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cluster-b-culture-is · 2 years

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When you say endo, do you mean you believe that systems can form without trauma? And what are sysmeds?

Yes, when we say "endo", we mean endogenic systems. I don't just believe that systems can form for reasons other than trauma, we are a system formed for reasons other than trauma. (This is your daily reminder, sysmeds that we know are following us, to unfollow. We don't want you here.) While at some point, our system did eventually grow to help us cope with trauma, that was not how it originally formed.

Sysmed is short for system medicalist; someone who believes that systemhood is a strictly medical or disordered thing, and that systems can not happen for non-disordered (often traumagenic) reasons. However, this is contested by numerous articles on DID and OSDD, saying that there are people who experience plurality in their surveys, but without the symptoms of trauma and distress caused by being a disordered system. Not to mention, sysmeds often ignore the lived experiences of systems, or try to claim that endogenic systems just "don't remember their trauma" (ignoring the fact that many endogenic systems, like us, do have trauma, it's just not what caused the system). They deny that their could ever be an exception to the "rule" of systems being formed from trauma, despite the fact that not even the smartest humans know that much about the human brain or how it works-- and besides, even if someone did, there are exceptions to everything when it comes to humans. The human species likely wouldn't be here if there weren't.

People try to claim that the term sysmed is transphobic due to... ties with the term transmed? Which is complete and utter bull. Sysmed describes what it is-- a system medicalist, someone who ties being a system to solely medical reasons. Similarly, transmed (transgender medicalist) also describes what it is-- someone who ties being trans to solely medical reasons.

The "-med" suffix is not exclusive to transmeds, nor should it be. And the term sysmed is not transphobic, as it has nothing to do with being trans, nor anything related to gender at all. The only thing in common it has is the suffix "-med", which just means medicalist, which is not a term that is exclusive to trans people.

Anyways. Sorry for the rant. I'm tired and out of the energy needed to mask. And I feel like this all needs to be said anyway. Just to be clear on things and our beliefs.

(Sysmeds and transmeds alike are not welcome on the blog. And I know that we're going to get an influx of anti-endo asks after this post goes up. Don't even try, they won't ever see the light of day. They'll all be deleted before you can say "Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia".)

#not cluster b culture #Mod Reef #anonymous #tw syscourse #syscourse tw #sysmeds dni #putting that there. just in case.#not queued

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bbygirldahyun · 4 years

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i dont like to make posts like these, but i guess it needs to be said.

please remember that i am a person behind this account. i’m not just a machine that pumps out content but a real, feeling human being. lately i’ve been getting an abundance of asks that — while some i assume were not intended to be so — are rude or even downright hurtful.

i always try my very best to lead with patience, kindness, and understanding in my answers. if i know i don’t have it in me to patiently respond to a rude ask i delete it. however, the influx of asks ranging from simply lacking tact to downright transphobic, i’m about at my limit.

so please, i ask for nothing more than respect, nothing more than the kindness and understanding i try to extend to everyone who comes on my blog. i’m more than happy to accept questions if they are asked in a polite way, and as long as you’ve read my rules and FAQ first. i don’t ask for much, but i need this.

thank you.

#i really don’t mean this with any malice #but its just become tiring #me

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majoring-in-spn · 3 years

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Hiccups and Road Bumps

- I intended to write more extensively on the influx of trans dean content and the overwhelming amount of posts about supernatural characters as trans in the wake of a few transphobic anons and posts. However, I could not find the original posts that instigated this and later found that the person who made one of the transphobic posts in the first place has since deleted their blog or at least does not inhabit the same url so that post is super difficult to find now.

- I have attempted to include a variety of reblogged posts on this blog that cover some of the types of posting and interactions that happen in the queer online spn fandom that I didn’t get to touch. But there are still many more cross-platform interactions that I haven’t touched on in these posts (and that to some extent may be impossible to touch on using only this blog and platform). Some of these include: fan interactions with the actors (particularly Misha Collins), the transfer or stealing/reposting of context from tumblr to twitter (and the much less common reverse), and the spawning of discord servers and fandom-wide online celebration and creation weeks.

