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Anime and manga uses its own visual language to show a character’s inner thoughts and feelings. The visual language isn’t always easy to understand for those new to the medium. Some expressions, such as happiness, are easy enough, but how do you show a character has an upset stomach from anxiety? What about dismay?

Anime and manga uses a minimalistic style to build character expressions. The style, thought to be influenced by Walt Disney, pulls from Japan’s own art history. Namely, it pulls from ukiyo-e, or woodblock prints. These woodblock prints used Japan’s minimalistic portraiture it inherited from China and made the images widely accessible to the public. The simplicity of the style (which is by no means easy to achieve) allows manga artists to quickly suggest emotion, but the simplicity has limitations not found in more detailed styles. In response, a visual language developed to overcome these limits–sweat drops, beady eyes, popping veins, and other stylizations. The problem is how this language, like any language, has to be learned. Luckily, visual language plays on how the mind understands images.

More than the Face

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Base Expression

Happier

Happy Love

Facial expressions aren’t limited to the face. We know body language influences how we understand a person’s intentions, but anime takes it further and uses hair and backgrounds to show expressions. Cowlicks and hair accessories are common additions to expressions. Background patterns flavor an expression.

For example, the base expression above is a happy laugh. Her eyes are closed and the upward sweep of her eyelids lend to the feeling of happiness. Downward sweeps tend to look sad. The upward sweep suggests how human eyes crinkle and close when we laugh or smile. But how do we express even more happiness? We could exaggerate the smile more, but after a certain point it moves from happy to unnerving as we pass beyond the bounds of natural expression. So manga artists added backgrounds. The middle image uses stylized flowers and butterflies to increase the happiness level. She’s feeling light as a butterfly and as happy as a spring flower opened to the sun. The movement of the icons behind her makes it feel as if she is shaking her shoulders as she laughs (and all without the typical motion lines). The third image replaces the butterflies and flowers with hearts; she is feeling happy and loved. Backgrounds flavor expressions to the point where I consider them as much a part of the expression as the mouth and eyes.

Cowlicks work similar to backgrounds. Most of the time they clarify and strengthen what the character is feeling. Let’s look at a few examples.

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Cowlicks work similar to a dog’s tail or cat’s tail. Surprised or shocked expressions appear even more, well, surprised or shocked when a cowlick sticks up like an antenna. If this was a video, the cowlick would quiver. Of course, this only works after a neutral cowlick pose has been established. Antenna hair won’t look like shock if the hair is always standing on end. Cowlicks can animate independent of the character’s facial expressions, betraying the true feelings of the character. This allows the author to show when the character is hiding their true feelings from other characters. There isn’t a set standard for how cowlicks show expressions, but generally they droop when a character feels sad. They will twitch much like a divining rod when a character is curious and spin when the character is confused. Of course, antennas are common. At times, antennas are combined with spinning to show alert curiosity or confused shock, depending on the situation. Context matters with all expressions.

Standard Expressions

Anime and manga fans will see these expressions as self explanatory, but for some people, the simplicity of the face still requires a little deciphering. Think of these expressions as building blocks. Anime character design has interchangeable parts that can be combined to create complex emotions. Eyes and mouths are the most important aspects. Because the style uses few lines, even a slight change in a part of a mouth line can create a different expression.

The style also likes to exaggerate these standard expressions to the point they become stylized, even for an already stylized visual language. First, let’s look at standard expressions.

Neutral expressions serve as the baseline for a character. Some characters always wear a smile, for example. They don’t always show natural temperament. Some characters use a certain expression as a way to hide their inner feelings.

Introverted characters tend to have what some would call sadder default expressions or, ehem, a “resting bitch face.” Both of which are demeaning and come from a bias toward a bubbly extrovert exterior.

Happiness

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Base Expression

Happiness has, perhaps, the most variation of all expressions. There are various degrees of happiness, from a slight grin to over-the-top manic joy. Happiness can also develop a creepiness to it when a smile extends far outside of normal boundaries. This can mean the character is plotting something devious. Smiles can hide emotions. In fact, this is a common theme throughout slice-of-life and romantic anime. A slight tear in the corner of the the eye can suggest how much the character hurts behind the smile. Now add in background as we’ve discussed, and you can see how sometimes an anime smile isn’t as straightforward as it appears. The character’s neutral expression also factors into the smile. A default smile means the character has to use larger smiles to show their happiness (or hide their pain). Whereas a smaller smile on a “sadder” neutral expression can mean just as much as a large smile on a bubbly neutral face. And the larger smile may well hide larger pain in the “sadder” neutral character.

Context matters, and anime comes from a culture that focuses on subtext. The Tale of Genji and Snow Country are good examples of how subtext tells the story within Japanese literature. In both stories, there doesn’t appear to be much of a plot. However, the plot happens in what is not said or done. Everything is implied or indirect. Characters rarely say what they mean or truly feel. Anime uses this tradition as well within its dialogue and its expressions.

Sadness

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Sadness

Tearing up

Crying

Anime sadness depends on the eyebrows. When a person is sad, the eyebrows will arch at forehead, and the eyes will close to various degrees. The more closed they become, the more tears will flow. Of course, in some scenes, the eyes will remain open, but more naturalistic anime will have the eyes close when the character cries. The angle of the eyebrows, mouth, and eyes are what denote sadness. Happy tears will keep the upward arch of the eyes and a smiling mouth. The eyebrows also won’t meet in the middle of the forehead as we see above. The mouth and the amount of tears determines the degree of sadness. I drew these examples with the girl biting her lip, but full on crying often involves a “laughing” mouth with its corners tapering downward rather than upward. Its a matter of what you want the character to portray. Fighting the tears, as the above examples do, shows more inner turmoil than full-on, open-mouthed crying. She is trying to resist an overwhelming emotion. It depend on what your story needs. But because anime and manga uses few lines, each one counts; you need to think carefully about how each line contributes to your goal.

Anger

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Anger is closely related to sadness–eyebrows matter. The eyes and mouth can be similar, but the eyebrows angle down, forming a V at the forehead. The eyes will also scrunch. If you compare the eyes of my examples, you will see they are similar to eyes in the smiling examples, but the eyebrows shift the expression of the eyes. Like sadness, the mouth determines the degree of the expression. Lips pressed tight, represented by a horizontal line, can show inner tension. The character is getting close to exploding or suppressing their feelings. In the other example, she is dressing down another character. Her mouth is open and teeth are exposed, suggesting threat. Notice how the corners of the mouth angle down. Sometimes upward corners can send mix messages to the viewer, like the character is amused while angry. It depends on what you want to portray. Teeth can lend threat to the expression, which is why sometimes you will see fangs as part of more stylized expressions of anger. Teeth suggest the character wants do bodily harm–the more pointed, the more harm.

Anger can be combined with tears in the corners of the eyes for more subtext. Tears can mean the character is hurt or she is the type of person who cries when angry. Guys too can cry when angry. Blind rage requires a more stylized depiction.

Stylized Expressions

Anime and manga has a habit of breaking from naturalistic expressions in order communicate what the character feels as clearly as it can. For those who aren’t used to the visual language, the abrupt deformations can be jarring and confusing. It can include characters suddenly growing larger than other characters, growing enormous heads, or becoming big-headed dwarfs–known as chibi. Most of the time, it involves exaggerating the standard expressions we’ve examined.

Manga and anime also uses visual accent marks to shift the stylization or standard expression. The popping vein and sweat drop number among these marks. They work similar to how accent marks above a letter shifts how its pronounced. That’s why anime’s images are called a visual language. They speak to us in the same way words do. In any case, let’s look at some examples of stylized expressions and how visual accent marks can shift the character’s emotions.

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Overwhelmed

Dead

Shock

Dizzy

Most stylized expression deal with the eyes. Anime eyes are already far from being natural looking. Large eyes are used throughout modern anime because of their expressiveness. They feel innocent and offer a wide range of emotion as they open and close and stylize as in the above examples. Empty circles show a character is overwhelmed by events or another character’s stupidity. It suggests the character’s mind has shut down. Dead eyes appear when a character is completely and utterly overwhelmed by events. Beady eyes show shock. The human pupil enlarges when a person is stressed or afraid. Anime eyes typically have large pupils, so beady eyes simulate this response by drawing only the pupil. They also look as if the character’s mind has shut down, just like the overwhelmed and dead expressions. The last expression hearkens back to Warner Bros Looney Tunes. The character is feeling dizzy, as if the world is spinning. A floating spiral near the head, as shown in the example, sometimes appears to emphasize the sensation.

