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Get attacked (with affection)!! ✨💚SEND THIS TO OTHER BLOGGERS YOU THINK ARE WONDERFUL. KEEP THE GAME GOING💛✨

#ask and you shall receive #freenarnian #<3

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#oh these are BEAUTIFUL

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cool kids with licenses:

#had my license for 12 years now and never been pulled over #doing my best to keep it that way!

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got curious how many people make their own icons, and how much is fanart versus original.

AUs & redesigns count as fanart!

#stock image i found on google

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this does not apply if you wear exclusively leggings. Those things tear all the time you need like a million on standby

#i voted three because that's how many i have that i actually wear #(i found one style in one brand that works for me and i just order the exact same kind online whenever one wears out XD) #technically i do have three more pairs hanging in the closet but one is exercise pants that i doubt even fit anymore #and the others are dress pants that i haven't worn in years since the office allowed us to wear jeans

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If you set a boundary and someone else is disappointed or angry or upset, that reaction does not mean you’re not allowed to set boundaries or that it was wrong of you to do that.

If you ask someone for something and they say no, that does not mean you shouldn’t ask for things or that it was wrong of you to ask. Saying no to something, even if you really want it, is not (by itself) an attack on you, either.

There will be times in every good relationship where one person says no to what the other person wants. And there will be times when that answer feels bad to the other person.

That can be uncomfortable, but it’s healthy and good to be able to say no to each other. It’s healthy and good to ask each other for things and give the other person the chance to say yes or no. It’s healthy and good for each of you to be able to hear “no” and accept it even when it’s disappointing.

It’s healthy and good to own your emotional reaction and make sure you both agree that being upset is a normal and manageable feeling, not a crisis that requires someone to give up their boundaries.

#louder for the people in the back #(the people in the back are me from a few years ago)

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#lol #oTL #christianity

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#i cry a lot but i am so productive #(well...sometimes)

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#my bones are so very tired

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I always think it's really weird how so many Christians seem to operate as if men and women are incapable of just being friends without things getting weird.

Then I am reminded how aggressively single and downright creepy a lot of guys are. The sheer number of female friends and acquaintances I've talked with over the years who have horror stories of terrible experiences with men attests to that fact.

And then I remember how a lot of western culture places a disproportionate focus and value on romantic relationships over friendships, and how common that sentiment is reflected in our media.

And then I remember how when I was younger it was legit just an expectation for friendships between guys and girls to develop romantic feelings. How I was teased by my own family about female friends, as if the adults around me knew my feelings better than I did. How confused I became as a result. How this constant treatment led to me ruining many friendships unnecessarily in my formative years because I could no longer differentiate romantic love from platonic love, and how common that experience seems to be for both men and women alike.

And then I think... Yeah, I guess it makes sense so many Christians assume men and women can't just be friends. It begins with perfectly valid concerns - usually about avoiding sexual immorality and heartbreak. Then it spirals into pessimism and perpetuates itself as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

All that being said, I really think it would benefit the church as a whole - especially western Christians - to stop fixating on romance so much and at least TRY to learn how to be friends with the opposite sex. Yes, we are still subject to human nature, and yes, we should still be establishing and enforcing boundaries, being wise with our company and the situations we put ourselves in, etc - but we should at least be capable of talking with one another and working together without feeling the need to scope out a mate and flirt. That sort of behavior makes sense for the unregenerate, but I truly think that Christians should expect better of themselves and each other.

Christian men and women can't function at their fullest together as the body of Christ when we're treating romance as the pinnacle of love. Learn to first love each other as Christ loves us and friendship with the opposite sex will be a lot easier.

#this #in defense of platonic love #christianity

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hey, at the end of feb you did this idea-prompt post thing that was in a chain (i would link it but i dont know if thats allowed in your asks) and i was wondering if youd be fine with me posting what ive written based on that? you probably are (i hope) but i just thought id ask anyway

Yes! I'm not sure which you're referring to, but go for it!

#ask and you shall receive #mayonaisie

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reblog and put in the tags if you had to be stuck in one month forever which one you would choose. i think i’d pick september

#my favorite month is february #but i think i might actually go with october #you can kind of get a sampling of a whole bunch of different temperatures and weathers #and the leaves are turning fun colors

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reblog for sample size !!

#grey

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#fma #ruined me for any other anime #none i've seen since comes anywhere close to dethroning the king

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edward and alphonse wandering across amestris for 3.5 years looking for a way to return to their original bodies: mustang can we get a philosopher's stone?

mustang: you have a philosopher's stone at home

the philosopher's stone at home:

#lol #full metal alchemist #fullmetal alchemist #fma #i literally burst out laughing XD

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be soft because your softness is someone's safe place.

#this is like...my number one goal in life

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my new poster for the 30th Anniversary of Myst, available over at the Cyan store (link in the source and the comments)! This imagery has been indelibly inscribed on the inside of my eyelids since I was a kid, so it was an absolute joy bringing it to life in a more official capacity. 📚

#myst #my beloved! #beautiful fanart