"Both what you run from - and what you yearn for - are within you."
Anthony de Mello
"Mindfulness is the ability to see what's happening in your mind and in the world without being entangled by it."
Dan Harris
"Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths."
Etty Hillesum
"You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul."
Swami Vivekananda
"When meditation is mastered, the mind is unwavering like the flame of a lamp in a windless place."
Bhagavad Gita
"Fear is never conquered by avoidance."
David James Lees
"Revolution is only possible now, not in the future; regeneration is today, not tomorrow."
Jiddu Krishnamurti
"God did not create religion. God created man. Man created religion."
Anthony Douglas Williams
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“When Teresa of Avila was asked what she did in prayer, she replied, ‘I just allow myself to be loved.”
— Anthony de Mello, Sadhana, a Way to God
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“Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality.” —Anthony de Mello
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""What is love?"; "The total absence of fear," said the Master; "What is it we fear?"; "Love," said the Master." - Anthony de Mello
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Life only makes sense when you perceive it as mystery and it makes no sense to the conceptualizing mind.
Anthony de Mello
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To a disciple who was forever complaining about others, the Master said, ‘If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth.
Words by: Anthony de Mello
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"The Master made it his task to destroy systematically every doctrine, every belief, every concept of the divine, for these things, which were originally intended as pointers, were now being taken as descriptions.
He loved to quote the Eastern saying "When the sage points to the moon, all that the idiot sees is the finger.""
-Anthony De Mello
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Rangkuman Pemikiran Anthony de Mello
tentang cinta, atas apa apa yang mungkin juga ku rasa
4 karakter cinta: kepada apapun/siapapun, tanpa pamrih, memberi yang terbaik, kebebasan
menggunakan ilustrasi: pohon, mawar, pelita
lihatlah bunga mawar dia mau dekat dengan orang baik/jahat tetap wangi, lihatlah lampu dia tetap akan memberikan sinarnya, dan lihatlah pohon yang memberikan setiap mahkluk hidup bahkan kepada orang yang mau menebangnya
kebebasan cinta
gimana caranya supaya cinta itu tumbuh dalam diri jawabannya adalah bebeaskan diri dari berbagai ikatan, sesuai quote
"bila mata tidak terhalang, hasilnya adalah pemandangan"
"ketika pikiran tidak terhalang, hasilnya adalah kebenaran"
"ketika hati tidak terhalang, hasilnya adalah cinta"
jadi jalan jiwa pecinta adalah membebaskan hati, coba cari saat ini kita melekat pada apa, itu yang buat kita tidak bahagia
cara mencintai
melepaskan keterikatan, ekspetasi, dan kebutuhan akan pengakuan orang lain. KETIKA BERGANTUNG PADA HARAPAN ITU ADALAH KEMELEKATAN. dan membuka diri terhadap kekecewaan
lawan cinta itu ketakutan
"cinta yang sempurna menghilangkan rasa takut, dimana ada cinta, tidak ada tuntutan, tidak ada harapan, tidak ada ketergantungan. saya tidak menuntut engkau membuat aku bahagia, kebahagiaanku tidak terletak padamu. jika kamu meninggalkanku, aku tidak akan mengasihani diriku sendiri, aku sangat menikmati kebersamaanmu, tapi aku tidak terikat"
kalau kita dipenuhi ketakutan buahnya akan ketergantungan, nanti ujungnya kepemilikan dan menghalangi pertumbuhan kita.
KEJAHATAN/KEBURUKAN APAPUN ITU AKARNYA KETAKUTAN (maling takut miskin, curang takut kalah, marah takut kehilangan, iri dengki putus asa sumbernya ketakutan)
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Self-words quotes and aphorisms
Self-words quotes and aphorisms
Self-words quotes and aphorisms, quotations, ideas and thoughts, by famous writers and authors, from Self-Acceptance to Self-Interest
I don't care so much what I am to others as I care what I am to myself.
Michel de Montaigne
There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.