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Blind Rage

Anger- Popping Vein

Variation of “Sick”

Distressed Shock

Most of the time, a popping vein supplements an anger expression, but blind rage is a common way of showing anger as well. Edward Elric from Fullmetal Alchemist often has this expression. The character is literally blind because of the lack of pupils. Sometimes the mouth become stylized as a box-shape and fangs will sometimes appear too. The popping vein, or cruciform, is one of anime’s most common accent marks. It represents the vein that pops out in some people’s temples as their blood pressure rises. Of course, anime will place the veins over the hair, on the hands, and other spots. Popping veins are a step between standard anger and blind rage. They will sometimes appear in a neutral expression to show increasing irritation or anger. Usually the character explodes after two or three popping veins appear.

Sickness, or anxiety, is an obscure accent image. Vertical lines descend from the forehead to show how a character’s mind feels heavy or how they are feeling ill. Sometimes blue or purple coloring joins the lines. Sometimes this accent is used to show depression. It depends on context and the normal behavior of the character. I added a few squiggled lines to clarify the sick feeling a little more. Most of the time, the forehead lines will stand alone. They can appear over the character’s hair.

The sweat drop shows distress. It appears across all expressions, including happy expressions and angry. In our case, our it accents our shocked expression. Our girl had seen something she wishes she could unsee. The length and size of the sweat drop suggests the level of distress. It will grow as the feeling increases. Sometimes, you will see a series of small sweat drops that increase as the distress increases. You’ll see the sweat drop when a character witnesses another character acting annoying, perverse, and generally out of sorts.

The Nosebleed

Many people new to anime get confused about the seemingly random nosebleeds characters experience. Nosebleeds are visual shorthand for perverted thoughts. Female characters have them, but male characters are best known for having them. It’s not unusual for a guy’s nose explode into a fountain of blood when he sees a scantily clad lady. The sudden explosions are suggestive of–well, to put it academically–seminal discharge. The association of sexual arousal with a bleeding nose allowed artists to show the feeling on the face (and avoid censorship of male arousal and the inability to obviously show female arousal). Because anime focuses strongly on facial expression over body language, the nosebleed makes sense. The nosebleed uses a part of the face that has few expressions associated with it. After all, with the eyes and mouth already working overtime, they couldn’t clearly show sexual arousal without causing confusion with other expressions.

Embarrassment

Embarrassment is the only common expression that uses the cheeks. Well, to be fair, we could consider this expression related to the eyes. Embarrassment usually appears close to the eyes, but we will count it as a cheek expression. Embarrassment involves a series of lines or a splash of red on the cheeks. It has various exaggerations despite being stylized already. The red tone can spread across the entire face, or the character’s skin from the neckline up can turn red to show their extreme embarrassment. This is a common expression in romance or action stories with romantic elements. Embarrassment can combine with other expressions, both standard and stylized, to create embarrassed anger, embarrassed sadness, and other combinations. Sweat drops and popping veins can also combine with it to add distress or irritation. As you can see, manga allows characters to express complex emotions through visual sentences across the character’s face. But this only works for readers who are familiar with the language. It can become a confused muddle otherwise.

Feeling Catty

Fanged, cat-like mouths appear most often on female characters. These types of fangs don’t associate with anger, which can be confusing. Rather, the character is feeling catty–mischievous. The difference is how the mouth takes on a cat-like appearance, but this doesn’t always happen. Feeling catty also associates with a female feeling sexually aroused or having perverse thoughts and enjoying how her target squirms under her attention. You won’t see embarrassment mix with cat fangs. The character is feeling too confident for that.

This expression shows why the nosebleed became associated with sexual arousal. The mouth is overloaded with expression, so cat-fangs can be confused with anger or some other emotion if the reader isn’t familiar with the character’s personality. Sometimes you will see guys feeling catty, but most of the time such men become chibis to show their perverse antics.

Tear Fountains

The last common exaggerated expression is the tear fountain. This is a reference to Looney Tunes and other American animation styles that feature this exaggeration.

Fountains or streams of tears erupt from the eyes, but it is used for comedy effect rather than express serious sadness. Tear fountains disappear as fast as they appear in most cases. The fountains go from the spurts as the example shows to the more common streams down the cheeks. This exaggeration doesn’t intensify the emotion. Naturalistic tears are sadder than this, whereas most other exaggerations increase the feeling. Instead, this expression allows authors to show funny sadness or fake tears, allowing naturalistic tears to retain their meaning.

Other Expressions

Anime and manga have other expressions that involve body language that aren’t readily understood by new viewers. They combine with the facial expressions we’ve examined. Sometimes you will see series specific expressions, such as in the Tales video game series, that build on anime’s common expressions. Authors often have their own visual languages, such as in the long-running One Piece series, but those special vocabularies are beyond the scope of this article.

Akanbe

Children and immature characters use akanbe. It involves pulling down one lower eyelid and sticking out the tongue. Its a childish gesture similar to thumbing the nose and waggling your remaining fingers. Akanbe is a corruption of akai me, or red eye–referring to the red of the shown lower eye lid.

orz

The word orz represents the pose rather than naming it. The pose is that of complete defeat. The person collapses to their hands and knees under the weight of an event. The posture sometimes involves a sick expression.

Deformation

This odd expression involves the character abruptly transforming into a pencil sketch or some other primitive cut out shape. This expression is used for extreme surprise, shock, or feeling dumbfounded. This typically shows up as a comedy relief and in reaction to something another character says or does. Usually only the audience is aware of the shift, but sometimes even the other characters notice the shift in look for more comedic effect. It is, perhaps, the most stylized of all anime expressions. It resembled modern abstract art.

Anime’s Visual Language

Visual language seeks to tell a story using images that create a type of standard alphabet. For the most part, anime has its own standard alphabet of expressions as we’ve examined. Large eyes, simplified noses, simplified ears, simplified mouths, and other features all serve as visual words that can take a little practice to read. Many of them are easy to understand, but some, like the nosebleed, aren’t readily understood. Anime’s style lends itself to flexibility and variety despite appearing familiar. That’s why it’s a language. Familiar words combine in unique ways, or they may combine in well-known, even cliched, ways. But the words themselves remain the same, just as anime’s few nose designs remain the same. If you are drawing your own characters, experiment with the language. Combine the visual words or exaggerate them. The visual words I discuss here aren’t the only ones available to you. You can also make up your own language like many mangaka and video game series have done.

Drawing in the style is akin to writing by hand. Some people have better calligraphy than others, but as long as the words are legible, the message can be understood. So too with visual languages like anime and manga’s language. A poor-quality anime drawing can still communicate the feelings of a character as long as the visual words are present and in the correct positions. The point of language is to communicate an idea or an experience to another, whether the language is vocal or visual.

Anime’s visual language includes words beyond the facial expressions we’ve examined. Akanbe and orz are just a few of those words. Poses of various types, scenes of electric power lines, and other common conventions of anime expand the language. Many of these visual words have changed over the course of anime. After all, languages change, but the end goal remains: to tell a story. And storytelling is what unites us across cultures and languages.

Anime and Manga Facial Expression Guide Anime and manga uses its own visual language to show a character's inner thoughts and feelings. The visual language isn't always easy to understand for those new to the medium.

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mjbanaag-blog · 7 years

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Will God Tell Me When It's Time to Break Up?

“I’m hoarse from calling for help, bleary-eyed from searching the sky for God... Me? I pray. God, it’s time for a break! God, answer in love! Answer with your sure salvation!... I’m hurt and in pain; Give me space for healing, and mountain air.” (Psalm 69:3, 13, 29)

Serving as mentor, Bible study leader, and perpetually known “researcher/student of life,” I have experienced the gamut of questions when it comes to relationships. One, however, that perpetually finds its way into conversation from time to time is that of God’s will, and specific to dating relationships, that of “if s/he’s not the one, will God tell me when it’s time to break up?”

