#anna tendler mulaney

[goldstarrgrl]

genuine question, do people actually think that bringing up Anna-Marie Tendler in response to every single piece of media about John Mulaney is empowering for her in some way?

#anna has her own identity and is doing amazing things with her art #and like what good does it do to reduce her down to a scorned ex-wife #i've never seen any of these people support and hype up anna on her own terms #just bring her up as a counterpoint whenever anyone says anything positive about john #she has literally explicitly said that this whole view everyone has of her is not her narrative #not even touching on how we don't even know if what we're assuming about the relationship is true #this whole thing is just to say that I think a lot of ppl on the internet are fucking idiots #john mulaney #anna marie tendler

[gingerswagfreckles]

k thats it im killing john mulaney

#john mulaney #anna marie tendler #:((

[ryukisgod]

#john mulaney #ex wife #men have called her crazy #memes #anna marie tendler #fat tony #the simpsons #meme

[heymamawontyoucomedown]

people are writing whole essays on my inbox about John Mulaney being an addict and that's why he shouldn't be held accountable for being shitty like newsflash assholes

I know and love plenty of addicts and yes I acknowledge it's a disease and yes it can influence behavior but that doesn't make any of the horrible things they've done to me or others less horrible 🙃 you don't get off the hook for hurting someone just because you have a clear reason why you did it

#if y'all think i got the time to read your long ass fan girl asks on why this grown man isn't responsible for his actions you got #another thing coming #john mulaney #anna marie tendler #someone told me i only know and through Johns jokes like excuse me. im an art bitch i was her fan first lmao #olivia munn

[disbear]

Anna Marie Tendler is so real and relatable for enraging her husband by being in love with Timothee Chalamet honestly.

#anna marie tendler #john mulaney #timothee chamalet #lil timmy tim

[aesthetiicly]

oh my god not petunia the dog dying 😭😭😭

#that must be such an extra kick in the gut for Anna #I’m actually so sad #John mulaney #Anna Marie tendler

[sxd-bxtch]

Watching old John Mulaney specials and feeling this deep, deep grief every time he speaks about Anna

#anna marie tendler #john mulaney

[um-vvhat]

I didn’t realize how painful it would be to re-watch John Mulaney Specials. Listening to how he used to talk about Anna just breaks my heart.

#the day I found out he cheated/was leaving her is when I knew I could never trust a man #and I don’t mean in the parasocial relationship way #I mean it scares me that someone could be so in love presenting and still end doing that #so I refuse to ever put myself in that position #because the truth is you just never really truly know anyone and what they’re capable of #john mulaney #anna marie tendler #this has been a post #text post

[nightwingsgeef]

I'm just thinking about the interview where Anna Marie Tendler was asked about how she felt about the divorce and seeing john and Olivia having a baby. She talked vaguely about how she felt and how she was going to freeze her eggs.

It all makes me think how truly horrible it must be to be famous. It would be completely wild to talk about that in public as a normal person but we've got it so ingrained in us that we deserve to know everything about celebrities. It's weird!

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested and didn't love to know this stuff. But, when you take a step back, Anna shouldn't have to speak publicly about how she feels about her ex-husband and his baby. It's just weird to think that we've come to a point in which interviewers ask these intimate and personal questions and we expect celebrities to be completely forthcoming about their private lives.

#celebrities #john mulaney #anna tendler #parasocial relationships

[tendlerfancy]

Anna via Instagram stories 💖

[July 19, 2022]

#anna marie tendler #amt #anna tendler #anna marie #amtendler #annamarietendler #annamtendler #petunia tendler #la vie petunia #petunia tendler mulaney #artist #art #tumblr

[capfalcon]

bruh....ariel fulmer is an interior designer....anna marie tendler (john mulaney’s ex-wife) is an interior designer and connor mcdavid’s girlfriend is a interior designer...what i am learning is that men who get w interior designers are a red flag

#cowritten by sakshi #bruhhhhhhhhhh what #that's an insane coincidence #SAKSHI JUST CALLED ADAM LEVINE ADAM 'LEE-VINE' #sakshi! #jordan rambles #try guys #connor mcdavid #john mulaney

[tibby]

the internet's reaction to the john mulaney divorce was so bad but one of the wildest things about it was people deciding that anna marie tendler actually secretly wanted kids the whole time and john mulaney was evil for having one with olivia munn. like everything else about that situation aside what a bizarre and misogynist thing to headcanon about real people.

