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letters-of-libertas · 1 month

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Energy to carry as a single childfree woman

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Be more self reliant

You dont have to do everything on your own but you need to be able to count on yourself because for the most part that's all you'll have even as you're around others.

Have more intent with actions

Time & energy is valuable. Where you pour these things into steer the course of your life. Give your time & energy to things that help you (and other likeminded women if you want). You dont have to analyse every action you take but occasionally check in with how/if the actions you're taking are helping to build a foundation for your life as a single childfree woman. Things like donating to female centric causes, improving yourself so you can give yourself (& other women) more, organising/engaging in female centric women only spaces - even if they're just online, goes a long way to set the scene. Even indulging in your hobbies. Dont waste your time on things that wont help you or your motives.

Be more resourceful

Contrary to popular belief this lifestyle isn't a walk in the park, there's a lot more you have to account for especially with a level of reduced support. Being able to adapt/improvise + think ahead to mitigate problems will serve you long term. Also generally building up your resources will make getting through hard times easier.

Living my truth > proving my truth

You dont need others stamp of approval to live this way - just get started ! Convincing others is a waste of time your actions (& results) will speak for you anyways.

Reduce giving benefit of doubt

I once saw a quote "giving others benefit of doubt has never benefitted me" and it rings so true. Giving people benefit of doubt rarely ever works in your favour, the red flags that are downplayed often come back to bite you when you least expect it so trust your instincts on matters. If something is off about something or someone; start backing up. Also pure naïvety is rare, people often know more than they let on so trust + act on your instincts on matters if something feels off.

Be proactive

Instead of just constantly reacting to everything around you; take action no matter how small, it'll pay off more than just outrage. Spend less time on social media reacting to the never ending evil of xys and spend more time building for yourself. Social media can be informative but it can also be an echo chamber that breeds reactionary politics which doesn't move things forward. Ik this is ironic because you're reading this on social media but I'm not saying get rid of it all, just reduce your time on it - particularly around reading & reacting to maIe evil. Focus on tangible things in your life you can control & build instead for yourself and womankind.

Invest in indifference

Taking everything to heart will hurt you. Constant anger/hatred to maIes & their bs is still centering them especially if all you do is react. I'm not saying completely ignore it as they target us & a level of awareness is important, but dont let these feelings consume you. Being indifferent will let you look at things at a face value & make more levelled judgement. It helped my mental health a lot in regards to the climate to grow indifferent, this includes towards maIe identified women and even other types of discrimination like racists, ableists, etc. All theory around maIe violence essentially boils down to them being dangerous parasitic terrorists to not be trusted. I move with this & go. I see through them, I dont argue or waste unnecessary emotional energy on them, I dont care for them to understand me, I dont care to prove them wrong (bc in the end it wont matter all you do is give them more cards to play with; this system isnt erected through logic but violence), I have other stuff in my life to focus on. I cant help the way the world is I can only focus on myself & my actions. Typically the best comebacks arise when you dont give a shit. It wont happen in a day but learn to manage your feelings. Be indifferent to what you cant control, flower what you can control. These comments from the female separatist subreddit explain this well.

Learn to prioritise

Contrary to popular belief we can't have it all. Some are able to do so because they've got wives or staff covering sectors of their lives so they can pour more time into other aspects of their lives like business or leisure. But you wont have that privilege rn so some things will have to take a hit. This is also why you need to be selfish with your time. Things like being resourceful to automate/delegate tasks will buy you time but it's still important to be selfish with your time because as you put time in one area, another area loses time. You need to pick what matters. You cannot give your time away to everyone; make time for yourself & your objectives.

Less theory more action

Having a basis of theory/belief is a good place to start but dont get stuck there.

It's okay to be wrong

Mistakes will be made. Experience is how we learn and grow. Go about your business unabashedly.

Obviously not an exhaustive list but these are some main points that come to mind.

#female separatist #female separatism #wgtow #blackpill feminism #wineauntmovement #many tend to shy away from the single childfree lifestyle bc the traditional map/railguards aren't there but thats the fun part of it #wine aunt #childfree

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letters-of-libertas · 4 months

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I'm bi and yeah your note on women not having solidarity seems sadly true. Apart from not dating men would there be anything you would suggest to improve ones life apart from stating away from those women if possible?

