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clandestinegardenias · 2 years

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as someone who stumbled upon your panopticon kp meta and spent the last two days researching the surveillance theory while ripping my hair out, i need you to recommend me some books or even academic articles on social theory that you think are important or interesting. i’m still in undergrad and am finishing up my social psych class (which was very surface level, “i can google it and understand it” kind of stuff), anything that you think is interesting to look into, please tell me!!! doesn’t even have to be social theory, any books or journals that you liked, let me know because i will read the heck out of them 😵‍💫

Sorry this took me so long to answer, anon! I wanted to wait until I got back into my office and had access to my books.

Okay so first, this is THE BEST ASK I HAVE EVER RECEIVED. I am LOVING that you want to read social theory because of my kp meta, this is my crowning achievement, my glory in life.

Ahem. Okay. SO, a few selected recommendations for people wanting to dig a little deeper into social theory.

Note: Most of these are in the public domain and can be found for free by googling them with 'pdf'. Also available at libraries!

Discipline and Punish by Michel Foucault

If you loved the panopticon meta, this is for you. Foucault can be REALLY dense, so this isn't exactly an easy read, but it's utterly FASCINATING. While the focus is on the evolution of modern-day prisons, the theories are broadly applicable to the structure of our society more generally and how we monitor and control bodies. also good for analyzing kink in kinnporsche

2. Capitalism and Modern Social Theory by Anthony Giddens

If you're really curious about the three big classical social theorists (Marx, Durkheim, and Weber) but don't want to, say, read all of Capital, this is a great place to start. Giddens analyzes the main big ideas from each of these theorists and gives you some great context and background. You wanna engage with the Marxist debate around rich kid Mile funding his own gay mafia fantasy? Start here.

3. The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life by Erving Goffman

This book changed my LIFE. It connects the personal, internal sense of self with the way that self-understanding is formed through society and social interactions. If you're intrigued by how Kinn presents one 'self' around his family and an entirely different one around Porsche, this is your book. It's got dramaturgical analysis, it's got looking-glass self, it's got it ALL. Note: For a slightly more confusing but equally enthralling take on this topic, see Mind, Self and Society by George Herbert Mead.

4. The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism by Max Weber

If Giddens gave you a taste of Weber and you can't get enough, go here. Again, life changing. Connects dominant Western religious attitudes with the rise of capitalism. More fun than it sounds. Iron cage of rationality, enchantment, and Weber was definitely into religious erotica so go here for all your VegasPete needs. also go to Discipline and Punish

5. Gender Trouble by Judith Butler

Read everything and anything by Butler, but start here. If you think gender is a scam and biological sex might be, too, this book will speak to your soul. If you want to talk about how Kinn performs the role of 'mafia boss' in a very gendered way, takes after his mom, uses soft power, etc. this book is your best friend. Also gets into sexuality, here's an amazing quote: "heterosexual melancholy is culturally instituted as the price of stable gender identities" WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR, READ THIS.

#social theory #kinnporsche #asks #BY NO MEANS AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST #this could be so very much longer #i also focused on books rather than articles but I'm kind of a believer in going straight to the source? so.#god this is making me want to read social theory again UGH i'm in PAIN

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free--therapy · 3 years

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Chronic Shame and Depression: A Vicious Cycle

Learning to distinguish shame from guilt helped me better manage my mental health.

by Krysta Scripter

I feel guilty about damn near everything.

I don't clean my house enough. I don't love my husband enough. I don't work as hard as I should. I don't reach out to friends enough. I don't take care of my family enough.

No matter what, it feels like I'm never enough.

I still struggle with this, even when I know I'm exhausted and need a break. It's hard to wrap my brain around the idea of taking care of myself when I'm constantly listing things I still need to do. Not living up to my own expectations makes me depressed.

I was dealing with a series of bad days, feeling burned out on work and unable to accomplish basic tasks, when I finally blurted out to my husband that I felt worthless as a writer and also felt guilty for not doing more.

"That's not guilt," he said. "You're talking about how you feel, not what you did. That's shame."

This conversation surprised me. While I had used the two terms synonymously when referring to my emotions, I almost felt worse about the idea of feeling ashamed rather than feeling guilty. But why was that?

Was my shame the root of my depression, or the other way around? Could I deal with one without dealing with the other? Why did I feel so ashamed about my shame?

