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popstart · 17 days

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Yeah you know what i'll send G1 for sexuality and gender HCs. why not

Alejandro: Ive never sat down and thought about this but bisexual seems correct.

Beth: I think ive always operated under the assumption shes lesbian lol. brady is SUCH a comphet boyfriend

Bridgette: I have a hard time seeing her as anything but straight I cant even lie? like i love wlw bridgette ships but not in a way that I wouldn't be unsurprised if they were canonically shut down lmfao 😭😭😭I really like the lesbian bridgette hc I just cannot get behind it in a way that aligns me with actually thinking bridgette would be a lesbian

Cody: I have no opinions on what I think his sexuality is but I cannot get behind relationships between him and girls

Courtney: LESBIAN. but i do like seeing other hcs for her. I see cases for her being bi, I see cases for her being straight. shrug emoji. I do really like duncney as a ship though which throws some wrenches in that hc just a little bit lmfao

Dj: I operate in a world where Dj is a lesbian even though I dont think i seriously think that. Its just how it goes

Duncan: i have a hard time seeing him as anything other than straight. like. im sorry this guy would be so homophobic. he would use the word gay as an insult. However, i do like aleduncan. so take of that as you will (its funny and makes me laugh) he has gay friends though omg🙄🙄🙄🙄

Eva: LESBIAN. yes its stereotypical. no i dont care. shes such a dyke

Ezekiel: straight??????? idk. this isnt even a "hes sexist so he would be other flavors of bigoted" I just dont live in a universe that I think ezekiel could be queer

Geoff: bisexual except i dont think he would label it. he thinks its normal for everyone to be a little attracted to the same gender. my friend that has only seen a little bit of total drama also likes him being a trans man which i mostly find funny but i could see lmao.

Gwen: lesbiannn. I really like the hc shes a trans girl as well, or nonbinary. im fine with either of those. regardless she is not cishet in any fashion. i genuinely think she is very very lesbian coded aligned because the way she behaves with men in the show is just???? so strange? i dont think it was intentional from the producers though which has me hesitant to mark it as actually "coded". Also i so seriously believe she was one sided crushing on courtney in all stars. why is she so weird. like im not a big gwourtneyer but wanting to impress a girl that bad teeters into "theres no straight explanation for this" territory

Harold: idk. trans in some direction. last year I remember seeing one of those your fave is posts and it was transbian harold and i remember laughing so hard bc i wasnt in the fandom at the time I had no idea someone would hc harold of all people as transbian.

Heather: trans girl lesbian though im less heavy on her being trans I just like it symbolically. saw someone forever ago say t4t gweather and I liked it a lot. her bald era was such an interesting look into her mind bc that is straight up gender dysphoria. I dislike aleheather bc i hc her as just so so lesbian.

Izzy: nonbinary unlabeled. she dgaf about labels so hard so im not gonna try to break it down either.

Justin: hes always given me gay man energy

Katie + Sadie: I love them as lesbian but i prefer them staying just friends (though im fine with the ship.)

Leshawna: Ive never thought about it. i think she plays a straight bff role very easily but she could be bi or lesbian

Lindsay: I prefer her as lesbian but I also like lyler in a way that has me thinking she could be bi. unlabeled maybe but lesbian aligned. dunno, I guess it could depend on the universe lol.

Owen: bisexual. ik this isnt "canon" but its canon enough to me.

Noah: Seeing people argue over this has me not giving a shit at all. bisexual i guess. i dont care

Sierra: i LOVE lesbian sierra. hill i'll die on is that shes a lesbian that made up a guy to crush on to try and appear normal since she has no friends in school.

Trent: i have quite literally 0 opinions on trent that are based on canon. hes a straight man

Tyler: straight to me i cant lie, but i like transfem lesbian tyler its cuteness

#ask #idk how hot some of these takes are just know i give 0 shits about if other peoples hcs are different to mine #and i dont sit down and think of characters as straight its just kinda the first place my mind goes to

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tradingstars · 2 years

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I forgot I had a tumblr. I already posted this on twitter so I might as well start using this. I did this art for the 4th anniversary of 14-crush! I found it when I was little and it was really cute and loved the idea of dedf1sh getting characterized! And unlike twitter, I can say as much as I want! At the time I guess I never realized how much of an impact this was on me? It was real fun to read and all but it kinda gave me some early sings of some interests. Reading it got me way into splatoon again after not playing for a while and got me to buy octo expansion I think. This was also the first thing I’ve read about the concept of gay people and got me to be a but curious im the topic. And now I’m bi and trans soo I should owe a little bit of that to 14-crush. Overall the comic was just a big part of my childhood (that was 4 years ago lol). So thanks Bri for the amazing comic!

Damn I wrote a lot

@14-crush I guess I should do this too even though you saw this on twitter sorry

#splatoon #splatoon 3

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jadenvargen · 3 years

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Idk if youve made a post like this but any m4m animes/mangas you recommend? Im trying to find stuff thats not overly romance focused or like. Idol groupey?? Like ikemen. Also watched kaiji because I saw your art and my soul hurts from the first arc alone

IM SORRY FOR THAT KAIJI IS SO MUCH uhm... i think i know what you mean? i don’t read too many gay manga( bcs i have hard time finding ones i like also😭) but there’s some i really recommend! Been a while since I read some of these so I’ll try my best to warn but I might have forgotten something ;; ! anyway I have a few to reccomend!

Shimanami Tasogare

you’ve probably heard of it, it gets recced a lot, but it’s for a reason. It weaves an expert narrative, focusing on a small community of LGBT+ (an older gay man, a pair of lesbian wives, a transgender bicyclist, the mysterious agender leader, and a young child who’s unsure of their gender identity and presentation) people and how they navigate the world. Its POV character is a young closeted gay man struggling with self acceptance, and finds family and love within this group.

warnings:

Homophobia, Bullying, Transphobia as central and constant, but also mentioned suicidal ideation, pedophilia, parental abuse, as well as cancer.

What did you eat yesterday?

If you’re not much for romance, this one’s definitely for you! Not to say the romance isn’t there- it’s just very casual. A fun and honest tale about a gay odd couple and their day to day struggles, from light to major, told with the help of food recipes that they eat for dinner every day. Very comfy. Also has a delightful live action show!

warnings: Homophobia, grindr-esque fatphobia at times, domestic abuse(one of the men is a lawyer and deals with lots of types of cases), and the biggest one would be a bad bit in Chapter 2 where a woman thinks our protagonist is going to assault her while he thinks she may be homophobic. I would honestly skip this chapter.

Hare no Hi

A one-shot about a gay divorced dad learning his son is gay too, and struggling to know how to help him. Since it’s so short, I won’t say more but I think it’s really amazing!

warnings:

the son has a crush on the dad’s friend, who’s an adult. this isn’t encouraged by him or anything(in fact explicitly rejected) but warning just to be safe!

I hear the sunspot/ Hidamari ga Kikoeru

A HoH university student recruits the help of a go-getter shonen protag classmate to take notes, and their friendship and feelings for each other develop along the way. It’s more about the HoH guy’s struggles to fit in and what to do in life, and how to fit in a relationship in all that. I’m not HoH myself, so while I cannot definitely decide if it’s perfect representation by any means, I think the story and characters are very real and wonderful to follow.

(The reading order is all out of whack for a lot of chapters uploaded though so I’d reccommend checking a read order thing before starting lol...Also, the last chapter is gone from most scan sites for some reasons, but just searching “chapter 29″ should lead to plenty of downloads.)

warnings: ableism, bullying

Blue flag:

Not my personal favourite, but a lot of people swear by it! Different strokes, so it might be for you. Basically: Boy likes Girl, who Likes Boy’s friend, who Likes Boy, then other complicated factors start to enter the picture. It’s a sort of relationship drama between every character in their large friend group.

warnings: homophobia, bullying, sexual assault mention, i think i remember some weird homophobic rhetoric that was like endorsed but maybe i’m mixing things up, katy perry and taylor swift pro gay mixtape.

not a lot because i’m kind of picky and i tend not to like a lot of what i read ;_; a lot of gay stuff is just bad yaoi, hard bara which is fine but not like.. a story lol. or like.. super focused on highschoolers and i don’t care for that. some general lgbt manga i’d reccomend other would be:

double house (character study of trans woman cis woman roomates.. and then more:) )

i wanna be your girl!(cis girl in love with her real girl childhood friend but struggling if these feelings mean she’s invalidating her gender but Actually she’s just bi... the t girl is straight though so be warned.)

Ohana Holoholo (2 ex girlfriends become roommates to raise the child of one of them, and rediscover old feelings along the way.)

Koi Ga Ochitara is explicit, 18+ but if you’re an adult gay man it is. Somehow very touching and relatable.

