joestarkisser

[joestarkisser]

can i still say "morbidly a beast"

personally I think that stuff is just meant to be silly tho it does have not great origins, so I think you still can!! Just yknow the usual if a fat person you know asks you to stop then don't say it around em n stuff like that which usually comes with stuff like this.

#Anon

[joestarkisser]

What the hell is the o slur?

tw// 'o' slur, 'r' slur

The term is obese. While a medical term, medical terms (such as retard) were also turned into slurs. Many fat folk consider the word a slur, though some may use it as reclamation! Good rule of thumb is to never use it for someone else though. Much like many queer slurs it's best to make sure someone is okay with it before using it for them!

#popular-manipulation-tactics #tw// o slur #tw// r slur

[joestarkisser]

Adult selfshippers, reblog this with your underage F/Os and your self-insert/OC etc to have a tiny pixel surprise doodle of you and your F/O drawn!

All doodles will be made on, at most, a 150x150 canvas on MSPaint and scaled up! They won't be great but they'll be cute! I can do up to three per piece (so you + two F/Os for example) at this time!

Now closed! Thank you to everyone who reblogged!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #Yume #Yumejoshi #Yumedanshi #Yumenushi #Profic #Proship

[joestarkisser]

tw// fatphobia, abuse, pregnancy mention

This fat pride day, I want to give a shoutout to fat selfshippers who..

Are getting pressured to diet, fast, or restrict food from friends, family, or even society.

Are trying to gain weight, but only find weight loss recipes when searching for tips.

Are unable to find any clothes they like in their size.

Are being stared at and treated as lesser as they go about their day today.

Are having weight loss surgeries pushed on them. Again.

Are being pushed around and bullied for their size.

Are being denied gender affirming surgeries due to their size.

Are too afraid to stand up to abuse because they want to be a 'good example', lest they cause people to hate fat folk more.

Are being fed fear-mongering stories about fat pregnancy, fertility, and virility in their reproductive journies.

Are being told they won't be good parents because they're fat.

Are losing their jobs and careers because of their size.

Are having their disabilities blamed on fatness.

Are being ignored and pushed aside by doctors, with their symptoms being chalked up to 'fat'.

Are having trouble loving their bodies because of their size.

Are struggling to think their F/Os would love them in their fat bodies.

And so much more.

Your F/Os love you. They see you. They understand your pain, your struggles, the injustices you're facing in a fatphobic society. They adore you, adore your body, and will care for and protect you. They'll give anything to keep you safe from this oppression, and they'll be doing their damndest to make this fat pride day special for you. ❤🎀

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #Fat pride #Fat pride day #Fat pride Day 2024 #tw// abuse #tw// fatphobia #tw// pregnancy mention

[joestarkisser]

Friendly reminder that fatphobes get blocked!! Don't rb my stuff spewing fatphobia :3

#Fatphobes fuck off and choke!!!

[joestarkisser]

HAPPY FAT PRIDE DAY, FAT SELFSHIPPERS!

Remember that:

All F/Os are attracted to fat folk! Even the thin, super conventionally attractive F/Os. All characters find fatness beautiful!

Your F/O loves you at your weight, be it 200, 300, 400, and beyond!

If you want to gain weight, your F/O is there to support you! Your ideal fat body is just as worthy of a body as thin bodies!

Your F/O will protect you from ALL the strange fatphobes that exist in this world, no matter how aggressive or dangerous the fatphobe is!

Your F/O will make sure you don't hear any fatphobia today, including the 'o' slur!

You deserve to have a great fat pride day with your F/Os!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #Fat pride day #Fat pride #Fat pride Day 2024

[joestarkisser]

tw// fatphobia

Are you a plus-size selfshipper who's F/O said/did something fatphobic in canon? Nuh-uh, no they didn't. I'm looking right now and I don't see that at all! Your F/O cares for you and your body, and loves you how you are!

Are you a plus-sized selfshipper who is TOTALLY sure your F/O said/did something fatphobic in canon, and you want them to grow and change? Of course they did! They love you, and realize their behavior and opinion prior to meeting you was awful.

Fatphobic canon doesn't have to have any effect on YOUR personal canon. ❤

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #tw// fatphobia #Yume #Yumejoshi #yumedanshi

[joestarkisser]

If your F/O is a minor and you're an adult, you're still a valid selfshipper! Regardless of canon year your F/O was born or canon age in the source, regardless of if you age them up or down, regardless of if you age yourself/your insert/your OC up or down, regardless of when you fell for your F/O and what age you did, it's still a valid selfship!

At the end of the day, your F/O is not real. Your F/O is a doll, an idea to play with. And playing with that is no one's business but your own! Your F/O loves you no matter how old you are or consider yourself to be!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #Profic #Proship #Comship #Comshipper #Yumejoshi #Yume #Yumenushi #Yumedanshi

[joestarkisser]

tw// incest

SISCON, BROCON, & COUSINCON 💒

Asked my friend deaddovesdesires on Instagram to help me design some incess flags,, (pls go follow if you have an IG!)

