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I feel like this wizard stumbled on the perfect way to get them to have a decent party name. Killing for your name is a time honoured tradition.

top tip for gms: if you dont want your players coming up with some stupid fuck name for their party just have an npc call them a collective nickname like youre gently offering food to a scared stray dog from a distance where it feels safe enough to not bolt on sight

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This is a friendly reminder that none disabled people often do benefit from the same accommodations disabled people benefit from.

#important #disability awareness

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I often do the disappointed head shake.

Unless they've almost killed me, then I scream

#they ACCELERATED at me. #the disappointed look does wonders.

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holy shit is this gorgeous.

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MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: “Masking = Acting NT.”

FALSE.

Autistic masking does not necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d definitely be forgiven for thinking it does.

Non-autistic researchers have been referring to it as “camouflaging” for years, framing it as an intentional choice to suppress autistic traits and replace them with allistic ones in order to “blend in.” Doing an internet search on the term will return several similar results.

But now, Autistic researchers are in the game, and their take is much more nuanced and comprehensive than that. (Funny how that happens, isn’t it?)

They’ve found that:

- It CAN be intentional but is often subconscious and involuntary 

- It is a protective response to trauma and feeling unsafe 

- It is often about suppressing more than just autistic traits 

- It is about identity management and being able to predict how people will treat you, not just “blending in”

Some people will lean into being “the bad kid” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Some people will even act “more autistic” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Others still will do things to attract attention in controllable, more “acceptable” ways to avoid attracting attention in unsafe, more stigmatizing ways. Not because they WANT to be that way, but because it lets them predict people’s responses better, which feels safer.

Also, there are Autistic people who can’t “pass” for non-autistic no matter how hard they try. That doesn’t mean they’re not masking. They may actually be working hard to suppress A LOT, they just can’t do everything to neuronormative standards.

None of these people will be accused of “blending in,” yet they are still masking their hearts out. When we assume they are not, we miss all the harm that masking is causing them. But they are suppressing themselves and suffering the consequences of that just as much as any Autistic person whose mask successfully says, “Hey, I’m just like you!”

(For more on this, please see the work of Dr. Amy Pearson and Kieran Rose.)

#so much of my childhood makes more sense now. #I tried to rationalise it down #it took a long time to realise the rest of the world is not acting rationally

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sobbing into my plate after overhearing a conversation between a mom and her tiny daughter in this shopping centre food court

#what I wished I had as a kid #I try hard to live by these words now

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what are you all doing that has a hundred percent chance of anything?!

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"Look Greg, it was funny at first, but NO ONE will buy that your date preferences are 'chasing sticks', 'barking at cats', and 'long walks where you can sniff a lot of things', and that you're not a werewolf, it's just NOT ON mate."

within fifteen minutes i have found two different grown adult men who have dating app profiles that say their worst fear is:

werewolves.

one was funny. two is like... hang on, do we actually have a werewolf problem in this town?

#read it in a WWDitS voice #it'll make it funnier #that dry kiwi humour #what we do in the shadows

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are we sure that's not a breadmaker, because the loaf is spilling out

#critters #kitty #cat

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*baffled face* do they just mean a woman who is self-employed in the sex trade? What is that phrase even? If she (or he or they or whomever) is being sold, then that's sex trafficking and NOT OK. If she's finding her own clients and is working on her own terms, she's a sex worker, or as some might call it, "a prostitute".

Unless she's debasing herself in work for money (like, say, having to smile at all people even as they insult ala retail where she really doesn't have the freedom to leave), because THAT would be a prostituted woman.

You know, as a former whore who does in fact feel that sex work is the coal-face of misogyny - or at least it was for me - I could do without reading the phrase "prostituted women" ever again. Like, fucking excuse you, actually. Don't say that shit.

#sex work is work #I have said it before and I'll say it again #it's the oldest profession #and I 100% support anyone who does it #I never want a soul forced into it like I feel I have been with retail #retail often feels so demeaning

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The fact that they need to be reminded YOU TELL PEOPLE SHIT is also infuriating.

I want to believe this might be because the third-party has seen the symptoms over a longer period and therefore it isn't a once-off thought, but an ongoing issue

It'd be nice to just be believed though.

This ABSOLUTELY works.

I have used this for many years. Definitely b do it.

#medical #tell me you have women issues without telling me you have women issues

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The only reason why transphobes always ask “what is a woman” instead of “what is a man” is because we all know that a man is a featherless biped.

#yep #that's her alright #iykyk

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in this trying time post tax-time, might I offer you a frog

Welcome to Build-a-Frog!

Click here to enter

#frog #critter #art #build #create your own

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#but those boots were made for walking #so what else can you do? #something something step on me?

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running out of cryptids? Make your own!

Herders in Lapland (Finland) are spraying their reindeer’s antlers with reflective paint to help drivers see them in the dark and the end results are really creepy.

SOURCE

#home grown horrors #critters #reindeer #yeah that's gonna haunt me

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They're good doggos, having a good doggo time. It's not their fault humans keep putting themselves in bad spots

The first and of course most significant purchase I have made for my hot wife and my’s marital home is of course a beautiful print of the following, Man Proposes, God Disposes by Edwin Landseer.

You’ve seen it I bet.

#critters #polar bears #don't fuck with the polar bears #no really #don't #they will just end you