As a teenager and college student, I would (comically) pray that my future husband would just happen to be found under a big neon sign that read, “This one here… he’s yours!” I was (resolutely) hopeful for a series of dreams (and if a spiritual mentor had the same dreams on the same night, that would be mighty helpful as well). If nothing else, I was hopeful (or wishfully thinking) that strong confirmation would guarantee that if I were to break up with a person, the “right one” would step into my life shortly thereafter, confirming all the more that my decision was all a part of a pre-scripted storyline o’ my life.

In all of my hoping and wishing and dreaming, I failed to see that I was misunderstanding two very different issues: that of God’s will, and that of my dating relationship status.

Now, there is much theological debate which rest within two camps when it comes to Christian marriage: one camp says that God preordains your spouse and when you find him/her, you’ll know you were made for one another; the other focuses on the free will given in Christ, describing that because we are now free, there are many people we could marry. Simply pick one. This debate would take much beyond this article’s length to discuss (and most likely not provide a clear answer even if carefully deliberated), so taking liberty with Ephesians 5:31-32, let us just know, like Paul, “No longer two, they become ‘one flesh’. This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all.”

To be completely transparent, I truly do stand on this debate’s fence; I believe it’s both. There is something powerful about the Lord being so present in our daily lives that He surely leads us in many ways throughout the day as we lean into His discernment. In my own story, I felt I was supposed to go to a large gathering of 40,000 peaceful activists, as did my future husband; we met, spent the next five hours talking, and both knew within days that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. Our decision was based on how we both felt the peace of God very clearly and because we both had spent our single years actively seeking the Lord and recognizing what we wanted in a spouse.

“Oh sure,” you might say, “Good for you. But what do I do when I’m in a relationship and I’m not sure if I should break up or stay together?” This is a major decision that truly can have life-altering outcomes. And while I wish we could look at each specific situation and discuss your story together, here are some considerations for you as you seek the Lord for direction:

1. ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME?

Ephesians 5 says, “Don’t waste your time on useless work, mere busywork, the barren pursuits of darkness. Expose these things for the sham they are. It’s a scandal when people waste their lives on things they must do in the darkness where no one will see. Rip the cover off those frauds and see how attractive they look in the light of Christ. Wake up from your sleep, Climb out of your coffins; Christ will show you the light! So watch your step. Use your head. Make the most of every chance you get. These are desperate times! Don’t live carelessly, unthinkingly. Make sure you understand what the Master wants.”

Are you actively spending your time together in ways that make you both stronger as people? Are you experiencing more adventure, increasing in curiosity, and together celebrating wonder (whether found in music, poetry, generosity, compassion, nature, worship)? Or are you always arguing, lamenting how you don’t align on key issues, or remain divided on how life is to be experienced?

Seasons of life or personality types may offer specific challenges, and becoming unified is certainly a matter that takes dedicated, focused effort. My husband is introverted; I am extroverted, so we do not always see eye to eye as to how we want to spend an evening. But if you are constantly “trying to make things work,” or if you are hiding parts of your relationship from those to whom you are accountable, prayerfully consider that it might be time to move on.

2. ARE YOU DIGNIFYING ONE ANOTHER?

The number one rule my husband and I have in our relationship is to protect each other’s dignity. Albeit this rule came about because I was incessantly listening to “By Our Love”on my music playlist at the beginning of our relationship. But as we together discussed how we wanted to define “us”, we recognized that the world should in fact know that we are Christians by the way that we as spouses love and treat one another. The lyrics read, “We will work with each other, we will work side by side, and we’ll guard each other’s dignity and save each other’s pride.”

Dignity means that you take 1 Corinthians 13’s love and put it on display. You guard your words, not telling your insider information about your spouse at a dinner party in order to get a laugh at your spouse’s expense. It means you tell the truth even if it hurts, and you share about your struggles, because you grant them dignity in walking together with you (and they in return are careful not to judge or be prideful because they too are sinners in need of support for other sins). You guard them when others attempt to demean them, and you yourself work to listen empathetically rather than pointing fingers.

Is this rule an easy one to follow? Absolutely not! It requires grace upon grace that can only come from the Lord, and it certainly is a work in progress. But if you find that you are in a degrading relationship where you come away from the other feeling the need to be uplifted or encouraged (and especially if you are thinking of another specific person of the opposite sex to be encouraged by), it might be time to reconsider why you are in the relationship. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage… What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. (Ephesians 5:25-28, 32-33)

3. ARE YOU SEEKING A WEDDING/STATUS OR A PARTICULAR PERSON?

I understand long-term singleness; I held my place known as the single girl who never had a man to write home about for the first 28 years of my life. Oh sure, I dated once in awhile, but I could never feel the peace that came when I met my husband; we married when I was 29. One of the reasons, I believe, our relationship blossomed so quickly (and was fully supported by our family and inner circle of friends, mentors and accountability partners) was because when we met, we were not looking for a mate. We both had suffered the mind games of going into the grocery store, church, the gym, and thinking over and over, “Hmm… is that him/her? What about that person?” Enough was enough for us both.

With crucial seasons coming before us (he, seeking the Lord in a wholehearted manner; I was starting a master’s program and running my own business), we both were in heart seasons in which we were not trying to cross the line of “marriage with the white dress and a house so I never have to be alone.” And yet, we recognized within the first few days of getting to know one another, life was simply better because that person was around.

I had lost my dad to heart disease at 13, and as an only child with a disabled mother, I was fiercely independent who never trusted men to stay around. Suddenly, there was someone who gave of himself, who offered to drive me to a doctor’s appointment (and taking off work to do it, all the while never acting the hero but simply the servant). I realized that here was a male best friend like I’d never had - we had loads of fun together, cried together, talked endlessly about social justice and theology and worship and God’s Word, and stretched each other when he wanted to do something physically daring (like jump off a waterfall) and I wanted to go swing dancing. Life was richer because we were together, and the more we got to know one another, the more we realized we wanted to do mundane and mourning, exciting and stretching - all of it - as a united pair.

Are you seeking to fill a gap in your heart that goes beyond the person in front of you? If yes, seek the Lord’s direction on how He might fill it. During my single days, I wept on numerous occasions, begging the Lord to place me in a family with a husband and in-laws and the whole bit. But I also served in the community, I had great roommates and friends in similar seasons with whom to do life, and I was determined that being single was better than being married to one who would not encourage me to be the best me (and it saved me a lot of heartache that would have involved other people).

Consider if you are seeking to fill dreams that have not yet been met, or if you are truly in the relationship because you and your dating partner make each other better in the Lord, in your community, in your individual pursuits and in your shared goals.

Breaking up is never easy, but if you truly want to serve your own and your partner’s heart well (and you aren’t committed to the long term), it’s time to cut ties and your own control, and let the Lord guide you on an adventure based on freedom and wonder.

Summing up: Be agreeable, be sympathetic, be loving, be compassionate, be humble. That goes for all of you, no exceptions. No retaliation. No sharp-tongued sarcasm. Instead, bless—that’s your job, to bless. You’ll be a blessing and also get a blessing. Whoever wants to embrace life and see the day fill up with good, Here’s what you do: Say nothing evil or hurtful; Snub evil and cultivate good; run after peace for all you’re worth. God looks on all this with approval, listening and responding well to what he’s asked. (1 Peter 3:8-12, MSG)

-Julie Langford

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endorsereviews · 7 years

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First Touch To First Kiss

Introducing FIRST TOUCH TO FIRST KISS: – – – The 10-Step Seamless Sequence To Earning Her Trust, Turning Her On, and Always Knowing What To Do Next (Even If You’re Shy, Inexperienced, or Not A Touchy Person) Let’s do this. Learn more. Is it possible to learn how to touch a woman, even if you’ve never really known how?

