#just one more reason why i dont like mom

[iseathegalaxy]

loved or hated multiverse of madness, doesn't matter, but what the fuck was the whole mordo gone evil set up in the first movie if they didn't absolutely nothing with it....

#mordo #doctor stranger #multiverse of madness #dsitmom #marvel #mcu #just one more reason why i dont like mom

[freakurodani]

The parallel between Sokka and Tenzin as their fathers' sons.

Sokka, left at 13 as his father and all the other men head off to war. Hakoda tells him "being a man is knowing where he's needed the most" and he needs to protect his sister, his home.

Tenzin is the second airbender. He is also half water tribe, he's a man. When Aang dies, he will be the last airbender. He understands what he needs to do.

Untold amount of pressure and responsibility have been thrust upon them by their fathers. Though, I believe it is not all intentional, but the unfortunate circumstance of being the fathers of sons who take responsibility incredibly seriously.

In Sokka's case, "protect your sister" is a vague instruction. It was meant to give him purpose, to help him feel okay about being left behind, He is too young for war, his father does not want to bring his child to slaughter. But Sokka will die with purpose. He will train the children of his tribe so they will be protected, he will face a fire nation ship until his last breath. He cannot go to war, but Hakoda did not see that war was all around them. In trying to give Sokka purpose, Hakoda put their world on his shoulders.

We do not get to see Aang be a father (in the TV shows), but we know he had hopes for the future. All his children were air nomads, and the air acolytes brought his culture back, but Tenzin could bend. This part of their culture is one ONLY they share. I do not think Aang would hide this, he is joyous that he gets to share his culture. When he feels respected, he always is, he taught the air acolytes after all. Off handedly, he could say, "I'm hopeful for a future where there are lots more air benders," and that, which feels mostly innocuous to him, is the nail in the coffin of Tenzin's fate. He is Avatar Aang's son, and the future of the air benders. It would not matter that Aang meant a future in generations. Tenzin sees the responsibility and it's his. He is his father's only air bending child, he knows what he needs to do.

Being a parent is not understanding the way the things you say harm your children. Even those things that feel innocuous in the moment can be life altering. Especially the more the child respects the parent. Purpose and Hope for those with a broader perspective, can be death sentences to a life that could have been when expressed to those who idolize the former.

#avatar the last airbender #avatar the legend of korra #atla sokka #sokka #tenzin #lok tenzin #aang #avatar aang #hakoda #atla #conspiracy lvl: text #i thought about talking about how my own mothers expectations for me broke me #they just felt like facts of life for her #just as like anecdotal evidence for my thought process #bc like we only know aang as a father from his frustrated adult children #but i REALLY REALLY dislike the takes that are like 'aang kept having kids until he got an airbender' #bc THAT doesnt feel like aang #like #if that were the case dont you think aang and katara would have had like A LOT more kids???? #like if the goal was make airbender babies why stop at one??? #but its because bumi kya and tenzin are reflections of sokka katara and aang #ive made a post about that #its about AANGS FAMILY #and he loves them #i think the favoritism is reasonable #makes me sad but thats cause my mom had obvious favorites (it wasnt me lmao) #another reason why i didnt wanna bring her up <- is doing it anyway how embarrassing #i ALSO thought about my dad though #but i cant talk about that here bc APPARENTLY tumblr only lets you add 30 tags now rip

[martyrbat]

so many of you talk about the cruel adults in your childhood that negatively effected you and caused lifelong insecurity yet you're still perfectly fine with being that mean stranger to any kid that has the misfortune of existing around you and thats just really gross !!!

