#If It's Sex You're Looking For...

[probablymoons]

"If It's Sex You're Looking For..." Designed by Judith Johnson for Hallmark, 1971. Archived from The Peculiar Manicule.

#If It's Sex You're Looking For... #ask to tag #probablyrambles #id in alt text #hallmark thoughfulness library #70s design #Day Glo #newspaper clippings #judith johnson #the peculiar manicule #archive #1971 #love #valentines

[theabigailthorn]

I was just showing a cishet friend round my new place and he said, "Why do you have a smoke machine in your bedroom?" and I had to be like "Uuuhhhh..." 😳

#look sometimes you just need a smoke machine okay #if you're not taking the batteries out of your smoke alarm to have sex then are you really even HAVING it? #putting the Scene in Kink Scene

[laurents-secret-diary]

touched up one of the other sketches ( ´ ꒳ ` )

#captive prince #caprisun #laurent of vere #damen of akielos #lamen #damen x laurent #is he sitting in his lap?? probably #crawling there at the speed matched only by a mold settling on the unrefrigerated raspberries on my kitchen counter #damen looks blissed out in a funny way in this pic. and frankly? i too react to white bread this way on occasion #you ever enter a bread phase where you're obsessed with bread with a little bit of butter on top and nothing else #happens about twice a year for me. gone in like a day or two but comes back like halleys comet #<< coincidentally something Damen would have said about sex with Laurent in book 3

[beanghostprincess]

i'm aware that due to luffy's more cheerful personality and looks, a lot of people might find it weird to picture him in sexual situations. especially since most of us see him as aroace (as if aroace people couldn't have sex or be in love but, y'know, that's for another time) and it's completely understandable to not feel comfortable around sexual stuff if you don't like it with this specific character. however, being uncomfortable around that type of content and infantilizing luffy's character to the point that you consider it problematic or wrong to put him in romantic/sexual situations is too much and you should let people enjoy characters however the fuck they want. if you don't like something just scroll and ignore it, but don't try to make everyone follow your own moral compass and likes because we're all different and luffy is just a fictional character.

people often forget he's the captain of a pirate crew. he's mature and has critical thinking and if seeing a cheerful/cute character instantly makes you assume he deserves to be "protected" from sex/romance, you are: infantilizing his personality (that may or may not be neurodivergent coded, but that's another story), villainizing sex and romance instead of just seeing those as something you don't personally enjoy but should let other people consume, and using being aroace as a shield from the real world and a stereotype instead of actually being inclusive and truly seeing him as aroaspec. friendly reminder that aroaspec people can have sex and be in romantic relationships because it's a spectrum. that's the whole thing about it. it's understandable to not be comfortable around sexual situations with a character you don't perceive as sexually active, but that doesn't mean it's wrong to write him that way. let people do whatever they want with their idea of luffy and have fun!

#sorry i'm a bit tired of people around here #this was written by an aroaspec person by the way #like y'all be treating luffy like a KID when he's literally 19 #stop infantilizing the aroace spectrum stop infantilizing neurodivergent people stop infantilizing luffy's personality and looks bc he's 19 #also stop using being aroaspec as something that keeps you away from sex and romance completely #if you do this you don't respect or understand aroace people and you're just using us to make yourself feel more comfortable #stop villainizing sex and romance too btw it doesn't make you less pure or worthy of being a good character #that being said please see luffy however you like bc he's a fictional character #one piece #monkey d luffy #zolu #lawlu #<- using these tags bc i saw discourse abt this with these two ships and i find it appropriate

[ride-a-dromedary]

#BG3 #Wyll Ravengard #Halsin #wyllsin #bg3edit #otheredits #my stuff #everyone asleep - post wyllsin content #everyone gifs this kiss yes but not enough with wyll #also jsyk wyll looks absolutely stunning in this scene 10/10 loml #not putting in main tag this is for me and the homies #i so desperately want to call them something corny like the prince and his bear or East of the Sun and West of the Moon #halsin and wyll are boring - okay then you're right they can go have boring sex and go help boring refugees and raise boring little babies #and give each other boring acorns as gifts and be boringly stupidly in love with one another #(joke and sarcasm but just the boring part)

[the-final-sif]

what is your opinion on the situation?

