#my middle name is my grandmother's

[silvermoon424]

For the purposes of this poll please just stick to birth names! I'd like to do another poll for names people chose themselves later in life.

#names #my polls #polls #poll #tumblr polls #naming #I'm named after my great grandmother btw #my middle name is another great grandma #1k #5k #10k

[isekyaaa]

Reading the spoilers of otome light novels always be like, "Wow, people really hate men."

#rambles #I KNOW I COMPLAIN ABOUT THIS A LOT OKAY LEAVE ME ALONE #I JUST........... #NUANCE #PEOPLE HATE NUANCE AND IT SUCKS #PEOPLE HATE COMPLEXITY #AND MOSTLY #people hate stereotypical tropey men that are specifically written that way for the trope #'i hate how possessive and dismissive he is of mc!!!' #it's the same level of idiocy as going to the circus and being mad at the clowns #if you want to read a story about the perfect politically correct male lead find some chronically online girl's book on tiktok #like look okay let me be honest here #when i go to isekai manhwa as my medium of entertainment choice i embody those middle aged women reading smutty novels abt guys named knut #i don't go in expecting quality okay i'm not an idiot #i go in expecting a specific fix to be filled #and if that specific fix is a possessive dismissive male lead then by the almighty god himself one must do as one must #now let me be clear like.... i am complaining about two things here #one: readers don't like nuanced complex men #two: readers do not like genre-specific stereotypical men #these two things are not the same okay #possessive stereotypical men are not nuanced or complex... BUT BY JOVE THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO EXIST #SHITTY STEREOTYPICAL MEN ARE JUST AS ENJOYABLE AS NUANCED AND COMPLEX MEN #it's so funny that people go into otome manhwa expecting q u a l i t y #this is the modern woman's equivalent of those trashy novels our grandmothers read #we are no better than them #i really just want to go into reading spoilers where everyone is on the same page of 'okay so we all just have terrible taste amiright' #tho tbh writing all of this i should be more forgiving of people that love crappy reader-inserts on this website #but lmao no i am not i have way better taste than they ever will whoops u//w//u

[m0tel6mxzzy]

i wanna change my middle name to michael after finding out that in my mom’s culture, usually the daughter takes the dad’s name as the middle name

#my middle name is my grandmother’s but i feel like my dad’s name would match me more #but also i’d want to add it like ‘michael dora’

[obstinatecondolement]

I was talking with my siblings about how so many members of our immediate family exclusively (or almost exclusively, in my dad's case, who used his first name as his worksona's name before he retired) go by their middle name and my sister was like "Yeah, it was pretty late in the game that I learned mum's first name" and then I was like "And do you know how to pronounce it properly?" (because it's the French pronunciation and not the Anglophone one) and my youngest sibling was like "What do you mean? Isn't it just [our mother's middle name]?" and that was how they realised that they didn't know their own mother's legal name.

#I know a lot more basic biographical information about our parents than my younger siblings do #and have done since childhood #I think they were like 'I will tell My Child this important information' with me because I was the eldest #but then they forgot to loop the next four in #and I ended up telling them most of it by accident by making casual references to it in conversation #but yeah my grandmother and both parents AND my youngest sibling all go by their middle name

[its-yashas-strong-arms]

why does JJ feel like a feminine name and TJ feels masculine. english is bizarre.

#thinking about if i wanted a masculine name (i don't! but what if! asking for a friend) (the friend is me) #(which is coincidentally also why i know a Lot about top surgery & testosterone. haha just cis things) #anyway i have picked a name i like and also my grandfather's name as middle name instead of my grandmother's #which would give me the initials JJ Lastname #but somehow JJ feels feminine??? is it just me??

[soleminisanction]

Even though it's been a good three years since I started going by one of my own, I still catch myself thinking on and off about my family's odd relationship with men's names.

Like, my paternal grandfather's name was Bob. Not Robert, Bob. And it wasn't that he was Robert on his birth certificate and everyone just called him Bob his entire life, no no. His legal documents from 18 on read Bob [LastName], and the name on his birth certificate is Bobby.