#like i get kids can be overwhelming for a various amount of reasons but its not going to kill you to treat children with basic human decency #adults can be just as overwhelming or annoying—if not more. yet if you talked to an another adult the same way you do to a kid #then ppl would fucking hate you and not want to be around you because youre not being cool and witty—youre just mean!!! #everyone has experienced the frustration of being a kid being mistreated by an adult. some more than others #rather its ignoring your bodily autonomy (from sa and assault to hugging you when you don't want to be touched to not letting you #make your own harmless choices like a haircut or whatever). everyone has been talked down to or had their opinion treated like its nothing #or that their thoughts or input doesn't matter. everyone has a childhood experience with a mean or judgemental adult #yet over and over ppl are fine just repeating that cycle of abuse and hatred #like youre a young adult and youre still getting treated like shit by older ones. but youre able to have a drink or you graduated or smthn #so now you feel like you earned that right to be judgemental & angry & mean to a group of people that didnt fucking do anything to you #anyways. this is because im sick and had to go to the store to get groceries and meds #so its a 20 minute walk to the nearest store in 108 degrees bc i dont have gas money and then in the store im ofc using a face mask #like im sweaty and feel disgusting and like shit but this kid was SO fucking excited about his spiderman toy and wanted to talk and #his mom said ‘i told you no one wants to hear about that crap leave her alone’ and like?? no fuck off let a kid be happy?? hes not fucking #doing anything wrong?? so we talked and he showed me the little tiy that lights up and asked if i saw the new spiderverse movie #and i told him i havent! so he asked why so i explained i have photosensitivity and what that means and why i cant see it #(‘even though i heard its super cool!’) and HE WAS SO SWEET... like immediately hid the toy because oh! flashing lights can hurt me! #and then immediately said dont worry because he'll tell me about it so its like i saw it instead! #and like. guys imma be honest with you. i stilm got no fucking idea what this movie's plot is. #but you bet your fucking ass i was pretending like i was following along & was going ‘no way!’ ‘so it's a parallel universe...?’ ‘oh wow!’ #like yea its unnecessary. i felt oike i was gonna collapse and im still struggling to breathe at home now. but also i been the kid #who just wanted to talk about my interests and no one wanted to or was dismissing it. #i know it's not a end of the world deal but i also know that crushing feeling. you gotta be the kindness you want to see in the world yknow #anyways. be nice to kids or im not going to be nice to you. they're one of the most vulnerable members of our society and deserves kindness

[bunnihearted]

📓🕯️🐇🖤pt.2

#only 30 tags lol i ran out... so furthermore #we only get one life. im gonna try as much as i can to enjoy the little moments. nd to not give up on myself nd my life #i will die one day anyway. why rush it. i'll enjoy as many books and as many walks and songs and tv shows as possible #if i get a loan nd have more money i wanna bleach my hair nd dye my hair green #and later this year i think i might change my name #it was the name i wanted to change to from the beginning. but i was in such a bad headspace i just picked eden at random #i do kinda like it now nd im attached to it but i more feel like this other name actually is me. my birth name nd my current name dont feel #really right. so maybe. i havent decided yet. like i rlly dont know. im also attached to this name for some other reason. like it's who i am #to a person i rlly like and if i change... will i be anything to them? i cant put it into words but that makes me hesitate #but it's unhealthy to stay attached to someone i cant truly have even if i want to. so i mean. idk im just weird abt it #but i do kinda wanna change my name (to embla. my mom wanted to give me that name but my dad was like nooo >.<) i am not 100% sure tho so #when i've been getting used to going to school nd working out at the gym. nd after my surgery nd i have more energy #i will try to face my avpd and try apps for making friends. there r two apps where u can find new girl friends!! maybe i can try that #also like i've never tried apps but i think maaaaaybe i can use bumble to try to find friends and women to date. potentially. idk..... #rn it's hard for me to think in those terms bc. i mean i am hung up on someone!!!! i cant evwn imagine dating or being intimate w anyone els #sometimes i feel like.. they're the only person i've ever felt like it'd even be possible. who i'd event want to do that w #not only physically but emotionally. so ig it's even harder to let go bc im so scared i will never feel like that w anyone else #but i rlly need to try to make the most of whatever life i have. the world will collapse soon anyway #that makes me even more sad that i cant be w who i wanna be w nd do what i wanna do but #all pain will all be completely descimated eventually. it's not forever bc life isnt forever #i've just never felt this before. like i want smth to be real so bad but if it happened once surely it can happen again? right? #i wont spend my life alone without intimacy and love and comfort nd support nd understanding right???? :o hope not #im still so sad nd exhausted rn. nothing in my life is working nd theres no repreive nd no help #it gets sooo hard to endure everything sometimes when everything just keeps piling up and gets so heavy it feels like im drowning #nd atm i dont feel like i have any anchor. nothing that keeps me grounded nd im just floating away nd im constantly being overwhelmed by my #feelings nd emotions. im like a stupid little kid who dont understand how to handle what im feeling. or make rational decisions #i feel so ... stupid and useless. i dont know what im doing. i have no idea. i have no compass. its so scary