[magdalenas]

anna marie tendler’s upcoming memoir titled men have called her crazy … oh john mulaney is COOKED

#i’ve prayed for times like these #very excited to buy it in august 🤩

[halles-comet]

what's this about annamarie tendler accusing taylor swift of plagiarism??

HA! Oh my God, just a bunch of the whitest affluentest drama

So in the Eras tour, Taylor Swift performs her song "Tolerate It" at a dining room table set that looks like this:

When images first started to come out of the tour, Anna Marie Tendler freaked out online and said "Uh, Taylor, my girl, people who designed Taylor’s tour? This 'Tolerate It' setup looks strikingly like one of my photographs in tone and in aesthetics. It doesn’t totally feel like parallel thinking to me. I’m a small artist, independent artist who is trying to make money and live off of my artwork. I don’t know what to do about this. Maybe somebody can help me." like she doesn't get alimony from Mulaney . This is the shot by the way:

and so people dunked on her pretty hard and then she claimed it was satire which is something rich people say they were doing when they realize they're being annoying and out of touch and also claimed to be the first person to take a picture of someone sitting at a table with wine

#i don't like to make fun of my fellow women #but have on good authority from one of my best friends AMT is very mean to venue staff so i am okay with this light ribbing

[sailorsally]

I take it the threesome philosophy fell apart somewhat when Misha fell for another woman and Vicki didn't? (I would LOVE to hear Vicki's side of the story. Post-threesome married life, a decade being basically a solo mom of two while her husband works in another country and gets rich and becomes famous, how she feels about polyamory now. I hope she writes a divorce memoir. I've already pre-ordered Anna Marie Tendler's forthcoming book (John Mulaney's ex-wife) and I am ready for aaaaall the tea.)

Um, are you implying that Misha got with his current girlfriend while still being married to Vicky? I'm not gonna deny the possibility since we now know he and Vicky had an open marriage since 2004. However, in the threesome book Vicky writes that both she and Misha had fallen in love with a woman who was their friend. Again, unlikely that it's the same woman Misha is dating now but of course nothing is excluded.

I don't know if Misha said who initiated opening the marriage but the way Vicky talks about it in her book and particularly about how to introduce the idea to your partner, my impression was always that it was her idea. She was also the one who labeled herself bi and I wouldn't be surprised if she introduced Misha to poloamory too.

I get it that you want all the tea, but please don't forget that these people are real people with complicated emotions and needs and wants. It's so easy to vilify someone when you don't know anything. Or even when you do know. But it was never you who was in their particular situation, it's easy to judge someone from the comfort of your couch.

This said, I have no interest in defending Misha. I think women have it hard in general and I think Vicky is no exception. But at the same time I can see that Misha made more effort than 90% of men would. It's not my business to judge any of them and take sides. I think not even they themselves took sides, it's not what you do when a 30 year long marriage with someone you once loved deeply and maybe even love still falls apart.

#ask sally

[ts1989fanatic]

OPINION

Matty Healy exposed the dark side of the Taylor Swift parasocial fantasy

The responses to Taylor Swift's latest breakup highlight a toxic cultural phenomenon.

Karma may be your boyfriend, but Taylor Swift is not your best friend.Chelsea Stahl / MSNBC; Getty Images

June 6, 2023, 5:29 PM EDT

By Patricia Grisafi

It’s a bummer when your best friend starts dating an apparent dirtbag. God, you think, what does she see in him? He looks like he smells of stale coffee and cigarettes. He looks like a hipster stork. You’ve heard him brag about how he watches humiliation porn. And don’t forget the racism and antisemitism.

Except Taylor Swift is not your best friend.

I don’t know what prompted the breakup, but I doubt it was a tearful Swiftie on TikTok.

