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gettingvetted · 6 years

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Things I Learned in my Second Year of Vet School

1. Everyone said that second year is the hardest. You have all the -ology’s: parasitology, pathology, pharmacology, toxicology, bacteriology, virology, radiology... the list goes on. I didn’t necessarily find that to be the case. The amount of information they throw at you is significantly greater, yes. But, it’s not difficult information (except for clinical pathology, good grief). You might have to change how you study in response. I used to make electronic flashcards on Quizlet (and still do), but there’s so many things to know that before each test I would make one *physical* flashcard on each parsite/bacteria/virus with each factoid we needed to know about it. Then I would have to hit them a lot harder, because by the time I would get to the end of my studying, spread out over several days, I would forget the organisms I’d studied at the beginning of my studying. That said, I thought first year was harder only because I had to make a huge adjustment to living away from home, having a long distance relationship, taking meds for my severely increased anxiety, hating my roommates, and adjusting to the level of work of vet school, all at the same time. This year, I’m not with those terrible roommates anymore, my ex-fiance lived with me, and I’ve already done the adjusting, so the only thing left to do was study harder.

2. By now, you NEED to have your housing figured out. You’d better be living with people you really like, or be on your own. There’s no time for roommate drama.

3. Speaking of drama, this year there will either be more drama in your class (because people are more stressed) or less drama (because nobody has time to create it). Our class had periods of both, but we do have this one kid who caused most of the drama, so it was really up to him how much we had, haha.

4. You can still do anything you make time for. I rode horses more often in my second year than I did in my first, and I also went to more performances on campus because I needed things to do with my ex-fiance on date night. I joined clubs and accepted leadership positions in four of them. I started working out. I also planned a wedding! I had to pick only one or two things a week to do though, because the rest of the time needed to be spent studying.

5. You still need to take breaks! I would try to be done with studying by 10pm so I could hang out with my ex-fiance and get things done around the house. Obviously, sometimes I would end up studying until 11:30 and have to get up early before classes to study more, but that was the exception, not the rule.

6. Sleep is more important than ever. I go to bed at midnight, full stop. Even if I have to wake up earlier the next morning, I always go to sleep. I also take a nap after school every single day. If you’re tired, you won’t retain anything.

7. If you commit to something, for the love of Pete, DO IT!! We had so many issues with class and club officers slacking off and forcing other officers to pick up the slack. We’re in vet school now. You get a reputation for how hard you work (or don’t), so don’t sign up for a leadership position if you don’t have time or won’t commit to doing the work it entails. Also, PULL YOUR GODDANG WEIGHT IN GROUP PROJECTS OR I WILL FIND YOU AND PERSONALLY SIT ON YOU.

8. You might find a new group of friends. Find that someone else studies better with you than your old group? Don’t be afraid to do what your grade needs. Paired up with a new person in labs? Invite them to hang out with your current group. Cliques aren’t a good thing! Don’t be afraid to meet new people and put some effort into making friends with as many classmates as you can.

9. Keep your support system! Before he left me, I didn’t know what I would do without my fiance. He helped me cook, clean, and do laundry, which was extremely helpful when he was still here. My mom was a huge help with wedding planning while I was still doing it, and was actually able to come stay at my house for a month after my fiance left so I could focus on studying and grieving and not have to worry about housework or cooking. My friends really came through for me during that time as well, letting me stay in their house or come over to just study quietly and separately so I wouldn’t be alone. Even some people here on Tumblr sent me rays of sunshine when I posted about being upset.

10. Cut out any wastes of time, energy, or emotion. My ex-fiance’s family caused a lot of wedding related drama that ain’t nobody got time for. When he left, I was so emotionally drained that I had barely any energy left for studying. You literally have no time for that in vet school, so cut out any drama that you can and nip that ish in the bud.

11. Speaking of counseling, the school’s services are still there. Tutoring, counseling, teachers, the whole nine yards. They’re there to help you, so use them! I was very briefly suicidal when my ex-fiance left, and the counselors made a point to keep up with me even after hours to make sure I was doing okay. A lot of what kept me in school and here on planet Earth was thanks to them.

