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secretariatess · 3 months

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"Feminism failed me because now I have to work a nine to five job and I'd rather be a stay at home wife."

Or maybe we've fostered toxic work cultures that have created a "grass is greener on the other side" situation, or maybe we push our children so fast and hard into a career path without slowing it down to ensure our kids know of all their options instead of diving headfirst into a path they might not care about and thus leading to resentment of their work, or maybe we're getting lazier and lazier generations who feel like they shouldn't have to put in a standard amount of work and being a stay at home wife sounds like a dodge of responsibility, an easier route . . . .

. . . and on top of that, maybe we've romanticized the 1950s and the "traditional household" that we've decided to ignore that the culture was forced in order to get women back into domestic labor after running America while the men were at war so that men could get their jobs back, and have forgotten the commonality of domestic abuse and how ads would brazenly joke about it while victims felt like they had to keep quiet in order to maintain the image of a happy family as well as the alarming rate at which women were taking "mommy's little helpers" to help them with their lifestyles, and we've disconnected the fact that the 50s was followed by the wildness of the 60s and 70s as well as feminist movement wave which maybe indicates that the 50s was not the happy little decade in which men and women were in their "correct gender roles" and trying to replicate that era could possibly be a big mistake . . . .

Maybe the issue we have with feminism gaining women the right to work wasn't that it got us the right to work, but rather that it played into the idea that men and their traits are the standard of being human, and in order for a woman to be successful she has to display those traits instead of taking traits of women and standing on those as women's strengths and arguing for how work can be better when women and men use their feminine and masculine traits together because we're both human, and masculine traits are not better than feminine ones, and vice versa.

Maybe the problem faced by those who actually want to work stay at home lives are not hindered by feminism, but rather a failing economy caused by a government for a multitude of reasons, and not because the government created feminism to get women working to tax them too.

Maybe the problem here isn't people going against gender roles, but rather a multitude of many other factors, and it's a lot simpler to fight and blame the other gender.

I have many criticisms of feminism, particularly modern feminism. But feminism in general won women many victories over the decades, and there are a lot of things we women can do now that our female ancestors would have died to have. History might not be as sexist as we remember it, but sometimes I think we forget how unkind it was to women. Wishing feminism didn't come about or make the advances it did might be a little ignorant of the problems it saw women face and sought to correct.

Maybe it's not our "biology" to follow traditional gender roles, and we must return to that.

Maybe there's something we keep hopping over that recognizes men and women as individual humans first, with different skills, strengths, ambitions, and goals.

#I used to like listening to conservative speakers #but every time they brought up conversation about gender #it seem to revolve around men being the leading providers and women the following homemaker #and they keep pulling examples of women being unhappy with their work #and stay at home moms echoing their sentiment #I don't have an issue with stay at home moms #I have an issue when it's pushed as what women were really made for #and things like men were made to lead #no #women were made with varying strengths and talents (including strength in leadership) just as men were #which lends them to be able to pursue different things and not just homemaking #I don't think we really have anyone who has a balanced take on genders anymore because we have to have one extreme or the other #matriarchy or patriarchy #and the fighting of the two for a hierarchy creates a confused jumble of a mess #incorrectly called egalitarian #As someone who considers herself conservative in more ways than one #I'm done with the conservative take on gender roles #there's no balance #there's no consideration for other factors

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leixinyus · 5 months

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We got them preachin' that we're hell-bound But I don't think we are unless you do

- Chappell Roan, "School Nights"

#jamie juthapich #kay lertsittichai #home school #home school the series #thai drama #manydramagifs #tdramaedit #i'm still here they're so pretty together ;;#also got to love it when your personal playlist songs fit so well with your otps #this song is so their song it's actually wild #i never thought i'd discover a pairing to whom this song's lyrics would fit since it paints such a specific story #but here we are #also the catalyst for this set was the 'you wanna win me over now? impress me like a school fight' lyric #like how likely was it that i would be able to use it for scenes that were *literally* school fights? i mean come on

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vaalthus · 1 month

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Convergence Part 1 (spoilers)

*Deep inhale*

*Long exhale*

THE TIME IS NIGH!!!