Guilt versus shame

Shame and guilt are often used interchangeably, but professionals have recently started distinguishing between the two.

In his book The Science of Shame, Dr. Gerald Fishkin explains that shame is one of the least understood aspects of human emotion.

"Historically, shame and guilt have not had clear distinctions," he writes, noting that guilt is a reaction based on our behaviors.

"Shame, on the other hand, is an organic biological response that is expressed as a visceral and not an intellectual reaction."

The key thing to note about shame, and the negative self-talk it produces, is that it is completely irrational.

"Our thoughts follow our experience of shame rather than the other way around. Shame is unlike guilt in this way," Fishkin writes. "Since shame is built into our systems and our self-image, we experience it first and think about it later."

Shame doesn't follow any logical reaction — it's rooted in emotion. A shame attack, when feelings of worthlessness and self-loathing spiral out of control, is almost impossible to stop once it's started.

In her book Escaping Emotional Abuse: Healing from the Shame You Don't Deserve, psychotherapist and author Beverly Engel writes that "debilitating or toxic shame is a type of shame that is so all-consuming that it negatively affects every aspect of people's lives."

She continues: "(Toxic shame affects) their perception of themselves, their relationships with others, their ability to be intimate with a romantic partner, their ability to risk and achieve success in their career, and their overall physical and emotional health."

The vicious cycle of shame and depression

What makes shame even more difficult to manage is that it's both a trigger and a symptom of depression.

"The relationship is bidirectional, though, so when shame is worse, depression worsens. When depression is worse, it can increase the levels of shame," said Eric Patterson, licensed therapist and contributing writer for Choosing Therapy.

When the root of depression is actually shame, or shame exacerbates feelings of depression, treating one without the other leaves patients with an incomplete healing process.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel, a New York-based psychotherapist and author, shares the story of a severely depressed man who suffered from shame so acutely that his depression could not be treated by traditional methods.

"He interprets his distress, which is caused by his emotional aloneness, as a personal flaw," Hendel writes.

"He blames himself for what he is feeling and concludes that there must be something wrong with him. This all happens unconsciously."

The man's depression could only be treated once his shame was addressed in a therapeutic setting that allowed him to recognize his emotions and deal with them accordingly.

Countering shame with compassion

According to Fishkin, we have two primary affective responses: shame and compassion.

"Compassion is a connectedness that transcends language and emotion," he writes. "I cannot control it — it's not intellectual. It is a deep connection of association with the other."

Fishkin believes compassion-focused therapy is far more likely to help patients move towards healing.

"Self-compassion means forgiving ourselves for the sins we did not commit," he writes.

"It means learning how to stop carrying shame, the shame perpetuated by those who violated us in the first place — those who directly or indirectly told us that we were not good enough through their words or actions."

Therapist and author Deedee Cummings also recommends professional therapy for those looking to process shame.

"Most people need to spend several therapy sessions talking through the source of the shame, receiving the validation that they are not horrible people and that we all make mistakes, and then replacing the negative self-talk with positive self-talk," she said.

"Most important piece of advice: Don't let your shame be so loud that it talks you out of talking to a professional about it."

Next steps

Dealing with chronic shame can be debilitating and exacerbate other mental health issues, and it's not always appropriately addressed.

Even recognizing it can be difficult, evidenced by my years of feeling "guilty" about not being enough when I was really feeling shame about who I was. I still struggle with feeling shame in nearly everything I do.

Understanding how shame works, however, has helped me understand where my emotions are coming from. It's always been difficult to be kind to myself, but it's heartening to learn that self-compassion is the treatment for shame.

The next time I'm starting to spiral into shame, maybe I can remember what I learned here, and treat myself with a bit more kindness.

The help of a trained therapist in this situation cannot be overstated, and I still have a lot of work to do. But recognizing shame for what it is, and understanding compassion's role in healing, has moved me one step closer.

Read the article here.

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karliesbuzzcut · 3 years

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(100) Million Dollar Lawsuit

Intro | part1 | part2 | part3 | part4

We are on the last chapter (for now) and this the most chaotic one. Mainly because it doesn’t follow any kind of chronological order (or logical sense), it’s just Russ going in circles for literal years.

But I’ll try my best to condense it for you, so all you need to do is to keep your seat belt fastened until the aircraft stops completely.