12. Rely on your classmates. Everybody has bad days and good days; share what resources you have on your good days, and you’ll find that people share right back. Share your study guides and offer help on your class Facebook page, and you’ll find that people will absolutely reciprocate. On your bad days, you’ll be surprised who comes out of the woodwork to help you. I posted anonymously on NOVMS about my ex, and several classmates who had no clue that it was me, posted very kind comments that I had no idea they were capable of. When I felt like I just couldn’t study anymore or that nothing was sticking, somebody would post their study guide on Facebook that summarized things in a way I hadn’t thought of, and it saved my butt on test day. Several of my classmates that I was only acquaintances with really opened up to help me when they found out what I was going through. I wasn’t the only one in my class who had a long-term relationship end abruptly either - I think there were 5 of us total who got left or divorced. We’re all going through vet school together and many of us are experiencing or have experienced similar difficulties, so it’s okay to lean on each other.

13. Sometimes it’s okay to not go to class, but make sure it’s a really good reason. The only classes I’d ever skip were those where the professor completely reads off the slides, and not the ones that were more difficult or that the professor would say important things that weren’t on the slide. Not all of our lectures were recorded, so I would always go to those as well. It’s hard to justify skipping class because if general attendance is sporadic, it reflects poorly on you and the class, and then you’re behind on your notes. But sometimes, you do just need that extra hour of studying.

14. There’s no way that it’s possible for me to know this much more than I did this time last year, and still know nothing, and yet here we are.

15. You will still feel impostor syndrome, and that’s not okay. I mean, it’s okay, because it’s 100% okay to feel whatever you’re feeling, but if you’re like me, you’ll get into second year and feel like first year was a fluke. It was too easy, they didn’t make it hard enough on us last year, this year will the year that I fail out. That is 100% not true! You’ve made it this far, and you can do this!!

(check out what I learned in my first year of vet school too!)

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heroheart · 7 years

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im stressing and i look up to you a lot so i was just wondering: do you have any final exam tips? mine start on monday im dying

hey pal! first of all, good luck!!!! they’ll soon be over!!!! you’re at the last hurdle!!! just think about how free and relieved you’ll feel when you’ve finished!!! i have the worst revision habits but things i’ve found that have worked in the past… and it’s long but i really DO hope it’s helpful! if you need any help whatsoever, feel free to message again or IM me!

the number 1 rule:

STAY. OFF. TUMBLR.

on the night before your actual exams, i find it’s always really important to have a decent night’s sleep. and truuuuust me i know the toss-up between ‘i don’t know enough so i can’t go to sleep right now’ and 'i need to rest so i can actually understand what i’m doing in the morning’. BUT i’ve always found (especially recently) if i don’t get a good 7 hours sleep before an exam, even reading the questions becomes harder (my last exam was a horror show to begin with because i didn’t understand the questions when i first read them. i was like what the fuck does that even mean… and that was after 4 hours sleep. i actually had to think about what it was even asking me, let alone whether i knew what i was talking about.). you may have studied for longer, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll remember it, because learning is about consolidation as well, and giving your brain enough rest and SLEEP is really important for that. so! get seven hours at least please my lil cherub you need it. also remember to set alarms and discipline yourself enough to actually get up for them because!!!! remember you get so much time off afterwards so!!!

a hard™ part for me is always 'okay, i could study… or i could watch tv… or do this… or do something else…’ and you just need to remember that exams aren’t forever!!! you're so close to being done and afterwards, you can do all those things you said you wanted to do. SO sideline learning a new language or learning how to draw or catching up on that one tv show you really like, because afterwards, you have all the time in the world.

if you live by yourself, when you’re cooking, cook enough for 2+ meals. this means the next day, you don’t have to cook a meal from scratch and you can just micro it and it’s quick and easy and means mealtimes don’t have to take up like an entire hour’s chunk of time. (either that, or live off something easy for a while. i lived off omelettes, toast, cereal and fruit in my last week before my exams recently. you can make all of these eaaaasily and quickly. brain food is also important so!! don’t live off junk… hard, but try and get some nutrition.) i also did this for drinks and stuff. i drink a lot of tea (brit af 🇬🇧) and to stop me from making so many cups every like hour i’d just use a thermos and make like 3 at once fskjfsdh. also keeps it warm. HOWEVER, don’t study on an empty stomach because all you’ll think about is food lmao!!!!