[passumstars]

words fail me

#my art #emeto tw #sorta #who needs sleep after your catbwakes you upmat 3am to hurl after a fairly fucken bad day not fuvken me #i cant be bothered w the typos #like how tdo people say words #they just tell people things...?......???????????????? #wah wah i had a bad day and couldnt sleep and had a panic attack #when i put it ike that indont look smart #im starving also #idk why #have to get up then #the words just lodge in my stupid throat and i cant fucking spit them up without a reason and no telling people is not a reason #apparently art is a reason #i have more words secretly. its likely healthiest to putnthem here #i feel like crying whenever mom and sibling have a productive convo cause thatb means i didnt waste months of my life working with himonstuf #getting in the boat stuff. theres still problems i dont know where thr balance is. betther to clean the kitchen to show yoh care or better t #o trust people to understand the limits of others? who knows but be sure to yell at me in a panic because you suddenly want my help with it #i think it was a legit panic attack with hyperventilation and everything and it was the middle of the night and i had to be the one that tal #ks myselfnthrough it not that id really trust anyone to have that skill but its still fuckend up #im tired #im really very tired

[softshuji]

y'know it's a night when hal sits and eats cereal in the dark room at 1.30am.

#i was thinking abt it earlier #but i've been crying so much lately like so much. almost every second day if not every day and i dont know why #actually i do kinda know why. #i think im hitting my limit with a lot of things and one of them is my parent dumping their problems on me #earlier today my mom told me again abt the whole debacle with my dad cheating on her multiple times and everyone knows i find this subject #too much for me i dont tlike to think about it or anything and im so tired of hearing it and especially when i lived through it trust me i #was literally there the whole cheating subject is very raw to me for many reasons and im just tired of being the emotional dump so often #especially because she always comes to me for everything all the time and im so sos tire d #everyone always tells me i should consider my own needs as a person and its okay to have them and yk in theory i agree with this but i just #cant. i grew up not having any needs met so how can i let myself have them now it makes me feel absolutely awful with myself to even #consider having to ask for something off someone and yet i know how wrong this is iknow needa and desires and wants are natural #but mine have always been on the back burner for everyone else. so its' no surprise ive let myself think im something to be used for other #peoples sake. whether that be physically or emotionally and especially the latter. because thats how i see myself someitmes. something #something to make people feel betetr about themselves that has no use outside of how i make them feel - just something to use until they #move onto the next best thing. something more entertaining and better value whatever that might mean something with less feelings less #sensitive. it feels like sometimes thats what i am. the indestructible never breaking hal that somehow has a solution to everything and can #always be there to fix every issue and is there to make people feel better but needs nothing in response #and god it really does feel like my problems dont mean anything to anyone #it does feel like no one thinks theyre worth anything #not worth listening to not worth thr same attention etcetc and yknow what i hate hate hate asking for attention and yet i get upset when i #feel like im not actually being heard or listened to #and i find it happens so often. sometimes i wanna hear it just once for once i wanna hear 'hey its okay to be upset i wish i could hug you' #or something like that god i dont want to be strong and nursing my wounds in private anymore #god i want a hug so bad and someone to just let me cry on them just once i want to be held and told someones got me instead of me doing it #for everyone else all the time #is thisselfish? it feels selfish to say #this is why it affects me so deeply whenever anyone does validate me or tells me its ok to want things or that im loved or anything nice #god i cant handle niceness at all it feels like it knocks me so bad it takes me ages to recover #and yet somehow all i can tell myself is that theyre only saying nice things because theyre being obligated to and not becayuse they feel #like they actually like me