From left to right:

Siscon - Pure blood, femininity, fluid (such as tears or blood), family tree

Brocon - Pure blood, masculinity, fluid (such as tears or blood), family tree

Cousincon - Pure blood, gender neutrality, fluid (such as tears or blood), family tree

These are free to use for icons, banners, etc as long as they are ONLY used with fictional characters (stuff like Markiplier egos like Darkiplier or C!SMP stuff is okay as long as it isn't the actual real person) and credit is given to @deaddovesdesires on Instagram!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #Proship #Profic #Profiction #Comship #Comshipper #Proship flag #Siscon #Brocon #Cousincon #Proship selfshipper #Profic selfshipper

[joestarkisser]

Selfship question!

what emojis do you use for your OC/self-insert? How do they look coupled with your F/O(s) emoji(s), if they have any? Any interesting little details or fun quirks about the combination?

#my main oc is 🏠 so w her boys its 🧸🐁🏠 which i think is so cute #a teddy bear and a lil mouse in a house #So cute #selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship

[joestarkisser]

Acespec selfshippers are stunning!

Asexual selfshippers?

Demisexual selfshippers?

Greysexual selfshippers?

Aceflux selfshippers?

Acespike selfshippers?

Aegosexual selfshippers?

Fraysexual selfshippers?

Lithsexual selfshippers?

Caedsexual selfshippers?

Bellussexual selfshippers?

Reciprosexual selfshippers?

Iamvanosexual selfshippers?

Myrsexual selfshippers?

Apothisexual selfshippers?

Cupiosexual selfshippers?

Placiosexual selfshippers?

All ace-identifying selfshippers are beloved by their F/Os regardless of how long or how "unnecessary" their identity is!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #Asexual #Acespec #Placiosexual #Bellussexual #Lithsexual #Fraysexual #Caedsexual #Aegosexual #Acespike #Aceflux #Demisexual #Iamvanosexual #Myrsexual #Reciprosexual #Cupiosexual #Apothisexual

[joestarkisser]

Reminder!

tw// religions mentioned.

Your F/O loves you regardless of your religious status, even if you don't share their religion!

Muslim? They adore you as you are!

Christian? They love you no matter what!

Jewish? How could they not adore you?

Hindu? You're the epitome of perfect to them!

Buddhist? Your F/Os think you're absolutely amazing!

Your F/O loves you regardless of your religion including native religions! Your faith is yours, and it's apart of you, and your F/Os love you!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #tw// religion

[joestarkisser]

tw// fatphobia, mention of systemic fatphobia, body dysmorphia

You know what society's ideal is.

You know it's stick thin, collarbones and ribs prominent, flat stomachs, yet 'attractive' traits like breasts and hips giant. That maybe, as long as your chin is sharp, you can get away with 'a little pudge'. You look in the mirror, you see the opposite.

Maybe you're 'too fat'. Maybe your chest is too small. Maybe your hip dips are too deep and prominent. Maybe your stomach hangs over your crotch. Maybe your chin is doubled or tripled by your weight. Maybe your fingers are pudgy. Maybe your cheeks are plump and round. Maybe your ass is flat.

Maybe you're all of the above.

Even with attempts to love yourself, you're beaten over the head with it day by day. You're ugly. You're ugly, so you don't deserve just treatment. You're ugly, so you don't deserve equal medical care. You're ugly, so you're not allowed to eat in public without stares. You're ugly, so you're not allowed to have your own kids.

You're ugly, so you aren't allowed to be loved.

You look more and more in that mirror, picking out your flaws, wishing you could just be thinner, 'attractive'.

Your F/O sees you, and understands you. Anyone would want to escape oppression, your struggles are real. But they just wish you saw yourself how they saw you.

They wish you saw the way your cheeks rounded more when you smiled. They wished you saw how cute you looked in bigger outfits. They wished, they hoped, maybe even prayed, you saw how sexy you were.

Saw how the rolls of your fat form deepened as you laid or sat down in front of them, saw how your body jiggled and rippled with each thrust, how soft you felt under their touch, against their bodies, how warm and pleasant you were to hold onto as you and your F/O moved in unison.

They wished you saw how cute you looked, your face a peaceful, pretty painting of post-orgasmic bliss, winding down from your intimate activities.

If only they could make you see what they saw when they held you, had sex with you, slept next to you. Then you'd never look at your reflection with hate ever again.

#tw// fatphobia #tw// body dysmorphia #selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #Selfship imagines #Consider a Daydream #Hi again gang #It's Getting Hot in Here!

[joestarkisser]

AroAce selfshippers who still romantically selfship are valid! 💍

AroAce selfshippers who still sexually selfship are valid! 🔥

AroAce selfshippers who only selfship platonically are valid! ❤

AroAce selfshippers who only have familial selfships are valid! 👪

All AroAce selfshippers are amazing, and don't have to prove anything about their identities to anyone!

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #AroAce #aroace positivity #Ace #Aro #Asexual #Aromantic #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity #yumeship #Yume #a dash of sunlight

[joestarkisser]

tw// gender dysphoria mention.

Are you a transfem/transmasc selfshipper who doesn't have dysphoria?

No genital dysphoria?

No chest dysphoria?