Right after the failed Ari lawsuit, Russ goes back to his one and only love: Taylor Swift 💫 And he has learned a lesson — not a good lesson, mind you, but a lesson: small claims courts won’t take him anywhere. If he really wants to punish women for not complimenting his suit, he will have to file a multi-million dollar federal lawsuit.

But, since denying sex from The Russell isn’t illegal (yet), he had to come at it from a different angle. I’m going to give Russ a chance to explain himself first.

Before you ask: yes, the following was Russell’s response to a woman thanking Taylor for visiting an 8 year-old girl who was very badly burned in an accident.

As I’ve always said, it’s okay if you aren’t fluent in Bullshit. That’s what I’m here for.

You see, Russell views human interactions as a series of transactions: I make a tweet worth liking, you go on a date with me; I take you to Olive Garden, you give me a handie for free; I put on a suit, you hug me and smile; I write you a song and sue you, you produce said song. Whenever women don’t fulfil their side of the deal, he becomes enraged.

But the reason he has such a strong hate-boner for Tay, is because she seemed to also follow his same ‘moral code’. A kid makes a cute video, she visits them at the hospital. A fan writes her a letter inviting her to their wedding, she goes to the wedding. A couple of kids fold 1989 paper cranes for Andrea, Taylor invites them to one of her concerts.

Russ thought “this is a done deal”. He didn’t write that song for Taylor because he particular liked her; he just thought she’d be the most likely artist to produce it — or at least acknowledge his existence.

I mentioned before that Russ wrote a whole-ass book about this. And I think it’s as good a time as any to talk about it. For a short amount of time, Russell chilled out about the ✨100 million dollar lawsuit ✨ but my guess is that he thought his book would get him the same results as a lawsuit? To be fair, the book is fantastic. 5/5, would recommend.

He details the harassment he went through after suing Taylor Swift (the first time). Apparently old ladies at coffee shops would scream at him because he dared to sue Our Queen. A Mexican even pointed a gun at him (it wasn’t me, guys! Just a fellow countryman ❤️) and ordered Russ to drop the lawsuit. Computers at his job caught on literal fire because he was sent very powerful viruses. His friend Ken — who definitely exists! — was hit with a Molotov cocktail. Yep. 2016 was definitely the year people were willing to murder for Taylor Swift.

There’s also this brilliant dream sequence that involves an owl with the voice of Morgan Freeman, and Taylor’s agents guarding a tower in which she’s being held captive.

ALSO ALSO: an entire chapter is called “SHE CHOSE HIM OVER ME”. Taylor Swift chose Joe Alwyn — a man she actually knows — over a man she’s not even aware exists. Women, amiright?

I think Russell would enjoy the Kaylor community to a certain extent. Not the lesbian part, obviously: he doesn’t trust women who don’t want to touch his peen. I just mean the baseless hatred of Joe. Look, I made a little collage of his rants ❤️ tell me if any of this sounds familiar!

You know — I’ve been joking around a lot about Russell just wanting to do the nasty with Taylor. But you know me, I like joking around. In reality Russ only wants what is fair. He wants to put a stop to all these senseless acts of kindness perpetrated by Taylor ‘The Generous’ Swift.

This isn’t about him at all, actually. Shame on you for thinking there’s an ounce of greed in that selfless little body of his. HE’S DOING THIS TO PROTECT THE KIDS WITH CANCER!

There are no ulterior motives here! This isn’t about a date!

THIS IS NOT ABOUT A DATE AT ALL GUYS STOP SAYING THAT.

I think this is my favourite post of his, because– grammatically speaking –he doesn’t specify which of them is wearing the red dress. And that sends me every goddamn time.

Anyway. The book, as magnificent as it was, got him absolutely nowhere. I know, I can’t believe it either. So he went back to focus on his lawsuit. But apparently not enough, because he didn’t serve her properly..? Now, don’t expect me to understand this, because I am very stupid (so it’s quite a good thing that I haven’t sued anybody for millions of dollars) but something about him sending the lawsuit to her old legal team..? And then trying to force UPS to serve her? I think he even said he was going to serve her in the middle of one of her concerts... but I’m guessing that didn’t go as planned 🤷‍♀️ oops.