Miyamoto Musashi The Book of Five Rings
Some very important key words for the growth of the human being. First golden rule: you must learn from experience, in general! Then you must always rely on: self-control; politeness; hard-working; self-conscience; self-assessment; self-critical; self-management; self-autonomy; self-determination; self-esteem; self-government; self-independence; self-esteem; self-respect; cooperation; empathy, self-motivation; self-confidence; self-love; pluralism; reciprocity; tolerance; learning to learn; permanent education; rules; law; perseverance; responsibility; pragmatism; honesty; self-sacrifice; self-discipline; and last but not least, a bit of luck!
SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Our entire life... consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.
Jean Anouilh (1910-1987, French playwright)
Learn to... be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not.
Henri Frederic Amiel (1821-1881, Swiss philosopher, poet, critic)
Accept the place the divine providence has found for you.
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882, American poet, essayist)
Those people who are uncomfortable in themselves are disagreeable to others.
William Hazlitt (1778-1830, British essayist)
The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.
Carl Jung (1875-1961, Swiss psychiatrist)
SELF-ACTUALIZATION
Now is the time when your action is practice.
The Dalai Lama
Only by giving, only by serving, only by doing, do we really do something for ourselves.
James W. Frick
Our greatest joy and satisfaction comes from the act of giving.
Leo Buscaglia (1924-1998, American expert on love, lecturer, author)
Only those who have nothing in them have nothing to give.
Douglas G. Franklin
Men do less than they ought, unless they do all they can.
Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881, Scottish philosopher, author)
SELF-APPRAISAL
Idiots and lunatics see only their own wit.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)
Never let your failures go to your heart or your successes go to your head.
Author Unknown
Self-praise is for losers. Be a winner. Stand for something. Always have class, and be humble.
John Madden (1936-, American football coach)
SELF-APPRECIATION
To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.
Sandra Bierig
I am somebody. I am me. I like being me. And I need nobody to make me somebody.
Louis L'Amour (1908-1988, American Western author)
SELF-APPROVAL
What do we call love, hate, charity, revenge, humanity, forgiveness? Different results of the master impulse, the necessity of securing one's self-approval.
Mark Twain (1835-1910, American humorist, writer)
I'm not trying to prove anybody wrong, I'm just trying to prove something to myself.
Mike Piazza
SELF-AWARENESS
My mind is my biggest asset.
Tiger Woods (1975-, American golfer)
Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?
Marcus Aurelius
Self-awareness gives you the capacity to learn from your mistakes as well as your successes. It enables you to keep growing.
Lawrence Bossidy
Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one’s awareness of one’s ignorance.”
Anthony de Mello
Self awareness is the ability to take an honest look at your life without any attachment to it being right or wrong, good or bad.
Debbie Ford
I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing towards becoming a champion.
Billie Jean King (1943-, American tennis player)
The unexamined life is not worth living.
Socrates
Explore thyself. Herein are demanded the eye and the nerve.
Henry David Thoreau
Without self-awareness we are as babies in the cradles.
Virginia Woolf
SELF-CARE
Keep taking time for yourself until you are you again.
Lalah Delia
You can’t always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.
Wayne Dyer
You have your own life, why waste it on focusing on others.
Nitin Namdeo
When you focus on yourself and love yourself, some relationships have to go.
Adrian Michael
Be you, love you. All ways, always.
Alexandra Elle
I feel the capacity to care is the thing which gives life its deepest significance.
Pablo Casals
Care is a state in which something does matter; it is the source of human tenderness.
Rollo May
Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.
William Shakespeare
If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.
Jack Kornfield
SELF-CONCEPT
The term self-concept is a general term used to refer to how someone thinks about, evaluates or perceives themselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself.
Self-words quotes and aphorisms
SELF-CONFIDENCE
Creativity means believing you have greatness.
Wayne Dyer (1940-, American psychotherapist, author, lecturer)
The confidence we have in ourselves arises in a great measure from that which we have in others.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)
One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.
Arthur Ashe (1943-1993, African-American tennis player)
Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.
Madame Marie Curie (1867-1934, Polish-born French physicist)
SELF-CONFLICT
Whatever you condemn, you have done yourself.
Georg Groddeck
It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others.
Sidney J. Harris (1917-, American journalist)
It isn't the things that happen to us, it's the things we think are going to happen to us that drive us almost crazy.
