finally made a sideblog for video game stuff: @massaffectt
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social media really got people confused.
if your partner could see all your social media activity would they be happy? if they were doing the things you're doing or did, would you be happy?
if not, then you cheated. its that simple. you dont have to fuck someone or kiss someone to cheat. if youre stalking someone's socials everyday all day that's cheating lmao. you are emotionally attached to that person and giving them your energy and probably lying about it. obviously it depends what kind of relationship youre in but if youre putting on some performance of commitment and loyalty and true love etc and then youre really out here being attached to someone else especially if its a secret, you cheated. and that can also be fine like relationships can heal and all but if you keep that shit a secret that is not cool at all. imo you deserve to lose that relationship if the truth comes out.
even when it comes to likes, what’s the intention there? because some people say it’s harmless and it can be, but the reality is that a lot of times you’re subconsciously baiting people and seeing what happens. that’s why I’m not cool with seeing people sending likes and heart eyes on selfies when they’re in a relationship with someone I care about.
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I would love to get back to posting and I will soon but my life has been so hectic in the best ways. just been super busy and when im not busy im relaxing with some games and my boo. just quite literally dont have time for much else. haven't really been on any socials at all.
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In the past few months I was ghosted by a few people and I should have known were going to ghost because of their repeated avoidant behavior and general inability to be vulnerable. It sucks for me because obviously it hurts to be ghosted, but it also sucks for them because they’re living a life in which they’re are not equipped with the tools they need to feel safe facing certain situations. A lot of times (but not always) people who ghost are deeply scared people without the trust they need in themselves to be brave. I’m not trying to say this with judgement, just explaining what I've experienced and learned about the psychology of it. It’s fear and avoidance. There can be many specific reasons and a lot of context but the root of it is running away from a situation.
Being ghosted is not a reflection of your worth. It hurts, let it hurt. That’s okay. But this is really about the mental state and inner world of the ghoster rather than you. Yes, you *may* (possibly, perchance) have participated in the reason for their ghosting, but at the end of the day they still chose the option of someone who isn’t emotionally mature nor available. That's not on you. Ghosting can only happen when there is insecurity and immaturity. As time passes you’ll see you are better off. In some cases, you might have even dodged a bullet. Because as much as people can absolutely change, many waste their whole life being this kind of person. They don’t know how to take accountability for their actions and they do whatever they want and make up excuses and bullshit in order to try and defend themselves. But there is no excuse. It’s like when a child says they hit their sibling because they took their toy or something. It’s not a valid reason for hitting. You can understand why they did it, doesn’t make it acceptable.
There is a reason, but there is no excuse.
(also if you're someone who has ghosted someone else I'm not trying to be hateful or judge you. a lot of this is just generalizations or things ive observed about people in my life. it is understandable why you would have ghosted, I'm just saying its not not okay. and I hope you get to a place where you can take accountability and choose better next time because you are totally capable of that and you're worth making better decisions for yourself and those around you.)
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source: cottagecore magazine
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they’re not mysterious they just have poor communication skills
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