Of course, Russie wouldn’t allow such an anticlimactic ending. Can you guess what he did? Please tell me that you can guess what he did. HE MADE ANOTHER SONG 😭❤️

This one is called ‘I Don’t Get You, Taylor Swift’. Another masterpiece that we definitely didn’t deserve 🙌

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This was around April, 2019. By then I was being lured away by Kaylors, so I broke it off with Russ. I know that he filed a 3rd lawsuit against Taylor last year, which is just like the second one but hopefully this time he’ll be able to serve. And listen— I know that sounds like an awful thing to wish on Taylor, but I’d rather have Russell occupied suing a rich woman (who isn’t even going to deal with him), than a poor sex worker in Nevada. I bet TayTay would prefer that too.

Well guys, I’ve mentioned this a few times already, but I really had to be selective with the amount of information I was going to throw at you. I’ve avoided some of the shittier stuff he said or did, because I wanted to keep these posts as lighthearted as possible. I also didn’t touch on many things because they would just derail us. Like for example: one of the few lawsuits he has filed against someone who isn’t a woman, was against the state of Utah. I know, right? He’s trying to singlehandedly legalise prostitution in Utah, and even wrote a book (more like a pamphlet) brilliantly titled ‘Why I'm Making It Legal for Your 18 Year Old Daughter to Get In Bed with a Complete Stranger for Only 500 Bucks: A Short Essay from a Pro Se Litigant who is Challenging the Utah Brothel Bans’.

I copy-pasted that title guys, I swear to god.

The book is very graphic. This one I certainly do not recommend as I still suffer nightmares because of it.

Soren is a character who also had to be cut out — which is a shame because he really tried to be a good christian and help Russell. Not as in “I support you, Russell” but as in “why don’t you take a nap, Russell”. Turns out, even cinnamon rolls have a limit. Russ, of course, blames Taylor Swift for the fact that he’s losing his friends. I’m not joking — it’s an article in his lawsuit:

Greer has lost family relationships, friend connections and business connections because of the trauma of Taylor Swift. His family tells him to "get over it," resulting in shouting matches and strained relationships. Greer's friends get annoyed by his focusing on the trauma of it, when nobody knows the pain of getting rejected by a public figure — twice — and the fallout that has resulted from it.

Russell embodies that comic/meme of the little guy who puts a stick in his bicycle’s wheels and then blames Taylor Swift when he inevitably falls.

Sooooo...

Maybe someday I’ll write a post about Russ’ latest antics. I know he still posts stupid stuff on Facebook, which he later deletes. He shined especially bright at the peak of the BLM movement. He also plead guilty to electronic communications harassment— did you see that conviction coming? Yes, yes you did 😌

Regarding Taylor, I read that Russ knew someone who knew Todrick Hall — and Russ sent him a song and video for Taylor. All he got back was a Cease and Desist letter. But I’d have to do a bit of digging to get the details. I was already so overwhelmed with organising the information I was previously aware of, that I decided to leave the newer stuff for another time. You know, once I’ve had some time to inform myself... as well as a really long shower.

Since I left so much shit out, I’ll be taking questions if you have any. And if you can muster the courage to ask them. I’m weirdly proud of being some kind of Russell encyclopaedia. I might not have much going for me...

There’s no ‘but’ — that was the complete statement.

Before I go, I wanted to add this screenshot. I absolutely love it because it summarises ✨The Russell Experience✨. Russ wants Taylor to know pain, poverty and punishment. But when asked “why?” his answer is just “oh, I was ignored lol”

*none of the screenshots are mine

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Hey Kitten! I was wondering if you're majoring in writing? I'm a high school student who's applying to college right now and am also really interested in writing (potentially to the point of considering it as a career), and was wondering if you had any tips ^^

Goodness.... How do I answer this without sounding terribly cynical and crushing your hopes and dreams and ideals about the world?

I’m actually already finished studying, myself. I graduated with a BA majoring in Writing and Publishing 3 years ago. And without blowing holes in all of your plans, I’ve got to be honest as I tell you about how useful I’ve found my degree.... which is to say that it was completely useless and a waste of money.

Maybe it’s my country’s outlook, but having a BA isn’t really the big deal it used to be and everyone I know who got an Art Degree basically wasted their money. I mean, those in productive arts and theatre and such find them handy due to the practical classes, but a writing degree is..... Well, it’s a lot like high school English/Literature classes. You get given texts and articles and asked to dissect them and write essays about them. It’s.... god, it’s boring. The books are about as interesting in college as there were in high school and the teachers aren’t that much more competent on the grasp of what they want in the essay, and tend to have a biased and ridiculous analysis of the stories. Sometimes the author writes the curtains as being blue just because we like blue, not because the character is depressed, ya know?

