#I mean I might be a cis girl

[kraviolis]

im god's strongest soldier bcus i've been headcanoning luz as a trans girl since before we even knew she was canonically bi

#krav talks #i think i might HC the entire hexsquad as trans. just like entirely on accident #cus i was just thinking about who is cis in the hexsquad #and at first i thought maybe willow but i love t4t huntlow too much #and obviously gus is trans. 'witch puberty' is just slang for HRT potions we all know this #luz & amity are also t4t but the specifics of that vary for me depending on the day #sometimes luz is binary trans sometimes she's genderfluid sometimes she's transfem nonbinary sometimes she's transmasc nonbinary #same for amity #all i know is lumity will always be t4t #and we all know hunter is trans. indisputable solely because we all know FOR SURE that caleb was trans #and i cant HC matty as cis bcus i relate to him using marker to give himself the shitty tboy mustache too much #i mean fuck man i HAVE the same shitty tboy mustache rn. #and vee is. shes a girl in the same way nimona is a girl #actually vee might be the token cis in the hexsquad. #but shes like. the kind of cis person who explored their gender so thoroughly that they just Get It #yknow the cis people who are honorary trans #a lot of cis ppl dont bother to explore and question their genders but the ones who do always end up Wiser and more Settled in themselves #and are some of the most empathetic allies to trans people and i appreciate them so much #vee is one of those cis ppl

[theygender]

I love being T4T. My gf has been on estrogen for a couple weeks now and she's been having a rough time with her mood so I'm teaching her about the ancient art of soaking in a bubble bath with a little drink to sip while watching shows on your laptop

#pro-tip for any girls newly on E. this is The Cure for PMS #(which accurately describes what youre going through btw) #other great cures include putting on nice smelling lotion and fuzzy socks and wrapping yourself in a blanket burrito/nest #also eating lots of chocolate or other sweets and drinking your favorite caffeinated beverages #my mom used to always put on lotion and fuzzy socks and drink dr pepper and eat chocolate #my cousin likes to watch netflix in the bath with wine and then get in a blanket burrito with her favorite lemonade tea #if youve got someone to take care of you then you dont even have to come out of the burrito. you can just ask them to bring you things #all of these methods help a lot. we're experts on this you can trust me (family of people with endometriosis) #also if youre having headaches and bloating and stomach pain you might try midol (generic works fine) #it has acetaminophen for pain + caffeine for headaches (like excedrin) + antihistamine for bloating #also to clarify: i said girls newly on E only bc i figured girls who have been on it for a while might have already figured this stuff out #but PMS is by no means exclusive to transfems who have newly started on E #many transfems have reported getting PMS symptoms and even cramps on a monthly basis after being on estrogen for a while #this is bc after a while on E your body can start naturally making more estrogen and this can come with its own hormone cycle #and as a result you can essentially get all of the symptoms of a period just without the actual bleeding #(this can include cramps bc even in cis women the signals for the muscle spasms can sometimes get misdirected to nearby organs— #unfortunately causing stomach issues as well) #so if anyone out there happens to not already know this information and youve been feeling like shit periodically for seemingly no reason #now you know 😅 #its your period #rambling

[mothslimes]

said it before i say it again. maybe it's less internalized misogyny and more "girls who look and act like this literally bullied me from kindergarten to 12th grade and beyond" so no i would rather not talk to girls who treat female beauty standards as the holy law

#mik talks #if you think criticizing female beauty standards and those who impose them on others = criticizing all women then you might be the sexist #like im so fucking tired of feminism being all about the poor stereotypically beautiful women wearing pink skirts who are soo forced into i #hey what about the girls on the playground who were their perpetual fucking victims in their pursuit of gaining mild power #those who coulkd never even dream of fitting the mold because they werent white or straight or skinny or cis or whatever the fuck #like even the fucking barbie movie is about some beauty standard white blond skinny feminine woman being sad about sexism #this is what many terfs dont understand lul. for some feminity is a cage they dont even fit into #they have no fucking safe area of just performing their societal role #if i see one more 'fixed' 'pick me' comic where they make the author kiss the girl thats based on their bullies i will kill something #yeah blablabla the plastics in mean girls are actually victims yaaalll.... its so sad theyre the real victims...... #when will yall accept that stereotypically beautiful (especially white) women still hold power. and are often bullies. #my mom is being harassed at her workspace by her exclusively female colleagues but u tell me again how female spaces are so wholesome #and oh tell me more about the perfect female commune and the matriarchy. god you guys make me sick #oh you felt forced into performing feminity and your friendships seemed a little fake? i was called slurs in 6th grade #they stole my stuff. destroyed my things. hit me. cyberbullied me. but oh you had it so bad #to be clear this is not to say these women hold the same power as men but yeah lets not infantilize girls who CHOSE to put others down #nerdy girls who make fun of popular girls being shallow were never the problem :skull: but you all called them misogynists for being pissed #for being bullied....and wanting to feel some mild sense of superiority in their lower social role