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yomiurinikei · 2 years

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okie. pride hcs uhhh im just gonna do dra for now kiss kiss

under the cut for length! i'm not discussing theeee ch1 killer in this post everyone else is here tho, and! mentions of internalized homophobia/transphobia, aaand minako being a bad parent- ALSO k1nj0ma3 mention in the last section, i don't know anyone who needs it tagged but yk

kiyoka: bi! i think she'd just like.... not even consider that she could be anything but her for a long time, then when she finally realizes, it's because she's crushing on a girl, and she assumes that like "oh ig im a lesbian then bc i don't like any guys!" it. takes her a moment, but she does eventually realize she doesn't have to actively be crushing on a guy and a girl to be bi. also shes cis i'm sorry i think. she's one of those characters who's like... their experiences can be seen as an allegory for being trans but it doesn't work for their character for them to be trans. obvi all trans kiyoka hcs are so so so valid! i just don't see it

kizuna: lesbian. i'm sorry her entire thing with guys is literally just because of how she was raised/it's entirely comphet. she hasn't even considered she could be a lesbian and prolly has some internalized homophobia tbh. i also think she's cis just because i. Do Not think minako would go "oh yes obvi if ur trans that's fine u just have to find a rich boy to seduce ☺️" it does not fit. however i think if she felt safe enough to question she may end up id'ing as a demigirl

ayame: trans wlw. she doesn't put a label on her attraction beyond that, she knows she likes girls, she knows she is a girl, and that's all that rlly matters to her rn. she's still working out how to even talk with people, let alone pretty girls, so she doesn't need to stress out about semantics

kanata: trans bi!! briefly considered trans het but i do think she'd like girls, i just see her as having a male lean? she's generally not very interested in relationships, just because she doesn't really socialize a lot with people who aren't patients, so...

kakeru: iiid say bi? i don't have a lot to say here i think he's just chill about things and takes any crushes or anything that happens as it happens. he knows and understands he can't control who he likes, so he's just. waiting for his person :] also i kinda see him as nb anywyas

kinji: cis gay but also if you asked him abt his gender and like..... gave him cause to think about it he'd definitely have a crisis over it. ultimately just can't find the words or anything consistent so he. decides to ignore it. he uses he/him, likes guys, and if/when he's with a guy, it's a queer relationship. that's all that matters to him

haruhiko: the thing with satsuki was comphet on his end and my proof is his ftes. why do you care so much about getting a girl, haru? so you can be closer to your bros by the shared experience? okay haru. he's so fucking gay and so oblivious. i think. he's another one who's not really huge on crushes though, he finds people rlly attractive sometimes, but it's mostly. appreciation, not a desire to be with them. also he's trans but i don't really have anything to say there he just. Is ftm

satsuki: trans bi. ik ive hc'd her as a lesbian in the past but i just think she's got a slight female lean. who knows what i'll end up saying next year!! ig we'll find out. anyways she did. like haru but also it never really felt right to her? didn't feel bad or anything, but as much as being all lovey-dovey with him made her happy, she just never rlly saw it going further/lasting . she's another one i can rlly see as being nb!

yamato: like.... mlm? nblm? not to get into like.... hyper specific stuff this is the first time i've felt the need to do this for this post so i feel a bit bad put. id honestly put him as genderflux. sometimes he id's as non-binary, sometimes a demiboy, sometimes hes solidly a trans guy, but since it usually stays in that range, and too him, it feels like a spectrum between those labels, he just sticks with genderflux masc + gay

mikako: lesbian also i'd say demigirl. i don't. have a lot to say here tbh. i can also rlly see her as pan but??? idk!

akane: lesbian. i can also. see her as bi but idk i kinda think that the utsuro thing would put her off guys. not that it was necessarily,, traumatic? she's rlly solidly at peace with what happened there and she's moved on from "he saved me i must devote myself to him i guess this is love" but she just... hasn't rlly been into a guy since/doesn't think she'll feel that way again, so she generally calls herself a lesbian, for the ease of it. also i have 0 thoughts on her gender identity oop-

utsuro: . ???????? tbh ive never.... really had utsuro ships (this is.... very close to the truth so well let the small lie slide). he's one where i don't rlly see him with girls, but also yk i don't. think he'd label himself or be into anyone. i also wouldn't say aro????? he's just completely abstained from having any thoughts or feelings on relationships whatsoever. ,,,in fact, would be really be able to have one? we all know. how he feels abt his luck, couldn't he pull anyone he wants? i don't think that would make him happy, and that doesn't make for a good relationship. he really just can't connect with people properly irregardless of love so. anyways he's ftm

teruya: COMPHET LEVEL 100 only kizuna beats him for level of comphet. he definitely gets really bad crushes on guys really easily but he can't.... recognize them as crushes, and latches onto any guy like crazy. but. yk. he prolly doesnt realize this for a while so......... rip. i think he's amab and like.. doesn't particularly feel like a guy, but calling himself anything else feels Wrong, whereas being a guy is just like. a thing to him so. it's fine by him!

rei: she's like. canonically celibate and i'm 90% sure linuj said she'd like. abstain from all relationships if she ever felt attraction and tbh i'm not.... gonna comment on that whatsoever but also she's definitely a lesbian. she's cis i think i don't see her as trans ig

tsurugi: gay. i know i've made a lot of the guys on this list mlm but it's not.... my fault i'm going off linujs writing and my vibes and i've written a whole essay about how you can read the entire franchise and track linujs shifting queer views so.. it's not my fault that all the guys in dra are limp in the wrist. anyways back to tsurugi. he was totally into kouhei he just didnt realize and it wasn't until his ftes with maeda. wherein he started to crush on maeda. he rlly is my poor little meow meow but anyways he prolly finds a good husband one day so it's okay. also we started off with "you feel so trans but it does not work with your story" and ig we're ending with it too.

im hungry now and also kinda dizzy i might go have grapefruit. if u read this far: make sure to eat ur fruits and get ur vitamins 🥰

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yourfriendlele · 3 years

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Sorry about the rant but..

Im so pissed with the whole jacket situation. And it’s been rubbing me the wrong way since the beginnig...

First of all, i don’t give them any brownie points for confirming lgbt identities outside the show. Not for May being trans, Scarlet being gay, Ilia being a lesbian or Blake being bi. And don’t get me wrong, im happy about it but i know that something that isn’t in the show, won’t be seen by the fans who only watch the show.

So unless you watch the panels/interviews/follow someone on twitter, the representation doesn’t exist.

I know they have an in universe explanation for this.... but i don’t buy it. Sorry... it’s waaay too similar to what Jk Rowling did, and funcking Disney did and Dc did. To me this just erases the queer identities instead of better representing them.

So i obviously wasn’t gonna praise RT for teasing a wlw couple on a merch description when they don’t have the balls to say they’re lgbt in the show........ I unsderstand why people were excited, but tbh, to me they could have written: “Are you gay and desperate???? Give us your money!” and i’d feel the same way.

And then this (credit to @/wlwbumbleby on twitter)

First of all the typos sakdhaskdhkasdhkasjhd omg. But yeah they were clearly desperate to take it down and im gonna guess it was bc of backlash.

I seriously don’t believe there’s an intern ships bb and wanted to be cute. This is a company, they surely have editors approve things before posting.

This also wasn’t a spoiler. The show has already teased that Blake and Yang could be more than just friends. And when you write a romance, even if you wanna keep your audience guessing if the couple will actually end up together, you don’t wanna hide the actual romance. Referencing the existence of a romance isn’t a spoiler.

So i can only guess it was bc of backlash, whether it was from homophobes or people who were tired of the teasing. I honestly don’t know....But if i had to bet i’d say the backlash from homophobes was much bigger, bc most of the posts from bb fans i saw were positive. But again, that’s speculation, i could be totally wrong and you’re free to disagree.

Now, im not upset bc they’re “””””shipbaiting””””””. I hate this term and this is about a much bigger issue than ships. I like bb a lot, but i’m not asking for a confession, a kiss or a relationship. Right know, I just want them to be confirmed lgbt. In the show.

It would not only help with the romance (they’re two girls after all) but also make their identities, and therefore the identities of real lgbt people, more visible. Instead of having fans speculate and guess and come up with reasons why they’re actually supposed to be xyz identity.

I don’t think it’ll happen tho... At this point, i don’t expect quality lgbt rep from RWBY.... I expect them to hint at something possibly gay and them rush to to any damage control necessary... which is dissapointing.

