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Being a daughter is like *apologizes to your mother even though she's never apologized to you*

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“Your abusive parents can’t tell you who you are. They can’t see past their own projections, for them you were never even a person. They haven’t even met you. They met a mirror. All they ever said about you, every single thing, was a lie.”

— even if they said some good things, it was likely to manipulate you rather than acknowledge who you truly are. (via furiousgoldfish)

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Please take good care of them!

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Hello! I saw your post about worrying if you’ll make it as a clinician with ADHD. I have ADHD as well as bipolar and anxiety, and I often wonder about the same thing myself. I’m currently doing my masters degree to become a clinician and brought the topic up w/ my therapist. She said “people don’t become therapists because they have perfect lives, they do so because they care about people and have the education and training to help people.” Our struggles are so real, but I wish you all the best!

Thank you! I wish you good luck as well. Hopefully it’ll turn out for the better.

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I’m an undergraduate studying psychology. I also have ADHD (diagnosed, medicated) and very likely am autistic, or at the very least have strong autistic traits (noted by professionals).

I just feel so stupid because of my neurodiversity, or maybe I just actually am somewhat of an idiot.

I just got essentially fired from my psych lab job. “Essentially” because I’m technically allowed back but only under the premise that there’d be a plan for me to improve. Either way, I’ve been rejected from doing an honors thesis in this lab. Probably no recommendation (which I really needed).

I’ve held down a few jobs before successfully (childcare, research job) but this isn’t the first time I’ve been either fired or almost fired. It’s happened once at a camp, and now.

From what was said, it seems to be because of me being unable to learn fast enough? Even after (sometimes subtle seeming) correction? Forgetting a few things that I really tried to remember. For struggling with some lab tasks and having to ask a lot of questions that maybe I shouldn’t need to ask? There were a few times that I misunderstood a task and thought I was doing it totally correctly when I was not. As hard as I tried it seems like I didn’t remediate fast enough.

I know I should be better than this. I just don’t know why I’m not. I feel so slow and useless.

AS A STUDENT, I get really good grades, mostly A-‘s. IM NOT A SLACKER. I try so hard in all my classes, and seem to be actually competent at that.

I just want to know if there’s any successful psychologists out there that have adhd and/or autism that struggle with this, or if maybe I’m just never gonna get the hang of....... holding down a psych job? Or any job ?

I enjoy research, but I’m generally more inclined towards the clinical side. FUCK if I’m bad at this stuff, how am I ever going to do well as a clinician???? I love to delve into peoples problems, but how are people going to want to do that with someone who has trouble with social interaction ? Is psych just not meant for me? I really love psychology, and have planned on this being the foundation of my career. It really interests me, and that’s why I excel in my classes. But maybe I’ll never succeed in it professionally.

#adhd #autism #clinical psychology #therapy #therapists #psychology education #adhd studyblr #psychology #autistic student #actuallyadhd

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googled my symptoms and turns out i have to lay in moss

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letters i thought i wouldnt send but then did

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Life is made of ups and downs, and so is healing. It is not a linear process, so don’t get discouraged.

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It’s okay if you thought you were over it but it hits you all over again. 

It’s okay to fall apart even after you thought you had it under control. 

You are not weak. Healing is messy. And there is no timeline for healing. 

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If you are reading this, something good will happen to you tomorrow at 3:33 PM.

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*slaps my brain* this baby can hold so many disabilities and disorders

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abusive parents be like:

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who else got completely dumbfounded when you parent, after screaming bloody hell at you, and/or beating you, got suddenly in a good fucking mood and went into the next room to entertain people/get attention, while you were left to try to process what the hell just happened and try to keep your pain as silent as possible not to set them off again?

that was some fucked up narcissistic shit. people who get all satisfied and happy after beating children should be straight-up banished from earth like demons they are. why the fuck were they allowed to be anywhere near us. we were children, we were not equipped to deal with that demonic fuckery.

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Recognizing Abuse Masterlist

Signs that you’re living in abuse:

Behavioral patterns of living in abuse

Was I abused? Checklist

Not knowing you are a victim

Signs your family is abusive

Making excuses for your abusive parents

Experience of living in secrecy

What they taught you was abuse

Emotional experiences of living in abuse

Shame and guilt: how abused children feel

What makes parents abusers (actions)

Have I been manipulated into believing abuse was my fault? Checklist

Am I being held hostage by abusers? Checklist

You are not allowed to mention the past

Why you still love abusive parents

Parental behaviour that isn’t normal

Shit parents aren’t supposed to say to you

Experience of “not belonging anywhere”

Red flags for abusive parents

Healthy vs Abusive Chores

Was my childhood abusive or just had some bad parts?

Rules always change (unpredictable environment is abusive)

Breakdown of abusive parent’s behaviour:

“This is my house” rule

Start living in the real life!

Why all the children aren’t abused equally in an abusive home

Common abuser hypocrisies

Do your parents want you to be happy or look happy?

Why do they try to convince you that you’re worthless

Why do they pretend you’re a burden? Controlling behaviour

Why your abusers are not good people

Abusive parents are keeping you in false hope they’ll change

Are your parents preventing you from succeeding?

Abusive parents pretending “it wasn’t that bad”

Double Bind (why every choice you make ends wrong)

Incorporating trauma in raising children

Abusers will not allow you to call them out on abuse

Signs your parents are narcissistic:

Stuff delusional narcissists say

Shit narcissistis parents say

Recognizing emotional immaturity of narcissistic parents

Examples of narcissistic behaviours

Being punished for growing up by narcissistic parents

What children of narcissists go thru

Signs you’ve been thru sexual abuse:

CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse) Symptoms

Signs you might have endured CSA

Was I sexually abused by adults as a child? Checklist

Signs of abusive friendship/relationship:

How to tell if a friend is not a friend

Am I in an abusive relationship/friendship? Checklist

Manufacturing insecurities

Red flags for abusers

Have I been thru social abuse? Checklist

You can recognize abusers by how they make you feel

How abusive childhood teaches you to stay in abusive relationships

Recognizing abusive friendship

Signs you’re struggling with trauma

Trauma processing information

Experiences of traumatized children

Signs you’re recovering from long term abuse

Things abuse survivors think/say

Thoughts of victims of child abuse

Your brain on trauma

How long term childhood abuse develops into complex trauma (comic)

Ups and downs of trauma