No hip dysphoria?

No body dysphoria at all?

No voice dysphoria?

No behavior dysphoria?

No social dysphoria?

No dysphoria at all?

Are you a transfem/transmasc selfshipper who has a 'bad' identity?

Bi/pan/ply/omni/etc lesbian?

Bi/pan/ply/omni etc gay?

Straight lesbian?

Straight gay?

Trans man lesbian?

Trans woman gay?

Neopronouns?

Use pronouns aligning with your AGAB?

Anything considered 'atypical'?

Are you a transfem/transmasc selfshipper who's more comfortable being trans then they would be cis?

Who's still comfortable with being called a man or woman?

Are you a transmasc selfshipper who wants surgeries like breast augmentation, yet still are trans men?

Are you a transfem/transmasc selfshipper who has no desire to pass?

Are you a transfem/transmasc selfshipper who has no desire to transition, be it medically or otherwise?

Everything about you is valid.

Your F/Os love you.

Your gender, your identity, is a personal and unique experience.

No matter if you're 'bad' for all this, or if people blame oppression on you...

Your F/Os know you. They understand you. You are loved.

#selfship community #selfship #proship selfship #self ship #proselfship #selfship positivity #a dash of sunlight #Transfem #Transmasc #Mspec gay #Mspec lesbian #Straight lesbian #Straight gay #non dysphoric #Trans man lesbian #Trans woman gay #tw// gender dysphoria mention #Not too satisfied w the new banners but #They're so pink and cute #You guys are forced to look st them

[joestarkisser]

hi, sorry if this is weird or if im bothering you, i was just wondering if you have any advice. ive been having trouble connecting to real people for a long time and i feel like its partially due to mentally comparing with my f/o and concluding that no irl people could ever make me feel the way my f/o’s do so its just not worth it. but i also feel really lonely sometimes and im not sure what to do. i kind of wish i was interested in real people and felt like interacting with them was meaningful but a lot of the time it just feels like a chore and i dont like that. i also sometimes get really sad thinking about my f/o because of the fact they arent actually real and i can never actually be with them and would have to either settle for a real person or just be alone. do you ever deal with anything like that? sorry again im not involved with this community i just lurk and idk who to talk to about this you can just ignore this if you want

Hey anon! Sorry for answering this late!

Personally no, I don't deal with this myself. I'm pretty strictly ficto beyond friends and therefore don't worry about things like this often at all. But I can at least try and help a bit!

I think maybe it has to do with idealization. The hardest part is realizing no one is gonna be as perfect as your F/O is IRL, and having such standards can be tough to manage with reality. If you're looking to meet people with romantic intent, try to accept that no one will be 100% like your F/O, and instead approach IRL dating with a more open notebook so to speak. Think of it similar to when you were first getting into the media your F/O belongs to, while you were still learning about your F/O and falling in love with them. In a similar sense, you can learn about a new person and fall in love with them as well!

If you're not actively searching for a relationship, or just looking to make more friends, try not stressing it! I find personally that the best connections with people come from naturally building up to friendship with them via interactions in art sharing servers, on video games, etc! Just try doing something like playing a multiplayer game and the like, without intent to make friends, just to enjoy yourself.. and you may find yourself with connections faster than you think!

Also, it may also be neurodivergency or trauma or both at play here. If possible, try and discuss these feelings with a professional, and see if the cause of this is more clear and manageable for you!

Sorry if this didn't help much, anon. I'm not the best to go to for this, but I hope it helped a little! Good luck!

#a small inquiry #Anon #Gl anon!!!!

[joestarkisser]

hi im a lesbian selfshipper and i reallyyyy like this one male fictional character who only likes men and like. im not a man. im a gal. and i also dont like men. but i still want him so badly? like hes totally my F/O but i also feel weird cause im not sure if he'd be attracted to me. i know this sounds stupid and hes not even real but i want like, 100% confirmation if its valid for me to think of him as my boyfriend??? cause i feel bad for him a little??? somehow?????? for giving him a lesbian girlfriend (me) when hes a gay man?????? its so weird

Anon, you are completely valid and fine!! Your F/O isn't real, and who you selfship with doesn't always line up with who you like IRL! If you only have attraction to real life women, and find lesbian a label you like, then you can still call yourself lesbian!

Even if you still liked other genders you could call yourself lesbian too. Multigenders, cultural genders, things like being a system, being non-white in general, etc all can amount to the use of "contradictory" microlabels! Hell, even just trauma can influence one's labels. I call myself a bi lesbian because of trauma I faced (though I won't go into detail about it in this post just in case), but no matter what it's important to remember that your identity is yours, and you owe no one explanations.

You also owe no one an explanation for your headcanons about your F/O too. Maybe you think of him as mspec gay, or maybe you think of him as having more of a gender experience than a man, anything is fine! So what if your headcanon isn't entirely lined-up with canon? Or even if it does, so what? You're just one person out of many playing with dolls.

The main takeaway? Fiction is fake, your queerness is yours to own, do whatever you want to! If anyone has a problem with it, you can come back to my inbox for positivity and kindness. (*^▽^*)

#Anon #A Small Inquiry