[nyxi-pixie]

me at s3 mike when he was talking abt girls being a different species

#byler #be so serious w me michael bc that closet is literally so tired of you #omg guys the reason mike is gay but cant dress is bc his closet was like a bed linens closet not a clothes one #cos it had to be comfy for him to be in there so long #anyway #s3 mike was so funny cos its like girl if ur pretending to like women maybe pretend to like women #yk what i mean #i suppose pretending to not understand women even tho u didnt think of el and max as Other like 3 seconds ago is quite Cis Het Man of u #still #it was so dumb😭😭😭 #'lucas bestie🥶🥶 my gf el is just so strange i cant conceptualise why she might be upset that i dont care abt our relationship 🙄🙄' #'anyway we gotta go on a bike marathon to apologise to will😁😁'

[ask-stede-bonnet]

Hey, Stede. Is there any part of your body that you feel insecure about? Or have in the past? I have those. 😔

Yes. Ever since around puberty a part of me's always worried I'm too big even though I know that's not true. My advice is to focus on the parts of yourself that you do like (for me, it was my hair and legs), accentuate those, and try not to spiral into self-hatred.

#ooc: how I fixed my body image issues was telling myself 'NO!' every time I had a body conscious thought #ooc: 'my tummy is too big' NO IT'S NOT PEOPLE LOVE TUMMIES #ooc: 'my shoulders are too broad' NO IT'S NOT GIRLS WITH BROAD SHOULDERS ARE HOT #ooc: 'my nose is weird' NO IT'S NOT!! #ooc: and eventually those negative thoughts slowly dissappeared. it might not work for everyone of course #ooc: my self image issues were low/average for cis women. nothing extreme. but it's worth a shot I think #ooc: changing your mindset is slow. it probably took me a year of consistent effort. but it was so worth it #ask stede bonnet #ofmd #our flag means death

[daringdarlingdt]

I think more men should watch Fleabag.  Like it is a show made by and for women about women’s experiences and even if you personally haven’t experienced anything Fleabag actually goes through on the show, her attitude toward it all and her reactions to the world around her feel so familiar and true and relatable anyways.  It is a near-perfect representation of the expectations surrounding the act of Being a Woman and Fleabag is just someone who is failing miserably to live up to them, which only illustrates further how much work it is to be a woman and not be terrible, awful and insane actually.  But I think if men watched Fleabag they would understand that a lot better.

#fleabag #nia originals #very random thought after reading an article called why more girls should be watching fleabag from 2019 when season 2 came out #like yea everyone should watch fleabag and definitely the girlies #and i don't actually know how many men did watch fleabag but like. #and i don't mean to assert that no men understand women but like. #more men should watch fleabag and I would love to hear what a cishet man. or not even necessarily straight just a cis man. #thinks about fleabag. what he might learn about women and society and relationships and self love and himself and his mother #yknow #best of

[trentcrimminallybeautiful]

Sorry. I meant cis ted.  I would never baby girls transman that would be offensive.

???? yeah i mean. i kind of figured you probably meant cis ted, i was saying I got distracted on the topic of feminization kink. also i mean. yeah it CAN be offensive but i was talking about how me, as a trans man, enjoys feminization kink on a trans male/transmasc character (in this case trent, sorry) bc i project a lot😩 and it's fun specifically because of the inherent contradictory na--i mean i did explain this? didn't i? i. sorry??

