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And if I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be to be less afraid of being alone than of being with the wrong people. To be brave enough to wait for something good. For someone who's right for me.

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We are a small Canadian stim toy business run by two autistic women.

Many places that sell stim toys are focused on the needs and experiences of parents of young autistic children.  Here at FlappyHappy, autistic needs and voices are centred over caregivers.  Our goal is to focus on autistic adults since so many shops market towards children and it can feel infantalizing. Our stim toys are also great for people living with trauma, ADHD, chronic pain, anxiety, or other needs! We want you to know that it’s okay to stim. It’s more than okay actually! If you benefit from stim toys, then they are for you!

We carry a mixture of your usual stim toys but also more discreet stim items like jewellery! We also carry our own array of handmade items that you can’t get anywhere else!

It means so much to us if you share this post or otherwise spread the word about us.

We also offer free worldwide shipping on orders of $70 CAD or more.

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late night reminder to anyone who needs it to not break your “no contact” if you have one

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This one is for everyone who gets a sinking feeling in their chest when they see mental illness positivity posts and think that they don’t mean you because of what your mental illness is and the symptoms you present.

I can say that I mean you. I mean all of you. Whatever your mental illness or symptoms are.

You are worthy, valuable and enough as you are. You are valid and deserving of compassion, love and acceptance.

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Every time you go to say “well, it could have been worse,” I want you to stop and remember that it should have never happened at all. 

Please don’t invalidate your experiences or yourself. It is okay to feel whatever it is that you feel about it. The bottom line is that it should not have happened, and you deserved better. 

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We have major water leakage issues, and I am so stressed by stuff financially going wrong all the time. I had a plumber in two days ago, and I can still hear the leak. And there isn't really anything we can do about it. I can't afford to get another plumber in right now. The water damage is getting so intense. I'm tired.

#vent #personal #delete later

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You are valid if you became hypersexual, sex repulsed, both or even go back and forth as a result of your trauma.

#tw sex mention

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Do you recognize people in your activity? Like if I reblog from you a lot do you ever go like oh you again!

I do! But only if people leave replies, comments or tags.

I have my notifications set to “group” and also do that “likes” and “reblogs without comment” don’t show. It’s the only way I can actually get to see comments or I’d miss a lot.

But I do see quite a few people that leave comments and stuff and a lot of times, I get a warm, comforting feeling.

#april answers

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This post is for everyone who sees disability positivity posts and feels their heart sink when you feel those posts don’t include you. Whether that’s because of the symptoms you have, or the level of support you need or any number of things.

I want to say that I mean you. Your symptoms and/or needs aren’t shameful. You aren’t less deserving than others. You are worthy, lovable and enough as you are right now. You are valid and deserving of love, compassion and acceptance.

#plagiarism is okay when I plagiarize myself #okay? lol #it felt like a good post for two of my blogs but with different focused

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This one is for everyone who gets a sinking feeling in their chest when they see mental illness positivity posts and think that they don’t mean you because of what your mental illness is and the symptoms you present.

I can say that I mean you. I mean all of you. Whatever your mental illness or symptoms are.

You are worthy, valuable and enough as you are. You are valid and deserving of compassion, love and acceptance.

#my post

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You realize people can just screenshot the post to share it that way?

I do. I realize I can’t prevent my posts from being shared when I don’t want them to, or plagiarized or any number of things. I realize that’s a risk I take.

I just also think it reflects more poorly on someone to share a screenshot of a post that someone set to non rebloggable and that people might focus more on the disregard for someone’s comfort than the post itself. (At least I hope so.)

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Why did you make that post not rebloggable? I went to reblog it cause I liked it and I can’t :(

It feels like a post that could open me up to more hate from it being misinterpreted and I didn’t have the energy to deal with it today.

Me sharing a personal experience and my thoughts on it could very much turn into something else.

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I saw a post about someone talking about how terrible it actually is for them to be met with surprise by a doctor because people joke about the fun in shocking doctors.

I didn’t want to derail their important post but it made me think about how this works with therapy and my experience.

I’ve heard from people how validating it must feel if a therapist is shocked by what you’ve been through or gets really emotional, and I think it can be. And it has for me. But then it’s sat with me. Having a therapist tell me they’ve never heard such a terrible thing being done to someone felt so validating but then I went home and thought about it and it led to why me? What had I done? Was there something wrong with me? It was so jarring and embarrassing. I couldn’t see the therapist anymore because I suddenly felt so ashamed. So ashamed that there must be something wrong with me and surely they would see that too upon reflection.

This isn’t a post to argue or talk about what’s harder. It really isn’t. I don’t think you can compare. It’s just me thinking about my experiences and how I think the grass does usually look greener (for me, I feel like I’d feel better if my experience was “more common” but the truth is, I would feel invalid for that too. It’s just a thing.)

#abuse #kind of implied I guess #personal #just me rambling

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Our Ark Chewth Picks have re-stocked!

These are available in textured or smooth, in three different chew strengths. We have also added some new colours! There are also mix packs available which include one of each strength to try out!

You can see our full collection of ark chews here! These include chewable spoons, and various chewable necklace options.

FlappyHappy is an autistic run small business, and we appreciate any help in getting the word out!

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break unhealthy patterns even if they feel good in the moment

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I am sure it works for some, but the “you are not a burden” posts don’t help me. What helps me is remember that I am allowed to be a burden.

I put work into being there for loved ones, and I even inconvenience myself for strangers sometimes. I am also allowed to take up that space!

Loving someone often consists of work. But what we need to remember is we’re worth the work and effort! We deserve the work and effort.

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Sadness is allowed. I often feel bad for being sad, but I’m trying to get better at accepting and allowing the emotion. Sadness is a normal and expected feeling!

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