if your exams are coming up soon, i wouldn’t recommend changing your revision/studying style. i also don’t recommend writing down schedules and making rotas even though the thought is great! really helpful! having an idea of what you want to get accomplished in the day makes it so much easier to complete because then you feel good at the end of it all, so that i do recommend. but writing it down and making a schedule takes up so much time (for me, anyway.) so if you do want a physical reminder of what you want to get done that day, i’d suggest making a to-do list. for example, mine was like '2x virology lectures, 1x drug transport’, not explicitly write ‘i’d spend an hour on this, then do that,’ etc.

you can’t study every hour of the day! you need to relax and chill for a bit! if all you’re doing is studying, i’d suggest getting up early, regimenting breaks into your schedule, and then you can finish a little earlier too. for example, i stick to working hours as much as possible. eat cereal, start at 9, break at 11 for 15 mins, lunch at 1, then work 2-5. then, depending on how close to exams i get, i take a break then, and then go back to it. then dinner, then back to it. ideally, i try not working beyond 9/10pm because by then i’m exhausted and saturated with information which needs to be consolidated (sleep!). however, to do this, avoid caffeine!!!!! wherever possible, anyway!! i try not drinking caffeine after around 4pm usually so i can literally sleep whenever lmao. this is the ideal!

i’ve been taught that if you find yourself getting tired and it’s a reasonable time to go to sleep, go to sleep and set your alarm to wake up an hour earlier in the morning, because you’ll be WAY more productive in the morning after a sleep. i’ve been taught that you get twice the amount done if you do that instead of trying to power through it late at night. ALSO DON’T NAP!!! i know!! studying is soooo fucking dull and painfully tiring and that temptation’s always there but pls don’t you won’t sleep and it’ll put you off kilter!!

i tend to wake up early on the morning of exams. recently, i was waking up at 6 for 11 or 12o'clock exams. this let me do the last minute bits, maybe an hour of actual writing and drawing and attempting to learn, and the rest of that time was spent re-reading old notes that i’d made before it. don’t freak out! i know the 'i know nothing’ feeling before an exam, and i know how it feels to go into that exam hall thinking you don’t know anything, but buddy… your brain’s an amazing thing. seriously, it’s cool as shit. you’ll find that even if you think you don’t know something, it’ll come back to you. you know more than you think you know!!!!! even if you didn’t study it, if you were listening when it was first taught, i find certain words act as cues and if you remember where you were for when you were taught it, it comes back for me sometimes!!!this being said, don’t fret if you don’t know things. no one’s asking you to get 100% on your exams!! a lot of the time, they make it so you can’t… because they’re arrogant and too proud to admit that someone knows the entire syllabus. (that’s what they did for us. my first lecture was one of my lecturers standing in front of the entire year and saying 'no one’s ever scored 100% on our exams before so don’t expect it’.) it’s okay not to know everything!! schools, unis, whatever you’re studying for – they know what they’re doing. they pile an insane amount of stuff onto you and it’s stressful! exams are stressful! it’s true!!! no one’s asking you to score perfectly.what i’m also saying with this point is don’t over-saturate your brain the morning of the exam. think about it. your exam’s in two hours. all the REAL time you’ve had to get to grips with the information has gone. this is why i read over notes before the exam – because if i go back and start trying to learn something i don’t already know, i panic. at least reading notes feels productive and it’ll stay in your short-term memory. repetition is really good for moving chunks of information into different memory stores, and re-reading notes is that kind of thing.

don’t just try and learn things verbatim. you have to understand what you’re talking about, instead of just regurgitating facts. i can’t tell you how many times i was googling stuff like ‘define osteomalacia’ and simple science terms that i forgot and needed to know in order to understand what’s going on. it’s all about building blocks. remembering the basis means you can remember the more elevated stuff! this also gives it more meaning and we remember more things if they mean more to us. this is also why just making lists and writing things out doesn’t work.be creative! get colourful! studying is one of the only excuses i have to whip out my colouring pens so you bet your ass i colour that red blood cell in or whatever. go nuts, kids.