- I haven’t even looked at or talked about the Supernatural Spanish Dub event and all of it’s related fallout. A truly unparalleled media experience indeed.

- As my project went on I started focusing less on the specifics of the online spn fandom being a particularly queer space and more on the different media ideologies that exist within the online spn fandom. There are just so many intricacies in online interactions that I definitely lost the forrest for the trees somewhere along the way. But still found a ton of really interesting and compelling things. It’s hard to talk about the queer online spn fandom without talking extensively about the media ideologies at play and all the interesting trends and the lexicon that gets added to almost daily. Perhaps there is also something to say that the centrality of queerness seemed to slip into the background, because the queerness of the online spn fandom feels more like background radiation (I almost minored in astronomy so I’m thinking about the CMB here). It is constantly there and has a profound impact on everything, but since it’s always there, it can go unsaid and unnoted.

#spn studies #spring 2021

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cassolotl · 4 years

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On radical feminist and gender-critical survey respondents

Tuesday 25th February 2020

Content note: Discussion of anti-trans people (gender-critical, radical feminist, TERF) and sentiments, including direct quotes.

I run an annual survey of, give-or-take, nonbinary people. It asks about the words (nouns, pronouns and titles) we use to describe ourselves. It seems like useful data to collect! This year is the seventh @gendercensus, and there have been over 16,000 participants so far. (It closes on 12th March 2020! Go do it!) I’m writing this on my personal blog, though, because this is quite a personal blog post.

Most years I get a small flurry of gender-critical and radical feminist respondents, and this year is no exception.

It’s usually clear that the link to the survey has been posted somewhere in a “come and disrupt this survey” kind of a way. Sometimes I catch a Big Name Anti-Trans quote-tweeting it with fake-earnest enthusiasm, but most of the time I have no idea where it’s coming from. Thanks to this year’s new questions on age and referrals I know that today’s flurry has come from a small Facebook group, where most members seem to be 30-50 year old women.

I won’t get into the mechanics of how I decide what to keep and what to remove. I’m happy to admit that if anything is outright abusive, insulting or transphobic I don’t hesitate to remove a submission, and my tendency to delete entries is certainly not limited to these criteria, but I think it’s interesting to note that the majority of responses during these influxes are also actually quite relevant to the intent of the survey.

For example, gender-critical respondents aiming to disrupt the survey will:

Select woman, and then type words like androgynous and genderless into the textboxes. (Often these entries are accompanied by statements suggesting that genderlessness is the natural state of being, implying that women who feel like women have just been brainwashed into it by the patriarchy.)

Select she/her pronouns, and then they/them pronouns.

Select she/her pronouns, and then use the pronoun textboxes to say that they doesn’t care how other people refer to them because pronouns don’t define you.

Choose “no title” in the title question.

Choose woman, Mrs or Ms, she/her pronouns, take the trouble to say that biology dictates gender, and then describe in the feedback box a lifelong distress with being gendered by people or society. (That last part will be very familiar to many transgender participants, who might call it “gender dysphoria”.)

Type things like, I don’t “identify as”, I AM.

These types of responses and many others are also very common among thousands of nonbinary, trans and queer participants every year. Gender-critical and radical feminist women describe themselves in a way that makes it clear to me that they are the target audience, while apparently unaware of it themselves.

The abusive and relevant responses are not mutually exclusive. Several times I’ve experienced angry women deliberately giving fake answers to all the questions, telling us that we are outright causing direct harm to women by entertaining these delusional notions of nonbinary genders, and then:

Describing lifelong and visceral discomfort with gendered aspects of their body.

Stating that no one can change their own sex, but then clarifying that they finally learned this after years of wishing that they could change or erase their sex.

Saying that they don’t feel cisgender.

Wishing that gender didn’t exist at all.

Believing that the gender binary is a fiction.

Opting out of gender, or saying that they have no gender.

Stating that gender is a social construct, as though this idea is somehow in conflict with the feelings of countless trans and nonbinary participants.

