#abuse ment

[steveyockey]

park chan-wook and jeong seo-kyeong took a story about love between two women freeing them from sexual exploitation, set it in japanese occupied korea, and made the main villain a korean man masquerading as japanese who believes in the righteous subjugation of his own country and people and who forces his own japanese niece to subjugate herself to him so he can at last truly “become” japanese through her degradation. the patriarchy and the empire act as one. fighting for women and fighting against imperialism must go hand in hand

#whatever I’m still awake. let’s say it #the handmaiden #abuse ment #there’s a lot more here re the specifics of japan’s behavior in korea but well. we don’t need to do all that here

[cupboard-of-npd]

'You had self centered intentions so while your actions were good this is still bad because intention is much more important than action' - people who hate pwnpd

Hey! Thats actually an abuse tactic! Lets not encourage the mentality that intention is always more important than action because it can easily become 'My intention wasnt to hurt you so I wont take accountability for hurting you because my intention is more important than my action'

Hope this helps!

#npd safe #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd #actually mentally ill #actually neurodivergent #garlic breath #mental illness #neurodivergent #narc abuse #narcissistic parents #narcissistic abuse #tagging those so the ableists see this #abuse ment

[lockandkeyhyena]

some more exploratory sketches. while the story itself focuses on the aftermath of the abuse, i wanted to get down my ideas for the dynamic that occurred during the abuse.

alvin is a very self-pitying character, he uses his low self esteem to manipulate others into doing things for him because they feel sorry for him. he genuinely believes he deserves to get whatever he wants because he had a sad childhood and has convinced himself of his own excuses. he believes what he’s saying in the final image, because to face the truth of his actions would be too much to bear. however he’s more scared of getting caught than at the concept that he’s hurting someone.

he would frequently guilt trip ethan into doing whatever he wanted, followed up by rewarding him with good grades and gifts. ethan really looked up to him and viewed him as one of the very few trustworthy adult figures in his life.

#yeen art #implied csa #abuse cw #manipulation cw #csa ment #abuse ment #grooming ment #anyway. would appreciate people’s thoughts on the characterisation so far! #but after today i won’t be posting anything non palestine related for the next week! #alvin adams #ethan beck #hell story #alvin’s infurno

[kiwinatorwaffles]

hmm. i'm usually not one to post about these topics but i think i've gathered enough thoughts on wilbur's abysmal apology towards shelby to form a cohesive message.

WARNING: the rest of the post will discuss abuse and also a lot of my personal experiences as someone who has hurt other people in the past. obviously not to the extent that wilbur has, but please move on it you don’t want to see it. thank you and stay safe.

being stuck in a hard place, whether it be living conditions, mental conditions, or any other factor, will naturally hurt the person going through those tough times. and hurt people hurt people. but i think there's a pretty Big Fucking Difference between doing bad things in the past and actually owning up to your actions after regretting it VS doing bad things in the past and turning a blind eye against those you've hurt to wallow in your own ego and misery.

i’ve experienced my fair share of abusive friendships, but when i was fifteen, i WAS the toxic friend. (yes, i’m aroace. friendships aren’t the same as a romantic relationship but they can be just as strong. i value my platonic bonds as much as allos value their marriages or date partners.) i was going through a huge depressive episode. it was tough for me, but during that time, i made fun of my friends' interests to their faces because i couldn't personally understand it, and i also vagueposted about the little things they did that ticked me off right where they could see it. it got to the point where they had to make a separate group chat to talk about their interests where i wouldn’t see it. i hurt all of them, and it ended in them confronting me about my actions. they put me in my place and called me out for my horrible attitude.

after seeing my friends' perspectives, i realized just how awful i was to them and sincerely apologized to each of them. i recognized their feelings towards my actions and didn't make excuses. even though i was going through a hard time myself, my abuse towards them was absolutely NOT justified. as i recovered, i made sure not to hurt them any more, and years later, our friendships are still going strong.

my experiences aren't nearly as extreme as what wilbur has done to shelby, but i think it's pretty fucking clear that his apology was flaming dog shit served on a trash dump. like, i was a fifteen year old. he's a Grown Ass Man with a big platform. he dug his own grave by talking about himself first instead of actually addressing his mistreatment of shelby first and foremost. he didn't even MENTION shelby by name. talking about his "strides to betterment" without even directing his apology towards the person he actually hurt is just pathetic. that whole spiel about how he "thought" the whole exchange was consensual is fucking wild. he didn't even apologize for that; he moved on right afterwards.

