#make the attachment for your help

[sbnkalny]

Mr email, e me a mail, make the attachment a pic of a snail

#TEXT #DAY 11 #Give me a mail #make the attachment for your help

[lydiaalin]

save me horror cowboy game ocs save me

#drawing instead of working on my thesis like that's going to help my stress and anxiety el oh el #hunt be like: you can lose any of your hunters at the drop of the hat (literally) #me: what if I get attached and give them a story anyway #kinda don't want to put it in the main tag but also want to organise on my own blog so. yolo #hunt showdown #amarante montandon #devany kesserly #the tracker #lydiaalin #this makes it looks like they're in the same squad but they don't even know each other

[jackdaw-kraai]

“The Jedi were wrong—” “The Jedi were right—” “Darth Vader is a villain—” “Darth Vader is a victim—”

The Jedi and Darth Vader are whatever the hell I need them to be to make the story happen get the fuck on my level

#star wars #jedi #darth vader #i do not give a shit about your disk horse #i will play whatever side of the argument i want or need to #to make my story happen #they are fictional characters and SO HELP ME GODS #they WILL serve the purposes of my plot! #i attach my emotional health to no fucking horse in this race #instead i feed them sugar cubes laced with lsd to make the race more interesting

[iintervallum]

and i kiss her again

edit: the finished version is here!

#cr spoilers #wip #laudna x imogen #imodna #southern gothic #my art #critical role #i'm super behind on c3 but i still think that making this is important #spoiler culture isn't real because i'm defo going to still be hyped when i finally encounter this episode #edit: i'm interested more in the ship now that they're together since it raises some interesting possibilites #since what was holding each other back i feel in the past was this unspoken SOMETHING like imogen was not saying what she truly felt #and now that its finally brought out into the open maybe other things can be brought out too! like maybe for once they can actually disagre #or not be so attached to each other since they now know for sure that the other loves them in the way they love them #essentially the security of a defined realtionship helps them more in the long run if you get me #as much as i love undefined and messy relationships #they can be very very tricky #like qpr work so well because the parties involved define it as such #it cannot work with ambiguity #i'm still holding onto the idea of them being qpp as well as laudna being some form of aspec #though i do acknowledge that thinking your unlovable is different from the inability to feel romantic/sexual attraction #those two can still...exist together #case in point me #i thought for a long time that no one would like me and still struggle with that #but i myself in addition to that find romantic feelings comes after an emotional connection(demiromantic) #so yeah i still view laudna as someone on the aspec spectrum for that reason #but i'm open to people reasoning it as other things too! #like sure i view them as bi4bi but lesbian headcanons are valid as well #just don't be a dick about it and say that its “impossible for them to be into men or masc-presenting people” #we can just have differing opinons maybe #phew i really did a long vent in the tags so sorry about that LMAO

[sysig]

Ah, childhood memories (Patreon)

#Doodles #UT #Handplates #Sans #Gaster #Having such clear external-view memories of what happened when they were young would probably give Sans a lot of ammunition lol #Not that they'd know any different - their poor memories honestly :( - but having such clear memories in places would have to be weird #Most people have childhood amnesia to an extent! Tho it's hard to say when that would've applied to them anyway with their sped-up growth #Not to mention the trauma #And it's possible that doesn't apply to Monsters to begin with lol - but it's all a moot point anyway since these are their only memories! #It's sad to think of how much of themselves are missing forever since Gaster didn't experience them :( #This is what happens when you get behind on your work >:0 #I really wonder what their lack of memories/restoration of memories would do for their like/dislike of certain things! #Like how Papyrus says that sitting with Sans in his lap makes a lot of sense as to why it was so familiar and comforting #But also that knowing makes it sad as well :( Knowing recolours their understanding and interpretation! #Knowing Why makes things make sense but does it actually Help? It's a tough question - certainly it hurts in the moment #The little things Gaster has infected for them and for himself ♥ Like taking notes! Like chess and sweets and spaghetti and lab coats #And dark sweaters and cigarette smoke and hugs and intelligence - how many pieces of all of them have A Feeling attached #How many more have A Memory - and even more than that A Memory Lost and unrecoverable ughhh ♥ #But the little things they can hold on to hehe <3 Like pinging Gaster for what they all know and remember #Why does he even keep coming over if he knows the reception he'll get? Lol #Feels particularly self-loathing and goes to get bullied as penance pfft

[scionshtola]

11. Despite everything, is it still you? Has the core of who they are as a person remained true through everything, or have they been changed by what they’ve experienced and learned, for better or worse? (x)

There have been quite a few ups and downs in the six or so years since Corisande left their home for Eorzea and ended up joining the Scions. They've changed for the better in some ways--learned more about the world, expanded their horizons exactly as they always wanted; and for the worse in others--more reluctant than ever to burden others with their problems. But they are still the same at their core: a warm, kindhearted bun who wants to help others, learn about the world, and can be found, more often than not, wandering the nearest woods with their oldest friend.