as unfortunate as this one sounds, it’s… important. do not attempt to listen to music at the same time. it doesn’t work. especially if you’re looking at complex stuff that you don’t quite understand yet. don’t try it. it subverts your concentration and makes everything SO much harder. (if you do need to listen to music because it’s too loud around you, i’d suggest instrumental music on a very low volume just to tune out other noises. music itself is a controlled noise so it can be helpful, but only at low volumes. i find that when i listen to music, i have it on like 1 or 2 on my phone’s volume and after the first couple of songs, i zone out and forget about it anyway.) silence is ideal! try and put yourself in a situation where you can get it!

another point to make is that we use contextual cues in order to remember things. unfortunately, this means staying out of bed. get up, sit at your desk, or a table, and work from there. it works so much better and you’re in a more work-related environment. your memory relies on contextual cues so if you study at a table, and you sit the exam at a table, there’s the possibility that you’ll remember more.

YOUR PHONE IS YOUR ENEMY. and so is tumblr, facebook, insta, twitter, or whatever else you use. STAY AWAY FROM THEM. they are the DEVIL and the biggest killers of productivity. turn your phone off, or hide it away from your desk, or at the very least, turn it upside down and put don’t disturb on. discipline yourself with your laptop so you won’t go on these sites. it’s really important, because you’ll lose your focus and forget where you were and then you won’t be able to get back into it as easily. if you’re on a roll, stay on a roll!!

most importantly, don’t panic!!!!!! easier said than done, i know. and i know how it feels to stress and i know how it affects everything, but it’s really important. just take a minute. breathe. then get back to it. good luck, friend!!!

edit: one last point to make is that self-care is really important. take time to shower. you'll feel better. get into comfy clothes. you'll feel better. you are allowed to take time for yourself.

#out.#if anyone has anything to add be my guest but these are the things i found work for me...#anonymous

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cwduniv1200-blog · 6 years

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Learning Journey Assignment

Experience 1, First Year Greek (Formal Learning)

One of my more recent formal learning experiences occurred at the start of my second semester. Being a student in Guelph’s Classics program it is mandatory to take either Greek or Latin at an introductory level; this requirement is unique compared to other Canadian universities which separate majors in Classical culture and Classical language. This Greek course has proved its importance by forcing me to acknowledge the strength it will take to progress through my program of study. Attending my first couple classes in ancient Greek was an interesting experience because it exposed me to a totally different style of studying ancient culture. I dropped out of French at a young age so I did not have the scaffolding that contributes to learning a second language. This made my first couple classes fairly intimidating. Due to the 9:30am start time and the difficulty of learning a second language I was considering dropping the course. It was my professor that changed my mind; he basically explained that if I wanted to be successful in my program I needed to obtain a deeper understanding of Classical language. As a Classical scholar your ability to discover and interrupt Greek and Latin language is what individualizes you from the standard Historian. My Greek professor stressed the importance of combining your knowledge of the classical world with your competencies in Greek language to succeed as a Classicist. This learning experience resided predominantly inside the classroom, but there was a element of discovery that I found by doing a bit of independent research. Generally speaking, my introduction to Greek language has served as the starting point to learning about the ancient world from a higher standard, and looking back, this may become the pivotal point in my academic journey.

Experience 2, Begining my Career in the Workforce (Informal Learning)

As well as my experience in Greek, my experience starting my first job can be considered a major informal learning experience. Working at Fat Bastard Burritos in Toronto taught me many different things, but as a good job should, it also taught me the value of money and hard work. For a 2-3 month period during my last year of high school I was working full time, which proved problematic due to the location of my school in relation to the burrito shop. I had to take the subway/bus at the end of the school day to work until 10pm. I felt overwhelmed and tired but I knew I had to keep working and make it through the last couple months until the summer. Juggling work and school was hard but I learned not to half-ass my studies or slack off at work because I knew putting in less effort at work/school would be a waste of my time. Working hard also taught me the value of the work I was putting into my job, and the money I was receiving. No longer did I have the time or the motivation to be frivolous. Im hoping in the future I can translate the effort I put in during those couple months to my studies at school; if I can find that same mindset of discipline and routine I know I will bring my grades up significantly.