#please tell me im not about to get a bunch of anon hate for . [checks notes] having a kink #anyway i only like it done a certain way like. im not into misgendering or whatever its more just like. ohhh idk how to explain it rn #Again. Headache #but like. its ABOUT the contradictory nature of it its ABOUT how it #ironically--perhaps paradoxically--is validating of my/his gender #and like i mean. aftercare. praise kink anyone? good boy? love that shit. validation. #like. it's just. a guy can enjoy being feminized. and a trans guy is a guy #with as much wide variety as cis guys #and sometimes hes into that! and not necessarily in the specific Misgendering way but just. in the regular way. like a cis guy might be. yk #sources: I Am Into It And I'm Transmasc #anyway tldr IM babygirling trans trent bc id like to masculine enough to be babygirld. #plus ngl it just plays into my Complicated Gender Feelings #one of my ideal genders (i collect them like a dragon #im fluid i think but i lean very masc but in different shades?) is like #i want to look like a boy in girl's clothing if that makes sense. masculine enough that i could wear a dress and people would think #'guy in a dress' not 'lady' but still like. you know. wearing the dress. #and this plays into that--being masculine enough that you can be feminized and still be recognizably a guy? or know that you are still like #you and your partner still Know and Perceive you're a guy? you know? #the security of that in your own gender + safety/trust in your partner + it's FUN it's just fun #idk how else to explain it man but it's literally me projecting my personal feelings #also idk what emoji that is it wont load for me rip #ANYWAY sorry to derail thats why i did it in the tags. im just like #honestly not as interested in ted getting railed which--again not that it's not valid but it's also like 90 percent of the fan content for #the ship and like. again that's not invalid or Not Canon or something im just more interested in WRITING about trent getting railed #bc i have blorbo disease and my own preferences yknow? #askbox #anonymous #if i get like. Cancelled over this. im going to. like. walk into the sea

[butch-bakugo]

It should be considered a trans experience to: be afraid that one day you'll wake up and not be "trans anymore" or otherwise want to be cis then dismiss that fear cause you never really knew what feeling cis was to begin with.

#levi speaks #trans men #transphobia #trans #transgender #trans pride #trans women #trans memes #trans questions #trans questioning #im not but this might help a questioning person #idk what being a cis girl means but being a girl merely cause thats whats associated due to gentials #never appealed to me #same as though id love to have a dick i have no intent on getting a phalloplasty #to me a pussy is gender neutral so im leaving them be

[youaremysunshine-court]

Dislike how explicit bls have made it so its not a bl unless two men are ripping each others clothes off and fucking on every available surface in my opinion a true bl is where the symbolism is in how they drink their wine, if they talk about the red thread of fate, if flowers fall from the sky when they meet, and in how their hands brush one (1) time in episode 26

#kinnporsche has nothing on lwj and wwx on the steps of koi tower actually #and certainly its got nothing on wenzhou linking hands and drinking wine like theyre at their wedding #like okay they had sex. and what? #where are the memorable lines the way lwjs eyes tell you everything hes thinking the way wheb wkx says wife u know he means zzs is husband #like #this might be me being demi but can we go back to subtext i dont actually want to see some dude try to jack kinn off under a table with his #feet #i just want that 'subtlety' free had when they had rin do the anime girl love interest turn when haru professed his undying love #and i want the flirtation through poetry bc no one can say outright that they are flirting #also tian guan ci fu live action and s2 when i loved that #sharing bedrolls cleaning houses together the husband symbolism in ep 1 #excellent brilliant #link click? two guys living together going mad when ones in danger the tsundere one and the cutesy one !!! #what im getting at is i dont mind sexy scenes so long as theyre there for a reason and not just fanservice #and yes wwx shoving a sword up his ass did nothing for plot or symbolism BUT but we got a good 300 pages of pining BEFORE he did that #and when i see edits of mdzs its always the really loving scenes between them #but when i see kinnporsche edits its just them fucking ive seen way too much of those 2 men making out #and i dont like it #where is the emotional substance #like yeah we know wenzhou spent the rest of their days in that cave fucking like rabbits #but also we got 36 episodes and like 5 deaths at least out of it #like before you get to the sex #build up a good plot and good characters #idk #i miss old bls i guess i miss when bl meant boys LOVE not bloys LOVEMAKING is that so much to ask for

[aurallyaddison]

also great news my crush has his pronouns in his insta bio. surprisingly relieving to me

#aurally addison #honestly though it was really a relief. like i could live with rejection/him being taken or straight or whatever. bc he seems like hed be a #good friend anyway. but i was so terrified he sees me as a girl. and he still might? but supposedly unironically having pronouns in bio #probably means hes more likely to accept/have accepted me as Guy. or maybe im just overthinking? idk it’s nice to know not all cis and #teenaged boys are complete dicks to everyone #like i know for a FACT those guys in my history class would have put joke pronouns and slurs in their bios if asked to so.

[mrbingley]

finally got offered a job! as an apprentice tree climber. it pays very well, actually! and i think i’d have fun climbing and pruning trees but i worry i don’t have the stamina to keep up b/c it’s typically a ten to eleven hr work day and almost entirely all strong men. but! i don’t know! it’s a job! and i haven’t found anything else. i’m going to stop by all the local knitting/yarn stores in my area to see if any of them are hiring and what their pay would be. and if they aren’t hiring or if the pay isn’t enough, i guess i’ve gotta bite the bullet and start climbing trees.