When you were a boy, you probably figured it was a given. You might have thought that when you grew up, you would just automatically know how to touch and kiss a woman. One of those mysteries of being a grown-up that sorts itself out as you get older, right? Well, now that you’re a grown man, you still find the whole chemistry-thing elusive – at least when you’re first getting to know a woman. The problem is, if it takes you too long to get comfortable with her, she moves on. Pick-up doesn’t work for you, and you hate the thought of feeling or coming across as creepy, so you just tend to sit on the sidelines. Understandable, but it sucks. At this point, it might look like every other man on the planet understands women but you, and you figure if you don’t already know what to do then how can you possibly learn? You CAN learn, and I will teach you how. Wait a second, how can I be so sure? I’ll tell you how. It’s logical, really: I’ve watched other men just like you learn, implement, and rock it. Smart introverted men who previously had no f***ing clue how to touch a woman learned what they needed to learn and had their first kiss ever in just a few weeks. It’s amazing, and I honestly think this would change the world if the “nice guys” became sexy as hell. What if YOU could make an attractive woman melt in your arms, just by being you, but awesomer and more skilled? What if it’s not an elusive talent you missed out on, but rather a skill you can start building now?

Imagine meeting a beautiful woman for the first time and knowing exactly how to touch her. … making her melt in your arms, in a way that is laid-back, confident, and trustable. Imagine feeling her open up to you, even at the gentlest brush of a hand. Because you’ve learned how to read her body language, you can see that she feels safe around you and intrigued by you. The chemistry is already flowing, so you cooly get her number and set up a date for Friday night. On your first date, you feel relaxed because you know exactly how to touch her at each moment, how to escalate seamlessly and make it feel amazing for her. As you talk together, you watch her relax around you, and you feel closer to her as the night goes on. By the end of the first night, a kiss is inevitable. My clients have had nights like that. Even after years (decades!) of no physical intimacy with women whatsoever. By the way, every guy I talk to thinks he’s the only one who doesn’t have experience with women. He’s not. I’ve talked to several guys who lack experience, and they’re all good men. Really chill, successful men – they just haven’t figured this out yet for fear of seeming creepy. Once you finally know what to do, the impossible becomes simple. For example, one of my clients was 27 years old, no dates ever, no first kiss ever with anyone, before he found me. He was deeply ashamed of this, but the facts were the facts. He used to have a lot of trouble being social as well, and he learned how to do that on his own. By the time we spoke, he was a really social guy – into improv and all kinds of things – but still”¦ no first kiss. I taught him the First Touch to First Kiss system, and within a month, he’d had his first kiss. The date went beautifully because he knew what to do when. He slowly escalated, and when he gave her a kiss goodnight (his first kiss ever!), she was so attracted to him that she prolonged the kiss. On their second date, the chemistry was electric the whole way through. He told me how relaxed he felt because this was the first time in his life he actually knew what to do with a woman. Yay! Btw, “Just do it!” is not a workable solution.

Stop harassing yourself just because you can’t close your eyes and rush headlong into a kiss with a stranger. This is *not* a problem. You are a linear, logical man who requires a linear, logical solution. A linear, logical solution, even when it comes to chemistry, is NOT too much to ask. In fact, I happily provide it for you. Enough with subjecting your ears and mind to “just get out there and do it, man!” bullshit. It’s demoralizing and demeaning. I won’t have any of it. Besides, if it were as easy as “just doing it,” then how come so many men come off as creepy? I’ll tell you why: The “eyes closed, rushing forward” technique causes more harm than good. Sure, you might luck out here and there by just “putting yourself out there and seeing what happens.” Here’s the thing though. No need to see what happens because we already know what happens: awkward unpleasantness. And not just for you, but for her too. Not a sexy moment. That’s why you need an alternative learning method that capitalizes on your strength: your mind. It’s time to start using that brilliant and able mind of yours to learn exactly when and how to touch a woman. You can do that. Once you understand the logical sequences and subtleties of touch, chemistry can flow smoothly. At that point, it’s irrelevant whether or not you were born knowing how to touch (you were, by the way – we all were – but you just haven’t yet been taught how to use it well). To elevate yourself from the mass of men who come off as desperate or creepy, you first have to know what to do, how, and when. Then your mind is free to elegantly follow through. Then the whole process of touching a woman, even one you’ve just met, starts to feel intuitive. As I mentioned over the phone, these little tidbits that I’m picking up are causing waves of change. Your feedback, and your desire to reach out and network for the benefit of your readers has already kicked ass and left a mark in my life, and I’m confident that I’m not the only one. JH Thanks so much for helping me. I’m a better man because of you. MM Thank you so much!!!! You are the bomb. I am so pumped. ND Once again I’m floored reading everything you have sent so far. I can feel how much you love men coming through in the tone of your material and your commitment to helping men find their dream woman. This is HELLA awesome to hear this from a beautiful woman – the kind I want to be pursuing when I’m back on my feet again. BS You are playful and fun to interact with on personal level, even while dealing with ”˜serious’ or ”˜important’ matters. In this way, you are able to make complex problems/challenges seem like opportunities that are light and easy to address rather than like over-complicated elephants. GR Even if you COULD learn, would you? Here’s a few normal fears about touch:

“I’m too shy.” “I’m too shy to touch a woman, even if you told me the step-by-steps. It takes me a long time to warm up to new people, so I don’t know if I could start touching soon enough for any kind of sequence to work for me.” ~ ~ ~ That makes sense. If you’re a private person, it can take you a while to feel comfortable around someone new, and you don’t want to touch someone you don’t even feel comfortable around. At the same time, if you wait too long, then you start feeling uncomfortable because you HAVEN’T touched, and so that’s not working either. You’re just not sure how to feel a nice, easeful connection with someone new and incorporate touch in a gentle, non-threatening way that also doesn’t friend-zone you. Whew! Totally get that.

“I’m not a touchy person.” “I’m just not the kind of guy to openly touch people, not even friends that often, much less people I’m just meeting for the first time. I don’t want to feel awkward or make them feel awkward. I also don’t want to try to be someone I’m not by pretending to be touchy.” ~ ~ ~ Totally get that. If you’re naturally a low-key guy, you’re not going to want to come across as this brash touchy dude. Not really your style. At the same time, sometimes you might hold back touch even when you want to give it. It’s important that you find the right timing and style for touch that feels really true to who you are as a man – not too little, not too much. When you do, you can feel even more natural and genuine than you do currently.

“I’m afraid I’ll come off as creepy.” “The last thing I want is for her to think I’m creepy or desperate. Just the thought of it makes me cringe. When I’m attracted to a woman, I usually don’t touch her because I’m afraid that if I do, it will come off all wrong.” ~ ~ ~ It is an awful feeling to think you’re giving off the OPPOSITE impression you actually want to be giving off. You’re a good guy. You’re not creepy, so you certainly don’t want to look that way. If you did inadvertently touch her in a creepy way, it wouldn’t only ruin any chances you had with her, it would humiliate you and make her uncomfortable.

“I don’t want to be a sleazy asshole.” “I don’t want to be weird or make her uncomfortable. I’m afraid that if I touch a woman, it will automatically feel predatory, and I don’t want that. Plus, I’m not going around looking to get laid the same night. What if my touch makes her think that sex is all I want?” ~ ~ ~ That’s a completely understandable fear. You’re a good guy, and you don’t want to come off the wrong way. Plus, you don’t want to get yourself into a situation that you feel you can’t back out of. If you start escalating, you don’t want to feel like you’re pressuring her or yourself.

“What if it’s too late for me?” “I’m already 28 / 36 / 19 / 62. I feel way behind the curve. If I’ve not gotten comfortable with women yet, when will I? Maybe it’s just not possible for me. Maybe it’s too late to even try.” ~ ~ ~ Whoa, whoa, whoa there tiger! I get it, but don’t let yourself go there. It is NOT too late. The reason I listed the ages above is because I’ve heard men at EACH of those ages tell me, “I’m already X. Are you sure you can help me?” The answer is yes. All those concerns above are normal, and I hear them all often. In fact, I’ve heard them even since I started working with men on these things at all. How did a girl from Alabama figure this stuff out anyway?

