#Cause the fucking is the easy part

[fandomlurker333]

A lot of people are screaming throuple and just writing the porn (which I get! It’s fun!). But reading them come is not enough for me. lol Toxicity is hot until it’s just damaging and sad for everyone. I want real happiness for these three weirdos.

The end of the film was meant to be the very beginning of something. Just the spark of an idea of them coming back to one another. But the real work starts after. 

And I think it would probably be a step-by-step thing. 

I can see Patrick and Art working to draw closer, with that strong foundation of their childhoods to build off of. Obviously having to resolve the hurt that so much time and distance caused them, and both being willing to forgive. But it’s clear at the end of the film that the door is open for that. They grew up together. There’s a real root of knowing that I think could carry them through the toughest parts early on. Their relationship evolving feels possible.

And Tashi and Art’s marriage would find some breathing room and maybe even some renewed delight for having Patrick present and loving on them both. Kinda seeing each other again through his eyes type thing. Remembering they’re more than who they have been to each other for over a decade (both operating in one mode to survive, never quite enough for each other -- not totally fulfilled and not appreciated in their fullness).

I don’t think Patrick and Tashi would be having sex at this point, but I can see like….tennis dates where they bicker. Just them all learning how to be in each other’s space for extended periods of time and enjoy it.

And maybe Art wouldn’t resent Tashi so much for not being able to give him everything (so much has been taken from her — she just doesn’t have all that much left. She’s been doing her best.) and maybe Tashi would feel more at peace seeing them play each other and knowing Art is really loving tennis, not just playing for her. Connecting with them both in that space and finding joy in tennis again, so it’s not just routine and pain and loss for her.

With that healing happening concurrently (with therapists as support, of course), I think they’d get far. And then once those relationships are more secure, once Art and Tashi learn how they relate to each other when he isn’t winning for her (which would be something new. They don’t know what that looks like yet!) then Patrick and Tashi, having learned way more about themselves in relationship and how to communicate, might start working on their side of the triangle lol. 

I could see them all exploring and working out the intimacy over time — not just sex, but intimacy -- what do they each need and how do they need it? And kink too, the various ways they each want/need to give or receive so they all feel truly satisfied.

And of course they’ll be partners co-parenting. All of them.

I can see Tashi finally grieving her injury, the life she lost, and rediscovering her love of tennis, not to win, but for the joy of being on the court. Her sobs the first time she plays again and it’s not competitively, just a little volley, but it’s like she’s finally alive again. Reminding herself she’s a leader in tennis the space still, that she can build success in that world even without Art’s career, but maybe it looks different. I see a healed Tashi learning to enjoy teaching kids. Taking on more protege. And letting Art and Patrick come help at her tennis camps. 

Art retiring like he said he wanted, running the foundation as Tashi steps back. Realizing that he’s actually pretty good at this business thing and going back to school for a Master’s in nonprofit leadership. Meeting new people. Making friends (that aren’t Patrick). Getting invited to a pottery class and seeing he loves to work with his hands. Playing tennis with Patrick on the weekends.

And my heart for stay-at-home dad Patrick. Who always forgets to change over the laundry and leaves his keys everywhere and puts the babies' shoes on the wrong feet. But my god he loves those kids so goddamn much. Patrick learning to cook for the family and getting really good at it like he does anything he hyper-focuses on. Patrick finally having a home with the two people he loves most and figuring out how to create some routine and stability for himself within that container.

The love in that home. Ugh. I think it’s possible! I think they can do it! It just takes work. 

#challengers #a TRUE throuple #patrick zweig #tashi duncan #art donaldson #I need a fic that does THIS #Cause the fucking is the easy part #artrick #patrick x tashi #tashi x art #artashi #art x patrick x tashi #ot3 #if tashi and patrick could actually communicate #and if art and tashi figure out their shit furreal #musings

[asocial-skye]

nothing is funnier to me than anti-anakin fans who posit him as this great, inhumane thing that derives pleasure in murder and drinking the blood of the dead children he cut up. vader's evil is like the blandest shit in existence, and he's a lot more scarier in that view.

