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sparatus · 5 months

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Sparatus? 🙂

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Sexuality Headcanon: painfully bisexual. somebody please stop surrounding this old man with hot people his heart can't take it. also very much not xeno in the slightest

Gender Headcanon: turian gender stuff is complicated and doesn't fit into human binaries, so while he's generally understood to be and is fine with being perceived as a cis man because he's perfectly happy with the body he was born with, a closer approximation is masculine nonbinary, just... not the way humans understand nb to be

A ship I have with said character: i mean. [gestures vaguely to entire internet presence] do i even have to specify teia at this point.

aside from the obvious, sparatus/quentius is also a fave, i do so love boss and loyal dragon dynamics, and the two of them are that plus a flip side out of work where they're just best mean girl friends hanging out being catty old men together. plus for bad end it makes it so much juicier that not only was sparatus quentius's friend but also a sometimes-lover, bad end hurts but it's so so deliciously messy

plus also @thetrashbagswasteland put sparatus/desolas in my head and it bops around from time to time, just like, suave but chaotic military man with the personality of a mob boss "you wanna fuck me so bad it makes you stupid" vs prickly by-the-book law boy "i hate that you're actually as charming as you think you are you charismatic asshole" i think it would be fun okay someday ill write it teia and abrudas can also get in on it for fun or they can bang on the side it's fine

A BROTP I have with said character: sparatus & quentius, for reasons listed above. the more i dabble around the more sparkyteia and quentilea are becoming just a platonic polypile, oopsie, they're all good friends. also quite fond of sparatus & saren, because saren is very well-trusted and the council's golden boy and not every spectre is going to have shepard's experience with the council so it only makes sense for saren to have that sort of loyal right hand kinda dynamic with sparky. sparatus & valern is also fun for my usual political intrigue reasons but we don't have time to get into the complicated bullshit fueling the turian-salarian alliance rn

A NOTP I have with said character: sparatus/shepard, for reasons i should hope are obvious by now. guys idk how to explain this but sometimes characters just hate you without secretly wanting to fuck you. he has legitimate criticisms of shepard and ill die on this hill, there's no ust he isn't into you and mad about it he just doesn't like your fucking attitude. and you can't convince me your shepard somehow turns it around into genuine love, i don't fucking believe you, it's ooc some characters will simply never grow to truly Like you more than respecting your ability and that's fucking okay and normal

also sparatus/saren, because while i adjust saren's age in my work to bring him up to 70 in me1 (and closer to sparky, 76) the main works i know of for that ship have sparatus more than twice his age (in his 60s while saren was EIGHTEEN) and taking advantage of the age gap and saren's emotional turmoil after his brother's death to groom him into the perfect partner, which... oh my god no. and it was presented as romantic! as saren's first real love before nihlus!! i am calling the police!! and pretty much everyone ive seen who talks about that ship got it from that fic so. yeah that author is my parasocial enemy

A random headcanon: despite how closely they have to work together, and sparky being a prosecutor pre-politics (thus allegedly on the side of the cops), he and pallin have a rather... antagonistic relationship, mostly because of how sparky responds to pallin's complaints about spectres ("i'll let them know" which usually means nothing will be done and the spectres will continue treating civil misdemeanors and traffic violations like a game) but also because sparky himself has personal beef with like 7 different prominent cops, is from a "fuck the cops they're imperial shills we can police ourselves" background, and is so so good at being pedantic and annoying when he's feeling petty which is any time pallin isn't talking about an actual serious issue. he wants pallin to stop bothering him about traffic stops. pallin wants to fuck the smug look off his face. they're not allowed to have face-to-face meetings without quentius present because they WILL go straight to childish squabbling.

General Opinion over said character: he's my grandpa. he's Me. nobody in this fandom deserves him y'all need to remove the main character pov blinders and think about shit from his perspective and stop just assuming he's racist and stupid because he tells you no. the man has his position for a reason, and if you listen to what he's actually saying he's DEEPLY empathetic and concerned with how the public at large will be affected, he fucking cares about people it's canon it's canon it's CANON he literally goes behind his colleagues' backs to try to help you save palaven and stop the war right away that's not what a selfish heartless bureaucrat who only cares about his own small circle does i have ESSAYS dammit

.... oops i care about this old man So Much

send me a character

#press conference #ierian sparatus #thanks j!!!

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burnadicarwoz · 5 months

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hi! random bi person here, I saw your reblog-

it doesn't necessarily make you gay or bi, attractions (romantic and/or sexual) can vary just depending on what you are drawn to, especially if it was this one instance with a transgender (ftm) character. BUT, if you find yourself repeatedly being attracted to a type of person depending on their body (or even personality) and not really their gender, that could indicate being bi (or pan)!

you said you are already atteacted to women, so that means you aren't gay (if I'm assuming right that you're a guy). if you generally view men with the same sort of attraction as women though, I would look more into bisexuality or pansexuality! I would suggest overall just paying more attention to what types of people you're attracted to and how you're attracted to them.

in my experience, it also took me a while to realize I was attracted to men too. but I realized, like above, I was just attracted to personality and body, not really genders specifically. I can find cis and trans men, cis and trans women, and others attractive in romantic and sexual ways! if you relate to that after you start looking into that more, it's a safe bet you're probably not straight.

best of luck and take your time with figuring yourself out, you're not alone.

Thank you so, so much for responding to my post and talking to me about this topic. It honestly is nice knowing that it is a struggle to know what you do and don't like and it ain't just me. Or that feeling of realising that you may like the same gender as yourself the whole time (I am a dude as predicted btw just to make sure on that front). I feel for myself the best way to understand myself at this moment would be to go through this and just see what I think and put it into words so I understand myself better.

Well it ain't just them, I also have had 2 other male attractions pop up before for me (markiplier and the big waiter bird from deltarune ch2) them and this made me start to wonder if I actually was bi sexual or not. Idk how relevant it would be either but in media I also tend to love and relate to the bi characters the most before I even knew they were bisexual (Harry disco elysium, zagreus Hades, majima yakuza, etc) so I also thought that could tie into it maybe.

Now for what I like in those male examples. I think it comes down to liking both strong men who aren't all vein or too big but you still feel safe around (mark and the bird) and while I mainly liked the goth, emo look the 3rd guy had, I think I also like the body too, not too skinny but still enough for them to wrap their arms around ya or to be a small guy you could just pick up and take with you.

Personality is something I've never been able to check, mainly since I've only ever been around "lads" (intense, boisterous crowd) and aside from knowing I ain't a fan of that kind of guy, I ain't never met a guy I could say, feel safe around or comforted by, without being called names or smth. So data is skewered there.

Pan is one I never considered until now due to my lack of knowledge about it, I don't know if I can be pan only one way or not, but I do think it's one to consider. I think it may be unlikely since I'm pretty sure that being pan is finding someone attractive as you know them, and I ain't that, I've been with people I found both body and personality wise, attractive before the relationship started. But its still good to check I say.

I mean, the whole reason it took me near years of thinking about it is purely because u thought it was only liking penis, and if you didn't then you were straight. Clearly, more to it then that. I think now I will keep the door open on men, to give it a try, since now I can definitely say there's a chance I am bisexual. So one more time, thank you for replying anon/ (possible fellow) bi person. Thanks to you, I know someone out there cares. And that's just so so sweet to know :)

#bisexual #lgbtq

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