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mintacle · 1 year

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Another thing that fascinates me about Jason and Bruce is the way Jay can't get over having learned that there is a line Bruce wouldn't cross for him. How he can't get over the fact that love isn't childishly perfect and pure. Jason's way of understanding and demanding love is so painfully, desperately naive, that it will always tug at my heartstrings, because don't we all just want to be loved completely?

Learning your parents, your mother or father or both, will not actually love you to the point of self-sacrifice is painful. It's not like you have the right to demand it from anyone else. And most people will take this lesson and learn that love is not what they thought it was. Will learn that love is imperfect. That love can sometimes hurt more. That love is in the end just a feeling. And no guarantee of safety or care or anything.

But Jason refuses to think that Bruce can love him at all if he isn't willing to commit the act of avenging him by killing his murderer too. Isn't that question desperately familiar? How can you love me, if you won't even do this for me? How can you still say you love me?

It's about having gone through the pain of that question yourself, before you realized that you can be loved and hurt every single second of it.

And then there's hope. The hope that yields to placing the gun in your fathers hand. And bearing yourself. And what could it have been other than a futile hope to be wrong, that led to the confrontation between the Joker, Jason and Bruce? I think somewhere there was a last effort internally in Jason to provide an excuse to himself. Trying to convince himself that it will still count if Bruce lets Jason be the one to pull the trigger. Like this can still count. This will still be love.

But then he's laying on the floor, bleeding out, and I think what died there was the last spark of hope that love is magical. After that you know, love can mean something to you, but it carries no meaning in itself. And the world becomes a little bit more gray.

It's a childish way to love, in that we all wish, somewhere deep down, that we could return to loving and being loved in this way.

#jason todd #rambling #thoughts #utrh #bruce wayne #on love and loss #thinking about utrh storyline and the theme of love #along with #you could never stop me #because you love me too much #<- might have misquoted that one. but you know the line I'm referencing #love as a feeling vs. love as an action #lost in translation

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 4 months

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Turtle Takedown Teamwork.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #lan wangji #tulu xuanwu #Something about changing the action sequence to something gentle is hilarious to me.#The lesson here is “Be nice to turtles. They are gentle creatures. And many are very endangered.”#don't get me wrong here; I love this scene a lot. LWJ's string technique is one of my favoyrite things.#We do get a fair amount of LWJ fighting but I always loved how the theme of strings comes into play.#There is actually a lot to unpack with LWJ being associate with 'strings'.#The musicianship: Of dedication and rigor in one's practice.#The tension between following along a path or composing your own way forwards (playing what has been written vs composing)#A string is a tightly coiled/taunt entity; The same tension that makes it sing so beautifully can be it's downfall if pushed too hard.#And as a non-musical string - something that binds. Be it to his sect and family or how he binds his fate to WWX -#LWJ cannot exist without his binds. It is not something which ties him down though. It keeps him together.#And he himself *is* a bind. He 'ties wwx down' in ways that are initially negatively viewed ('come to gusu' - feels like: come be trapped)#But later it is shown how (despite being introduced as a free spirit) WWX truly wants to be bound to something and someone.#Marriage is a bind he wants. He wants to be tied and grounded by LWJ.#It's starting to sound like innuendo. Let's call his fondness for being literally tied up smart thematic writing.#Finally. Sex scenes that are important to the plot and characters

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lowcallyfruity · 5 months

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My contribution to the Scott Pilgrim fandom

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averlym · 8 months

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some very very quick costume shorthands!