#oc: corisande ymir #gpose #ffxiv #i hope it makes sense why i did this picture for this question/answer. akdlfjds #cilantro was the first friend cori ever made and they've been attached to each other for the past 15+ years!!! he knows they're the same #at their core #do u ever get really sad about your wol...like cori is is the kindest sweetest bun in the whole STAR (to me) and they just want to spend #time with their chocobos and hang out with their wife and do arcane geometry and instead they're the wol #bc more than those other things they want to help others and cant not do that. ough. #anyway. akjfsdsd #cori lore prompts

[aparticularbandit]

One of Mikan's character notes is that she hates clothes that are too big and thus consistently buys things that are actually too small so that she doesn't have to deal with them being potentially too big.

But Mikan. Bestie.

Your beloved is the Ultimate Fashionista.

Junko's just over here making Mikan clothes that fit because Mikan has probably never had anything that fit right once in her entire life. Mikan, this is what clothes that fit feel like. Isn't that nice. Don't you want more of those.

Followed immediately by Mikan bought her own Ultimate Despair nurse's outfit that is absolutely too small.

#musings #junkan #danganronpa #dr2 #mikan tsumiki #junko enoshima #'wait wouldn't it be more despair-inducing for mikan to know junko could tailor her clothes and just didn't' #no because mikan will wear what junko likes because junko likes it #'wait wouldn't it be more despair-inducing for junko to constantly make mikan's clothes too big' #by nature of tailoring you actually want to buy clothes that fit your biggest spot and then tailor the too big spots down #mikan's clothes would have already needed to be too big #what junko is doing by tailoring mikan's clothes is two-fold #it causes despair in a mikan who'd gotten used to her clothes problems because it could have been fixed ages ago #if someone just sat her down and talked it through with her #it's another layer of despair over her situation #BUT ALSO #it increases mikan's attachment to and love of junko for doing the thing no one else would #and not only doing that but going above and beyond by actually tailoring mikan's clothes for her #ryoko wants to give her gf clothes that fit; junko wants to point out how horrible the world is for not helping mikan earlier

[fictive-culture]

Fictive culture is wanting to seperate from your source because being perceived as a character from it makes you deeply uncomfortable, but the thought of detaching yourself from the very thing you formed from is also incredibly uncomfortable for you because it feels like home.

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#if source makes you feel like home it may be helpful to work towards accepting that you are from an unfortunate source and that doesn't make #you a bad person and it is completely okay to still want to be attached to your source and if people take that the wrong way thats not your #problem to bother yourself with #actually plural #culture is #fictive #fictive culture #endo safe #fictive culture is #plural #plural culture #plural culture is

[system-of-a-feather]

A Routine Self-Care / Healing Thing I Do

(And have done for a while. I'm mostly sharing it because I was thinking about it and its relation to other values and thoughts I have and felt like sharing it)

Temporarily denying access to a main coping tool

It sounds counter intuitive, but every so often - either when I want to develop myself more or when I feel like I am stuck for no particular reason and thus feeling as though my life has grown dull and empty - I look at what I spend most of my time doing, particularly to relax, and I say "hey for the next week, we aren't going to do that. Its still there, but that action is off limits" and I choose to limit the usage of whatever I usually spend my time doing

It can cause some stress and so I don't push myself to abide by it 100%, but I try to stick to it when I can, because I often find that when a dominating coping mechanism and time sink is removed, there opens up a vacuum and that vacuum serves to provide a lot of opportunity to introduce new habits, new skills, and see life in a more creative and open manner.

It causes a mild amount of adjustment stress, but so long as the coping mechanism is still there to return to (and you let yourself dabble if it ever gets too stressful with the interest of still minimizing usage) that adjustment stress is a small payment for experiencing new things and being able to expand the things that you can self sooth with.