[biblicallyaccuratefaggot]

we should bring back analog tv broadcasts i think

#like i know digital antennae are basically the same thing but like #it doesnt have the same feel as having an old b/w mini crt tv on your desk #i feel privileged in being able to experience this since i was able to convince my mom to get me one of those old portable sony b/w tvs #and that shit ripped #i wish shit was still like that because why not have it like that #i wish we still supported old electronics because theyre often way more cost effective and do the same shit as new stuff #& for stuff like public tv i dont need 4k UHD HDR widescreen support i just wanna be able to keep up with whats happening in the city #without going on fucking reddit or getting a news subscription #idk i think the main reason they switched was because anyone could access analog signal & they wanted everyone to purchase a new thing

[eternally-tired-cryptid]

Can we talk about how hard it is to form deep relationships when your life is filled with trauma that you have to find a way to reveal to someone new to connect fully

#jasper rambles #sincerely i made a comment abt how my leather jacket was my moms so i Could Not lose it and no one in that group knew why something being my #moms would be more important than 'shed be mad if i lost it'. but for me its bc its one of the few of her clothes that i can wear to feel #connected to her. bc she had a totally different body type than me and shes been dead for 7 years. #none of them knew that. they had no reason to understand the significance of the jacket. and so as much as i like spending time with these #people. i dont know how to form a true connection because theres so much about me they just. dont know. and as much as i wish it werent true #my trauma affects how i live. it affects me daily. sometimes the things that make me react only make sense if you know its thru trauma #i just. im not close to very many people but i yearn for connection

[darkvolley]

I know it hasn't been confirmed that the gazing eye can only be on a keyblade, but it sure does feel weird that out of all the weapons it's on, only one of them isn't a keyblade(Riku's first sword). Like, that just doesn't feel right somehow.

#im also curious about how SoD can wield a doubles edged spear made up of that sword #like. was riku only able to wield it cuz of him? but riku had it before getting possessed #uuuggghhh now i wished i paid attention to that since i JUST rewatched kh1 again #no cuz he had it in traverse town!!!! loooong before getting possessed! #but sussiness had to be afoot for him to get a sword WITH THE GAZING EYE in it right??? #that couldnt just happen randomly! unless theres some kind of connection in the MoM->nort->maleficent->riku chain #but that feels too indirect to be a reason #also we dont even know how he got that sword other than maybe summoning it with dark powers he got from maleficent #but again then. it couldnt be random! #and i would think he materialize a completely unique sword like a psuedo-keyblade basically #or like how the nobodies have unique weapons they summon. yeah yeah probably exactly like that!!! #so how could a gazing eye materialize 'completely randomly' like that in just some sword??? #AND NOW IM WONDERING WHY IT APPEARS ON ANY OF THEM BESIDES NO NAME TO BEGIN WITH!!!! #maybe its more like a MoM->nort->riku chain without maleficent #omg no wait!!! cuz riku caused the islands to collapse because he opened the door BECAUSE OF SoD!!! #so theres the nort->riku connection prior to the possession #maybe cuz nort basically lost no name after the nobodification of the apprentices? i mean. xemnas is said to be able #to use a keyblade anyway and just chooses not to. so like. is it no name or something else? cuz roxas uses soras #and clearly no one else is using no name prior to 3D #what am i saying again? oh yeah! so like. maybe the gazing eye moved from The Abyss to riku after riku came into conact with SoD on the #islands. and it remained with him until 3 with his new keyblade #cuz isnt it that the sword basically 'evolved' into a keyblade? so thats likely why the eye is still there #plus it kinda still exists in the broken way to dawn on the shore so the eye cant move into anything else i bet #and in the case with vanitas having it i bet thats more confirmation that contact with xehanort in some form kinda ' #fuck got cut off. where was i??? it kinda 'spreads' the eye basically. #but i feel like it should be more like contact with no name specifically is what 'spreads' it. cuz SoD doesnt have keyblade access right? #so by that logic riku still shouldnt have it. but then again maybe it doesnt need to be no name contact specifically. #it would just make more sense that way but eh. whatever nomura wants i guess #oh wait just remembered! SoD probably uses riku's sword as a spear cuz hes using riku's body. right right that makes sense #its always so easy to forget that lol

[lcevinolusola]