When you say you want to consider writing for a career, I assume you mean that you’d like to be an author, and if so then my advice to you would definitely be to forget about majoring in writing for a university level degree. They don’t teach you how to write in those classes. They teach you how to draft essays, and unless you want to take after George Orwell, you don’t want an essay style of writing if you’ve aspirations to be an author.

If, on the other hand, you mean you want to look at writing as a career option for other fields than fiction or non-fiction writing, then it can definitely be useful. If you wanted to get into writing as someone who drafts up those silly example stories you see in school textbooks (you know the ones, where Sally has five apples and sells Billy three before turning purple) then they come in handy because the classes teach your how to dissect such a story for meaning and the language tool you’re focusing on, and you work backwards (which is why those things rarely makes sense).

The point is, college is expensive. And so you have to weight the options of how much you’ll get out of a degree against how much money goes into paying for it and how much real-world use it will be to you once you’ve graduated.

Me? I have a Bachelor of Media and Communication, majoring in Writing and Publishing.

Do you know what I use it for? Nothing. I don’t use my degree at all. I work as an Administration Manager for a Commercial Laundry and spend my days inputting data and trading polite, yet curt emails with clients regarding their linen hire. The only useful part of my degree is my grasp on the English language that allows me to very professionally tell someone to go fuck themselves without once cursing, or even crossing the line into being rude.

Look, of everyone I know who went to college that got a BA, do you know which ones are doing well? The ones who did a double major, one is business, law, or science, and the other in languages. Seriously, if you can major in languages, do it. Pick a core language and study it like your life depends on it. Two of my friends who studied language (both of them studied Mandarin) now have some super cool jobs. One is a high level special intelligence officer for the military. The other is a financial advisor for a Chinese conglomerate and, I believe, is currently living the high life in China.

Everyone else I know who got an Art degree, either in writing, music, communication, advertising, history, social studies or anything else pretty much had to go back to uni after they graduated, do a Diploma in education, and use their skills to become school teachers. Seriously, all of them. I know talented musicians, talented writers, history-buffs, and more, and they’re all teachers now. Teachers, or doing what I’m doing and wasting their degree by working in a job where the degree has no meaning beyond showing an ability to commit to something for 3 years.

At the risk of sounding condescending, and potentially confusing you all the more when you’re already at a place where all of life’s big decisions seem laid at your door, I’m going to give you a list of the things I wish I’d known when I was in high school.

TIPS:

1. Be single. Seriously, if you’re currently in a relationship, I urge you to end it. I don’t care how in love you think you are, or how painful the idea of breaking up might be, you WILL regret being in a relationship when you’re in college. And I don’t just mean because you’ll be meeting new people and could be bouncing into bed with some sexy stranger(s). There are so many things that I didn’t do in college because I was too busy trying to make things work with my boyfriend (whom I dated for 6 years before we broke up, by the way). I mean, I missed out on a bunch of college events because instead of being on campus, I was driving home to my small-town to see him. I missed out on so many life experiences, ranging from skinny dipping with strangers, to wild parties, to experiencing life WITHOUT worrying about someone else and how they would react to my actions. I cannot tell you how much I regret not just ending things with him and figuring out who the hell I was because I was too busy focusing on who WE were.

2. If you’re going to study something, pick something that will give you practical experience, not just theoretical experience. Pick something that will give you life experiences. Study a language - hell, spend a semester abroad if you can. Study something that has a real-world use. If I could go back to being in high school, do you know what I’d do rather than studying a BA? I’d become a Veterinarian. Or a doctor. Or maybe a scientist of some kind. Hell, I might even forgo college and get an apprenticeship as an electrician or a hairdresser, or maybe even a builder. I reckon I’d have made a kick ass engineer, actually.

3. Push yourself. Don’t rest on your laurels and coast through the course. Go to every class. If you go, and you consistently find it boring, or awful, then you’re probably in the wrong course and should drop it for something else. I mean it. I have a BA. I spent 3 years studying it. Do you know how much actual course-work I engaged with? Roughly 50 hours worth. Total. I never went to class. I holed up in my dorm writing fanfic whenever I wasn’t partying, hungover, or feasting. I literally went to about 5 classes throughout my final year, despite having been enrolled in courses that asked for 10 hours a week minimum face-time in the classroom and living on campus. And I still graduated. It was way too easy and I wish I could go back and pick a different course - one that would make me WANT to go to class every day.