Not only is this helpful for having diversified coping strategies and introducing healthier habits, but it also practices and helps reinforce to the emotional / trauma brain that sometimes when things that we love and are used to regularly using to sooth aren't available, that we are okay and able to manage with other coping tools - including ones we haven't acquired. It reinforces the idea that even without our familiar coping tools, the world has a lot of things out there that can fill the role as something soothing.

And when you practice the unavailability of preferred coping tools in a space where they aren't ACTUALLY 100% unavailable, you can practice and develop the tolerance to that lack of access in a space where you still have control how much you can tolerate

Then, when life makes it so that something you prefer to cope with is unavailable, you have built up a better relationship with yourself, the world, and coping to feel a little more safe waiting until your preferred coping is available again; because you do this regularly when the access is in your hands. You've survived it multiple times, because its just part of your daily life and practice. Sometimes you don't have what you usually use to meet your needs, and that's okay. There's plenty in the world out there.

#coping #mental health #mental health recovery #ptsd #did #actuallydid #actuallyautistic #actually autistic #coping skills #buddhism #zen buddhism #spoiler for those reading the tags #I realized this is something Ive been doing most of my healing journey that is very much rooted in a lot of zen buddhist principles #the idea that when we can find ourself numb and detatched or overstimulated and oversaturated with Stuff #that we get comfortable and attached to Stuff that we no longer really see the wide expanse of choices we have in existence #and thus every so often it is a good idea to remove excess #remove stuff and preferred attachments and just enjoy what is innate to your existence #what is innate to what is around you #and learn that there is always something in the world there to help you and make sure you are okay #buddhist rambles

[m4gp13]

hc that Ethan is just as unhinged as the rest of the TA demigods but is in possession of a few brain cells so whenever he's with them he needs to tone it down to be the acting mum friend because if he doesn't an errand to get milk will end with a hospital visit

#pjo #percy jackson #ethan nakamura #the titan army #you can't look at ethan gave his eye to his absentee mother went alone into the labyrinth ran off with percy after loosing his arena battle #only to turn around and go back to the people he ran away from nakamura #and see only the most hinged of men #him automatically assuming the role of default mom friend #is definitely a symptom of his mommy issues #Nemesis gave him sole responsibility of a huge task #so he's probably got that oldest daughter thing of like #being desperate for people to help him but not letting anyone get near his work #because he sees himself as the only one able to do the job properly #I love getting attached to a blorbo and just making shit up about them #sorry ethan but your trauma is my favourite hobby

[juliareed]

Mr. Sark has assumed control of your mother's operation— Please stop referring to her as my mother. Therefore, Ms. Derevko must know what he's looking for. // You were hired to kill me? Who hired you? Who put a contract on my life? Derevko. Irina Derevko.

#aliasedit #alias #multiamorymarch #sydney bristow #julian sark #kazu tamazaki #polyamships #polyamoryinfandoms #userthing #multiamory march #sark x sydney x tamazaki #sark x sydney #sydney x tamazaki #sstrio #myedit #unlocking some new levels of rare ships here. #okay so what if. irina's double didn't just hire tamazaki to kill sydney. #what if elena's plan involved the double pretending to be irina for an extended period of time and building a new criminal empire AS irina. #and what if eventually. the double and tamazaki started working together. #and what if right before dying she told him about the assignment she only trusted him with. to kill her daughter. #assuming that all this time he thought that he's working with the real irina. that she managed to convince him and everyone else. #managed to convince herself too. began to believe in the lie. began to think that she's the real irina. #and when tamazaki and sydney meet; she fails to kill him. he escapes but she can't forget about what he said. #and maybe they keep running into each other after that. and the more she learns about the irina that he knew the less sense all of it makes #and then there's only one last option left. one person who can help her to figure out the truth. #so now there are two men who claim to know her mother better than she does. but the thing is. they knew two different irinas. #that's the love triangle material of ALL TIME right there. #ideally i would want sydney and irina's clone to form some sort of a relationship in this verse too. #you heard about getting attached to the clone of your best friend; now get ready for getting attached to the clone of your mother.

[aridridge]

does anyone have any recs for legacy challenges that have drama in them/let you really dive into storytelling & dynamics moreso than focusing on collections/careers/etc. ??