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#its so exhausting being the only level-headed person in house and having to play mediator between my mom and my aunt #my aunt has one bad week at work and she gets PISSED at my mom for not answering her text immediately #and its like bestie my mom was driving home from work how about we calm the fuck down a little bit here #none of this is that serious why are we so pressed about inconsequential nonsense #and she was so pissy with me yesterday for not wanting to go on our daily walk together and like????? #number one she is more than welcome to go by herself if she wants im not stopping her #and number two it rained like HELL earlier in the day and by the time we would have walked the humidity was suffocating #im simply not doing that and i think as a 25 year old adult i am allowed to decide when i walk outside and when i dont #whatever personal rant over im just so tired of her man i really am she can be so nasty for no reason i dont get it #personal

[milo-is-rambling]

Omg yesterday at my moms therapy I said how well I had been doing and feeling like I can actually handle life and my mom was immediately like “that’s because you’ve been taking your meds regularly again” and like completely brushed off any progress I had actually made and I had to be like yeah totally that’s it that’s why exactly when I haven’t taken my meds for a week straight in idk how long

#I was like yup totally that sure is why I’ve been feeling good totally #not at all that I’ve been spending time to do things I like and journal and process my feelings in healthy ways or that I am consciously #making strides towards regular person sanity #and she fucking brought up adhd meds again like FUCK OFFFFFFF HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO SAY I DONT WANT TO TAKE THEM BEFORE IT CLICKS #I. DONT. WANT. TO. TAKE. THEM. they are a tool in MY mental health toolbox bitch back off my toolbox I know you fucking live adhd meds and #won’t shut up about them but I am happy now and I don’t like my brain on adhd meds and the only reason you want me on them is because you #like me more when I’m doing stereotypically productive tasks so you’d rather have me cleaning the house and not doing the shit I love than #you would have me not taking my meds and making art and writing poetry #like god #she just doesn’t fucking get it #I cannot create when I take adhd meds. that part of my brain just like dissolves. #the way I work is that constantly I have a million projects on the back burner in my mind and when I get inspired I make one #when I take my adhd meds I can’t just pick up a fun project I don’t get those ideas I can’t write poetry I can’t make art it’s like it sever #severs the line between my creative mind and my regular mind and I have nothing in my life that I need to be THAT focused on right now #but I have my perscruption still! like if I ever need it it’s there but that’s not your fucking decision that’s mine and you need to back #off my brain because it is a delicate fucking ecosystem up there in my head and I’m not going to fuck with anything until I have to #god. sorry. went on a bit of a rant. I am just so sick of arguing over my mom wanting to control the way I medicate myself. I am an adult #and she is not inside my brain so she needs to listen when I tell her how things affect me #she takes adhd meds like twice every day and hates the feeling of not being on them but I just don’t like them and she won’t fucking drop it #okay I am getting mad about adhd meds and my mother right before I have to be in the car with her all morning i need to relax #we’re going to psychic we’re gonna have fun #we’re not going to argue about this again.

[portablenetworkgraphic]

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#mom says that the reason she didnt comfort me while i was having one of the biggest meltdowns of my life was cus i wouldnt tell her what was #wrong and i clearly was capable #like i hate to tell you but just because im technically capable doesnt mean i can communicate easily #im too upset to be able to communicate my thoughts to you about why im upset #she literally told me that its annoying when i cry and scream without telling her whats wrong #she said and i quote I could ask anyone in the world and all of them would be annoyed by this #she said if i just said Sorry i cant calm down i cant talk right now that would be fine like hello? is that not fucking obvious? #i said wouldnt this (being a more concerning thing) make you more sympathetic and she said no it just makes me more annoyed and this is the #normal response #she said even when normal people are throwing up and retching they can communicate whats wrong #that im just pretending to not be able to talk to her to manipulate her and that im being disrespectful by intentionally getting louder and #more disruptive #my parents are convinced i do things on purpose to guilt trip them all the time and i dont understand it because theyve known me for #my whole life and thats the most out of character thing i could ever possibly do but they wont even consider that im not doing that #i asked her why she didnt believe me when i said i wasnt manipulating her and she said I do believe you! when did i ever say i didnt #i dont understand. shes convinced that every normal person behaves like her #and the worst of it is i know shes trying her best and yet still refuses to acknowledge the fact that #I DONT FUCKING MAKE MYSELF MORE MISERABLE ON PURPOSE! #she doesnt seem to understand that overreaction can be conscious and still unavoidable #like yes its not like if i tried i absolutely couldnt calm down and talk to you #but thats not helpful! i dont WANT to try because i am screaming so hard that mythroat will be sore for an entire day! #because i am upset! #i am too upset to care that i can tecxhnically stop #i just dont understand why its so hard to believe im not manipulating her when im genuinely upset #i dont understand why she looks at me like a loose screw. something annoying but not something worth fixing #its always bad enough to warrant anger and never bad enough to warrant a solution #because im crazy but im fine and im not disabled at all