#star wars #starwars #anakin skywalker #sw #sw prequels #prequel trilogy #sw fandom #darth vader #jedi #the jedi #the jedi order #i'm just saying #you people have zero appreciation for banal evil #vader is the perfect example of the brutality caused by fucking middle management and apathetic behavior #do you know how many people are complicit in genocide and human rights abuses through their jobs #when you view genocide as part of the job description and you aren't personally doing anything it's pretty easy to justify yourself #and that's pretty much what vader did #vader derived no pleasure from murder and i like him that way

[1spooky-dad]

I can't believe there's people watching qsmp who hear the Spanish speakers and just go "well i don't know Spanish and there's nothing i can do about that. Guess I'll never know what they say". When Tahlulla said "then learn" cause quackity said he didn't speak Spanish, that was at y'all. If you can watch a 6 hour stream you can download doulingo and do a 5 minute Spanish lesson.

#not to be agressive but #genuinely those who dont try to learn are actually missing out on So Much Content #qsmp #learning Spanish #even just bits where the translation fucks up. like during charlies violence arc yhe translation randomly said. Bucket #and its cause he was saying fuck it fuck it fuck it so it translated that into cangilón #i barely know spanish and even then i can manage to parse out what at least some of them are saying you dont need much #hell even just tune into a foolish stream cause hes actually been doing spanish lessons with leo and hes picking it up really well #and he says all of his thoughts on how or why parts of the language are how they are which kinda helps to understand it #like hes wrong sometimes very much so but its really really cool to judt sit and listen to a guy figure out how to speak another language #i played it while cooking the other day and when he would ask a question i also had id ask my roommate whos fluent #and just asking questions helps to learn. #sorry for the ramble im just fed up with the mentality that some foøks have with the spanish speakers #yes the translator is fucking rad but it doesnt catch everything and its kinda nicer to catch it as its spoken you know #leadning a new language is only hard at first. its very easy to become obsessed with understanding it

[lunar-racing]

I didn’t watch the Devils game bc I had some AP Chem stuff due but uh- What the fuck do you mean there’s a point in the game where every player on the ice got into a fight- and then the refs put 1 person in each penalty box and the rest of them in the change room…

I DO SCHOOL WORK FOR ONE NIGHT WITHOUT HOCKEY AND THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED-

If anyone has anymore details abt this I’d love to know cause what the fuck happened-

#also I still hate the rangers #hated them on the first game I watched with them against the devils #still hate them after this recent game #the fuck is Rempe even doing??? #like I get that fights are interesting but I’m pretty sure it’s not a good thing for him #like the only like IK about him is he always causes or is part of a fight #and not the ones that are easy to break up by refs and players #i hope the players that got involved are physically okay tho #also I saw that Lukey was on for a total of 30+ mins????? #someone give him a ten course meal #AND LET HIM SLEEP IN #same with the players that I heard play 25+ mins #new jersey devils #new york rangers #FUCK THE RANGERS #nhl hockey #nhl #🌙 rambles! #nico looks pretty as ever

[siriuslynephilim]

spending my whole life trying and trying and trying and trying to be good enough for people who don't give a fuck about me

#im so tired living seems pointless why am i doing this what is the reason #the firm i work at is going thru a merger so it's releasing all the interns except 2 #i went into her office and said that id like to stay here bc my dad said so bc i got in cause he was friends with the head #and she said ill think about it based on performance ive not decided yet #and this other guy he went in to tell her that cool he'll leave and she told him that she was hoping that he'd stay #he literally does nothing but play games on his phone he doesn't work at all #i have no idea what he has that i don't #but just. im stuck like this forever right never ever good enough for people i like or care about #not for parents they have a diff fav child not for ex gf not for bestie who has a boyfriend much better at loving her than me #not for that one guy who rejected me in interview bc i don't read the newspaper and didn't know the date of the finance act #im so fucking sick of this i never even wanted to this fuckinh course and obviously even my best isn't enough and ofc im not good enough #for anyone in this field and ill just struggle and struggle and struggle all my life just to earn some fucking money so i can live away #from my sociopathic parents #and the worst part is that i can't stop feeling like maybe it IS me yk maybe i am the problem maybe im not trying hard enough #but how else am i supposed to handle this i prioritize my studies and lose all my friends i prioritise my friends and fail in d #exams #and the trauma keeps on coming every fucking day bc sociopathic parents but i jsut push it down and say not rn i will cry at night anx then #never cry #i wish someone would just tell me that idk you're wrong you're not made for this you really do have some mental illness and you're really #trying your best and do something that's easy and that you love doing #oh god this is now a ventpost #mes