#rwby #bumbleby #im upset can you tell

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vampireqrow-moved · 3 years

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um its my birthday so wait until 12:01am pst to block me if u hate this post 🥰🥰

long story short the pansexual label is redudant and actively harmful (its far from the worst problem bisexuals face but it is one issue) and i dont hate anyone who identifies as pan because A) those ppl are bi like me and B) i used to identify as pan myself.

if thats enough for you to block me and make a callout post for me then i cant stop you but pretty please either read this whole thing or just wait a few minutes for my bday to end 🥰🥰

anyways im kicking off this point with some personal experiences bc i love to talk to myself. i got introduced to the pan label at maybe 10ish years old, and started identifying with it pretty much right away. i heard about it before bisexual and it was pitched as attraction to all genders and of course trans people. i was of course a trans ally! i had trans friends! i was trans also but hadnt figured it out yet! the way i had heard of it, there was no bisexual, there was no need for bisexual, and identifying differently was excluding trans people, which I was certainly against. being bisexual was trans exclusionary and why would i exclude trans people? the 'hearts not parts' slogan was thriving around this time and i genuinely said it and meant it.

as i started to become more online, mostly through roleplaying websites and tumblr here, i started hearing of bisexuality. it was supposedly an older term, so older people still used it, but it was common knowledge that pansexual was the better, inclusive label and younger people should adopt the new inclusive language instead of the old and transphobic words like bisexual. /s

and then bi and pan solidarity was all the rage! pansexual wasnt erasing bisexuality, why did anyone ever think that? bi and pan were two separate and complete identities that were valid and had to be respected or youre a mean exclusionist. and an asexual person, hearing people labelled exclusionist always meant they were excluding people from the lgbta community who rightfully belonged, denying peoples lived experiences, and generally telling people theyre wrong about their sexuality because theyre too young. and all of those things were bad and had hurt me, so it would be ridiculous to change labels and support "pan exclusionists" because they were just as bad as ace and aro exclusionists, and they were all the same people. or so it seemed to me at that time.

then, 'hearts not parts' began getting called out for blatant transphobic by insinuating that pansexual was the only identity that loved people for their "hearts" and personalities instead of those gross gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and even straights who only saw people for their "parts". (STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE NOT OPPRESSED. I AM MERELY POINTING OUT THAT PANSEXUALITY WAS SHOWN AS ABOVE ALL OTHERS.) many pan people, including myself, began to denounce the slogan and insist pansexuality wasnt transphobic, there had just been a coincidence that a transphobic slogan was everywhere and a huge part of people's explantions of and associations with pansexuality. hint: it wasnt a coincidence.

from my perspective, this is when i began to see people discussing dropping the word pansexual. that seemed to be a huge step from getting rid off a transphobic slogan, and these people were just meanies who hated microlabels. and i like microlabels! as a genderfluid person, and someone who has friends who use specific aro and acespec labels, ive seen how people can use them to name specific experiences while still acknowleging their presence underneath umbrella terms like aromantic, asexual, nonbinary, lgbta, and for some people, queer.

pansexuals dont do that. they dont label pansexuality as a specific set of experiences under the bisexual umbrella, they see themselves as a separate identity, and even if they started to, the history of biphobia and transphobic undeniably linked to the existence of pansexuality in enough to stop being worth using. but i digress. pansexualitys shiny new definition that many people cling to is that pansexual is attraction to all genders. bisexual is two or more genders.

which. frankly? doesnt make any sense. my guess is that its supposed to be inclusive of nonbinary genders and those a part of cultures who historically have not had a binary gender system in the first place. i cannot speak for the latter group, but as a nonbinary person, its not inclusive. anyone can be attracted to nonbinary people. literally anyone. theres no way to know if everyone you meet is nonbinary or not. whether or not a nonbinary person reciprocates those feelings and is interested in pursuing a relationship is completely up to the individual, regardless of the sexualities of the people involved.

bottom line is that you cant number the amounts of genders someone can be attracted to, thus rendering those definitions pointless. people can be attracted to all kinds of people regardless of gender, even if they are gay, a lesbian, or straight. all people can date thousands of nonbinary genders if all people involved are interested and comfortable with it. numbering the genders you can be attracted to diminishes the post of nonbinary, as it is not a third gender, it simply any experience not fitting within the western concept of the gender binary (if the person so chooses to identify as such. if you cant tell already, the nonbinary experience is varied between every single nonbinary person.) important to note also that no widely accepted bisexual text defines bisexual as attracted to exclusively two genders or even the "two or more genders". i know this is used a lot but please read the bisexual manifesto. its free online i promise.

some people also claim pansexuals experience "genderblind" attraction while bisexuals feel differently attracted to different genders. this is very nitpicky for whats supposed to be two unconnected idenities, but thats only part of the problem. this definition is also not in any widely accepted bisexual texts, and bisexuality has never excluded those who experience genderblind attraction. i am in fact a bi person who experiences genderblind attraction. this does not mean i am not bisexual. it simply means i experience bisexuality differently than other bisexuals, and thats wonderful! no broad communities like bisexuality are expected to all share the same experience. we are all so different and its amazing were able to come together under the bisexual flag.

last definition, or justification i should say, is that yes these definitions are redundant and theyre the same sexuality, but people prefer different labels and thats okay. i agree in principle. people can define themselves as many things like homosexuals or gays or lesbians or queers or even other reclaimed slurs, while still not labelling themselves under the most "common" or "accurate" labels.

but pansexuality isnt the same as bisexuality, which may sound silly but hear me out. it has been continually used as a way to further divide bisexuals, who are already subject to large amounts of lgbta discrimination. "pansexuality was started by trans people who were upset with transphobia within the bisexual community! it cant be transphobic OR biphobic!" except of course that it can and it is. to say that trans people cant be transphobic is absurd. transmedicalism is right there, but thats not what im getting at. all minorities can have internal and sometimes external biases against people who are the same minority as them.

pansexuality was started as a way to be trans inclusive at the expense of labelling bisexuality as transphobic when its not. transphobia is everywhere, and bisexuals are not exempt. instead of working on the transphobia within the community, the creators of pansexuality decided to remove themselves from it to create a better and less tainted word and community, and the fact that pansexuality is intended to replace bisexuality or leave it for the transphobes goes to show a few things. pansexuality and bisexuality are inherently linked because the pan label is in response to the bi label. due to its origins, it is inherently competing with bisexuality and it cant be "reclaimed" from its biphobic roots. pansexuality is not a whole, separate, and valid label. its a biphobic response to issues within the bisexual community.

to top off this post, heres something a full grown adult once said to me. in person. she was my roommate. "i feel like im pan because im attracted to trans people. trans women, trans men, i could definitely date them. but not nonbinary people because thats gross and weird." she saw pan as trans inclusive and defined herself that way as opposed to bi which is shitty!

also a little extra tidbit about my experiences identifying as pan. i saw myself as better than every bi person. all of them. even my trans and bi friends. whenever they brought up being bisexual i would think to myself "why dont you identify as pansexual? its better and shows people you support trans people." because i was made to believe bisexuality didnt and was therefore inferior. thats the mindset that emerged from my time in the pansexual community. i am so sorry to all of my bisexual friends even if they never noticed. i love you all and hope you have a great day. this also goes to any bisexuals or people who identify as bi in anyway, such as biromantic or simply bi. love you all.

ummm yeah heres some extra reading i found helpful and relevant. here and here. also noooo dont disagree with me and unfollow me im so sexy 🥴🥴🥴

#if u have follow up questions ill probably answer them 2morrow #if u ask something just be nice its my birthday 🙄🙄#anyways time to tag this lol !#pansexuality #biphobia #transphobia #q slur #long post #my post #ask to tag maybe??

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rakkikuroba · 4 years

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Tw : swearing ? Long post.

I was high when I write this. Please don’t be offended, I’m gay, most of what I say is based on my feeling on those characters and probably some stereotypes of gay people. Also there is probably some grammatically mistakes. And some pretty shitty things I didn’t change because idc.

Also this was supposed to be how they are gay but it’s more of me yelling who is gay with no evidence. (Please don’t make me lose followers or get any hates)

Every gay character in BC

One. All the motherfucking elves. They all were attracted to Licht. But this fucker choose to fuck an human. And he died because of this. Ché Licht. Ché !

2. Lumière is bi. He would have fucked Secre and Licht but Licht choose his sister. What a bitch.

3. Noelle and Nozel tho. GAAYY. Your attraction for Nero is showing Noelle ! Nozel is gay, he wants to fuck Fuegoleon, don’t lie babe.

4. Jack, jack wants to fuck Yami, apparently he isn’t the only one (Dante).

5. Dorothy. Lesbian energyyyyy.

6. Sol. ._. Flashback of the bath scene. Hum... hehe boobs.

7. Lolopechka. Hell she’s bi. She touched Mimosa’s boobs with such confidence there is nothing straight there. Also Lolo, ask consent next time, it’s important.