I love this question because this is how to start thinking: being practical.

What it takes to "improve ones life" is subjective so with that said firstly define what a better life(style) for yourself away from moids would look like. Temporarily mentally remove xy terrorist existence. What would your habits/routine be? What would you work towards & pour your energy into? What would you want to be? What would you center your life around? Take your time with these questions or anymore that come up. Have a general idea then be more specific and start breaking your life down into sectors/sections/areas, then look at where you want to be in those areas and work towards it.

For example; I divide my life into 6-7 aspects:

Physical Strength - Not just about muscle but knowing how to fight, where to hit and when to fight. Being stronger makes it easier to defend yourself in altercations (especially with other women). Some mfs will try you & you cant always rely on others coming to your rescue. Also work on building stamina to help endurance, and keeping as healthy as possible.

Emotional Strength - If you cant control your emotions they will control you. In a world of chaos being emotionally strong will let you cut through the noise and focus on what truly matters. Building emotional strength is not easy but it's worth it. Being able to rise above immediate reactions and pace yourself will allow you to assess situations more rationally & make more beneficial choices.

Finances - Get your bag up. Having money to gain resources is imperative to quality of life. I dont care what anyone says having a certain amount of money in life WILL make you happier as you're able to meet your needs better. Having more money/resources also makes it easier to support other women should you choose to do so, it also allows you to be more influential and have more control over your life. However, dont become a slave to getting money tho because that's how you get scammed.

Network - The type of people you hang around can make or break who you are as a person. Aim to connect with likeminded women who will encourage & inspire you as you go on this journey. Hang around people that value & will be honest with you while giving you grace. Not all women you engage with have to be single & childfree but beware the moid crazy ones because they will bring danger to you in their quest for maIe validation. Life isn't perfect but you cant go wrong having the right people around you, valuable relationships are hard to find but it goes a long way even if it's just online. However, no company > bad company.

Spirituality/Guide - Having something bigger than yourself to guide you through the chaos in this world can offer guidance/purpose that keeps you grounded & focused. For many people generally this is religion/god. Not everyone needs or ascribes to religion/spirituality though, but at least consider sets of morals/beliefs to follow. However even that isn't for everyone. So if you feel better off without spirituality or a 'higher' guide at least be clear on it & your reasons why (for yourself).

Hobbies & Interests - As turbulent as the world is, find things to enjoy amidst the chaos. Constant work, doom, and gloom will not change anything you will only hurt yourself. Take time to indulge in things that make you happy to recharge & relax. Engage in hobbies that serve you, share your passion with other women & hear theirs out too. It goes a long way in terms of mental health.

Security - It takes privilege to decide to not get married or have children as a woman & live it out. Everyone's situation is different so what I'll generally suggest is to constantly look into how you can protect yourself, have backup methods, and stay in the loop of xy predation. Dont drown in it but moids are predators & being completely blind to them is being blind to danger. Elaborated on point 10 here.

Sounds like a lot? Great, it'll keep you busy because this isn't a vacation or destination but a lifestyle. And to be honest, some of y'all can do with the busyness as it'll let you focus on what actually matters. This not to say to overwhelm yourself in things for the sake of it but to prioritise your energy on effective things for your life. As you focus on building you'll find that you have less energy to care about insignificant stuff or stuff out of your control anyways. For example, Instead of getting wound up about user somerandomadjectivefem stirring discourse calling you an extremist or whining about how impossible it is for her & other women to live without romantic love n' whatnot (or even women irl pulling this crap), you either ignore or quickly shut down the conversation & swiftly move on.

Everything I've mentioned are just examples, you may feel differently do whatever you feel best applies. Also remember to enjoy the process along the way as you are living through it afterall :3

Long story short: Work on building resources & other aspects of your life up for yourself.