Experience 3, Meeting my Manager and Friend (Personal Learning)

Another important personal learning experience occurred through my relationship with one of my bosses at Fat Bastard Burritos. After a couple months of working without a primary manager the owner of the store brought his good friend in to help increase profits. This was when I met Rob, my new manager and friend. What Rob taught me was two of the most important aspects for a great life: confidence and laughter. He carried himself in a manner that demanded your attention; if he was in the room you would know. Additionally he never failed to crack a joke about customers or his employees. He always told me to keep my back straight at the cash register and crack a smile to our customers. He liked me because we had the same sense of humour and we both had long hair. Rob never went to college or university but working with him for a summer felt like the best education I have ever had. In the future I would love to try and integrate some of his confidence into my studies. Im having a hard time with Greek but I know Rob would tell me to relax and approach the language with a charming smile.

Experience 4, My Relationship with my Aunt (Personal Learning)

Moreover, one of my more personal learning experiences deals with my family’s relationship with my aunt. Throughout my life my aunt has always been a symbol of what to not be, or what I would end up like if I made bad decisions. She has been mentally ill for as long as I can remember and over the course of my life I have experienced many of her psychotic episodes firsthand. I can’t really remember the way these episodes made me feel because they occurred at such a young age but I have some memories of her relapsing at Christmas/Thanksgiving dinners. She was never violent but these episodes usually ended in her yelling at my mom. Although my aunt has her many faults my mother and grandparents still care for her deeply; we have something in common being the older siblings and as a result I have always had a close relationship with her. Some of my fondest memories are sitting on the back porch with her while she smoked cigarettes; I always remember asking her questions about things I could never talk about with my parents. My mother always takes the time to stress the importance of staying away from drugs, as my aunt has battled with addiction since she was a teenager. Looking towards the future I think it would be beneficial to attempt to try and cut down on my alcohol intake, seeing as my aunt suffered from substance abuse in her early twenties. My dad was adopted so my brother and I never had the chance to develop relationships with his side of the family, as a result my moms side of the family is extremely valuable to us, and while I will always love my aunt deeply I saw how hard her illness was on the people around her, and I never want to have that effect on my family.

Experience 5, Meeting Music (Personal Learning)

Additionally, one of my fondest personal memories was my family’s trip to New Orleans: the Jazz Capital of the United States. My learning experience occurred through our trip to Preservation Hall a musical venue in the heart of the French Quarter. I went on this trip just after my 14th birthday and listening to the Preservation Hall Jazz Band had a massive effect on my impressionable young ears. My dad used to take me to concerts when I was younger but this was my first time experiencing traditional jazz played by passionate musicians. This experience served as the gateway into my love of jazz music; I will always have the vinyl copy of their first album and the awe I experienced watching people perpetuate some of the oldest music alive will stick with me forever. I think one of the most important things Jazz music has taught me is the method of relaxation. There is nothing more tranquil than lying in bed listening to A Kind of Blue, and I use these moments to unloaded stress and relax. My plan for the future is to continue to listen and learn about the genre and enjoy the music that have loved from such a young age.

Experience 6, Thinking about Studying (Informal Learning)

Another informal learning experience occurred when I was studying for my exams last semester. Gearing up for four major exams demanded a different method of studying than high school tests. I After a couple term tests I got into a kind of routine where I prepared for multiple choice questions by creating a study sheet from lecture notes and slides, and for essay questions by writing out my essay beforehand and memorizing it before the exam. No one really taught me this method but rather I encountered it by myself. These methods of studying were completely different from anything I experienced before and seeing as most of my exams follow the same format I will be able to utilize this technique in the future.

