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tabithasomeday · 2 months

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My life is far from perfect, but I get to be her, so I'm calling it. a win.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #trans mom #girls like us #lesbian

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tabithasomeday · 2 months

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I did a thing. What do you think?

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #trans mom #girls like us #trans is beautiful #actually autistic #lesbian #lgbtqia+#queer #queeratx #queer atx

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tabithasomeday · 2 months

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Back when I was blogging so much of the first year of my transition, I blogged a little about my writing. I really wanted to write. After all, writing a novel is what cracked my egg, and I enjoyed having written it. But, although I made a couple of decent starts, I kept getting blocked. Late last November I decided to make another try, I was going to get a thousand words a day written about anything. I didn't have to stick to a specific project, I could write anything, as long as the words flowed. That helped, and I found myself writing again. I made a rule that I wouldn't play any video games on a given day until I'd written my thousand words (I was sort of addicted to BG3 at the time).

About a week and a half in, I was still writing, and happy about that, when I had a epiphany. Back when I wrote Lucid (my completed novel) I tried to get an agent so I could try to get it published. That didn't go anywhere. But each time I started writing something else, I thought of it in terms of getting it published. My epiphany was that I don't care if I get published. I posted Lucid online, and a lot of people enjoyed it. There's no reason I can't post other stuff I write online as well. Further, if I'm not trying to get published, then what's marketable is one hundred percent irrelevant. I can truly write whatever I want. I don't have to stick to published material sizes, I can write all the trans protagonists I want. I can write for me, and if other folks happen to enjoy it, that's a bonus.

In December I wrote ~80k words. I wrote a ahsort novel's worth of a project I'd been wanting to write for years. I started a short story that I finished in the first days of January. I posted the first chapter of an unfinished novel, and started posting more weekly. I'm writing, and it isn't a burden., It's something I look forward to. I'm not writing at my December pace. I knew that wouldn't be sustainable for me, but i enjoyed it while it lasted, but I'm writing almost every day. I'll be posting the first chapters of my novel-length project soon, and another short story. I've been adding chapters to the unfinished novel and plan to wrap it up in the spring.

I also got invited to a Discord full of other trans folk who write trans-centric fiction. It's an awesome community, and I'm enjoying being part of it.

My current work is posted on my Scribblehub account

I think the lesson here is that capitalism ruins everything.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans mom #girls like us #trans woman #trans lesbian #actually autistic #writing

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tabithasomeday · 1 year

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I did some training in dealing with trolls recently.

#trans #girlslikeus #trans is beautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans woman #trans lesbian #we wont be erased #trans mom #girlswhocode #transmom #girls like us #lgbtq #translesbian #trans visibility #lesbian #this is what trans looks like #no makeup

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tabithasomeday · 2 years

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I just realized I never posted these here. These are from queer bomb, which feel right next to my 57th birthday. It was awesome to be around so many queer folk.

(the top couple of pics are using portrait mode, so not truly no filter. I usually don’t post filtered photos, but I really liked those)

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans woman #trans #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #trans mom #girlswhocode #transmom #girls like us #transitioning #lgbtq #translesbian #transvisibility #lesbian #thisiswhattranslookslike #nomakeupexceptlipstick

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tabithasomeday · 2 years

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Reblog if you’re a fifty-seven-year-old autistic trans woman walking through the park after a muggy Saturday morning run while listening to Haley Williams.

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tabithasomeday · 1 year

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What do I want?

When I was a kid, if you'd asked me what I wanted (and I hadn't been afraid to tell the truth), I could have answered. I wanted three things.

I wanted to get married to a smart, pretty woman and have a family.

I wanted to be a scientist and invent amazing things.

I wanted to be a girl.

I never expected to get all three. Two was the best I could hope for. And, after all, I was right about that. I did not become a scientist, and, although a little disappointed, I'm okay with that. The marriage ended, but I'm okay with that, too. I did marry an awesome woman, and we're still a family, if more than a bit non-standard.

So, what do I want now?

I want the best for my kids, definitely. I want to see them grow up to be healthy and successful (by whatever their own definitions of successful end up being). I want the world to be a safer place for queer folks and BIPOCs, and others that society makes life so hard for.

