#do you know how humiliating that is

[ignite-art]

Cannot wait till I can show my full finished frame for the #EveryFrameAgainstTheWall project ⭐

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#we need more 1967s husbands pls im begging you #do you know how humiliating that is #EveryFrameAgainstTheWall #goodomens #goodomensprime #goodomensfanart #crowley #crowleyfanart #aziraphale #aziraphalefanart #aziraphalexcrowley #aziraphalexcrowleyfanart #ineffablehusbands #ineffablepartners #goodomenscrowley #goodomensaziraphale #art #digitalart #artstudy #illustration #drawing #fanart #my art #ignite-art

[black-and-yellow]

#me when a light hits the gloom on the grey #waiting for a 10mph upload like #'it's almost time for the boys' regularly scheduled enrichment activity!' #10mph #game grumps #arin hanson #10 minute power hour #hate doing normal tags it is so humiliating #the mortifying ordeal of drawing arin #I do not know how to do soft shapes so he always looks weird #I'm so used to drawing pointy angular characters that I've forgot what an oval is #you'll be happy to know I finally finished Hylics #you probably actually won't care but I'm happy about it #once I found where to buy dynamite I was alllll set #bought like 50 of those bad boys

[crj-200]

made a uquiz to find out which regional jet you are. take it or else

#uquiz #planes #nessie posting #🥺 #i got the 900 on my own goddamn quiz. do you know how humiliating this is for me

[greenishness]

You can’t force people to be honest with you. If you’re an up-front person who doesn’t have a problem asking for what you need, it can be easy to interpret wishy-washiness as cowardly and manipulative. It obviously sucks to be in emotional limbo, and I don’t blame you for interpreting their silence as a punishment. But have you considered it might also be a form of self-protection?

“Why won’t X tell me what’s wrong? I’m not a mind reader!” is a common complaint. But the question which often occurs to me is, who does that clarity benefit? Does the teller have reasonable grounds to believe expressing their anger is a safe or productive thing to do? Is it going to lead to deeper understanding, or just another argument? Is the person demanding an explanation going to listen, or use the teller’s complaint to retaliate, linguistically outmanoeuvre them, or adopt a position of victimhood? Often a request for clarity is disingenuous. We know what we’ve done and just don’t want to have to be the one to bring it up, because we feel guilty, and it’s easier to take a defensive posture than proactively apologise.

Not to mention that when we’re upset, the last thing we want is to give the person who offended us an opportunity to relitigate the situation. Especially if there’s wounded pride involved. It can be humiliating to confess the depth of your hurt feelings. That kind of honesty is an act of generosity, not emotional obligation. 

Help Me Hera: Our Couple BFF's Won't Forgive Us

#this has gotten me through the last month i am not even kidding not even a little bit . #it articulates something that i have been trying to put my finger on for a while now #that articulating the depth of your hurt and humiliation to the person responsible for it is an act of incredible vulnerability #and if you choose to do that i'm proud of you! but it is a privilege that you alone have to right to bestow #'i can't make it better if i don't know what' wrong' is such an insidious way of reversing power dynamics #and frankly an incredibly entitled way to view the world like who asked you to make it better? maybe you'll just have to stew #no one is obligated to share their innermost self with you no matter how badly you want them to #and if you cannot accept that very basic boundary then i have an idea why someone else might be so mad at you

[uncanny-tranny]

The biggest saving grace I feel I've done is to get into death positivity, to learn to appreciate death. It's definitely not going to help for many, but I have found that not stigmatizing my own interest and desire for death has greatly helped. Being able to interact with death not as a punishment, but as a way to express humanity has been truly what has made me feel more human. I no longer want to feel ashamed of this aspect of myself, and it's made me want to live. Death has done unto me life.