[mayclair]

the whole max and mike’s lives being foils of each other’s is so insane to me bc its like. for mike max is a representation of everything that could have happened to him if his mom left his dad earlier on (and what can still happen when you look at the way things are between them) and for max mike is a representation of everything that she could have had growing up if her mom hadn’t decided to leave her dad as fast as she did

#there is no way they don’t resent each other for it just a little bit. no fucking way sorry #mike knows max grew up with a shittier home life but still wishes his mom had the guts to do the same her mom did and left his dad bc #at the end of the day there is a little bit of bitterness towards both his parents for not making their relationship work out specifically #towards his dad bc his mom is actually involved in his life and did try to pretend that everything was normal when it wasnt which directly #ties into his desperate attempts to make his relationship with el seem normal to both of them when its not bc theyve both never been normal #they dont even know what normal really IS which also ties in to his very deep fear that the two of them will end up like his parents and so #meday he’ll become his dad and he doesn’t know which one is more terrifying so instead he blocks it all out in True Mike Wheeler FashionTM #and just keeps wishing that his mom left his dad because maybe if there was a distance between them when he was growing up maybe things wou #ldve been different maybe he wouldnt be this much like his dad #max on the other hand LOVES her dad they had one of those relationships where he wasn’t neglectful but wasn’t a great parent either but she #still loves him for trying and while her mom did try she gave up after a while while her dad didn’t. that was the real dealbreaker for max #and while after all this time she keeps saying im going to run away to cali and im going to live with my dad. but its not just the need to #see someone who cared for her the most during her early years its also the childish hope that her mom will notice that shes missing anf #come looking for her and that maybe when her parents finally meet again they can reconcile and get back together bc that is really all shes #ever wanted in her life since she was a kid and she feels bad for it bc she knows that her mom and dad’s relationship was never supposed to #last but she still wishes and wishes which is why that little bit of bitterness against mike will never fall away no matter how irrational #it is bc its like. his parents dont love each other but are still together for their kids. why couldnt my parents do the same? was i not en #ough reason for them? and this ties into her breaking up with lucas over and over again bc shes seen her parents and how they never fought #for each other and shes afraid that somewhere along the line her relationship with lucas will turn out the exact same and hell leave her so #its better to just leave now before it gets serious then later when it will hurt too much but lucas keeps coming back for her which makes #her realize that maybe it doesnt have to be like that maybe they wont be like her parents #anyway this is incoherent as fuck but shane mandej voice IVE CONNECTED THE DOTS #mike wheeler #max mayfield #stranger things

[muirneach]

for your judging pleasure here is almost the entirety of my personal cd collection: revised edition. currently approx 85

#i thot i had more tbh but like. thats a lot. #the stack on top in the first pic is mostly classical and also jacques brel and les colocs. for some reason #and the stack in pic 3 are library cds not mine theyre just chilling #anyways spot the neil fan #they do have an order and it makes sense to me but kittimu was confused so idk maybe it doesnt. very possible #except for the fact that billy joel and that one byrds album are both inexplicably out of their places #i have no idea why theyre there #i used to have a bunch more reggae and some other 90s alt but i got rid of them a few months ago #i pared down the jayhawks collection and removed the bob marley + tragically hip + barenaked ladies collections #also some other misc 90s alt that i didnt like anymore #i wish i held onto them cause i coulda sold them but i think my mom took em to the salvation army #music #anyways im off to do some slight rearranging #also while i have this collection i also share my dad’s collection which has considerably more alt and indie and surf #which is fine by me cause it means i dont have to buy those

