#I think y’all forget he has multiple jobs..one of them being a daycare

[askthelovbutnot]

Has a kid ever gotten lost on the store? If so, what did you do?

Dabi: Yeah, I walked around with him. If we didn’t find them I would have went on the intercoms but I thought we should at least take one look before doing that. His moms were thanking me profusely, it was kinda weird but I mean they did just lose their kid so I didn’t say anything.

#bnha #mha #my au #alternate universe #bnha dabi #I think y’all forget he has multiple jobs..one of them being a daycare #also the kids name is Achilles cause I was listening to that song on repeat so yee

[fostertoforever]

A Grateful New Year

Happy New Years Eve!

It’s been awhile since I last posted. Truth be told, I have been sick with pneumonia for over a month now. It has kicked my butt. But, I’m slowly but surely improving…key word: slowly.

Speaking of slowly...Sweet baby girl C is still with us and while I honestly don’t want to jinx anything, I’m fairly certain she’ll be ours forever soon. (Gasp!! Me? Being optimistic?) It’s just taking much longer than we had hoped. One of her birth parents gave up their rights a few months ago, and the other parent is out of time and failed multiple improvement periods- in addition to being incarcerated right now. So, here’s hoping we have struck lightning twice and C is our second forever wish come true. She completes our little family. Ironically, the next court hearing is scheduled for exactly 2 years from the day we brought her home from the hospital. I remember on that cold February day, she smiled when we put her little car seat down on the floor and welcomed her home. I’ll never forget that little grin, which was probably gas, but it was the most perfectly timed smile. Perhaps she knew all along things would work out and she was indeed home.

I’m feeling a little grateful today, folks, and feel like giving a few shout outs. Life can get very busy and hectic sometimes with two small kids, full time jobs, full time college (go hubby!), and all the other dramas of our lives, but since it’s the last day of 2018, I wanted to take a minute and just say thank you to our village, who have helped us do it all this year. I’m forever grateful to our family and friends, and the caseworkers, visitation supervisors, lawyers, and although he’s dragging his feet, I’m even grateful for the judge. I hope and pray 2019 holds an adoption of C, and the completion of our family.

Last week, we met up with P’s birth grandmother, who was in town from Texas, for breakfast. We’ve been doing this for years and I am so grateful to have her be a part of P’s life. It was tricky and stressful at first, but it was a great decision to make contact with her. I know P doesn’t fully understand yet, but some day he will, and I think they’ll have a very special relationship. She recognizes and respects us as P’s family and has pretty much adopted C as her own grandchild, even though there is no relation, which warms my heart. So today, I am grateful to Grandma S as well.

Sometimes I think God or the universe or whatever you believe in, puts people in our lives at the right times for the right reasons. This year, my grateful heart thanks C’s amazing babysitter Miss S. Miss S was fostered and adopted herself and she and C bonded from first sight. Actually, I’m pretty sure Miss S loved her before she even met C! It was a hard loss when our daycare closed, but we are so thankful for that, because it brought C to Miss S, whom we consider part of our family.

Like Miss S, and P, and God willing, Baby C, my mom was also adopted. She was born to a young mother and literally left of the steps of a church. So, this Christmas, my brother and I got her an ancestry.com DNA kit and the website membership. She’s 61 years old and is finally open to finding out where she came from and seeing if she has any birth family members out there in the big wide world. I think having P and C as grandchildren has encouraged her to finally take this step and start searching. No one will ever take the place of my grandparents, her adopted parents, but I think she’s really excited to see what she discovers through our gift.

Before Christmas, as the kids and I were pulling out decorations and putting the tree up, I found C’s stocking and ornaments from last Christmas. Last year, I, apprehensively, put her stocking, along with her special ornaments (baby’s first Christmas, homemade handprint ornament, birth date) in a box separated from all the other decorations. I was certain C wouldn’t be with us for more than a few more months, much less until next Christmas, and I didn’t want the heartache of sorting out her ornaments from the rest of them. I wanted to simply set them aside and put them out of sight, to save myself the brutal sadness.  I had totally forgotten I had done this. So, when I opened that box, questioning what was in there, and discovered those precious decorations, I sobbed. Here C is, still with us, and we so gratefully, hung her stocking up, and put her ornaments on our family tree. I’m so, so, so grateful for her…for both of my kids…who I believe God hand picked for me and my husband. They are the reasons it never worked out before. After failed fertility treatments and a failed adoption, I’m certain things have worked out, and will continue to work out, exactly how they’re supposed to. (Geez, again with the optimism…I must’ve lost too much oxygen with this pneumonia! Haha!)

Finally, I want to thank my husband. Not only is he a great dad to our P and C, but he’s put up with my old, crazy butt for over 12 years now. It’s not always been easy, but at the end of the day, at the beginning of a new year, there’s no one else I’d rather share this beautiful and insane life with. I hope he knows how proud I am to be his wife and share these two amazing babies with.

My wish is for you all to keep the faith and to start this new year by truly believing the best is yet to come.

Happy New Year, y’all!

~Mama Jess