8. Mereo. There is two reason why Mereo isn’t married, she scared the men and she fuck women.

9. Marx, gay.

10. The Zogratis. Dante is closeted, he tries to hide his gayness. But we know Dante. Fuck whoever you want.

11. Dazu and Bow, you saw the episode, that’s gay.

12. Finral. Biiiiiii.

13. Zora. Idk. I just think he’s nice. He drinks a lot of respect women’s juice.

14. Most of the witches. I mean most of them never saw a man...

15. All the knight in the Blue Rose. Idc about the one saying she has a boyfriend, it isn’t in the manga. Fuck off.

16. Acier. She got married at 18~19. But she has strong bi energy. Also it probably was an arranged marriage so. Gay feeling. Here. But she dead so ?

17. Alecdora. That was some crush on William here. Hehe.

18. Letoile, big lesbian energy here.

19. Undyne, on one way i want to see her as Lolopechka foster mom and in the other way, she has a crush on her. Anyway, lesbian.

20. Kirisch. Gay. Move on.

21. Julius. Pansexual, you have a strong magic ? Lets fuck. Lets kiss.

22. Luck and Magna. This one is for @crazycookiemaniac ! Gaysss. With 3 s.

23. Yami. Our man is a man of acceptance (i feel like im lying here...)

23. Charmy gives me asexual vibes. You know ? Why having sex when we can just eat in bed ?

24. Leopold. He was raised by the best with acceptance. Bisexual as fuck (is there anyone in this house who’s straight ?)

25. I actually really like the headcanons that Vanica is trans. Idk. That would be cool. Also she’s pan.

26. Zenon. Nonbinary Zenon nonbanary zenon 🥺 anyway, aro. This man doesn’t care.

27. For the ace bird we have... Nero ! And for the ace loving bird... William !

28. Nils from the Silver Eagle. Gay. Im sorry but with this haircut, he can only be gay.

29. Paplo Espuma. You don’t remember him ? You’re not a real fan, don’t @ me. Also gay. (I feel like im going to get a lot of hate because im just screaming every gay character without making sense so imma blame it on my gaydar)

30. Dorothy, lesbian. Also she’s pink and cute.

31. Gordon family’s dog.

32. Yuno is ace or aro. This man doesn’t look at girls or boys. He has businnes to attempt.

33. I feel like every single man in the Crimson Lion are gay.

34. Theresa was obviously a lesbian before she started loving god or whatever i don’t understand politics.

35. Neige, soft boy, soft gay.

36. Salamander is gay tho. I can feel it. It’s much happier now with Fuegoleon titties.

37. Fragil Tormenta is cute as f. Probably gonna put her in the lesbian cases so I can have it.

38. Rades and Valtos are in a relationship don’t @ me.

39. Kabwe was gay and I just want to imagine him and Damnatio fucking.

40. Damnotio probably like bi closeted something.

41. Patri really has the worst profile pic. Who cares ?

42. Mariella is a lesbian. It’s in her vibes, you know, being adopted by a weird couple is a lesbian thing right ?

43. Potrof has soft gay vibes and he should be proud of it !

44. Sarado is cute, idk everytime Tabata gives us black-short haired girl they’re lesbians so...

45. Charlotte. Bi. Charlotte, dear, forgets the men, they’re only society’s construction. They don’t really exist.

The end.

#do I have to tag every character i named ?#black clover #black clover is gay #fuegoleon vermillion

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hello!!! this isn't a hate anon-I'm genuinely lost. i saw your last reblog and... what does it mean? pansexuality isn't a thing then? i really wanna inform myself more on the matter :( when i learnt about bi/pan people I've been told that when you're bi you Have Preferences for some genders but when you're Pan gender isn't as relevant. so I'm really confused

(ps but at the beginning as a disclaimer: i am in no way transphobic or terfy. trans women are women and trans men are men and nonbinary people are neither. i shouldnt have to say this but i just want to make sure no one tries to discredit my argument or claim i said something i didnt)

so i am not bi so i am definitely not an authority on this topic but i will tell u what i do know. so basically, according to the bisexual manifesto (published 1990):

“Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have "two" sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit.”

(im putting the rest under a read more to save ur dash sorry loves)

and from my understanding, through a lot of reading and general self-education, the term “pansexual” arose from a transphobic state of mind that identified trans and enby people outside of the “two genders” that bisexual people are attracted to, creating a third identity specifically for the inclusion of trans people. but, in case you missed the transphobia there, that’s not what bisexuality is and not what it means. bisexuality does not refer to any two literal genders nor does it exclude trans or enby people, it literally just refers to a bi persons attraction to more than one gender. i did a little bit of research before i posted this (i went to wikipedia) and it seems like the term pansexual arose and gained poularity due to the literal meanings of “bi-” and “pan-” (being two and all, respectively). people without critical thinking skills took bisexual to literally mean bi people could only be attracted to two genders, or to “the two sexes,” so pansexual came about to “explicitly include” everything outside of that. which obviously presupposes that bisexuality is inherently transphobic and noninclusive of those otherwise living outside of the gender binary/assigned gender.

also i’d like to note here the “hearts not parts” argument for pansexuality, which, if you cant tell, is gross. this argument basically states that pansexual people love people regardless of their biological sex/gender identity and are therefore better people, because they love hearts not parts, and that people that identify as gay, lesbian, or bi, are worse because that “are attracted only to specific genitalia.” full disclosure: when i was 15(ish) and i was first on tumblr and learning about sexuality, i identified with pan, and largely due to this argument. eventually i realized i am a lesbian, but i also realized how gross this argument is. of course, i, as a lesbian, am attracted to women, but that does not mean i am attracted to vaginas exclusively. you kno why ? bc being attracted to a body part, and specifically a certain body part but only if it looks a certain way, along with being gross and transphobic, objectifies every person on earth and reduces literally everyone to their genitalia. this is not how real people function. yes sex is real and people date and marry people and have sex, but a persons genitalia should not be the defining trait of why you like someone.

from what ive seen, having a preference for a certain gender while still being attracted to multiple genders doesnt affect your sexuality. youre still bi if you have a preference and youre still bi if you dont. you also dont have to have a preference. some people do and some dont, it literally just depends on the person. my advice, of this didnt answer your question, would be to find a bi person to ask. or better yet: do your own research and come up with your own opinions, dont blindly trust what you read on the internet

TL;DR: yes pansexuality isnt real bc its based in transphobia and biphobia :)))

pss: just an fyi, ik a lot of people use bi and pan interchangeably and many people, even celebrities, refer to themselves as pan, and i largely believe its due to a mass misunderstanding of what bisexual really means and why pansexual became popular. also all of this said, i dont hate you personally if you are pan, but i do think you should examine why you feel pan rather than bi, especially after reading this post and doing your own research

#answered #anonymous #pan discourse #im tagging this preemptively just in case #also as a lesbian im not only attracted to women nb people r cool too but where i draw the line is men #i can apprecaite all people being attractive. yes even 'men'. but i would not like to date one #or do anything else romantic with a man #also in thagt last part where i say do ur research im really not trying to be mean #im not an expert and all bi people shouldnt be expected #to answer everyones questions about this all the time #the responsibiloty isnt on others to educate you but you to educate yourself #if u do research and disagree: cool ! have fun #this is how i feel right now based on my exp #i actually lost a mutual a while ago for being 'panphobic'#like sorry hun thats not real #maybe consider not being transphobic and biphobic #analyze why u prefer pan when bi exists #ok i think ive couvered all of my thoghts #i will probably think of something else as soon as i post it so #Anonymous

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I once saw something(can’t remember if it was from this acc or not) talking about how bi woman have a different attraction to men than straight women? Or we view them differently. I can’t really remember. But I feel like that may be true cause I personally see myself having relationships with men out of the norm I guess? Although maybe that’s bc Im not in the gender binary and idk yet. Sorry if this was all over the place. Have you heard anything like that? I can’t really explain it well

Hi this is the most recent anon about bi woman’s relationships w/ men. I actually found it and it was a post talking about how we approach relationships with men differently than straight woman and how we’re not “bihets”. Could you maybe expand on that- the approaching relationships differently part

Hello,

yes, I can imagine that I have mentioned something like that on this blog, too. Sounds like something I would say lol

I think the answer here is twofold.

regarding “approaching relationships differently than straight women”:

this is obviously a generalisation and it might not be true for all bi women (and other bi people) but bisexuals are more likely to be aware of social injustices compared to cisgender straight people because of the experiences we made through being queer, we are also more likely to question or downright oppose heteronormative gender roles/expectations, we are probably also more likely to have non-normative sex even if we have a vagina and our partner has a penis because we know there’s more ways to have sex than just putting a dick in a vag.

And also let’s not forget that bisexuals (and other mspec people) always run the risk of being rejected because of our sexuality. That’s something that we share with asexuals btw but monosexual people hardly have to worry about that. A straight woman won’t be rejected by a straight man because she is heterosexual. But a bi woman may be rejected by a straight man or by a lesbian. That means, in order to protect ourselves, we have to come out to each and every potential new partner. Or we stay in the closet and jeopardise our mental health. So, being bi adds a layer of vulnerability to dating that straight women won’t have to worry about.

the other part of the answer is regarding bi women having a “different attraction to men than straight women”:

a lot of bi women I know (myself included) always felt alienated by the way straight women talk about men. Personally, I never really felt like I could talk to my straight friends about which guys (irl or celebrity crushes) I liked because a) my taste in men deviates from the norm and b) there was just always something about the way they fell into conservative gender roles when talking about men that put me off.