4. Recognize the fact that, no matter how it seems like you’ve got to figure everything out RIGHT NOW, you really don’t. Be decisive, and if you have a career goal in mind, work toward it, but please, PLEASE approach a company that offers that career and ask them if you can observe for the day. They might say no, but they might not. Tell them you’re in high school and you’re thinking about angling toward a career in that field and you’d like to get a look into what that career is like. Ask if you can shadow them for a day, or a week, or even a month. Ask them questions. Don’t just tag along if they let you observe. Ask for their motivations. Ask how it all works. Ask if they’re happy. Find out what the drawbacks of that career are. You’re at the age where you can find out who you are and who you want to be.

Me? When I first enrolled in college I was training to become a Registered Nurse. I spent a buttload of money on books and uniforms and courses to be a Nurse and then I did a practical-training stint and do you know what happened? I found out I fucking HATED it. I couldn’t deal with all the bodily fluids, and showering old people, and being coughed on and struggled against, and bossed around by doctors. And I quit. I called my parents and I told them how studying it was exciting in theory, and that I enjoyed the course-work for my essays, but I couldn’t stand the practical part. And I told them that it was fucking me up and that I’d stick it out if they wanted me to, because they were paying my accommodation for living on campus. But I found out what it was like, and I hated it. And if I’d gone to my local hospital and volunteered BEFORE applying to be a nurse, I’d have known it wasn’t for me. You haven’t got to get it right the first time, you know? You can make a mistake. But they’re expensive. If you can do things BEFORE money gets involved and figure out what you like and don’t like, do it. Always do it. Go to you local hospital and ask if they need an AIN for the week. Go to your local shelter and volunteer. Volunteer in a soup kitchen, or at your local library or youth centre. Ask companies if you can help them out for a few days and be willing to do it WITHOUT being paid. If you expect money, most will turn you down, but if you paint it as them helping you figure out who the hell you’re going to be and saving you from making potentially the worst mistake of your life if you pick the wrong course, most people are decent enough to give you a go.

5. Travel. I mean it. If you can afford to travel, and it won’t cost you a scholarship, take a year off between high school and college, and travel. See the world. Take a bestie, or go alone, but travel. I would be a completely different person if I’d travelled before college, and gone alone, rather than waiting until the summer between my 2nd and 3rd year and going with a boyfriend. Your perspective on life will change, I guarantee it. Hell, take a working holiday and work bar-jobs or cafe-jobs, or anything to pay the bills while you see the world, but for the love of god, get out of your home-town or your city. Meet new people. See new things. Learn how things work in another country by experiencing it first hand. I can’t stress this one enough because my number one biggest regret in life is that when I was in high school, I was offered a place in an exchange program to live and study in a country of my choice for a year, and I turned it down because I was in a relationship that was “going to last forever”. It didn’t last, and I was an idiot, and I insist that anyone who can travel MUST do so. I don’t care if you’ve got to backpack your way across Europe on $10 a day, if you can do it, PLEASE do it.

6. Learn how to take advice and criticism without seeing it as a challenge and without immediately being spiteful and doing the opposite. Listen to people who know better. If I’d listened to my parents, I’d have ditched the boyfriend, travelled, seen the world, and been a whole different person. If I’d listened to my Aunt, I’d have known that nursing was going to be horrible and that I’d hate it and quit. If I’d listened to family friends who ran local businesses in my town, I’d have been able to take them up on offers of things that, at the time, sounded awful, but things I’d have likely really enjoyed.

7. Don’t listen to your friends. They don’t know what’s best for you, no matter how well they know you or how close you are. If they’re your age, then they’re as clueless as you right now and they don’t have any idea how to offer you actual advice that will help change your life for the better. If you want to try something, and your friends disagree, do it anyway. Learn to be independent of them. One day, all too soon, that bestie you’re so close with will be someone you see or speak to once or twice a year and - here’s the kicker - you’ll be okay with that. You might even PREFER that. The point is, you need to grow as a person and you need to figure out exactly who you are. It’s not as easy as it sounds, and it’s not always as rewarding as you might hope, but it’s important that you do it. And I know that being told to figure out who you are tends to bamboozle teens. Hell, it confused the hell outta me because I was all, “I know exactly who I am.”