I've been at work all day so I haven't been able to sit down with stuff fully, it also seems like Caiti is planning to release a statement later today with more information I think? So I'd like to get her response there, but based on what I've seen so far I think I fall more on the side of "people made some dumb choices and should learn from them" than anything else.

Consent is messy and it gets messier when people start lying or are drunk. In this case, both Caiti and George were drunk. From what I understand, either Caiti had a 21+ wristband from the vidcon party, or her friend group did and assumed since she was drinking with them, she was also 21+.

Honestly, when it comes to the matter of underage drinking, I don't think it's even remotely fair to place blame on Dream/George for that. The blame there lies with Caiti deciding to drink while under 21, and on her friends, Ghostie and the other person present who were both over 21. Unlike Dream/George, both of them knew Caiti and knew exactly how old she was and were letting her drink. They were also letting her drink with no one sober and no one making sure she got home.

Now, Caiti is 18 and also I'm not a goddamn square, I'm not gonna stand here and be like "oh no drinking at 18 clutch my pearls" but like, if people are going to blame other people for that situation, that very much lies with Caiti's friends who knew they had an underage person drinking with them. I feel like people are weirdly assigning blame to Dream/George for not like, iding every person they hang out with (particularly if she had a 21+ bracelet at vidcon, which would mean she already got IDed). While completely avoiding placing any blame on the people who 100% knew they were taking an 18 year old drinking without a doubt.

Putting that aside, from my understanding George's side is he believed at the time that she was having fun, and the most they did was cuddle on a couch with other people there. He believed at the time that everything was cool, and that she later decided she was uncomfortable with what happened.

Honestly, I don't really think that's an unfair reading. At this same party, her best friend was there and from Ghostie's own words, she also didn't realize Caiti was uncomfortable until several months later when Caiti told her. If her best friend didn't notice she was uncomfortable or see anything wrong, then I find it hard to think anyone else would pick up on it.

There's certainly risks taken here that I wouldn't have taken. I think that George needs to do better with checking for consent and maybe vetting the people you're hanging out with. Although I also understand that doing a full background check on everyone you ever meet is an absurd requirement and if, at the time, they trusted the person that they actually invited, I get how that shit happens. Per consent, given that he was also drunk, I get how it may've appeared to him that he had consent. I do think it's still something to work on, but I'm also perfectly aware that in real life, people are often going off vibes and social cues, and sometimes those don't mash.

I also think that Caiti's friends have been pretty shitty throughout this. They take no responsibility for having let an 18 year old drink and then ditching her. They are absolutely milking drama out of this shit and they have a weird obsession with blaming Dream for shit he had no fault in.

As for Dream, I don't think he did anything wrong here. Full stop. If Caiti's best friend didn't notice that she was uncomfortable or unhappy, it's insanely unreasonable to expect Dream to have managed that. He was also drunk and hanging out with people, and he had no way of knowing Caiti was underage. None of that shit was his fault, and his statement seems very measured and reasonable. People are trying to blame him for things that he had absolutely no part in, and the UK group are absolutely trying to pull that shit.

Overall, sounds like several people involved made dumb choices, I hope they learn and grow. Otherwise all of this honestly sounds like shit that should've been talked out privately and not tossed to the internet for speculation. Human beings are messy and will fuck up sometimes. This feels like a case of miscommunication and people making risky choices that left people with some hurt.

Again, I may change my mind with further evidence presented, but that's how it feels to me.

