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more studying, more walks, more reading, more skill-based hobbies, more experimenting w pretty fits and hairstyles, more gym, more exploring new things in general, more whole foods/healthy recipes, more financial literacy, more time management, more time off the phone, more being out the loop. nothing else matters

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#girly #that girl #high maintenance #pink pilates princess #pink aesthetic #just girly things

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being self-directed, being my own muse, my own inspiration, my own mental point of origin, putting my own opinion of myself first, these are what gives me the confidence to happily do as I please and live my life without caring what others feel about my decisions and most importantly, without caring what decisions others are making with their lives. this is being self centered in a healthy way.

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if you want to get prettier, get healthier.

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i can’t link it, but i think this quote by christopher nolan is so interesting relating to digital minimalism 🫣 : “I'm easily distractible so I don't really want to have access to the internet every time when I'm bored,” he said. “I do a lot of my best thinking in those kind of in-between moments that people now fill with online activity, so it benefits me.”

he just like me fr ♡

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Elle Woods Inspiration from Legally Blonde ❤️

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Hey 2pretty😊, I'm an 18 year old follower and i need guidance on how to stay classy in the "classless" society we live in.

First we have to make some guidelines for what qualifies as classy (keeping in mind that I am a advocate for traditional femininity).

In my opinion, here are a few things that signifies class, not in the social ranking sense, but in how one carries themselves:

Always leaving the house with your hair done. Your hair is your crown and is one of the main things that shows that you take good care of yourself. Clean, healthy, hydrated hair that is maintained at the ends and well-styled. Professionally dyed (if you want to change your natural color) and not in crazy colors.

Always wearing a presentable outfit. Nice clean shoes, properly fitting clothes that lack vulgarity, and things that are appropriate for ones age. Making an effort to put on a proper outfit, not just throwing on articles of clothes. Making sure that your clothes are for the occasion, i.e. athletic wear only for athletic occasions, sleepwear only for bedtime, loungewear only indoors, day clothes for day wear.

Having respectful encounters with those on the outside world and in your personal life. Speaking with kindness, using an appropriate volume, saying please and thank you, not rushing employees, making pleasant small talk, and giving compliments when you see something worth acknowledging.

Not feeling the need to always engage in arguments or combative situations. Remember, you don’t have to show up to every fight you’re invited to. Sometimes, the classiest thing to do is agree to disagree, keep your negative thoughts to yourself, admit that you personally can’t make someone change their mind and see things from your perspective, and let people be angry by themselves. It doesn’t mean you “lose”. It means you are saving your energy and frustration for more pressing matters.

Keeping your personal hygiene in check. Do you brush your teeth daily? Do you bathe daily? Do you wash your hands frequently? Do you allow yourself to eat messily? Have you used moisturizer and perfume today? Are your nails clean and evenly filed? Has your body hair been groomed to your personal preference?

Not having “sneaky girl” tendencies. Meaning, don’t gossip about others or engage in gossip around you. If someone starts asking you for information about your peers, say “I’m not 100% sure, you should ask them directly”. Make it clear that you will only tell business that relates to you. Keep secrets that are shared to you. Don’t plot on your friends’ downfall behind their backs. Don’t homewreck and don’t do snake-like things.

Keep “you” to yourself. Don’t make yourself so available for public consumption. Stop sharing so much online and keep your personal life personal. Sharing a few things here and there is perfectly fine, but leave people asking questions about you. How did she do that? Why is she there? When did she go there? Where does she live? Who bought that for her? How much money does she make? If they know everything, you have delegated yourself to being a public spectacle, and there is nothing classy about that. Remaining mysterious is a good thing. If someone wants to know personal stuff about you, then they better become a close personal friend, bc thats who that information is reserved for. (Which is why only my actual friends on tumblr get to see my selfies, rather than me posting them for everyone to see 😝)

Keep your reputation in mind. What you do in public, you are publicly branded with. Do you sleep around? Do you drink heavily? Do you party a lot? Do you study all day? Do you volunteer often? Do you copy people? Are you a teachers pet? Do you make everyone laugh? Do you look out for others? Are you there in peoples time of need? Do you frequently gain and drop friends? Can you keep a job? Do you side-chick yourself? People notice. It’s hard to change your reputation once enough people have put you into a box. Or rather, once you’ve put yourself into a box and everyone else has paid attention to it. Maintain a classy reputation in public. If you want to get a little “messy”, do it at home.