Since I have gained some distance from my youth (god, I’m old) to be able to reflect on those experiences, I gotta say… I always had a queer attraction to men. and I always wanted men to like me in a queer way. which is why I still relate more to gay men than to straight women in some way. for a long time (in my late teens) I had fantasies about m/m sex, not necessarily bc I find two men hot together (I do), but because I wanted to be one of them. I didn’t know I could be with men in a queer way while being a woman so I thought the only way I could “be gay” with a man was if I imagined myself as a man. And it was always only in those sexual fantasies and I never had any desire to be a man outside of that so I never really questioned my gender. It took a long time for me to realise that my attraction to and love for men is inherently queer because I am queer. Bi women do look at men through different eyes than straight women.

I don’t know how much of my personal experience and my attractions was also shaped by me being kinky but I’ve talked to other bi women who had similar thoughts and experiences so it seems to be a recurring theme. Coming to think of it… it’s possible all those bi women I talked about are also kinky lol

I can only imagine that things are getting even more hard to decipher when you’re non-binary or binary trans. I hope I could shed some light. Feel free to send in another question if you need.

Maddie

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Coming out stories

A heads-up. These are the original stories, however, they are anonymous. This wasn't intentional, I just screwed up and didn't tag. These stories, aren't mine, so if I've posted yours and you want it taken down. Please, just ask me.

Alright.

I am tired of people who are against the LGBTQ+ community. Its alright to have an opinion. It is not alright to put people down for being themselves. The first pride was a riot, a fight for what they believe in. I'm trying to do the same. I'm trying to gather the stories of the fallen, the ones who are still standing, the people who are willing to fight for everything they are. And I am fully willing to take a stand and fight to prove we exist. To prove that we're here, and we aren't backing down.

Hello, my name is Dustyn. I'm here today to collect stories from the LGBTQ+ community. There's a lot of people who are against us, which is exactly why we need to stand our ground. I'm not asking for a fight, I'm asking for your stories. My story is not yet finished, though I'm a bisexual trans male. Our stories are important, because they show who we are and how far we've come. I've struggled a lot in my life, but I've made it. So have others. Here are some of those stories. We'll start with mine. I've gone through many identities, mostly trying to figure myself out. I'm still doing that. My family doesn't accept me for me, but I have many friends who do. There are so many accepting people in life, and I appreciate all of you who are proud to be who you are. Whether closeted or not, you are all valid and amazing.

"Hello my name is Melissa and i am bisexual. My family didn't really have a harsh reaction to it other than the fact that they didn't understand it at first. That was most of my trouble was people saying that bisexual wasnt valid. Im sorry mine is so short but i think the moral is that you are valid. No matter what you identify as on any spectrum in the LGBTQ+ community. Also even if your outside of the LGBTQ+ community and your just an ally. We love you and you are all valid.”

"Salutations everyone. My name is Talan. I am non binary, panromantic and i am currently between asexual and demisexual. I was raised in a very christian household where my mother and father had very strict beliefs. They believed that being anything but straight and to me being anything other than my assigned gender was a sin, and many people still say that to me. When I came out to my dad he flipped, he took me out of school for a year and put me in online school. During this time in my life I had reached a dark time where i thought that it was never going to get better but trust me it does. I am still living with my dad who does not accept me and at this point we don't talk that much, but it does get better. We have gotten to the point where we can have a civil conversation with each other and im back in school. I have an amazing girlfriend and multiple qpps who i love very much. Everybody at school is very loving and supporting. Remember that family is not chosen for you, you make your own family. If you ever feel down than just know that there are so many amazing and kind people in the world who love you for who you are, no matter what that may be. You are loved."

“I'm glad you reached out to me, anything to help people understand more about the LGBTQ+ community. I am 19 now and I came out to my family at the age of 14. My parents were the typical ones who said it was just a phase and it would not last but here I am five years later and I made it through. There was a point where I had no one to turn to but then i met my amazing boyfriend. He helped me through the good and the bad and showed me that there were things to stay for. I am now in college and pursuing a career in photography at the University of Arizona. I hope that could help a bit!”

"Okay. Well. My coming out experience was definitely not expected in the slightest. I was in the 5th grade. Realizing that I liked both boys and girls was quite the revelation. I had a lesbian friend who was the first ever gay person I met or knew. I remember being backstage of a show I was in and just crying through the words, "I know I'm supposed to love guys, but I love girls too". After that. I didn't tell anyone else, until 6th grade. I was a track meet and a group of people I sat with was talking to my lesbian friend about kissing. I forget the exact conversation, but I spoke up and said I would kiss her. A Christian girl in my class was nearby and heard. She was disgusted. Therfore by the end of the week, I was completely outed to my entire school. It was ugly, but it got better over time I guess. I'm a junior in high school now. I have yet to come out to my parents, but at least I know that I am finally comfortable in my my sexual orientation and gender identify (demigirl, which I didn't figure out until a few short months ago)."

"Hey, I haven't actually come out to everyone yet but I have told a few people and all of their reactions were positive "oh you're bi? cool" and that was it. No "so do you like me?" or anything which was super great. So I was "straight" and when I heard about the LGBT community I was "straight" for about another five days. I did some thinking and realised I'd actually liked girls before, and shortly after came out as bi to a few of my close friends at the time. They were all supportive, bar one who said "you're just looking for attention lmao".Coincidentally, she had also come out as pan and had received the usual "you're attracted to pans?". I go to a Christian school, so it would be pretty disastrous if the news leaked out, but naturally it did. Not everyone knows, maybe about 10% of my grade. I suspect some teachers found out about how some people were LGBT (not many though, there's about 5 of us), because our dean of year gave the "you're too young to know that" talk. Mostly at school we get sheltered from all LGBT news and details at all, and my parents hadn't told me much about it either, even though they are supportive and would be okay if I came out as bi."

"I'm bisexual. I first came out to my elementary friends over the phone 3 years after we went to different middle schools. They were mostly all so accepting and I was so overwhelmed I hung up on them. I spent a few minutes laying on the ground clutching that phone to my chest, I'd never felt so loved. I cried and cried and cried because these people atleast the ones who accepted me see me different now but are okay with it. Two years later, now, I still haven't come out to my parents. I still need a few years but I'm a little bit more open at school now most of my friends accept me. Others were cut off, I can't do that with my family so they still don't know. Not as if they would take me seriously either way. I want to get past college get a place a stable life then maybe I'll be ready, just maybe. Thank you for listening to my story."

"I was surrounded by my Uncle and his husband for years. I always knew that gay people existed. When I was younger I never thought anything different of myself; I thought I was one of the boys.

It never really clicked that I was the only one who saw it that way.

When I was 7, my mother and sister suggested I take dance I shot them down saying "that's for girls."

They didn't get it.

I wasn't entirely sure what came over me in that moment either but I know it felt right.

As myself and the people I knew grew up I realised I wasn't happy with the way I looked. I tossed it up as your typical dislike.

~every girl went through that at my age didn't they~

All the girls I knew were so happy that they were becoming women and I just sat in the back wondering why I didn't feel the same way.

I still didn't get it.

Once my depressed state got worse I decided to read into ways to love yourself and your body.

I started taking selfies, dressing up, wearing heels and makeup, forcing myself to sing even though I hated the way I looked and sounded.

It got worse.

I broke down when nobody was looking and acted like it was fine; like I wasn't praying that whatever I was feeling would go away for even a second.

And one day I looked in the mirror and I thought "this isnt right. This isn't me. This isn't what I want. Who in the hell is that person staring back at me?"

And I accepted it. That I would never be who I should be. That I would never be happy. Because nobody would love me. Nobody would want me. And nobody would accept me. Because if I was happy then that meant my family wouldn't have had the little girl theh thought they had gotten.

And up until recently no one knew that I broke down every night, that my thoughts got so bad I wanted to drown in my own tears so that maybe it would all be over. Because to me coming out to them was worse than death.

And here I am years later. My family knows but they don't care. They don't try to comprehend that this repression it kills me all the time. So I gathered my money got myself exactly what they told me they would never let me have and I lie. I go behind their backs and I live like the man I really am online. I bind my chest and I hide from their sight and when they ask I say it's just their eyes.

Because if they knew - if my mother knew - they would rather me suffer day after day than be who I am."