Because see, Grandpa was born a premie and a twin in like, 1919, and everybody just assumed that they were going to die, so they wrote "Billy" and "Bobby" on the birth certificates and brought them home to at least make it comfortable. But then my great-grandmother swaddled them both up, put them in bread tins, and stuck them in an oven on very low heat, essentially creating a rudimentary incubator, and they both survived, eventually living to the ages of 86 and 93 respectively. So they just went with Bill and Bob for their whole lives.

And this is mostly fine until you factor in that there's really only four male names in my dad's side of the family, which get used over and over again: William, Richard, Robert and Oliver. And only kid per generation gets to be Oliver because that was great-grandpa's name and that kid gets the number behind his name. The highest that's currently gotten is Oliver IV, my second cousin, who I believe is 8.

So my dad is named William Richard and he's got cousins named Oliver III and Richard Robert, whose kids are named Oliver IV and Robert William. Dad's also got an Uncle Bill and an Uncle Oliver Jr., who are the older and twin brothers of his dad Bob.

ALSO. My mother, who married William, also has a brother named William. And a father named William. And, for a time, a brother-in-law named William, at least until my aunt stopped taking her meds and starting hearing the voice of God.

Apparently when my brother was born, my mother turned to my father and said, "Okay look, if you want to name him 'William Jr.', we can and I'm fine with that, but we're giving him a different middle name to call him until he grows up okay?"

And my father said, "Oh god no we don't need to add to that mess."

So they named him Stuart.

#and after all that you know what name they gave me #when I was born first and they figured by the parts I came with that I was a girl? #my given first name was unique enough that I don't like to share it on the internet #and it's not even a cool cultural thing it's my great-grandmother's maiden name #but more than that #my middle name #my actual legal middle name #is coffee #they actually put that on my birth certificate #I'm not actually mad about it by the way I am forever amused by it #because it does make for a good story #but I think there's a reason I gravitated towards a more commonish set of names when I switched

[k1rishiki]

ok fr last one but there's actually a bootleg of my school's anastasia and i'm linking it bc you all NEED to understand that my infatuation with this one girl's voice which started when i was in the 6th grade and still hasn't really worn off isn't based on nothing

#brielle's the one in the n95 mask (the video is too grainy to actually make out any of the ensemble's faces but she stands out) #and i'm the in my 'teenage tboy's diy first short haircut' era in every scene she's in #apart from everything abt the girl who plays anya. the tea on everyone else is that our director liked the boy who played gleb's voice so #much that she actually lowered some if not all of his parts to be in his range. the guy who played vlad was a total diva and uhm. the phras #'peaked in high school' has been tossed around at him a lot. and the fact that he came back to sub the year after he graduated isn't helpin #his case. also he pressured the girl who played anya's grandmother into wearing old age makeup + spray her hair grey bc he decided he was #going to wear it and since she's supposed to be older than him she had to too and used to waltz into the girls' changing room whenever he #wanted. everyone was like super shocked during auditions though bc we all thought he was a shoe-in for dimitry esp since seniors get #priority casting bc it's their last chance. but at callbacks (we had singing auditions via video and dance auditions in person and callback #were tacked on to the dance auditions) he kinda flubbed his song and then this freshman. who was with us via google meet bc he literally ha #covid at the time absolutely blew him out of the water and i remember walking away w brielle like 'holy shit [first name] [last name] just #lost a part to a freshman' (he's the kind of person you just have to full name otherwise it sounds wrong). that said i do think he made a #much better vlad then he would've made a dimitry and while he is. a lot. he's always been nice to me and i did briefly idolize him and his #stage presence way i did anya's singing voice but that faded when i got into hs and started actually observing his prima donna ways #(the one production we were in together before in middle school we didn't have any scenes together). the girl who played the grandma #actually shouted me out in cast circle and that's the only time that's ever happened to me. also i'm p sure her dad is/was dating someone m #dad and by extension myself work with so that's. Oh My God. like she (the one who works for my dad) brought him w her to a comedy show as i #think her bf but i'm not 100% sure and when he found out what school i went to he mentioned his daughter went there and despite the fact #that i basically have a script for when people ask me that question bc i do NOT pay attention to most of my fellow students and don't know #anyone i was like 'holy shit' bc i actually did. hm what else. the guy who played the tsar and i used to shittalk bad period dramas #backstage during the first part of act 2. also during the press conference scene i need you to picture all the bolshevik soldiers and #romanov royals doing the macarena behind the curtain bc that was absolutely what we were doing back there. speaking of the press conference #the really high singing w/o a clear source was actually anya standing behind the curtain on the other side of the stage bc she's the only #one who physically could sing the part. also in regards to the bolshevik soldiers. we were originally supposed to have wooden rifles but fo #some reason our director took them out so we had to just walk menacingly towards the romanovs. you can't rlly see me that well in that scen #but that jacket would NOT stay closed and for 2/3 performances i had to awkwardly hold it closed the entire time. luckily the one that was #filmed was the one where i was smart enough to bring safety pins and also saved like all of the ballerinas bc their costumes all started #falling apart at once backstage. #romeo.txt #theatreposting