I’ll share what someone wrote into the feedback box recently:

I want to take the opportunity to say I find 'cis' really offensive. I don't identify with the characteristics I'm supposed to have and which are used to oppress people of my sex. I behave and dress in ways which are not typically assigned to my sex. Like most women, I have struggled with this all my life. It has never been a "privilege".

I’ve bolded those parts of the submission because they could have been said by any trans or nonbinary person, word for word.

I don’t mean to imply that these things make you trans, or that they don’t! What I feel is that both groups (if either can be considered a cohesive group) have been failed by a restrictive and deeply flawed system for their entire lives, and as a result trans, nonbinary, radical feminist and gender-critical people’s experiences of their own genders and their places in relation to the gender binary are often strikingly similar.

I started to think more carefully about this issue when I read a rambling and heartfelt feedback box paragraph from someone describing basically my lifelong feelings about and experience of my own (trans, nonbinary, lack of) gender, and ended it with something like “and that’s how I know I am my assigned sex/gender, and [rampant abuse and transphobia].” I have been comfortably out and transitioning now for almost a decade, and I am very comfortable in my lack of gender and becoming more comfortable with myself as my transition progresses, so it didn’t shake me at all, but I definitely did a double-take and had to go back and reread it in disbelief. It took me a while to get my head around the cognitive dissonance.

I have gained an understanding of why and how gender-critical feminists are so angry and aggressive. Anger is a very legitimate response to experiencing a traumatic puberty, gender dysphoria well into adulthood, and a world that enforces a gender binary that causes harm. Gender-critical women have every right to be as angry as they are.

Maybe if they could direct that anger at the oppressive system that is harming them, instead of some people who are hurting alongside them under that oppressive system, that’d be pretty cool?

#original posts #my words #gender

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covered-in-ash-archive · 7 years

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eddie is horribly abusive and y’all need to be aware of him

i really did not want to have to resort to this. i fully intended to not call eddie out and just let this die off. since it hasn’t, multiple friends have convinced me to come forward with the abuse, stalking, harassment, manipulation, gaslighting, misgendering, etc i have been subjected to at the hands of eddie over the past week+. i haven’t used tumblr in... ages, so i’ve completely forgotten how to use coding in tumblr posts. sorry in advance for that. this is going to be both a call out and a “hey, this is what really went down” type of thing.

before i hop into covering the hot garbage that has been happening, here’s is where to find eddie. i fully encourage everyone to block him and warn others. he has been getting away with abusing people for years.

his twitter: https://twitter.com/mrgluskin

his horror blog: https://outlastwikia.tumblr.com/

if anyone knows the url for his main blog, please let me know.

update: been told his main blog is gluskin. i have not confirmed it for myself because i simply want nothing to do with eddie.

this is going to be long, sorry. tw for... pretty much everything. reblogs are encouraged and appreciated. let’s expose this abuser before he can abuse anyone else.

alright. for background’s sake, eddie followed me on twitter because we had a mutual friend, catherine. right off the bat, he bombed me with positive attention, liking all of my tweets, complimenting me, etc. a friend has since pointed out that abusers often do this before abusing their victims. i just figured he was a friendly guy and didn’t think anything of it. catherine and i had a falling out because she kept frequently using the r slur, despite not being autistic, and it was really making me, an autistic person, feel extremely uncomfortable (this is a whole different can of worms, though. catherine has also been outed as an abuser and a suicide baiter). disgruntled by the situation, i posted this to vent my frustration.

this is my personal opinion on the issue, as an autistic person with autistic friends and family, all who agree with my stance. i’m not here to debate this. i want this to focus on eddie and not get derailed.

eddie absolutely flipped his shit at me. he claimed that since he has adhd (which he went on to say is EXACTLY LIKE AUTISM... not even gonna bother to explain how wrong that is. i have both. i should know) he is entitled to use that slur, my feelings be damned. he said that me saying he should not use the r slur erases the ableism people with adhd face. again, this is... not how it works. i wish i had grabbed screencaps because it seems that his tweets have been deleted. all i have is my side of the conversation, where you can see that i was perfectly calm and polite.