[bonefall]

Does Onestar go to the Dark Forest? Cuz I remember you mentioning you dislike "redemption through death" and he technically did violate Darkstar’s Commandment by abandoning his own kit so :/

No, he does not go to the Dark Forest

They don't instant-damn for single violations of the Warrior Code, though they do blame him for abandoning Darktail and are a lot more pissed about him allowing The Kin to get as bad as it did.

But, this is before the Law of the Lake, and during a time StarClan is much softer. He DOES get a Trial, but not enough of them are FURIOUS angry to enter emotional-override.

It's very... disappointed. Loving but disappointed. Especially from people like Firestar and Tallstar, who wanted Onestar to rule peacefully, and help the other Clans. The people who are angriest with him are the people who loved him the most.

Cats like Skystar think he was great. Cats like his dad Cloudrunner wouldn't damn him.

But I do think they allow Darktail to testify at this trail. He needs to go to the Dark Forest, he's an evil cat who horribly drowned several young warriors, but they will still allow him to say his piece on the cat who abandoned him.

"...And I hope that you all vote to accept him," He says to wide eyes, "Because the worst punishment of all is having everything he denied me. His friends, his family, his leader name. Every time you see him, remember the place he denied me, and remember every warrior I sent here to get my revenge."

#I hate the Redemption By Death trope but I can't deny that it matters #Correcting your mistakes with your life is something I despise because LIVING with those mistakes is what matters #Putting that growth into practice and being a better person than the guy you were yesterday #Death By Redemption is so trite and easy. It's cheap. There is no chance to ever fuck up again #But that's not what life is #You do better than yesterday and you fuck up a little and you keep doing better. #I hate the popularity of Big Displays of Affection That Fix Everything such as this specific trope #really it all goes back to the free churro speech from bojack lmao #The part specifically about Grand Gestures #Like. Cool. Onestar alienates his allies and causes a massive Lakewide battle and allows the Kin to become a massive problem because he's-- #--being a cowardly hardass but. ayo. He killed his kid so awooga it's all fixed #Bonefall AVoS #Bonefall Rewrite

[belphieslilcow]

fuck wait i forgot the last nb event was like a dream thing was it belphie centric fuck

#if i think about it too long i'll get overwhelmed and have a meltdown so i shant #hopefully #but uhh idk for sure cause i Didn;t Log In #i havent properly played in forever cause #im so far behind in terms of the story #like i think im still on asmo's part?? #maybe? #the power creep is just so fucking awful in nightbringer #or whatever the term would be #you need stupid high level cards in every type to even pass the ruri tunes levels #and it's so frustrating cause ruri tunes isn't hard in the slightest especially on normal it's actually frustratingly easy #because of how slow it is #but i have to use so many support items just to literally get a c at the last note #so i can finally read things #and idk it just makes me feel bad that i'm not caught up (it makes him feel like a failure) #so i get into the loop of feeling bad cause im far behind and then i dont play but then i cant make progress and the story continues which #means im even FURTHER behind #ohh i think i got it i think i scrounged in my brain i think i feel left out (has issues with that)

[enbysiriusblack]

if the marauders aren't nerdy, immature, annoying dorks, then i don't want them

#only mary and james are popular #mary (because she isn't as nerdy and is very social and friendly and easy to talk to) #james (because although he's an annoying dork. he is also quidditch captain (a jock) and rich and friendly) #whereas theres remus (absolutely brutally honest and tells ppl to go away when they try to talk to him) lupin #sirius (will purposely annoy the fuck out of everyone. and ppl are generally already scared of them as they're part of the black family) #peter (infodumps about random stuff and doesn't give a shit about social norms) pettigrew #marlene (everyone knows she's a lesbian and also is an absolute angry menance that will insult ppl as she hates everyone) mckinnon #lily (ex besties with the hated snape and is nice but very introverted so barely talks to anyone other than close friends) evans #also reg and dorcas and pandora are all people hating autistic stoners so ofc there not popular #this is discluding alice and frank cause they're like super super popular