#Many tend to shy away from the single childfree lifestyle bc the traditional map/railguards aren't there but thats the fun part of it #for me is figuring it out; figuring myself & the world out; trial-and-error to carve an environment & lifestyle best for me #Few side notes bc I dont want the blog to be too long:#Regarding physical strength: I know that no amount of training will make you as strong as the average moid but it isnt in vain #as other women can also act up & there's a higher chance of taking them on successfully without weapons vs xys.#Regarding section on being busy: Personally I dont care for discourse surrounding this topic because my mind is on other things like making #sure my reps for the day are in; making sure I'm staying up-to-date with knowledge I need to do my job; building sources of income #outside of my job;engrossing myself in my interests; for example. You become productively busy enough & what other women do doesnt bother #you. That's not to say completely ignore or not criticise moid-aligned actions; but dont spend too much time wallowing in doing so.#female separatist #female separatism #blackpill feminism #blackpill feminist #wineauntmovement #wine aunt #decentering men

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letters-of-libertas · 5 months

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Since you are very against being in a sexual or romantic relationship with a male but you also mentioned being 99% osa how do you navigate that? If feelings ever come up do you feel disgust and shame or just accept it and let them go? Did they dissipate over time when you came to certain realisations?

The answer is simple: fiction! I have vivid imagination and come up with engaging scenarios with ease. I believe that there is no harm in being attracted to fictional men as well as exploring your attraction through fiction. Fiction can be therapeutic in the absence of a safe environment, which is the case with risk-prone activities like heterosexuality. My understanding of male sexuality has increased exponentially in the past year and I can attest that it is a violent thing to be put through. The further I delve into human history and biology, the more I realize that I am attracted to my idea of what a man is and their physical body and not what they represent as a biological class. It is not a secret that I am a heavy proponent of biological essentialism and it is what majority of my views stem from. My goal is not to convince anyone; the mainstream explanation for sexed behavior simply does not cut it for me. My current understanding of heterosexual dynamics is as follows: men are genome recombinants, are a recent evolutionary development and their reproductive imperative takes up the majority of their cognition. Men are compelled cognitively to mate with as many females as possible to recombine the human genome. It is a solid interpretation of men's propensity for infidelity outside of cultural practices. My standard for a fulfilling relationship is sexual exclusivity, a quality men are incapable of providing. Their ultimate satisfaction will always be sexual novelty, be it physical or imaginary. You will never be special to him the way he is to you and you can never be certain he is not using your body to masturbate to the thought of someone else. Your subordinate place in societal hierarchy ensures he will not suffer the pangs of conscience as you were never meant to matter in the first place. Men will never be willing to give up these sexual patterns because they are rewarded every step of the way for exhibiting them, and patriarchy ensures they are met. Men are adept at concealing the fickleness of their attraction and there is no length that a man will not go to to maintain a woman's trust. A heterosexual relationship is a union of convenience to the male, not bonding. There is no difference between dating a man and believing he is loyal and turning to imagination because both are a fantasy. The latter guarantees the absence of domestic violence and STDs; it is a deal that is too good to pass up. We live in an era where we are able to exit the system not only physically, but emotionally as well. I live a fulfilling life letting my imagination run its course and I would deeply regret it if I had it any other way.

I do not feel bad about myself. Feelings are unconscious and berating yourself for the things you have no say in is counterproductive. I accept my feelings as they come because they are a useful indicator. What we are in control of is our actions, and our actions, in turn, mould our range of emotions after a healthier mindset. Questioning whichever preferences bring you the most comfort is a good start. For as long as your objective is to make peace with your attraction, you will succeed. My attraction to men did lessen as my knowledge progressed, I hardly see the appeal anymore. I am so engrossed in my fantasy of a man who is different cognitively yet engaging either way I find external input redundant. It has been a year since I committed to this mindset and my mental and physical health have been on a steady incline, so my personal anecdote can be a testament to its efficacy. I cannot stress enough how small of a time frame a year is when it comes to something as profound as a world view shift. I encourage anyone who is in doubt to try and distance themselves from heterosexual relationships in the material world as it is safe to assume that attempting to reframe, not denounce, a man's presence in your life has been the very thing that led you down the path of disturbance. The decision does not have to come from a place of disdain for the male kind, but respect for your internal compass. There is no shortage of feminists who partner men and swear by their devotion which should pose reassurance yet you keep looking for answers; I intuitively know that something is off and I assume that you do as well. You should listen to your intuition and compare your states, past and present, after trying things out. Being at ease with your attraction is possible and I wish for you to successfully figure your approach out.

#i love this sm because it's possible to control your feelings to xys you can be osa + not give into your feelings knowing what moids are

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