"heyo, i read your post and id like to put something to it.

i am a part of the community, havent came out to my parents yet, because i know for a fact id be sent to a psichologist or thrown out. but i am me online

an old friend of mine is a trans guy and found me a few weeks ago. he said he saw that i support LGBT+ and it was so comforting for him. a friend who i haven't talked with for 9 years!after he told me that he lost half of his family for being himself, his dad ignores him since, but he has a boyfriend and got his life together

and that i could be a little comfort for him is really nice. even the people who are closeted can be helpful in the community."

"Well, my mom took it well. I had gotten stuck in my closet and then she got me unstuck and I told her I was queer.

My brother, we were sitting in the car and he told me he always knew, but I had to keep it a secret from my dad or else bad things would happen.

My friends hugged me and started to use my name and pronounsSo coming out to my dad and stepmom, it wasn't even a coming out but a forced outage.

They took my phone away the night of a Panic attack that I still have nightmares over and searched it. They read all my messages.... everything.

I wanted to scream for it to stop, but I knew it wouldn't. They told me that they loved me, but I had to stop being me and I have to go back to being a girl who was cishet

But once you have a taste of freedom of who you really are, you can never go back ...I couldn't hide again. I just had to wait till I could spread my wings and be free somewhere else."

"Ok so for the thing you tagged me in, I don’t exactly have a coming out story yet, and I’m not sure of my identity entirely. I’ve tried out tons of labels and am sticking with queer at the moment just cuz it takes the stress off of picking an extremely definite word to describe me. I came out as queer last year, but I don’t consider it a coming out story because 1) I only told my friends and not my family, and 2) queer doesn’t completely define me. In real life, I’m doing my best to go back in the closet, but I think my “friends” may have told other people who spread rumors around my school, so it’s been difficult. A bunch of people make random references to me liking boys (I’m amab) and it made me uncomfortable enough that I started telling them I’m straight. I’m planning on staying as far in the closet as possible until people get more accepting and I understand myself fully."

"It's not a coming out story (mostly) but it's a realization of sorts.

Yesterday our Social Studies teached asked us to form groups and discuss a contemporary issue that we would present at the front in a few minutes. Long story short I suggested LGBT+ community and rights, which my group mates accepted. I live in a really conservative country (with at least 81% of the entire population identifying as Christians) and that's an extremely taboo topic. It ended up leading the teacher asking us to raise our hands if we believed the lgbt community should be allowed Civil Union, not considering religion an all. I was so afraid to raise my hand, but it was what I believed in and I couldn't live with it if I didn't show it, so I raised my hand. I didn't really do this as a member of the community, I wasn't thinking of myself. I was thinking of a world where this is accepted in my country, where I can go outside and be open and love whoever I wanted to, and I guess the idea of standing up for what I believed in was what pushed me to do that. A big majority of the class was against, and I was just so afraid even though some small logical part of me knew they would not do anything.Today, our Civics teacher had us grouped again to make a live news report and once again, my group (international news) got assigned lgbt+ community because of our listed problems yesterday. I suggested interviewing a member of the community and basically came out to two people I knew were trustworthy (nearly all three other members in that group but thank God I think the third one did not hear) and we agreed that I could be used if I only had my voice recorded and edited to not sound like me. Just a few hours ago I found out that one of my classmates, who I thought was a nice sweet boy, turned out to be a big homophobe. "Sodom and Gomora and Liberals are teaching unnatural things" kind of guy.I guess that broke something in me, because another thing I was really passionate about for when I grew up was this certain job, though no one supported me. I used to want to do that so much the idea of anything else repelled me, sometimes the idea of the other more "acceptable" jobs brought me to tears. Somehow this one admission that I thought everyone should have the right to at least a civil union and finding out my classmates didn't believe in that crushed something in me hard enough that I lost the passion to do that job I wanted. It makes no sense how this connected with that apart from the fact that neither are things I have been or would be supported on, but I guess seeing that this world isn't really safe made me lose hope.I felt scared to raise my hand, almost like I was actually coming out (which I now realize I'm absolutely never doing to many of those people) and the realization that some place I thought was a safe space for me, because all of those people in that class, I thought I could trust them. I've been with them since before I could spell "friend" correctly, they're family to me, I believed I would be safe and accepted, and then came to find out that wasn't quite the case...But well, basically I was terrified then crushed to find out that I could have outted myself to a group of people who would not take my news lightly

Found out some people I thought were friends thought people like me were broken

Found out some people I used to have the biggest crushes on didn't even believe in letting people have a civil union."

"I’m very excited to see brave people like you ready to start a revolution, so I thought I’d share my, sorta, coming out experience.

So I have divorced parents meaning I’d have to come out to four parents. This happened mainly last year. I was pretty sure I was bi, (tho I now identify panromantic demigirl) I knew my dad and stepmom would be great with it, and they were. But when it came to my mother, well, she wasn’t really homophobic, but she had different ideas about how a gay person should behave. She outed me to her after overhearing a convo with my friends. She then told me I was too young, and gave the “its a phase” talk. She knew I was fairly open about it because I lived by a motto to “be so myself that other people feel brave enough to be themselves too” But she believed a gay person should keep it a secret. Nowadays I don’t believe in the process of “coming out” I am open about my sexuality and gender but I don’t do formal coming outs. I always believed that if straights don’t have to, neither should I just because I “don’t fit a default” My mother wants me to come out to my stepfather even tho he already knows. I thought sharing a coming out story that also showed you should never feel obligated to come out. My mother guilt trips me about it, but I remain rooted in my beliefs that I shouldn’t have to come out, which I think is valid.

Hope my story can help anyone and just wanna say you are so so valid, amazing and powerful and should never feel pressured to be open if you don’t want to. Long live the revolution!!!🏳️‍🌈."

"Hello! I read your post about collecting LGTBQA+ stories and I thought Id share my brief experiences as a bi girl from Germany ^^

Tbh I never made a big deal about coming out, as I personally feel it goes to show that we're revealing a wierd secret, and Id like my sexualtiy to be something normal, not a main identifying characteristic. And everyone of my friends or classmates that I mention it to appear to have no problem with that whatsoever, and as far as I know Im not percieved as predatory either.

My family, however, is a whole different matter. While Im sure that my mums side of the family would be perfectly fine and my parents know already, when youve heard your fathers parents talk about eastern europeans and other immigrants using only slurwords and your uncles parents have expressed their absolute disgust about seeing a gay couple enjoy a nice picnic at the park, you get very cautious about who you tell. Especially since I dont want to put the supportive family in the position of having to consider whom they can talk to about this.

Another thing that Ive noticed after my exchange year in Sweden and seeing my first pride, though not having the time to attend, on my way there in Copenhagen, is how little support my country gives to this community from a social perspective. At my swedish school, all the teachers had a rainbow keyband from a *seminar about LGBTQA+ people*, something Im sure Germany would never do, and all of them kept it. There was no question whether you support us or not, it was an acceped part of social life and no big deal; we even did a private introduction round for pronouns!

And then I came back here. During pride month, there were no rainbow decorations, the most I saw of a parade was two discarded paper flags on the ground afterwards. When I vented about this to my ally friend, she only said that "some people and companies just like to stay neutral". Try all of them in Germany, but sure.

I know our community has come far, but I can also see that it isnt fsr enough, and that is the fight I am still fighting.

Hope this helps ^^."

"Alright. Mine isnt that interesting but I'll do my best :)

I came out as bisexual when i was in the sixth grade. It wasnt a huge deal to my mom. She said okay and we went on with our lives. Around the end of that year, i told her i thought i was trans and she said i wasnt. I came out to her again six months later and she said the same thing. There was a lot of yelling. Mind you, she isnt transphobic at all. The third time... she was so done with me. She yelled and so did i. It took four different times for her to accept me, and even then, i had to do the last time over text because i was scared of her reaction."

"So, my name is Ell. I identify as queer and demigender. I don't know what to say here really early than it's important to find others like you when you're not as close to your family as you used to be. Because of your identity. My family is more accepting than most, but still. The community online is so so important to me, and this project makes me really happy. So thank you. "

"I was at sea world and my mom was in the car I was talking about how my dad was super homophobic. My mom says that my dad acts like it’s a disease I said will if it is then I have got it, My mom is understanding and says that she will love me no matter what."

"So, I’m non-binary and bisexual. That’s a big no-no in a latino family like mine, it’s always grow up, get married with the opposite sex, and have kids. I don’t know why I felt that I could just say anything to my mom one day and she immediately objected. “Are you sure you’re not a lesbian or just confused? You can’t like more than one gender. Also, what’s this about a non gender? You’re either a boy or a girl, that’s it.”

Thankfully after a lecture and me apologizing (though I did nothing but tell her more about me) she let the subject go. I’ve never told my dad because I know mom just will get in the way and say I’m lying again, but at least my friends are understanding and almost completely LGBTQ+."