So to start,

I have to say I was utterly shocked that Jaania chose not sacrifice any more of her forces to buy her more time weave her spell but after giving it some thought it's an action that makes sense for her. As I mentioned in commenting on the Final Steps release, Jaania is finally able to see that our motivations we're always intended to strive for everyone's sake in the best of ways we knew how. As a result, she's hoping we can see and have faith in the good she's trying to bring about through her ascension.

As such, it makes no sense in her eyes to waste the lives of those who have been so loyal to her in helping her reach this moment when there's a chance their lives can be spared by us and they in turn be able to experience the world she seeks to achieve. Though those same troops would have been more than happy to lay down their lives for her so that world is brought to fruition. It's just a pity Jaania didn't give the order to retreat sooner otherwise the last of the Pelekoans might have survived.

What troubles me is the comments like these:

It's no secret to anyone that the last of Jaania's forces were those who were most loyal to her and her vision but what I find troubling here is the inevitable aftermath of these people once this conflict reaches its conclusion. As Hansa, pointed out to us in the Awakened Depths, Jaania became a beacon for those who had a simple wish to be achieved: to be free of any and all magical threats that Lore offers. However, it's not just these soldiers that want that, it's the nobles, the farmers, the little guys that have been supporting the Rose all these years across Greenguard and likely still do, sure that number has definitely taken a dive since the start of Book 3 but I doubt it's still insignificant. All of those people will soon find their dreams and the person who was meant to bring back a sense of uninterrupted peace in their lives is about to be dashed. We can only hope their response to this reality is constructive as opposed to the opposite.

What I've been saying all along folks :3

Miss me with that "we're not so different you and I" speech.

I like to think this is the Hero taking all they've learned about the ability to make choices in the Maleurous saga and is just throwing that much needed wisdom back at Jaania who feels the need to instill order in the world.

This comment is interesting to me because we have seen the Hero effectively try and be everywhere all at once for eveyone's sake, quite almost obsessively I might add, and I feel if Jaania hadn't recently just had a change of heart on her perspective on them, and taken the time to analyze the Hero's deal, she might have been able to more strongly appeal to their need, their desperation, in protecting everyone they can. Not that it would work either way, the Hero's distrust and deep-rooted fear of her, as seen in Fear, showed that getting us on her side was simply not possible.

If she was more predatory, of course, she would have used that aspect against us as every other villain that attacks our psyche has done before. A neat contrast here is what I'm pointing out.

*sigh* Every single new questionable scene with this woman continues to force me to find comfort in the fact that her and the other Magesters too dependent on the Mana Core Fragment will be dead eventually thanks to Roirr's actions. I truly want to believe there's a positive future for the Shapeless Empire that doesn't involve exploiting its citizens through this agreed upon cycle without violence but the rotting hands of the past never want to let go of control easily.

YOU GAVE THEM TRAUMA AND WEREN'T EVEN SORRY!!!

Okay technically this right here is the more sensible reasoning, but I stand by what I said! What I like most in this scene is that we simply reaffirm what we've been trying to tell her since this whole mess started with her organization. Everything we bring up about the harm the Rose has done thus far has been consistent and aren't negated by the fact that Jaania, at heart, wants to do what she believes is best for everyone's sake.

What I love even more however is how she averts her eyes the moment we bring up Akanthus because she knows she can't even reasonably, or delusionally for that matter, deny she has made a grave error in judgement in allowing Akanthus' abuses on, well, basically everyone, and soon everything, in his wake. It's that "Yeah, ya got me there look" that just sends warm feelings down my spine.

Now if you told me at the start of this saga Jaania was going to offer us a bargain to effectively play as the puppeteer god of fate alongside her, I definitely would have called you insane. It's moment I'm sure comes as a complete shock to everyone, it certainly did to me anyway. And honestly why wouldn't it? It's one thing to ask us to stand down and simply allow her to achieve apotheosis but it's a completely different matter to propose to come and play god. But it's one that sadly makes all too much sense.