#death positive #death tw #death mention tw #suicide mention tw #ask to tag (genuine) #i have been trying to interact with more death positivity. it's helped not only my own thoughts but also grief... #...and grief is something i know intimately that i do not process and deal with 'normally' #i am CERTAINLY not saying that you should adopt these ideas for yourself but rather i am sharing what has worked for me... #...my hope is that i can help motivate others to find what works for THEM... #...to not feel SHAME over it. the shame is the enemy. the fear and self-loathing and self-hatred are the enemies... #...i used to feel so ashamed and humiliated about this aspect of me because of how... out there it was... #...but i genuinely cannot live the way the world does and i have TRIED #i don't want ANYbody EVER feeling that way. not if i can even try to help y'know? #i am really grateful to the people who have posted about death and the process because it has really been an important topic #death is nuanced and complicated and it isn't fair a lot of times - it's absolutely fair to not *like* death

[edoro]

Ngl I'm starting to feel like a nonzero amount of the fandom reaction towards Cazador, the general trend of "oh he actually isn't scary or intimidating at all, he's a whiny sniveling little bitch baby and it's embarrassing Astarion was so scared of him because of how non-threatening and laughable he is" is hmmm

maybe a bit based in the racist de-masculinization of Asian men and the way that they are often seen as impotent, weak, and incapable of being threatening?

#and i mean i don't disagree that he's a loser #or that his sneering line delivery isn't extremely punchable #HOWEVER #he also is... deeply cruel in a very targeted and personal way #a sadist who dresses it up in the guise of Family #obsessive about his victims and playthings #and hungry for even more power which he WILL use to hurt people #which actually is pretty fucking frightening even if he's also slender and small and young-looking and pretty #i do think some of it is intentional - his obsession with Astarion #his grasping for power and inflated sense of self-importance #his persistent charade of a family and how he uses terror to force his victims to go along with it #these are all very real aspects of abuse that are also bigtime Loser Behavior #and the fact that the person who has the power to hurt and control you is an insecure megalomaniacal self-obsessed loser is part of #the humiliation of this type of abuse #but i also just saw a 'scarier redesign' of cazador that was just straight up A White Man so you know.

[dallonwrites]

actually making my tags from my last post into their own post. writers who struggle with grammar, spelling, typos, errors etc i love you. writers who struggle with rereading their stuff thoroughly no matter how much they try, who don't always have access to other people to help them read i love you. whilst reading through and checking for these things is good practice i really believe that the weight of it should not be put wholly on the writer's shoulders. especially writers who are neurodivergent, disabled, have any condition that can impede their reading + comprehension, are overworked and overtired, are not writing in their native language, list goes on....because grammar mistakes/language mistakes/typos have nothing to do with your abilities as a creative. this is where editors should be uplifting writers, helping them, not scrutinising them for something they cannot always control

#and in case anyone is going to say it...like i said in my tags i get that it can be frustrating #if it feels like a piece has NOT been reread or checked for these things at all #but even then its like...do you know the writers context? their background? #does the story itself still hold up strong creatively? #im just saying some leniency and grace goes far and esp in the short story/litmag scene i think #an editor who is considerate and inclusive should not use those things against a piece's worth #for me its like....1) the word spelling and grammar check is really confusing to work with sometimes #and also just. straight up does not work sometimes #and 2) no matter how much i reread and check for spelling and grammar i will forget a word. i will misuse a word. i will forget things #a bitch is forgetful! a bitch struggles with rereading their pieces and i do what i can to help that #but i need help and grace from the editors who wish to work with me! #i remember one time i wrote vacancy as vanacy in an excerpt in a writing update #literally passed me by and i was so humiliated?? nobody even pointed it out #but i assumed people were going to think of me less that i would make a simple mistake #its just...v hard and daunting being open with your writing sometimes lol lets all be kind to each other

[we-will-all-be-stories]

"Homophobias not a big deal anymore" okay then why are there videos of my friends and I at our pride booth on conservative Facebook pages? If homophobia isn't a big deal, why have people recorded my queer friends and I without our consent? If homophobia isn't a big deal, why have people come into our queer spaces and shout bible verses in our faces? If homophobia isn't a big deal then why have I been called slurs by random people on the road?