When news broke this week that Swift and The 1975 lead singer Matty Healy had ended their brief relationship, social media celebrated in a way that was notable — and a little deranged. (And immediately started speculating about her next fling.) Just hop on Twitter and read the comments about how Swift had really heard her fans and tossed that loser in the trash. I don’t know what prompted the breakup, but I doubt it was a tearful Swiftie on TikTok. Still, imagine feeling like you have that kind of influence over a person you’ve never interacted with. Or that kind of personal investment.

Swift is — in some ways — an unusually private celebrity. It feels like her every move is carefully choreographed. We hardly ever see her messy, incoherent, or intentionally challenging. But fans feel like they know Swift because she writes prolifically about romantic relationships. It’s hardly novel, a musician writing about love and loss. Still, fans pore over these songs. They find Easter eggs in the lyrics, do complex analysis aligning certain ex-boyfriends with specific details. And because language is subjective and Swift is arguably both elusive and slyly encouraging of these readings, the meanings are ever-shifting. Depending on who you ask, she is everything from an Aryan pinup girl to a queer icon. In short, she is the perfect parasocial fantasy subject.

The term “parasocial interaction” has been around since sociologists Donald Horton and Richard Wohl theorized on the phenomenon in the 1950s. A parasocial interaction refers to a relationship in which a consumer comes to believe that media personalities are their intimate friends and that an emotional connection is shared. The phrase has become more popular recently with the rise of pop culture super fans, or stans. These fans can become incredibly invested in their favorite celebrity’s real-life relationships, and devastated if those relationships implode.

See, for example, when comedian John Mulaney separated from his wife Anna Marie Tendler in May of 2020 and began dating actor Olivia Munn. While celebrity relationships have always been fodder for gossip and people are naturally curious about their favorite stars (this writer included), public response regarding the Mulaney situation was noteworthy. Critics suggested that this was because Mulaney’s public persona made it seem like he was your buddy, your pal, a friend you could relate to. And he made his personal life part of his public persona by integrating details about his wife and French bulldog Petunia into his comedy routine. When he violated the parasocial social contract by not living up to that fantasy, things fell apart. It’s similar with Swift — particularly, this situation with Healy.

Swift stepping out with Healy disrupted fan notions of her and the values they believe she holds dear. She’s dating a guy who makes racist remarks? Who unrepentantly laughs about violently objectifying women? Is this who you are, Taylor? And if this is who you are, who am I?

Things got so intense that a group of Swifties circulated an open letter telling other fans to #SpeakUpNow.

Things got so intense that a group of Swifties circulated an open letter telling other fans to #SpeakUpNow and condemn the relationship: “He has been involved in acts and controversies that deeply trouble us,” the letter says. “We urge you to reflect on the impact of your own and your associates’ behavior and engage in genuine self-reflection.”

Rapper Ice Spice, who Healy called a “chubby Chinese lady” on a podcast, was brought in to share the stage with Swift in East Rutherford, New Jersey. Some speculated this act was a professional olive branch, others an empty, performative gesture to both Ice Spice and fans who were disturbed by Healy’s original remarks (he has since offered both an apology and a non-apology for the comments).

Poets talk a lot about how the speaker of the poem is not the writer of the poem. You’ve got to put distance between them. That’s healthy for artists and fans. You don’t know anything about Taylor Swift except what she carefully curates and puts out into the world. Her songs may speak to you, but she directly is not. Proclamation of ownership over a stranger and her love life, the fantasy that our whispers reach Swift’s ears and she heeds our pleas, is problematic.

Parasocial relationships can show the beauty of human emotion, our capacity for empathy, and our ever-expanding desire to connect. On the darker side, they reveal our desire for control, our capacity for cruelty, and our instincts to possess. If the parasocial fantasy is punctured, you might have to make an ethical choice that forces you to confront the dissolution of that illusion — and, more importantly, yourself and what you’re willing to accept.

ts1989fanatic: in some ways the last month or so on SM has been far worse and much more divisive than this🐍🐍🐍🐍 in 2016. There are times when I don’t recognize our fandom anymore.

I honestly don’t know if it’s the rise of TikTok as a preeminent SM platform or just a general increase in SM usage but I do know it’s become far more toxic than it was just a few short years ago.