#&juliet #had the absolute luck of watching this live the other night and it was. truly amazing!!! aaah #rough character designs for the younger leads (excluding like the Grown adult duos..) because?? idk #this is how it always starts. once the character designs start getting simplified like this that's when it all begins #which is hmmm timing but i really can't shut up about this musical it was so so fun. absolute vibes and energy #made me laugh and cry and was such an Experience. i adore them all but may specifically made me sob at some parts dfjkldfh #lots of thoughts! but one of the favs is how they wrote it so the existing songs and actions fit so well.#like in a rhyming bit they had frankie accept a drink and then the song was like ''drink in hand'' and i was all !!!!!!#also maybe it's local censorship? but there wasn't the kisses.. they replaced it w kissing hands and then holding hands #which is like a cute nod to the ''hand to hand holy palmers kiss' or smth but also maybe two guys doing that would not have made it past :/#oh my god i. the way rnj parallels the shakespeare duo... whdskjfhgh. may + not being a Girl kdjhgf. frankie and may. aaagh.#angelique being so so badass. i . the speech about Gender by anne and the Proposal by angelique both made the whole theatre cheer love that #also rotating stage lives in my mind rent free i ADORE the set holy moly.. also also the actors were so good. also the Projections.#also the music and costumes and special effects and aerial moments. and the ensemble. and the choreo #also the cast is so talented. and pretty. and the whole confidence part vs the vulnerability of some bits... whshjfgjkl. hhh #im just listing stuff now but it was so vibes. what an experience ever. it's also shot me directly into 14-years-old again so #spent the morning alone vibing to the soundtrack intensely... i just... sometimes things hold special places in your heart idk!!!#i don't know what to do with these designs though... like the show is such a lovely Spectacle but also idk where to branch out by myself no #there's so much to Absorb again and again. i get the feeling any true work from this i would do in a form of an animatic though.. oops #tldr? 1. &juliet very good just as itself 2. we have History 3. i got to see it live which always propels me into bonkers over musicals!#so so rough but i needed to get smth out and . whatever. an art blog is an art blog. back to hiatus now i think #<reminder to myself: this is essentially an artchive.. there's no quality control if you don't want it! have fun!! ily>

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cleromancy · 4 months

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sexiest and funniest thing roy harper ever did was look at dick grayson and go i could fix him

#read outsiders 2003. 🔫.#i think one of my fav things about roydick as a ship is the contrast btwn what roy like says and believes about dick vs his actions and how #he behaves with him #like its quite common for ppl in dicks life to put him on a pedestal right and he's used to it and is terrified of letting them down #but Roy who joined the og teen titans team as a full member late never like... looked to dick As A Leader the exact way the others did and+#he also didnt join the ntt until. i haven't actually reread most of ntt/new titans yet but to my recollection he's there for a hot minute+#before him and dick have their big blowout fight and he replaces dick as leader so its like #him and dick have a very unique relationship among the titans AND ALL THIS JUST TO SAY #like if you are not dick. and you ask roy how he feels about dick #the word 'perfect' is pretty likely to come up. and this is specifically the guy who is almost constantly challenging dick at every turn #aand fucking. god #roy 'everyone forgets that icarus also flew' harper #fucking setting up the entire outsiders team bc dick was so deep in that depression pit. explicitly that was For Him. that was why he did i #because he saw how much he was struggling. and then the way dick sees the same and tries clumsily but SUCCESSFULLY to return that care #ach. i love them. mfeo. b #dc #text #roydick

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urahara-lovepage · 2 months

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bleach media literacy is actually just a measure of how you read urahara as a character

#‘irredeemable bastard who violated the geneva convention’ vs. ‘funny perv who is in love with yoruichi’#sorry not ‘vs.’ i mean ‘and’#did we actually consume the same series #y’all know that tiktok song that goes ‘nobody knows me like you do’? that’s me abt urahara #yes i acknowledge the fact that this man has performed human experiments on multiple occasions #no we cannot conflate this with him touching yoruichi bc both actions are violations #those r two different kinds of violations and the last one feels so forced by kubo #‘oh but he doesn’t respect boundaries’ IS TRUE but whennn was he weird and rapey like that before tybw #i can think of one-off instances bc that’s just kubo’s humor but he did him so dirtyyy #ppl js b searching for any reason to ship urayoru like ewww bitch u reel of filler arc 🤢#i’m so sorry i’m only ranting bc of that one person on here who likes urayoru and has literal essays typed up abt it #AND THEY SHIP SHINJI AND HIYORI? DISGUSTING AFFF 😭🤮#i’m not hearing anyone out bro she acts and look like a child and their relationship is essentially family arguing #getting a ship out of that is insane to me #BYE this is staying in drafts and i’m sc it to send to lilly 😭#well sm for staying in drafts #💀#bleach #clorox bleach #kisuke urahara

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turbo-tsundere · 25 days

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Kokichi's kokiching, part 1 out of 2.