#i told my dad that i wanted to go to pride but im afraid of the homophobia #he straight up tells me its not a thing anymore #im sorry sir but i have run booths at multiple pride events for the past three years #you would not believe the shit ive gone through #do you know how humiliating it is to be recorded against your wishes while people shout slurs at you? #knowing that your cant retaliate or respond? #because if you do you prove to them that queer people ARE the problem?? #pride #lgbtq #lesbian #trans #non binary #acespec #asexual #gay #homophobia

[leejihoonownsmyheart]

helllo could you recommend some jihoon fics/series please!!

I still think I am the worst person to rec fics I literally don’t know what I’m doing but here we go again:

Also, side note, I really don’t reach much fanfiction (I’m gonna change that this summer!) and these are all stories I read ages ago and just refound by looking at my fic reblog account

Unlucky Charm by @daybreakx

This is such a cute story and I love magic au’s🫠 and I love Ale’s stories

My Heart Has Gone To You by @rubyreduji

This is such a GOOD Jihoon series. I was so invested during the release of this and I just love y/n and Jihoon in this story (even though they drove me cray) Also, you could literally check out all of JJ’s stories because again JJ never misses

To The Person I’ve Never Loved Before by @chilligyu

Who doesn’t love best friends to lovers? Do I need to say more?

[11:04am] by @thru-the-grapevine

Live, laugh, love timestamps

Lowkey - Niki (?) by @97-liners it’s a story by 97-liners, like??? What else do I need to say

Memento by @dalgonachan

I am sucker for like… simple Jihoon fics. Just cute little fluff stories make me want to melt

Reconciliation in a bookstore by @nochanchu

I don’t remember this story but in my reblog I loveddd it, exes??

Vultures by @puppetwritings

Sadsadsadsad

Just An Excuse Away by @peachwritestrash

Friends to lovers woozi smut 🫠

Love Talk by @wwounu

A love letter Jihoon story- tell me something better? You can’t.

Hide and Seek by @craby-bouquet

THIS story. My favorite Jihoon story to date. Unfinished??? I think and yet I still hold out every day for it to be finished. Side note: This entire series is criminally underrated.

Hydrangea by @woogyu

I relate to nothing more than insomnia and painter Jihoon?? I love 🫠

Oh We’re in Love Aren’t We by @svt13roses

I think this is also an unfinished Woozi series but do I care? No, it’s so good

#dear god please don’t percieve me #the amount of humiliation that genuinely fills my body doing recs #i cannot tell you how badly I don’t want to tag the authors #pleasepleaseplease #I’m begging this to be lost in notifications #some of these blogs are inactive but SOME ARENT #i hide under my reblog account for a reason #ANYWAYS #Jihoon recs <3 #I feel so tiny in the sea of seventeen fic writing #i don’t know many other blogs cause i don’t read

[mementomori-s]

#succession #successionedit #hbo succession #shiv roy #something something the little indignities #of existing in a body #i do agree that stuff that was subtext has become just blatant text this season #and it's throwing me off a bit #who knows maybe I'll be very satisfied with how it wraps up #but in the meantime this is how i choose to see it #mine #my: gifset #worse to be humiliated and pitiable when you fumble or go along oblivious while others look on chuckling? #not to equate those moments

[holdoncallfailed]

i finally got my roommate to agree to hang out with me 1 on 1 the way we always used to do and i have to come up with an activity for us to do together but the very fact that i had to schedule it at all nevermind over a month in advance and now i have to organize it as if it's a special occasion just to hang out with him when we used to hang out essentially every day (even if it was only to watch an episode of tv together or read together in the mornings) is making me so sad that i like. don't even want to do it. he's hardly ever home anymore and when he is he immediately goes into his room with the door shut, he never even eats in the common era anymore, he never watches tv or plays video games, i literally only ever see him in passing and it's bumming me the fuck out cos we used to be so close before he got a girlfriend and now it's like he doesn't care about me anymore. actually i'm really scared he doesn't like me at all and he's grown tired of me the way all my friends did a couple years ago during which he was like the most supportive person in my life but now he too has reached the end of his tolerance for me just like everybody else lol...