[just-rogi]

We had to do a diversity exercise at work today and the (white) proctor asked all the teachers if we knew anyone who felt like they belonged to two groups… except the entire room was female teachers of color it felt so fucking stupid

#I also talked about my experience as a levant American lesbian in diaspora and how I felt so torn #identifying a certain way where Arabic is still foreign to me and I’ve never been to Lebanon #but the people on the news being bombed look like my mother and everyone keeps mispronouncing names of places that I’ve known since I was #a child #and how I don’t feel Lebanese enough to say anything meaningful but just enough to hurt deeply and personally #especially when people use ‘they hate gay people’ as a gotcha knowing love from my mother and my grandmother #and how I feel torn #and she nodded sagely and said her husband’s family moved to the Middle East when he was younger and even though he’s white he feels like #it’s his home #so he feels torn because he understands both sides #and I felt like walking out of the meeting right there

[unseentravler]

Put in the tages why and how you have those names.

#my two middle names come from two of my grate grandmothers #all of my siblings have two middle names #my mom didn't want to be limited to just one middle name #names #middle names #family tradition #poll #polls #tumblr polls

[theriverdalereviewer]

just remembered how in the sixth grade there was a fucking riot in the cafeteria that ended in the entire grade getting silent lunch for like 3 months

#I think it was 3 months but it felt a lot longer. my god middle school was the school to prison pipeline at its finest #on one hand I think its unfair that we were all punished but to be fair the entire grade participated in this riot. I don't even remember #what we were rioting? I just remember a girl named whitney was involved and 1 thing led to another and whitney ran out of the cafeteria #and THE ENTIRE GRADE WENT AFTER HER 😭. myself included I didn’t even know why either but WE WERE AFTER THAT BITCH 😭 #it was so bad I remember everyone was heading one direction and then everyone started running back the other direction. #and I got knocked down in the process looking back this was really dangerous. but after that we got silent lunch for what felt like forever #like not only were we forced to sit with our homerooms (and some us didn’t even like our homeroom) but we couldn’t even talk to each other #which is honestly not good for socialization?? but again I can’t entirely blame them cause the situation was out of control. #but also shouldn’t the adults have had that thing under control??? anyways the person who ran silent lunch was the vice tyrant dr levine #he fucking hated us like that man was PISSED OFF and he made it clear cause if you made a sound during silent lunch #that man was gonna threaten you with detention extended detention ISS (aka in school suspension) #he didn’t even mean it but it was pretty good for instilling fear in us good kids. but one time I remember there was a kid who didn’t buy i #he didn’t give into levine’s fear tactic and levine started yelling “ISS!! OSS!! EXPULSION!!!!!” like calm down #I feel bad thinking about how so many kids who would ACCIDENTALLY make a sound were punished. and they were so damn terrified #cause it was like you were on your best behavior all of the time and then one noise and suddenly you had an out of school suspension #one time a boy named jc’s phone went off and he picked it up and it was his grandma asking him if he wanted ice cream 😭 no fucks given #and levine was screaming at him to hang up the phone and jc was like “this is my grandmother I can’t hang up" #and there came a time where we were finally off the hook and I just remember people in the cafeteria were clapping 😭 #like this was school sanctioned oppression and we were finally liberated... but then we were back to silent lunch and I don’t even know why #I remember once even I ended up in Levine’s office but I dont think its cause I was talking during silent lunch?? #I think it had something to do with bullying idk?? I just remember levine had my back during it and made the other kid cry and apologize #so shout out to levine. always good times goodbye!

