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Polyam culture is getting SO excited when your new-to-poly partner tells you about some action they got while you were away for the first time

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Hi I’m 21 and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for over 2 years I love them a lot and I don’t want to change anything between us. However I have always gotten crushed on other people and they’ve always known this, they are incredibly chill but I’ve never been sure if I want to act on these crushes. Now I’m feeling like maybe I do and my partner is absolute comfortable with me doing that even though they don’t think that they are poly themselves but I am absolutely terrified to explore this side of myself even though I think I want to. I’m not really sure why I’m asking honestly, just looking for some advice as it’s all very confusing and I’m scared to mess things up with my partner.

It'a so valid to be nervous! I think if your partner has given you explicit permission to pursue other connections, there's no reason to not at least give it a shot. Talk about boundaries, what is and isn't on the table for you to do with other people, how much they want to hear about it, etc, then go have fun! It's definitely terrifying and it'll take a while to unlearn some of the guilt you will feel from being taught your whole life that you should never date someone other than your partner, but if you've both communicated expectations and desires, there is nothing to worry about as far as "ruining the relationship" goes. Best of luck!

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realising that you're polyamorous after hanging out with two of your friends you thought would like each other and watching them get along and realising that oh my god i am full of love and realising that when you're in a romantic relationship you want that too.

This is almost exactly what happened to me lmao

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I am newly poly and have a girlfriend I’ve been with for a few months now. I just started seeing another sweetie and while talking with my gf about it I got an overwhelming sense of happiness and gratitude and felt like I could cry tears of joy. I was overwhelmed with the reality that I could be in love with two people and have two beautiful relationships and the fulfillment and love I felt in my heart was incredible. Is there a word for this? Has anyone else experienced this? Thank you!

Isn't it so wonderful!! I get overwhelmed with gratitude for the ability to explore all the relationships I want to sometimes too. It's so lovely to be so so loved <333

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Don't know if this is for advice but I need to confess this to SOMEONE outside the 4 of us. For many reasons, no one outside the 4 people mentioned here know anything about this

I'm a happily married man with a wonderful wife of 10 years. She's my best friend, my lover, and every bit the partner I need.

We're both well aware of our poly natures and have even tried (unsuccessfully) to open up to a third. It wasn't the right person or fit but we at least tried. Outside of that we've both had some FwB and it's never had any negative impact on our relationship.

But now I actually fell in love.

I fell in love with a streamer and what started as parasocial became just plain social to becoming very intimate and real. The kicker, this streamer girl is also happily married to her own man (4 years now) and they are also open to poly.

After a few weeks of this buildup, we had our first "date" over Discord video and all partners involved were nothing but supportive. It's long distance but the opportunity to visit each other is very real. The opportunity for sex is very real and very much discussed. The possibility of group sex in many configurations is on the table.

And through all this, we've firmly established our commitments and love to our spouses first and foremost, while still talking every day and very much falling in love with each other more and more.

I know all the important parts of navigating a poly relationship, and with how open all communication has been across all parties involved, I'd say we're doing okay.

I'm just feeling a little overwhelmed with how much I feel the euphoria of new love. Falling in love wasn't something I ever expected to happen to me again. I honesty didn't think I was capable of it. This wasn't me choosing someone, I had not say in the matter. My heart just said "this one" and took the rest of me along for the ride.

I don't know if what I need is advice but this is such an "out there" situation for me. Outside of the 4 of us, there's no one to talk to about what's going on. Partially because none of our close friends/family are poly and wouldn't really understand the dynamics, especially when they've gone through problems of cheating. And we also can't let it get out that a streamer fell in love with a viewer, for reasons I hope are obvious.

So this is my anonymous confession. Any whatever words you have for me, I'll take them.