[france-unofficial]

how are you able to be even jokingly mean to strangers on the internet? this is a genuine question I have tried and I’m incapable of being mean. it’s just not nice

{ooc: I honestly have no clue💀 but I try to incorporate the french aggression in my posts, which took some time to get used to tbh- when I first made this blog I was aiming for the sweet, slightly insane French stereotype you see on TV but somewhere along the way it changed into...this-}

#{ooc} #I try to make sure I don't cross boundarys #or make someone uncomfy #but sometimes I do fuck up #and cause a world war #or make a corp blog want to tear out my guts #but its easy for me to be mean #because its part of my personality 💀 #so I hope this answers your questions- do tell me if you have more #{end of ooc} #baguttes

[todayisafridaynight]

I know you feel like your fics aren’t good enough but i genuinely love your works so much!!!

thank you !! i haven't posted anything in forever, so i'm happy to hear you enjoyed my stuff 🤧🤧

#snap chats #i dont mEAN to dog on my writing every chance i get to its a force of habit at this point vjaREJEKLRJ #it does mean a lot hearin people like my writing cause i am Ridiculously hard on myself about it velrkjalkj #im trying to stop i promise 1.) it irritatin 2.) i at least wanna TRY improving (in my eyes) instead of complainin all the time #in any case. .. thank you :] #writings just so much harder than drawing . in my opinion . #like with drawing i can SEE if anything's wrong and it's not as effortful for me to adjust but with writing ... #i gotta like. scan the entire thing to see if theres something wrong with a part f the story earlier or it's just phrasing or #like there's just a lot more variables that makes me need more time to look over and thats FINE but #its easy to understand why i stress over writin more and spend more time with it 💀 AND THEN EVEN AFTERWARDS #ILL THINK OF HOW I PHRASED SOMETHING OR SOMETHIGN I LEFT OUT AND IM LKE 'FUCK' #oh well .... im complaining again 💀 ima just go back to my canvas lol ........

[onemillionfurries]

I think everyone needs to make a "peace and love on planet earth" tag for their blog. A tag where videos, images, memes, and stories can be compiled of humanity showing kindness, empathy, joy, beauty, and love. A respite from the horrors that are shoved in our faces on a daily basis. A reminder that no matter what, we are all human, we are all one, and that we are all capable of being kind to each other and bringing beauty to this world.

#lab notes #the tag doesnt need to specifically be called 'peace and love on planet earth' but yknow #god i just love humanity so much #sorry this post is so rambly and repetitive i just think its so important that we have a reminder like this yknow #pls excuse me while i cry over my love of humanity and people just being so so kind to each other #bc yeah so much fucking horrible shit is happening in the world caused by humans #but that is an extremely narrow few who are influenced by greed and power and capitalism #the vast majority of humanity is filled with those who love and care for each other #and those who love and care for complete strangers #i see way too much nihilism around humanity and its blights to the point where there are people out there who genuinely think all of #humanity is nothing but greed and suffering but no!!! we are a social species! we evolved to work together and help each other and love. #to save humanity first you have to fucking love humanity!!! #if you want to make the world a better place first you have to find a reason to love it! and we are a part of this world so you need to #have a reason to love us! to love yourself!! #go outside and spread some fucking joy to others. hold open a door for a stranger. compliment someones outfit. help someone carry #their groceries. please even just the littlest of things can mean the world to others and can make the biggest of differences. #WOW ok. speaking of rambles. #anyways #peace and love on planet earth #<- an easy way to just click this tag n go to my own #bc i think its important for people to see

[sharkieboi]

i keep having to like fight for my life at the pharmacy to get prescriptions filled and I had a call with my T doctor that was supposed to be a few weeks follow up about switching to T gel, but I haven’t yet gotten the fucking gel because insurance sent it back for prior authorization and this guy is too fucking overbooked to remember to do that and/or this hospital just fucking sucks at communicating between doctors and the pharmacy.