As is often the case, it was a circuitous route…

In high school, I never got asked out on a date. Not once. On a mission trip to Mexico when I was 18, I remember sitting on the steps with a guy-friend, and I asked him why he thought I’d not been asked out on a date. Objectively, I knew I was physically attractive, intelligent, and kind. So I didn’t get what was making me invisible to guys my age, and I was curious about what he had to say. He was hesitant because he didn’t want to come off wrong… He told me that I gave off an unapproachable vibe. He said I gave the impression that I didn’t need or want anyone, that I was content with myself. That was true in some ways, but it still stung to feel undesirable and “on the outside” of the dating scene. I’d watch my friends go on dates, get boyfriends, and get a good bit of attention, and it all seemed so mysterious to me. I felt like I was looking through glass at all of them, like they were inside having this colorful experience, and I was outside – only observing. Fast forward some years into my mid-twenties, and I’d finally figured things out. I realized I didn’t have to be shallow or fake it in order to attract men I felt drawn to. In fact, I didn’t have to pretend anything at all. I actually found that being sensual and free suited me really well. All along, it was my true nature – much truer than any other way I’d been before. Nearly every night of the week, I was either out dancing or on a date. I felt awesome. Around this time of my life, I started getting feedback from people who followed my art (back then, my newsletter list got paintings and poetry, instead of dating advice for men They told me I was making a real impact on them, that I was changing how they saw themselves and the world. That inspired me to pursue personal development as a career path. I went to coaching school at iPEC Coaching and started coaching women on how to feel beautiful and free around men. Shortly thereafter, I realized how much I loved coaching men. As Head Coach for another dating coaching company, I got lots of practice and realized that yes I loved coaching men very much, and my very favorite men were the smart introverted ones. Meanwhile, I met a smart introverted man of my own in my dating adventures. He was so much more interesting on every level than any of the other men I’d met. This was undeniably true, even though I’d met some extraordinary men who I respect and care for very much to this day. Today, he and I are enjoying a fun, playful relationship that’s also really sexy and meaningful. We are loving it! The fact that he knew how to touch me in the beginning was essential. Can you imagine if we’d been on our first date and he’d not known what to do? I wouldn’t have been able to feel truly attracted to him, and we wouldn’t be together. I cringe at the thought! I want you to be armed with the same knowledge and skills. You can learn at any age; it is never too late. In fact, neither my boyfriend nor I really dated at all until our mid-twenties. We both had to learn everything about attraction from the ground-up. Thank goodness we did that by the time we met each other, so we could be ready to start the amazing life together we’re enjoying today. A little while after founding Introverted Alpha, I kept finding something interesting: Many, if not all, men I’ve worked with have struggled with getting from first touch to the first kiss. Since it delights me so much to synthesize and systematize information for linear, logical men, I made a 10-step sequence on exactly how to go from first touch to first kiss. And guess what? I’ve taught it to my 1:1 clients, and it works. Just as makes perfect sense, once smart introverted men know what to do, how to do it, and when – all in a way that feels awesome for them – it just works. This is incredibly exciting, and the system is so teachable that I wanted to make it into a course for you, so you can learn it for yourself, even if we never work together 1:1. You left me in such a good state that a barista at the coffee shop I frequent asked me out today. Even further, she wrote her number on a piece of notebook paper and handed it to me before I could get my phone out (!). I don’t think that’s ever happened to me lol. ND I understand a little better my situation now! I have been told that I lack confidence and I realize that this lack of confidence thing is what has been holding me back in life. I have literally avoided meeting women where there has been a mutual attraction. You have hit the nail on its head. LA It’s bloody refreshing, this whole conversation, because you’ve been so sincere the whole time. You are spot-on. Unbelievable! I’m so glad I found you. I can’t even tell you”¦ your insight, your views, perception. You’re one in about a million, at least. You’re good. You’re damn good. SS I wanted you to know I find your website both brilliant and incredibly clever so thank you for providing a service that is so clearly needed. DK Here’s how my approach is different than PUA (in case that’s not already apparent

If you’ve spent any length of time in the PUA world, you’re familiar with a few of their core premises, which I simply don’t share: Typical PUA Approach: “Just do it, man! Just get out there and go for it!” In other words, “You have to pretend to be outgoing, or else women won’t want you. “The best you can hope for with a new woman is pseudo-connection. I mean, why would you want real connection anyway? That’s not very manly of you.” Ugh! My Approach: Do it, yes, but do it once you know what the hell you’re doing. Learn the sequences and subtleties so that when you go to practice, you’re practicing what you’ve learned, not shooting in the dark. You do need to be bold, but not brash. Quietly confident and engaged will do beautifully. In fact, that often creates more mystery and intrigue than the typical outgoing guy. Your introverted nature can be an asset when you know and appreciate what it can do for you. We are human beings, and humans want to connect with humans. The only reason we pull away from connection is because we’re afraid. Otherwise, we don’t want cheap or fake intimacy. We want the real thing, in whatever form that takes for us as individuals – we want REAL. There are Five Pillars of Success at Introverted Alpha

PILLAR 1: Science of Sequences I believe in assembly lines, mostly because they exist. It is a fact that when we build something in a sequential manner, doing the right things at the right time, we make progress. Contrast this with the chaos of “just do it, man!” and you get a vastly different approaches and outcomes. A benefit to using the science of sequences is that it’s very easy for the linear, logical mind to understand. If I were to tell you to wing it, that would be careless of me. I take pride in creating sequences for you that you can simply plug-and-play. PILLAR 2: Art of Subtleties Chemistry (sexual chemistry, that is) isn’t *all* science. There’s also the art of subtleties in reading, responding to, and affecting the woman’s body. Because of your introspective nature, once you understand the context and what to look and listen for, you are especially primed for this art. There’s an ancient proverb that says, “The silence between the notes makes the music.” As an introvert, you understand this especially well. When it comes to attraction, SO MUCH is hidden in the silence. I teach you how to become adept at this art so that when women are around you, they feel relaxed and turned on at the same time. Bringing that about is an art that you can learn. Just like Calculus, writing or painting is a learnable skill too. Many masters were not even considered the most talented children growing up, but they were passionate and learned from teachers they trusted and gleaned from. PILLAR 3: Clear, Focused Mind To be successful at anything, you have to have the presence of mind to focus. Attraction is no different. When your mind is clear, it is amazing what you can do. My coaching certification was primarily in the realm of success mindset, and the 7 Levels framework is at the core of how I help my clients and students reach a clear, open state of mind. If you’ve read my Core Confidence Training, you’ll remember these levels. If not, or if you’ve forgotten, not to worry as they’ll be reviewed in this course and applied to the content you’ll be learning. PILLAR 4: Deep Self-Respect You can have all the science, art, and zen-like mind in the world, and if you don’t have a strong sense of yourself as a man, it will fall flat. Especially when it comes to attraction and chemistry. When you knowing yourself and what your authentic vibe is, you start having a lot more fun and become much more attractive. In First Touch To First Kiss, I’ve included a section helping you find your unique vibe. It builds on what you’ve already learned in my “Why PUA Doesn’t Work For Introverts & What Works Instead” ebook, and it also refreshes you on the exercises in there in case you need it. The reason this is so important is that knowing yourself as a man – who you are and why you’re awesome – is the bedrock of your respect for yourself. When you know who you are and simultaneously go after what you want, something awesome happens: You become effortlessly more attractive to the beautiful, kind, intelligent women you want to develop chemistry with. PILLAR 5: Fierce Devotion If there’s one thing I’ve seen through working with men like you, it’s that loving encouragement is healing tonic. This is why PUA is so dissonant to men who respect themselves – because it capitalizes on fear, the opposite of devotion. When you are treasured, enjoyed, celebrated – especially by a woman – your confidence skyrockets. That is what I aim to do with each piece of communication I write, with each word I speak to you. You deserve fierce devotion, especially from yourself. It’s the only way healthy, self-respecting women can be genuinely attracted to you.

Introducing FIRST TOUCH TO FIRST KISS: – – – The 10-Step Seamless Sequence To Earning Her Trust, Turning Her On, and Always Knowing What To Do Next (Even If You’re Shy, Inexperienced, or Not A Touchy Person) Let’s do this First Touch To First Kiss is the only program teaching step-by-step seamless escalation for smart introverted men.