#J: text #J: life #this should be fun an exciting news but i'm just so worried i'm going to be too weak to keep up and they're all gonna be like... #yikes... never mind! #also. you know. being in an all male environment everyday. not sure how that'll be. #i looked into another arborist business and they said i could do a trial period where i come in for a couple days and see if #the job is actually for me. b/c some ppl try it out and are like no i'm good #and they pay you still. so i might do that to see if i dig it. #but theyre further from me. #however im willing to drive an extra 10/15min if it means im working in a better atmosphere #the manager at the small business was a woman. shes the owner actually. her and her husband. so that was nice. and already more women i saw #there than the bigger business that has already offered me the job #and they had a couple of pics of ppl working up in the trees and one was (presumably) a girl or at least Not A Cis Dude #and that was cool to see. #and they said theyre a crew of about 20. so theyre small lil team #but if theres just one gal amongst that team as opposed to a big team of all men. then. maybe i'd like that environment more #im rambling #im trying to decide what to do here

[box-dwelling]

I swear every now and then I'm like "hmmm I mean maybe I'm not really that non binary. I don't really mind that much stuff with gender and am kinda cis passing" and then I talk to a cis woman for 5 minutes about womanhood and immediately remember that our experiences of gender are very much not the same.

#oh i don't like makeup #i know this sounds very pick me im not like other girls but im not talking about like #i mean stuff cis women talk about saying is a universal experience of womanhood in femanist spaces #they might be right but if they are i sure as hell am not a woman #idk genders hard #i just want to look like i was in a band in the 80s is that too much to ask? #idk do a lot of afab nb people find feminism really alienating and isolating at points #like they make these broad statements about womanhood that are often based on oppression and trauma #and oppression and trauma that ive experienced but the experience still feels so alienating #like even with stuff like makeup #i think a lot of it is basing everything about womenhood on either suffering or sisterhood #and sisterhood has universally treated me like shit historically and i don't feel like femmenity is suffering #i dont like all of it #theres a ton of it i dont like #but the stuff i do like I like because it makes me happy? #non binary #nb #lgbt

[star-of-waterdeep]

why is gender identity so confusing

#i def feel connected to the transmasc label but not “man” or “boy” #also i feel like a girl in a distinctly not-cis way but “transfem” doesn’t feel right #so what the hell does that mean??? #also i might start going by Lily 🙃 which i feel super guilty about bc i feel like i change my name every 2 years #maybe i’ll go by both tho

[whilomm]

ppl of tumblr:

(to clarify: if youre like say "girl but with wiggly hand gesture" but 100% sure of that that would be "yea i got it 👍", vagueness of gender itself/descriptors are not whats being asked for here, just like how much u feel Certain about it. also, should be obvious but cis ppl feel free to vote, whether cis or "cis" or "...cis?")

if u feel like it: put your gender plus sureness, how you feel about your personal level of sureness, and your favorite bug in the tags

reblog to see the lil button turn green which is a nice color

#buzzy #polls #trans #trans polls #for me nonbinary but ehhhhh could change idk and also Bees which. yeah. obvious. #sorry for being basic but. bees. u kno.

[gauntletqueen]

There's a lot of transgender media where the trans girl just instantly is beautiful and perfectly passing, and while I often really enjoy those works, they're fine and well-meaning, it bothers me that it's never about the actual slow, messy process of transition.

I feel like tgirls, like myself, might (subconsciously) feel bad when they actually have to train their voice, learn to use makeup, wait for the hormones to do their job etc. Most of us can't expect a perfect transition, and seeing successful stories about how that's okay would be nice, yknow?

(not to mention some of us don't even care about looking convincingly feminine and you could argue we just need more media in which trans people refuse to adhere to gender expectations whatsoever rather than wishing to and instantly succeeding, but that aside)

Edit: Seeing more people assume this post is just complaining about media written by cis people who are uninformed, transphobic or otherwise not interested in having a realistic portrayal of a trans person, and wanted to clarify again that that is not the case. First off, a lot of the media I'm talking about is made by trans people, and second off, those stories aren't inherently bad, they're just over-saturated. I understand the wish fulfillment, because gender dysphoria is a bitch, and we feel pressured by the world around us to pass. But that's exactly why I want more realistic, positive portrayals of the actual process of figuring oneself out and transitioning, so we can fight against that pressure and help each other feel more secure, no matter how far we are into our transition, and no matter how passing we end up, or how much we choose to pass.

#transgender #lgbtq #queer #trans

[thehmn]

I’m intersex and I’m very hesitant to make this post because it could very quickly turn into a shitshow if I don’t word my thoughts correctly, but I’ve noticed a small, slowly growing trend and I think it’s important to talk about this before it gets out of hand.

