My dream is to have an aro friend to talk with, hang out, and have fun. Sometimes, if we’re attracted to each other, we can even do something more intimate. It would be soo nice for me!
and no, THAT’S NOT A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP BEFORE YOU SAY THAT!
The asexual to graysexual pipeline is when you discover that one particular set of factors that have to be true for you to look at a person and think, "Wow I want to have sex with them!"
In other words, after several years of adulthood I only just now understand what sexual attraction is like (and that it's different from just experiencing a state of arousal). I finally sort of understand what y'all allosexuals have been talking about/horning about, lol. I'm still 100% aromantic and somewhat romance-repulsed though. Split attraction model for the win!
Thinking about how my (now ex) boyfriend at the time kept making jokes about how he “broke” my aroace-ness just because I was with him, even though I explained multiple times that I was on the spectrum and most likely graysexual and grayromantic in some way. Thinking about how I took my aro and ace pins of my jacket while we were together because I didn’t want to have to explain how I was aroace but in a romantic and sexual relationship. Thinking about how I stopped telling people my real identity and started questioning it myself for the whole YEAR we were together. Thinking about how I’m never going to compromise those parts of myself for a relationship again because IF I find someone else to fall in love with they are going to love me because of my identity, not despite it.
REMINDER TO THE TWITTER REGUGEES THAT TUMBLR IS AN INTERACTIVE SITE.
See how your dashboard is covered in posts? Yeah, that's because people reblogged them. Reblog posts. Reblog artwork and gifsets and text posts. If you like a post, reblog it.
"Oh but I'm nervous about social interaction" reblogging isn't social interaction. It's not. It's adding things to a virtual scrapbook by yeeting the additions into a swirling vortex. No interaction necessary. Someone makes a post you like, you reblog it, that's it. Job done. Zero interaction, but a post has made it one step further in finding its way to people that might enjoy it.