#i hate feeling this needy and clingy it's so humiliating as if i'm gonna ask him 'hey do you still like me? 🥺" foh #i just don't know how to get over the insecurity that nobody actually likes me all that much when that's literally exactly what happened #with half my friend group. so what's to stop it from happening again

[tamagotchikgs]

why was my therapist like YOURE NOT UGLY!! u might think a lil different ,,, but that’s ok

#i know im fucked up but i didn’t even mention that DHDHDH #at least ... maybe that means she was being genuine ... #maybe..? #but we were taking an my horrendous self image and how it is a fact #talking about * #n she did not like that HSHAJ #she like fully clasped her pearls and was & went !!! #also i did mention my suicidal thoughts finally for the first time #we still haven’t gotten to the sh #but . sort of closer #specifically the time at work i messed up the order and all i could think ab slitting my wrists w the knives i was washing #but i was like yea when i do humiliating things i pretty instantly go to ending it all #and was like oh like you should’ve been fired ? #and i had 2 correct her and be like . no i need to Kill Myself lol

[centi-pedve]

there was this tiktok that got super popular of a girl spilling ketchup and asking for her boyfriend to clean it and then he Did but he did it in a convoluted way wg and everyone was clowning on him like Oh my gosh men are useless and can't do the bare minimum HE DID THE BARE MINIMUM!! ! HE CLEANED IT !! his gf asked him to clean something so he cleaned it thats. a good thing. ouhh sorry he's not Good at cleaning countertops. he's not good at cleaning countertops and he still did it anywaysb and well !!! auuuuggghhh how about show him the way you think is better and then he'll do it problem soulved woohoo

#literally a non issue theyr'e tryna make into a huge diabolical issue #we know firsthand how humiliating it is trying to help clean something and peopple treat you like a moron because you #were never taught how to clean that specific way #doesnt matter that you want to help Not knowing how is a sign of laziness and has nothing to do with people not teaching you

[knocknut]

there is nothing that makes me quite more suicidal than fucking something up or not doing something at all than “you’re a grown adult” wow thanks I didn’t fucking notice. Did you know that I have a mental block that prevents me from understanding literally anything in simple terms

#you have to sit me down and walk me through this shit. ok #I have heard this both from strangers and people I trust and it hurts every fucking time. that is not the help you think it is. #and if I’m not worth the time where as an adult you have to actually talk to me and explain things in detail #and that’s a liability to you #I’m killing myself #I am not joking. I am done fucking around #the next person to tell me this I might actually just bite your head off. do you know how embarrassing this is for me #like wow it’s hard to watch huh? imagine being the one doing it. #and then coming to the realization that you actually cannot support yourself and will always have to rely on another person- #is fucking humiliating. you cannot understand how this feels

[uncanny-tranny]

Too often, humbleness and humility are conflated with downplaying everything about yourself, to make yourself stand out as little as possible, and to compartmentalize anything and everything that makes you you.

Humility and being humble are seen as a way to apologize for being, I've noticed. "Oh, I'm not a good singer or a good writer or that talented or or or..." it is a knee-jerk reaction, one that I think many people use to protect themselves from the hurt of being belittled for their talents or interests or appearance, or anything you may value.

My whole point in this post is that there is a huge difference between being humble and humiliating yourself before anybody has the chance to. I want to encourage people to reflect on how they view humbleness and how one might use humbleness to self-flagelate and punish themself for who they are. It is so hard to break this cycle, but you are worth the time and effort it takes to love and value who and what you are. Everything that makes you you is worth it.