But what do I want for me?

Sometimes I think I want a new love. A new romance that leads to a relationship to last for the rest of my life.

Sometimes I think I just want a best friend. A deep platonic relationship, without the complications of romance or sex.

I'm not if one of those is more real than the other, or if either of them are even possible for me at this point in my life.

But I know that I want someone in my life. Someone who I have a strong connection with, and who has the space in their life to make room for me. It could be a romantic relationship. It could be purely platonic (I think). I want to be a priority for some who's a priority to me.

I want that so much.

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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I’m glad I made it this far. Considering that I didn’t start my transition until halfway through my fifty-second year on this planet, I think I’m doing okay.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #trans mom #girlswhocode #it’s never too late #actuallyautistic

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tabithasomeday · 2 years

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A few days after writing my last post, about how well my running is going, I went and messed up. I went on a group run, and it was in the dark on a route I've never run in daylight. There was a raised ridge, and I hit it just wrong and went sprawling. Like a true champ, I managed to break my fall with my head. Other than being very bloody (you should have seen the faces of the other runners when I got back to the meeting place), it wasn't that bad, though. But I also managed to pull my glute (which I didn't notice right away). So, now I'm having to take a few days off running while that heals. It seems to be coming along nicely, so I'm hopeful that I'll be able to run in the 5k I'm signed up for next weekend.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #trans mom #girlswhocode #running #falling #queer atx

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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Me three and a half years ago, two weeks after starting HRT, vs. me now. I'll take it. #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #girlswhocode #transmom #translesbian #notadisguise #wewontbeerased #transgender #lgbtq #transvisibility #nofilter #nomakeup #exceptlipstick #thisiswhattranslookslike #lifeinquarantine #lesbian #queeratx #actuallyautistic #pride #transitiontuesday #transformationtuesday https://www.instagram.com/p/CQcfafXn8vn/?utm_medium=tumblr

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tabithasomeday · 2 years

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#notadisguise #transisbeautiful #trans is beautiful #trans lesbian #trans later #trans mom #actually autistic #actuallyautistic #queeratx #queer

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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My skin's a little beat up from electro and laser yesterday, but I sort of like these pics.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #girlswhocode #trans mom

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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I'll very likely always be a bit thicker than I'd prefer, but I'm pretty happy with my body these days.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #trans mom #girlswhocode #actuallyautistic

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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I went out dancing last night with a new(ish) friend. I had an absolute blast.

#girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #transgender #notadisguise #trans #trans woman #trans lesbian #wewontbeerased #trans mom #girlswhocode #no makeup except lipstick #queeratx #lesbian

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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Not particularly happy right now. Things will get better, though. #bleah #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #girlswhocode #transmom #translesbian #notadisguise #wewontbeerased #transgender #lgbtq #transvisibility #nofilter #nomakeup #exceptlipstick #thisiswhattranslookslike #lifeinquarantine #lesbian #queeratx #actuallyautistic https://www.instagram.com/p/CPPWYq5ntjh/?utm_medium=tumblr

#bleah #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #girlswhocode #transmom #translesbian #notadisguise #wewontbeerased #transgender #lgbtq #transvisibility #nofilter #nomakeup #exceptlipstick #thisiswhattranslookslike #lifeinquarantine #lesbian #queeratx #actuallyautistic

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tabithasomeday · 3 years

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I spent my day at the Austin Trans Picnic. It was great to hang out with so many other trans folks! #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #girlswhocode #transmom #translesbian #notadisguise #wewontbeerased #transgender #lgbtq #transvisibility #nofilter #nomakeup #exceptlipstick #thisiswhattranslookslike #lifeinquarantine #lesbian #queeratx #actuallyautistic #pride https://www.instagram.com/p/CQphQvnH1v6/?utm_medium=tumblr

#transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #girlswhocode #transmom #translesbian #notadisguise #wewontbeerased #transgender #lgbtq #transvisibility #nofilter #nomakeup #exceptlipstick #thisiswhattranslookslike #lifeinquarantine #lesbian #queeratx #actuallyautistic #pride

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