so we had our call to check in and im desperately just like can you do the prior authorization so I can actually start this med like fucking PLEASE I’m so tired!! and he responded “are you okay you sound pretty distressed” and I was clenching my fists to try and respond cause YES. I AM DISTRESSED. I keep having to call and fight for every medicine I need to function as a basic human being and be the person I want to be! I’m so dysphoric right now I want to die but my hands shake like a fucking vibrator every time I try and stab myself so I need to switch my method of T to something not a needle! and I’m constantly fighting for my life to get my adhd meds filled and not to be a meth-head but i legit don’t know how I functioned for 27 fucking years and made it through GRAD SCHOOL without meds cause my brain is so much clearer and I function so much better when I can actually get my thoughts in order and focus for real.

so yeah!! I’m in distress!!! I want my brain to work and I want my body to look and function how I need it to!! and this doctor’s blasé attitude to not being able to get my prescriptions filled is going to be the death of me!!!

#shhh sharkie #LIKE SPECIFICALLY THAT ITS THE PRESCRIPTION IS WAITING ON HIM!!!!!!!!!! #YEAH IM IN DISTRESS CAUSE IVE BEEN CALLING YOUR OFFICE AND THE PHARMACY FOR TWO WEEKS NOW #AND ITS FULLY DEPENDENT ON YOU MY GUY #FILL OUT THE FORMS SO FUCKING HELP ME GOD JESUS FUCKING CHRIST #YEAH IM IN DISTRESS. I JUST WANT MY BRAIN TO WORK AND MY BODY TO COOPOERATE WITH WHAT I WANT IT TO LOOK LIKE #i just. also being on T is a legit mood stabilizer for me. #and I know part of being off it is my own fault cause i do technically have all the prescription! I just can’t with needles right now. #and weekly is hard for me to remember. daily is easy. i take plenty of other daily meds. #I think I do need to switch to a different doctor in this practice cause this is what happens every single fucking time #is he gives me a prescription and then I have to message him way later on cause it never fucking filled cause he forgot to do something #actually will maybe check the patient portal and see if i can request someone else lmao. but like really. yeah this sucks i want to be done.

[whollyjoly]

watching mash s11ep4 the joker is wild for the first time and...boy howdy do i have thoughts on bj's trapper complex

#mostly i think its absolutely fascinating for the writers to make trap's absence such a big part of bj's character and character development #and i dont mean character development in a good way i mean it in an actively bad way actually #but like how many shows do you watch where a character is “replaced” because an actor leaves that show #and we actually see the negative implications to that character replacing them #like it would be so easy for the writers to kind of hand wave over bj replacing trapper - just another cog in the army machine etc etc #but to make the choice that being a “replacement” to trapper would impact bj's state of mind so greatly #so LATE in the show too?? #is fucking incredible storytelling actually #like bj had spent so long actually *trying* to be the replacement trapper #working on the still riffing off of hawk's jokes causing shenanigans #until he hits this spiral and breaking point in seasons 10/11 and seeing him almost...lash out? chafe? against that comparison #that building tension and exhaustion to always being in someones shadow #the writers sat on that for like SEVEN YEARS #and i just think thats fucking insane and amazing actually #its also hard as a viewer because like #i love bj #but he *is* trapper's replacement #and that makes this all the harder to watch because on the one hand im like “bj's right to feel this way” #but im also like “...trap would never” #so i am in fact falling into the conceit that everyone in the 4077 is #which makes the writing and storytelling #all the better #sorry not sorry for the insane tags on this whoops #em starts mashposting #m*a*s*h #mashposting #bj's trapper complex #bj hunnicutt #trapper john mcintyre #im also v new to the mash fandom and mash discourse so i have no idea if this is interesting or obvious oh well

[waluigisgaybf]

Im literally so fucking antsy and impatient to finish and beat BG3 also just so that I can do a hard fresh reinstall of the game so that I can FINALLY fucking kiss Astarion and Halsin again and with the new animations 😭😭😭

cause I also have a few customization/texture mods the game for some reason wont run without them activated now, and at least one of them broke my shit even more than the normal bug that occurred from the kiss animations and I get literally NO animation- it just closes out the conversation after I ask for a kiss 😔