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lampsabout-moved · 5 years

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The Persona 3,4, and 5 Rewrite FAQ Masterpost

Everything under the cut! Including my plans, current fics, and spoilers for all three!

Persona 3 Rewrite, titled “Pull The Trigger” (https://archiveofourown.org/works/18834676/chapters/44696302) -Hamuko is the main character, and protagonist! She does all the major plot important things, cause it’s what she deserves. -Minato is not excluded though! He is still a part of S.E.E.S, and is a senior student. He takes the role of the Navigator. His Persona is Eurydice, to mirror Hamuko’s Orpheus! -Fuuka is no longer the team’s Navigator! I’ve reworked Lucia into a battle oriented Persona! She uses the nuclear skills from p5, and has a big fuck off sword. -Yukari/Hamuko/Aigis RIGHTS! -Minato/Akihiko RIGHTS! -More LGBT Rep! -Not as many social links, mainly cause i’m not a big fan of the P3 SL’s, keeping the party members and a few favorites. -Both Elizabeth and Theodore are included, with the added addition of Theodore staying out of the Attendant fight. They are represented by the Temperance social link. -Shinji still dies, sorry! -Ken isn’t used in combat as much, cause he’s 9. Same with Koromaru. -Operation Babehunt? Don’t know her! The gang meets Aigis when Hamuko spots her on the beach. -The Awnser’s time loop isn’t just hand waved??? It’s def more explicit with (SPOILERS), Metis’s whole deal of being Aigis’s Shadow? -Little stuff, like Pharos ending everything conversation with “Time Never Waits”, Hamuko using ultimate personas after finishing social links, Rio’s inclusion, Hidetoshi’s exclusion, Fuuka being trans, etc, etc Persona 4 Rewrite, titled “Part The Fog”! -First off, Kanji is mlm, and Naoto is a trans boy. Those are the stories that Atlus wrote, but refused to follow up on. Naoto’s arc is about accepting himself as trans, Kanji’s is about him recognizing himself as gay. -Kanji is now the Navigator! Featuring a redesigned Take-Mikauzachi! Rise takes his role as an active party member. -Soukanji rights!!! Yukichie rights!!! Naorise rights!!! -Yosuke, Yosuke is bi. His social link itself is about overcoming his internalized biphobia and homophobia. It’s not his shadow’s main focus, but it’s a part of it. -Rise’s shadow is no longer a pole-dancer! her shadow takes the form of a clown like Rise, putting on a LOVELY carnival (her dungeon) to get people to look at her for who she really is. She finally takes off her make-up in the boss fight, splitting into a bunch of different rise’s and begging her to tell her who “The Real Rise Is?”, kinda like P4TA. -Adachi is dead. Full stop. He does not come back for P4AU. -Speaking of spin-offs, Kanami Mashita! After the events of P4D, she gets a Persona of her own, Laetitae! -Biggggg social link changes. A disguised Kanami, Amnesiac Labrys, and Sho all apear as Social Links. Kanami being The Hanged Man, Labrys being Strength, and Sho as the Moon. Other SL’s changed accordingly. -Marie is still present, and is more integrated into the story. She is one half of Izanami, and willingly erased her memories after seperation. She herself carries Fog with her, and appears...off. She has a too-long shadow, her smile’s a little too wide, her eyes a little too yellow, rain seems to follow her. -Teddie is not a perv character. He’s close to the plot so I couldn’t write him out??? But he’s not as pervy as he is in canon, just a flirt. Also Teddie’s Bi, so jot that down. -I really liked the concept that Rise’s non “Risette” personality was harsh and aggressive? So she’s really rough around the edges when she first meets the IT, only warming up to them after her dungeon is completed. Think Severa from FE13. -Overall, a lot more actual truth finding, a lot less homophobia and transphobia. Persona 5 rewrite, titled “Invitation To Freedom”! -this is the one im most excited for HOLY S H IT -okay so, -redesigns for everyone’s phantom thief attire. especially the girls. Ann’s design is more like, a mix between her persona and Shego from Kim Possible? If that makes sense? Less dominatrix, more cutesy evil queen. (Makoto is more knight like, but is still spiky like a biker, Futaba resembles a video game merchant mixed with a tech super villain, and Haru is full on Musketeer.) -MORGANA ISN’T CREEPILY INTO ANN. NO MORE ANN BEING CONSTANTLY SEXUALIZED. G O D -speaking of Ann, her entire awakening scene is reworked. No more writhing for my girl. She still kicks the sword and kills Cognitive Ann tho. -Pegoryu rights!! Shihoann rights!! Okujima rights!! Kasutaba rights!! -Akechi joins during Kaneshiro’s palace, along with Makoto! Makoto gets herself in too deep thanks to her being over-protective, and Ren folds, saying that they need someone with detective work to help them, and as much as he hates it, Akechi’s probably been onto them for awhile now anyway. -Akechi is still the traitor. -There are not one, not two, but three players in Yaldaboath’s game! Whose’s the third player? Kasumi Yoshizawa! -Kasumi actually has her own team of Phantom Thieves! They interrupt The PT’s antics the palace, messing with them in Mementos, being rascals. her team includes Hifumi Togo, Sho Minazuki (the weird uncle who followed her into the metaverse), and an OC! (She’s currently based oN Hatsune Miku because I do what I want.) [This was inspired by a tumblr post I saw once,] -When I say that Kasumi messes with the PT, I mean like. They have this elaborate plan to steal Madarame’s treasure, but whoops! Kasumi has already swiped the thing and is a making a break for the exit! -Along with the standard chapters, smaller ones will be added to give the reader Kasumi’s perspective! She is also a wild card. -Goro lives and has a palace, sorry atlus!! -That one scene where Ryuji gets beat up for scaring everyone? Not fucking happening babey! -All those extra cells in the Velvet Room? there are only three! This is how Kasumi and Ren figure out each other are Royal (Codename still pending) and Joker. Miscellaneous

-I am currently in the process of adding more Personas and Demons to a growing roster so I can give each Arcana an even amount! Most info on the actual Personas, their skills, and the associated Social Links, can be found here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1uHJv26RnGryvx_yhfzloPzIQUAB_cYOtwyzWGAxKdlQ/edit?usp=sharing EDIT: i completely forgot that most of the new personas im adding are from Bayonetta!

-also im indecisive so uhhh help me decide P4 protag and p5′s protag’s name!

https://www.strawpoll.me/18128738 (P4)

https://www.strawpoll.me/18128740 (P5)

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infernape · 7 years

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Why are so so against aces? Do you not think it's a valid sexual orientation? I'm sorry to bother you :(

its no problem, sorry for the late reply. i am not against aces. im gonna put this under a cut bc it got SUPER long, sorry

first off, aces are valid or whatever but i see it as a modifier to an existing orientation, not an orientation by itself (aka saying u are just asexual makes no sense. saying u are an asexual lesbian does make sense)

im really worn out mentally right now so im sorry if this is rude. i would just like to be clear about my opinions. i am an exclusionist, so i dont think cishet aces/aros are lgbt. i also dont think people who dont like anyone (ace/aro?? idk) are lgbt. lgbt is not a fun exclusive club and i dont understand why cishet aces want to be oppressed so badly. lgbt people are literally dying.

i also dislike the split attraction model thing bc it fucked me up a few years ago. i dont like how kids (~13-15 yr olds on this site) are being influenced into coming up with a label describing the sexual attraction they feel and publicly stating it. these kids are doing nothing wrong and there is no need at all to bully them i just think theres a problem with the adults who think this is acceptable and not gross. i understand that ace/aro is a meaningful part of peoples identities but it makes me uncomfortable when people “headcanon” a young character as ace, especially if the kid is lgbt or lgbt coded(? idk if thats the right term lol)

i have seen many instances of cishet ace people being extremely homophobic on this site - using the word “allosexual”, using the q slur often (sometimes even as an umbrella term which i DONT agree with), making lgbt/racism issues all about them, stealing lgbt terms, etc etc etc. thus, please understand why i am wary of cishet aces on this site. its really so disgusting. i specifically remember when the pulse shooting happened a year ago and i was sobbing and terrified and on this site to find more info and to calm myself down i saw ace people somehow managing to make it about them and even having the nerve to condemn gay clubs. yes i know that was a run on sentence im sry

its also frustrating for me when people say “ace people are lgbt!! what else would the a in lgbtqiap++++ stand for!!!!” because if an a is even included, which it doesnt have to be, it stands for ally. to me, and i think in a historical sense, an ally is a person who is gay/bi/trans but isnt able to come out. i could be wrong on the historical thing. also im pretty sure some homophobe coined the whole “ace stands for asexual” thing

obviously if you are gay/bi/trans and ace you are lgbt. its just not because you are ace. it is because you are trans and/or experience same gender attraction. that makes sense, right?

i know ive been posting a lot of discourse lately and its because its pride month and i just want cishet aces to let our community have one fucking month lmao. sorry that its long and please let me know if you need me to elaborate on anything. i can assure you that i love my ace mutuals and i have nothing against ace people in general.

