Confused- is the SDS drama with just Diana? The coach, the FO? She sounded legit upset the last season she played about BG’s situation, and it seemed like they were real friends. Was BG too overwhelmed last season to speak up for her girl? Or did SDS burn every bridge in Phoenix?
The SDS drama is with Nygaard, the front office, and Diana.
BG is a kind-hearted warm gregarious person who cares about everyone. But Skylar is not her girl. And it's not BG's responsibility to clean up messes. It was everyone else's responsibility to make BG's transition back to freedom as smooth as possible. Skylar did not lift a finger to make 2023 smooth for anyone. But she had problems with the front office. So it's her right to feud with them and make things difficult. But that choice did not positively impact BG's life.
And then there's the thing with Diana.
Have you ever heard of the ring theory of grief and trauma?
In 2022, BG was in a Russian prison. So she was in the middle. The next ring is for Relle. The next is for BG's parents. The next is for her close friends. Diana, DB, and Sandy are in that ring. Then acquaintances and coworkers. That's where Skylar is. Then the professionals helping BG like her lawyers.
You bring comfort in towards the middle. And you dump grief and frustration towards the outside. That's how it works.
Skylar got it backwards. Skylar should not have expected Diana to comfort anyone outside her ring during a crisis. Diana might not have had anything uplifting to say to people outside her ring. Diana told interviewers later that she was convinced she'd never see BG free again. She was trying to figure out how to go to Russia. So that's where her head was at.
So when Skylar dumped her frustration onto Diana, she was dumping it in the wrong direction. Dumping it out onto Nygaard was perfectly fine. Nygaard didn't even know BG. That's the perfect person to dump your shit on. But not Diana.
In the 2021 playoffs when Isla was born, Diana bought a charter for herself, BG, and Skylar. She said how exciting it was to fly home with her two best friends to meet her daughter. I'm sure Skylar and DT always argued about basketball. But DT considered her a good friend and probably expected some comfort and understanding during a crisis. She got the opposite of that. So they aren't close now.
Tina Charles feuded with the Mercury and Nygaard in 2022. Tina was friends with BG and she was sad and stressed just like everyone else. And she remained good friends with DT through it all. They were hanging out in Connecticut together last weekend. So there's a way to feud with the Mercury without dumping it all on DT and burning that friendship down.
Charles recognizes that her career’s prevailing pattern—remarkable consistency for unremarkable teams—hasn’t brought her the notoriety of fellow frontcourt superstars. Since Charles has been in the league, Sylvia Fowles has won two titles with the Lynx, A’ja Wilson has won an MVP award and reached the Finals with the Aces, and Jones has wedged open the possibilities of frontcourt play. “If any one of those players had the year I had last year, it’d be like if Jesus came back, you know what I’m saying?” Charles says. “But it’s me, so it’s like, ‘Yeah, Tina had a good year.’ That’s it.”
When Charles catches up with Auriemma, the motivator emeritus still prods at his former player. “I love to needle her a little bit,” Auriemma says. “I know which buttons to push, and hopefully I get more right than I get wrong.” On phone calls, when Charles has asked whether Auriemma goes at Taurasi and Sue Bird in a similar way, he’s laid down the trump card. “They win championships, and you don’t.”
I love that my dash is half people who are stoked for the Tina Charles move and half who hate it. Let's get some low stakes debate up in here!
(I need the distraction)
I personally like her, and I like Seattle, so I think it's good. Also, love that at least one mock offseason I saw had her going to Seattle in free agency, but no one could have predicted this drama.