Stop keeping up with celebs and influencers that you don’t consider to be classy. You are the company you keep and even though you don’t know them personally, you still are in their company from a distance. You will be inclined to talk like them, behave like them, dress like them, and constantly consume their content. People we spend time engaging with have an effect on us, shocker. Find people you would like to emulate in some way, and spend more time with them, rather than those you’d prefer to not end up like.

Have hobbies that contribute to personal growth. Whether that be a sport, cooking lessons, fitness, reading, beauty routines, writing, gardening, studying, music lessons, dancing, it doesn’t matter! As long as you enjoy it and it’s a productive way to spend your time elevating yourself, it’s definitely good for you. More time spent making yourself a better woman means less time spent on damaging activities.

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Night routine ideas

Prepare - Create any to do lists, plan outfits, set alarms for the next day. Clean up after yourself so you can wake up to a clean home or bedroom.

Switch off - Avoid social media and spend time with loved ones or focus on yourself and have some self care time.

Nourish - Drink a soothing tea or anything that'll make you feel warm and cozy.

Relax - Read, watch or listen to whatever helps you relax and disconnect from the day.

Reflect - Meditate, journal or simply think about 3 things you learned and a highlight of your day.

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Hi I don’t know why but I’m always making weird faces and acting weird do know how I can stop? I tried to stop but It hard

ugh i def relate and this is something i have unfortunately struggled with for years. i do have 3 prices of advice:

watch other ppls mannerisms. in movies, on social media and irl and copy them (to an extent lol).

genuinely practice having conversations with ppl. it doesn’t have to be anything huge, but its a great way to get less nervous, plus it is def a skill.

last but not least don't beat yourself up over your social skills and mannerisms. trust me as long you are going out and your polite to everyone you will improve.

resources:

general tips and advice in futher detail (some of the advice is quite harsh but it is still pretty helpful)

best books to improve your social skills

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what comes after level 0? like, level 1; 2; 3; 4; 5; etc.

Level 0 is getting yourself to a base level of daily self discipline, taking care of your health and appearance, and having things to do besides scrolling all day. The bare minimum of feeling good about yourself long term and being a functioning person.

Level 1 is to figure out what’s wrong with your life and come up with a tangible and measurable plan on how to fix it. What to cut out, what to invite in, how long it’ll take to save up for xyz, what credit score you need for such and such, what habits need to be dropped immediately, etc. Figuring out how to go from who you are now to the early stages of who you want to be. Level 1 is coming to terms with who and are and what you want, doing the research, and making a game plan. It's making sure you don't keep sliding backwards. Why is this level 1 and not level 0? Bc when people are in a subpar place, taking an audit of how they’ve failed themselves leads to more despair and a feeling of hopelessness. People who have gotten themselves to a semblance of health and daily discipline will do this and feel revved up for a challenge.

If you’ve been working out every day, eating well, taking care of your looks, enjoying your hobbies and taking 30 minutes to build a skill you’ve always wanted to learn, you’re gonna be feeling great. And when it’s time to sit down and apply for new jobs it won’t feel as daunting. When it’s time to sit down and write that essay, it won’t be as hard. When you decide to start saving $200 a month, you’ll be excited about it instead of feeling deprived. Level 1 is a very short level and you shouldn't be here for long at all.

Level 2 and up will vary greatly from person to person as it's about putting your money where your mouth is and really putting in work. No more info hoarding, no more restless nights trying to figure out what you want. It's go time. It could include more schooling, working, rebranding yourself, putting yourself out there, not buying new clothes or eating out bc you're saving money hardcore, ramping it up at the gym, or whatever else you planned out. You stfu and do the work. It's uncomfortable bc you won't allow your brain to sabotage you into stopping. You're becoming a new person. Level 2 will likely last a long time since rome wasn't built in a day and whatever you're trying to accomplish will probably take a fair amount of work.

Level 3+ is simply when you are reaching milestones and you are able to assess where you are and see what lies ahead. You have to replan, reformulate, and get back to work. You have to decide if you should keep this job or accept that new offer you just got and weigh out the pros and cons of each. You have to push a bit harder to firmly cement yourself into the next area rather than remain a newbie. At this point, you're a bit of an authority figure. You know what you're doing and you've been at it for a while. This is totally your new normal. This is just your life now.

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current skincare routine?

AM

cetaphil gentle skin cleanser

equate deep cleaning astringent

SPF 50

PM

cetaphil gentle skin cleanser

cerave moisturizer 😚

tbh since it's the summer and my skin isn't breaking out right now i'm focusing on the basics 🤍

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