#dreamwastaken #georgenotfound #discourse #sif speaks #sif answers #idk man I think I just have more irl experience with these sorts of situations #like #shit happens in real life #and I think maybe part of the problem with like twitter #is you have a lot of 15 year olds that have never been drunk or fucked in their lives #who are totally sure they know exactly how consent works and how sex goes in real life #I really liked the greendot talk I got about it back in college #I should find a recording of that sometime for people #It laid it out really well that consent is not an on-off switch #It's a door that you're opening #and depending on the circumstances you take risks with how you're opening it #0 risk is like the two of you have a formal plan #and have signed contracts #and then you start to move up through situations that can be more risky that something goes wrong #and someone gets hurt #And honestly for irl consent I found that was so much more of a valuable framework to look at things through

[lovl3igh]

"rhaenyra lied with the whole daemon never touched me. I swear to you, on the memory of my mother. cause he did".

yeah, no shit sherlock, y'all like to prove you're stupid bc do you actually believe she meant any touch and not just sex? cause you know that for 19 YEARS of nyra's life daemon touched her many times before and for sure also in front of alicent. rhaenyra saying he never touched her was speaking about sex only and of course she used those words. she's a princess in some kind of medieval times, alicent almost had a stroke saying "fcked". also alicent accused nyra of having sex with daemon and rhaenyra answer to exactly that accusation. they didn't discuss sex with cole or nyra and daemon kissing or some shit. fck off.

#one 19yo had sex and you became obsessed with that forever #tired of those memes #and even more of people who take it seriously #y'all literally against feminism #cause when viserys said #but you were born a woman #you were looking in the mirror in that moment #acts as if she literally ruined alicents life for sleeping with criston #lmao you're so dramatic #young rhaenyra #rhaenyra targaryen #daemon targaryen #anti alicent hightower #anti team green #anti criston cole

[ventiswampwater]

What do you want from me? What have I done? I'm just a word processor, for Christ sake!

Griffin Dunne as Paul Hackett AFTER HOURS (1985) dir. Martin Scorsese

#soggy beige man has decidedly un-beige night out on the town (a speedrun in pathetic suffering): the film #after hours #after hours 1985 #griffin dunne #paul hackett #filmedit #mine #you're gonna have 2 forgive me for the amount of noise I used on these gifs #the quality of my copy of this film is. kinda v much so. hot dog water #but this is my sopping wet white boi of the month (year) & u all are bein forced 2 look @ him #the fluctuating state of his unibrow is smthn that can be so personal #paul: breathes #everyone collectively: maaaa put the dogs awaaaaay there's a weird fuckin stray cat outside #this guy. I wanna hang him out to dry on a balmy summer afternoon and then tuck him into bed w/exactly 5 mg of melatonin #but also #*miranda from sex and the city voice* OOOKAY linda fiorentino fucking that guy up against the chain link FENCE #his night is ruined but I could ruin it MORE. just give me ten minutes

[aroaessidhe]

2023 reads

The Spider And Her Demons

YA Australian urban fantasy/horror

about a Malaysian-Chinese girl who’s half spider-demon, just trying to keep her head down and survive high school

when she accidentally kills and eats a man in front of the most popular girl at school, they strike up a strange friendship and she starts to learn more about herself and the supernatural world

aroacespec/sapphic ish

#The Spider And Her Demons #Sydney Khoo #loveozya #aroaessidhe 2023 reads #you give me a teenage girl with giant hair spider legs who scuttles across her bedroom wall on page 3 #and then eats a man and i am already sold. #also aus books are always so familiar compared to US books :) #and yes sexuality stuff is ambiguous but basically: a bunch of discussion on relationship hierachies (ie friendship equally/more important) #themes of feeling unlovable bc you're different and different forms of love #multiple times the MC says she has no interest in dating or relationships and also is touch (and maybe sex) repulsed #- but of course that Also has to do with the whole Being A Monster thing #and it definitely shows some kind of attraction to dior - ie looking at her lips/bare skin; blushing; etc #and ends on sort of hand kiss / 'is this something??' vibes #I asked the author and they said they see them as QPR / platonic soulmates but are not at the point where they would know what to call it #which makes total sense to me! #the part of me who wants more obvious aroace YA wishes it was a little more specific #but also I DO love ambiguity and I think it wouldn't be true to the characters #who are clearly not even ready to start figuring that stuff out. #and also. aroacespec sapphics is like. also something i want #also like. I think it's reductive to assume just because 'looks at lips' is a common allo attraction trope....doesn't necessarily mean #it has to be that. yknow. #anyway. i loved it a lot. #gross spidergirl (affectionate)...... #also dior is such an interesting and complex character. like another book could have made her nicer or less fucked up

[redysetdare]

Some of you will see a character that is actively repulsed by romance/sex and heavily non-partner coded (sometimes they even actively just say that they do not want a relationship!) and y'all will still respond with "But aros/aces can still date and have sex!!" like okay bud it'd be so much easier for you to say you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering aros and aces. stop beating around the bush trying to pretend to be oh so supportive when you obviously feel uncomfortable about our existence even in fiction.