[arundolyn]

Hey bestie, non combative ask I mean no harm - but I was wondering since you’re half native as well, what are your feelings towards Thanksgiving?? No wrong answers just being nosy do

socks my friend socks hellooooo

personally. just another Food And Seeing Family holiday. like my family never went to church so it's the same as Easter with but in fall and less eggs and candy and more turkey and Fall Stuff. my dad's family is states away while my moms is an hour away and that's The Indian Side so it's literally just. everyone goes to chill at memas house for a couole hours. we get to see my baby cousin and have good food and catch up and complain about family drama and that's about it tbh. very informal

there's not much I can personally Do about the concept and it's an excuse to have time off and see family I don't usually and have good food, but it's always been divorced from the original intent for us for obvious reasons. i don't hate it on the principle of its existence so much as I hate some attitudes about it and the Discourse surrounding it cause it's kinda just. clearly not going away. yes i am spiteful about white people who deny the reality of it, of course. but im not gonna waste Being Angry about a thing that's... I'm not gonna say harmless of course but it won't go away bc people like having time off work and/or opportunities to visit with family. but the people who refuse to acknowledge the fact that we're fed lies (at best) surrounding it from kindergarten onward until we learn about it either of our own accord or from family depending on circumstances and such, much less those who hold it as some kind of red blooded american ideal or whatever the hell else those kinds of people see it as. I understand not celebrating it as well bc like Yeah it definitely sucks origin wise and it can be hard to divorce the thing from its genesis, and maybe it was never a thing for your family to begin with. both stances are valid to me. it's mildly annoying when white people specifically try to do that. white guilt thing about apologizing or whatever but I don't see it or have it happen to me much anymore it's just kinda. a thing I coexist with. for me it's always just been an excuse to eat sweet potato pie yknow

#cawing #grippysockassbitch #i never realized the Going Around The Table Saying Things Youre Thankful For thing was like. a thing people do apparently #past like. kindergarten. cause we never did it and i thought it was a cheesy tv thing but lo and behold ive heard tell of it #my aunt and cousin started going to church again at some point but they dont make anyone else go so its really just Fall Easter for me #christmas with less pressure to get people gifts i guess isnntdf #only difference is i usually make a point to wear one of my ndn themed shirts but thats just for me #i think the first time i started bringing all that up my mom told me mema sorta got confused in private as to why i cared so much #but thats just kinda a product of the Yknow :( #its like 2 am almost i hope this is coherent. i get both being spiteful and not caring (within reason) #and i cant say i dont care its more just. im aware of the history and yeah it sucks but its not going anywhere #and my family still wants to see me and all so its just kinda coexisting with the concept. i have no perspective of white traditions #we literally just have 'dinner' (lunch) at memas and come back home a couple hours later after everyones tired

[gatual]

here's ur daily reminder to send ppl who comment on others ppls weight to shut the fuck up<3

#and mainly if u see hear sb saying some bitchy ignorant comments to a fat person.. SHUT THE FUCK UP #djfbbjfks its so sickening tody i had am argument w sb bc of this and like even when im telling y why is it so hard to understand #whats the reasoning ur not making bc i swear its not that hard 'its nOt so haRd to loSe wEiGht juSt clOse ur moUth well why dont U CLOSE #UR MOUTH IF ITS NOT SO HARD UGHGHUH #seeing the uncomfort in my brothers eyes when my grandma asks him is hes gained weight again or the pain in my moms eyes #when dad comments abt her weight is so HHHHHHHHHHHH #and i feel like many times comments maybe arent ill intentioned mainly when they come from loved ones but u gotta make ppl see #THAT THEY SHOULD SHUT THE FUCK UP. A #i rather choose kind and logic ways to tell them bc idt theyre trying to b mean but if u see sb actively being mean . smack #we gotta stand up for eachother rmr that🧐 #🍒 #most times they wont understand but its better to defend someone than just look #and this could also apply to more things than just weight if ur in a conversation and sb says smth fucked up call them out😭