#and because now I know my character more I feel like I can better do a play Im happiest with and also fucking blast through it on easy mode #Im want to do an evil Durge run FOR FUCKING SURE at some point with my boy #but Im planning on replaying once more with the exact same character and for the most part main game plan- after I beat it this first time #AND THEN MY ASS IS GOING TO MAKE SO MANY FUCKING CUSTOM TAVS FOR DIFFERENT RUNS AND SO I CAN ROMANCE EVERYONE AT LEAST ONCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #Ive played SO MUCH FUCKING DRAGON AGE #like all 3 games so so so many fucking times over and over #with the same character mostly- #and then at least one run with a different character to do a different romance and maybe story #AND HAVE DONE ALMOST EVERY SINGLE ROMANCE IN DRAGON AGE #(aside from Cullen cause I FUCKING HATE HIM and then- #SOMEHOW HAVENT EVER ROMAMCED BULL YET BECAUSE LAST TIME I WAS PLAYING I COULDNT #FUCKING FIGURE OUT WHAT KIND OF INQUISITIOR I WANTED TO MAKE FOR HIM 😭😭😭😭😭 #BUT ANYWAYS I GOT OFF TRACK- #IVE DONE ALL OF THAT AND REPLAYED THEM ALL SO MANY FUCKING TIMES #THAT IM SO FUCKING CONFIDENT I WILL AND I AM GOING TO #BE ABLE TO COMMIT THAT HARD TO BG3 #GIVEN IT TAKES WAY FUCKING LONGER TO BEAT BG3 THAN ANY OF THE DA GAMES- #BUT STILL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #bg3 #personal #? kind of?? #I think Im just going to tag anything thats not specifically about a plot or character (or art) thing I’ll just tag it as personal I guess 🤷 #IM TRYING TO START TAGGING THINGS FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER #CAUSE IDK #I HALF ASS TF OUT OF THE ACTUAL CONTENT TAGS #BUT IM TRYING MAN #bg3 bugs #bg3 patch bugs

[roseband]

....u literally do not get to complain about being "overwhelmed" at work, and try to push work onto me

when you tried to design an entire line of baby onesies......breaking all brand guidelines, u need to follow brand guidelines as a fucking graphic designer......??? like that's graphic design 101?

like i fixed this once 4 months ago, dealt with licensing depts to fix it but never again, we have pdfs and .ai documents filled with guidelines.. which fonts...... which colors... what sizing and proportions allowed

nope, not dealing with someone else's mess

#personal #omg NO like... my job is EASY as shit.... it's so fucking easy #her job SHOULD be easy.... we have RULES follow the rules #they're really simple rules... like when on black tee.... can only be this green or this blue #and then she made things WHITE is white on the chart for black garments????? no... then you cannot use white? #like i cannot be more detailed than this w/o self doxxing but like #my job is sooooo straightforward that all my raises have been bc i've automated our outsourced work #bcuz it all follows a formula ???? and like ??? when i've helped this woman w/ her parts when she's (actually) had large workload #that wasn't cause of her own fault... i've written up processes to do it w/ like.... batch process or a script... so WTF is her problem #any time i do something (unless i miss like.. a logo cure which is no biggie) it gets immediately approved by licensing/legal #so WHAT THE FUCK she's also been working in this industry for like....4 more years than me wtf is her problem

[gibbearish]

dont starve is kicking my ass btw

#really wish there was a way to like. restart a bit ahead?? if that makes sense??? like spawn with a few items already instead of having to #do it all over again every time #esp cause like. i dont have enough health to really spend time learning how to fight the enemies. #so i either stand still and kill them while losing 90% of my health and learning nothing about them #or i try to dodge and fail and die and have to start all over AGAIN #also the wiki for this game fucking sucks can i just saym i should not have to go seven links down in google to confirm that full moons #make it bright enough you can do stuff all night. that seems to be literally its number 1 function #'xyz mobs will turn into abc mobs' 'this one special item will show up' GREAT THOSE SEEM MAYBE LESS GENERALLY HELPFUL THAN JUST. #'the full moon provides full vidibility and prevents Charlie from spawning throughout the night' #easy peezy #grinding and gnashing my teeth like it is definitely fun and thats probably honestly a big part of the frustration #is that its like. im having a lot of fun and then in three seconds my world is ruined and i have to spend another hour or two building back #up from scratch #idk im used to hardcore being an optional difficulty increase rather than the baseline #except of course for binding of isaac but that game has WAY more in terms of self defense options #here i have a spear at best