i ended things by explaining that i could agree to disagree for the sake of our friendship & that as long as he didn’t use the slur around me i would be fine. he stopped replying to the thread after that.

a while later, i received this message from eddie.

i’m going to point out real quick that the last time i posted to twitter about my makeup was months ago. eddie could only know this if he dug through MONTHS worth of tweets. this was where his stalking began. he went through hundreds upon hundreds of tweets looking for any tiny thing he could use to attack me over. he was actively looking for conflict & things to be mad about. he needed something to demonize me over, because “they asked me to not say r*tard” is obviously going to make him look bad if he cites that as his reason why he has beef with me. we discussed jeffree star briefly & then he blocked me. i wrongly assumed that was going to be the end of it.

i noticed that, during all of this eddie/catherine drama, someone had stolen my url. i thought it was petty/funny, and posted this to twitter. this is the only thing i said about the url. this is literally it. i did not and have not accused anyone of stealing it. i honestly don’t care because i very rarely am on tumblr nowadays.

i’m not sure of exactly what happened, but i’m assuming either catherine told eddie i had said it was him, or eddie somehow convinced himself of it. eddie unblocked me instantly and sent this.

he reblocked me after this. at that point, i consider it harassment.

as i’m combing through his twitter for all of this shit he did to me, i just now saw that he posted screenshots of our conversations in an attempt to turn people against me, while omitting that this whole thing began because he wanted to use SLURS. he posted a handful of tweets gossiping about me.. he has been attempting to paint me as a racist transphobe and he has been telling everyone i accused him of stealing my url, even though i told him i hadn’t accused anyone.

a mutual friend of ours (who has since ditched him) then contacted me saying eddie was posting screenshots of my social media while shit talking me.

the green thing is a screenshot of my listography. i don’t like or associate with q*eer because it’s a slur. i’ve been distancing myself from the lgbt community as of late due to the influx of rape threats, misgendering, harassment, racism, and overall nastiness i’ve been dealing with from lgbt people. i shouldn’t have to justify this. i have my reasons. this is, again, eddie grasping for anything he can use against me.

because liking problematic things makes someone a bad person, amiright? it’s not like i’m an adult who can recognize when something is problematic & still have the capacity to enjoy aspects of it. to put into perspective... eddie is vocally kin with a serial killer from a game that demonizes mentally ill people. he has no room to talk.

this whole time, eddie has been telling people that he cut me off as a friend over me owning jeffree star makeup and was incessantly trashing my name publicly while spreading lies about me. we have mutual followers, so i posted this, trying to keep his name out of things in an attempt to not escalate the drama.

eddie continues to vague and obsess. meanwhile, i’m trying to move on with my life.

not wanting to be associated with a community that treats me poorly doesn’t mean i suddenly don’t face the same struggles as them or can’t have an opinion on the issues i face, just so you know.

at this point, i sent him a message politely asking him to stop talking about me all over his twitter and to move on with his life. he deleted the response but the preview is still on his twitter.

here he is, again, lying about me. i have not contacted a single one of his friends once. i have harassed no one. i haven’t even spoken with catherine since this all began.

anyway.

1) i’m 22 but that’s irrelevant

2) anyone else think him calling my friend ‘babe’ is kind of creepy? just saying

eddie began implying if not outright saying that i’m abusive. he posted this while talking about me. he was “confronting” me at the time so... who else could it possibly be about?

i tweeted these in response, because i take abuse allegations extremely seriously. as an abuse survivor, i do not appreciate even having it be IMPLIED that i am abusive.

after posting these, i hopped in the shower. eddie proceeds to have a meltdown. he had me blocked but i had not blocked him. at this point, i had blocked our mutuals. the only way he could have seen these tweets was by refreshing my twitter over and over again, waiting for me to say something about him/the situation. eddie unblocked me & quoted my tweets with this.

i haven’t lied about anything, as my screencaps illustrate. he just wants to be absolved of any responsibility. i also did not “throw a fit” - i very politely requested that he stop gossiping about me publicly. he also messaged me around the time he quoted my tweets.

again, have not lied about anything. he attempted to gaslight me by saying he was actually calling jeffree star abusive, which is absolutely not what he did. check the screencaps.

i was tired of being nice to the person who had so far harassed and stalked me, lied about me, and attempted to gaslight me.