Experience 7, Personal Relationship (Personal Learning)

Also, since I arrived at university I have met a ton of people that I admire and I would consider my friends, but one relationship in particular has helped me reflect on some of my abilities and personality traits. I met one of my best friends on the first day of university and since then we have spent a considerable amount of time together. One of the traits I admire most about him is his ability to stand up for himself and his friends. He has many “alpha-male” characteristics that sometimes make him seem overly aggressive, but allow him to exert an aura of confidence. He is extremely loyal and dependable; one of things that I respect about him is his commitment to his own mortals and the goodness of others. He stature commands respect for himself and the people around him; I have never been in a situation with him where I felt like somebody was being treated unfairly. In comparison, I have personality traits that are hyper-agreeable. This can be useful but one of the things that makes our relationship work so well is that we both respect our personalities which sometimes fall on opposite ends of the spectrum. I think moving forward I can integrate some of his characteristics into my personality. Over the past couple months he has taught me about how to carry yourself with a bit more confidence and if I can teach him anything if may be some advise about keeping a level head. Sometimes we may clash but I have come to the conclusion that there is no amount of temporary anger that will split us apart.

Experience 8, Relationship with my Dog (Personal Learning)

I think one of my most important learning experiences occurred through my relationship with my dog Emmy, who unfortunately passed away when I arrived at university. My family, after constant nagging on my part ended up rescuing her when I was seven and from that point on I was given the responsibilities for taking care of her. I fed and walked her every day and once and a while I would cut her nails or give her a bath. I loved every second I spent with her and through our relationship I learned the value one gets out of sacrificing your immediate well being for the good of someone else. Sometimes I didn’t want to take her out to use the washroom but I knew it was my job, and I learned that meeting the responsibilities you set for yourself is a great feeling. I have found, personally, that I get a similar feeling of fulfilment when I meet the academic goals I set for myself; sometimes just saying your going to do something and doing it is enough to be happy.

Experience 9, Introduction to Classical Studies (Personal Learning)

Additionally, one of my more interesting personal learning experiences occurred through my introduction to Classical antiquity in my first semester of university. Going into university as an English major I thought I wanted to become a writer or work in a publishing house. I assumed because I loved reading and discussing literature that my path somehow involved obtaining my undergraduate degree in English. My path changed when I took an introductory English course and realized that the content and method of studying literature did not appeal to me as much as I thought; I came to the conclusion that I much preferred reading for pleasure opposed to a more academic relationship with literature. When I was introduced to studying Classical culture I found that by studying history I could combine my love of literature and writing and impose them on a subject that was much more interesting to me. More importantly I was not picking apart poems and prose but rather studying a culture that had appealed to me from a young age. I feel like I want to run with this realization and do the best I can in my program.

Experience 10, Working in Vancouver (Informal Learning)

Additionally, a significant informal learning experience was working for three weeks at a printing shop in Vancouver. Due to my jobs location I had to wake up early (6am) and take multiple buses into work everyday; I worked from eight to four and at the end of the day I was exhausted. By working everyday for three months I was exposed to the prospect of having a “real job”, which taught me the importance of finding something that you actually like to do. Although I loved the people I worked with I felt like they didn’t really like their job; I got the sense that they might have steered away from their passion and stetted for something that could provide immediate financial support. I am very lucky to have the opportunity to gain an education and I believe it is important for me to use this to pursue something I love out of respect for the people who can’t.

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alwayssannoyedd-blog · 6 years

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Mom keeps trying to accuse me of seeing her ex