Jaania has admitted that she has made terrible mistakes and has been too much of an imperfect being in her quest to achieve peace and prosperity for Lore. So better way to accommodate for her ham-fisted actions and judgement so far then to have someone like the Hero to hopefully keep her worse tendencies in check. As opposed to someone like Akanthus or Zadd who would, in all likelihood, make things worse had they been afforded the opportunity. There's another reason I believe she makes this offer but I'll get to that later.

Nothing else to say here beyond epic callback!

Out of all the Hero's moments in this quest, I believe this is where their experiences throughout the Maleurous saga shines through the brightest.

In a way, you could argue that, in spite of the obvious chaos that will come with it, Jaania's plan is to instill an eternal order, a Destiny, upon Lore itself, one in which she will insists never ends as she dictates. Yet the Hero knows the importance of others being able to decide the paths they choose to walk, I'd argue they've known that since Calamity, without some transcendental hand to yank them in another direction against their own will. So they certainly would not agree to be the one to dictate the fate of all those that live on Lore let alone allow someone as misguided as Jaania to do it.

Okay, I think we all knew that the void pearl was too easy a solution to deal with Akanthus and was likely not going to work but there's something absolutely amusing about Hesperrhodos being used a shield to be sent to the Void and then teleport immediately back to Lore without issue since, ya know, Elemental Spirits can just do that at any time. Hell I at least would have thought that thing would have let a monster through or something. The downside to seeing Zvezdana looking completely slack-jawed after these events unfolded is the fact that we still don't have a damned plan to take Akanthus out of commission...so yeah.

I have to say I love this final appeal Jaania gives to the trio of combatants because it shows a few things. First, that she still fails to understand that her organization was really only giving the illusion of peace to all those the dwelt within range of the Rose's reach and even then only really through the lens of normal humans. Second, it displays that she never truly had a proper grasp on the relationship she fostered with those she worked alongside. Lastly, she places too much hope that wanting the same things is not the same as agreeing ideologically how get those things.

Which inevitably leads to one option: Violence

I have waited 12. long. years. for this very moment. 12 years spent waiting since we broke free from that ice cap. 8 years I waited since from the first time we saw her again in Timelines. 7 years since the original Gala and our spat. 4 years since dealing with the second rift and I had a deeper appreciation for her mental state which motivates her.

And now I am finally here to fight Jaania one on one. So, you best believe I fought alone to prove which of us was could beat the other!

The following boss fight that ensues is perhaps one of the best thematic story fights in the entire game at this point, as it should be for the antagonist that is the face for this entire saga. I'm quite pleased that devs designed her to be difficult, hell I'm even glad that couldn't easily soul gambit my way out of this one.

In terms of mechanics, it's everything you could expect, Jaania does everything she can to debuff us and each time she fails and has her health cut down in bulk she commands even more strength to take us down, even attempting to go for the old freeze'em solid trick and when that doesn't draw any purchase thanks to Aegis she relies on her new found soul weaving arts to dispatch us. All the while we deal with the tragic music in the background tugging at the heart strings for a conflict that should have been avoided.

How far we've come since the Doom Amulet was our first real challenge in-game for year, eh?

And can I say how amusing it is that Jaania trapping us in ice is something that could only work once? Aegis apparently always had the means of unfreezing, he simply couldn't due to Draco keeping everyone away from where we were placed. So, with him already being close by to protect our soul from going poof, there's no way he's going to let us get trapped again. Even more amusing is to think about how Jaania is basically using the old ice soul weaver meta to take us on.

But after all of that we prove in the end, with or without aid, to be stronger than Jaania, at least in this exact moment.

It's a pity though that the moment does not last as expected Jaania will not let it end without fighting at her full potential.

This right here is the reason I believe Jaania made her initial proposal to us and why I bring up the Maleurous saga. For me at least, it's easy to see the similarities between Jaania and Notha. Both are exceptionally powerful accomplished mages that desperately sought out to change a world that gave them deep rooted traumas that they wished to change that world so that the suffering they experienced could not continue. However, where Notha wanted to bring about chaos to change the order of the world; Jaania is hellbent on imposing order on the chaos the world of Lore and its magic offers its inhabitants. Furthermore, I suspect, unlike Notha, that Jaania cannot bring herself to reconcile with the trauma magic has placed on her life and the people she cared about. Most defining of all though, which will likely be her downfall, is her need to be in control of everything so that she or anyone else might never hurt again.

