going to attack her. In the notice it basically said that she didnt think my roommate or I were capable to hold him back enough but he has been my ESA for 5 years and he is 6 years old. We just moved in a month ago today. I know he is scared of kids so when there are kids around I run him around other buildings.

Even when she wasnt there for an incident she embellished it. At this point it's my word against hers. She never seemed to want us in here bc I have him. I had a 3 hour panic attack and bawled my eyes out. Even with pain pills, shower and sleeping pills I cant sleep, only cry. We keep things clean, he doesnt bark much unless he sees or senses the dog who tries to chase him around through the window.

We moved to save money but I dont want to spend a year of working, while finishing school and having to fight her on this.

Also she called me 3 times today to ask for his vet records but didnt mention any of this. She also talked to my roommate today and didnt mention any of it.

Not to mention this tailspin ended in me doing a horrible coping mechanism that I havent done in years. Yes I know that was my choice but I tried other coping skills and it didn't stop the feeling.

#needAdvice #indiana state rights #rights #landlord #Emotional Support Animal #lying landlord #wrongful eviction #notices #lawyers #fighting back #stand my ground #pitbull #pitmix #ESA #service dog #mutilation #suffocating #panic attack

[amyskirara]

Curious because I have a lot of issues... I dont know what is considered normal. I am used to becoming friends first then dating but it really seems like everyone just wants to jump into relationships. I cant mentally or physically make myself do that. Most people I've talked with just want immediate gratification or to jump right into the deep end with hanging out immediately. I've told them that I have trust issues and dont feel comfortable just jumping when they say jump. I'm a very independent person who doesn't like being controlled. I didn't have a healthy role model relationship growing up so damn near everything feels like a red flag.

[amyskirara]

Curious because I have a lot of issues... I dont know what is considered normal. I am used to becoming friends first then dating but it really seems like everyone just wants to jump into relationships. I cant mentally or physically make myself do that. Most people I've talked with just want immediate gratification or to jump right into the deep end with hanging out immediately. I've told them that I have trust issues and dont feel comfortable just jumping when they say jump. I'm a very independent person who doesn't like being controlled. I didn't have a healthy role model relationship growing up so damn near everything feels like a red flag.

#PTSD #mental health #red flags #relationship advice #bisexual mess #independent woman

[amyskirara]

[amyskirara]

Please fucking lie to your employer. Like they don’t need to know your mental health issues or what drugs you do. Ffs

[amyskirara]

I work with adults who have a range of disabilities. Feel free to ask anything!

I can’t find any posts about therapy for autistic adults. All I can find is what NOT to do. It sucks that there is no help for autistic adults. I KNOW ABA is bad. I KNOW exposure therapy doesn’t work for people with sensory issues. I KNOW that there isn’t much help I can get, but there must be SOMETHING.

[amyskirara]

Redirection is a big thing, I'm not certified in ABA but I have 3 friends and a cousin who are. They mostly said it was redirection which I get. I work at the Arc of Evansville. We have a lot of flaws. But everyone has a person centered training plan that the individual is involved in the making of goals to meet. Ex. They live a more sedentary life, their goal is to walk once a week. Once they consistently meet that goal they can get rid of it and make a new goal, whether it is adding days of walking or increasing time or changing location from a park to a gym? It varies.

Anyway same goes for individuals coping skills,

Individual Betty has a plan to use breathing techniques in place of hitting herself when she gets overwhelmed.

The individual normally helps makes these goals and signs papers saying they will try to meet these goals. It takes time and patience for both staff and the individual but it's worth it! If you have a lot of patience and can remain calm in very over stimulating environments this is the field for you! Even if you arent, depending on your work, you might not be alone. If you work with ABA you're normally alone. I work in a classroom setting and we go over a lot of things. And everyone is on a different level and some dont have just once disability.

Is ABA always bad?

Okay so, non-autistic here (I do have severe ADHD though, so I relate to you guys a lot), I want to know if ABA is always, and will always be bad, or if it could be reformed to be more actually helpful. I already know why ABA is bad, I’ve done that research myself, but if there was a way to shift it’s focus from repressing autistic traits and behaviors to finding coping mechanisms instead, would that still be harmful? To be more specific, for example if someone stims in a way that is harmful to themself (scratching or hair-pulling comes to mind), trying to reroute that to a different form of stimming instead of just telling them not to stim at all. Another example would be if someone is nonverbal or semi-verbal. While most current ABA would try to force them to start speaking through punishment, instead focusing on helping them develop their current ways of communication. Would this still be bad, because it is still encouraging them not to do the things most natural to them? Or would that be redeemable because it’s working with autistic traits and behaviors, instead of working against them? 

I’m asking this question because I am considering ABA to be a future career choice, not because I like what it is right now, but because I want to be able to change it (for the better of course) since so many children are still getting put into very harmful forms of “therapy” that do far more harm than help. However, as I am not in the autism community, I don’t know if this is a situation where we should just abandon ship and hope that ABA dies on it’s own, or try to make repairs and maybe turn it into something actually helpful to the community.

[amyskirara]

Background, I work with people who have disabilities. This is my passion

One person is extremely negative and will twist anything positive you say to his negative view point. This escalates and the only thing we can do right now is planned ignore until he turns his statements around, if he gets attention it escalates to self harm.

#ABA #health care #MID #negativity to positivity #de-escalation #Dr.Mike #aba therapy

[amyskirara]

Rough day all around. I work with people who have disabilities and some days it just feels like I'm not able to do my job. A few incidents happened and I did my job but it felt like I wasn't really helping the individual. A lot of personal stuff is going on too, but I'm trying not to go down into another spiral. Every one of my supervisors said I'm doing a great job but with the outcomes of today it doesn't feel like it. Over all terrible day.

#badday #needcuteanimalpics #healthcarework #cleanupaisle3 #theshowmustgoon

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[amyskirara]

Recently coming out of a downward spiral. Attempting to add exercise into my day but I work non-stop. I have apps and know basics I could do but I'm not as motivated as I need to be. If people give me suggestions it would be greatly appreciated! I don't have access to a gym yet. So at home workouts would be great

TLDR: at home work out ideas?

#ideas #home workouts #easy to moderate #blogilates #motivation

[amyskirara]

I'm new on here. Not sure how it works. Honestly just need positivity vibes and a place to let out.