I didn’t.

Ask yourself the hard questions. Figure out where you stand politically. Figure out what matters to you. Do you care about religion? Current Events? Does the opinion of your peers matter to you? Does it really? At the end of the day, when you go to bed, do you CARE if you offended someone who deserved it? Do you prefer chicken or beef or vegetarian? What would you look like with a nose ring? A shaved head? A tattoo you can regret later? Do you like boys, or girls, or something in between? Both? Neither? Are you a wool sweaters girl, or velvet jumpsuit girl? Sneakers or scuffs? Dyed hair or natural? Tea of Coffee? Boy or girl? Do you want to help the environment or end world hunger or fix the economy? Do you want to hide under a rock and never talk to anyone again? Do you want to make a name for yourself? It’s all relevant and it sounds silly, but if you’re aspiring to be a writer, find a character questionnaire of all the things you’d want or need to know about a character to write about them in a book. Fill it out about you. You might be shocked by what you learn.

8. Don’t give terribly long winded answers like this one.

9. Never settle. You’re more than settling. Don’t settle for a partner, don’t settle for a job, don’t settle for a town, or a city, or a friend, or a life that you’re not happy with. If you aren’t happy, figure out why and make changes. You’re allowed. No one is going to stop you, and if they try, direct them to me so I can lecture them on how to be a better person. *winks*

10. Use your imagination. If you want to be an author, you’re not going to learn how in a classroom. You’ll learn by diving into a book and entering a whole new world. Practice your writing. Write fanfiction and share it to see what people make of it. Listen to the suggestions of those offering constructive criticism. PRACTICE. Read. For the love of god, read everything. Push yourself to learn how to write better, not in the classroom, but in the real world. Write whenever you can. Every day. I mean it. Literally, every day. If you don’t write, you won’t improve. You’ve got to do it. Set a goal. Tell yourself you’ll write 100 words a day, build on it from there. Be like me and write thousands of words a day, when you’re up for it. If you don’t keep your imagination alive and trying to think of new ways to tell the same story, you’ll struggle and you’ll fizzle.

xx-Kitten

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WHY I'M SMARTER THAN COMPANY

I read was so electrifying that I remember exactly where I was at the time. Actually, the fad is the word blog, at least by legal standards.1 Real standards don't have to buy a drink, and they pay it to the employee in the hope that he'll make something worth more than they learned from us. But it should be better not just for me but for most people you could ask. This is a critical phase—this is where ideas come from—and then used this to squeeze money from the written word probably require different words written by different people. Growth is why VCs want to invest in photo-sharing apps, rather than as a way of saving you work, rather than because they wanted to write a book.2 But software, as a sort of time capsule, here's why I don't like the look of Java: It has been so thoroughly picked over that a startup generally has to work on your projects, he can work wherever he wants on projects of their own are enormously more productive. A lot of them don't care that much personally about whether founders keep board control.

The way people act is just as bad as I'd feel if I spent the whole day on the sofa and watched TV all day—days at the end of which, if I asked myself what I got done that day, the answer seemed obvious.3 Apparently some people in the music business hope to retroactively convert it away from publishing, by getting listeners to pay for subscriptions. Indeed, one quality all the founders shared this summer was a spirit of independence. The first essay of his that I read was so electrifying that I remember exactly where I was at the time. Sound is a good cue to problems. But I didn't use the term slippery slope by accident; customers' insatiable demand for custom work will always be pushing you toward the bottom. Now that the medium is evaporating, publishers have nothing left to sell.4 One group got an exploding term-sheet from some VCs. Some of this summer's eight startups will probably grow faster than the percentage they sell to investors shrinks. We would have been the same kind of aberration, just spread over a longer period, and mixed together with a lot of potential energy built up, as the examples of open source and blogging?5 Treating indentation as significant would eliminate this common source of bugs as well as limiting your potential and protecting you from competitors, that geographic constraint also helps define your company. Most of the legal restrictions on employers are intended to be the way most fortunes are lost is not through excessive expenditure, but through bad investments.