I’ve seen a couple of posts with a lot of likes and reblogs where trans people accuse intersex people of being transphobic when they want hormonal treatment or surgery for themselves to look more female or male. It’s never about forced surgery on intersex children, but specifically about adult intersex people who want treatment for themselves. In these posts people see it as subconscious transphobia because they think this mindset is supporting the gender binary and harms trans and nonbinary people who technically get intersex bodies once they start to transition with hormones and surgeries. In their eyes not only are intersex people who use hormones/surgery to visually get out of the intersex sphere abandoning trans people, they’re also working agains nonbinary people who use intersex people as proof that there are more than two sexes which justify the existence of more than two genders.

The fact that there are a lot of similarities between trans and intersex people should be obvious. Both groups are saddled with bodies that doesn’t necessarily represent their gender and both can experience severe body dysmorphia, but at the end of the day the biggest difference is that the bodies of intersex people change on their own.

If you’re trans, imagine if you were assigned your preferred gender at birth and was perfectly content and happy in your gender experience when you suddenly hit puberty and start developing sex characteristics that goes against your gender and suddenly people around you start telling you you’re not actually the gender you think you are. Basically, imagine the way you felt before you came out/transitioned, except reversed.

I can for the life of me not understand why a trans person who thinks hormones and surgeries are acceptable for trans people can’t extend that mindset to intersex people.

It’s an ongoing debate among intersex people wether we belong in queer spaces and I can see both sides. A lot of intersex people consider themselves cishet people with a birth deformity who aren’t any more queer than people with dwarfism. Other intersex people feel more at home in queer spaces because there’s generally more acceptance of people who fall outside the norm.

But at the same time, in my experience, you get a lot of the same questions in both spaces. Both queer and cishet people often assume intersex means nonbinary, and I’ve been asked more than once how intersex people can call themselves cis or trans when their bodies fall outside the two majority sexes, forgetting that it’s all about what gender you were assigned at birth.

This leads to situations where you’ll meet trans men with functioning penises and trans women with natural breasts. A child might be born with something that looks like a vagina with a big clitoris and be assigned female but once they hit puberty the big clitoris becomes a small penis.

And even if they’re trans and start developing sex characteristics more in line with their true gender they might not be ready for it yet. As a teenager you become a target if you stand out so if you’re a trans girl living as a boy and you suddenly develop breasts that can be horrifying.

I personally experienced a much milder version of this. As a child I was perfectly content with people calling me a girl but I also felt like a different kind of girl. Not in a “not like the other girls” or tomboy way. More like a girl with something else in the mix. It was a very physical feeling because I was naturally stronger and more boyish looking than other girls and I didn’t really feel like I fit in with either boys or girls but at the same time it didn’t bother me when I was grouped in with the girls during school activities. I’d play around with makeup in my room, giving myself a beard and chest hair without wanting to be a man. It just felt like the right mix. Then I hit puberty for real and developed breasts and hips but also a full beard and chest hair. Despite all the times I had done it to myself I was mortified. This wasn’t something I could take off. I stood out wether I wanted to or not. Shaving left me with stubble. People looked. People commented on it. And my breasts didn’t grow super big and a lot of my body fat sat on my stomach like on a man, which meant if I didn’t wear a very flattering bra and feminine clothes I was sometimes mistaken for a chubby guy with manboobs. I was NOT ready for that. I was already struggling to fit in at a new school so this was like a social death sentence, not to mention I wasn’t sure about my own gender yet. It was something I should be allowed to work out on my own in peace when I was ready for it without people constantly asking what I, a child, had in my pants.

So hormones was a gift that allowed me to “transition” when I was ready for it at a later age. I’m off those hormones now and live as a “woman with something extra” like I always knew I was, but the things I had to go through as a child makes me very sympathetic to intersex people who does not feel that way and just want to be a man or woman with nothing extra because that’s their gender and like everyone else they want their gender and gender expression to align.

I don’t think it’s fair to expect people to be a martyr for other people. Most intersex people think trans rights are important but that doesn’t necessarily mean they belong in that debate. I know a lot of trans people who think women’s rights are important but feel no obligation to help the cause by sharing their experience of what it was like living as one gender and then another and how much respect and dignity they gained or lost after they transitioned.

So while I understand the natural instinct of wanting intersex people be part of a lager cause I also think it’s unfair to call intersex people who want to look like their preferred gender transphobic.

I really hope I made myself understood and that this isn’t an angry post. I just saw this “intersex people are transphobic for taking hormones” opinion with little to no understanding of the intersex experience and I’m hoping to shed a bit of light on that ❤️

#long post #very long post #intersex #trans