Antagonists like Jaania are always left in a hard spot. They seek to rid the world of suffering and conflict forever and while that is a noble desire they fail to realize how unfortunately intrinsic those things are to existence. Thusly they bang their heads on a wall until they're bloodied and broken only for that dream they longed for to dissipate before their very eyes.

And so, her last option is to go full synchronization. I can't guess what happens next here with Jaania. Judging by the increased streaks of white in her hair, her soul is continuing to unravel though I think she's in no worse of a state than Tomix was when he was at the end. I was originally going to say synchronizing with a corrupt spirit created through forbidden magic would spell instant catastrophe for Jaania but then I remembered Aspar was created through the same means, although he was just a fragment, so she might pull off the effect with little issue.

I suppose we must simply wait and see what becomes of our troublesome Arch Magus and where the winds will turn for her ambitions.

And of course, there's still this asshole and the doom device.

#dragonfable #dragonfable spoilers #jaania #The culmination of 12 years!!!#And it's GLORIOUS!#My doubts for the Shapeless are increasing #Zvezdana will give us trouble I just know it #I'm glad we were able to have some form of a heart-to-heart with Jaania even as foes #truly the devs outdid themselves with this boss fight #Ah but we still have Akanthus to deal with #Weaver abomination Jaania when?#I've not felt this feeling since fighting Remthalas #Uaanta and Notha #I wanted to post this on release but I had to sit think for a bit while I stared out through window #thinking about how close to the end we finally are #Can't wait for what comes next

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hylianane · 7 months

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Breathing into a paperbag thinking about the possibility of Elbaf digging the conflict from Water 7 back up again and maybe exploring some long-term repercussions of Luffy and Usopp’s fight that not even they themselves were aware of and and and and and-

LISTEN. the Water 7 Saga absolutely rewired the way I understood the crew and how each member views themselves and the roles they play. And it’s been some time since the Strawhat’s exploration of the New World has allowed them to really take time and consider themselves and each other like that again.

And Elbaf just sounds (MUAH) like such a wonderful opportunity to do exactly that, it sounds perfect, primarily in the way it ties all the way back to the Strawhat’s early days on the Grand Line. And when you look at the presence of the Giant Pirates in Little Garden and Enies Lobby, what they share is that both times the Giants Served the purpose mirroring the conflicts between the crewmates and highlighting the importance of loyalty and comradery. Shit writes itself. Come on Elbaf don’t let me down. Come on Usopp I know you can hit us with another world shattering arc just take the stage love.

#remember when Dorry and Brogy’s story served to introduce us to Zoro and Sanji’s rivalry #by showing that even though they fight constantly theyd break if they lost each other and deep down they are still crew #and now we have an unresolved death pact looming over the two of them #Remember when Kashi and Oimo taught Usopp that the cost of loyalty can b great and harrowing but it is beyond rewarding for the right perso #just when he was doubting wether he was truly strong enough to stand at Luffy’s side or at all capable of the bravery needed to be a pirate #and now he’s going to have to look these friends and allies in the eye and be the one to show them all that his decision to remain-#-a Strawhat has brought him #when asked to look at his journey so far and ask himself if he’s truly reached his ideals will he be able to smile wide and say yes?#or will the seeds of doubt and anxiety start planting themselves in his heart again?#hell you know what would be rlly cool for me. If throughout this arc EVERYONE began losing themselves to their own doubts BUT him #Like okay okay thats an exaggeration but do you get what I mean?#Usopp staying calm and collecting and making tough calls and getting back up again all without realizing-#-that he’s truly acting like the Captain he always wanted to be #thatd be so good. god i hope this upcoming arc hits harder than crack #one piece #elbaf #usopp #monkey d. luffy #strawhat pirates

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yeonban · 16 days

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Sometimes I think about posting the one meme which goes "I want to ____ you" and see what your muses fill it in with for my muses but knowing my muses, I can already foresee an army of "kick" "beat" and "kill" <- in that order