we can infer that wilbur has been struggling with being a person who has done bad things through his songs and lovejoy's music. he might have been going through a hard time and maybe even regretted it (though his apology really makes it seem like he's just doing it for damage control), that STILL doesn't validate any hurt he might have caused. the least he could’ve done is to sincerely apologize to shelby, even if she didn’t accept it. but he couldn’t even do that.

it's just disappointing that, as someone who has a platform of millions of followers, he displayed an act of shallowness. in the end, his attempt at sincerity fell flat and benefited no one, especially not the people he abused. if he had properly apologized, even if his apology wasn't accepted, it would've shown people in a similar situation how to apologize to the people they hurt in the past in a mature and sincere way.

so, yeah. FUCK wilbur soot. focus not on the fact that he has done bad, but that the one he abused didn’t get a proper apology. support shelby and other victims of abuse. listen to their experiences and spread awareness of these cautions. uplift their voices, not his.

for those who have connected to his and lovejoy's music that have gone through a similar dark time in their lives, i also extend my heart out to you. it must also be hard to see someone who reflected your struggles of betterment reveal himself to be someone who really hasn't gotten better at all.

but you don’t have to be like him. you don’t need to follow in his steps as long as you own up to your mistakes, even if you can’t talk to those you hurt anymore. in the end, what matters most is that you apologize in a sincere way and make sure you don’t repeat those mistakes going forward.

you CAN get better. if anything just so spite that british boy’s ass

thank you. kiwi out ✌️

#ask to tag #discourse #am i yapping? maybe #but i just really wanted to say something about it because. ugh #actually not sure how i feel about tagging him any more but i do want to spread the word and trigger tag #shubble #wilbur soot #tw abuse #abuse ment #also after all this i still can’t hate lovejoy. their songs portray the aromantic struggle in ways not many other bands have #but that doesn’t mean i won’t replace their songs in my playlist with a local file upload get fucked lmaooo no money for you until #you get your shit together #kiwi’s calls

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd culture is despising your abusive father your entire childhood and then getting diagnosed with the same disorder

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#npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #abuse ment

[radq-polls]

Don't click maybe/nuance if ur nuance is nccnc, conabuse, etc. This poll is specifically about noncon.

Reblog for reach

#abuse #abuse ment #rape #rape ment #radqueer #rq 🌈🍓 #polls

[the-introject-club]

(Non-traumagenic systems DNI)

Alot of systems claim to support introjects with problematic sources, but still treat factives like shit.

This needs to change. Factives, no matter their source, should be treated with basic respect. Yes, this includes factives of abusers, criminals, political figures and any other source that made you go "but what about-".

And you know what? I'm gonna say it, even if I'll get harassed for this.

Someones source could literally be H*tler, and I would still show them basic respect.

Introjects aren't their source. Introjects do not automatically like or support their source. This includes factives.

- Rabbit (they/them)

#our post #hot take #but it shouldn't be #syscourse #kinda #introject #system introject #problematic introject #problematic source #problematic fictive #problematic factive #fictive #factive #endos dni #tulpas dni #non traumagenic dni #abuse ment #nazi ment

[wings-of-fire-confessions]

I find it funny how little reading comprehension some people have, particularly when it comes to Coral or Kestrel.

People: Kestrel isn't abusive!

Kestrel, herself, in the books: I find it funny when children fall down the stairs. Of course, I'm the one pushing the children down them! Makes it even funnier aha

.

#wings of fire confessions #wings of fire #wof #wof confessions #abuse #abuse ment #abuse tw

[steveyockey]

it’s like. hideko has never shared her abuse with anyone outside its perpetrators and the men who get off on it and sookee takes one look at the book she shows her “is this what you've been reading to that dirty old man and those gentlemen?!” and she channels all the anger and hurt and shame hideko has been trained to choke down and just righteous tears through the physical embodiment of her degradation, right through the *fortune* her uncle has been building in male pleasure at the expense of women and children, and hideko watches her knowing this is finally someone who cares for her and she’s never gonna be exploited again. that her imprisonment is over and the cruelty she was brought up to endure and inflict on her servants in turn no longer holds any power over her. my savior. my tamako. my sookee.