*drops this here*

well i mean, at least he admits he’s been harassing me?

this tweet below was confirmed about me. in it, he calls me a trans man. i have explicitly stated many times that i am not a trans man. i am nonbinary. i have told my twitter following countless times that calling me a man is misgendering. it is in my bio.

@ranunculae aka fawn reached out to me late at night on the 21st. we had a 5+ hour long conversation in which they explained to me that eddie had abused them and has spent the past 2 years harassing and stalking them like he was doing to me. eddie and catherine had teamed up and suicide baited fawn until fawn had to go inpatient. eddie and catherine have been attempting to socially isolate fawn for 2 years now by spreading lies and doctored screencaps in a sketchy “call out”. you can read fawn’s statements here.

https://ranunculae.tumblr.com/post/166659734265/i-never-abused-eddie/amp

https://ranunculae.tumblr.com/post/166779554950/ranunculae-ranunculae-keythecoward

the 2nd link includes a conversation in which a minor talks about eddie grooming him and attempting to be sexual with him.

i’m going to post some things that fawn sent to me over chat just because they’re semi-relevant.

my irl best friend, cat, was close friends with catherine. fawn and i felt that cat needed to know that catherine was involved in suicide baiting and abusing fawn with eddie. so, we approached cat about it and fawn explained their entire side of things to cat.

eddie, through his relentless stalking of me, noticed we were all in contact.

i want to clarify that fawn/katie has not been on his twitter once throughout all of this. fawn’s boyfriend periodically checks eddie’s twitter to see if he’s still stalking and obsessing over fawn. fawn’s boyfriend saw eddie harassing me, and he let fawn know that eddie had picked a new target to abuse. then fawn contacted me. it literally is a smear campaign. and fawn said the smear campaign was against ME, not them, even though eddie has been posting libel about fawn for years.

1) actual minors have come to me and fawn to tell us about eddie preying on them and grooming them

2) this was a response to cat taking mine and fawn’s sides

3) eddie called cat a ‘cuntbag’, which is misogynistic

4) these ‘victims’ have not come forward because they don’t EXIST. meanwhile, i am nearly the 30th victim of eddie’s that has ACTUALLY COME FORWARD.

eddie attempting to guilt trip and manipulate cat, a csa/incest survivor, for siding with fawn.

again, more lying about me. as you can clearly see, i never threw a fit. i have been calm during this entire ordeal. also... this is, once again, him trying to divert attention away from what really started this; his NEED to use the r slur around someone who is uncomfortable with it.

cyberfuneral = cat’s twitter handle

cat sent me screenshots. eddie does not have her blocked. this is, again, lies and manipulation. if it looks like we’re sneaking around a block, then we’re obviously the bad guys, right?

when cat confronted catherine about eddie calling her misogynistic insults, eddie lied to catherine and claimed he never called cat a cunt. he didn’t even bother to delete the tweets to hide his lies.

scroll up to see him calling me a man, which i am not, thus it was misgendering. also, childish insults.

this is referring to something i added at the bottom of my listography. i’d like to point out that he posted this within minutes of me updating my listography. further stalking right there.

this is what my listography currently says. it is a temporary placeholder in lieu of an actual call out. it will be replaced or updated with the link to this post after it is published. you wanted the screencaps posted, eddie, so you’re getting your wish.

i can only imagine what filth eddie is saying on his locked personal twitter. i think i’d rather not know, though.

it has been more than an entire week of stalking, harassment, gaslighting, manipulation, lying, smear campaigns, misgendering, misogyny, etc etc from eddie. he is awful. he is abusive and a manipulator. do not befriend him. the second you upset him, he will turn on you and treat you like he has countless others. i am just one victim out of many. stay away. block him. spread this to warn people.

@eddieabuser2

#outlastwikia #ranunculae #avas demon #call out post #abuser call out #gluskin #gayfreddy #edgiegluskin #ptsdgluskin

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