#advice #i don't even know what to tag this as honestly #but it always makes me sad when you notice that somebody may just be trying to humiliate themself in the guise of being humble #and i don't want to assign any moral value to this because so many people genuinely want to hurt themself before others can #and i have found myself doing that too... how can you hurt me if i am already hurt? #how can you hurt me worse than i can? #but: do you deserve that hurt? do you truly deserve to be kicked down and then some? i truly truly doubt it #i just want to invite people to consider how they talk about themself and how it *may* impact how they treat themself #how you treat yourself is just as important as how other people treat you i believe

[uselessnbee]

everyone understands that Will had a hard time helping El and standing up for her because he himself has trauma from being bullied his whole life and doesn't know how to fight them back, his reaction to bullying is to freeze. but suddenly no one understands it when it comes to Mike and he's just called an asshole for not being able to stand up and fight El's bullies

i'm not saying he is innocent and did nothing wrong. he could have done more and just handle the situation better but he was just too focused on Will and was in his head and being the otherthinking oblivious dumbass that he is

but just imagine your girlfriend tells you she is having a good time and has friends, she does not mention anything bad and then suddenly she's getting bullied in front of you. when you've been bullied your whole life your first reaction is to freeze, to panic and just wait and hope it passes quickly and they'll leave you alone. Mike did not have any knowledge about her bullying or having any kind of problems, as long as he was aware those people were her friends. he himself has trauma from being bullied (he literally mentions it later on why yall keep forgetting??) and being suddenly thrown into a situation involving bullying can be really distressing.

when you have experience with being bullied even just seeing someone else getting bullied can make you freeze up and panic. and we know that Mike does not stand up for himself when he's the victim. even when you're not on the receiving end of the bullying but you just see it happening and suddenly you're a scared little kid again holding back tears desperately hoping for them to leave you alone.

and i know everyone wants to yell at me "you forgot about Mike standing up to Troy when they were saying shit about Will! so he can obviously stand up for his friends so why can't he for El??" and no i did not forget and yes you may be right but the situations are different. Mike was very well aware of Troy's bullying. he was involved in it. he was the victim there. he's had to deal with his bullying for years it was not a shocking revelation. however he did not know about El's situation at all and your reaction can be very different when you know about something and when you have no knowledge and it suddenly happens

again i'm not saying that he did nothing wrong. i'm just saying that we need to consider his trauma and his point of view and it could make him think less rationally and therefore not being able to help properly. maybe if he knew beforehand that something could go wrong he could be prepared and he would handle the situation better (even if it would be just them seeing Angela and her friends come and they would turn to Mike and say quickly that those people are mean to El he would still have at least some time and could prepare himself). but he did not know that and he was not prepared for this situation to suddenly escalate like this. he was unprepared and probably panicking and didn't know what to do so no he wasn't much of a help.

and maybe we should stop acting like this traumatised 14 years old kid needs to solve every problem and act rationally in every situation and not to make any mistakes (especially when he has no knowledge to prepare him for something distressing) and overall just putting everything on his shoulders and then insult and hate him when it does not end up perfectly well

and maybe i'm just being my overprotective extremely defensive self who's looking too much into this who knows

and i can't even properly put into words what i'm trying to say but if it makes sense to someone then great!

#mike wheeler #byler #Will is not a bad guy for not being able to stand up for El #that boy has so much ptsd from everything he's been through in his life he never stands up to his bullies #his survival tactic is to stay quiet and hope assholes won't bother him #and Mike isn't a bad guy either #no it is not an excuse for him being a bitch to El especially after she hit Angela #but again he was not prepared for anything like this to happen and it all escalated so quickly and ended up in violence #and he didn't even properly know and process what just happened #and i'm also sick of seeing everyone hating him and calling him a hypocrite for this whole thing #because 'he was okay with El using violence against his bullies' when those situations are so so different #El hurt the bullies because they literally made Mike jump off a cliff and threatend Dustin with a knife #El used violence against Mike's bullies because Mike almost lost his life he was not being humiliated #and i'm not saying that being humiliated like El was isn't bad because i know how painful and traumatising it can be #but in Mike's situation she used violence against violence and that is still different #also that happened in s1 and they were still kids and since then Mike saw so much violence and death #that it would be understandable for him to have a different view on it now #if El would humiliate Angela back like she did with Troy at first #i'm pretty sure Mike would understand that better so maybe calm down with that hate yea? #but then again it is just a speculation and my opinion so you do you #blue's 'Mike's extreme defender' ramblings