#text #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #non-partnering #non partnering #nonpartnering #just admit that you don't respect repulsed and non-partnering identities buddy it'll be so much easier to block u that way #like do you realize how stupid you sound when you guys do this sort of thing? #all for what? shipping??? because being aphobic is fun to you??? because you dont like looking critically at your biases??? #because you're so set on believing your a good person that challenging that to actually be one is way too hard and uncomfortable for you? #'people can ship what they want' yeah and people can judge you for it too #people can judge who you are and if they trust or like you based off your actions #shocking isn't it? #some of y'all sound like children going “but but but if i cant ignore their identity then how will i have fun” like grow tf up #you have a million other characters that you can play with in the way you like #not having access to one is not going to kill you or ruin your life

[probablymoons]

"If It's Sex You're Looking For..." Designed by Judith Johnson for Hallmark, 1971. Archived from The Peculiar Manicule.

#probablyrambles #id in alt text #ask to tag #hallmark thoughfulness library #Day Glo #judith johnson #the peculiar manicule #archive #1971 #70s design #love #valentines #hole theory #If It's Sex You're Looking For...

[burnthatbridge]

illicit affairs

buddie | E | chapter 1 of 8(ish) | 3k | just a boy helping his boy bestie figure out gay sex, with a side of infidelity This is how it starts: Buck goes on a date with Tommy. How it goes from there, Eddie can't even begin to explain.

Chapter 1: born from just one single glance

It’s in the aftermath, when Bobby and Athena are safe and being checked over and the 118 plus family and friends is piled in the waiting room as usual — they all have their preferred chairs with how often they’re here — that Eddie’s unfocused mild interest in this new guy who his friends trust, turns to sharp notice. 

Eddie has to step away to call Carla, to let her know they got Athena and Bobby, to assure her that he’s fine, Buck’s fine, they’re all fine. And then he spares an extra moment to text Marisol because he knows she’ll see the news soon, if she hasn’t already, and will worry.

After, when he returns to the waiting room, Tommy’s in his seat. Eddie doesn’t really have a specific one he favors so much as he always takes one next to Buck. So, it follows that, Tommy is now sitting beside Buck. 

When Eddie left, Buck’d been pale-faced, and shaky in a way he wasn’t when Bobby was missing and he had a goal to focus on. Eddie hadn’t wanted to leave him, but it was Buck who’d said didn’t he need to call Carla? Let Chris know they’re okay?

Eddie pauses across the room and regards the scene before him. Tommy is leaned in, chatting to Buck, making wide, expressive gestures with his hands as he does. Buck’s still more grey than pink in the cheeks and one hand is clutching the arm of his chair, but he’s stopped picking at the patch of peeling paint he’s about tripled in size over their past handful of waiting room residences and there’s a hint of a smile curling the side of his mouth, which had been a grim line before, waiting for the doctor to report back on Bobby and Athena, waiting to be allowed to see them. 

“He’s in good hands.”