#tbd.#* ooc. / posts.#ADHUISADHASUHDSAHD to be fair I too would beat them all up! ^_^ maybe kiss their wounds afterwards idk but FIRST. kick!!!#Anw I've been legit fighting for my life irl for the past few days and am being tortured by my own traitorous body as we speak #but I hope against hope that I'll soon be free to write and reply to dms bc lord knows when I last was able to...#My profs are the personification of irritating bc the SECOND we think we finished all our assignments and can breathe for 2 seconds #we receive 30 new emails saying hi! forgot to tell you this but you have a 12 page long assignment by the (checks watch) end of this week #like??!??!?!!? did ~3 of them for last Thursday now I have another 5 for Tuesday; 1 for Wednesday; 2 more for this Thursday #and then a random RNG one I guess bc my prof told us about it but then never posted the deadline. only an eerie 'by next week'#(aka this upcoming week) so fuck me I suppose AHDIUASHDISAHD #I just want to talk w my beloved friends and write silly things on tumblr dot com is that so much to ask for............. gawd

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ghostwoohoo · 1 year

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can someone please tell sims pose makers that we have enough wheelchair poses where someone sits in their lap . we have enough of those and it’s time to make something else i’m literally begging for romantic poses other than “able bodied partner sits in wheelchair user’s lap” did u guys know we can kiss people without them sitting on us?? revolutionary concept. do something else now please :)

#as a disabled person if my gf sat in my lap when i was using a wheelchair we would have to fight #bc if i’m in a chair i’m exhausted and in pain. get the fuck off of me #and it’s just repetitive atp like pack it up guys! we officially have all the poses we need for that specific thing!!!#ALSO I HAVE NEVER SEEN A POSE OF 2 WHEELCHAIR USERS. IT’S ALWAYS ONE ABLE BODIED PERSON DRAPING THEMSELVES IN THE DISABLED PERSON’S LAP #spirit box #sims 4

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frecklystars · 2 months

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sorry for the long ass post but this has always my favorite scene in the entire film - for obvious reasons - and im so glad greta talked about it and the way she worded it made me laugh so hard i had tears in my eyes. haha... god. my boyfriend sobbing his eyes out over the metaphorical crusts on his patriarchy sandwich......

#i dont think ill ever love anybody quite the same way that i love Ken #because he came into my life during a time when i was like. dying. not in a haha millennial way. i was genuinely fucking dying.#he is so. special. to me. he is so... everything to me and i truly mean it every time that i say it #i miss and love him so deeply so WHOLEHEARTEDLY *EVERY* single day #and i didn't used to be able to do that anymore! but he!! HE made me feel SAFE again and thats INSANE #because i was SO UNSAFE for SO goddamn long! and the feeling of safety is STILL unfamiliar to me and foreign and horrifying #but he's constantly such a Safe character. Barbie too even moreso. and it's so refreshing after feeling Unsafe for so. long.#i spent over a year feeling like my whole world had ended and i was destined to die but then he! shows up! in my life!#and no other character was able to spark life back into my heart the way he did #AND I HAD *TRIED* I had tried so hard to get into old special interests and find new ones but NOTHING worked #i was just an empty husk. just a shell of a person having flashbacks *constantly*#feeling unsafe *constantly* suffering *constantly* every single second i was awake i was in so much pain #and then every time i'd sleep i'd have the goriest nightmares about all the abuse i was put through and all the F/Os i'd lost #but then Ken Carson plucked a star out of the sky and said 'hey sweet girl you don't know me but i miss you and love you'#'and barbie is here and im here and allan is here and everyone loves you already. we're so happy to meet you'#'and everything is gonna be okay because we've got you! we came for you! and we will fight for you!!'#and then hearing greta comment abt this scene made me laugh so hard and then it hits me. i laugh now.#i laugh so often because of This Dude. i didnt used to be able to laugh before but now i laugh like i used to #i used to say all the time about my past main F/O i had lost from abuse from an IRL person 'i will never love anyone more'#and true i will never love anyone more than i loved my starlight. but here is the thing #i will never love anyone the way i love Barbie. i will never love anyone the way i love Ken Carson #because it was IMPOSSIBLE for me to feel joy for so long and it was. THIS MOVIE that brought me back #when this movie is so full of the most specific triggers. colors. clothes. yet i push thru it every time #and its because these characters make me feel THAT safe!!!! like if i see a trigger i tell myself that's BARBIE'S Thing. and Barbie is safe #ive never ever once had a flashback during the barbie movie NOT even once even tho logically i Should. but i dont.#because these F/Os are like!!! sweet girl!!! we've got you!!! and i'm like yeah you sure do now don't ever let me go #god i cry my eyes out every single time i think about this i need to sleep LMFAO SORRY FOR THE LONG RANT #love notes #💕 I'll fight for you!! - ̗̀🐎🏖️✨ ̖́-