I'm not even gonna post this one into DDDA's main tags, since it's a very silly, very indulgent thing, that only people who've played V3 might appreciate; not everything here is outright funny, AND I coudn't help myself with cheesy editing, like adding sprites here and there (the voice acting just begged for this imo), so there's that, too. :P

But honestly though, Ouma was such a joy to have around XD. I wasn't counting on accuracy when it comes to reflecting his character, even with the few personality-tweaking options that the game provides, but to my surprise... many times it wasn't so bad! And definitely was very fun - he was such a fierce, dramatic, snarky little menace... as he should be. <3

He also had a strange vendetta against carts, dunno why tbh, definitely did not learn it from Gonta. He'd ignore boxes and crates for the most part, destroyed barrels only when I desperately needed one (granted, 8 out 10 times I used them to perform barrel glitch, so fair, I guess, but he did made me stuck inside a Dusk Moon Tower's chest room with no liftstones to teleport myself out of it, leaving reloading my save as the only option...it's like he KNEW)... but carts? None shall remain.

#gonta gokuhara #kokichi ouma #the isekaied entomologist #cw blood #cw spiders #turbo-tsun plays #turbo-tsun plays ddda #gonta run #thanksOuma #ougoku... if you will #there were some moments that can be seen as 'ship-fuel' XD #it really doesn't help that battle couple is like THE trope to which I am weakest to adsgdjash #also he was very helpful but i actually loved more when he was sabotaging stuff it was AMAZING lmao #ngl imma keep remaking Gonta in whatever game let's me do it but playing action rpgs or soulbornes is gonna feel lonely after dd #sorry for random Aldia ref it's just that he solos and I think of him every time i remember 'lies cool cuz 1000s lies vs 1 truth' spiel lol

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astarlightmonbebe · 9 months

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episode 5 has left me considering the different - and similar - ways taeyoung and kwonsook think about themselves, and how they respond to pain/violence.

kwonsook calls herself a monster, someone who goes crazy in the boxing ring. that monster, she says, was created by her father, and her father used abuse, violence, and emotional manipulation to create that monster. he didn’t treat her like human, so it’s no surprise that the way she talks about herself when she boxes is as if she’s discussing an animal: she gets cornered, gets scared for her life, and lashes out to kill. she calls herself a monster with resignation; it’s not what she wanted to be, but she knows it’s what she was. she ran away to escape that monstrosity, to live as a human, doing good things, but that part of her never really died.

taeyoung, too, calls himself a monster. he’s a SOB, he does thing no one with an ounce of humanity would do. he seemingly has no qualms about what he does, perhaps because he can always justify it to himself, always has an exit prepared for when things really get bad (until, i’m sure, he doesn’t). like kwonsook, taeyoung accepts the label of monster, accepts his own inhumanity, even if they are inhuman in very different ways. whereas kwonsook wants to break away from that monstrous part of her - she’s only returned so she can free herself from that part of herself permanently (and if she finds a way to box without a monster, then...) - taeyoung embraces it. it’s through being a monster that he’s found success, how he secures futures for his athletes, and how he’s able to ‘solve’ their (and his) issues. monstrosity was not imposed on taeyoung, but (due to what we know so far) is something he chose for himself (although the factors surrounding this part of his past are decidedly murky).