When you join, you’ll get exact 10-step sequence my clients use. Inside the course, you’ll learn how to touch a new woman you’re attracted to, from the very first brush to the first kiss. You’ll learn not only the science-like sequence from first touch to first kiss, but also the subtleties of connection and vibe: This includes how to read a woman’s body, how to clear your mind, and give off the right vibe at all times. Through First Touch To First Kiss, you’ll be able to solve these problems: t “I have no idea how to touch a woman”, no clue where to start” I’ll teach you exactly when and how to touch during approach, during your first date… exactly how and when to kiss her, how to know if she WANTS a kiss – if she’s even into you. All of that. Let my system remove the guesswork for you. q “I get nervous even thinking of touching beautiful women.” Inside First Touch To First Kiss, you’ll learn how to make escalation feel natural and smooth. You’ll find out how to feel comfortable touching her even as you’re just beginning to know her. Even if you’ve been very nervous up to this point, you can develop skills to get better. s “Is something wrong with me that I don’t know this basic thing?” It’s normal to feel discouraged and overwhelmed that you don’t know this already. That’s why I’ve broken the course into sequential steps and logical sequences. This way, you can viscerally experience that it’s not you – it’s lack of reasonable know-how.  “I’m afraid beautiful women who might be interested in me are SLIPPING BY.” This is quite painful because either you never see them again, or worse – you see them and get friend zoned. It’s a real danger if you don’t escalate. This has happened to men who have been interested in me personally, and it’s heartbreaking for everyone.  “Sometimes I’ll have a great date, but then I NEVER hear from her again.” On one level, you’re genuinely wondering why. On another level, you know it’s probably because you didn’t really know what you were doing, and so you either didn’t escalate or you came off the wrong way. We can resolve that together. v “I’m confident, but I always second-guess myself around beautiful women.” When you’re second-doubting, you’re inadvertently making it IMPOSSIBLE for women to be truly attracted to you. This is because warm and intelligent women want men who are strong and comfortable in their own bodies. I’ll teach you this. What will you learn through First Touch To First Kiss?

You’ll learn how to touch a new woman you’re attracted to, including…

how to switch from flirty, playful interaction to romantic interest. ~ ~ ~ how to feel natural when initiating touch, even if you’re not a touchy person. ~ ~ ~ how to touch her in a way that doesn’t mask your attraction, but at the same time is not creepy or sleazy. ~ ~ ~ how to know what’s appropriate for the specific woman or situation. ~ ~ ~ how to know what amount of touch is necessary to make a connection. ~ ~ ~ exactly how to touch a woman, from very first touch to first kiss. ~ ~ ~ WHEN to touch her and what step to use. ~ ~ ~ how to master the art of initial escalation. You’ll learn the right timing, including…

how to ensure the first kiss is as natural as possible. ~ ~ ~ how to read the situation correctly, whether it’s the right time to kiss her. ~ ~ ~ how to read what she wants and when. ~ ~ ~ how to know what needs to happen before the kiss, what should lead up to it. ~ ~ ~ how to understand the first kiss beyond what instincts can tell you. ~ ~ ~ how to know what angle / position you should use when going for the kiss. ~ ~ ~ how to know when the moment is right. You’ll learn how to NOT come off as creepy, including…

how to please without trying too hard. ~ ~ ~ how to let go and just enjoy the moment (hint: “just do it” doesn’t work. A step-by-step sequence REALLY helps here). ~ ~ ~ how to make sure you’re not coming across as “off” or inappropriate. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure the kiss is not a shock to her system after a long period of platonic interaction. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure your touch won’t be misinterpreted. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure you don’t go too far ahead of yourself in your mind. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure you’ll never scare a new woman away – how to NOT touch her too soon or make her uncomfortable. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure you’re not overstepping. You’ll learn how to read her, including…

how to tell whether she feels the same way before you kiss her, so you avoid unnecessary rejection. ~ ~ ~ how to read her without making brash assumptions. ~ ~ ~ how to know IN ADVANCE whether she will be comfortable with a kiss (without having to ask her verbally for permission, of course ~ ~ ~ how to know if she’s just being friendly or giving you romantic signals. ~ ~ ~ how to escalate gradually so that women never recoil from your touch, but rather welcome it. ~ ~ ~ how to make sure you’re not intruding into her personal space. ~ ~ ~ how to gently test what is within and outside of her comfort zone. ~ ~ ~ how to gauge whether she’ll give you a positive reaction. ~ ~ ~ how to prepare for touch ahead of time so that you don’t have to worry about it. ~ ~ ~ how to tell whether she feels chemistry with you and likes your touch. You’ll learn mindset tools, like… how to overcome lack of experience ~ ~ ~ how to be so prepared that you can let go and enjoy. ~ ~ ~ how to access your intuition in the moment. ~ ~ ~ how to get out of your own head and focus on her without freaking out. ~ ~ ~ how to know for sure you’re not fooling yourself. ~ ~ ~ how to ensure the kiss will be reciprocated. ~ ~ ~ how to get over the mindset that touching is not okay. ~ ~ ~ how to make a first move while staying casual, confident and relaxed. What would it mean for you to learn and master this?

The friend zone will miss you. You will turn on a woman in the way her body is designed to respond to you. You’ll learn steady, strong, firm, yet gentle escalation. Once you can confidently lead into the first kiss, many good things will follow: Because you’ll be confident about touch, you will naturally ask more women on dates without having to push or force yourself. This will mean you’re going on more dates meeting more great women, instead of missing opportunities. As you practice, you’ll get more and more comfortable with touch and kissing, which will just compound your success. This will prepare you for meeting the right woman for you. When that happens, you’ll be able to escalate seamlessly and set yourself up to win her. You’ll be prepared in advance. Imagine that. Imagine knowing EXACTLY how to touch a woman. You can tell yourself all day and night to be more confident. At the end of the day, nothing will quite do it for you like knowing, practicing, and succeeding at touch. Inside First Touch To First Kiss: cafe-date-circle_500x500 Module One: 10-Step Sequence LET MY 10-STEP ESCALATION SEQUENCE HANDLE GUESSWORK FOR YOU: 1. Get Comfortable with Her (Steps 1-3): Become a natural at social touch to easily connect. 2. Flirt with Her (Steps 4-6): Understand exactly what needs to happen well before the kiss. 3. Kiss Her (Steps 7-10): Seamlessly ramp up physical intimacy so the first kiss is inevitable. Module Two: Read Her Body READ HER BODY, SO YOU ALWAYS KNOW HOW TO TOUCH HER NEXT: 1. Know how to tell if she’s just being friendly, so you never come across the wrong way. 2. Decipher her body language to see exactly how she feels, as if she’d told you outright. 3. Amaze her (and yourself by touching her exactly how she wants, where, and when. woman-lying-on-bed-circle_500x500

Module Three: Clear Your Mind CLEAR YOUR MIND, SO SHE CAN FEEL RELAXED & HAPPY WITH YOU: 1. Learn how to come across in the most attractive way possible. 2. Establish comfort with her early, even if you’re an introvert and you’ve just met. 3. Effectively deal with insecurity, nerves, and fear of rejection, so you’re free to connect. Module Four: Stay Chill GIVE OFF THE RIGHT VIBE SO SHE’S COMFORTABLE & EXCITED WITH YOU: 1. Ensure that your touch will never be (or be misinterpreted as) desperate, creepy, or sleazy. 2. Overcome lack of experience so you look and feel like you know what you’re doing. 3. Make a first move while staying casual, confident, and relaxed, while not overstepping.

When you join First Touch To First Kiss, you get…  Video Modules I’ve organized all this information into 3.5+ hours of helpful and easy-to-follow video presentations, so you can easily learn the material as I guide you through each lesson. l Worksheets Crystallize your learnings through worksheets. There is one provided for each module, so you can integrate your learnings and refer to your personal reflections later. i Transcripts Get the slide decks and word-for-word transcripts of each teaching module, so you can study them closely, highlight, note-take, whatever helps you integrate the material best.  mp3’s & mp4’s Download the audio mp3’s and the video mp4’s, so you can listen or what from wherever, whenever. My students listen while driving, going for a run, or getting ready to go out. Investment: $399 Get First Touch To First Kiss

My Promise to You: Try First Touch To First Kiss FREE for 60 Days. Feeling a little timid? Here’s what we’ll do: Go through the course, and if in the first 60 days you’re not into it, email support with your filled-out worksheets attached, and we will give you a full refund. Only purchase if you’re going to go through the program with gusto. You do NOT have to go out and practice before you’re ready. All the worksheets are about internalizing what you’ve learned through different mental frameworks and review. This is because I know that once you know what to do, and it seems doable for you (the ENTIRE point of this course is to get you there!), then you will NATURALLY go and implement. I’ve seen it dozens of times before, and I know that’s just how earnest, introverted men work. Investment: $399 Get First Touch To First Kiss How is First Touch To First Kiss different?

