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vitiateoriginator · 11 months

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Briefly talked with my fam last night about my datemate and mine's moving plans (we decided we're going to try and get in the apartment we were originally accepted for again, when another unit becomes available). We told them they need to be prepared in July, when my sis is supposed to get a raise. As soon as we're able to reapply, and they can afford to hold a lease without my help, we're leaving.

But recently my sister's job has threatened to cut her hours, because her company realized she barely does any work as our mom's healthcare aid, as mom can mostly take care of herself. She's been trying to aapeal the company's decision. She said while awaiting a trial for it, they won't cut her hours, and she's going to get a raise in July supposedly because the government is raising the pay rate for healthcare workers then

Now my sister is saying that her hours are going to get cut regardless, so they need me to stay with them, because they can't afford living in their apartment if I go. Despite the fact that she's perfectly capable of getting a new or second job. Then thety told me to look for an apartment owned by a different company than the place we're living at. That way I can keep my name on their lease. But my datemate and I have concluded all the other places are either too ratty for the price, out of our budget/we won't be eligible to get in (we need to make 3 times the rent combined), or they're too far from shopping areas for us to go to easily. The apartment complex we've chosen as our go to is literally perfect for us. But my fam tried convincing me otherwise

Then my mom chimes "wait if they move out, even if we get a third lease signer, we might not be able to afford rent with your hours cut [sister's name]!"

Without even considering my sister can just get herself another fucking job. Its always gotta fall on me.

#my datemate's ready to leave because he can't stand living with my family (completely understandable)#I think he'd just go back home to his abusive family tho. not break up #but still that would really suck cause he'd be all the way in jersey again #it would put more strain on our relationship #especially because we're ready to take the next step and move into a place just the two of us #to go from that to being in a LDR again would be painful #plus who does my family think they are trying to control what I do #without ever considering what they should do #the right thing I mean #manipulating me into doing what they want has always been their go-to for their self preservation #everyone I've talked to is roght #They're adults and can figure things out for themselves #Im almost 25 ffs. I should be able to go off and live my life #it's not like Im some bratty teenager who doesn't know what Im doing #I know how to pay bills. do laundry. make appointments. cook. clean. etc etc #and whatever I don't know I can look up or get help for #my sister can't even be bothered to consider working a job that doesn't let her sit on her ass all day #quite literally #she sits and watches tv all day and smoke weed and cigarettes interchangeably every hour without exaggeration #she rarely cooks anymore and assumes my datemate and I are going to order her and mom food without helping to pay for it #she cleans maybe once a month or if company is coming #she only leaves the house once a week to food shop and to get cigarettes and weed #but she isn't disabled ir anything. she can move just fine #she just doesn't want to work ''work smarter not harder'' sge says #meaning if you can get a job uou can sit and do nothing on then do it. and she fucking does #well now she's gonna have to get a real job. wait tables or work retail or get new clients where she already works. idgaf #she's gonna have to figure it out. its not my responsibility to make sure her and mom don't go homeless #mom can get into an independent living facility thru medicare. mybsis would have to be on her own. mom won't let that happen #so whatever. let them choose their own fate. Im leaving #sam's rants about life

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