in this episode, taeyoung and kwonsook also demonstrate similar responses to violence and (emotional) pain. when taeyoung upsets kwonsook by working with her father behind her back, he offers her an outlet for her anger by punching him. later on, after ahreum has already slapped kwonsook, instead of lashing out, kwonsook offers to let ahreum hit her again if it will make her feel better. in parallel responses, both ahreum and kwonsook debate taking that opportunity to hurt, but decide not to (kwonsook because she’s taking a chance on taeyoung, or moreso giving him another one, and ahreum because she decides that she doesn’t owe kwonsook that, that kwonsook is beneath her in terms of boxing, no longer on her level).

kwonsook learned to respond to pain at a young age. in boxing, you can’t flinch from the hit - you have to learn how to take the pain, absorb it, and get back up to hit again. outside of the rink, kwonsook absorbs the pain, but she doesn’t hit again. she’s experienced firsthand what her hits can do to people, and that terrified her. after all, she only boxed so that she could protect her mother. so when confronted with violence and pain, she takes the hit, because pain is what she knows and understands. it’s the emotions behind it that are hard for her. pain is easy for kwonsook, because she’s used to living through it, surviving it; beneath it, she’s always empty. she’s never really cared about boxing; it was what she had to do. the lee kwonsook that was a boxing genius was a monster she ran from, after all. but in order to break away from that monster, she has to come to understand the emotional investment of her fellow female boxers. before, they were just her opponents, never her friends, but now she has to face their own feelings about the sport, the passion they have for boxing that she never felt. like ara said, she didn’t feel happiness about winning, and kwonsook has never lost, so she’s never had to live with that humiliation, either. how her feelings will change in relation to boxing will likely be a reckoning for her.

taeyoung, on the other hand, is confronting his fair share of non-boxing sanctioned boxing. even though kwonsook is the boxer, it’s taeyoung who’s been touched by ‘true’ violence in this present timeline. his life is quite literally on the line, which has been shown again and again. he’s been ambushed by her father, threatened, blackmailed, and beaten up by chairman nam’s guys. he lives on the edge, anxious at every shadow, which is chewing him alive. to him, kwonsook’s anger is much easier to deal with. he knows she might hurt him, but his potential to hurt her is so much more (and if he does, in that case he’d find her anger justified, and probably let her beat him to death or something if what we’ve seen of his feelings for her is an indication of anything), and she might hurt him, but she’d never hurt him as much as other people in his life at the moment would (i.e. by killing him, or hurting the people he cares about). taeyoung is used to weathering the storm of other people’s dislike; he’s the scumbag, and he does bad things, deserves other people’s anger when it’s directed at him.

both taeyoung and kwonsook want to resolve things through violence. i think it’s telling that despite being two emotionally aware people, they both consider other people’s feelings to be so easily taken care of. they want the quick, instant pain, and then they want to get it over with. because the violence is what they’re used to, and to a degree it’s what they both think they deserve. however, what lies beneath that, what doesn’t go away with a single hit, is much harder for them to confront and understand.

#star stumbles #my lovely boxer #kdrama #my thoughts #in boxing you get hit and you hit someone else and whoever is still standing wins #and it's basically that way in the whole world of (physical) sports #and it's going to be so so good when they both end up embroiled in the very emotional situation that they both want to avoid at all costs #ie their feelings for each other / betrayal / broken trust / fear #i think i ended this poorly i kind of got distracted and honestly...honestly i don't KNOW what their response to violence really says #or how it's going to be played with throughout the drama #this text is the bare bones of what i can understand through what i've seen #and oh yes even though i know some people might argue that they're not emotionally aware i think they are...#both very emotionally mature. despite their actions they both know what's up in their hearts #and they're very adept at reading one another (or at least taeyoung is towards kwonsook i think she's getting there but she's also trying to #distance herself from him so. i do think she's ignoring some of what she'll probably reinterpret later on #nobody made taeyoung a monster he chose that path vs kwonsook left the path as soon as she was able to #and her getting punished for his bad deeds...even though at the end she admits they're both scumbags for going through with this deal #because she's understood that she'll hurt boxing whether good things come out of it or not #because she'll be disrespecting ahreum and everyone else by rigging the match and losing on purpose #which will probably add to her conflict later on #and taeyoung simultaneously struggles with not wanting to string her along vs stringing her along #because he's been upfront with her about how he's a bad person and she sees it too but ALSO #he can't bring himself to tell her some of the worst things because he wants her to see him differently #like he wants to act like a good person for her but also knows he needs her #honestly their relationship dynamic reminds me so much of my liberation notes #it's the ahjussi / disenchanted two people approaching each other and something ending up growing there where they thought nothing would #again