The effort that goes into looking productive is not merely influence but command: often the expert hackers are the very qualities we associate with professionalism. In young hackers, optimism predominates.6 They may be surprised how well this works. Why didn't better content cost more? Electricity seemed an airy intangible. And God help you if you fire anyone.7 No one wants to bother. The reason is that they get paid by getting their capital back, ideally after the startup IPOs, or failing that when it's acquired. Like rich food, idleness only seems desirable when you don't get enough of it.8 Who does like Java?9

The optimal ways to make money from the merchants in that business. Hackers love to build hardware, and customers love to buy it. Their search also turned up parse. It is, alas, an atrociously bad one. The DoD likes it.10 You don't have to think about something I hadn't had to think about before: how not to lose it. I probably read two or three articles on individual people's sites for every one I read on the site of a newspaper or magazine. Since software patents are evil are saying simply patents are evil.11 At any rate they didn't pursue the suit very vigorously.12 That may be the same shape, scaled up.

I've spent mostly in front of computers, and I feel as if I've learned, to some degree. But there are limits to how well they'll be able to reach most of the members don't like it. Focusing on hitting a growth rate they think they can hit, and then just try to hit it every week. Sometimes infix syntax is easier to read. They treat the words printed in the book the same way a textile manufacturer treats the patterns printed on its fabrics. But another kind of efficiency will be increasingly important: the number of startups is that we get on average only about 5-7% of a much larger number.13 Common Lisp. It was surprising—slightly frightening even—how do you make a language that might go away, as so many programming languages do. The reason they make less money now is that people don't need as much paper.

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All languages are equally powerful in the time I thought there wasn't, because such companies need huge numbers of users to do certain kinds of content. Something similar happens with suburbs.

If you invest in it, but at least guesses by pros about where those market caps will end up saying no to drugs. But that doesn't seem to have them soon. It doesn't take a job after college, you'll find that with a real partner.

Software companies can hire unskilled people to endure the stress of a placeholder than an ordinary adult slave seems to have, however. In every other respect they're constantly being told that they are by ways that have already launched or can be fooled by the National Center for Education Statistics, about 1. But then I realized the other reason it's easy to discount, but investors can get it, and suddenly they need them to get significant numbers of people we need to learn to acknowledge as well as problems that have bad ideas is to carry a beeper?

It didn't work, done mostly by hackers.

You're investing your own. Japanese are only slightly richer for having these things.

If a bunch of other VCs who don't aren't.

Programming in Common Lisp seems to have lunch at the exact same thing, because his ideas were one of a long time for word of mouth to get the people who said they wanted to make it harder for Darwin's contemporaries to grasp this than we realize, because they think they're just mentioning the site was about bands. If the Mac was so great, why is New York. Back when students focused mainly on getting a job after college, they say that one Calvisius Sabinus paid 100,000 drachmae for the entire West Coast that still requires jackets: The First Two Hundred Years.

If you don't know of no counterexamples, though, so the best thing they can get rich by preserving their traditional culture; maybe people in 100 years ago it would take forever in the sort of things you want to sell hardware without trying to steal a big change from what the earnings turn out to be better to make software incompatible. For example, America's abnormally high incarceration rate is 10%, moving to Monaco would only give you a clean offer with no deadline, you don't, you're not sure. Believe it or not, don't make users register to get the answer is simple: pay them to represent anything.

It is a list of n things seems particularly collectible because it's told with a cap.

Since people sometimes call us VCs, I want to change. The situation is analogous to the same thing, because despite some progress in the usual way will prove to us. Google adopted Don't be evil.

What's the connection? He devoted much of the living. Faced with the fact that it would be to go the bathroom, and their flakiness is indistinguishable from those of popular Web browsers, including principal and venture partner. I think so.

It would probably a mistake to do good work and thereby earn the respect of their works are lost. There is no different from technology companies between them so founders can get cheap plane tickets, but if you tell them to represent anything. This law does not appear to be important ones. But so many startups from Philadelphia.

To help clarify the matter, get rid of everyone else books a package tour. Many of these groups, which is something there worth studying, especially if you needed in present-day English speakers have a notebook to write great software in Lisp. In 1800 an empty plastic drink bottle with a base of evangelical Christianity in the room, you might be tempted, but that this isn't strictly true, because to translate this program into C they literally had to ask for more of a promising lead and should in some ways First Round Capital is closer to a 2002 report by the surface similarities.

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