Kathleen Norris (1880-1966, American novelist)
A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights the good dog all the time. When asked which dog wins, he reflected for a moment and replied, The one I feed the most. On Other Peoples Expectations: The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor; he took my measurement anew every time he saw me, while all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit me.
George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950, Irish-born British dramatist)
SELF-CONSTRAINT
Don't be curious of matters that don't concern you; never speak of them, and don't ask about them.
St. Teresa of Avila
Everybody's business is nobody's business, and nobody's business is my business.
Clara Barton (1821-1912, American humanitarian)
I listen and give input only if somebody asks.
Barbara Bush (1925-, American First Lady, wife of George H. Bush)
Too often in ironing out trouble someone gets scorched.
Marcelene Cox (American writer)
When you borrow trouble you give your peace of mind as security.
Myrtle Reed
SELF-CONTROL
A little kingdom I possess, where thoughts and feelings dwell; And very hard the task I find of governing it well.
Louisa May Alcott (1832-1888, American author)
If a man doesn't delight in himself and the force in him and feel that he and it are wonders, how is all life to become important to him?
Sherwood Anderson (1876-1941 American writer)
I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.
Aristotle (BC 384-322, Greek philosopher)
Prudent, cautious self-control, is wisdom's root.
Robert Burns (1759-1796, Scottish poet)
I never prod my nose into other man's porridge.
Miguel De Cervantes (1547-1616, Spanish novelist, dramatist, poet)
He who conquers himself is the mightiest warrior.
Confucius (BC 551-479, Chinese ethical teacher, philosopher)
The highest possible stage in moral culture is when we recognize that we ought to control our thoughts.
Charles Darwin (1809-1882, British naturalist)
Not to have control over the senses is like sailing in a rudderless ship, bound to break to pieces on coming in contact with the very first rock.
Mahatma Gandhi (1869-1948, Indian political, spiritual leader)
We improve ourselves by victories over ourselves. There must be contest, and we must win.
Edward Gibbon (1737-1794, British historian)
It is as proper to have pride in oneself as it is ridiculous to show it to others.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680, French classical writer)
He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.
Lao-Tzu (BC 600-?, Chinese philosopher, founder of Taoism)
He that would govern others, first should be the master of himself.
Philip Massinger (1583-1640, British dramatist)
He who cannot obey himself will be commanded. That is the nature of living creatures.
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
The first and best victory is to conquer self. To be conquered by self is, of all things, the most shameful and objectionable.
Plato (BC 427?-347?, Greek philosopher)
To enjoy freedom we have to control ourselves.
Virginia Woolf (1882-1941, British novelist, essayist)
You can also read this article about The Importance of self-control
SELF-DELUSION
Don't let self-doubt hold you back!
Author Unknown
Don't mistake chicken dung for an egg.
American Proverb (Sayings of American origin)
The visionary lies to himself, the liar only to others.
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
The worst thing you can do is start slow, or con yourself into thinking that you can take your time getting into a match. The curtain is up so you've got to perform.
Jack Kramer (1918-, American basketball player)
I suppose I have a highly developed capacity for self-delusion, so it's no problem for me to believe that I'm somebody else.
Daniel Day-Lewis (1958-, British-born American actor)
SELF-DENIAL
Self-denial is painful for a moment, but very agreeable in the end.
Jane Taylor
Few men make themselves masters of the things they write or speak.
John Selden (1584-1654, British jurist, statesman)
Self-denial is not a virtue, it is only the effect of prudence on rascality.
George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950, Irish-born British dramatist)
Self-denial is indispensable to a strong character, and the highest kind comes from a religious stock.
Theodore Parker (1810-1860, American minister)
The same people who can deny others everything are famous for refusing themselves nothing.
Leigh Hunt (1784-1859, British poet, essayist)
Every extreme attitude is a fight from the self.
Eric Hoffer (1902-1983, American author, philosopher)
SELF-DETERMINATION
It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.
Zig Ziglar (1926-, American sales trainer, author, motivational speaker)
I will always stay hungry, never satisfied with current accomplishments.
Arnold Schwarzenegger (1947-, Austrian-born American actor, author, director, restaurateur)
My will shall shape my future. Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me, or I can be lost in a maze. My choice, my responsibility, win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.