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esteemed-excellency · 4 months

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I was talking about Hiram and the Deviless and soullessness today, and the thing that makes it all so compelling to me is:

There is a void inside you that can never be filled. A part of you will always be missing no matter how much you don't care about it. But what if one day you actively chose to care about someone and that's what ultimately saves you.

What if the person you chose to care about the most was the one who took away your ability to care in the first place? What if you were already caring about them, and you had to choose to care again, knowing that you could never do it in the same manner as before? Would you even care this much if that old part of you was still in place? Was that feeling so different from the active choice you make day after day after day?

Much to think about.

#something something feelings vs actions #something something choosing to actively care every single day forever #the first part is very self indulgent bc I had to deal with anhedonia for years and the descriptions of soullessness in fl are just. yeah.#the second part is just my love for narrative themes and I love how both hiram and the deviless caused all their problems #but they also kinda paved the way for improvement in the processes #a weird convoluted way but they work so well together #anyway I am very normal about my characters 👍#(also I'm trying to get over the npc syndrome too and I like to talk about my blorbos)#hiram hargrave #hiram x deviless

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carnivorepussy · 9 months

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being accosted by adult authority figures you barely know for doing something "sexually provocative" that will "tempt someone" (like showing your shoulders) as a Small Child that knows literally nothing about sex or sexual innuendo (but still being treated like you know and you're doing it intentionally) is 20x more damaging to your psyche than seeing two men hold hands.

#its like... 'adults love each other and they dont always have to be like mommy and daddy'#vs 'the adults you need to trust with your life view your body and actions in a way that you dont understand but feels wrong'#'also you need to cater the presentation of your body to the satisfation of these strange adults to avoid humiliation and punishment'#'but also its impossible to avoid this humiliation because you are a powerless child and everyone says this is normal'#i wonder which is more confusing and damaging

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crowbasils · 6 months

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havign cactiflorwer thgouhtrs……..

#basil rambles #i’m so in love with their parallels chat #the way their actions are essentially for the same reasons #but what actions they specifically *took* are different because they grew up differently #kel has had friends with him for years #while basil has only had them recently (we’re talking pre-incident btw)#in a way #without one another #the friend group starts to fall apart #without basil it’s not the same #without kel it’s not the same #and you can feel the first one Especially. as you interact in rw you get a feeling of hollowness #because basil isn’t there to spemd time with you.#basil isn’t there to see you all happy. you aren’t there to see basil happy.#they tend to force positivity upon themselves #basil’s ‘everything will be okay…’ thing and trying to seem fine and kel not letting himself be sad #god they’re so AUFHHHFHF #the booksmart vs streetsmart thing too ERGRGGRH #they’re both emotionally stupid and #i love them sm <3

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grillbyz · 3 months

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thinks again about how asgore breaks the mercy button bc he doesnt want mercy, thinks ab how he could theoretically kill you in one shot thinks about "If a monster doesn't want to fight, its defenses will weaken" and thinks about how asgore's defense weakens and thinks about how his hands don't hurt you and thinks about how, if you spare him and flowey's dead, he kills himself and thinks about "I like Santa Clause. He's a nice old man that never changes. No matter how cruel everything gets, he laughs calmly… and comforts the people of the world...I was never an excellent leader. But i think i might be a nice Santa Claus." Thinks about---