This is the first program to break down the first-touch-to-first-kiss sequence in a linear logical way. The whole process is broken down into a simple sequence that you can easily understand and implement with confidence at the pace that is right for you. It’s also (by default) the first program to do that WHILE teaching practices and mindsets that are 100% in integrity with women to earn their trust while turning them on. Also, when you join now, you’ll get lifetime access to the course as it evolves. Even when I’m charging way more than what you’re paying, you’ll still be in for free. When you learn and implement this course, you will be able to earn a woman’s trust and turn her on, all while being 100% genuine. When you do that, she will want more. So, just be ready for that once you start implementing Ready to join First Touch To First Kiss?

Investment: $399 Get First Touch To First Kiss *Need to review details again? Find them here. I’m carrying myself a lot, lot better. I feel my confidence is not so much the fake kind anymore, like I’m not acting confident, it’s more genuine and becoming how I roll. UK I was astounded to find a person teaching being introverted as being a good thing. I’ve struggled with this for a long time. The thought of using this part of me to my advantage is exciting to say the least. CF This would be borderline life changing. BP I know this is just the beginning… I know I can be 10 times better… men are approaching me at the gym to chat and ask for advice… women are clearly comfortable with me around… I am excited to work on this stuff more. UK Is First Touch To First Kiss right for you? It’s NOT right for you if… First Touch To First Kiss is NOT right for you if you don’t respect women. Disrespect towards anyone is not tolerated here. If, at any time, you demonstrate anything less than full respect for all human beings, I will remove you from the course and refund you in full. (Btw, I do not expect this to be an issue.) It’s also not right for you if you think learning and developing isn’t fun. We have fun here, so if that’s not your style, it’s not a good fit. It IS right for you if… First Touch To First Kiss IS right for you if you are a kind-hearted man. You care about people, and you’re earnest. You actually give a shit. It’s right for you if you’re a linear, logical thinker who prefers structures and frameworks to the “just do it” approach. It’s right for you if you’re fucking determined. If learning how to touch women in a seamless, confident, sexy way is really important to you, even if a bit scary, then it’s game time. Why should you trust that this will work, period?

I’ve taught lots of men just like you, and as soon as they know what to do and get a little guidance, they know how to make women melt. It’s a beautiful thing to watch. The reason I’ve been able to help them is because of my education at iPEC Coaching; my cumulative hundreds and hundreds of hours in the field helping linear, logical men like you; and the dynamic is just right. When it comes to touch, I’ve helped so many men become so successful that I’ve distilled my findings into 10 seamless steps, from first touch to first kiss. Now, what was previously only revealed behind the closed doors of high-end 1:1 coaching, I’m now bringing to you for a fraction of the high-end coaching investment. Others have paid hundreds $$ per hour to learn what I’m about to teach you for a *tiny* fraction of their investment. (I’m giving the course to those clients for free. It’s the least I can do, as I refined the system LIVE while coaching them!) Now it’s all packaged up and ready for your learning pleasure As a contributor on The Good Men Project, LifeHack, Improve Your Social Skills, Go Beyond Dating, and more, my message has been resonating quite a lot with folks… so much so, that my work has been picked up by Cosmo and msn.com/lifestyle. I’ve been able to make close connections in elite circles, and I headed up building an entire coaching company for someone else before launching Introverted Alpha. Nearly 100 men have personally hired me to coach them 1:1. Ramit Sethi, CEO of the multi-million-dollar company I Will Teach You To Be Rich, flew me to New York to be a case study for his Zero To Launch program, where he spent twice the allotted time with me because of how incredible an interview he knew we’d have. At one in-depth point in our conversation, Ramit paused and his camera guys looked at me and said, “That’s what Ramit looks like when he’s speechless from delight.” Ramit laughed and agreed. Within six months of operation, I already have people reaching out to me wanting to connect and praising my work. Every day, the letters pour in, and I’m so grateful to have created a program that is so resonant with people. Men LOVE working with me and get solid results. This is not because I’ve got some marketing scheme or something. It’s because I care about you – DEEPLY – and am creating an artisanal brand to help you become a benevolent badass and sweep beautiful women off their feet. That’s what all this excitement is about. You’re not simply helping us find a woman to build with, you are helping us become better men for our women. Period. That’s the investment. That makes this world a better place. Thank you for that Sarah. DD I thank you for your attitude, but foremost for your love to us, men. I really appreciate it. DK I could get a sense even from our initial call that you were different (a good different :)) ) from other coaches or relationship advice people I had come across in blogs and on youtube. I could feel your passion and deep interest in helping people. And of course, I have experienced this in our other sessions too. So thanks you! KH Is it worth the money?

Whenever you buy something, you want to consider these two things: First, “Is this extremely important to me right now?” And second, “Is this a promising path to get me there?” Let’s address these one at a time: #1: Is learning how to touch a woman, step-by-step, so you never have to worry about it again, important to you? Is it in line with your values and goals for 2016? Meaning, do you want to have great dates and open the door to finding an amazing girlfriend? If so, you really can’t skirt touch. Kinda impossible. If you don’t touch her properly, she will have no choice BUT to friend zone you, and it’s not her fault. Being frank, it’s yours. So don’t be that way. Let’s get you all set to beautifully seduce her; give her the pleasure of falling for you. In order to do that, you’ve got to learn how to touch her. #2: Is this a promising path to get you there? Meaning, is First Touch To First Kiss relevant, and can you trust the quality? Well, it’s a pretty straightforward program: If you want to learn how to go from first touch to first kiss with a woman you feel chemistry with, then pretty sure learning how to do that in a sequenced way is important. Add in critical information on reading her body and making sure you stay casual, confident, and relaxed so you’re sending the right vibe, and you’ve got what you need. Everything in this course is inside because it’s relevant key information for escalating in a way that feels natural and wonderful for you and for her. As far as quality – I take great pleasure and pride in creating excellent material. That said, if you’re not happy for any reason and you tell us so (homework in hand) within the first 60 days, we’ll promptly refund you in full. Also, if you do the payment plan, it’s literally $39 per month for 12 months. That is the cost of one date. (Or you can do all 12 “dates” up front for $399 and save $69 total.) If you use this material to actually MAKE SOMETHING of those dates and GET the dates in the first place… pretty sure you’re going to be glad and grateful to see that $39 on your credit card statement each month. Fond memories, excitement for the future, happiness at how you’re already changing and becoming better with women as you go. Ready to join First Touch To First Kiss?

Investment: $399 Get First Touch To First Kiss *Need to review details again? Find them here. Can you trust yourself to implement?

How do you know you will implement? If you show up, fill out the worksheets, and practice what you learn in real life, you can’t not succeed. I like to use a cake-baking metaphor: If you set out to make a cake and you have all the proper ingredients, a reliable recipe, and you follow the recipe and put the cake batter in the oven at the right temperature for the right length of time… you can’t not take out a beautiful baked cake. You can try and try, but if you follow the instructions, you’re simply going to get a great result. Is your first cake guaranteed to be perfect? If you follow the recipe exactly, it will be pretty darn close. In First Touch To First Kiss, everything is streamlined to make implementation as easy as possible for you. Your success matters deeply to me. If you’ve achieved success in other areas of your life, you can use that familiar linear logical approach here as well. It works! Your success triggers kick in, and you have another chance to show yourself what you’re made of. Plus, if you join the 4-Week Implementation Course, I can help you integrate the information in a natural, fun way. Even if you don’t, there’s tons of integration support inside the program itself. Is First Touch To First Kiss right for YOU?