Elaine Maxwell
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SELF-DISCIPLINE
Doing your best is more important than being the best.
Author Unknown
A mind which really lays hold of a subject is not easily detached from it.
Ida Tarbell
If someone transports dung and does not eat it, it should not be concluded that he is an honest person.
Taiwanese Proverb
If you can command yourself, you can command the world.
Chinese Proverb (Sayings of Chinese origin)
If you are willing to discipline yourself, the physical universe won't need to discipline you.
Leonard Orr
Not being able to govern events, I govern myself, and apply myself to them if they will not apply themselves to me.
Michel Eyquem De Montaigne (1533-1592, French philosopher, essayist)
He who conquers others is strong. He who conquers himself is mighty.
Lao-Tzu (BC 600-?, Chinese philosopher, founder of Taoism)
Being professional in whatever you do is important. Talent alone is not enough.
Kathy Ireland (1963-, American model)
Self discipline is when your conscience tells you to do something and you don't talk back.
W. K. Hope
You must have discipline to have fun.
Julia Child (1912-2004, American gourmet cook, author, and television personality)
SELF-DISCORVERY
No one is more interesting to anybody than is that mysterious character we all call me, which is why self-liberation, self-actualization, self-transcendence, etc., are the most exciting games in town.
Robert Wilson (1941-, American theater director, designer)
When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
William A. Ward
We discover in ourselves what others hide from us, and we recognize in others what we hide from ourselves.
Luc de Clapiers de Vauvenargues
Some people say they haven't yet found themselves. But the self is not something one finds; it is something one creates.
Thomas Szasz (1920-, American psychiatrist)
People travel to wonder at the height of mountains, at the huge waves of the sea, at the long courses of rivers, at the vast compass of the ocean, at the circular motion of the stars, and they pass themselves by without wondering.
St. Augustine (354-430, Numidian-born bishop of Hippo, theologian)
Lose yourself wholly; and the more you lose, the more you will find.
St. Catherine of Siena
I think somehow we learn who we really are and then we live with that decision.
Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962, American First Lady, columnist, lecturer, humanitarian)
Everything changes when you change.
Jim Rohn (American businessman, author, speaker, philosopher)
The person who God shows a treasure to must dig it out himself.
Czechoslovakian Proverb (Sayings of Czech origin)
One must know oneself. If this does not serve to discover truth, it at least serves as a rule of life and there is nothing better.
Blaise Pascal (1623-1662, French scientist, religious philosopher)
No thinker's thoughts give me as much pleasure as my own. Of course, this does not prove anything in their favor; but on the other hand, I would be foolish to neglect fruits that are tasteful just because they grow on my own tree.
Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900, German philosopher)
No one has ever learned fully to know themselves.
Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe (1749-1832, German poet, dramatist, novelist)
Look into the depths of your own soul and learn first to know yourself, then you will understand why this illness was bound to come upon you and perhaps you will thenceforth avoid falling ill.
Sigmund Freud (1856-1939, Austrian physician, founder of Psychoanalysis)
Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle.
Lewis Carroll (1832-1898, British writer, mathematician)
Let's dare to be ourselves, for we do that better than anyone else.
Shirley Briggs
SELF-DOUBT
Our self-conceit sustains, and always must sustain us.
Samuel Butler (1612-1680, British poet, satirist)
SELF-EDUCATION
People think of education as something that they can finish.
Isaac Asimov
School can provide you an education and university can give you a culture, but self-knowledge and self-learning can help you to make a fortune.
Carl William Brown
Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is. The only function of a school is to make self-education easier; failing that, it does nothing.
Isaac Asimov
The first thing a student should understand to have success is that of becoming a self-taught man.
Carl William Brown
Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.
Robert Frost
SELF-ESTEEM
SELF-ESTEEM controls PERFORMANCE/REALITY which stimulate SELF-TALK which reinforces SELF-ESTEEM. This cycle can work positively or negatively and is greatly influenced by the self-talk. (I knew I wasn't good at..., next time I'll practice and do better!
Author Unknown
All the extraordinary men I have known were extraordinary in their own estimation.