This is so exciting! I'm so happy you're getting this opportunity with so much support from your respective partners behind you! It absolutely makes sense to be overwhelmed and probably pretty nervous about meeting in person for the first time, but just enjoy the moment as much as you can. Falling in love, especially for the second time, is intimidating, and comes with complicated feelings, but it's also so much fun. I hope things go well for you all and that you'll keep me updated on how things go! We all struggle a bit with lack of community to share these things with I think, so I adore being the void to shout into. <3

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Do other polyamorous people ever forget that not everyone has multiple partners? Because I swear sometimes I find out someone is monogamous and I’m like “that’s such a weird lifestyle but good for them I guess” /j

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How I didn't realize I was poly before 21 even though my go-to reaction to love triangle drama in media is "Why don't they just all date" is beyond me.

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reblog with what your partners would find if they searched themselves (or each other) in your phone

saw a tiktok saying like "the urge to go through his phone and search your name in his messages 😫" and EVERY comment was like "did this and hurt my own feelings 😭" "couldnt sleep for days after i did it 😭" "the way this actually destroyed me 😭"

putting aside the fact that you shouldn't go through people's phones and private conversations without permission. I know if I were to do this on my partner's phone that I would only find positive things or at worst, them being worried about me when I'm having a hard time. BUT to give the benefit of the doubt, I was curious what my partner would find if they were to search their name in my phone. Here are the worst messages I could find:

plus countless texts to my roommates asking if I can invite them over lol

anyway, it's important to find people who adore you. If you suspect they're shit talking behind your back, it's probably time to move on.

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Hi I’m new to being polyamorous and I am struggling immensely

First I want to say I don’t know anyone in my life who is polyamorous (other than my partner and I) so forgive me if this is unorthodox but I need some void in which I can scream.

My partner and I have miscommunicated to hell and back and while they believed our relationship to be open to begin flirting with other people, I thought we were still speaking hypothetically.

Now they started flirting with someone else and took it to a sexual nature immediately. I guess that’s what flirting means to them, that wasn’t clear to me. They didn’t tell me till a week later they were talking to this person, and wanted to try pursuing a romantic relationship with them but wanted my permission.

Now this relationship is exclusively online for them, and they stated that for most of the correspondence it was through anon messages on this persons blog. My partner says that the relationship not as real to them until it got to DMs. Once they moved onto DMs they cooled on the sexual nature of their messages. But they still kept tagging each other in NSFW posts.

I’m going through a whirlwind of emotions, not feeling ready for this step but I don’t want to take this opportunity away from my partner? I truly want us to have a healthy, polyamorous relationship. It does not pain me they have someone they’re interested in, I am pained that I didn’t know.

I am also struggling with jealousy over some of the sexual things they spoke about, thinking some of those things were special to us. Worried that maybe they’d prefer this person, their body, etc.

Although I do want these same opportunities for myself in the future, I am just struggling with these things because it’s my first time experiencing them.

I’m aware how absolutely undesirable this situation sounds all written out. No one talks about what it was like realizing they’re polyamorous but also transitioning to having polyamorous relationships from monogamous ones.

This weighs on my heart and so I lament to you as that’s all I feel I can do and wonder if anyone can tell me “dude I have fucking been there”

Oof, this is a really rough situation to be in. Feelings can get so damn complicated during big changes like that, especially if it started off with some pretty serious miscommunication.

It's definitely a great sign that you're recognizing all of your emotions and where they stem from, and I hope you've been keeping your partner in the loop about it all! I've always recommended having a conversation with them about things you would like to remain special to just the two of you, like a specific pet name or date location. Sometimes meeting the metamour (the person your partner is dating) can help ease feelings of uncertainty or jealousy, but don't force yourself to if you're not ready to. Couples therapy with a poly-informed therapist can't hurt either.

I'm certain there are people who have been through it like you have, and I hope my followers will share their similar stories! My heart goes out to you, anon, as you navigate this new change <3

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Periodic Table of the Polycules, by u/aprilarcus on Reddit

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polyam culture is your crush asking you and your girlfriend out on valentine's day and SQUEALING /pos

aaaa congrats!!

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shhhh itll be okay here have some wholesome memes about poly trios

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2 all the way up to 10 people hugging/cuddling !!

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polyamorous culture is having literally so many varied crushes on all of your good friends and then having mini heart attacks any time they flirt with you jokingly. help they are all so pretty

I love my friends so much 😭

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