#bonus points for legacies where you can start with your founder as a kid/infant #bc i feel like that will help me get more attached #so many lovely legacy challenges have such cool concepts but they have too many generations with goals im not that into #like it will be a cold day in hell before i play a sim that's pursuing fame again or baking/running a restaurant #those gameplay mechanics get glitchy/repetetive for me so fast so i stray from them #i should prob make my own legacy challenge bc then it would be tailored to ME but it takes a lot of planning and i just wanna play jdlkjdf

[i-bring-crack]

Brightest Fragment becoming a mother figure to 30 year old man who wants vengance for his 80 year old adoptive father's death. Old brainrot is back again—

#solo leveling #woo jin chul #slaping you hitting you #I. Need. The. Rulers. To. Be. Explored!! #imagine trynna make this A rank former disciple of the man that was once your vessel your new vessel #but then you get attached to him because you cant help your older(younger?) brother ashborn in him #how they reflect each other so much in trying to do the right thing and being so loyal to the point it hurts them the most #and then using that new foundpower for vengance against their enemies #just AHHH #it grips you man #brightest fragment #solo leveling spoilers

[clitfisto]

ok i guess im posting my dnd opinions today. alignment as a system is so fickle and debated because the average ttrpg player is not somebody who is interested in philosophical theory, let alone an in-depth discussion of morality, so defining both the good/evil and chaotic/lawful spectrums is fucking difficult because NOBODY here is equipped to answer questions like "what is evil?" let alone "what makes a person Inherently Evil or Inherently Good", and the fact that the average dnd group would need to satisfactorily ANSWER those questions in order to rules-lawyer certain spells/items/abilities is absolutely fucking ridiculous

#and thats not even touching on how ridiculous lawful/chaotic is #like i just use it as a legalist/anarchist scale but some other definitions get really fucking esoteric really quick #the most common one ive seen is lawful means having a personal code you use to make decisions while chaotic means not doing that ig #but now youve defined it as having literally any ideology at all which. everything is ideological all the time always. #like am i lawful for being an anarchist? #its an internal code i follow so by popular definition it would make me lawful right? nvm that the code is a rejection of laws as authority #like it just makes no goddamn sense but thats what people come up with when they dont have the mental frameworks to actually discuss this #and someone notices that legality and morality are attached to 2 different axes even though authoritarian society says theyre the same thing #you get answers like ''well clearly lawful doesnt mean literally actually law-abiding because how could the law be evil?'' #its. why the fuck is something so subjective and conceptually advanced still a core mechanic of the worlds most popular ttrpg #it doesnt HELP except for establishing the bare bones of ''your character should have a personality and it should affect their choices''

[coffeewithcalypso]

My sisters said I don't seem as excited as last time for my partner to get into town. And they're probably right. Not that I'm not excited, just that I seem less excited. I'm kind of stressed because I have this big to do list I'm trying to get through but I can't figure out why I'm doing this to myself. Who cares if the toilets are scrubbed. We've even talked about it and he was like "I don't care what your house looks like I just want to spend time with you" and then showed me videos of his house to make me feel better.

It has nothing to do with him. I think I'm feeling a bit disconnected, which I knew was going to be an issue with a long distance thing, I have a hard time making things feel real that I'm not experiencing in person. I actually manage to go way longer than I thought I would before the feeling starts but this seems about the right time. It doesn't help he wasn't feeling well for awhile so was kind of self absorbed (as you do when you're not feeling well it's not a judgement) but made me feel a bit ignored.

And of course there's that pesky attachment style I have that gets scared any time something serious is going to happen and tries to play it cool. So I'm piling up tasks for myself to avoid feeling things like excitement in case somehow I'm disappointed?

I've been sitting with myself a lot the past couple of days and I know that's what it is. I don't know why my brain is incapable of being a normal person who is excited and happy about things but at least I know what it's doing I guess. If I can hold out for less than 48 hours he'll be here and my stupid brain won't have won.

#knowing i have an avoidant attachment style is helpful #but it also makes me frustrated with myself #like when your cat knows they shouldn't be on the counter but gets up there anyway #it's like why are you doing this??? You know better #pinball baby

[fourthwonton]

Hi, I'm Fourthwonton and onion-esque media has me in a chokehold

*onion-esque media refers to media that seems like a fun, fluffy show to watch on a Friday evening at first sight but it has many layers so you write a new analysis after every rewatch and you now sob every time you think of it.

#you see their character development and their motives and thought process #i hope i'm making sense #bad buddy #the warp effect #gap the series #my dear loser : edge of 17 #mama gogo #cause you're my boy #wake up ladies #the shipper #dark blue kiss #help i have unhealthy attachment issues with shows #help i feel parental towards fictional characters. #you see the characters growing up in age and maturity right in front of your eyes for like 12 weeks #ofc you'd have withdrawal symptoms