Woodrow T. Wilson (1856-1924, American President (28th))
Blessed are they who heal us of self-despising. Of all services which can be done to man, I know of none more precious.
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What Is Love?
I should tell you all that the words that find their way into these Daily Devotions are hardly the words I reflect on in my journaling, writing, and rambling to myself.
Trust me, you don't want to see most of those words.
They lack rhyme or reason most of the time, and more often than not, they tend to be questions that I have no answers for or diatribes about why I don't have the answers to said questions.
But occasionally, I find myself reflecting on an idea I can't figure out to any satisfaction: Love.
As I write this, a song from the early 90s by a forgettable one-hit-wonder artist named Haddaway comes to mind--a song that contained the incessant question, "What Is Love?"
[Now that song is playing on repeat in my head and probably in the heads of more than a few of you.]
After living 54 years, I have concluded that no matter how many times Haddaway asks me that question in the song, I can't give him a good answer. This is not to say that I don't have some thoughts, though.
Let me share a quote from Fr. Anthony de Mello that I wrote down once that sums up some of my notions about love. In the paragraph preceding this quote, de Mello talks about how terrifying it is for us to understand love, and then he says this:
And that is why love is so terrifying, for to love is to see, and to see is to die. But it is also the most delightful exhilarating experience in the whole world. For in the death of the ego is freedom, peace, serenity, and joy.
What Fr. Anthony means when he says, "for love is to see, and to see is to die," is basically this:
To truly see another means that you see them as they are in all of their frailty, beauty, and brokenness, and in that seeing, you also glimpse something of yourself and what it will take for you to be fully alive and present with them.
Essentially, you are confronted with the truth that to be fully present and alive with others, you must let go of your ego, pride, and the ways you may hold the world at arm's length.
I need to be clear: this isn't about becoming something you are not or denying your identity, silencing your voice, or becoming less of who God means for you to be. If another demands this of you, that's not love.
Instead, this is about becoming more of who you are, living more fully into your best self while letting go of the ego that keeps you from being who you were meant to be and experiencing the kind of love that God longs for you to experience.
Jesus once told his followers something tough to hear.
"And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." (Luke 9:23, ESV)
That wasn't the only difficult thing that Jesus said to his followers, but it's pretty high on the list of the most challenging things.
Jesus tells his followers that if they are willing to die to themselves daily and "take up their cross" (the ego, the self that gets in the way of being fully human), they will discover more about themselves and their capacity for love.
Beloved, may you find the courage to love. May you let go of all the ways your ego has kept you from fully living into your most authentic self. May it be so.
And may the grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you now and always. Amen.
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"Both what you run from and what you yearn for are within you."
Anthony de Mello
"Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world."
Wayne Dyer
"Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star."
Clement Stone
"The day you decide to do it is your lucky day."
Japanese proverb
"It's what we don't say that weighs the most."
Abhysheq Shukla
"Power over others is weakness disguised as strength."
Eckhart Tolle
"Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine."
Byron Dorgan
"Growth comes through analogy; through seeing how things connect, rather than only seeing how they might be different."
Albert Einstein
"The universe is change; our life is what our thoughts make it."
Marcus Aurelius
"To get the full value of joy, you must have someone to divide it with."
Mark Twain
"People don't fake depression. They fake being okay. Remember that. Be kind."
Abhysheq Shukla
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“A religious belief is a signpost pointing the way to truth. When you cling to the signpost you are prevented from moving toward the truth because you think you have it already.”
- Anthony de Mello, The Song of the Bird
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Photos by @hellokrisdavidson | When I gaze up at the night sky, at shimmering, faraway stars and constellations named after gods and mythical beings, I almost always think of this quote attributed to Anthony de Mello: “You have to understand, my dears, that the shortest distance between truth and a human being is a story.” Stretching from the past into the future, our stories make time travel…
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When Teresa of Avila was asked what she did in prayer, she replied, ‘I just allow myself to be loved.'
Anthony de Mello, Sadhana, a Way to God
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"If it is peace you want, seek to change yourself, not other people. It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to carpet the whole of the earth." Anthony de Mello
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"That's what spirituality is all about, you know: unlearning."
- Anthony de Mello
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