So my mom was talking to this guy for awhile and they broke things off. After and throughout that time she has accused me several times and is still trying to accuse me of trying to mess around with him. The first time she accused me of being inappropriate when he was around because I wore my pajama shorts. mind you the times he would show up and see my mom was around 10pm and later. (When I would be getting ready for bed) And also some of the shorts I was wearing were ones she bought and suddenly she stated saying that they were “Too short”…When he would come around I would stay in my room unless I needed to come down to get something from the kitchen, take my dog to the bathroom, or use the bathroom myself. One time I didnt know she was coming inside with him and was bringing him upstairs (She accused me of knowing) I was going down stairs to get my food. Later on she revealed that he had "checked me out" and he said that I was being inappropriate by wearing shorts while my mom had company and if anything were to happen to me I brought it on myself. So I'm assuming ever since that day is the reason she has been trying to accusing me of stuff where he is concerned. So I started to wear longer pants when I would leave my room just in case he happened to pass the hall if I was going through so she could accuse me of anything.... So my understanding is that because he said something off the wall, I’m the one being accused of being promiscuous? She’s that worried about him that she’s ready to ruin her relationship with her daughter over a guy? The second thing she keeps trying to accuse me of is seeing him during my class gap at school. (Which I’m not, I don’t find him attractive and I do not like him, I never liked him, I only tolerated his presence and said hello to him when he was with my mom out of respect because she was with him and he’s wayyy older than me, I don’t do that.) I commute out of town. The city I go to school is 50mins away(without traffic) , but my first class starts at 8:20am, so I usually have to leave at about 6am to get there on time because of the work traffic. Sometimes it takes like an hour and 30+mins to get there because there are usually several accidents and just that much traffic. I started taking screen shots on google maps to show the time and where I was because she didn’t believe me that it took that long. I also have a dash camera and tried to show her footage and she refuses to see it. Anyway, I commute Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Mondays, I have my first class from 8:20am-9:10 am and my second class is 2pm to 4:10pm, Wednesday 8:20am-11:50am, Friday 8:20am-3:10pm. So On Monday and Wednesday I have a 5 hour gap between classes. I stay in the library and study/work on home work and I use that time to eat. And sometimes if I don’t have too much homework, I’ll work out on campus. She has a hard time believing that I’m doing all of those things in 5 hours. (It’s no different than what I would do if I didn’t have the 5 hour gap and was home) She always says something like this “If you are really doing homework within those 5 hours why do you still have some when you get home, that says you’re lying and really aren’t doing what you say you are and you’re elsewhere” ..Which I think is dumb because when I was at community college, I would spend my whole day doing homework and studying. I’m taking a genetics class, physics, and a required English class to graduate at university. I’m working on my undergrad. I have to make sure I have good grades for when I apply to medical school. I always tell her it takes me awhile to get my work done, I’m a slow worker when it comes to homework. (She knows and sees that herself when I home). I have a hard time focusing and I usually end up on my phone going through Instagram to take breaks between doing my work. I look at Youtube videos and review the lecture slides to help me with my homework because the examples in lecture don’t always explain how to do certain problems well. She’s even seen my homework and says it looks hard. Like fine, I can get the homework done, but I still have to go back and look at it to make sure I understand it. I swear she makes up scenarios in her head of what she thinks is happening and believes them eventhough I have proof that what she’s making up isnt true. She tries to say that I’m seeing him (whos now her ex) because the city he lives in now is like 20-30mins away from my school. She swears that’s where I going during my 5 hour gap between classes. It’s annoying, I have no interest I him and I wish she would stop trying to believe something that is not happening. I actually considered swapping schools so she would leave me alone about it. She also told him all of my business and where I was going to school when she was with him, which I didn’t appreciate. It’s my business. I told her that its sad that she thinks that little of me to think I’m trying to see him. She said that she can’t trust me and that Im lying, and a manipulator. She also said if she starts talking to someone else she wouldn’t bring them around me because she cant trust me. It’s dumb, she also revealed that he thought I had “checked him out” one time he was over. And apparently he was flattered. Like seriously!? I wasn’t, so apparently me saying hi, is me checking him out. My mom always got on my case for not saying hi when he came over. She said since he was the guest in the house, I’m supposed to say hi. So I actually did and look where it got me. Im so over this, she always says that she wont bring it up and next thing you know shes talking about it. She also accused me of having sex with him because apparently I came home with bruises on my knees, which I didn’t see. And one time I came home with a penny sized bruise on my elbow (I don’t know how I got it, I probably bumped it on something) and she jumped to the conclusion that I was having sex with him because when she was seeing him, apparently when he was “rough” with her when they had sex she would have bruises on her arms. I don’t see me having a penny sized bruise on my arm correlates to me having sex with him. Its soo annoying, Im so over this. Im sick of my mom constantly accusing me of something that not even happening when I have proof that I’m not doing any of those things she is accusing me of. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m trying to stick it out staying home so save money while in school. But I’m starting to think it’s not worth it anymore.

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