Eddie starts at Hen’s words. She appears from behind him carrying two paper cups of what Eddie understands from experience is the worst coffee known to man. He used to force it down because caffeine is caffeine, but he can’t anymore. It reminds him too much of the three minutes and seventeen seconds that were some of the worst of his life.

read on ao3

#what is this? #me posting a wip??? #buddie #911 #911 abc #buddie fic #911 fic #myfic #infidelity fic #this is not a buck/tommy fic #i'm very sorry if that's what you're looking for but he's only in this for like 5 seconds #i just needed him to kick things off #eddie is with marisol though #hence the *infidelity* #you have been warned #helping your boy bestie figure out gay sex? a totally normal thing to do. especially when you've had none yourself and are in a relationshi #why are you like this eddie??? #i swear this is a smut fic chapter 1 just had an identity crisis #full disclosure that this is the extent of what i have written of this so far #but i wanted to get this part out before 7x03 so i was committed to the canon divergence that will be the case as soon as it airs #and didn't keep trying to fiddle with this to keep it consistent

[pygmy--tyrant]

y'all spin the whole 'kavinsky made ronan worse' angle too often. I don't think we're giving ronan enough credit here for how much he did not give a single fuck about anything kavinsky said. poor man was trying his absolute HARDEST to give effective villain monologues and expose ronan's repressed homosexuality and every time he was like ok. are you done now. also stop saying you fucked my mum she would do no such thing

#like if anything he made ronan better because he looked like fucking harold the giraffe compared to him #that's a very aotearoa reference but you catch my meaning. he quite literally tells kavinsky 'there's more to live than sex and drugs' #also never forget in that same scene when kavinsky was like HA I'm in ur subconscious ronan I Know What You Are. you're fucking gansey #and ronan was like yes that's correct good job. not the gansey part though we're just bros. I am gay though. #or how his reaction to the 'see you in the streets' threat was just to drive away. unbothered king. put some respect on his name #sapphire's random thoughts #the raven cycle #trc #ronan lynch #joseph kavinsky

[ohbo-ohno]

knee-deep in the latest booktok drama (began with this vid lmao) and im genuinely convinced the entire discourse could be solved if people learned what erotica actually is. these people are reading ICEBREAKER and calling it "pure porn" like im so sorry guys but you just don't know what porn is!! why does the guy in that video say it's crazy to see people reading colleen hoover on the bus!!! what do YOU think erotica is???

i know booktok mostly recommends romance books with smut in them but my god if i see one more person call a book with 1-3 sex scenes "erotica" im gonna lose my mind

#watching a movie with two sex scenes doesn't mean you're watching a porno #thinking about the person on tiktok who called window shopping by tessa bailey “basically cover to cover smut” #when that book has like. 2 and a half sex scenes #need these people to pick up the losers by harley laroux and then look me in the eyes and say colleen hoover is “pure smut” again #fuck pick up ANY book by shantel tessier #like guys a book with sex is NOT the same as erotica!!!

[spriteofmushrooms]

Can you imagine how annoying it is for Wei Wuxian, strongest cultivator of his time (when using modao and/or guidao), to hear people say that cringe Jiang Cheng killed him?

#pallas.rtf #mdzs #i imagine he eventually goes to lotus pier and demands!!!!! a rematch. IN public. i'll kill myself in front of you again and then you'll CRY #and everyone will see you're a BIG LOSER CRYBABY WHO COULD NEVER KILL ME IF I DIDN'T WANT TO DIE!!! #and jiang cheng. who was raised with this energy. is just like you'll only kill yourself if i don't kill or incapacitate you first #rules: no one who wants to have sex with you can interfere. #wwx like ohoho so i can still have wen ning huh 😏 #and jc just looks at him for a long time and then says. No. #wwx like WAIT THAT'S NO FAIR BECAUSE THAT RULE ONLY APPLIES TO ME!!! since you're unfuckable and no one would ever marry you 😏😏😏😏😏 #at which point they give up the formal fight and just wrestle each other into the lake and try to drown each other #just like old times 🥰

[pinkcarabiner]

i say this with all the love in my heart for our community, but femmes, we need to do better. i hear so many stories from butches and studs about femmes leading them on, ghosting them, and using them for sex. as femmes, it is our responsibility to be a place of safety for butches. no butch should ever feel uncomfortable in the presence of a femme. we must prioritize our unconditional love for all butches above any attraction to them. butches don't exist for our pleasure and being a femme doesn't entitle you to butch attention.

#also ghosting/leading people on is just a shitty thing to do #maybe communicate what you're looking for #and leading people on for just sex is absolutely disgusting #do better #🎀