#vulvodynia

[kaldurcalm]

Hi idk if anyone has answered but I saw your tags about vaginismus. I struggled with a tight pelvic floor + vulvodynia which is slightly different, but the strategy to resolve it is the same. I went to physical therapy and here’s what I did:

- nightly pelvic floor relaxation steps. There is a very nice video on youtube on how to do this in 15 minutes by The Flower Empowered. I am not joking when I say pelvic floor relaxation stretches made a WORLD of difference for me. It’s easy to believe they’re not doing anything but within months I went from having shooting clitoral pain with arousal, vulva pain with arousal, and internal pain with penetration to almost pain free. The only pain I have now is slight vulva burning with arousal. Additional stretches my PT recommended: sidelying thoracic lumbar rotation, squats, diaphragmatic breathing, supine butterfly groin stretch

- Pelvic rose intimate wand. This was a bread and butter tool for me. Honestly any pelvic wand can work but this was specifically recommended by my PT. This aided with my stretches also was a big improvement. You use it to apply to internal pressure points that cause pain and discomfort, so long as it’s not too big to put in.

- dilators. These are specifically recommended for vaginismus, but I asked my PT about them to see about desensitizing my vulva irt nerve pain. Worked nicely. You can start from a small size and move up to a large size. Doing these in the butterfly groin stretch pose (using pillows to rest your legs as needed) will be significantly easier, especially if you take deep breaths and sort of ask your vagina for “permission” to enter. There’s a psychological component at play that can help. I wouldn’t worry about buying a whole set at once. if you know there’s a size that’s too big for you to fit in, i recommend buying the first two sizes and see how those feel.

I hope this helps!

Oh thank fucking God, I kind of resigned myself to figuring this out myself.

I do think that masturbation helped a lot in this regard because there's a significant reward factor involved. It's also what prompted me to look up whether or not something was wrong with me. That's a large part of why I'm trying to talk about it more.

I'll look into the wands and the pressure points, thank you!

#i don't think dilators are on the table. i think I'm just gonna get a bigger toy. #vaginismus #vulvodynia #i should put a community label on this but it might hide it from some of the wrong people...

[oscill4te]

i feel bad for women with vaginismus/vulvodynia who date men bc in my experience men always see the vaginismus as not a real concern and act like its something you'll overcome and are so pushy about PIV. they get all mopey and sad bc "i just want to have rl intimacy with you :((" and they keep bringing it up to you, even if you decided you never want to have PIV sex

like theres soooo many ways to have sex and all u can think about is PIV and making your partner feel bad for something that legit hurts like hell, feels like glass and carpet burn and not remotely enjoyable at all??? why do you even still date them if its such a dealbreaker. The formation of vaginismus is rooted in trauma for many people as well so theres also an emotional component to it for many women who struggle with the disorder. if ur partner has vulvodynia/vaginismus and you keep pushing PIV as an end goal, maybe go uhhh jump off a cliff plz thank you

#txt #just thinking about past life experiences and feeling angry thus this rant #vaginismis #vulvodynia #piv critical #and yeah yea im aware some ppl want to heal their vaginismus thats normal.. #but pushing ur partner into is is shitty thats a choice someone makes for themselves #you dont need to work past it if you dont want too bc... its idk.. not necessary #its definitely hard when you go to the gyno but you dont need piv sex or tampons so idk if you NEED to overcome it.. #its a personal choice that you choose for yourself tho don't let ppl pressure you if you arent ready or fear u may never be #private post

[topperscumslut]

suffering from vaginismus: depressing, outdated, hurts self esteem

impenetrable: innovative. badass. funky. makes me feel like a transformer.

#surprise your favorite smut writer is a virgin #vaginismus #pelvic pain #pelvic floor dysfunction #pelvic floor disorder #vulvodynia

[lunarpowerblg]

such a good album

#brutal death metal #death metal #vulvodynia #vulvodynia band #psychosadistic design #duncan bentley #death metal album #metal album #deathcore #goregrind

[thethcministry]

#Vulvodynia #f-yourblog.com #Brutal Slamming Death Metal

[restforthe-burdenedsoul]

Okay this is not a normal period for me. It came 5 days early (not abnormal, sometimes I’m a full week early) , the pain levels themself are normal, but not the way the pain is.

I’m still getting knife stab pains, usually those end totally once my period starts. I also have a weird pain in my pelvic area that I can’t even figure out how to describe. The knife pain is jolting and stops me in my tracks. Also having a lot of sharp shooting pain in my legs. it’s normal for my legs and feet to ache and swell, but never had this shooting pain. It’s not my sciatica pain I don’t think, that usually is like a, shooting pain that runs from my back to my butt. This is very specific localized to the spot kind of pain.

What is this 😭

Definitely finding a doctor once I have all my insurance info.

#maybe endometriosis #endometriosis #maybe pcos #polycystic ovarian syndrome #pcos #vaginismus #vulvodynia

[vaerjs]

#malattia mentale #pcos #endometriosis #vulvodynia

[bananaplagg]

Vaginismus/vulvodynia: Sad. Pitiful. Unbangable. Sounds like a disease.

Selective penetrability: Fancy. Sounds like a scientific term. Makes it feel like a evolutionary selected trait.