[lesbiansagainsttheatre]

when the edible starts to taste like wanting to go by my middle name

#dear diary #it's joy and it is just gender neutral enough that i think it slays #it's also my grandmothers middle name and she goes by and it and it works for her so what if i did it too ya know

[plainemmanem]

i see your steve has a silly middle name thoughts and raise you steve has a silly middle name AND his parents decided to name him after a president. steven kennedy harrington. i just get the vibe his parents are weird like that

BWHHAHA YES

he has those patriotic weird parents that are like “we grew up in the eisenhower era” and then proceed to name their son steve ruth eisenhower harrington😐

#ruth is either for his grandmothers name or for babe ruth #bc i love the idea of steve having a feminine middle name bc he’s my pretty little princess☺️

[eugeniedanglars]

but fr all the goncharovposting inspired me to finally watch goodfellas for the first time tonight and as someone descended from italian-american catholics on both sides of my family i laughed my ass off at karen’s confusion over how every woman in the mob was named marie

#my mom her sisters and one of my paternal aunts all have the middle name marie #my maternal grandmother’s middle name was marie and i think that might have been the case for all of her sisters too? #(actually i'm not sure if she had sisters or not) #and there are at least 6 women named some variation of mary on my dad’s side of the family #including multiple cases where a woman named mary had sons who married women named mary #goodfellas

[youremyonlyhope]

Stupidly I decided to watch this video just now.

Today would have been my Grandma's birthday, but we lost her last fall and then my Nanna in the winter.

I did not think that a commentary video on Rugrats would make me uncontrollably sob. But I blocked out how sad the Mother's Day episode was. And combining it with Grandma's birthday...

I've spent the last 10 minutes or so doubled over crying.

#i kind of knew some sort of emotional outbreak was incoming soon but i didn't know when #that time ended up being now #because the start of this week was emotional since a show i was working on ended #and for some reason that show ending just felt way more emotional than other shows i've done ending #so many people were crying. but i didn't cry. #we had had a performance on mother's day and our director had lost her mother recently #so she was upset that whole day and so was so much of the cast and crew. i still didn't cry. #while holding a crying friend at the closing party i told another friend that the emotions will hit me later. #i didn't know when but i knew it was going to. at some time. #both my grandmothers had passed while i was working on different productions with this group #and both times i came to the theater hours later and it had been emotionally healing to be there. #this was the first production i worked on after losing both of them so it felt a little weird. #(plus the color purple trailer came out and that book and musical makes me SOB and i refuse to watch the trailer) #(also add in Tina Turner's passing and her birth name being the same as my grandma's) #and basically all of those feelings and having these other theatre experiences mixed up with my losses #combining with it being my grandma's birthday AND i happened to be crocheting when i watched this video #which is a defining skill that Grandma taught me... i was SUCH a mess. i just could not stop crying. #i had mentioned backstage that i can't rewatch moana because i can't handle the storyline anymore. #and just now while in the middle of this emotional explosion i thought of moana and cried HARDER. #this is a good commentary but GOD i did not expect it to trigger all of this. #when i say doubled over i mean literally doubled over and shaking. #anyway. i think i feel better now. i think i needed this crying session. #in sims your sim can have an 'emotional bomb' quirk. they freak out uncontrollably for 30 seconds then they're fine. #i've never really hated that quirk because that is literally me.

[lesbianslovemorgott]

Every day I mourn the fact that I conceivably could have been named Ophelia

#it was my great grandmother's middle name #but i got her first name instead

[birb-boyo]

The embarrassment I will feel when they say my middle name in front of every other kid in my grade

#my middle name is Alice btw #I was named after my grandmother #my other grandmothers name is Dolores #WHY COULDNT I HAVE DOLORES???? #I DONT WANT ALICE