some days you are going to be sad and you will feel helpless. this is okay, don’t pressure yourself to feel happy. please be gentle with yourself when this happens. stay patient the lows are only temporary and they allow us to feel the true extent of happiness when it comes.
fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you, who understands you even in the madness, someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, and your hope. fall in love with someones who talks with you after a fight. fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. do not fall in love only with a body or a face or with the idea of being in love.
no offence but i think a lot of us me included don’t actually want romantic love as badly as we think and really are just lonely and crave a closeness and intimacy that feels out of reach in friendships because of society’s emphasis on marriage and the nuclear family so we project that into the never ending search for a perfect love and a soulmate when really we all just want to mean something to someone
focus on trust, feed love, feed joy. focus on kindness, focus on security, focus on ease and focus on freedom. calibrate to joy and peace and let the outside world, circumstances and conditions calibrate to you. you are very, very powerful and anything that pushes you into the belief that you can be controlled is not the truth
the biggest lesson im learning is that nothing is as extreme or as permanent as our emotions convince us they are. nothing is certain and things are always fluctuating and there are always exceptions and there are always mistakes. there is always pain and there is always love. everything is a delicate touch away from changing