#anonymous #homophobia /

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beyonceisstraight · 7 years

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@luvtheheaven

replied to yourpost:Ok sorry but what on earth does “Reactionary...

If you have that many REGs as friends commenting on your posts, it really does make me wary and as you seem like someone who has a chance of caring and understanding the “inclusionist” side of things, the side asexuals the vast majority of the time land on, I wanted to answer your initial question and also explain where people like me and justonepurpose are coming from. I want to be fair to you & like I said, give the benefit of the doubt despite this hostile environment

i’m a hostile, defiant and direct person so i attract similar people.

i seem inclusionist because i am and i don’t have anything against ace ppl because i once was one. its just that my brand of understanding is different. i really don’t even like the word aphobe because it borrows the from the historical context that lead to the word homophobe being born when its not similar at all. aphobe implies a systematic scale of oppression is in place. i really dont like that word. i remember when anti-ace was a thing and that was better tbh. anti-ace is literally self explanatory and doesn’t step on the toes of the generation lost in the 80′s to aids/hiv.

while we coin terms its important to understand why so many people were upset over the 1 word and see that a large number of oppressed individuals having a problem with something that seems to borrow from their own struggle while sharing nothing in common with it. gay and bi people had pretty valid reasons to be upset with the word aphobe.

this happened like probs in 2014 when there was huge discourse about whether ace ppl are queer or not (some are and some aren’t) which made me feel a certain way at the time bc I still saw myself as ace then. but that’s where a lot of bad discourse and resentment between ace and non-ace folk started.

i understand all of what YOU are saying but like i said my understanding of certain things comes from a different level of comprehension bc i like to ask questions and understand most if not all sides before deciding something which i do not think is what happened when a lot of these terms were created. the people being pulled from “REG” into “TERF” are ppl who already had those leanings. There’s not a single person who I know that turned into a terf after a time that didn’t have warning signs early on. warning signs that made a lot of ppl go “hmmm” and i’m not surprised at being called a reg bc there have been occasions where a transwoman gets called a terf bc she’s discussing things terfs talk about which are sometimes valid concerns but lack the pov of a trans woman. and thats kinds what’s happened here today with me and you all. i find online ace communities lacking in a lot of nuance and down right ridiculous sometimes and i’ve lived and seen enough to be tired of childish nonsense like making up a word and using it despite it upsetting other ppl rightly and the like.

its very similar to how i love my culture as an indian person but i don’t dwell amongst indian ppl bc a lot of them are racist. im ok with asexuals but i just don’t have the time for a lot of the online communities that lack nuance and compassion and understanding. not directing that specifically at you just making a general statement to be clear.

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merrysithmas · 7 years

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The twitter post on nonbinary gender that you posted....ever since you started specifically posting about nonbinary gender, I've been wanting to ask you its meaning because I had never come across it. But I was scared and embarrassed to ask you cause i thought you'd get mad at me. Sometimes I want to educate myself but then you don't know who to talk to or ask about things. And also thank you because through your blog I am learning so much about gender.

oh thank you!!! thank you so much for sending this and asking. i am always here for questions and thank you for having an open heart and a kind soul. i know sometimes it can be intimidating to learn – and it shouldnt be. we live in a very divided world right now, and i wish people would be more receptive to questions and bridge building.

it is my personal philosophy there is a difference between anger and hate – anger can be channeled into action and example and good. hate makes you have a commonality with all the other evil sectors in this world and i refuse to be a part of it.

as for nonbinary gender – basically this is an umbrella term which means “is not male or female”. nonbinary people are included under the T or “trans” letter in LGBTQ because their assigned sex (AFAB, AMAB assigned female/male at birth) does not align with their gender. however, many nonbinary people do not consider themselves trans and consider themselves simply nonbinary. but many do consider themselves trans. it is up to personal choice.

there are several nonbinary genders: agender (feeling like one does not have a gender at all, genderless), genderfluid (fluid gender which switches to more female or male depending), genderqueer (a catchall term for many of these identities or some combined), nonbinary (feeling neither totally male or female, or feeling both, or feeling both but one more than the other, or feeling a new gender which is male/female combined), Two Spirit (a term specifically for use only for certain people from various indigenous societies/cultures which describes a lauded subset of people who have two genders or a conduit between genders), demigender (feeling partially male or female), etc. the list goes on.

i know a lot of people will scoff at this and think - “oh that isnt REAL” “there are only two genders”. well guess what? it is real. it has been my life for literally as long as i can remember back into childhood. it wasn’t until a few years ago i discovered the term for it, and it wasn’t until last week that i decided i want to use gender neutral pronouns. i remember one day when i was in highschool i asked myself “am i trans??” i remember being so scared i cried for a day and repressed it so hard. i have never aligned or fit in in that way. i remember telling my mom as a kid i wasn’t a boy or a girl. i remember always struggling so hard trying to decide who to be. i remember doing a google search as a kid and reading about Two Spirit people of various indigenous cultures and thinking — my god. it’s “me”. it was the first thing i ever saw that spoke to an understanding of my identity, and i felt such immense comfort i cant even describe it to you.

but now, after coming out to myself and the world i am literally the happiest with myself i have ever been in my entire life. i finally feel like i am not living inside myself, that when people meet me they know exactly who i am because im not hiding it anymore. my whole life i always had this little voice in my head saying “the person they think they are meeting/seeing isnt the whole you and they will never really know you, no one does”. i am “out” to my family and friends who matter and i am so proud of myself. im not afraid of being visible. in fact, i want to promote it.

im a future doctor and i can tell you with 100% certainty there is biological basis for separation of gender and sex. whether it it hormone levels, chromosomal activity, genome structure, brain chemistry, brain physiology and anatomy, or likely an infinitely complex amalgamation of all that and more. but one doesnt have to be a doctor to have credit in saying this: i can tell you, just as me, a nonbinary person - i am real. and i dont want to hide or suffocate anymore. society’s rules and binaries are truly blind. they leave out so, so many people. and we are at a revolution in our culture right now that i hope is going to change that exclusion forever. i hope people will see other people free and realize the strictures and rules they were brought up to live behind arent all that exists.

i always say it like this: if you are cisgender (a person whose gender matches their sex at birth) it is not your job to “understand” a trans or nonbinary person. because you literally cant. you can’t pass judgment on something you literally cannot experience. a cisgendered person’s brain is not built with the chemistry/function of someone who experiences a nonbinary life. there is nothing wrong with that. but the job of a cisgendered person is to say: “i will never understand what that feels like, but i will -believe- it is real because trans and nonbinary people have the dignity of personhood, they are PEOPLE, just like me, and if they tell me this is how their bodies work it must be how it is working inside of them.”

and one more thing - gender identity has nothing to do with gender presentation. which means, a nonbinary person who dresses femme, wears make up and has long hair is just as nonbinary as a masculine presenting nonbinary or androgynous nonbinary person. a cisgendered woman who wears tshirts and baseball hats because that is what makes her comfortable is still a woman. a cisgenderd man who wears makeup is still a man. a trans woman who wears suits is still a woman. a transman who likes makeup is still a man. your gender is in your head, your sex/genitals are in your pants, and your aesthetic preference is just how you hapoen to like to decorate your body.

sexual orientation is separate from all of this, and is simply who you are attracted to. a cisgendered woman can be attracted to women: lesbian, poly, pan, bi. a nonbinary person can be bi, pan, poly too. a transman can also be bi, gay, pan, asexual, etc. a cisgendered man can be hetero or gay.

dysphoria is psychological and physical discomfort with ones sex/genitals/body/body function because it does not align with one’s gender. some trans/nonbinary people experience and many dont! so for instance as a nonbinary person i sometimes get intense dysphoria over my chest (breasts) and menstruation. more often than not i deal with it, sometimes im even proud of it, i am proud of surviving as a female-bodied person in this misogynistic world! im proud of the perspective it gives me on humanity. but if i could get rid of them would i? most days, most likely! ive always wanted to get rid of my breasts, i legit hate them. but some days i can deal. i console myself by saying all genitals are homologous to each other - male and female gentials are essentially the reverse of one another and so the same. they dont dictate who you are. if a woman with cancer gets an oophrectomy does thay make her not a woman anymore? of course not! if a man has his testicles removed is he no longer a man? am i a woman because i have a vagina? nope! gender isn’t one’s body. as a nonbinary pansexual person my identity is pretty firmly in the grey area lol. i consider myself an attractive androgynous. i am proud of who i am and what i look like, even when im not totally content.

i hope some of this helps and i hope you will spread acceptance! sorry this got so long but i wanted to give a real answer. always feel free to ask anything else, weird or not weird, i promise i wont get offended. :)

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