#i feel specialized as a sodium-potassium pump #vaginismus #vulvodynia #chronic pain

[r3v3rs3]

#vulvodynia #vaginismus #pelvic pain

[eulalielatibule]

Starting to realize that maybe my vulvodynia has been going on longer than I realized, and I haven't had the proper education on what is normal and what isn't

#just thoughts #vulvodynia

[identifyingmetalbandsinposts]

Logo of the Day

Vulvodynia

Deathcore/Brutal Death Metal

#logo #logo of the day #vulvodynia #deathcore #brutal death metal

[inanator]

When the gynecologist says you have vagina hurty disorder

#vulvodynia #vaginismus #ruminations #feel free to add your disorders in the tags

[gin-and-hypertonic]

Vibrating Dilators: A Breakthrough for Pelvic Pain? 😮

✨ Hey folks with vaginismus/vulvodynia/hypertonic pelvic floor, I just discovered a product that might change things for you completely! I saw this suggestion in an article (I can’t find it now). I’ve been battling with vaginismus for YEARS, and it seems like this has changed the game for me. I’ve made the most progress EVER. It’s SO ENCOURAGING. 💖

Before, I just had the Intimate Rose set, and while it’s basically industry gold standard… it’s been no where near as helpful in removing pain and replacing it with pleasure as the vibrating dilator set. I rarely actually felt pleasure with the Intimate Rose set because there was usually pain… especially when moving up a size, I could just feel the prickly sharp sensations of stretching, so any hint of pleasure was overpowered by that pain! 😬

With a vibrating dilator, you don’t even have time to notice any pain because it’s just buzzin’ in there & feels great. It does the work for you, I don’t even know how to even explain it! While using it, I was thinking “Woah, is this what it feels like to have a normally functioning vagina? This is amazing!” haha! 😂

I never considered vibrators before because they are usually quite large and not designed for people with vaginismus, but these are PERFECT. 😍

I feel silly for not thinking of this earlier! The first couple of times it might be a bit intimidating and strange as you get used to the feeling, but then it’s great (at least in my experience). ✨

Some considerations:

🌸You may need to be able to insert Intimate Rose #2 or an equivalent product in order to use it, because the smallest end of the smaller dilator is about the same size as that.

🌼Make sure to use lubrication. My PT told me to use coconut oil instead of usual lubrication for dilators so that’s what I do, personally!

❗️Please ask a gynaecologist or pelvic floor physical therapist if you have any concerns about whether this is right for you! I’m not qualified to give medical advice- this is just what is helping me! ❗️

💕Here is the link to the set I have: 💕

CalExotics Inspire 3 Piece Silicone Waterproof Vibrating Dilator Kit with Removable Wireless Stimulator, Pink https://a.co/d/10wzWPR

#sorry my first post on this account is basically an ad but im being completely honest #im just amazed #vaginismus #vulvodynia #hypertonic pelvic floor #pelvic floor dysfunction #dilators #just my personal experience #this is not medical advice #please check with your doctor/PT before use #I didnt though tbh lol #vibrating dilators

[restforthe-burdenedsoul]

This is gonna sound like a sad post, but is more of a silver lining post.

The good: my new health insurance is pretty badass so far and I should be able to afford laparoscopic surgery this year 🥳🥳🥳

just waiting on my insurance card to come in the mail and I’ll be able to find a doctor to start these shenanigans of trying to convince a doctor that there is something wrong.

TMI under the cut

I’m having really really bad ovary pain again. I know cysts are normal, but despite doctors telling me over and over again that I’m fine, I just don’t believe it. None of my other ovary owning friends have this much pain this often and I relate way too much to others with these types of diagnoses.

So, I’ve been having this normal-to-me ovary pain for the last two weeks. Feels like knives stabbing my ovary right? But I also rarely get this pain in my stomach below my belly button that feels like I’m ripping in half. I can tell when it’s coming and as long as I don’t bend, it’s manageable. But when I do bend, oh my goodness I swear my insides are being ripped apart.

Well, this week THAT pain has been happening every other day. Yesterday we’re in the car and I go to bend to pick up my dog to look out the window and when I tell you I SCREAMED in pain, I would not be exaggerating. Okay, this is still normal-to-me pain. Just don’t bend for a few more minutes.

Well, the pain doesn’t stop and goes from my belly button down through my V. Bearable, but only because I’m so used to just being in some level of pain in my reproductive system most days.

We get to our destination and I’m still having pain. I thought as long as I don’t bend again, I’ll be fine. Well, as I stand up, I swear my insides have now completely ripped apart (side note: while this retelling may be dramatic and not how I’d explain it to the doctor, it’s real) and i literally fall back into the car still yelling and now tears are streaming down my face. I can’t breathe, like I literally cannot catch my breath like someone squeezed it out of me. I finally get myself to breathe and as I inhale, the pain starts all over again from my stomach to my V. I’m trying to stop crying because every inhale is just continuing to rip my insides apart.

I am tangled up in my dogs leash and half in half out of the car and somehow get us both back in while screaming and crying. I was afraid to move for a while, but when I did, the pain was less.

Sometimes when I really have to pee, it feels like there’s glass in my bladder (but not a kidney stone pain). I go to pee because maybe that’s why I’m feeling pain? Anyway, the pain happens again and I can’t get myself to void because it both burns and is ripping me in half. Finally finish.

But since yesterday, anytime I have to use the bathroom, there is insane pressure on my ovary. I’m also having trouble walking because that puts pressure on it too. Not necessarily a painful pressure, but definitely pressure that’s bothersome enough.

#maybe endometriosis #endometriosis #maybe pcos #polycystic ovarian syndrome #pcos #vaginismus #vulvodynia #maybe pmdd #pmdd