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osoreruna · 4 months

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toshinori was very hyperactive as a child and had overall very high energy. so much so, you would hardly ever see him sitting still or even sitting down — even while watching tv or EATING. he was known for avoiding naps and practically never allowing his mother a proper break, which oftentimes led toshinori into TROUBLE — always finding something to wriggle his way into in an attempt to escape boredom. from the young age of five, toshinori was enrolled in wrestling courses. not only did it give him a proper facet to work out most of that excess ENERGY when he was younger, but it also acted as a form of discipline as he grew older. he honed his skills and continued participating in the sport throughout his entire early education. and it showed. he's won numerous titles over the years — it didn't take long for toshinori yagi to become a pretty well known name throughout the league. he was even on track to joining the junior olympic team, possibly PRO after that — it seemed like nothing and nobody could stop him. not even the tragic death of his parents, as he still managed to take home a title just a month after the tragedy. it gave him something to focus on, to work towards — fueled his competitive spirit and drove him forward through a lot of muck in his life after his parent's passing. he continued his traditional training up until he was taken in by nana, his fighting style shifting a bit once his combat training with gran torino began — after being told by the older man that he can no longer rely on a rule set to determine the flow of battle, and that he'd have to work those "stupid wrestling moves" out of his system if he wants to have any chance of winning a real battle. while it hurt to hear considering how much he put into his past training, he understood where torino was coming from and focused on shifting his style to what we see from him today. though there are still glaringly obvious moments where his ten+ years of wrestling experience tend to shine through, even after so many years. but yeah, picking a fight with all might is obviously very ill advised... — but i just needed y'all to know that, picking a fight with toshinori isn't gonna end much better for you.

#𝗨𝗟𝗧𝗥𝗔 𝗔𝗥𝗖𝗛𝗜𝗩𝗘 + [ HEADCANON ]#𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧'𝗦 𝗪𝗛𝗘𝗡 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗚𝗢𝗧𝗧𝗔 𝗦𝗠𝗜𝗟𝗘 + [ MUSINGS ]#y'all ever notice all might's VERY SPECIFIC fighting style ??#how it's all about his hands — it's all about throwing the HEAVIEST PUNCH.#he worries very little about defense unless absolutely necessary.#he doesn't guard like a boxer #he doesn't swing like a boxer #he doesn't quite calculate like a martial artist —#he locks #he holds #he grapples #he fuckin SWINGS LIKE A WRESTLER.#like that one time he literally suplexed a nomu and for what —#and we know from both toshi and torino that he was already very well conditioned to take on ofa from the beginning #when he met nana. he was able to wield ofa at “full power” (100%) the day it was passed on to him.#( not that he knew HOW to use it or what he was doing. his body was just capable of handling the power.#the same power that's strong enough to wrack your muscles to the point of literally shattering BONE mind you. )#and to be like...15 / 16 ? and already be able to handle something like ofa ?? he had to already be doing something #some kind of physical activity...#i mean #we saw what midoriya had to go through and he STILL couldn't properly wield it at 100% !!#CRAZY —#anyway one day i'll probably add to this and retype it so it's a little more coherent —#i just think it's funny #he wanted to fight like the heroes he saw on tv :pensive:#i'll be around here today !! mainly working on that interaction call from the other day —

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