#abuse ment #ask to tag #the handmaiden #bro it’s like breathtaking #if anyone tries to bring up the ‘male gaze’ I will STOMP on you with my HOOVES

[lilacs-stash]

Taco defenders will really excuse abuse and then call you sexist if you don't agree with them huh

#sexist ment #abuse ment #object posting #Like #DUDE

[missmisdemeanor]

genuinely forget that not everybody watches spn with their parent/child incestuous abuse goggles on

#lana says #deanjohn #abuse ment

[lockandkeyhyena]

anne adams, alvin’s abusive mother.

content warning under the cut for physical, sexual and emotional abuse, as well as incest

died a decade before the start of the story from liver disease due to alcoholism

sexually and physically abused her son alvin from roughly age 8 to age 14. emotionally abused him until her death.

gaslights alvin about the abuse, probably genuinely doesn’t remember it/believe it was wrong

acts lovely and like the perfect mother in public, but criticises any mistake alvin makes and takes any opportunity to lambast him.

would get really drunk and sexually abuse alvin at night time while his father was asleep.

#csa ment #incest ment #hell story #anne adams #abuse ment #alvin's infurno

[pan-left-close-on-the-steeple]

HHHH when house gets proof that his dad wasnt biologically his dad, and wilson is like "and that... depresses you?" And house responds "doesn't change anything at all. that's what depresses me"

Like

House still has the trauma from him and still had to grow up with and be raised by him, and who his father was still has noticeable effects on who House is as a person

And idk like he held onto that for so many years, like "he's not really my dad, at least i have that" but once he get's confirmation it finally hits him that everything that happened is still shit, and that one piece of hope/armour he had from the reality of that shittiness didnt help anything

#yes i know this is obvious BUT i need to say it #house md #hate crimes md #abuse ment #speak

[theminecraftgay]

I’m currently pretty sure that this upcoming semester has been totally fucked, however anything helps to get me into school next semester. It’s a community college, I don’t need much (about $500 USD) but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t still recovering from homelessness and the seven (four in 2023) times I’ve had CoViD.

If you even just want to donate, my Venmo is the same as here (@theminecraftgay) and anything helps.

EDIT AS OF FEB. 18TH: I’m officially able to pay for this semester of college, although I did temporarily get kicked from all my classes for lack of funds. Art is my only job right now, and since I finally got FAFSA money it’s kinda just. Being taken by the people I live with. So commissions still help as I try to build enough savings to be in my own again! Thank you to everyone who shared or commissioned me!!

#drawing commisions #commission post #commissions open #commission sheet #portrait commission #open commissions #commissions #commission #art commisions #suicide TW #abuse tw #abuse ment #suicide ment #transphobia tw #ask to tag

[dykesynthezoid]

Even though this is a horror season there’s something that’s so. “Healing from childhood trauma” about it. Fairy tales are by nature associated with childhood and the stories children are told to make them behave or to help them sleep at night. Two of the PCs are themselves children. But the reality of the world around them is deeply horrible. The sense of order, of safety, that stories are meant to provide has completely eroded. There’s no safety net. The path before them is scary and unknown and they know for a fact there will be more suffering, but all the PCs agree to keep going anyway, because they don’t really have any other choice.

Ylfa is caught in the horrors of leaving girlhood behind, of grieving and being abandoned by her family; Pinocchio’s story intimately mirrors the constriction and control of abuse and how difficult it is to escape it… There’s something about this season that is so genuinely validating if you had a childhood that was not happy or secure. The fairy tales you were told as a child finally resemble your own experiences in a way. It’s so!!! It comes off as something that was not even intentional because so much of the main focus this season is on the nature of stories and storytelling, but a byproduct of that is this return to where we all initially encountered these stories, which was childhood. I’m gonna chew glass

#neverafter #dimension 20 #ylfa snorgelsson #pinocchio #abuse ment

[eirichele]

a romanced ascended astarion is so well written as an abuser i reloaded an old save before i killed cazador to check it out and went wrorww these writers really knocked it out of the park with how eerily quick he changes his moods and easily manipulates you into letting him bite you so he has full control like. damn its impressive how much research they seem to do here about like coercive control and shit its so tragic but sooo well written AND THEN... i go online and see the x reader girlies going insane horny about it like 😩 ladies will we ever be free. patriarchy won and all it took was an elf twink. are you happy? are you happy

#t #abuse ment #bg3 spoilers #i actually want to do a bigger write up about this bc its sooo interesting how there was a backlash to calling it abuse #when the literal writer fking intended it that way #abuse is soo engrained in fandoms dna that they cant even recognize it anymore EVEN WHEN ITS INTENTIONAL IM