“I haven’t gotten good at approach yet. Should I study that first?” If you study approach without knowing how to touch… you’re going to get friend-zoned. This is because if you start talking to a woman and you’re not touching her at all – or in the right ways – she’s not going to develop much attraction for you… unless you’re a 9 or a 10 on appearance, and at that point, she’s not going to think you’re interested. Whereas men respond first and foremost to physical looks, women respond first and foremost to touch. So if you’re not touching her, that’s like a woman going out in really baggy sweat-clothes without a shower to see if she can attract some men at the club. Not so hot. “Will I be overwhelmed or intimidated by all this info?” You might be excited and nervous about the idea of getting close and intimate with someone – even just reading about it. That is NORMAL. Shouldn’t stop you from implementing, though. All successful people are scared sometimes. As long as you are committed to moving forward in a gentle and pleasant way through the course and into real life, you WILL be able to pull this off. Not only even if – but *especially* if – you’re gentler and more introverted. It means you’re already great at earning women’s trust, and now we can add in the sexy spark. It’s so much easier than you think, I promise “Should I learn this stuff from a woman?” One of the things my students love most about learning from me is that I am a woman. Not just any woman, but the kind of woman they’d like to attract. Does every man I work with hope to attract someone just like me? Well, no – that might be a little weird. The genre of qualities they want, though, I seem to have. This is really important, because women like me think and respond differently than the kind of women that PUA targets. Women who respond to PUA-stuff are not the kinds of women my students want to attract. My clients are generous, good-hearted men who want the same in a woman. While every kind, intelligent woman has her own preferences that are no doubt different from mine, we all do share some things in common: We like it when men touch us in a way that is connected, sexy, and trustworthy. We like it when men are relaxed and comfortable in their own skin and not afraid of us – respecting us but not fearing us. We like it when the connection process feels connected and effortless. … I can teach you how to do those things. I’ve taught many men before you, and I’ll teach many men in this course. I’d love it if you were one of them! “Will all women respond positively to this touch sequence?” No, they won’t. But you’re not going to be practicing it with all women – only the ones who are genuine, kind, intelligent, and attractive, not the ones who snub you on their barstool. You only want to build connection with women who are warm and kind. If a woman is rude to you, she’s disqualifying herself by the very act of being rude. As far as subtle personality and preference differences, there are variations included in each step to help you know what’s right for what kind of woman and in what context – together with what will feel most natural for you and come off the best. So no it won’t work for all women, and that’s alright. It will work for the women who you actually want it to work with – women who are beautiful, intelligent, and kind, as well as open and receptive to you. These are real words of wisdom – I’ll never forget these conversations – they’re jam packed with stuff – incredible thoughts. I am really truly amazed every time I talk to you. I can’t thank you enough. KC I had never really had this thought that women want to be touched by a confident man, (in an appropriate way.) But reading that point made a lot of sense to me and had made me conscious of the fact that women enjoy it. KH You are good. I wonder what gives you fulfillment in your life. You come across as totally abundant. Totally attractive on so many levels, which I find really cool. Your communication is super clear. I hope one day I can be like you. So crazy to think I have felt ill feelings towards women in my past and here you are, such an inspiration to me. LP You do have other options:

Bootcamps: Bootcamps can be great. Usually these are focused on approach – not a lot on the exquisite details of friendly and flirtatious touch and kissing. Many bootcamps tend to have a vibe of “just do it, man!” which puts the gentler more mysterious man on the spot, making him feel uncomfortable and frozen. This is NOT a weakness – it is a personality preference. The men I teach prefer to learn things in a linear, logical, systematic way, and then implement it in their own time, come back and learn the next step, and then implement. This is sequential and layered skill-building over time, which for something like this, tends to last longer and get better results than trying to force yourself into an uncomfortable situation and “see what happens.” I’ll tell you what happens: it’s frustrating as hell. Bootcamps can be great for the right guy and the right subject, but it’s $2-5K down the drain if it’s not the perfect fit. PUA Material: Lots of guys learn from PUA. In fact, many of my clients used to do PUA or at least used to read it before they chose the Introverted Alpha approach. Whenever I hear that a new client has NOT done PUA, I get so happy because he hasn’t been torturing himself with trying to make something fit that just doesn’t. A man who wants to be true to himself and respectful of women – just a really good guy – does NOT jive well with manipulative NLP tricks and canned one-liners that have nothing to do with him as a person. It’s like oil and water trying in vain to mix. So if you’re following any teachers who make you feel icky when you read their stuff – do yourself a favor and clean them out of your inbox. Only keep the teachers around who are actually ADDING to your life and your sense of self. Have self-respect and learn from people you trust and want to be like. And if you join my course – even if you don’t but you just read my free stuff – all that mental energy that would have gone towards trying to force something that was never you – now goes towards being the best man you can be within a benevolently badass system. The blog does that, but the course does that x100 because it’s module after module of focused, quality content, all made for you. Bottom line, only join if you already feel good about me Figuring it out yourself with random blogs and podcasts: You can do that. For some men, that works. But if you’re in your twenties or thirties, then figuring it out on your own is something you’ve already spent a few decades doing, and it’s a struggle. All you’re losing is time, but what is your life, if not time? This is just real talk, folks. If I sugarcoated things, it would not help you. My goal is to help you by showing you the reality of the situation, and the ones who resonate with what I’m saying and feel it’s time to begin – come join. There’s lots of great material out there, sure. It also takes 100’s of hours to scour for the right material for you at the right time, and often you just get bits and pieces of the puzzle. First Touch to First Kiss is ALL the pieces on escalation from that first touch to first kiss, organized in a sequential logical manner. This creates a seamlessly hot experience for you and the women you experience it with. It all depends on how important this is to you right now. If this is truly important to you – if you want to learn how to touch a woman once and for all goddammit, then First Touch to First Kiss is your ticket. ONLINE DATING ONLY: You can go on all the dates in the world, but if you don’t know how to touch a woman, it’s not going to lead very far. She’ll sense your discomfort in your own skin, your terror at touching her, and she’ll withdraw. Even worse, if you try to touch her and get it all wrong, you’ll scare her off forever. Don’t do that. Learn the system, and get it right so that every woman you touch from now on will feel really good about your touch, if not melt into bliss at your touch. This course will teach all of that – the basics and the subtleties. FRIENDS-FIRST APPROACH: CAN you be friends for years and then something develops? Sure, it happens all the time. These rules are not absolute, but let me ask you something: Do you want to wait painstakingly for years, wondering whether or not she returns your feelings, all the while losing precious time and missing out on all other opportunities? Probably not. Ask your friends. Go for it. Friends are great and sometimes helpful. They’re not going to whip out a 10-step system for you though. Let’s be real: when was the last time they ever gave you a clear, cohesive step-by-step – not just the steps but the different variables, contexts, and situations to do those steps? Yeah! Unless you and I are best friends, not likely. Take this course – learn the steps – and YOU become the fucking guru in your circle. Matchmaking: Matchmaking is a great service that often leads to lifelong happiness with a great partner. It is a COMPLETELY different service than learning exactly how to touch a woman. Sometimes they give 1:1 consults in VERY high-end packages that you’re certainly going to be doling out some fat cash for – and even then, do you really think they’ve systematized touch to this level? Not hardly. They’re not trained coaches, and they’re not experienced in the nitty-gritty of helping linear logical men sexually escalate. They more help with etiquette, presentation, and confidence – all GREAT things. But not 10 steps from first touch to first kiss. For that, you’re on your own, my friend. Unless you join my course, and then we’re in it together. I want you to have this skill! I can help you build it. I’ve already made the course, so it’s really not that hard. All you have to do is walk down the road I’ve paved for you. Coaching with Other Coaches: There are lots great coaches out there, many of whom are my friends. That said – again – no one else knows this system but me and my students. How do I know that? Because I created it. Plus, everyone – clients, readers, and colleagues alike – have been falling all over themselves to get it as soon as I mention “the 10 seamless steps from first touch to first kiss.” Once they get it – it works. Now it’s open. Go for it! And if you want implementation coaching, go for that too. Again, this 10-step system is crystal clear, effective, custom-tailored for linear logical men like you. It’s honestly irreplaceable and is found nowhere else. AND it will never be this low-priced again. Doing nothing: This makes my stomach turn. It is by far the saddest approach at all, if we can call it that. It’s basically numbing out because things have been too painful or still seem unreachable. Please don’t do that to yourself, dear one. Rise to the fucking occasion, alright? You’ve got this. You’ve got this. I think it’s time

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